Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #84 - Go Away in Love

as we turn friday into arab shabbos your calendar might say friday but you know it's not friday google might say it's friday but you know it's not friday out of shabbos get mayor of shabbos everyone as that siren comes shabbos is coming a big thank you to our generous turn friday into arab shabbos sponsors for the year mendy and super fishman our dear friends is a member of rabbi jonathan sacks forever are you today's turn friday of charles sponsored by the dean of general rosenblatt sarastova's good health for judy cutler you heard this esther pass brazil all should be well healthy and good we are continuing morgan's can't wait for the complete volume to come out there's a little introductory version of it a little pamphlet and we've been talking about the light coming out of the darkness into the light very often the weekday is dark it's filled with to do and tasks it's filled with disappointment it's filled with challenges it's filled with difficulty and we come into the light of shabbos shabbos illuminates shabbos enlightens shabbas gives us that optimism that hope that positivity that light that breath of fresh air shabbos gives us that energy we liberate ourselves from that pressure we liberate ourselves from the negativity we liberate ourselves from feeling down in the dumps we experience the joy the happiness we enjoy the beauty of shabbos what happens when you don't what happens when you feel still feel it's dark and down that's what you've been talking about her gosh mesika sadvakasamuna feeling the sweetness of clean to hashem the sweetness of faith in hashem it's not just that we're asked submit surrender and then panic submit and surrender to god and then be anxious submit and surrender and then worry how's it all going to work out submission and surrender should come with a sweetness it should be delicious nothing to worry about who cares what people say about me or where they say who cares who's coming after me or attacking me who cares what i'm worried about who cares what's happening around me who cares how much i have to do i have hashem on my side boa paro hashem doesn't say go he says new come he's by my side he's with me he's hand in hand there's a sweetness if i can let go and cling to him attach myself to him if i'm able to recognize that he's with me wherever and whenever i go that everything that happens nothing is random or chance it's all for a reason then there's a mesicus there's a sweetness it's delicious whatever comes my way is for a reason there's nothing that's a waste of time because it's how hashem orchestrated things it's how i meant to be spending my time so now i have to find the sweetness where is the deliciousness in that diwecus says when a jew feels the pleasantness and the beauty and the joy of hashem feelings of enlightenment zeb birkos in the flaw that's a bracha that is wonders it's a bracha let's wonder us we learned this morning in our era of shabbos kolob a piece by the salaam rabbit and then silva shalom about how the light always comes after the darkness when hashem created the world by er eboker first it's night and then it's day first we were in slavery and then we went free with great wealth only when you come out of the darkness do you really perceive and sense the intensity of the light if you live in light all the time the light doesn't do anything for you you don't even feel you don't even sense the light it's only when you live in darkness and you come forth now that light is bright that light illuminates that light lifts you now that light does something even more so the way hashem the way god created the world the day follows the night in judaism not the opposite way around when we're born first we go through a period of darkness and then burst forth into the light when we were born as a people and nation first we experienced the darkness of servitude of exile and only then redemption the same is true for us as individuals we experience a darkness a depression we go through periods of challenge but if we recognize that in those moments they're pregnant with possibility that in that darkness when we come out into the light it will be so bright it'll be especially bright we can break through kashudi margish when we feel it it's a tremendous bro we have to be very careful that our serving hashem cannot depend it cannot be dependent on that feeling of joy and happiness we have to serve hashem whether we're into it or not we have to be loved we have to love and be loyal to our spouse whether we feel the romance in that moment or not you can't only be good to your spouse kind to your spouse and loyal to your spouse when you're in love with your spouse even in a moment of tension or fight please god they're few and far between a person has to remain loyal a person has to try to act with love even if they're struggling to feel the love and the same is true in our relationship with hashem it's not just when everything is amazing and spiritual and uplifting and beautiful it's not just in those moments that mitzvos we lift us and they excite us and that's when we're really into it and otherwise well it's not doing anything for me right now i'm disconnected from filling or davening or brachos or shabbos that doesn't do anything for me right now our loyalty and our love don't depend on it do anything for us just like with our children our spouse our job and other areas of life that are important or we have responsibility where we made commitments where we have to have loyalty our relationship with hashem is no different than those so shabbos is filled with joy and excitement and energy electricity shabbos is filled with light and romance shabbos is filled with possibility of getting to know and come close to hashem to those around us and to ourselves but we're not only into shabbos we don't only do shabbos right when we're into shabbos we're obligated to obey observe the into shabbos even when it's not doing anything for us feelings change feelings wax and wane feelings are like a roller coaster that go up and down um sometimes it's riding high and sometimes it's crashing and burning it's like the waves that we have to ride so even when we're not feeling it you're not near the elements we're not near the the external uh criteria we're not near the stimuli that create a sense of spirituality our sense of connection to hashem can't depend to rely on that it wrote demands and it relies on us it depends and relies on our taking a moment to think about who he is and where we are to invite him and involve him in our life to talk to him to talk to him and behind the this week we had the great nissin black the uh former gang member criminal rapper hip-hop artist who today is a brussel of jew a holy soul who's putting out the most beautiful jewish poetry rap and song nissan black spoke about his podudos talked about going into the forest and talking to hashem talked about what it means to be in conversation with him to talk to him and to hear him talking to us he talked about what it means to be in that conversation go find that interview it's well worth the listen a person has to be in constant conversation with hashem it can't just be that when we hear that comes into the tisha the fabregan when we're around the cover that lift us when we have the sharkuri boards and the lachym it can't just be that when everything around us is perfectly right oh that's what i'm into shabbos that's what i'm into davening that's what i'm into no it has to be i have to be able to connect and to feel i have to be able to manufacture and generate within myself so now we understand that part of turning friday into arab shabbos is to go searching for hashem before i go into that shabbos you know a person schedules to get a couple nights away with their spouse you don't go away in a fight in the days or the hours leading up to getting away you want to make sure that you're getting along resolve whatever challenges relieve whatever tension go away in the best of terms so you have the most amazing time together part of turning friday into arab shabbas is working out whatever we have to with hashem so that we go into shabbos reconciled we go into shabbos having worked out whatever tension may exist apologize or in some cases forgiving but being able to walk in with a sense and a feeling i'm in a relationship i love him and he loves me and i feel his presence i put it aside and now i'm able to experience the beauty the deliciousness the greatness of shabbos please god we'll continue with this wishing everyone a happy healthy or holy a delicious and the sweet shabbos [Music] have a little conversation with hashem on your way into shabbos talk to him tell them what's on your mind in your heart what you need to work out what you want to share and when you do you'll walk into shabbos you'll have a delicious delicious shabbos oh the covered shabbos have a great shabbos everybody