Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #56 - Light Up the World

good here of shabbos and welcome back to turn friday into heir of shabbos our last week without being able to listen to music as we begin our era of shabbos party our error shabba's energy our heir shall be spark as we spoke about last week fanning that flame and turning the spark into a raging fire that friday and shabbos are not a time to lower it's not a time to dim down the fire but rather as a time to raise it to elevate it to burn bright to be contagious to light the spark of all those around us i want to thank our dear dear friends mandy and supporter fishman for sponsoring the turn friday into arab shabbos series for the year in me rather super freddle in memory of rabbi lord jonathan sacks foreign thank you so so very much if you'd like to sponsor a future share please email lee at brsonline.org we are continuing our morgan's turn is magnificent safer on shabbos and we've talked about he's working through the parakana shishi how to turn friday into arab shabbos how to wake up friday and it's not another day of the week it's not friday it's heir of shabbos the atmosphere the climate the environment the way the table is set the attitude that we have the to-do list the level the rhythm of our energy it's not friday it's already air of shabbos and so we've been speaking about everything that goes into erev shabas from the recognition of the significance of the day and what we call it it's not friday it's out of shabbos he talked about that we are already tasting we are already imbibing the kedusa the holiness the sanctity of that special food already on friday we spoke about how we cut our nails we spoke about washing bathing in warm water and it brings us up to candle lighting kosovo arizona the arizona writes and sharokinas mitzvah is be very careful be vigilant be scrupulous when it comes to the lighting of the candles on air of shabbos setting up the candles arranging the candles light in the candles described they referred to as this light is a source of peace it illuminates the home it dispels the darkness it transforms the atmosphere upon you the depth of the matter is the inner idea lighting the candle is not just another thing on your checklist did someone set up the lecter did someone get the candles ready oh we're running out of time only a few minutes left so quickly you light the candles check done candles are lit no it's not an external superficial act it is a transformational moment the whole environment of the home is about to absolutely transform the light of the candle represents the illumination the lighting up of the emunah of faith in our hearts so the candles have always been associated with shalom bias the candles why because if it's dark in the home right this was a candle lighting was at a time before there was electric lights and our wonderful smith covers we learned last month's mountain ago but the laws of lighting candles and the truth is many posts can hold before you light candles you should turn the lights off then turn them back on in the name of shabbos and then light the candles because if you're lighting candles against the backdrop of a lit room because the electric lights you're not really contributing any light at all your most of war you're not really adding anything so once you turn off the electric lights turn them back on for the sake of shabbos then light the candles and both of them are in the name of shabbos so the idea of lighting the candles is if it's dark in the room and you're going to trip on a toy you're going to curse out the spouse the children who left the toy in the middle of the room how come you didn't clean up why does it look like this but when you have light you can see light represents clarity light represents peace light represents confidence light represents knowledge and awareness light represents emunah and faith and when a person has a moon in faith they shall unbiased why do you get angry where does anger come from the core the source of anger is ego i wanted things to work out a certain way the world needs to fall in line the way i want i had a certain vision for the way things should happen and you left a toy in the middle of the room things didn't happen the way i wanted i get angry i get filled with rage but a person who lives within a person who feels and sees the light of faith says there's a god there's an omnipotent infinite being there's a reason for everything and therefore why would i ever get angry i do the best i can and i encourage and i teach and i push the people around me to do the best they can but in the end of the day it's not about my ego there's a god and things happen for a reason and therefore and therefore i'd never get angry so when a person has the light sees the light of a moon the shabbos candles represent contributing and transforming and illuminating the home with a light of faith that we're not added alone that there's a god there's a plan there's a creator we're commemorating six days of creation and a person who has a muno and a person has faith then a person is peace we have peace with peace with ourselves and we have peace with others but and a person has to have intent mindfulness when lighting the shabbos candles ub and when a person looks at and gazes at the shabbos candles of which we have a strong tradition that's brought down in in the middle of kiddish when the person is saying the first paragraph of kiddush to look over at the shabbos candles the candles should be lit near where one is eating they're illuminating the dining they're adding the candelabra on the dining near the dining room table is the atmosphere is the ambiance of the shabbos meal so during kirishvaichulu in the first paragraph whereby and others have you look over at the light of the candles and you see that light the clarity the confidence you believe that there is hashem so the attitude the mindfulness the intention that one should have is to illuminate to ignite within ourselves the light of god or that's what we're trying to do you know a person is filled with anger or rage is living in darkness darkness and depression that's a plague we bring upon ourselves when we react with anger when we react with rage when we have some tension within our home but when we have faith and when we have peace when we have come and when we have serenity because we know that there is a master plan there is a master and therefore we are at peace with ourselves with others and with god with him then we're never bent out of shape then we have a sense of peace so when we look at that light the flickering flame and the illuminating light we think about the faith and we instill it within our hearts and we bring a sense of peace and tranquility a wave over ourselves until we recognize and we live with clarity raku is barach that everything is god everything that happens is from hashem it cannot happen without his willing it we have to hold others accountable if they wrong us if they harm us if they threaten us it doesn't mean that we're not entitled to compensation we're not entitled to hold people accountable to demand excellence of ourselves or others but once we've done the best we can and once we've done all we can we let go and we let god there's never a reason to get anger never a reason to get anxious never a reason to get envious because in the end of the day ain't owed mill vado there is no one there's nothing but him everything is for a purpose everything is for a reason everything is by design the almighty orchestrates coordinates and curates the world and our lives in it and that's what's represented by the light maybe all week long we're struggling with living in darkness we're uninspired we're disconnected we're down and out we're living in darkness we light those shabbos candles and we light up the world we light the shabbos candle and we ignite that spark inside ourselves we light the shabbos candle and we transform the ambiance and the atmosphere in our home to a state of anode milvado and everything in existence our dining room table and the dips we're going to serve and the halal that was made everything nothing is disconnected from hashem the toy in the middle of the floor we tripped over or the person who acted imperfectly and didn't fall in line the way we wanted and the way we've envisioned everything is connected in everything is connected to the light of hashem and when we hesitate or when we fail we look over at that shabbos candle that burns bright and it reminds us to illuminate it reminds us to break out of the darkness it reminds us to see that light of peace of serenity of faith kizuya this is the goal this is the essence of the candle lighting to light the light of hashem here in this world lazakus lyric when it's dark you can't find the hand of hashem when it's dark you're searching you're seeking what's the reason what's the meaning where did it come from is it for a reason but when it's light the word torah is insider snippets if you've not yet joined you could join our what's app group or catch up online but instead of snippets we're up to avaraba and we just completed the sentence in avaraba the name who opened enlighten our eyes besora the hot air to enlighten to be enlightened people turn on the light the room doesn't change the messiest says the furniture in the room the obstacles in the room the dynamics of the room they don't change where the lights on or off you know what changes when it's dark in the room i trip i stumble i cannot navigate i can't make my way but when i turn on the light i have clarity now i can see and now i can adjust and now i can pivot and now i can navigate my way orazutora says the gemara magilla torah is light it empowers it enables us to be able to navigate and that's the mindfulness that's the intention when we light the candles those who set up the candles those who light the candles those who look at the candles when we make kiddush those who look at the candles when the tension of the shabbos table the temperature starts to turn up too high look at the candles and turn it down and lower it and lower it everything that happens is from him everything that happens is for a reason and when we concede when we forfeit when we surrender when we submit we don't in fact lower ourselves we don't disempower ourselves we empower now we don't have to live with anxiety now we don't have to live with envy now we don't have to live with anger because we see it all comes from above from him the yara and as we look at those candles as we light those candles dwell on savor that moment marinate and stew in that moment of feeling i see the light i feel the light i'm turning on the lights which i am enlightened and have a visceral have a tangible almost feeling a palpable feeling look at the lighter and look at that light and feel the light of hashem coming into the house that all week long maybe in the house we barely spent time with each other and we had technology and we had all kinds of images and all kinds of ideas that came in and maybe we thought maybe we had tension maybe we neglected one another maybe we pursued and chased the wrong things all week long there was darkness dark darkness coming in and now it's shabbos and we turn friday into shabbos we turn out of shabbos and the shabbos when we light those shabbas candles and with it we bring the light which we should merit we should merit the covers we have to sting it on our own next week please god the music will be back the covet shabbos kurdish we should merit to become enlightened jews to turn that light on and to finally see to see his hands in all and with it to bring the peace that we crave until next time stay happy stay healthy and stay holy