Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #39 - The Best Friend of the Soul

[Music] we lost everybody [Music] thank you for being with us again to turn friday into era of shabbos a huge thank you to our dear friends and generous sponsors mandy and super fishman alfredo [Music] and in memory of rabbi lord jonathan texas tv ben david arya that is the siren shabbos is quickly coming so join me as we turn this friday into a hilar shabbos again thank you to the fishman's for sponsoring we've been going through and offering many different explanations but what does it mean to have an yes or what does it mean to have an extra endowed a more beautiful and more expanded a more sensitive a more alert soul that all we glowing our goof our body it craves we indulge it we pamper it we feed it we nourish it and come shabbos that struggle that battle it takes a break for 25 hours the challenges and problems will be there on the other end but for 25 hours we enter an ear mikula we go to a place of refuge for 25 hours we experience some peace and some serenity for 25 hours we're able to truly live before we dive back into it i just want to reiterate what i shared in our what's up group this morning about turn friday into arab shabbos that many or most we read we sing you did nephesh to transition even before we begin kabbalah we sing they look helico the magnificent poem of yadid nephesh nephesh was authored by the author of the save who lived 1533 to the year 1600 he lived in the 16th century as fardi makuba and he so beautifully captures and you did nephesh are longing our craving our our love affair with the almighty with the ribonus shalom to return and to connect to our source such a magnificent magnificent poem every line every stanza is worthy of such analysis we sing it we sing it friday night we sing a chalice shoot us many sing it other times during shabbos and we should understand what it means but i just want to bring to your attention the opening two words because i think about them i try to think about them each and every friday night what are the opening two words you did nephesh the word you did if you talk about my you did my did means my friend you did as a cover you did as a friend or you did as a confidant you did never it's a language we use in the vernacular when we describe someone with whom we feel very close someone we trust and who trusts us we say there may you didn't efficient you did as a friend and what's a nephesh and efficient so what does it mean we begin shabbos the transition from the chaos and the hustle and the bustle from the stress the anxiety of the weak into the peace of mind and the serenity and the sanctity of shabbos that transition begins by singing a song you did nephesh you see my goof my body has a friend and its friends are material things work pampering indulgences accumulating and amassing more and more the the the friend that you did of my goof of my body is sleep a good steak a fine wine that's the you did that's the friend of my body but what is the you didn't fish why did he say why does he begin this beautiful song he says you did nephesh because the yadid the best friend of my soul is the ribbon of shalom we transition from the weekday to shabbos by singing a song and we say hashem you're my best friend my soul is more on fire my soul is more alert my soul has time you know i don't make a great friend because unfortunately i don't have a lot of time and so i'm unable to be proactive and to check in and to reach out and to connect and some of my best friends maybe this is a gender thing for guys more than for women it's a generalization but probably a true one you could not talk to a dear or close friend for a long time and there are you did nefish they're a deer and they're a close friend and when you see them that whole history and that whole familiarity and that whole connection and that whole trust it all comes back and revives in moments it takes moments for someone you haven't spoken to in weeks or months or years to feel yuri did nephesh so some we dive in all week long it's not that we don't have it three times a day it's not that we don't learn hashem's torah all day each day but during the day during the week what can we do we have to work and we have to cook and shop and prepare and during the week we have all kinds of responsibilities and obligations stresses anxieties and worries and therefore our soul it doesn't have time for its good friends but shabbos comes and we begin you did nephesh and you did nephesh begins hashem i've made time for my best friend you helped you helped me make time because i turned off i disconnected i'm not part of technology i'm not distracted and so you did nephesh my father my compassionate father who's also my you did nephesh who's also the best friend of my soul so that nishama yasira that extra that expanded soul that we have on shabbos what it means to have an expanded soul is to have the time and the space to have the bandwidth and the margin to be able to reconnect with our best friend and who is the best friend of the nishamu who's the best friend of the soul if not the ribonus the almighty is the best friend of every one of our souls all week long we barely can carve time all week long we could barely have the mindfulness of the margin shabbos comes it's a different davening it's a different learning it's singing zemiros it's conversation it's the ability to think and to rest and to connect and simply to be and to be together you did nephesh the best friend of my nephesh the best friend of my soul is in fact none other than the ribonus and that's why we transition in that way we begin from the weekday to the shabbos by singing yadidnefish beginning we remind ourselves the body it's best friends we put them away the technology and the work and the stock market and the worry and the news and the put it all away but what do we take out what do we make time for we make a call to the did of our nephesh to our best friend now we have time and now we can be together and now we can enjoy that's what it means maybe in the shera too is that the neshama is yasera it has more time it has more space it can be it can reconnect to what matters and who matters both the people around us and of course as or more importantly the ribonucleon the almighty himself okay let's begin or let's continue rather in the safer we've been learning say for hashabas we've been going through this is the 15th understanding the fifteenth explanation of what it means to have an ashami sera a more or expanded or a greater soul who is the morin of chernobyl the chernobyl i have a dear friend shiragi golden her she was a muchas to the chernobyl rebbe for my wedding he gave me a copy of the orinayam and on the inside cover he wrote exactly the genealogy of how he descends from the great menachem of chernobyl the chernobyl is a time of love certainly but shabbos is also a time of year of awe and the fear not of fear in the negative not ye onish not a fear of punishment but you're as haramas the notion that we're filled with awe you see you can't have awe when all week long you're looking down you're looking down your thumbs are working overdrive and you can't even look up and notice the magnificent world around us who sees the magnificence of nature and of the world and the awesomeness of hashem such an overused and abused word awesome awesome everything's awesome everything's awesome if everything's awesome nothing's awesome the only thing that's awesome or the most awesome is hashem he is truly awesome he truly fills us with awe you look at hashem you look at his world how could he not be filled with awe but you know when you're worried when you're working when you're distracted then you don't even notice he's there and you don't feel any sense of awe shabbos comes and miss batshetta says the chernobyl that's when we filled with the urushiol hello even the ignoramus in the person who doesn't know jewish law who lacks a naamanas who lacks a trustworthiness in general areas of jewish law but we have a principle we have a assumption that no matter how ignorant someone is nobody would lie on shabbos when it comes to shabbos a mashable love the awe the fear the connection the meshami is you're more alive your soul is more alive your soul is more sensitive your soul is more aware your soul is not going to lie in shabbos hashem's kingship his monarchy his divinity is is revealed it is spread out throughout the world by year so the more aware you are of god's dominion the more you are aware of god's of god's kingship the more you feel you recoil with the sense of oh he's everything i'm nothing i'm in awe of him i'm in awe of his world i'm in awe of all that he gives me. and therefore the china says and his voracious what does that mean the word voracious is made up of the letters beratious has in it yare yod resh alef and shabbas shin besof boris has yareshabas why because the beginning of everything the beratious the whole week is to get to shabbos where we're filled with a sense of hera where we have a sense again not fear and not fear of punishment or fear of something going wrong but rather not fear but oh we're filled with awe we have room to realize and to look around to contemplate and to reflect to read and to think and when we do when we have the margin in the space to experience all that it's supposed to leave us transformed when you make abdullah that inshallah leaves us but we are different transformed people what we read what we sang the conversations we had the davening that we experienced the rest all of that brought about a sense of oh wow this is his world it's magnificent it's fabulous it's phenomenal it's marvelous in fact it's awesome it's actually awesome it is a world that's filled with awe and we'll continue next week that's what i'm saying what's basically so we know that where does hashem keep his era so we'll continue with this next week but the idea the fifteenth idea of what in the shema is what does it mean to have a more expanded and more alive and more sensitive soul when it comes to shabbos what it means is that when it comes to shabbos when we've disconnected and cut off now we have the space to think to be and we're filled with awe that's our mission i want to wish everyone stay happy stay healthy stay holy but most of all have an awesome shabbos this is the new greeting this is the proper greeting according to the chernobyl if someone says also shabbos what are you 15 years old what were you born in the 60s what are you talking about the answer is the chernobyl the greeting is have an awesome shabbos a shabbos which is taka filled with tremendous awe wishing everyone a wonderful shabbos [Music] oh [Music] we got a few minutes left the siren is coming we're running out of time have a wonderful shabbos everybody have an awesome shabbos