Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #113 - Shabbos of Return

good nerve Shabbos everybody it's time to turn Friday into our shop is the first Shabbos of the year what a special Shabbos I want to thank our generous sponsors for turn Friday to Arab Shabbos amending for a Fishman our dear friends Arya there comes that siren Shamus Fridays are getting shorter and shorter you got to get ready earlier and earlier but what could be better and welcoming the hey look at the holy Shabbos on the first Shabbos of the year here we go let's turn Friday into Arab Shabbos so this Shabbos is no ordinary shop this Shabbos is what is known as Shabbos shuva because of the half tour that we're going to read we're going to read this is the Shabbos of returning to Hashem and it occurred to me I was thinking you know every year during a series I look forward to shabashu but not only for the big drusha that I have the privilege of being able to give but I look forward because all week long I seriously made chuba we're struggling we're pushing we're waking up early slichos we radically change our schedule we get less sleep even than usual the Havanese extended is longer we're saying avinu but then Shabbos comes and Shabbos you get to sleep in a little bit there is no Sleepless in the morning there is so what happened don't we need it for all 10 days aren't we getting ready for Yom Kippur only trying to prove our worthiness why is it I think the answer is very simple the answer is you don't need these things on Shabbos because Shabbos is an altogether different dimension shamas were transported into an altogether different place Shabbos achieves for chuva well we need silicos and avina Makino during the week four because the whole idea of chuva is to say I'm a different person I'm not the same I'm becoming a different person I'm committed to growing into a different person a better person but Shabbos comes and Penny Shabbos and the cobbler we put in our Shabbos punim and we are different people so all the time Shabbos is an opportunity for chuva Shabbos is an opportunity the mauritian was expelled from Ghanaian and Arab Shabbos and God gave him Shabbos in order to rebuild and regroup and redefine and come back and for all of us after every week a week in which there can be mistakes a week in which there can be shortcomings a weekend which there can be miscalculations and Shabbos comes we regroup we regather we reset Shabbos comes we forgive others we forgive ourselves we go into Shabbos letting go we go into Shabbos letting God we go into Shabbos fully embracing this opportunity to put in our Shabbos pun and Penny Shabbos in the Kabul to be different people to be the Shabbos version of ourselves the better version of ourselves the nashama yesera version of ourselves who needs these other trappings of encouraging and pushing and promoting chuva when Shabbos itself is the ultimate springboarder platform for doing rights Shabbos is called Shabbos is so intrinsically connected to chuva Shiva comes from seeing a better version of ourselves aspiring and growing and elevating and reaching and that's exactly what Shabbos is really all about this whole time period we're trying to be mom like Hashem but you know what is yes so if this ten days were being Mama Hashem we're still coronating the king we are submitting and surrendering to the king we're recognizing the Dominion the Providence of of the king so that's what Shabbos is we Rejoice all week long I confuse your kingdom all week long I think I'm in my kingdom all week long I'm confused by what I watch and read and see and listen to by the Chase and that by the pursuit Chavez comes and I rest Shabbos comes and I have peace and peace of mind and serenity and Shabbos I'm in your kingdom and you know what happens when we submit and surrender when we enter your kingdom Hashem we let go and let God when we stop trying to control or predict everything then yes we feel a joy we feel the happiness the serenity the Peace of Mind the yes of being in your place it's not a coincidence that Hashem tells us Shabbos is the same letters as Shafta last week's pasta the shaft includes to go back and to return until we are to Hashem the shaft is Shabbos when do we go back on Shabbos we can think and we have space and we have margin and we can sing and we can learn and we can laugh and we can read its own Shabbos that the Shafta that we go back that we restore that we return to Our Roots that we reset on Shabbos Shabbos is also the letters of boshas means shame the core of the prerequisite to growth to personal transformation is to feel a healthy sense of Shame not the debilitating paralyzing shame but a shame that I'm better than that I could do better than that I am ashamed at what I did or how I behaved or what I thought and when we come into Shabbos with that sense of shame that sense of boscius we're able to to lift up and to elevate Bush and Shabbos bushes and Shabbos they go together why because what is the core of chuva his spotless Bittle Bittle of the yish there's no sense of I me my my wants my need my control I Let Go a Bittle I'm Avatar Mahesh I nullify I relinquish my sense of self understood the gemara this way the gemara says if a person dies a nerves Shabbos it's a good sign it's a good omen now we don't want to die we don't glorify death we don't ever want to die but a person who dies on air of Shabbos Shabbos means if we nullify if we kill our ego or ID our sense of self maze doesn't mean I literally death on Arab Shabbos means our sense of self our ego so you know air of Shabbos is a time that many people experience the opposite as a power struggle there's a fight children our spouse the world didn't behave the way we want you didn't clean up you didn't get ready you didn't put that away you didn't set that up you didn't shower you didn't change we get frustrated and we are vulnerable and susceptible to anger and to Ego but aeroshaba specifically is a time that we have to do the opposite not that we express our ego and the world the way that we want and we try to impose ourselves or Express power over others or God forbid indulge the ego and get angry it's the opposite we nullify and we submit and we surrender and we relinquish that ego it's bit of the yish we nullify that sense of me of my eye I'm entering Shabbos I'm entering a Zone where there is no me there's Hashem I'm mentoring of his space so you know what I can encourage you I can push and I can even reprimand and criticize let's say children who were supposed to do something who didn't but I do it from a place of calm and serenity I do it not from a place of anger and ego I do it from a place of encouragement and enrichment not from a place of feeding any sense of yish any sense of ani any sense of I so Shabbos and bosha same letters visafta and Shabbos Shabbos is the first Shabbos of the year it's misugo this Shabbos oh everything follows the beginning we got to get this first Shabbos of the year off to a positive start we're going to start the year with a bang and start the year with momentum and start the year we're exhausted we're tired sleekos and Dominic and chuva it is all exhausting but we can't do too exhausted to start the year and to get the momentum going with an elevated Shabbos to come early you know there's a tradition it's brought down by many tsadiqam there are seven days between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur seven days of the number of the week and it means that what we do and how we behave on each day of the week in between rosh hashan and Yom Kippur we could be masaki we could repair and correct that corresponding day of the week the whole previous year heir of Shabbos that means normally on Friday we ran late and normally in shamas we ran into 18 minutes and normally on Shabbos we came late to Schuler lit candles late normally on Chavez our table wasn't set earlier we didn't come prepared with the devartora we can repair it we can correct it we can set the momentum for this coming year because this is the first Shabba Shabbos this is it so friends let's turn Friday into Arab Shabbos let's get this year started with the bang Shabbos boshas vishafta let's turn back the clock let's reset let's put on our Shabbos Panama let's get ready early and let's make the most of this era of Shabbos turn Friday into Arab Shabbos in a way which will repair anytime we did the previous year and in a way which we'll get us started for the coming year have a holy Shabbos shop [Music] again Shabbos to get married the best of everything stay well everyone have a happy healthy and a holy Shabbos