Turn Friday Into Erev Shabbos #42 - Darkness to Light, Hate, to Love

[Music] good heir of shabbos everybody i'm getting there shabbos i see this you might be fasting you might be tired you might be hungry you might need your coffee but it's still heir of shabbos [Music] thank you for tuning in today and every arab shabbos as we turn friday into arab shabbos [Music] special thank you to our sponsors manda in typical fishman fredo in memory of rabbi lord jonathan sacks of viacote david arie thank you so much for the fishermen for their sponsorship and for their generosity and they help us turn friday into heir of shabbos is coming siren is coming gotta get ready this week you're excited more excited for shabbos than any other because with shabbos means breaking the fast here comes the siren [Music] it is time to get ready welcome back to turn friday into arab shabbos a good air of shabbos to everyone hope you're having a meaningful and a somewhat easy fast as i alluded to today is a celebrity it's unusual but it does happen the tenth of te base to fall on a friday when the buchanan laid siege to our holy city of yerushalayim it was the beginning of the end the beginning of the destruction of the first base of mikdash the beginning of a calamity represents golosa represents exile represents dispersion it represents hashem withdrawing his countenance from us it represents doubt and uncertainty and it's the result of animosity enmity from our not being able to get along it's from our not being able to behave and properly treat one another and we go from asara bataves into shabbas so today is both simultaneously asarabate vase and heir of shabbos so which supersedes the other it's the only fast that falls on a friday because the politics says regarding assad is and just like with yom kippur when it says on this very day it cannot be advanced and it cannot get delayed it has to be observed punked on that day so to atari betavis has to be observed on that day when it falls on a friday so we're observing it today it's a bizarre and unusual air of shabbos but those will go to the regular minha to hear laning and ahaftorah of a tightness of a fast an arab shabbos while you're dressed in your big day shabbos in your shower's clothing it's kind of bizarre so i might have thought when i saw potatoes falls on friday or ever shabbos is someone muted what are you playing music for what are you doing but the halacha says you shower you shave you can get a haircut you cut your nails yes we're fasting and yes we're grieving and yes we're still commemorating that calamity of so long ago but preparing for shabbos supersedes and therefore it's still turned friday not only asara but preparing for shabbos the excitement and the joy and the enthusiasm of getting ready for shabbos even supersedes the fast in that sense that you can listen to music and that you can shower shave take a haircut and get ready for shabbos all that is number one number two we normally try to encourage and we work on ourselves to be able to count down to shabbos to get excited to long for shabbos we've shared the inside of the aptarov of avon so many times the obvious role that to be a shomer shabbos the word shomer shamara sadavar the whole time you say was missing yaakov was inconsolable he was anticipating he was longing he was counting down to be ashore shabbos is not just to keep shabbos on shabbos it means to spend the whole week looking forward to shabbos and that's what we do our turn friday into arab shabbos is all about and the whatsapp groups that we have are all about trying the entire week to generate and to build an excitement that we don't rest on shabbos to work for the week but we work all week to be able to enjoy and experience a beautiful shabbat so that's true each and every week to long to wait for shabbos most weeks particularly in the winter many people and we have some friends watching from new york whose shabbos is going to begin at any moment most weeks our new york friends say just give me a few more minutes just give me a couple more hours i love shopping i long for shabbos i just need some more time but not this week because assad of batavias is on a friday everyone is looking to turn arab shabbos into shabbos everybody is excited because you can't break the fast until kiddish the fast ends when shabbos begins and so hashem has sort of given us a head start he's helped us and uplifted us hashem has made all of us long for shabbos even more than we normally and usually do i my my good buddy joey newcomb sends me a video on fridays such a unbelievable haley gayd first of all very special happy birthday to him to his mother who gave birth to him and to his daughter who i understand is celebrating a birthday also this week so he shared with me on his little video to me this week a phenomenal insight i loved it he said this week the um transition from asar batavis to to shabbos is really the story of galas to goula asara batavius is commemorating the siege around yerushalayim and it's the result of everything we're reading in the parshios right now all connected to the parsha that when yosef sees his brother benjamin he collapses on his shoulder and the two fall onto one another and they cry and what are they crying for us our rabbis who tells us tells us tell us benjamin's crying because the best that was in his territory will be destroyed and yosef's crying the mishkan in his territory will be destroyed and each of them are crying for the future temple that will not last i mean jews have an amazing way of ruining any good moment you've had a reunion after 22 years of separation 22 years of being apart yosef's never met his brother the only brother from the same mother benjamin and that's what you do you break down crying you gotta faster every sincha you can't have one moment of joy and happiness you gotta point out who's not here and how sad and what will be and we're all going to die so why be happy i mean do we really have to ruin everything why are they crying in that moment so the majesty has a magnificent insight he says you know why they're crying because what they're realizing is yes we're reconciling right now yes we're having a breakthrough all the brothers are together and after 22 years we're coming together as one but it's going to be short-lived because the very same cause namely senescrim the very same baseless hatred the very same animosity and judgment the very same marginalizing the very same fighting the very same attitude that led to yosef's original sale even though we're together again now it's going to lead to the destruction of the basal mitas it's going to lead to the destruction of the mishkan so they're crying because they're saying as they're savoring that moment of unity they're recognizing that tragically it's not going to last as they know prophetically that the animosity will return in the batemiktash and the mishkan are going to be destroyed so today asara betavis we're reflecting on what began it all the siege started because we misbehaved we can't treat one another and any parent says to the children who are not getting along get out of here or i'm getting out of here i don't want to be with you if you can't get along you don't love me if you love me then you get along because if you're mistreating my other children if you're fighting with one another then you can't claim to love me simultaneously you can't love me at the same time so hashem said i'm out of here there's a siege around yerushalayim i'm withdrawing from my base i make dash i'm out of here i'm going somewhere else guys you want to fight with one another you want to hate on one another i'm out of here you're on your own and he booked out and that's what i saw about this we are reflecting on that animosity and so sadly still within the jewish community how can we expect non-jews to treat us well when we can't treat each other well how can we ask them to give us the benefit of the doubt when we can't give each other the benefit of the doubt so certain batavias is a day of gullus it's a deep dark day of exile it is the consequence of what happens when we mistreat one another they lay a siege around us they encircle us they confine us and they force us to be together because we don't know how to get along we don't know how to be together but we're going to go for masarabate vase we're going to go right from the fast into kiddish shabbos is me no shabbas says it's redemption is the taste of what it could all be like we spoke about the notion of unity when it comes to shabbat shabbas is a special time when the mitzvah of shabbos is given it's given to pastures vayakel vayakaus called us israel all the jewish people come together i have something special to tell you come together i have a special treat to give you now the other mitzvos don't have to come together you know one by one he went 10 to 10th and he taught the mitzvos this mitzvah to be together and the answer is yes because shabbos is all about unity shabbos is about togetherness shaman says shabbos is a community that's why it breaks my heart and i hope yours too the notion that this coronavirus this pandemic has forced and caused people to separate a minion in this driveway i mean on that block i mean in this backyard a million in that living room and you know what it's a necessary evil there are people doing it right now they're taking care of their health their safety their well-being they're doing the right thing i have nothing negative to say but we should at least do it with a little episode a little bitterness that it's a hirasha it's temporary it's tragic really we belong together we really belong packing in the house we really belong bringing down the house really really we belong we unified as one together we can't adjust even as we need to do this we need to remain maladjusted to the reality of everybody making shabbos for themselves a minion a driveway backyard or this so that we should we long for the time when it'll be safe and secure we'll all be vaccinated we'll have a hurt immunity we'll be well on our way to being all together to have a sense of unity we have to be unified so joey said the holy rib joey said that this week that this year we're going from galas to gaula asara beta vase into shabbat in habba we're going from asara bataves because brothers can't get along into reading pasha's vayigash about when yehuda and yosef when all the brothers come together and they do get along so this is the transition from goddess to goula from exile to redemption from dark to light from hate to love from fighting to unity this is what it's all about so as exhausted as we are and as bad as our breath may be and as much as i long i'm making kiddush tonight hamotzi and a cup of coffee because that's all i need kiddish if i can make kiddush and coffee i would kiddish cup of coffee that's all i need in order to have a holy shabbos so wishing everybody a holy and a healthy and a happy shabbos we should be zoha we should go from galas to gaula this shabbos and every shabbos and remain in gula to go from a state of exile to a state of redemption everybody stay healthy have a meaningful rest of the fast and a holy shabbos [Music] some light some healing some redemption some love shabbos shabbos [Music] all right friends thanks for coming again as usual here comes the siren time to get ready have a holy and a healthy and a happy a fantastic and a phenomenal and a unified a loving loving shabbos [Music]