Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #8 - Put on Your Shabbos Panim

good Erev Shabbos thank you so much for joining the holy Erev Shabbos Jews who come together every week for a few minutes so that Friday is not Friday Friday is err Shabbos and collectively we can prepare we can transform ourselves we can enter Shabbos with a sense of preparation because they in kedusha by Johanna there is no holiness without the preparation the work that comes before now the truth is it's an unusual and awkward Erev Shabbos in some ways it feels like this is a four day yontiff with a little reprieve and breathing room to cook in between to catch our breath but the truth is it's a mistake to see it that way in ordinary circumstances I know at least I as a rabbi would feel awkward this Friday transitioning from the Russians mushy room the work on Tiffin to the Russians this year in the work of Shabbos but this year and this circumstances which in so many ways is a crisis and uncomfortable in other ways as incredibly comfortable and prevents presents an opportunity I'm so excited I can't wait for Shabbos we've gone from Hammad's being the enemy to life commissioner challah being a mitzvah to eat we've gotten from young turf which is done by choice Makana she strove as madam we the Jewish people established the calendar we endow and imbued with holiness to meet Cathy shoshanna's where the kedusha the holiness comes from above God brings it down ready or not here it comes it's built into our calendar we count six days and the seventh is the holy Shabbos we've gone from holidays entered on reliving the experience of living that's leading with trying to a heart to a Shabbos which comes each week safely taste with time which liberates us I don't know about you but 24 hours of being able to check the news again 24 hours of unfortunately terrible statistics and data 24 hours of such ambiguity and doubt and uncertainty of what will be and when will it be it's enough to make me want to go back and immerse myself in Shabbos yet again Shabbos is that place we go to that protective cocoon it's not we're denying reality we are realists but 24 25 hours we taste mein Olam haba it is a taste of portion of the world to come so I want to spend a few minutes today learning a beautiful piece in the slalom Arriba the great reshawna reserve ski zitao who has a beautiful insight that actually touches on our passion as well we'll put it all together hopefully in just a few minutes and it's based on like a march Avice the March time is Duffy base tells us we discussed this a few weeks ago cuddle imagination too big go where Shabbos and kasha a person has to check the clothing you go out and if there's no a river we've become accustom we're used to we take for granted in a roof there are communities that don't have there are communities that announced the room is down so we all remember that strictly speaking we are forbidden from carrying without an Arab but if a person lived in a community with no era of you would be obligated to check your pockets making sure you're not carrying anything as Shabbos is coming in to position ourselves and ensure we're not going to violate Sharpless the slim rabbit quotes one of his ancestors Magnus avocado chamise let him who reinterpret this to me not only check big doe your clothing but biggie duh check your rebellious list shaman comes at the end of a week Shabbos is a time for self-reflection for evaluation introspection it's the opportunity of filter through which we evaluate how did I do was i patient was i come that i fill my time with holiness was i kind and sensitive to others was i mindful and present in my dominating in my learning in my interactions with other people we evaluate and we take an accounting because you know as management gurus have taught what gets measured gets managed Peter Drucker the great management guru what gets measured gets managed Erev Shabbos hi other than Lamaze which the big dough a person has to check a value and introspect a person should look at what side of Elias did I do to as well as I could could I do better what areas we need to grow we measure ourselves so that in the week ahead we will better manage ourselves this we spoke about a few weeks ago came in Shabbat shaman let's go to a level of maturation maybe give yourself you should check your rebellious so that we don't enter Shabbos with any shame by evaluating how I I can set my shame aside well my guilt what I regret we can go into Shabbos unburdening ourselves relieving ourselves we can go into Shabbos feeling good and positive about who we are and the weekend the time that we're going to come we don't beat ourselves up we don't have to relive the same mistakes Erev Shabbos is a prime time to set up a calendar again management gurus will tell you that quarterly annually if they're really strict monthly almost no one says weekly you should stop and evaluate so that you can do better but that's exactly what we do says this Linamar ever an air of Shabbos we evaluate we reflect we checked so that we can set it aside we can unload it we can unburden ourselves we can stop beating ourselves up holding ourselves back we can unshackle and set ourselves free the freedom of Shabbos which represents safely ts messiaen the ability to set ourselves free from mistakes in the past the zyanyamb aromas ganba Musharraf Amin and this is what the famine said this we didn't see Shen Mitzvah lyrical tunnel via the vernacular of Shabbos the Gemara their Shabbos those learning the Dharma encounter this just a week ago the huh famine days two weeks ago but there is a mitzvah on Erev Shabbos to wash our face our hands and our feet of course we shower we bathe we cleanse ourselves entirely when we had the luxury many men at the custom of going to the mikveh today you could stand under the shower and fulfill that custom through tisha cabin there are those who cleanse themselves and we try to immerse and clean ourselves fully but minimally in the time of the Gemara there was a lot more schlepping of hot water to be able to feel it was difficult there was no indoor plumbing so to prepare for Shabbos you should clean says the Gemara said our great rabbis pond of yard of a bag love your face your ends and I'm not gonna try to lift my foot but your feet can room so a gimmick alcohol them here this hinted to the three parts of a person Paul of can I get a feel okay Ali on the face represents me does Hamoui our faces the window into our brain into our intellect into our cognition into our mindfulness into our intention who are we what drives us what are we thinking what's happening in our brain we wear it on our face part of is the face the face Yadav can I get a halakhah and say our hands represent our inner portion who meet us alive we are able to execute we put into action the intentions of the heart the feelings of the heart the emotion of the heart through our hands and Ragland can they give me the cyavana our feet represent our other organs hi Nisha family anomalies shop submits valid the miracles only time to call a pagoda cheerfully come as the Shabbos so whether it's our brain our heart or our organs whether it's our intellect our emotions or our actions we're hive atom Lear hotz we cleanse we clean we review we wipe away the blemish we remove the stain we cleanse and we transform it as we go into showers there's a brilliant psychological insight you know often we get together we gather for secular occasions for milestones in life and when family gets together when you come together around the table dinner and you have no distractions of Technology you bring in all the past I'm gonna say that you always storm off and do that you still never worked out or apologized or the thing that you did before the beauty of Yiddish kite the beauty the inside of our great rabbis however the leader hot spot of you at the Baraka of don't beat yourself up don't hold yourself back don't carry the baggage it only gets heavier the longer you hold on to it set it down don't feel shame don't feel guilt not as if we set ourselves free but work it through pledge to do better understand where you went wrong - lamashtu dog did the god of check not only your clothing but your rebellious because then you can have the happiest Travis then you're not enslaved then you're not burdened then you're not shackled we set ourselves free from our own self-imposed shackles when we're willing to let go we're willing to move on only to forgive ourselves and forgive others when we're vehicle spun around over the other Veronica when we clean our face our hands and our feet our brain our heart and our actions a bizarre color sheet service always says the following have photoshops petition Shabbos tynesha and they bushed fearfully connoisseur Shabbos the same letters beige in tough the same letter write the word Pocius shame and Shabbos why because when you transform shame you discover Shabbes through a sense a healthy sense not a sense of shame that you beat yourselves up not a shame that you're embarrassed but a healthy sense of shame you know shame you're the pain sensors it's the nervous system of the soul just like that body is a nervous system and a person with a neuropathy is I'm able to feel pain and when you can't feel pain you're truly in danger because if you can't feel pain you don't know that something's wrong you don't know that you have to have it fixed the same is true for the soul shame is the nervous system of the soul if you don't blush if you don't feel shame if you don't recoil if you're not embarrassed by mistakes that you've done then the nervous system of the soul is broken you don't know something is wrong you don't know that you need to fix it there's a healthy sense shame in saying that's beneath me I can do better I don't have to look at those things say those things react that way feel that feeling and I have to waste that time I could do better I'm ashamed of the mistakes I've made such a sense of shame doesn't hold us back such a sense of strain shame actually lifts us it propels us and a person who can engage evaluate feel shame for the mistakes we've made and then let go can go on Shabbos from Boscia to Shabbos what an incredible transition a transition that liberates us a transition that frees us Nash lavoris I've chosen is columella chef Athena Shama sucia coach Mark O'Meara may love with Marco Simoncelli holoku llama covered what a Shabbos Chavez's Dakota shock reduction as we've spoken about many times Shabbos is in time what Michigan is in space Michigan and Shabbos tabernacle and Shabbos are juxtaposed in the Torah several times why because what the tabernacle with the Michigan with the mikdash represents for holiness in space Shabbos represents for holiness in time Shabbos Hashem invites us and says come into my not only my Kodesh come into my code shock reduction each one of us is the coming guggle of Shabbos we all have a place we are all leaders in the sanctity in discovering the intense presence of Hashem of Shabbos sha our own are calling czaka Manasseh Eleazar they mean is Abu Shah Baba shiftless so how do we merit getting into the code - Shekhar - Ian it's the Holy of Holies it's reserved for the most righteous virtuous men Tories who are we lonely pathetic never reject a Smurfs who speak lonely who look lonely you think well Leo actually we fail to meet our potential were spiritual underachievers spiritual underachievers have a place in the holy of always in the code the shotgun ocean we're invited in this room for us the answer is says the slammer ABBA and here's the connection the divide total for your table for our parsha the answer is how did our own merit to get into code - a Kardashian in space the physical manifestation of the intense presence of Hashem our Pasha what's the story as it says of family Tao am ashram emotional our La Motta bouche the Catholic art at the beginning of our parish especially me when I'm OSHA says to Arum new column is bass bass a new it's time to come forward with spring training is over the experiment time is over dress rehearsals over let's get to work it's time the curtains coming up by Iran it's gone it's lifting on you and why didn't you have to say crap come close and the answer is cuz I'll say because Aaron was hesitant it wasn't ready and why was he hesitant so we tell because he was both she was embarrassed why was he embarrassed because the corners of the MS efforts stick up look like the horns of an ox and when our on saw it of an eagle he said to himself he saw the image of an eagle and he said Oh crater a go my involvement my role in the hata a go he was embarrassed he was worried he would be held accountable so he recoiled he demure he hesitated maybe it wasn't and moshe had to say no crab come it's for you what's going on here so they explained so beautifully our own was embarrassed he was bush he hesitated because he felt a sense of shame for a mistake of the past and what is moshe tell'em Lacock Nakata it doesn't mean you were chosen for this to be the Kohen Gadol it means Lacock because you have a healthy sense of shame because your spiritual nervous system is working look ah because you have shame Matata it's a person who has no shame a person who's arrogant person who thinks they've arrived first and has nothing to repair first was on a bad about their shortcomings that person has no place in the Holy of Holies but you are on because you've been a shame like ha for that reason new Proctor and says the Sun were ever the same secret for what unlocked the Holy of Holies for our own a healthy dose of shame made him the right person the healthy dose of shame as we go into Thomas gives us unfettered access lets us entered guilt free and shame free that holy chain are called Shabbos in time big lotta boasts a Catholic parish a leak off a bush and shiver Litella alright is a NASA Randy Curtis Nicosia Kardashian the Amidah Gambon organically issued in the sharm it's kinda sh-sheila bussiness sake missile lakota jagged ocean linear shana raka idea bush about shiverin life we took his Bonin estimates about roughly the high sighs not good summer session who were to take this time to think about and to evaluate to pledged how we can improve so I want to end by offering a challenge to each and every one of us you know if you're running and you're scrambling to get ready for Shabbos then you don't have the presence of mind to measure and therefore to manage who you are to become better a person is running you like to get the shower you late to get your tire you late-2000s are you late to get started the tables not said the candles not let the kids aren't ready nothing's ready then you don't have the peace of mind the presence of mind to engage this self respect the self reflection this introspection this exercise of live Adam that we have to evaluate our beginner or rebellious that eautiful it's part of your liver a glove it's not just as you take a shower you to spend the moment evaluating my brain my heart my actions how were they who could they be how can I do better where did I fall short then guilt free shame free from bosha to Shabbos I can enter a Shabbos where I've set myself free set myself free in my relationship with myself I'm not beating myself up set myself free in my relationship with my Creator set myself free by forgiving and asking forgiveness of the people around me to go into Shabbos with a sense of peace and tranquility and so my challenge is set aside that time not only to take your physical shower but your thoughts I'll jump on ahead of Aragua to also shower our brain our heart interactions in the sense to clean to uplift remove the blemish and stain so we could set ourselves feet please I'd have the holiest the healthiest the happiest Shabbos and please God soon to be together in person have a wonderful Shabbos