TZAV: WHY IS THE WORLD THREATENING THE JEWS - Stump The Rabbi (198)

we are back on our Wednesday night stump the rabbi our ongoing series getting closer and closer to 200 shim in this series alone we episode 198 and certainly it's an episode coming at a or Shure I should say a Shure coming at a perfect time uh for many people for many people and we will succeed in uh helping many people understand what's going on in the world today because certainly there is a endless amount of uh confusion that uh is causing a lot of people a lot of Anguish uh tonight's uh sh is uh going to be second sayat I I don't have the name in front of me don't have the me to have it okay say uh tonight's shoe is g to be for the uh of the that uh passed on that I uh forgot to put the name in front of me but of course knows what's in my heart also for the for but um tal but sah um and all of am is and all the righteous noahides the will have so tonight we're g to go into which will give you some that are not only relevant to the but also Ines in our way of Holiness we always have to connect the to what's happening in the world today and as I've always told you over the last decade anytime you have any type of issue uh you could certainly look into that week's parasa and you will find answers so one of the big questions that uh people have and of course after the uh you guys could start asking questions usually is about an hour or so uh but I wouldn't recommend anybody logging off and logging back in in an hour just simply because the information that you'll have in the first hour is going to be no less important than the questions that you have on your mind already and uh the biggest question that everyone has in mind as we speak is why is the world turning against the Jewish people why is the world turning against the Jewish people of course you have uh the the war that started by Kamas terrorists by the Palestinians that are the behind Kamas terrorist this is not uh two different people started in October 7th unprovoked and of course everyone uh will you know that wants to see the truth will agree that we could just continue past that point anyone that uh already has a uh predisposition that uh the uh Jewish people are horrible and Zionism are is uh behind all the evil in the world and all that other stuff that people say on and anti-semitic channels uh simply put you could just simply log off because you're not really going to like what's going to be said tonight uh because it's not going to be relevant to your predisposition but nonetheless the uh October 7th uh attack uh and the murder of uh a couple of thousand Jewish people and some non-jews uh in is in their houses in the streets the the mutilations the rape the uh uh you know the hostage taking and all that's happened over the uh you know that time uh should make it very very clear to everyone that uh Israel needs to go to war and eliminate the enemy uh and anyone that supports the enemy but of course this did not play out as well as logic says but rather the opposite where literally from the moment of the attack you already saw the enemies of Israel initially celebrate it then deny it and then somehow convince some of the people that are either uh in the middle neutral not so caring about Israel or even some of the friends of Israel to turn against Israel most notably what's happening in the uh recent weeks where uh the United States government uh looks like it is uh turning its back on Israel to a certain extent uh which uh many people are surprised by it but anyone that has learned t for long enough knows that this is not surprising at all and in fact the the the horrible news that many people may not want to realize or may not want to face today is that it's only going to get worse as we get closer to mashiah uh now the uh getting worse may have ups and downs it may get worse then get better then get worse until it gets really really bad at the time of mssiah where when the Messiah arrives we will be at the uh uh climax of historical anti-Semitism so whatever you thought was bad during the destruction of the first betam mikdash the second betam mikdash the the pgms the Inquisition uh you know in the uh uh Spanish inquisitions all of the uh uh horrible things and the murders and the uh complete annihilation of Jewish communities uh you know based on the teachings of the church uh by the Crusaders uh for hundreds of years uh or even more recently and what happened in in the Holocaust uh some uh 80 years ago or so uh all of that will be nothing in comparison to what's going to be when the mhia arrives and of course uh once the mhia arrives as the uh Prophet says he will destroy the enemies simply with the words that are of Holiness that come out of his mouth but until then it's going to get very very ugly and some of the uh uh friends of Israel will decide that they don't want to be friends anymore uh some of the uh uh ones that are uh perhaps neutral may become friends uh and in fact even some enemies May realize that they're making a mistake maybe not on a national level but on a individual level either way it's going to be very very uh interesting uh to say it in a uh humorous way to a certain extent uh in this uh in these uh coming years and what we're seeing right now is nothing in comparison but nonetheless everyone is very upset about what's happening uh in the world where uh you know 20 years ago so if somebody said a anti-semitic remark needless to say if they publicized it uh you know in some type of media they would immediately uh be uh you know be rebuked they would uh potentially lose their job business contacts customers uh they would lose they would simply lose and uh certainly they would be silenced but today and especially what's happening in the last several months anti-Semitism is running rampant to such an extent that you have literally channels major channels on social media on YouTube on Twitter on tiktock on uh Rumble and all of these other social media Outlets Facebook of course uh one of the uh one of the uh uh uh social uh uh playgrounds of terrorists uh they're literally harboring uh and uh facilitating terrorism to a certain extent by uh giving these anti-semitic people a stage unlike any other physical stage that anybody can get because even if somebody was very popular and was able to rent out the biggest football stadium out there uh at best they'll be able to get 990,000 people to watch uh and listen to their nonsense uh to listen to the Venom coming out of their mouth but uh today with social media in a matter of hours a person uh could spit out a lot of anti-Semitism a lot of hatred a lot of lies uh and uh get millions of people to not only listen uh but support it and in fact even add to it it's become a popular thing an in thing to do uh as far as anti-Semitism and one of the places that I saw recently is after a few people uh brought to my attention what the rash uh has been doing has been up to lately this is a uh person that uh I warned you about about five years ago in multiple lectures uh although he poses as uh America's Rabbi and he was uh you know a uh uh famous on social media and the rabbi of Michael Jackson we already brought you many different uh reasons of why he is not only not a representation of Judaism but he is wicked he's considered a heretic and he's obviously somebody that's deranging out of his mind seeking attention at all costs whether it's writing a heretical book called culure Jesus or many other heretical books or a partnering with pornography Stars uh in order to make more money and uh to uh you know sell more books uh or to uh simply give his uh daughter uh the guidance if you can call it guidance guidance from the Satan maybe the guidance and the support and even the publicity of a sex store uh now of course this is something we brought to you five years ago and the Jewish World sat silent you know of course the people that watch my lectures were uh you know very receptive to it stayed away from this clown uh and uh and that was it but unfortunately the larger the greater Jewish World especially the uh leaders among the Jewish World sat silent as this uh uh spiritual Monster uh who calls himself a rabi continued continued doing what he's been doing for many years and just pretty much feing for attention like a crack addict fiend for drugs and at all costs and more most recently he uh got the attention of uh many people with what happened after October 7th but especially anyone that was not supportive of Israel or even said some criticizing remarks about how Israel is Fighting the War uh which of course uh you know is a uh in it itself a uh something that is a mockery in itself someone that's not in a war is going to tell you how to fight a war it's really stupid but nonetheless everyone that has a camera and a microphone today thinks they're an expert in anything they talk about needless to say this has been fighting against different people that do not agree with the uh Israel has a uh a right to defend itself how it sees fit not how the right to defend itself but simply how it sees fit they simply don't agree apparently uh Gaza has turned into a uh uh you know a um a kindergarten because according to the statistics they'll tell you in the media uh it has pretty much only babies and just a few terrorists that's all it has it just has a few you know a few terrorist few adults and tens of thousands of babies apparently there's no adults there and therefore the only people Israel is killing in these bombings and the war and the attack and everything else they're only killing babies according to the media as they would like for you to believe needless to say when America goes to war they don't kill babies when Russia's going to war they don't kill babies when uh the countries in Africa go to war no babies are being killed in fact nobody ever kills babies no one has ever killed a baby no one's ever killed a child they don't even kill Pets only Israel apparently is the baby be killer now of course I've already told you in ISU according to the tah when you are at War there is no time for Mercy which means you're not seeking out to go and kill any children but there's no time and there's no permission to have mercy to the point where you're are endangering your soldiers and your people because you're careful specifically to Target just the enemy to the extent where you are uh you know fighting a war with two hands behind your back like the world wants us to fight needless to say there are certainly an endless amount of reasons to criticize Israel this the way they're fighting the war uh is not one of them you can criticize them for not fighting the war like you're supposed to fight a war which is to be a lot more aggressive than what they're being but world is choosing to criticize them for being too vicious apparently I I wonder if anyone has ever reviewed the wars of any other country in history and compared them to this and perhaps arrive at the same results either way point being is even though he's a Jew even though he's supposedly defending Israel all he's doing is just getting himself more attention he cares less about Israel he cares less about the Jewish people he cares less about God he only cares about Shi that's all he cares about and anyone that's going to give him attention that's where he's going to go and recently he had some uh arguments on social media with the other antithetical uh organization run by a Jew called Ben Shapiro which we also warned you about one of the uh people that works there and uh they got into an argument and uh long story short from what I've been told she was fired because she apparently took it overboard with her comments with her anti-Semitism blah blah blah I don't really care about the uh the the theatrics between the two of them attention seeking so-called religious people uh har representing Christianity and he represents Judaism if these a representation of religion we might as well become atheists now gave us rues gave us clarification gave us a map which is the Torah and this Torah tells us why everything happened and why everything is happening so when you look at the thread of different uh you know fights between these clowns that call themselves religious uh whether it's the former employee of daily wire uh you know Ben shapira's ex best friend and Kanye West's best friend current best friend uh and Her Name Escapes me but anyway uh or you are uh uh going uh and looking at the uh stupidity coming out of sh and his theatrics with his uh with his costume uh playing the victim again poor me I'm a Jew I have a big nose I only care about money he puts uh some writing on it uh that uh apparently is referring to the to the woman that he was going against and he has some uh really classless uh tasteless uh uh uh behavior and of course he has the cup where he says oh this is Christian blood the stereotypical uh Jew blah blah blah now with all that being aside the scariest part of these social media theatrics is the comments when you look at the comments you see what people really believe and you see average everyday folks Blue Collar folks all types of people from America from around the world literally spitting Venom about how much they hate the Jewish people how every bad thing that happens is the Jewish people's fault and literally it's gotten to the point where you see people not only perfectly comfortable uh spinning out anti anti-Semitism but to the point where if you were able to kill somebody through the screen you would have a program every five minutes you'd literally have a program if somehow the artificial intelligence industry uh you know upgrades chat GPT upgrades you know CLA upgrades all of these uh you know interest and uh resourceful softwares that they're creating to allow people to kill through artificial intelligence through the screen by simply making a comment on on Twitter or on Facebook or on YouTube you'd have programs you'd have programs from these comments so to stop all of this is not going to happen so don't look for a solution to stop it by simply making another video saying we're not guilty we are are guilty we're not this we're not forget all of that anyone that tells you that the uh the uh what is it called the uh Jewish Defense League or or any of these so-called anti- anti-Semitism uh organizations are going to do anything for the Jewish people uh just just see what they did for us before the Holocaust and you expect the same results they did nothing for us back then they've done nothing for us throughout history and the reality is many of them have even created anti-Semitism but nonetheless uh you have to understand that all of this is through the Divine hand meaning as the in page seven says nothing happens not even a prick on somebody's finger from a needle ever happens without a saying he deserves this she deserves this so are you saying that the Jewish people deserve what's happening to them apparently according to God yes why is the bigger question why is the bigger question why we deserve this why do we need anti-Semitism why is hasem using this famous tool that he uses every so often called anti-Semitism again didn't we have billions of dollars spent on stickers and Banners and events and built up organizations that said never again didn't bib nanyu promise US never again didn't all of the other liberal-minded rabbis and and and Jewish leaders promise US never again but it's happening again it's happening again to such an extent that literally there are reports coming out that the majority of Americans at this point admit that they are against Israel the most recent study that came out about 11 12 years ago by PW research said that nearly 50% of Americans admit to being anti-semitic the other 50% didn't admit didn't say anything but 50% admit now we have over 50% admit that they're against Israel and you say yeah if they're against Israel doesn't mean that they're against the Jews the two are one in the same even if you are against the political stance of Israel because that's the Jewish country in essence that's where most of the Jews live in the world if you are against the uh uh state of Israel by default you are against the Jewish people because you're not against the Jewish uh uh uh State because of the Arabs that live there or because the French people that live there or because the uh uh different uh you know uh uh Cults that live there you're against them because of the Jewish people that live there even though there are Arabs in the government and even in the Supreme Court needless to say no one looks at that people look at Israel as the Jewish place and they're against it because they're against the Jews and of course even Jews liberal Jews in America and other parts of the world are also against the Jewish people they're self-hating Jews now while we're not going to be able to turn everybody's heart around to all of all of a sudden pretend like they love us again uh tonight at least we certainly can answer the question of why is God doing this why is God allowing the world to threaten US America is no longer as supportive they did not veto the uh what was happening at the UN just days ago like they usually do because the UN is one of the biggest anti-semitic uh organizations on planet Earth uh but uh you know this is something that uh uh we were able to deal with to a certain extent because America would be supportive of Israel why is it that many many people that were Pro this war and supportive of Israel to go to this War uh are no longer supportive why is it that you have literally every other day somebody knew coming out saying that they're against Israel and all of a sudden they have all of these hidden feelings about how much they hate the Jewish people whether it's the Jewish people in Hollywood or the Jewish people in the financial industry or it's the Jewish people in the local store or it's the Jewish people that are their landlord or the tenant or someone they never even met needless to say Jewish hatred has become a standard why this is all through the Divine hand meaning Hashem is allowing it to happen why why because as the Torah tells us in the name of Rim hates yov he hates him that's in essence the way he was created to hate yov but that hatred is not necessarily something that is uh as apparent as others because sometimes Hashem and most of the time hasem protects us from that hatred where in essence he covers asa's face to look elsewhere to focus elsewhere and allows the Jewish people to prosper without the anti-Semitism without the hatred at least not in a larger magnitude but as we saw in history and what we're seeing now things have changed why is Hashem doing this why is Hashem in essence uncovering as's eyes and asav is looking straight at us and he decides that yes yes this is my long lost enemy again why why allow this to happen again wouldn't this lead to war that's much bigger wouldn't this lead to pgms wouldn't this lead to murders wouldn't this lead to all types of horrible things it could and it will eventually the question is why is God allowing this with that long introduction we have to go and start answering the question the torat tells us in parat in the book written by R the new book that will be released in these coming months as it's being printed as we speak tells us that this par like the rest of seph the Book of Leviticus is full of laws more laws than any of the other parts of the Torah and this Paras starts off with thean the sacrifices and one of them that is particularly uh uh of interest is the fact that there isbb what's theban that is to say thank you to God and this Corban is different than the rest of theban even the ones that are similar to it it has different rules there's a lot more food where part of theban is burned part of it is eaten but there's also 40 four of which are given to the K 36 are uh uh distributed it has to be in a shorter period of time where usually this whole uh the other kote you have a couple of days to do it here you only have a day there's some interesting rules here but the midash midash Buel m in in the seventh peric seventh chapter says there is nothing more important to a nothing more important to hem than gratitude now this is not because we help AEM in any way by saying thank you to him but rather this is a test of our character of where we stand and hasem says that thisan to saying thank you and therefore the teach us that thisan is God's favorite Corban now when would this Corban typically be done there's a verse is a verse in where says says meaning that all of the living will thank you forever this is one of the things that D tells us but it has the hint this the word has the hint of when this group gratitude is going to be given the as brings over here is standing for someone that was in jail and now he's out of jail he has to bring aan to say thank you to God theud someone that is sick bed written in a hospital and now is healed has to bring a to yam someone that has traveled through the ocean which is very dangerous even to this day but certainly was much more dangerous in the past someone that has survived a journey through the ocean has to bring Meb someone that has successfully traveled through the desert through the midbar also has to bring and this is all 200 19 number four so here the torat tells us that there are special times where somebody has to bring but this also is because in each one of these circumstances there's a more or less a open Miracle someone that had their life at risk from a journey in the ocean in the desert that were on their deathbed practically or or very very sick to the point where they could have died so they have to bring now interestingly enough the one thing that we see is that this koban has different rules where there's a lot more food to be eaten as part of the sacrifice in less time and theel lived about 500 years ago he was the not only one of the but also the chief treasurer of the uh government for the king Fernando in Spain until uh the the Spanish Inquisition where the uh Queen Isabella convinced uh Fernando to uh kick out all of the Jews uh but since the abar banel was such a genius not just in tah but in finances and helped uh you know Spain uh uh become literally the leading country in the world they tried to convince the ababel to stay and they were even willing to allow 10 uh families 10 Jewish families to stay with him so he could pray with aan every day but the Abel of course did not agree and uh left everything behind and left Spain and uh along with the Jews that survived this entire disaster and he actually became the treasurer in Portugal uh and uh we see from here that obviously wanted him to be successful and it didn't matter where he was either way the Abel who wrote extraordinary commentary on the Torah he says that one of the things that we've noticed that there is this particular Corban is more food in less time and if you don't eat whatever you don't eat in time you have to burn you can't keep it for the next day he says the reason why is because the whole purpose of this kban is to publicize God's glory publicize God's name publicize God's omnipotence God's mercy publicize God's name and if a person has all the Time in the World to eat this then a person could be uh you know selfish and just simply just keep it for him and his immediate family uh only the people that he really really loves and really really likes and that's it so therefore the publicity of God's name and the miracle that just happened is limited but since there is less time and since there's more food and anything you don't eat within that day has to be burned and if you end up you know pretty much not finishing and there's a lot to burn this will become a public embarrassment people say wait a minute why you burning all this food why are you destroying it oh you had a miracle why didn't you invite us and everyone's going to find out your stingy stand they're going to find out you're nasty they're going to find out you are selfish so the banel says the whole purpose behind the whole purpose behind this entire thing is to make sure that you invite as many people as possible and be forced to invite as many people as possible to publicize the miracle because gratitude is of upmost importance in the eyes of God now as we go through the Paras we see that the details of the rest of theban are no less detailed every Corban every sacrifice as its own detail the Kim have to do all types of procedures they have to remember everything they have to study everything they have to do everything perfect now obviously the kohanim they're not secular people that are driving on Shabbat they're not the that is looking for attention in the media they're not people that are saying things that are heretical like God needs you these are righteous people these are people that are dedicating their life to serving God to make sure each sacrifice is done perfect to make sure that they put every bit of their attention into every matter so much so that when it came to a mitvah that's mentioned in the beginning of which is to collect the ashes which is a special process called T Edition theim would literally argue over it who gets to do it who gets to do it I want to do it I want to do it everybody wanted to do it sure the mishna says there was also a big reward spiritual award for doing it but nonetheless if these were disbelievers if this people were into everything else except God they wouldn't even be there in the first place but they're all fighting on serving serve God I want to do it I want to do it and they had to literally make turns because when they said listen first come first serve the quim would run there until one point the mishna says that uh one of them got pushed and broke his leg and the leader said no no we can't do this this is becoming a uh danger so we have to make sure that everyone gets their turn to do every part so we're seeing that these are righteous people so now that we're seeing they're righteous people we need an explanation for why is it that a kadosh constantly threatens them again righteous people dedicate their life to serving God they're in the bet mikdash not because they're going to get rich out of it not because they're going to be popular not because they're gonna have a big YouTube channel no no no they're there in the BET mikdash depending on the Coran so they could eat so they could support their family praying all day serving all day why is God threatening them in practically every other page in this Paras and throughout the Torah anytime it talks about thebot where aadh says by the way if you don't do this kban the right way where you're not supposed to eat it and you eat it death penalty you're impure and you eat it death penalty you do things wrong punishments punishment after punishment and death penalty upon death penalty so much so that after giving all of the details if he didn't threaten enough where every time it finish another section of one of the corot and the laws of theban and he says if you do this wrong in essence death penalty spiritual excision punishments all types of things fine we learned it throughout the par every couple paragraphs another threat another threat to the righteous people threat threat threat fine we got the point then after all this says to says to make sure that the do this make sure that the Kim do this the right way in in chapter 8 verse number 35 he says to him and you shall protect aem's charge so that you will not die so have I been commanded says to says to the by the way everything I just told you you know I told you to do this this and this and just don't mess up so you'll die yeah and this this and this and don't mess up because you'll die and this this and this and so far don't mess up you by the way just to remind you don't mess up because you're going to die hm's going to kill you whoa why so many threats we're here we want to do it we want to do it why you keep threatening us why can't you like you know say good job guys way to go cheer us up you know put some you know some music to to get us all pumped up like they do at uh one of these football games why all these threats talk nice no this is not the only place we have to find out the answer because all of these are connected page 881a brings us an event that took place where it says RAV and RAV Yuda were walking on the road RAV was the biggest Rabbi of the generation he was rabi ABA the student of Rish shim who wrote the z r was a giant that say that even though he was the beginning of the generation of he was still considered a t r was a giant among giants his student was Ruda now there was also another Giant in the generation named Shu and Shu not to be mistaken with the shui this is one of the sages named Shu Shu was also a a Torah giant not quite at the level of R but certainly one of the other Torah Giants of the generation and both and had a mutual student named Ruda now here R and rud student are walking on the road and all of a sudden there is a woman in front of them says says to hurry up ahead of this Gom he calls the woman G he tells not to her he tells Ruda hurry up ahead of this G and Ruda says to my master but didn't the master himself say that regarding men that have high moral character people that are religious people that have it's permitted it for them to be alone with a woman said to them who says I said such a thing in regards to Men of high moral character such as you and I rather like what sort of men did I say like and his colleagues people that are a different level so in essence he's rebuking his T tell him run run come on hurry up there's a woman in front of us why because the page 61a says in the name of better to be behind a lion than behind a woman why because if you are behind a woman you're going to start looking at different things and start thinking things that are inappropriate and as the says the thoughts of sin are worse than a sin once a person thinks of immorality it's gets to a point where it could affect him even worse than an act of immorality because an act of immorality he decides to be promiscuous for a day he decides to waste seed she decides to uh be promiscuous for a day that act begins and act ends in a relatively short period of time and usually it doesn't continue staying on your mind for the next 20 years especially if you move on with your life you develop you know a healthy relationship and and so on but thoughts of immorality if a person watches pornography if a person sees things that are immodest that thought could literally stay with you an entire lifetime and could reappear at the worst possible times where instead of you praying to God and thinking about God and pleading with God you're thinking about immorality during your prayer instead of thinking about your wife or your husband even during the most intimate times you're thinking about that other person you saw on the screen that other person you saw in the street literally those horrible thoughts appear at the worst possible times and therefore the say the thoughts of sin are worse than a sin and if you walking behind the woman certainly you're are putting yourself at risk to to bring immoral thoughts to your mind so therefore says to his student raud run in front of this gay why is he calling this woman gay she a nasty lady no she might as well be a very nice lady very righteous very wonderful but she's not your wife she's not your sister she's not your mother she's just a strange lady you stand behind her you're definitely going to go to G in the end why cuz you're going to Havey moral thoughts that can bring you to sin okay now the says that anyone that's named in the was so righteous so holy they were able to resurrect the dead so is named in the yes he's named so obviously he's righteous obviously he's holy and if that was perhaps something we weren't sure about even rud himself asks his Rabbi his master he says Rabbi I mean why am I being why am I being threatened right now didn't you say that moral people like uh you know like like me shouldn't be worried says the no no we're not at that level now let me see what else the G can tell us about Ruda let me see what thear can say about RAV Yuda in a different places page 13A gives us a whole story about an experience that some of you are going to find [Music] unusual especially if you are new to Torah learning even more so if you're new to teachings of the but nonetheless there is endless amount of Tor and we need to learn it and the gar teaches us every single thing and one of the things that it tells us is if there's two Torah Scholars together and they're not speaking words of tah it's best for them to get burned alive why how can you be a Torah scholar and not speaking words of Torah together you're not speaking words of Tora how could it be so the tells us of another time where there's two Torah Scholars to together page 13A towards the middle of the duff says that R and were were together they were studying to on a roof you know in those days you don't have the electricity of today and so on you don't have the air conditioners of today so many times would study on a roof of a building first is the light of the Moon and second it's obviously better uh uh easier to study better climate so they are standing on the roof saying the other Rabbi that Ruda has as we said rud had two rabbis he had R and he hadel so him and are standing on the roof talking and this was in a place called near very famous place full of Torah and Rashi says that this specific place is actually named because it was a special synagogue that was destroyed and rebuilt and the was always there was a very holy place so they're studying to over there on the roof all of a sudden rud says to Shu his master I need to urinate yes that's what the say say I need to urinate it's like somebody saying can I go to the bathroom but there obviously no bathrooms over there in those days you if you had to go to the bathroom you go say it depends what it was whether it's number one number two but fine you're adults what's the thing oh because he has to go to the bathroom he has to tell his his is Rabbi cuz he's scared now that he has to go to the bathroom if you know that you have to go to the bathroom but you could hold it for at least 72 minutes then you're allowed to continue learning to and and continue praying if you're in the middle of a prayer but if you know that you won't be able to hold it for 72 minutes that you'll have to literally go within the next few minutes then you're not no longer allowed to pray or learn to you have to go you have to clean your body so since he was learning to from says I have to go have to go I can't learn anymore shu's response is what we're going to learn here Shu says sharp one meaning you are bright you're clever you're Torah giant yourself sharp one grasp your organ and you're anade outward in other words go to the corner of the roof over there there's nobody out now we're in the middle of the night there's nobody under there's nobody walking out outside anymore so you don't have to worry about the uh uh you urinating on somebody you also don't have to worry about anyone seeing you cuz it's dark it's night so why waste the time getting off the roof going far away and and and we're losing Torah time here go to the corner of the roof and go urinate what's the problem but he says it in a way where it says grab your organ and urinate outward meaning go to the corn over there and do it so the asks famous question how could sh do this meaning and not tell him to urinate urinate of course he has to do it not to study toora anymore but why did he specifically say grab your organ and urinate didn't teach us in the name of r alinos that whoever grasps his organ to urinate brings the punishments of the flood upon the world why because if a person grabs his organ certainly this can bring him to waste seed to think inappropriate thoughts to do inappropriate things so how could you do that how could sh his Rabbi tell him to do this and therefore thear now gives gives seven different reasons of why Shu said what he said first AB explains says we know that if there's an army coming into the Jewish Community coming into the Jewish Community when it's a time of Peace then all of the barrels that we have all of the barrels that we have the ones that uh were opened were no longer the barrels of wine were no longer allowed to drink them because certainly the soldiers use the wine and once they use it were no longer allowed to drink it as juice it's considered because part of the worship that these non-jews had uh was to use the wine as part of their servitude to their Idols so if they touch the wine we're not allowed to uh touch it fine all of the open barrels are forbidden but the closed barrels were allowed to use why because they're still closed they're still closed and therefore we're allowed to use them on the other hand if the Army comes during a time of War both the open barrels and the closed barrels were allowed to use them why we're allowed to use them since they're at War we're not concerned about them using their limited time to serve their Idol they're not going to serve their Idol at this time maybe they'll have a drink but they're not going to use any of this limited time they have while they're at War to go start doing a whole procedure of serving Idols so therefore we're not worried our open barrels and our closed those barrels are allowed to us to drink why are they not going to serve their Idol why are they not going to serve because they're afraid because they're afraid the same thing goes with shuel when he told this to Ruda he says Shu shmuel was afraid and therefore I'm sorry rud rud was afraid the student was afraid and therefore shu is not concerned about telling him go and grab your organ and urinate outwards because I see and I know that you are afraid number one you are afraid of the fact that I'm here I'm your teacher I'm here you're not going to waste seed go against God right in front of your Raba you're afraid of your Raba you're even afraid to ask me to go to the bathroom in the first place number two you're afraid because it's at night and you're afraid to fall off the roof number three you're afraid to go against the that's on this holy place that we're on that's why it was named number four you're afraid of God you're afraid of God himself what what so what say in so many words you're afraid and more than anything else you are always afraid because you are a sadik to such an extent that thear says that would say about his talud this one is not born of a woman meaning he's like an angel he's always afraid of God he's always afraid of sinning so I'm not worried about telling him to do something and he's gonna sin he is like an angel this of Yuda so now we go and we see that R Yuda is a sadik to such an extent that there are literally rules of how to treat this sadik and if that's not enough he says you're also married too by the way so I'm not worried about you going with some other woman or anything like that but more than anything else you are unlike regular people you are like an angel so we see here that rud was a sadik Andel spoke to him accordingly even though he was a student so now we go back to his other Rabbi do you think R didn't know that was a sadik do you think he would win waste time with the wicked student do you think that ra didn't know that his talmid wasn't someone that's to the extent where they call him an angel of course he knew he's his main Rabbi so how come when he warned him about the woman that's walking in front of them hurry up and pass her so we don't stay walking behind her in such a way where he says move fast or you're going to go to Gom why why do that why scare him to such an extent he's a sadik after all he's not some rash that just uh sinning every other day he's a righteous person why do you need to scare him so much if he was wicked we' understand you have to tell him about G so he stop sinning but this is a righteous person why do you have to talk to him that way shouldn't you talk to him nicely politely ra my dear student we have a woman in front of us let's walk a little faster so we could pass her because said it's not allowed oh okay my master let's go no he doesn't talk to him that way says move fast in front of this G lest we go to G because we don't go fast enough because of the thoughts that it'll bring in our mind one Rabbi says this tell me this student is not the son of a woman he's an angel he's an angel I'm not worried about him sinning another rabbi telling this guy has to hurry up or else we're going to go to Gom why one end says to these These are My Chosen Among The Chosen I have my chosen people but inside the chosen people there's a chosen people there's theim they're the ones that going to serve in the better mikash and as the ramb says anyone that's a learns tor that's his vocation that's what he does with his time is considered as if he's part of the levy tribe the tribe of theim wants these special people to serve in his bet mikdash but yet he says you know those laws of the Corban make sure you do them right lest you die who's going to kill you I will wa didn't you just say I was righteous did you just say that I'm good and I'm a special chosen Among The Chosen yes and by the way remember what I said before yeah I remind you again if you do it wrong you're going to die why you keep threatening me what's with all the threats why you threaten why you threaten theim why you threatening is with anti-Semitism the friends became friendenemies why this is because this is the way of this is the way of the tells us in the Tor you see I have all the blessings everything is mine mine is the money mine is the gold says God the master of legance everything is mine and I'm giving it to you I'm giving you money I'm giving you a wife I'm giving you a husband I'm giving you kids I'm giving you food I'm giving you sustenance I'm giving you air to breathe I'm giving you eyes to see I'm giving you ears to hear I'm giving you a mouth to speak I'm giving you a body that can digest I'm giving you a body that can do all types of things I'm giving you a mind that will develop ideas that no one else can I'm going to give you all of these things not because you're just happen to be some human with two arms and two legs and eyes and therefore I make them work no I give them to you because of the Tora I give it to you mount brought to the highest spiritual level they went from being Idol worshippers slaves that are being murdered and massacred daily in Egypt would murder 150 babies in the morning and 150 babies at night in order to bathe in their blood because that's what his necromancers told him would heal his skin disease you had people literally missing arms missing legs being beaten being killed slaved for hundreds of years they went from there to the highest level of Holiness by the time they got to Mount Si the 49th level of 50th level of kadus something unbelievable 49th level of Kusha is where we got to and mashia comes we'll get to 50 but before that just a month and a half before they were in the lowest how Hashem raised us but then after he raises us says I need to raise you why to accept the holy Torah am sees Miracles am sees the plagues on the Egyptians am sees the ocean split into 12 one tunnel for each one of the tribes am sees the literally the word words of God printed on the heavens am sees the seven Heavens am sees all type of imagery no other person No Other Nation no other creature has ever seen who raises us to the highest possible level we see miracles in a level that is beyond comprehension but yet at the moment of truth when is giving us the T he lifts the mountain in the air over the nation of Israel and he says to them if you receive my Torah and accept it good if not three words here will be your burial ground meaning you don't accept my Torah you won't finish the day everyone will die on the spot as I dropped the mountain on everyone hem why are you threatening us didn't you elevate us didn't you groom us didn't you say we are the chosen people were wonderful were're great with this with that you healed us the guy that didn't have an arm now he has an arm the guy that was paric now he could walk and run the woman that was blind now can see the the the man that was deaf now can hear all of these things you did you raised us you elevated us you gave us Miracles upon Miracles all for the sake of receiving the Torah you said we're the chosen people but only if we accept the TOA so why you threatening us why didn't you say listen my dear children you know how I elevated you you know I did all those wonderful things for you now I have something else that's good for for you it'll give you a lot of good you know what it is it's the Torah learn it follow it it'll be good for you I promise God doesn't lie even knew and he says inak is God a man that he changes his words that he lies no God is not a man doesn't change his mind so God could have easily said listen you know I did all those wonderful things for you so you see I'm good you see I love you so now I have something else to show you I love you I have the Torah you read it you follow it both the written and the oral Torah it'll be good for you how about it but he didn't do that you know what he did he said my dear children my chosen people the ones that I did all these miracles for here is the Torah if you accept it good if not here will be your burial ground the threat of all threats why not nice why not polite why so aggressive God why you threatening us why you threaten the quim and why are your Messengers ra threatening the talud that's an angel why why the threats this is because the master of the world knows human nature as he created it and he knows that there are times that you can speak nice to people when the threat is limited like in a situation where and rud were on the roof there's no woman there so how is he going to sin the only way for him to sin as if he does it by himself but he's not he's an angel he's a sadik and on top of it I'm here and on top of it he's scared of this holy place and on top of it he's scared of God and literally seven different reasons of why this has nothing to worry about but in the situation of R he says no no no this is a different this a different situation altoe here there is a woman here he doesn't have to touch her in order for bad things to happen for immorality to be created all he has to do is look at her for a little too long in order for a thought to be created in his mind a thought that can lead to many immoral actions that certainly will bring him to Gom and me as his teacher I'll go along with him to Gom for not protecting him for not telling him not to do it and therefore at a time like this where there's a risk of complete destruction the only thing that works is the threats if you saw that your child was about to stick their finger in the plug in the electric plug the electric socket are you going to say my dear son step away from there please don't put it in there if you do that you're very likely to be mourning and not saying good morning no pun intended why it's a moment of risk it's a moment that can change every moment and if you don't act swiftly if you don't act aggressively it'll be too late and therefore any normal parent that sees that their kid runs into the street sees that their kid's hand is about to go into the electric socket sees that the kid is about to go into a danger immediately acts an aggressive manner why to protect the child from destruction that's what R was doing with r yud the angel among men still needs protection from the rabbi that's what aadh was doing at Mount Si with his people people because if you don't accept the Tor it's for sure destruction and needless to say all of those righteous Kim need to be protected to know that as righteous as they are if they start becoming overly comfortable with the blessings with the sacrifices surely it would lead to destruction and therefore the threats have to come now what does this all have to do with theban to says the theban the sacrifice of gratitude is my favorite why because 10 times the Jewish people tested me in a desert and complained and I nearly destroyed them for it each time because when a person complains that means they're not being grateful they're complaining that they don't have this pair of shoes that they want they complaining they don't have this bag that they want they don't have this money that they want they don't have this house that they want they don't have this thing that they want and while they're complaining they're forgetting about all of the wonderful gifts that I gave them I gave them two eyes and they can see I gave them two ears and they could hear I gave them a mouth and they can speak I gave them hands and legs where they can function but they forgot they took it for granted they're only looking at all the things they don't have they simply cancelled out all of the wonderful things I gave them I gave them money I gave them food I gave them children I gave them a spouse I gave them life but they put all of that into the garbage because of one pair of shoes they don't have because of one car that they don't have because of one thing that they don't have and that lack of gratitude literally nullifies my Rel relationship with them when people complain against God it becomes detestable in the eyes of God because it literally takes everything that he has given us and puts it in the garbage when we don't show gratitude to God that means that we don't really have a real relationship with God we have a relationship with our desires like animals and therefore in a situation of the world that we have today sees that there's a clear and apparent danger our spiritual status has deteriorated to such a point that aadh has to use anti-Semitism and constant threats in order for us to do chuva to start being grateful for the Torah that he gave us start being grateful for all the good he gave us how can we show gratitude saying thank you to Hashem is nice but if you say thank you to Hashem while you betray him that thank you is worthless if you say to your wife I love you and you still cheat on her that I love you is worthless if you say thank you to your boss while you're stealing from him that thank you is worthless the way that we show God that we're grateful is by following as T when a says I gave you the Shabbat to observe it in accordance to the Tor and we violate the Shabbat that means we're not grateful for the Torah that means we're not grateful for anything when people think that God is supposed to be grateful to them that they did anything good when people think that God needs them then what ends up happening is that aadh says this is an ungrateful people that is about to self-destruct and therefore in order to save those that still want to be saved in order to keep and protect those that want my protection I have to threaten them the best among them will be threatened the worst among them will be threatened everyone will get a chance to see those that are connected to God those that want to be connected to God will have to know that when God is showing us threats that's because we are disconnected from him and therefore we have to do chuv before picks up the enti raises the enti to the point where those thre threats become action and blood is spilled in the streets everyone is being given a chance some people are saying oh how do we solve this problem the same solution we've been doing for the last 10 years help more Jews do chuva follow the Torah more Jews connect to God the real God the only God the god of the Torah the god that says that we need him he doesn't need us the god that says that we have to be moral people we have to be honest people we have to observe Shabbat and eat only kosher food we have to follow all of the laws of the Torah that are relevant to us if we are kuim relevant to us if we're not kuim relevant to us if we're males relevant to us if we're females relevant to us there are 613 laws from the tah the vast majority of them have nothing to do with anyone in our current generation because we don't have the bet mikash we're not all women we're not all men in so many words the average person probably has somewhere around 100 150 different laws that they have to keep but it's not all in one day and it's certainly not even all throughout one year some of them are once in a lifetime some of them are once every few years either way when a person looks at the T and sees these are the laws God gave me for my good not for his good not for his benefit they're for my benefit they're for me to have a good life for me to have a connection to God for me to have an eternity and for me to show that I'm grateful for everything he's doing for me when a person does not show gratitude God hates him why because it's literally the minimum of minimum that one can do for all that God gives him but since God is merciful since God knows that his children are sometimes clueless and more attracted to their Instinct than they are attracted to their creator he keeps giving us more chances but when we're running out of chances when we're running out of time he must use threats those threats are the clear indication that it's almost too late that it's almost to a point where the damage will become permanent where some people will no longer have a chance where some people will no longer have an opportunity to fix to change Soh uses the different tools he has in his endless Arsenal most famous and deadly is anti-Semitism it's not created by the news or the governments rather they're used by the Creator in order to bring his people back before they put their hands into the electric socket and it's now too late if any one of us understands this they will also understand that there's no more time to waste time to not observe Shabbat to not observe modesty laws to not observe everything there's no more time to be immoral to be a thief to be a liar to make your whole life determined by which instinct is the one that you are looking to fulfill at this moment certainly a person has to live but who says you have to live like an animal that just looking for food looking for something material constantly It's time each and every one of us take A's warnings seriously stop being ungrateful and start showing your gratitude with that being said you guys will have some questions and will give us the answers if all the Tik Tock uh uh listeners or viewers uh starting uh the next year that we'll do most likely will be on a different uh on a different uh profile name uh than I have now so just uh look for I have several different profiles on on there I'll look at the other ones and subscribe to them okay YouTube you guys have some questions let's see what do you got oh well migil over here good evening dear Rabbi want to make a donation by zel do you have that option uh no as far as the uh uh zel to the organization doesn't work uh I have a zel for my personal anyone that wants to donate to me personally uh which means you won't be able to get a donation receipt if that matters to you and you need it for tax purposes then there's no zel available uh if you want you could donate on the website BH torah.org orem.org or on PayPal uh we also have a venmo for the organization but uh if you want uh uh only zel that's only to me personally and for that you can just uh use zel my email or the uh uh phone number that's publicized everywhere for me um should women be viled absolutely not the woman is highly appreciated and uh celebrated in Judaism to such an extent that the Torah tells us that it's through the Merit of the righteous women that Hashem took us out of Egypt and it's through the Merit of the righteous woman that Hashem will send the Messiah uh so women are highly celebrated and praised in Judaism so long as they're modest women uh women that are immodest women that are immoral are just uh you know people that are uh uh Sinners and uh certainly not fit the uh righteous woman category uh same as a uh man that's not uh moral and uh not uh honest uh also is not fit to the righteous so it all depends on whether somebody followed the laws of the Torah or not if they follow the laws of the Torah both men and women are celebrated and honored but if they go against the Torah then God hates them how do you take those old thoughts out of your head that hurt intimacy uh I have a whole series about uh uh Jewish intimacy there 40 or so lectures based on the teachings of the ramban in there uh multiple times I discuss this particular question about cleaning your mind the short answer is as the rambam wrote 800 years ago uh a uh a mind that has uh immorality in it is a is a mind that's empty of Torah which means that the more Torah that a person learns the more Holiness that a person learns from the T the more they're going to be able to take those immoral thoughts and bring them to the back back back back part of their uh mind uh to the point where they could literally be eliminated over time uh but uh this takes time and effort okay greetings in the market man I what you're saying sorry tell me the book He's reading from um not really reading from one book there's several books that are in front of me such as the talud and tractate of kushin the tractate of nid I also have a y I have the which is the five books of Moses I have the commentary byos I have the I have these are different books have's book I have several RAB F's books I have several books in front of me and there's also many things that I quote uh from my head of different books that I uh that I uh read study and so on uh so I'm not reading a script or line by line every read particular book there are certain things which I make it obvious that I'm reading from a certain segment of a book but it's the lecture is not like a uh presidential speech where I wrote it before and I'm reading it I'm giving you a uh compilation of uh different teachings in uh in a silver platter see okay okay in your film when did you know it was time to start your own business did you ever think you were going to fail this is what this is the question that you care about right now out of all the things we talked about uh okay you asked it I'll answer it uh as far as uh business if you saw some of my other lectures where I talk about my personal story my life and so on I was already an entrepreneur when I was 10 years old I uh worked I had different paper routes newspaper routes I worked at a flea market I worked at shoe stores and so on and then as far as uh uh when I first started in the investment business I worked for other people for the first few years but uh after I became very successful in those companies and I got I made a million dollars or so uh in a single year uh that's when I decided that it's time for me to go on on my own because I realized that it's in order for me to grow further uh I have to make a decision either of staying at that uh you know at that type of environment for the rest of my career or starting something of my own it can't be both so I decided to start something on my own uh it wasn't necessarily the uh best decision it wasn't the worst decision there were certain pros and cons of being a entrepreneur and starting your business uh some people uh they want to uh be the boss they want to be CEO until uh the bills come so it's not necessarily the right choice for everybody to be an entrepreneur to be a uh to be a boss uh one thing I would recommend for anyone that is uh on the career path is uh more than being an entrepreneur be a very very good employee if you're a very good employee if you're an honest employee if you're a hardworking employee you'll also be able to uh teach others uh to do the same and certainly you'll be able to survive even if your employees don't do that uh but if you're not a good employee most likely you're not going to be uh good at uh building a company either um so uh before before going on on your own and uh living the so-called dream of business be a good employee show that you're dedicated honest you have a staying power uh and many times you could benefit uh as much and sometimes even more uh with working for a company rather than building your own company because building your own company is not the same uh I could tell you for me personally uh the uh building a company had certain benefits but uh there's a very good chance that I would have made a lot more money had I wor had I continued staying working for a company um AB how can a person fix their thoughts from old thoughts that revisit the mind like old okay I answered this question already both Adam and Eve learned a knowledge to know that they are bad and forgot that this area Ariel I'm not sure it made good once okay so it's not really question just a comment okay fine uh when you have bad thoughts just uh don't fight it uh the more you fight the worst it gets rather just ignore them and over time they'll go away that's not necessarily true uh as far as the to eliminate uh inappropriate thoughts there's a proven system that you can do which is to replace the thought with something else uh the the Mind cannot think of two things at once so if you are thinking of something immoral the best thing to do is think and there's nothing else but God there's nothing else but God there's nothing else but God and you'll see that the immoral thought will go away uh if you are thinking of uh you know if you're depressed you're thinking negative thoughts then you could either say or you could say think of something good that happened to you one of the things that I recommend for people to uh you know to to deal with ups and downs in life is to get you know some typ type of notebook uh something permanent that you can't you know uh Delete uh where you write different Miracles that happened to you different good things that happen to you in a short format not necessarily you could obviously write a journal and things like that but usually people uh lose steam uh in regards to writing something long so it's best to just write you know a bullet for each uh short sentence or even one word describing major things that happened to you in your life so you uh got the job of uh your dreams you got a raise you found the love of your life you had a kid uh you had a Mir medical miracle you uh you know whatever it is you found $1,000 dollar when you really needed it whatever it is that you happened in your life write them in a book and anytime you have any type of you know uh mental struggles you know emotional struggles in your life and you're questioning things questioning uh uh God questioning if he's with you and so on you look at that book and it's going to replace those negative thoughts with uh positive thoughts because you're going to start realizing that uh God has always been with you especially when you needed him even though you feel like he's not with you right the second is uh it's just that uh his timing and your timing are different when you want the Salvation is not necessarily when he's going to give you the Salvation he's going to give you the Salvation when you need it not necessarily when you want it but most importantly it's important for you to remember uh that uh and get yourself out of the uh mental battle that you usually worse than a physical battle uh so uh in fact it's uh in order to remove the negative thoughts whether it's depression anger uh jealousy uh you know immorality any type of thought that you don't want in your head you have to replace it with a uh a different thought and the the closer that thought is to God to the will of God the easier it is going to be for you to succeed in removing those thoughts people that have a lot of negative thoughts depression sadness misery and so on it's because they're not thinking about God they're only thinking about their own misery and they're forgetting all of the great things that God gave them and in so many words they are harping on their uh the missing uh thing that they have in their life instead of thinking about all of the positive things they got so it's like somebody you know used the famous example which is you know a teacher goes to the uh uh to the students and uh there's a big white board and he draws a small dott in the middle and he says to the uh to the people he says what do you see every single student said a black dot a black dot and then at the end the teacher told them I don't understand there's a huge white board and the only thing you see is just one black dot and that's in essence our misery when people are miserable the only thing they're looking at out of all the things that God gave them uh out of all the wonderful things that he's continuously giving them even then is the one black dot the one bad thing that happened to them and that's in essence a lack of gratitude that sometimes brings on even worse punishment uh even worse punishment even worse times so the best thing to do for a person when they have negative thoughts immoral thoughts any type of thoughts that they don't want to have is to have thoughts that connect them to God thoughts of all the wonderful things that he gave you thoughts of how great he is how wonderful he is how loving he is how he was with you and through thick and thin and use different types of tools to help you get there which like I said one of the examples is by writing a list of different things that happened to you and opening that list uh and and just looking at it even though you read it 500 times the 500 one is not going to be like the first 500 times and it's going to help you reconnect with Hashem at the moment that you need it it's going to help you pray it's going to help you move forward and like I said anytime somebody's harping on their misery that's because they're ungrateful that's because they are selfish that's because they are disconnected from God and uh they need to connect to God uh and uh the right way and not in a way where you are in essence complaining about him you okay as a non-jew hearing the mindset and way of life is irresistibly captivating and beautiful can a nju adopt and follow the Torah as well absolutely a nonu could follow the Torah with the laws that apply to them if they want to be a righteous Gentile then simply they follow What's called the noahide laws I have uh at least 20 different lectures that discuss uh what is the uh you know what is noahide Law and what they need to do with their life and they could continue learning these uh lectures that I have uh because most of my lectures are relevant to all of mankind not just the Jewish people and also a gentile that wants to do even more and and live uh as a Jew they can convert to Orthodox Judaism they convert and become a Jew uh in fact uh there's 36 places in the Torah uh where God says that he loves and protects the converts uh so much so that he obligates the natural-born Jews to love the converts even more than they love natural born Jews uh so it's a conversion to Judaism is a very very uh uh beloved thing to God we don't necessarily go missionized and go from Community to community of Gentiles and tell people to convert but anyone that wants to convert is welcome to do so it's a it's not an easy or a uh quick process like it is with the false religions out there uh but it's certainly a important and worthwhile Journey for those that succeed in it and some people it takes that a short period of time of a year or two some people go through it 10 15 years until they succeed in converting but nonetheless someone that understands the value of the journey uh and and and you know already benefits from it from day one uh and I have many many lectures that talk about conversion talk about righteous noahides uh We've helped many people convert we've helped many people become righteous noahides and certainly these lectures are for everybody uh everybody could certainly benefit from them Shalom RAB should one go seek treatment for ADHD uh yes they could seek treatment by going to a bet midash or synagogue or a find themselves a Torah scholar or someone that's even willing to learn Torah with them and they could spend as much time as possible learning to little by little that uh ADHD will uh be resolved as far as if you're asking about should you get medicine for it I've never seen anybody cured by uh any type of chemical for ADHD ADHD is a spiritual issue it's not a uh uh it's not something that you could fix with chemicals yeah what do you do if you battle with PTSD and Trauma from horrible things that you went through in your uh life the PTSD leads to anger because the pain and the sadness um well I mean if you watched my film my my personal story you'll know that I also went through some very very serious pain in my life the things that I talked about lectures and the things that uh you know only my wife and andos himself know about and continue to deal with pain is difficult suffering is difficult Agony is difficult but the more Torah that you learn and apply to your life the more you're able to have the strength to overcome the pain and still be happier than everybody else uh that's around you because you're connected to not only the ultimate source of everything good that you got but also the ultimate source of all of the difficulties that you got and you start seeing the purpose behind them the purpose of that trauma that you experience the purpose of that difficulty that you experience the purpose of all of the different trials and tribulations that you have in your life had in your life or will have in your life it's very very important for a person to know that no one has an easy life no one there's no such thing as an easy life whether you're a millionaire billionaire poor person Jew Gentile nobody has an easy life everybody has difficulties the thought that there's such a thing is an easy life is is literally an illusion uh it's an illusion and many times people think that oh but this rich person he has a easy life because he has a lot of money he may have a lot of money and solve uh the problem uh where he doesn't have to depend on another person to feed him but that does not solve his problems with emotions doesn't solve his problem with honesty doesn't solve his problems with loyalty doesn't solve his problems with a uh you know uh the different issues that happen in life whether his wife uh is cheating on him or his kids are drug addicts or his boss is stealing from him or his customers are or his partner uh or his drug addiction or the million and a half different issues and most importantly whether he's going to live or die tomorrow uh many times people look at rich people and celebrities and think that they have an easy life but if you live long enough to see uh those people uh their lives play out you'll see that all of them have a Bitter End without an exception every single one of them have a Bitter End bitter lives overall you see oh yeah he was celebrated he made a lot of money he uh looked like he was on top of the world and then next thing you know he's on the cover of the newspaper as a pedophile he's on the cover of the newspaper because on the run from the cops because they're accusing him of rape or trafficking women or uh or drugs or uh or he has cancer or he has all types of horrible things or you see how their kids or their wives are the multiple divorces and marriages and and betrayals and bad things that people say about them look at all of them let's say I have a film called the world of lies and it talks about all of this stuff and I have many lectures where I discuss this it's a it's an illusion to think that just because somebody has anything material uh they have an easy life uh an easy life comes from a connection with God meaning life in itself will never be easy it's not meant to be easy it's in fact it's not even meant to be not difficult it's supposed to be difficult ult why as job says the prophet job says a person came to this world to toil to toil meaning to to toil in serving God to toil in order to fix and correct himself or herself to toil in order to fulfill their purpose and all of the difficulties that you have in your life whether it's traumas health issues Financial issues relationship issues anything that happened to you in your life God is the one that decided to give that to you why in order for you to do something about it in order for you to fix something in order for you to elevate yourself in order for you to be tested different reasons for different things which means that the more you connect to God through his tah the more you'll know that every single difficulty is to your benefit and therefore the trauma becomes a sort of a uh a positive experience if you will to a certain extent because you know that the price you paid is also there's a certain reward that you'll get for it a certain reward that you get for it what the reward could be simply less suffering in the afterlife simply a lesson learned that that's needed for a better life today or many many other endless reasons that Hashem has and the more a person connects through the toah to his creator the more they'll know and be able to connect believe and live those uh those the reason for everything uh without even not necessarily knowing the reason for every single thing but you know that there is a reason a positive reason a good a beneficial reason the easier life becomes not because life in itself is easy but rather because you know that there is an account for every single thing and as a benefit for every single thing there's a reason for every single thing there's a master of the house and he doesn't do anything for no reason and he's not here to torment his children he's obviously here to help us if we follow his tah if not then we're in essence poisoning ourself and in fact what uh uh you'll see the more you learn tah is that the overwhelming majority of the suffering that people have in their life is through their own Mis decisions to go against God because they went against God they got bad things because he decided to drive on Shabbat he also got into an accident on Shabbat because he decided to uh steal he ended up going to jail because he decided to be promiscuous he ended up being promiscuous at the wrong time after he was uh married already uh because he uh she decided to be promiscuous she got a uh you know STD because uh he decided to uh you know do all types of things that are against God bad things happened which means that the more a person follows the will of God the less issues they're bringing upon themselves so this doesn't mean that if you are perfectly religious uh they're you're not going to have problems you could still have problems but you know that those problems have a purpose that is to your benefit is to your benefit and this is something that uh certainly makes a person happy through thick and thin whether there uh there's difficulties in Life or there is uh major issues you still are able to be uh positive to be hopeful and not to get to a point where you are depressed and miserable and want to kill yourself or something like that like unfortunately many people get to when they lose hope because they don't think that there's a Master of the House there is a Master of the House there is a master of creation there is a master of everything and that's hem and Hashem is giving you all of these issues for your own benefit you just have to connect to him through his tah in order for you to start seeing some of those reasons andem you'll succeed someone asked why did Jacob not look for Joseph if he loved him where exactly do you want him to look for him I mean you're making it like he's uh he was lost in a room the world is huge you know if you if you lose uh you know if you lose a key you lose a key in your house many times that key is gone forever and maybe you'll find it if uh one day you move out of the house and after you moved all of the furniture and everything is empty you finally find that key even though that key was in a relatively small place it was in a house needless to say if you lose a human being you lose a human being you know it's a uh it's a huge world if you go to a uh to the forest you could literally be right next to somebody one minute and the next minute you are not next to them and you will not be able to find them and if it's not for cell phones if it's not for communication through digital uh uh devices you literally will never run into that person again because you're both going into completely different uh directions needless to say even more if you lose somebody in a city and of course if you lose somebody in a in an ocean or you lose somebody in a desert the desert is literally you know it feels like it's endless uh that's why there's a special sacrifice that was brought to anyone that traveled through the desert and survived that traveled through the ocean and survived because it's endless it's huge it's it's not something that the human mind can comprehend you know what we usually comprehend is you know digital devices so the world looks small because you see it on a screen on some digital representation of it the city looks small because you can see it on the screen but in reality the world is huge Beyond human comprehension Beyond human comprehension and uh losing somebody is uh is not something that uh uh is is easy to fix R should a single woman cover her hair uh the rambam actually uh pin did a single woman should cover her hair already at the age of six uh but that's not how the AL is you know for a single woman that's never been married uh she does not need to cover her hair but her hair should be modest meaning it should be in some type of ponytail uh she certainly needs to cover her hair uh when she is praying or learning tah but as far as on our dayto day if she's cooking cleaning uh working some type of job or something like that uh you know she doesn't need to cover her hair uh but when she's praying when she's learning to certainly she has to cover her hair now if she's married she must cover her hair and also if she's divorced she has to continue covering her hair she doesn't take off the uh after she gets divorced because we don't lower our our Holiness once we attain it uh but if she's never been married uh the only time she needs to cover her hair is when she's praying and when she's learning toah other than that she doesn't need to cover her hair should she uh I don't I don't think so because uh just like the were concerned that a woman that covers her hair looks like she's married which uh you know it's uh could be a problem for a woman that's single because people will think she's married and therefore uh will not uh you know uh think that she's appropriate to uh to ask if she's interested in uh getting married so there's no need to uh be you know more righteous than the Sages AB did you know that on February 22nd 2024 two rabbis from Baltimore one modern Orthodox another reform had some bad business in the news no I'm sorry I don't follow the news sometimes people send me things that's usually how I know the news I don't uh follow the news uh No One Can Do Magic Miracles and wonders today uh it's not really true why do you speak in riddles uh I don't speak in riddles uh you just have to sharpen your brain a little bit you'll understand it like the rest of people uh find the edge of all events what you're saying it actually does seem like some of you guys write statements or questions in a riddle that I don't understand so perhaps I need to sharpen my brain because the questions are not understandable uh who who goes to heaven from the three from these three a good Christian a good Muslim or a good Jew uh the Torah determines who God is going to send to heaven and that is people that follow the tah so according to the tah uh the uh a good Jew meaning a Jew that follows the Torah goes to heaven a uh a Christian that believes in the Trinity that believes in the New Testament that believes that a man became God uh or that God became a man is considered an idol worshipper so therefore they do not go to heaven a Muslim uh that uh you know follows the Quran uh to the point where they even follow the parts where it says to be anti-semitic and to kill Jews certainly he's not going to uh go to heaven uh who so who among the Gentiles will go to heaven the righteous Gentiles as the prophet says at the end of days two-thirds of the world will be annihilated uh in the war of go Magog but onethird will remain and out of that one-third they'll be tested and and many of them will survive so obviously onethird of the world is not the Jews the Jews are a very very small part of the world and of all the Jews that we know of in the world today there's maybe 15 to 20 million out of 8 billion people so onethird of 8 billion people is approximately 2.7 billion people so that's a lot of people uh so that's obviously going to be Gentiles but they're going to be righteous Gentiles that do not follow the uh the teachings of the New Testament or of the Quran to the point where they are anti-semitic and uh Idol worshippers or uh or you know doing things that are against the toah but rather are following uh the uh the laws of the Torah which pertain to non-jews uh you know so this is the people that go to heaven well getting a wife help a man if he's motivating if he is motivating lacking motivation lacking okay in so many words if you're you're asking me if a person if a guy is lazy will him getting married help him uh well it depends it depends on a couple things number one it depends on whether he wants to change or not if he doesn't want to change uh then getting married is not going to help him in fact it may even make it worse uh and uh number two it depends on the wife if she's also lazy just like him then he won't get better he'll get worse if she is impatient then it won't get uh better uh it'll simply uh stay the same until she divorces him uh so uh getting married is certainly not a solution uh to uh a person's uh you know uh laziness or flaws uh a woman is supposed to uh be the uh you know the uh the other half of a person uh in order to uh to help him become a better version of himself if he is trying to bring a better version of himself himself but if he is uh not doing it uh nobody is here to feed you no one's here to uh to pick you up you know you you have to pick yourself up you have to fight for yourself you have to motivate yourself uh and uh if you don't you'll end up becoming a uh you know a loser and um unfortunately this is is what a lot of people in this generation are they're losers they they just decide that they're going to lose every single day because they're waiting for somebody to save them God didn't bring you to the world for somebody to save you you have to save yourself I've never seen a Jewish church here in Texas are there any uh no there's no such thing as a Jewish Church uh church is uh a place of worship for Christians and Catholics uh Jews serve God in a synagogue dear Rabbi I wanted to ask for your permission to frame to frame a photograph of you may I didn't want to attempt without saying okay uh sure you want to frame a picture thank you very much for the compliment um you want to uh make a picture put it on your wall by all means enjoy if that makes you happy more importantly that you listen to the shim and learn from them and apply to your life than my picture but as long as you're uh listening to to you're doing what hasem says fantastic be an honor to uh be a inspiration for you ra any tips for praying and getting a good job that you always wanted uh as far as praying certainly praying is uh very very important pray every single day read psalms uh second thing is um learn as much to as you can uh when you're not working meaning that don't just waste your time and you know play video games or watch TV if you're not working you know be useful be resourceful uh do other things uh you know of course uh you know a person can can't go from never learning to to learning to 24 hours a day but at least use your some of your time to learn toah and develop your character number three uh don't uh wait for some job to appear to you of course you have to pray for it of course you have to make the effort to look for a job but there are also many different types of uh works that you can do on your own uh you know from your house from your computer uh from your phone so try to be as active as you possibly can now if you're saying no no it's not that I'm I have a job already but I want a better job that is a different situation why because that means that you're not really recognizing the uh the good that you already have uh you know if a person wants more than what they have they have to ask themselves why do they want more do they want more because of what oh I want to have more money so I can give more that's everybody says that but the truth behind it is that usually it's not people don't want more because they want to give more they want more because they want to have more they want to have a bigger house they want to have a you know more than one car they want jewelry they want all this stuff and you have to ask yourself is this really good for you uh as far as your servitude of hasem because if it was really good for you then God would have already given it to you uh which means that a person sometimes asks for things not because of uh the fact that it's good for them but rather because they desire it so I wouldn't necessarily um give you some type of strategy to uh to uh you know fulfill your own uh uh flawed Instinct but rather I can tell you that things that bring success meaning further success than what Hashem already gave you whatever success level you're in now however much money you're making now if you want God to give you more regardless of what Avenue he's going to give you whether it's a specific job that's better than the job you have right now makes more money right now or it's just money from different ways if if the money simply just appeared in your bank account would you really care if came from the job or not no so if you want more success then there are ways that uh bring more success number one do not do the things that uh remove the blessing from your life so if you know assuming you're Jewish if you violate Shabbat that removes the blessing from your life meaning that even if you had a lot of money you wouldn't the money wouldn't have blessing uh you know as far as uh morality don't waste seed don't be promiscuous promiscuous people and people that uh whether they're promiscuous withs or with other people they lose their blessing uh so don't do that don't steal don't be dishonest if you're married make sure that you do everything you can to have schom B to have peace in the home uh constant fights in the house ruin the blessings of the house uh those are some of the things that you know when a person is a uh you know um making those violations they ruin the blessing that God is already giving them now as far as if you want to get further blessing uh aside from that once you fix those that's already going to open up many gates uh of Heaven that are going to help you now if a person wants to be assured to that will will be rich in their life the sages have told us that when a person gives uh M they give 10% of their income on a regular basis to uh for the sake of tat to publicize the tat to help people do Chua uh such as donating to an organization like ours or to a uh you know a a where the people are learning serious tah that's going to help them protect their money but if they want to become rich they have to donate 20% now of course this is not an easy test because you know many times people are living above their means and giving 20% of their money uh seems impossible but I could tell you that it's certainly something that if you overcome the test uh it works now it doesn't work in your timing where if you give 20% for you know 6 months or 12 months straight or even two years straight you're guaranteed to become rich after two years hm doesn't work on your timing sometimes a person reaches success very quickly sometimes it takes a few years of tests before hasem gives a person success but I could tell you myself I could tell you uh you know stories that I've seen and stories that I've lived stories that I've seen and stories that I've lived where this works uh how do I know I've seen people that when I first met them they're barely uh you know making ends meet they were barely finishing the month they were in a ton of debt there were a ton of problems but they still uh made the uh uh made the sacrifice made the the step they donated for today they're they're doing much much better they're they're making a few hundred, a year they're in some cases much more even and they're doing well I've seen uh people even go higher than that unfortunately many times when people succeed they forget that where the blessing came from and they uh you know they they uh abandon ship and many times this actually brings failure uh I saw in uh you know a couple of times and I think I've told you guys where people uh literally went from making I don't know uh a decent living to becoming multi-millionaires in a very very short period of time uh to the point where they were able to you know donate I don't know like a million or2 million dollars to a few organizations in a short period of time uh and uh they made some wrong decisions with their donations some wrong decisions with their life and literally Hashem took everything almost everything away almost everything away uh and uh this is a very very difficult thing to correct not only because uh you know it's hem gives you a blessing and when you misuse it uh the uh to get the blessing back is not as simple but also because it's a big ego issue you know many times people uh you know don't want to face the fact that it's their fault they lost uh they think it's just bad luck or uh or or some other Factor now uh I could tell you one story I was explained to my kids just the other day you know when I was talking to them about sharing and how important it is to share because in essence when a person shares they're emulating AEM they're emulating ashem because Hashem only gives he doesn't get anything he only gives everything that we do we do for ourselves when we pray we praying for our own benefit not for God's benefit we're praying for God to give us Health to give us money to give us food to give us children to give us a spouse to give us success of some kind to to give us Health whatever we're constantly praying for God to help us we're not praying for for God's sake you know it's for our sake uh when we learn Torah we're learning for our for our own sake why we're learning about what God wants from us how do we serve him how do we uh you know live better lives what is the blueprint of life the purpose of life so we're learning for our benefit everything we do we do for ourselves God on the other hand he is constantly giving us he doesn't get anything in return so when a person gives and shares what God gave them especially if they're sharing in order to fulfill the word of God sharing to help people that are in a miserable situation in a financial hardship an emotional hardship in a spiritual hardship and you're helping them you're an Essence emulating God because you are sharing just like God shares so this is very very important so one of the things that uh I use as an example for my kids uh and it's certainly applicable to adults as well is uh the the uh the ability that a person has to give to give 20% of their income to the Torah uh now 20% is the maximum a person is allowed to give from their income for anything else like helping poor people uh you know or things of that nature but for the Torah a person could certainly give more than 20% uh if they are millionaires they have more they have the ability to give more than 20% they should give more than 20% but 20% is that line where if somebody gives 20% the G VNA uh uh said that uh they're guaranteed to become rich during their lifetime and certainly Rich enough where they're able to do even more mitv now this is something that is not easy but I've seen it from my own life where uh you know when my uh first kid was born the this was a uh the beginning of my uh rabinal career uh and I was just you know first you know year or two of uh of teaching Torah to the public and we were in very very difficult financial situation literally to the point where we didn't have you know money to pay the rent and I had to you know my my my father God bless him and mother would send us money every single month that we were able to survive just to just to have food just to eat uh cuz I had no income sour Source whatsoever all the money that I had in the business went to the garbage lost everything Investments went sour long story short literally got from you know the the peak of tens of millions of dollars to complete bottom of the barrel and of course my focus was learning toah and we but we got to the point where there was no income Source whatsoever because I didn't you know I wasn't working anymore in on Wall Street and uh all I was interested in doing is just learning TOA but how do you provide for yourself so I would pray every month every day and my wife would pray every month every day andem our source uh of income many times was uh my parents that would help us and different times would come from different places but uh uh this was at a time where uh literally to every month was a new Miracle every month that we were able to pay rent every month that we had food to eat every month that we had anything uh was literally a miracle and we just had our first kid uh and uh it's was certainly not easy uh and the tests were difficult especially since uh I wasn't uh happy with just uh getting uh I also wanted to give so what did I do whatever I got I gave 20% even back then even back then I would give I would give myel so if I got $1,000 $200 goes it gets invested into the Torah gets sent to R gets used to buy CDs and uh you know and help people do cha gets uh you know gets used to publicize to yeah but you yourself barely have something to eat if God sent me this he could send me others as long as I'm uh doing good and I'm publicizing it to why wouldn't he and that is the level of dedication that we had and today we have everything that we need more than what we uh what we need we're able to help uh tens of thousands of people every single year uh individually as through the organization feeding them helping them help people get married help people uh you know uh eat holidays and we blessed us and I'm telling you this is not just a uh a story I'm telling you about other people I'm telling you from my own life uh that uh yes there's no guarantee that I'll have anything tomorrow there's no guarantee I'll even have life tomorrow but one thing I can tell you for sure is that if the Torah says it it's 100% it's 100% And to go from a you know a uh a place of poverty to to Millions is it's a nice story it's a nice story but what people don't realize that is much more difficult to go from Millions to poverty and then get out of it uh but uh but it's certainly possible how can do anything that he wants he can make a person poor he can make a person Rich he can make a person uh successful with skills successful without skills uh the key to everything that I'm saying is that instead of praying for a better job instead of praying for more money instead of praying for more stuff give God a reason to give you more stuff not with promises but with actions with actions and there are actions that help us uh you know in essence entice God to give us more more stuff this is not you know a uh bribing God this is simply first starting out by eliminating the things the behaviors and the acts that caused the blessing that he's already giving us to get ruined so there's a certain spiritual uh uh pipe that's connecting you and every single one of us directly to God where he sends his sustenance to it so there is let's say for example uh you know a a million dollars that's sent directly to you but uh you know the person Wast seed already million dollars just got cut to 200,000 he uh violate Shabbat now he's down to 100,000 he also uh you know eats noosha once a month now he's down to 80,000 he also does this and that he's down to 60,000 before you know it the guy is making $50,000 a year now he's not happy with $50,000 a year he's like oh God why doesn't God give me more money he does he gave you a million but you ruined it you wasted you when you wasted seed 800,000 out of your money went somewhere else it went to your enemy it went to the enemy of isas got the 800,000 it was supposed to be for you but you wasted it when you waste seed you waste the she the sustenance that hasm gives you and waste it and therefore the sustenance that he gave you goes and gets wasted to your enemies so when a person does the first few things that I mentioned and fixes their morality issues fixes their ethical issues fixes the spiritual issues that they have already that's going to clean that pipe and most importantly it's going to keep that pipe connected to you to you now when a person does even more than that and also gives uh they are are literally are making the pipe even bigger and more can come down but usually one goes with the other meaning that the more a person is able to uh invest into the toah the more they get the spiritual strength to overcome their their their uh their flaws meaning that person says listen as long if I correct my flaws then everything's going to be good yes but the problem is that you need new Strength that you don't have right now in order to correct those flaws if you're used to being immoral your whole life you're used to stealing your whole life you're used to going against God your whole life to just change everything one two three is not so simple it's not so simple so a person needs extra angels to help him extra spiritual soldiers to help him so when a person already starts investing into the toah at the same time they're uh trying to fix themselves one feeds the other one strengthens the other and little by by little they go up together little by little everything gets better together and I've seen this with my own eyes like I said a million and a half times uh through my own life uh as well as through other people's lives and it's most important that a person listen to what the T says in the book of Deuteronomy where says after I bless you don't forget me and that's unfortunately also something that I've seen uh in people's lives where afterm blessed them they forgot him uh and uh or they the add has changed uh and uh that's a big mistake so it's that's why it's very very important and that was one of the main points that we covered tonight which is the importance of gratitude gratitude is not just about saying thank you gratitude is about constant recognition of the good that God gave you whether the good came through the rabbi that got you out of the path of Gom and put you on geden or it's the uh the good path that uh is now health or good path of anything else gratitude is a constant uh uh Behavior it's not something that you just do one thing like little kids zoo where they say thank you and then five minutes later they do the opposite of what the parents did no no no gratitude is a constant thing and unfortunately it's very very hard very hard uh to find people that are truly grateful very difficult uh people uh for whatever reason or another they have short-term memories when it comes to gratitude uh they could say thank you in a moment but it could be uh a day later 6 months later a year later where they forgot they forgot they forgot uh to even say thank you they forgot they have to say thank you and this is unfortunately one of the uh uh biggest things that ruins the blessing that a person has you know a person literally that's uh uh doesn't know how to say thank you um just listen to the first hour of this lecture and you'll see what the risk is uh uh okay let's see what uh you guys here on Facebook are saying see on we're almost done so I want to answer a couple of your questions if a nju does not get to go to Ala does he go to Gom to be punished and then get out and die forever it depends on their actions what they do what they didn't do they could be destroyed they could go to Gom they could go to kafak they could you know reincarnate into all types of uh things there's no one size fits all how can we increase our joy in a when the Satan is on the loose murdering people unless the people do Chua uh well like I uh said just now if a person wants more people to do chuva uh then they have to do something about it what's to do something about it to publicize more tah to help more people receive the tah to help the organizations that are publicized in tah have uh more uh you know more tools you know right now we are in the process of making a major uh technological upgrade uh to our organization unlike anything else we've ever done uh which is in the tunes of hundreds of thousands of dollars on a regular basis each year and probably going to get into uh the millions of dollars uh I don't have any idea uh of uh how we're going to get all of this money aside from literally a miraculously giving it to us but we are already in the process of upgrading certain things of signing up certain certain contracts and uh doing some major things that are literally going to be costing hundreds of thousands of dollars and then it's a commitment for you know many many more uh so why am I doing it because I know it's needed it's needed in the world I'm not doing it because I have it I'm not doing it because I'm bored I'm not doing it because I'm looking for more work I'm doing it because it's needed and unfortunately many times people know what's needed but they don't want to do it thems so I had somebody tell me uh you know Rabbi uh you know the the people are uh you know not uh you know the world is going against us there's not enough people that are doing chuva uh you know what can we do about it and this is a person that used to do a lot more kiru he used to uh uh you know uh do do it literally on a daily basis as part of as as his job and now you know he decided not to work in it anymore he decided that he's going to work a different job and uh you know do kiru whenever he gets a chance so it's it's it's you can't really come to a person that dedicates their life to helping people do chuva and saying what are we going to do about it when you decided that you're just G to do it whenever you get a chance don't tell me you want to World solve The World's problem with minimal uh uh effort if you want to solve big problems it requires big effort big investment big amount of time big amount of money big amount of every exertion and sacrifice you can possibly imagine the more sacrifice the more you are in essence creating opportunities for Success the less sacrifice the less effort the less success you're going to have so if a person is a uh thinks about the the things that people are thinking or saying where oh there's a big problem in uh in the world we have to fix it fine you're right we have to fix it but big problems need big Solutions need big Solutions you want to solve the ultimate problem which is people are not uh uh uh following the Torah yes that requires a big solution so what can you do about it not what the system can do about it or what somebody else can do about it what can you contribute are you contributing the most that you can and every single person that looks in the mirror and asks themselves are they contributing the most that they can if the answer is yes they're a liar if you're saying that you're contributing the most that you can when you look in the mirror you're contributing the most that you can for the sake of more people doing Chua more people uh um getting closer to Hashem and you're saying yes you're a liar including myself if I say it's the most I can do why because there's always more than we can do there's always more money that we can give there's always more lectures that we can do there's always more sacrifice that we can do there's always more so none of us are doing the most We can question is are we doing at least a lot in comparison to you know in comparison to what we can do are we doing a lot like according to real standards not according to you know pacifying ourselves and nursing ourselves like little babies are we really pushing ourselves close to the limits how close are we to the Limit and each person that asked themselves you know certainly that question should encourage a change where you do more than what you're doing right now if that doesn't cause you to do any more then what you're doing right now to give more of your time to give more of your money to give more of your efforts more of your dedication uh to helping people do chwat to helping uh people get closer to Hashem if you're not doing uh more as a result of it that means that you don't really care about that question you don't really care about that problem you just are asking the question because it's a topic of conversation in the world uh so it's important for a person to uh push themselves especially uh as a is uh you know increasing the uh the the the effect of the Stick of anti-Semitism because we're not doing enough because we're not doing enough uh can we cut our fingernails in order uh also can we cut our fingernails and toenails on the same day the answer to both is yes if you're asking how come you've heard that it's supposed to be cut in a different order or so on is cabalists uh you know cabalist that have a uh teachings that you should do it in certain order certain time frames but uh we're not cabalist you're not a calist uh therefore you could cut like a normal person without being concerned about the order or the uh uh doing it on the same day it's not a problem uh if someone is a good person and always says the absolute truth however they do not keep Shabbat because they have no understanding of what Shabbat is after 120 uh will they eventually end up in heaven no they will go to Gom forever why because they're not saying the absolute truth uh because if they are not following the laws of God that means they're living a lie and they are a liar about who gave them life who gave them sustenance and in essence they are living a lie thinking that they're good and anyone that thinks that just because they may not have lied to you or at least you haven't caught them lying to you that makes them a a person uh that uh is uh you know always good it's simply not true someone that you know forsaking God is certainly not a person that is uh you know uh always good to people if he forsakes God he also does the same thing to people he may not have done it to you but he certainly has done it or she has certainly done it to other people uh and the same thing goes uh for for for any other type of sin uh that's uh of significant magnitude now a person that's alive uh can uh you know can read the Torah and see what it says it says that a Jew has to keep uh keep Shabbat a Jew that's uh came to the world because hasem decided for him to come to the world if a person says no no but uh I don't believe it's true then that means that they don't believe in God so they believe that God's a liar if they believe God's a liar then obviously they're a liar so that's it it's not uh it doesn't make them honest it just means that you haven't caught them in a lie that's all it means if someone's husband or wife is distant in the relationship and but just basically quit on a relationship became neglectful what can the person do uh the person has to evaluate uh their own actions to see what they have done uh in order to bring this on and what they're doing uh in order to improve things uh because many times communication is the primary cause for marriage problems people are not communicating uh they're not communicating or they're miscommunicating meaning that uh every time the uh the wife uh you know is in front of him all he's communicating about is the fact that he wants her to do stuff for him he wants it to cook he wants it to clean he wants it to go to the store for him but he never communicates by giving her a compliment by saying thank you by uh saying I Love You by uh you know anything he just communicates like to her like she's uh you know a uh uh you know fast food uh uh uh restaurant but the same thing goes with women you know many times women says what I do everything for him how come how come he's uh doesn't care about me no it's because every time he's in front of you yes maybe you gave him some food but along with the food came an hour of complaints about your friends your family your weight your uh foot uh pain your hair is not this your it's an hour of complaints and there's no person on Earth that likes complaints but guys hate complaints even more so so when a woman yes maybe she gives food but the food comes with an hour of comp complaints it ruins the relationship or there's only requests where as soon as the husband comes home honey I need this I need this I need I need I need she she's she's treating her her husband like he's an app like an Amazon app and she keeps clicking on things to order so the husband you know starts feeling like what what am I some donkey like why didn't she say like how was your day or just you know let me just be in uh in peace like just don't ask for anything so it's important for person to know that communication is not just about saying thank you and I love you sometimes communication is simply not ruining communication or miscommunicating or treating each other like you work for each other uh many times There's issues where there's somebody feels disrespected where they feel like just because they don't have a certain level of success their spouse doesn't respect them or just because they don't look a certain way their spouse doesn't respect them or love them or think they're pretty or think they're uh they're uh man enough or wife enough so many times the issues that happen between husband and wife are miscommunication but it's not just miscommunication of he cursed me I'm not going to forgive him he cursed she cursed my mother I'm not forgiving her it's not just that there's also simply misusing your time with each other misusing your time with each other you have to designate time to have like a meeting about stuff stuff you need stuff he needs the rest of the time should be about just common conversation how was your day how was your day can I help you with something can I uh you do do you want to talk about something don't use each other like Amazon uh apps you know just just pressing buttons and asking for things or needless to say some wall to cry on constantly don't be a complaining machine why because nobody likes a complainer especially if the person works all day with customers that are also complaining all day this is one of the most difficult parts of business you have to hear people's complaints non-stop so a person that hears people's complaints customers vendors uh you know uh all types of uh co-workers bosses complain all day they're they know they need to do it because they need to make a living but the last thing they want is more of that when they get home that's why a lot of people end up watching TV or going on the internet for 500 hours in a row because they're literally escaping the world of complaints they live so if you make your home into a you know a beautiful place where you're able to learn together you're help able to communicate about you know subjects that are not complaining subjects that are not requesting but rather how are you doing how is the you know just different things intellectual conversations uh things that are interesting to both of you uh uh that don't require uh him or her to constantly do something uh then this could help this could help a lot and of course again the stuff that you need the groceries you need to buy the garbage that needs to go out all that other stuff whatever you can't do yourself make a time during the week once a week maybe twice a week if really necessary where you talk about this stuff uh you know but uh it definitely should not be every single day and certainly not as soon as they come home and even more so not as soon as they want to go learn tah and even more so times three not right before they want to go to sleep you know you have to pick a time pick a time where this is now if you do it this way you know obviously nobody wants a time where uh they're just going to hear requests and complaints but if they know this is the one time a week that that's where it's going to be it's worth it why because the rest of the week I'm going to have peace of mind the rest of the week I could learn in peace the rest of the week I could have conversations without thinking that every word of mine is being like measured you know it's a it's the rest of the week is Pleasant the rest of the week is pleasant and that's that that makes makes life much better unfortunately many times uh couples uh turn each other into secretaries and uh clerks secretaries clerks and slaves and this ruins the relationship this is the reason why a a woman is going to you know talk to another guy this is the reason why a guy is going to talk to another girl why because their spouse is their pretty much source of complaints and requests and this new person doesn't ask for anything they don't ask for anything they don't want anything from them they're not asking them for for them to go throw out the garbage they're not ask asking for them you know to uh to go to the store at uh you know in the middle of the night to go buy them you know a laundry machine what are they asking for how you doing you want to hang out you want to have a coffee you want to talk about something so unfortunately what happens here is that this so-called platonic relationship becomes an atomic relationship and becomes immorality but it starts with the person needing somebody that's not what they have why because what they have it's annoying it's it's it's miserable it's no piece of mind it's a constant source of complaints and requests and and and misery and it's like ah so that's also the reason why you know people take vacations with their friends and not with their spouses certainly it's wrong you should never take a vacation with your friends and not with your spouse it should always be together but the problem is because all of the misery that people have is is is is is together they don't connect fun with them anymore when he thinks of fun he thinks of his friends when she thinks of fun she thinks of her friends why because her friends don't ask her for anything they don't ask her to cook they don't ask her to clean they don't ask her to take the kids uh to the school they don't ask her to uh you know to do anything they ask her want to go have a coffee okay yeah I'll go have a coffee I'll go have a coffee same thing with the guy he's uh his friends don't ask them uh listen can you uh buy me this can you do this can you talk to me uh until uh you know I fall asleep they don't ask about all those things can you tell me what you think about my mother can you tell me what you think about my sister for the 75th time can you they don't ask her for that what do they ask they ask yeah you want to go have a drink want to go have a drink yeah sure have a drink so what happens is he starts relating fun stuff with the friends she starts relating fun stuff with the friends and problems misery boredom uh you know in so many words life sucks with their spouse and this continues on and on and on so the solution to that is one make a date for problems problems requests that's once a week once a month the the more developed your relationship is the less often it's going to be why the less often it's not because there's less problems rather because the more developed your relationship is the more you know already what the issue is and you solve it without the other person asking you already know to throw the garbage out you don't need your wife to tell you you already know to uh cook at this time cook at this day uh clean this go there do that already you want to help each other you're you're in it to help each other you're in it to constantly help each other rather than to ask for help it's also a opposite mentality where he developed a successful relationship is when people want to give not take today the vast majority of relationships fail because people are in the relationship in order to get stuff they look at relationship like an Amazon store like a Walmart what can I get from him what can I get from her what can she do for me that's a relationship that's going to be miserable and most likely either will stay miserable or will end before it becomes super miserable because it's a relationship of taking when you're in a relationship of giving constantly giving not asking constantly giving giving that's your relationship will develop into something where literally the you you'll have less problems less types of times where you need to discuss problems because you're solving the problems as you go because you're constantly looking to give give give give if I want to give what's his problem now his problem he's hungry okay I'm going to make food what's his problem now his problem is that he needs some uh you know time alone because he's focused on something okay so I'm going to take the kids I'm going to take care of the kids I'm going to give them some time alone honey I'm going to go take the kids to my mother and you uh you know study you uh go learn to with your Rabbi you go do your thing oh honey thank you so much why no I'm going to help you no no no no no I want you I want you to study I want you I want you to focus on that I'm going to clean and do and do this why because I want you to be uh to to focus on your things to be happy I want to make you happy and when a person is in a relationship to give the problems get solved along the way you won't have to have this once week meeting now if you're having everyday meetings about problems your relationship is terrible your community communication is terrible so the first thing is have this thing once a week until it gets developed to the point where you don't need to do once a week at all it's literally once in a blue moon second thing is especially if it's a new relationship have date night what's date night simply go on a date without talking about problems without talking about things you don't like without talking about things he doesn't like don't bring up your mother don't invite anyone to it simply you just like when you were you know on a dating new excited that that go to a place where there's no problems it's important to do that why because number one it's going to become more and more difficult to do that as you have kids number two it's a uh it's something that's healthy for relationship to do now as life develops there's uh you're not necessarily going to be able to do it every single week but certainly should be once in a while sometimes date night is uh to go to a coffee shop sometimes it's to go to uh you know just to the supermarket together but without the kids sometimes it's literally date night where you're having coffee and the kids are sleeping and you're having coffee and you're just talking for an hour or two hours or whatever it is together day and night could be all forms all types doesn't necessarily need to be at the uh 47th floor of some uh you know of some restaurant in uh you know Fifth Avenue in Manhattan day night could be all types of things but the point is is to spend quality time not complaining time not annoying time time not time that you yourself would not find fun if it was being done to you so it's uh it's important for a person to have a day for that also a day for that also uh the uh third thing is learn toat together learn toat together if you learn if a couple learns toat together they watch a together even if it's only 15 or 30 minutes a day but they watch it together it will develop the relationship why cuz you're not connecting your souls your together when you connect your n together you will not only get the uh same teachings but you also start connecting your ideology together you're connecting your your mindset together and even though you'll have one perception and he'll have one perception she'll have one perception you'll have one perception the key is that you'll develop them together and that will connect you and help the relationship dramatically this is something that's a foolproof system that I've seen over the years that I've recommended many many couples every single couple that has ever actually done it like I told him to do it every single couple helped every single couple without fail couples that had failed with the couples that didn't do it so it never really failed they failed they failed they didn't want to do it or they stopped they started it then they stopped so obviously it's not going to work so it's invest time in learning to together time for complaining time for you know having uh uh fun together date night some type of thing uh number three learning to go together number four intimacy is a very very important matter in Judaism a relationship without intimacy is not a relationship it's boyfriend uh girlfriend uh that that are imaginary why because in in Judaism intimacy is of critical importance during the time of the uh where a woman is pure after she went to the mikve the couple needs to be intimate how often that all the depends if he's a Torah scholar if he's a worker if he is a uh half and half it all depends but the the reality is younger people need usually much more uh than older uh but needless to say everyone needs to be intimate whether you're in the mood not in the mood you have to get yourself in the mood and that's why I recommend for people to learn the Jewish intimacy series together the husband and wife learn the Jewish intimacy together because that's going to help you understand the purp purpose of intimacy and how it could become much more pleasurable not just through the physical aspect of it but also the spiritual aspect of it and the life part of it uh you know it's it's Jewish intimacy based on the teachings of the Torah teachings of the ramban Holiness attaining Holiness but also Holiness doesn't mean no fun Holiness doesn't mean less fun the opposite it means more fun more good but a person needs to understand that intimacy is very very important many times people say why you know we were together last month what you were together one time fine listen for some guys that's enough one time a month but your guy may need 10 times a month your guy may need 15 times a month so you can't just say no we were together once and uh no no it's not just a based about what you need it's also about what they need same thing with the opposite sometimes the guy said no we were together last month I was with her a couple times fine but maybe your wife was uh needs 10 times maybe she needs you have understand that it's not just based on your needs if a person is in a relationship to take then they're going to be in a position where it's only about what they need if they're in a relationship to give they're going to constantly think about what their spouse needs if you're constantly focused on what your spouse needs guess what you're going to be right every time of how often to be together how often to be together and it's very very important for a person to know that sometimes sometimes and it's not just sometimes like once in a blue moon but it's going to happen probably every single month and even more than once a month where one of you is not going to be in the mood to be together but the other one will be and guess what if you're in a in in a in a in a path of fixing improving building perfecting this relationship what you want becomes completely irrelevant they want to be together you fix yourself and get yourself into the position into the mindset of I want to do this not because I'm in the mood physically but rather because I want to make him or I want to make her happy I want to make him I want to make her happy because I'm not doing it for myself I'm doing it because I love him or I love her whatever it is you're male or female so it's important for a person to know that it's not just about you in fact it's not about you at all the less the relationship is about you the more successful the relationship is going to be the more the relationship is about you the more difficulties you're going to have in your relationship 99% of all the problems are because people want pretty much their way in a relationship and that becomes their priority number one number two and number three and if they have any time after they fulfilled all of their own desires maybe they'll make some room for somebody else's desires somebody else's needs somebody else else's wants and that's unfortunately a recipe for miserable life so it's a it's important for a person to do all of these different things certainly there's many many more things that uh you know a person can work on can develop which we discuss in a Jewish intimacy series but I could assure you if you do these few things that I just mentioned it will improve your life your marriage a millionfold a millionfold uh and uh whatever relationship whatever status your relationship is right now you could certainly improve it uh unless it's too late where you know already got to a point where you know it's there's a divorce but if you're still together you can still fix it and everybody will be able to fix their relationships both with their spouse and their kids and most importantly with uh thank you very much for learning 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