Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #123 - Long Winter Motzei Shabbos

foreign is coming it's a short Friday and here comes the holy Arab Shabbos Morgenstern has been alerting us and focusing us on the power of mozai Shabbos arguably mozai Shabbos is neglected we talk all about Friday air of Shabbos how do we transform how do we turn Friday it's not just Friday it's not just another day of the week it's air of Shabbos from the table being said to the music that we play to the schedule and timetable that we keep to the fact that our entire orientation is around what we need to do that's siren that time of candle lighting it's not Friday it's Eric Shabbos we're lighting the candles we're lighting up our life we're getting rid of any anger resentment bitterness shame guilt of the weak we're checking we're godav we're checking our begud of our clothing and our bogdav our rebelliousness all of the activity all the preparation everything that goes into air of Shabbos but don't forget cesaravitra mote Shabbos Arab Shabbos doesn't begin on Friday it doesn't begin on Wednesday with Shabbos Begins the mozai Shabbos before and the reason this is particularly relevant for us to learn about right now is we're in the winter months and it's short days it's short days in Florida a little less short than New York and elsewhere but it's short days which means that in these months we have a much longer mote Shabbos and a shorter air of Shabbos Arab Shabbos you have to be more ready than ever more on schedule and discipline than ever because Chavez comes at you from nowhere it's a short Friday but it also means that when you make Abdullah and mote Shabbos there's a long mode in the wit in the summertime when shabba's day is incredibly long and mozay Shabbos is short you make Abdullah and it's almost ready to go to bed there's so little mote Shabbos what is the avoda the activity how do you fit it into the mote Shabbos this summer but these winter months in these winter months where we find ourselves now winter it's a long monster Shabbos so what's our attitude what's our Voda how on Shabbos are we already preparing thinking is not preparing for in the way but positioning ourselves to be able to extend that light into Moze Shabbos and in order to transform mozai Shabbos from being mozai Shabbos to turn the mote Shabbos into air of Shabbos so right that's why we don't have an Abrupt transition we don't make havdala and punkt we're done some do and it's sad you don't get out of your shabba's clothing right away and put on wakadika clothing you don't transform and turn on devices and it's all over and behind us there are rituals and there are practices there are behaviors there are men again there's a massage we hold on to that light we bring it and we take it with us their power is potent to be able to ignite in our heart the light of Shabbos that passed it shouldn't be lost should enter into US it should be part of us we should carry it with us if you think about it think about it as a family simply you don't want the simcha to end so you linger often the family they linger at the Sim call they're the last to leave they don't want it to be over they don't want to go you go on a vacation and you don't want the vacation to end you dread the end of it and returning so what do you do you start planning the next one the end of the vacation maybe on the flight home you start thinking about when's our next break when is the next vacation where do we go what do we do how do we get the most out of it what do we learn from this one to prepare us for the best next one even before we print our album even before we send the pictures we're thinking about how wonderful this was how can we take from it the conversations the experiences the serenity the calm that we experienced and how do we prepare for the next one Shabbos is that Weekly vacation that Weekly place of Refuge it's the weekly place that we immerse ourselves in and while we're exiting as we begin to sense that we're coming out we're already planning for our next episode with this additional and extra layer level of a soul how do we capture it how do we bottle it how do we hold on to it how do we extend it just a little bit longer we've talked about many many times to light candles from the havdala candle we lit candles to start Shabbos Shabbos candles we light a candle to end Chavez the havdala candle but we don't want those bookends of light to go out so we take the Abdullah candle and we light a couple more candles Shabbos candles the mote Shabbos candles they burn they burn on the dining room table even and sometimes you go to sleep about the showers they're still burning that light is still burning as we fall asleep and we leave mozai Shabbos into your into Sunday to wake up Sunday morning and you see those candles they're burnt out now they're they're extinguished but we carried chavezan a little bit longer just a little bit longer I personally have adopted a minute I'm proud a Kabbalah that I made in her I've been able to keep up with is to not turn on any device till after havdella some people they look oh oh Shabbos is over oh they grabbed the phone and turn it on they come at a marev first I need to do grab that phone turn it on what's the rush what are we waiting for sometimes the person it's important a person's on call could be an emergency but regularly regularly what are you waiting for that can't wait a little bit longer you're such a rush to end Chavez you can't wait for the weekday the to-do list the tasks can't wait to see the news flashes what's so important I can't wait a little make havdala linger and have Della sing the songs this is miros that go with Abdullah just view the family that lasts a little bit longer escorts us out of Shabbos a little bit more linger in Shabbos linger hold on to be able to hold on to that light the spiritual light you know you feel the challenge that's inside you mozay Shabbos you go wake up Sunday morning strickle into jit not me my wife's chance incredible people wake up by stickle indigestion they still feel the challenge on Sunday Monday so the gashmias of overeating of Shabbos the gashmas of the Challen and the kiggle that you should continue to taste until Sunday Monday is the spirituality the Holiness that you don't taste anymore that's over that taste is no longer lingering in your mouth has an avoda it's not much of Shabbos you don't run to the weekday activity you don't run to the Parlor meetings and they even the other subunit mother daughter learning and the wonderful things linger Abdullah linger like candles linger don't return to technology linger continue to wear the shabba's clothing continue to draw that light of the one Shabbos and to treat moteshab is not only as the Moz say the end of one Shabbos but as the air of the beginning of the countdown the beginning of the excitement the beginning of the preparation already for the next Shabbos that some remnant some part of the neshaminyasera remains and lingers for the rest of the week um you won't get depressed or said it's mozay Shabbos it's all over I can't believe it's behind us I have to go back to work I have to go back to school no if you draw from it and you continue the light and you hold on to the nishami Sarah then you'll be able to continue to experience and bask in the glory of Shabbos even excitement and a drive and you're already planning you're planning the next Shabbos who are we having next jobs what are we cooking next job is what songs are we singing next Shabbos how should we set the table next jobs what should the seating be next jobs we're already thinking about Nexus Shabbos not the work the burden the excitement The Joy says that our life revolves around that we are connected and attached to him even when we turn into mozai Shabbos which is a hiddenness from him but the light of Shabbos is still Illuminating and allows us to see and to feel that connection with him that is the avodha that's the work so in these winter months when we have a longer Moze Shabbos let's use them let's linger let's bask let's enjoy and now we're going to delving into that beginning next week we'll talk about quick and kids and where are you coming on the table everyone's on there put it away we're making Abdullah already towards the end of Abdullah they're already walking into the other room to change to go to go to the next to experience to sing to enjoy to savor havdala what a powerful moment of the week for family to Rally around the sense of Abdullah so we'll start next week about how proper Abdullah to turn and to live and to lean into havdala and we'll talk more about malava malka and moza Shabbos because and this is you can't talk about the next shabba's Air of Shabbos it begins on Moto shabs how do we grow if not master mozai Shabbos to really carry us into a better form of the next Arab shams foreign holy a beautiful fantastic and amazing and amazing Shabbos