Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #154 - If You Want Shalom, Practice Shalom

[Music] want to wish everyone it should be for cl the good AR of shabas not a Friday we're turning Friday into AR of [Music] shabas as we're ding for and thinking about our soldiers our brothers and sisters in Israel it's all that's on our minds and in our hearts we're heading into chabas where we can't follow the news or find out what's going on but we enter this place of chabas the M the source of all braa we'll be daving and thinking about the soldiers and those who can't experience chabas as fully as we can we'll be Ding and learning and growing not only for ourselves but for them as well and I want to really share that thought with you on this turn Friday into a of shabas everything that we're doing is in the and the Merit of our brothers and sisters of their safety of their strength of their comfort of the release of the captives not two but every single one of them to be brought home healthy and safe secure and whole and as we're heading into shabas we're turning our Friday into AR shabas we're heading into the M once again I urge you and encourage you to take shabas in early it's brought down by so many schoa special inion to bring the light of chabas the Mak the source of all blessing the source of peace and serenity even earlier don't wait till that last moment don't be rushing and let shabas let chabas find you waiting for her not her waiting for you and that in itself is a great Merit so plan your day accordingly get ready work backwards but don't be running or rushing into shabas be walking steadily bring it in early be M to shabas heading out to shabas but my thought is this what do we all want what do we all ding for what do we all wish we want shom we want peace in fact tonight the daving on Friday night is we change the end of the BR we ask Hashem to spread out his canopy of Peace holiday of suus is over but every single Friday night we ding for that canopy of Peace a permanent piece a real piece a lasting pece a genuine peace shabas we greet each other Shabbat Shalom shabas is all about Shalom lighting the candles is a time that's M it is a time in which hasem is more open to our FAS which we D in for Peace So if we want peace in this world we want Hashem to shower us with peace we need to demonstrate and exhibit the peace ourselves and maybe one of the ways we turn our Friday into Arab shabas and we turn our chabas into that place of peace is that commitment to have peace the schl kadash says is a special inion never to get angry on a of chabas we've studied in the past shabas don't let any fire burn in any of your Dwelling Places on chabas no fire doesn't mean a fire in the home of course you can't ignite a new fire you can't light a fire on chabas we are we are Rabin Jews We Trust kazal we're not kites we're allowed to benefit from a pre-existing fire from before chabas says it means the fire that burns in your belly rage anger impatience frustration getting ready for shabas and going into shabas don't raise your voice don't yell don't grow impatient AR shabas can be one of the most hectic days of the week we're all running and doing and getting ready and each person is supposed to pull their weight and do their part and often they don't and then we get frustrated and children aren't cooperating or behaving spouses husbands aren't on time didn't get done what they said they would others can be neglectful but don't raise your voice shabas of the tiny little gestures but meaningful and who knows of gamechanging that we can offer is to be committed to peace Shalom don't raise your voice don't let the fire burn don't get angry don't indulge rage on a of chabas and on shabas itself don't let conversations at the table don't let people helping or not helping or sleeping in or getting up or coming on time or meeting your expectations or falling short don't let them frustrate you in a way that there is no Shalom we need Shalom that's what we need desperately Shalom and maybe if the day of Shalom which is shabas the ultimate day of peace if we lean in and tap and practice and demonstrate the Shalom on the day of Shalom then in that he'll bring Shalom he'll bring Shalom to the whole world explains why Shalom shabas is connected to Shalom why is chabas connected with that sense of Peace says because shabas is all about B nullifying ourselves shabas is surrender six days a week six days a week we go try to conquer that world we manipulate and control nature we learn and we grow and we are in charge but comes the seventh day and we are at peace with nature we let go we hasem come that seventh day and we rest and where do real rest come from stopping to struggle and wrestle who's in charge who's in control the moment we're able to practice B we can mle ourselves we can nullify ourselves when we can surrender to Hashem we're not wrestling who's in charge who in control not only can we be at peace with the spouse and children and the people around us we're at peace with nature we're at peace with Hashem which the day of amuna each of the meals these are the meals of amuna we're able to tap into the day of amuna where does this where does this peace come from we at peace with others we're at peace with AEM we're at peace with ourselves we're practicing Shalom through b when there's ego in the way when there's arrogance in the way then there's division then there's perod then there's M then there's cast then there's anger then there's a fire that's burning and it rages when a fire consumes it doesn't distinguish between what stands in its way it destroys everything don't let there be a fire practice that b we have to practice there's a Unity of our community how many of us were inspired last week for the most beautiful davening not a davening that was labic and that was and that was neglectful of what's going on in the world but a davening that was uplifting and inspiring in which we were davening and singing not only for ourselves but our brothers and sisters in Israel and those in the front lines who couldn't be in their regular shs shabas is that time of of shom and that there is no period there's no division there's nothing missing there's no when is it that you're lacking when your ego gets in the way and when you want but when you realize everything Hashem does he's in charge he's in control I surrender to him then we can be made and then we feel like we are full that is Theos shabas that is the light of chabas that's the light that We crave that's the light that we want but we have to be that vessel to receive that light and that vessel is Shalom an a of chabas being committed to peace and on chabas living with you get an alyah you didn't get an Aliyah someone sat in your seat they didn't sit in your seat the meal the coners ation the frustration the kiddish all the things that normally those small insignificant all those little things that can get under our skin not now they simply don't matter we have to lean into this day that is M and we have to prepare for it by turning Friday into Arab shabus with a commitment to shalom shalom bias light those candles Friday night and offer an extra not only for the Shalom bias within our home of theas with when you D tonight K spread out a canopy of Peace don't raise your voice don't get frustrated let it all go don't get angry and that's in that Merit of that commitment and of practicing that extra level of shalom in our homes between us a Harmony in our marriage a Harmony in our parenting a Harmony in our friendships if we can have greater Harmony among ourselves then this day Mah should bring the bra of Harmony for clel with her neighbors should hear only B yes should be a peaceful a safe a secure a shabas that brings only [Music] [Applause] great