Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #59 - Shabbos Serenity

[Music] the covered shabbos kaidash thank you for joining us the covered shabbos kardashians return friday into arab shabbos want to thank our generous sponsors dear friends men and supporter of fishman escorts the port of fredo and a memory of rabbi lord jonathan saxophone yaakov tv ben david arya also our learning and our preparation our transformation of friday into earth shabbos is in honor of our dear brothers and sisters in israel we hope and we pray are experiencing a peaceful and a serene shabbos the cup is kaidesh everyone join su casquel cavachavez kaidesh are you back in florida are we having deli roller of shabbos returning friday into arab shabbos some deli roll with pickle come on everybody turn friday into arabic shabbos the covet shabbos kaidesh here comes that siren and we will begin i am oh special guest for the cupboard shabbos [Music] oh the covered shabbos kaidish here comes desired we will begin preparing transforming and turning friday into arab shabbos oh the covet shabbos kaidesh ah thank you to our generous sponsors we pick up with a vigil my morgan's turn come here wanna come no no okay so we pick up with where we left off last week behind which morgenstern who's been walking us through all of the haqqanas all of the mindfulness all the presence all the consciousness that we should have on our shabbos we began from our shopping and our cooking to the tomat tasting of the food to cutting our fingernails to washing and bathing to lighting the candles and now we have been discussing overcoming the obstacles overcoming the tests of arab shabbos we mentioned last week and it was so meaningful and gratifying i met somebody who told me the last hour of shabbos there was such stress such pressure that uh she and the family were very stressed very worried very anxious very upset and thanks to the words of richard meyer morgenstern thanks to the words that we are learning together they remembered and they reminded themselves as we remind ourselves that air of shabbos we're tested we're tested not to lose our cool we're tested not to blow our fuse we're tested not to get frustrated we're tested not to get angry we're tested not to be said or down but instead to be inspired to be happy to be elevated to be energized to get ready for shabbos we mentioned last week that we have a principle the greater the yetzer atov equal and opposite it the greater the etsahara will work the more that we have an inclination for good the more that we are getting close and we are tasting the holiness of shabbos the sanctity of shabbos the peace and tranquility of shabbos equal and opposite it the tohara will go into overdrive that evil inclination that voice of self-sabotage it will go into overdrive trying to convince us what we should be said and what we should be despondent why we should be depressed why we should get angry and that's fighting we have to overcome that test that comes the kashar adam loko is when a person doesn't get angry and when a person isn't sad or vicar lo no fell feel shallow when a person refuses to get angry no matter how many toys are left in the middle of the room no matter how many people are late for when they promised they would be home or they haven't fulfilled the chores that they were committed to do no matter if the food didn't come out exactly the way we wanted no matter what person promises and pledges a person follows through not to get angry and not to be sad lone lo no fail not to have yes yes person cannot have yayosh can never despair can never give up hope can never stop believing heir of shabbos is a time to dig in to stubbornness to embrace the beauty to channel the best of what stubbornness has stubbornness more most often we view as a negative trait but stubbornness is not a bad trait if we channel that stubbornness into stubbornly being happy stubbornly being positive stubbornly being patient stubbornly being even keeled then we'll be able to have a beautiful shabbos who murdered hashem when a person stubbornly is positive when a person stubbornly has hope when a person stubbornly lives with faith when a person stubbornly maintains a smile they show they really believe everything is from hashem this past week on behind the bhima we interviewed yadida yarush our good friend who lives in khalooza on the border of gaza and egypt as a teenager he and his family were expelled from gush katif and instead of giving up on the jewish state the jewish people he said where are we needed next and the government said here's a new area it's an area nobody had ever wanted to inhabit it's an area that never blossomed or bloom if you didn't watch this interview you have to he's sitting there with relentless rocket fire his three beautiful young children running in and out of the bomb shelter and he's got a smile on his face and this is his mission this is where hashem wants him and that he stubbornly is going to overcome and he's going to be positive and he's going to smile no matter how many rockets the man named sirens he'll of course do what needs to be done he served in the paratroopers he serves in the idf and he continues to serve the safety and security but you got to listen to his voice you got to see the purity of his smile you have to see his faith stubborn stubborn faith unwilling unwilling to give in bakshanas with a stubbornness why because when a person knows that there's a unity of god's existence then nothing is random or chance everything is by design everything is from hashem he said in the interview and it's worth watching all of it he said you know these missiles they're hamas and hamas must be held accountable that's just the voice of my grandson nothing more beautiful in the background he said that missiles of course are hamas and hamas has to be held accountable however you have to realize everything's from hashem if hashem didn't want these missiles they couldn't come there's a message for us and we need to respond we need to be better hashem nothing can phase you not sirens and not running into shelters to know everything's from you you're with us everywhere you're with us everywhere and whatever we're going through you are with us and if our challenge is pale in comparison to our brothers and sisters in israel we should count our blessings if our challenges are that people aren't ready on time for our challenges are that our khala or kugel or chalant or delhi world didn't come out the way we wanted what abraham that's the greatest challenge for our challenges someone left a toy in the middle of the floor didn't set up the candles if our challenge is we wanted to make early shabbos but only on schedule to make late shabbas halawai halawai halawai these should be our biggest challenges we should dance like zacchaeus it is that these are our challenges so it takes effort it takes mindfulness person has to be contemplative and present shabbos air of shabbos friday you can't just be chaotic and scrambling you can't just be rushing a person has to be mindful and has to be serene in order to remind themselves that you know it's there of shabbos there'll be a lot of pressure there'll be a lot of obligations there'll be a lot of things to do and the atahara that voice inside my head that's going to want to sabotage my happiness and my shalom bias it's going to be working overdrive don't give in stay stubborn don't lose your cool don't lose your smile don't lose your happiness don't become sad don't become angry it takes mindfulness it takes effort it takes a conscious choice to go into air of shabbos and say no matter what comes my way how lucky and how blessed i am that these are my challenges compared to those of so many others how can we find that strength that courage how can we find the tenacity and resilience to be able to maintain the smile no matter what and hashem when we have faith that he's here and that everything is for a reason then why would i lose my cool and why would i be sad kasha sometimes we have to realize that what feels like sadness what it feels like a fall is actually raising us up baraka yet is when things seem imperfect when they've not gone exactly the way we want and we think it's a fail sometimes the moments of the biggest fail are the moments of the greatest breakthrough so don't reject the fail and don't be sad by the fail and don't lose your faith by the fail but lean into that fail because realize you can fail forward that fail can become a great source of energizing and catapulting faith a person needs to persevere and fight through in order to succeed kamakum hashemi is a guy god doesn't want arrogance and he doesn't want ego and why do we get angry and why do we get sad because our ego our ego has been damaged what hashem wants is humility he wants us to think less to see think of ourselves less bach everything's him this is the way he wanted the shabbos food to turn out this is the way he wanted everything to happen is writes fail is first attempt in learning a fail is the first attempt in learning but we can fail forward and that fail can catapult us it could be a springboard for greater faith that fail can be a great success so an arab shabbos arab shabbos in particular shabbos is a time where easily we can fail we can fail because we give in to that anger and we raise our voice that decibel level and we have that conflict on earth shabbos we can fail because we look back on our weak and we feel like failures we didn't achieve we didn't accomplish we fell short we have regrets of things we didn't do or we could look to the week ahead and realize what a bracha what a great gift and blessing from above that we get a new chance and a fresh start shabbos is a recreation of the entire world we're going to come back not only strong stronger than we ever were if we tap into the beauty the magic of what shabbos offers so as we go into shabbos we continue to daven for our brothers and sisters and as we hear the siren of heir of shabbos we darwin that the only siren that's heard in heiress israel the only sign in yerushalayim in eurokodash is the siren proclaiming heir of shabbos kodesh air of yantef and not any other siren that our brothers and sisters live in peace and prosperity and harmony that they're able to experience the kedusha the sanctity not only of shabbos but of each and every day wishing you a holy a happy and a healthy shabbos [Music] shabbos [Music] a still have a few hours left to make choices that are the covered shabbos kodesh and it begins with the choice to feel hashem's presence and to stay calm have a great shout out everybody