Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #35 - A Romantic Relationship with Shabbos

good arab shabbos it is great to be together hold on there we go it's time for our arab shabbos party let's go everybody we're going to begin our learning in just a moment first we got to get the air of shabbos mood come on mushroom let me see put your hands in the air [Music] for everybody here we go getting there of shabbos to everybody getting there shabbos thank you for being with us again and this is our last here in hutzler it's air shabbos together before we change the clock which means we need to figure out and coordinate what we're going to do next week so that people wherever they are can still join with us when shabbos is very early so pay attention to the time that we will mention for next week i want to thank dear friends mendy and support fishermen for sponsoring our turn friday interior shabbos series in this course fredo encourage anyone who would like to you can sponsor a particular week by emailing lee at brsonline.orgonline.org let's jump right in first of all i shared in our what's app group this morning the beautiful imrich i'm the vision of who says and to transcend be bigger than your surroundings and go where allah to the land i'll send you says the great israel six days a week we journey six days a week we travel six days a week we conquer el hara tasha are echo where is our promised land the promised land is the helicoshabas the promised last name is when we get to shabbos shabbos is the payoff shabbos is the payday it's not that shabbas we rest so we can work the whole week we work the whole week to get to this to sit at our table to make kiddish to be makadesh to sanctify not only the shabbos to sanctify our lives to disconnect on this shabbos as we are in the home stretch of a very divisive time in this country the shabbos before the election when we ever needed shabbos more we don't need to see articles and pundits and predictions and data and polls disconnect from it all and experience the joy and the happiness the peace the tranquility of shabbos shabbos is shabbos is that promised land that that all week long we have been working it to get to a promised land all week long we have been working to arrive at let's jump back in we have been going through different interpretations of the shaman you say what does it mean that shabbos comes and we have an endowed soul an extra soul we've seen now seven or eight different interpretations it's relative to our eating it's relative to our neshama it's relative to our learning and our capacity to embed and absorb and remember because we're fully focused and we're mindful shabbos we're not distracted and shabbos we're not fragmented it has to do with the nashome is rest shabbos were able to recover rejuvenate rest physically mentally emotionally and spiritually we saw so many interpretations i want to go on to the ninth one and we're learning this beautiful safer together called seifer hashabas and he says the following the medrasraba the madrid to be wealthy and to not have any sadness to not be brought down to not be depressed says the madrid bear what does it mean the brach of hashem is to become wealthy what is the greatest wealth what is the repository of wealth that we can access this week it certainly isn't the stock market so what is that wealth the wealth is shabbos the wealth is shabbos you understand that there are people and peoples all over the world who don't have this wealth who don't have access to the shabbos the peace the tranquility the peace of mind and that there shouldn't be sadness is available there is no sadness there is no mourning there is no grieving on shabbos we know that is and unfortunately in our own community we have available too many of late and the shabbos shabbos comes and it doesn't stop or break or interrupt the veils the way a yanthiv does but shabbos comes and there are no outward expressions or manifestations of mourning when it comes to shabbos because mourning and grieving sadness and despondency are inconsistent they're incompatible with shabbos shabbos is a taste of the world to come shabbos is serenity and peace that doesn't mean that you're not crying up until shabbos and it doesn't mean after abdullah you don't go back to those tears and it doesn't even mean on shabbos that you don't miss our loved ones and that there isn't nostalgia but it means on shabbos we are meant to change our mindset the other the mourner while they observe the private experiences of mourning none of the public manifestations they don't wear their torn shirt and they don't sit at home on a low chair and so on because of the off the toe are they foreign what is this wealth of the osha the incredible wealth the riches that we access the measure said it's shabbos where's the wealth with shabbos it's when we have a more endowed or more awake a more alive or more mindful in the shama when our soul is not being neglected and our soul is not in competition with our body and our soul is not distracted by the earthly pleasures and our soul is on fire our soul is alive we sing songs and we laugh and we tell stories and we have conversations and we exchanged every torah that soul is on fire that is it brings a joy and a happiness that's what it says lawyer the message says what's the riches is shabbos and what's the sadness we no longer have is morning now the morning could mean formal morning a mourner someone has lost one of these seven immediate relatives who's in a state of mourning god forbid somebody who's actually mourning the jewish law is that you do not express that mourning publicly on the helicon the holy shabbas but it also means for us whenever we're mourning your morning whatever the outcome of the election may be and this is an a political shear every friday your morning your team was knocked out of the playoffs your morning and is a good reason to mourn the dip in the stock market this week your morning the fact that it looks like it's about to rain yet again whatever your morning i understand that my daughter's in muncie for shabbos it's snowing there that's why you should move to florida there's a lot to mourn the weather whatever it is you're sad by that's until shabbos and it's after shabbos but shabbos there's no grieving there's no morning there's no sadness shabbos we accept and absorb whatever it is in a context of understanding there's an omnipotent holy one and there's a plan and a meaning and there's order and this is a taste of what the world will come will look like where it all makes sense and it all comes together and we don't have access to the understanding or the explanations here in this world but what we do have access to is to control ourselves to regulate ourselves we can't control the world around us not the stock market not health and wellness although we obviously have to do our part and not the sense of loss in whatever way it comes but we can control how we respond we can control how it makes us feel we can control how we express it and how it manifests itself and that's the gift of shabbos it's a 25 hour place of refuge we immerse ourselves in it we find comfort in that place and the zoar elaborates and the zoar says i won't read it to you in the aramaic for lack of time when shabbos comes and we have a greater awareness of our soul the soul is not being suffocated by the body it's not being silenced by the body but the soul is given life it's able to thrive it has wings to fly when the soul is alive it brings a joy a happiness because when you know everything is for a reason and a purpose when everything comes together and makes sense then one can't help but feel happy you can't help but feel joy you can't help but tap into pleasure and so this eighth act or ninth explanation is that the show may say the meaning the the um explanation of what it means to have an endowed or greater or extra soul is the capacity for joy even the person who has the sad fabulous and upon him all week long even the person who's downtrodden and is struggling who's in crisis even the person who's grieving some challenge in their life all week long has the ability to put on their shabbos pun and pine shabbas nakaba to put on a smile for shabbos i may have shared this in this context or others but i recently saw a study that showed we think that when you're happy you smile but it turns out it's the opposite when you smile you begin to feel happy there are micro muscles in the face and when you smile those muscles are engaged in a way that releases endorphins from the brain it's not that when you're happy you smile it's when you smile you become happy so when you light those candles when you sing that look when you make that kiddush when you put on that that tishbeca whatever does it for you you also put on that smile you make a conscious effort to walk through the home after davening or to turn away after you've lit the shabbos candles and to do so with a smile a big smile that the white of your teeth illuminate the home make it lighter even than the candles because that smile will bring a joy to you and to the other people in the home maybe there was anxiousness and maybe there was anxiety and maybe there was tension maybe there was conflict in the lead-up to shabbos and that's why we have the extra hour wait till next week after we change the clock if you want to see tension and conflict and to god forbid resentment but it all has to dissipate it all has to fall away because the moment we receive and accept shabbos we get that extra in the shama and with that extraneshama is the extra capacity to be able to smile you'll say well what do i have to smile about look at what's going on in my life look what's going on in the world and the answer is you're right that's all there and it'll be there again after shabbos but for these 25 hours there is nothing but shabbos us and hashem us and people around us us and ourselves we and ourselves the ability to tap into it and this is maybe how rashi understands himself which is the origin this concept of having the extra soul the endowed soul maybe that's what rashi means there maybe that's what rashi means that one finds manuka the peace the peace of mind the capacity for joy for happiness the kevin shakul in yemen what does it mean it means when i put my smartphone back on it means when i tap back onto technology it means when i reconnect to the world and i discover that all those ills and problems and challenges are still there i've lost thy of the nephesh i've lost that nisham i've lost that ability to feel joy and pleasure and happiness i've lost that extra strength that extra muscle i've lost that extra courage that extra resolve and that's why it's sad we need to be summoned to rejuvenate us we need the spices that we that we take in to rejuvenate us as part of abdullah to comfort us for the fact that we've lost that extra capacity in this ninth explanation what does it mean to have an extra soul it means to have the extra soulful ability to feel joy you're not ought to be angry on shabbos you're not allowed to be sad on shabbos you're not allowed to talk about sad things on shabbos shabbos is the time it's a taste of the world to come shabbos is a place of happiness our eyes see empirically yes yes when the talmud tells us when our rabbis teach us that hashem gave us shabbos it says hashem says you know i have this secret i have this treasure i have wealth it's hidden in my storehouse i've reserved it for you where is god's storehouse god has it and he reserves it and he keeps it in a storehouse for us that wealth that riches a treasure where is it it means god's storehouses all the way up above it's transcendent foreign the world to come there's no sadness the world to come there's no crisis the world to come there's no lack of understanding there's no doubt there's no uncertainty the world to come this pure knowledge understanding faith reconnection to god almighty understanding he is all good in the world to come upstairs it all makes sense upstairs there's all happiness it's all reconciled so shabbos is a taste of upstairs it's hidden god took it out of his celestial storehouse his treasure he took it out of his safe and he gave it to us for one day a week for 25 hours we get to experience what life is like up there down here but how you see when the soul is extracted from the body and it sends on high when we go upstairs we don't even have the choice the option of said is the alternative of being down because all there is is reconnecting or reattaching to him in this world it's up to us we have to have the courage to regulate our feelings we have to have the will to put the smile on our face and to be able to engage those muscles which will bring with them the endorphins which will bring with them the sense of happiness that's our mission that's what shabbos is put on that shabbos pun and put on that smile put on that joy put on that happiness get a taste of the world to come the problems of the world they'll all be waiting whether they're personal or whether they're collective whether they're global they will all be waiting i promise you sadly but set them aside put them up on a shelf and spend 25 hours where you can't stop smiling no matter what you're going through we have that ability to find something to smile about and even if we can't to smile anyway because that smile will bring us the happiness that we're looking for and the happiness that we deserve stay happy stay healthy stay holy stay tuned to we'll announce starting next week with the clock change how we're going to continue this class at what time so we'll share that then until then have a beautiful and a wonderful and a holy shot give a big smile is everybody