Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #33 - Meeting Hashem and Meeting Ourselves

[Music] foreign [Music] [Applause] [Music] welcome to our era of shabbos party shop is precious arab shabbos bridges party we'll get started with just one moment gotta get in the air of shabbos mood all right a good air of shabbos to everyone welcome back to turn friday into air of shabbos generously sponsored by dear friends mendy and zipporah fishman for high rivka bastille fredo and also this week sponsored for a refuge for rabbi lord sacks yaakov syria of yakov siben liba should have a complete a speedy and a painless reforest thank you so much for your generosity i want to share with you a geshmak really amazing insight i saw just now to turn our friday into arab shop it's great to be together again the weather at least in boca may be rainy and dark outside but the light of shabbos is coming the joy of shabbat is gracious new beginning fresh start you know all the safari say that we only call it shabbos voracious we don't call it shabbos noah those are just partials but boris is not just a parsha british is a shabbos it's shabbos boracious the shabbos of new beginning shabbos of fresh start that's amazing said that like a child in the haider who gets their hamish we're all getting our new hamish tomorrow we're starting from the beginning parish is british safe abracious a new beginning a fresh start a new excitement and a new way to enter shabbos to enter shabbos with excitement with zeal passion enthusiasm to be ready on time to put on our shabbos upon him and to have a smile to get ready and to greet the shabbos in the holiest and the highest way so before the yamantovan when we digressed we were going through multiple different interpretations of what it means to have an ashami isaiah the gemara beta says that when shabbos comes we get an ishamiyasera we're endowed with an expanded a bigger a better a deeper a more intense a more elevated however you want to define it a different kind of quality of neshama what we call a shama yasera and we've shared four or five interpretations already but listen to what he says next we're learning in this beautiful safer safer shabbos we say foreign we already alluded to this earlier in the opinion of the interpretation of the eerie the body all week long has an appetite the body craves food and drink and decadent pleasures indulgences hedonistic experiences all week long the body craves the body as an appetite for these things but then a shama reaches and yearns and stretches for something higher something better animals walk on all four they face the ground human beings i know two they stretch for the heavens it's a unfair battle it's one against one it's one on one neshama versus the guff all week long come shabbos we have a second nishama a backup nishama and therefore the goof has no chance the goof has no fight because the double the shambhats now a two on one is not the same way as it is during the week we eat a lot more on shabbos unfortunately we struggle with our eating quantity quality and longevity and then we pay for it all week try to get rid of it all week but that eating is not just serving a hedonistic pleasure it's not just serving the goof that eating is to honor the shabbos the khabichab is kodesh hanafasha uses the food as fuel to serve the spirit to sing smiros with more energy and fervor to share divrei torah to engage in conversation to connect with the people we love who are all around us the neshamas the nephesh and the shama or the nishama yasera they defeat the goof so the goof still has an appetite it still wants to eat it still does eat but the quality of that eating is categorically the different than it is all week long it's not just about indulging in the three appetizers and the four mains with the 17 side dishes with the four desserts and we're doing that even when we're not impressing guests these days but it's the habit we can't break that we're still cooking that way we that's the royal we in this case we're still cooking in this way and we're still preparing in this way we're still eating in this way and yet the way we consume has to be different because then just wants the torah's hashem then ashama wants to be nourished not with tri-colored gefilte fish and not with the geshemak oily potato cocoa and not with the delicious kishko with the flavor of the challenge the neshama says goof enjoy that but enjoy that so i the neshama can then be nourished with what i eat with what i consume and you know what i consume experiences i consume relationships i consume conversation i consume zemiros so goof be distracted with all that gefilte fisher and kishka and chelanton kegel be distracted goof because either hashama i'm about to go to town all you can eat shmorg for the neshama of zemiros and devraytora and conversation and laughter and fun and board games and even schluff my shlophan shabbas is to is to be able to nourish your daughter now listen carefully this is the amazing dvar torah you ready listening to this i saw this it's kashmak i fell in love the gemara beta when it quotes well how do you know you have an ashamed sarah comes from this week's six days as he worked seventh he rested and the gemara darshan's the kamara learns of the nephesh the shabbos we have in the show me sarah and when shabbos ends we lose it and we say woe unto me of the nephesh so we've discussed previously we won't review it right now when should we say vayina fash not at the outset of shabbos but at the exit from shabbos the the woe unto me for losing the neshama yasera takes place at havdallah not at the beginning of shabbas so we discussed that another time but the gemara alert how do i know i've been ashamed from the word vain of the nephesh listen carefully says the safer says the father of the shlock is why is it at the beginning of shabbos because we're saying is woe unto those who are confused and distracted and who think that shabbos is all about the extra eating the extra drinking the wine the food the schluff vai woe unto them that of the that they lost nephesh the opportunity to have the nishami can you imagine you're more on fire you're more awake you're more intelligent you have the capacity to focus better to remember more to have a deeper relationship and all of a sudden shabbat sends you makeup doll and you say whoa 25 hours i wasted 25 hours i just totally totally didn't take advantage of you come back from that vacation and everybody was supposed to be disconnected from their chaos and their obligations and their tasks and their devices and instead of taking advantage to connect the vacation ends you're flying back and you say oh whoa onto us we wasted that chance that opportunity how he could have been transformed how he could have been enriched how he could have been energized the he oh shivers so that's what the father of the says he says enjoy the goof feed the goof nourish that goof let the goof be satisfied so it's no longer struggling with the neshama so you eat and you shluff and maybe you make a lechaim if you can do so moderately and responsibly and then when the goof is taken care of boom that's when you feed the neshama zumiros divertor relationships fun board games reading learning and if you don't if you think what's my nisham essera as many mistakenly and tragically think and show me it means i can't gain weight on shadows i could eat whatever and however much i want of anything and the shader means i can't gain weight i don't know if you've looked at the jewish people lately but clearly that theory is not correct khalil i'm not speaking hara in this new year about the jewish people we could all use a schtickle diet we could all use a little bit more exercise we could all use the nashome several thing clearly if you look at people on the way out of shabbas and yantif nobody says boy did i not gain one pound because of mine to show me sarah the scale doesn't lie and the scale tells the truth so also this teaching of his father what an amazing teaching what does it mean those who had the opportunity and shabbos to nourish the shama and only nourish the goof of the they lost they wasted nebach the nephesh now listen to this next vadavaram this works now the next generation the himself teaches from the zoar you ready you know what happens at the end of shabbos then the shera climbs and it goes back upstairs for the week until it's ready to come back down again next shabbos where does it go what does that happen what's the conversation when it gets there it says the shla quoting from the zoar when the neshami said this extra opportunity that we had when it goes back upstairs for the week hashem says new how was your shabbos and then show me sarah doesn't answer you wouldn't believe the 14 side dishes you're not going to believe the 16 desserts you're not going to believe the crumbs with the challah with the chocolate in the challah and the khala really was a babka not a dessert and boy was it impressive then doesn't report any of that when the nashami sarah goes back upstairs after abdullah says the zoar you know what it's asked by khaled barachu nu what was the torah what was the relationship what was the in your conversation what was the news what was the what did it do for you for the whole week we have this opportunity yes we had the opportunity don't waste it don't squander it take advantage of it distract the god feed the goof and then let the shama go to town eat to its hearts content let the neshama be so well fed that when it gets upstairs tomorrow night because who says new what did you enjoy and i'll say oh listen to this listen to this conversation listen to this amazing walk i went on with my children listen to the board again listen to the laughs listen to what the neshama was able to imbibe what the neshama was able to absorb how the neshami is able to be nourished is that not of the nephesh don't say whoa of the you wasted the nephesh then will be asked and we have to spend the next 25 hours preparing our answer making sure that we have a response when the nishami syria goes back upstairs and that's why mote shabab is what we have to do in abdullah this in the shamies we're going back to the one-on-one fight we've lost our backup we've lost our tag team we've lost the two on one advantage the rest of the week come out say shabbas come abdullah we're back to the one-on-one fight so what do we have to do to comfort ourselves we imbibe the basamine we smell the basamine that's why you don't do basam in abdallah and motzi yantif only motse shabbas because only matsai shabbat is to even share which is leaving and we comfort ourselves with basam and why besam also this week's passion gracious hashem give us through the nose then came in through the nose the aroma the spirit the spirituality of aroma that's how we got on the shama to begin with and that's how we're comforted by the extraction of the nishama yasera and so mr shem we should all spend our next 25 hours shabba is boracious it's not just partials gracious it's shabb is gracious we're going to bless the new month a very special month but it's going to be a beautiful beautiful shop it's a beautiful a beautiful month we should all spend 25 hours enjoy the goof but really feed the neshama don't just feed the body in its appetites feed the soul and its appetites so when the extended soul goes back upstairs for the weak it has a proper answer to give a koshborgh until then stay happy stay healthy and stay holy foreign [Music] is