Yom Kippur: Everything You Need About Kol Nidreh - Halachot

Welcome to our anytime viewers we are giving a halach shear which we will avoid over details but I feel is a very important subject it's something that we go through every Russian Yom Kippur and it's something that we go through as we call the techies we go through the ceremony of doing it we don't always understand what it's all about and this is the hatarat nadarim that we do before Rosh Hashanah acquainted even before Yom Kippur we do it and coming soon also called nidre called nidre is also the same phenomenon as the idea of and therefore we decided that it's kadai to go through a little bit of the system just to get an understanding of what this is all about this is a very big subject I'm going to try to keep it as Transit as possible as as concentrated as possible in order to avoid this we all know there's a minute before we shashada and like I said acquainted also before Yom Kippur to go ahead and do a atarama darim we do it by going ahead according to Ashkenazi and they take three people and do a round robin according to the swardim everybody gets together they stand up in front of 10 people abedin and they do that this minig is brought in the resho name a lot of this is in the gemara in the many of the things that we will be discussing today but this minute is brought in the matter foreign there's an idea of going ahead and doing that is the idea so I just wanted to get us to have an understanding of what it's all about the reason for doing it is because why of all the 613 why they pick on the Darin because a very serious issue if a person has a nether during the year it can actually be very uh it's an all of an incident right if you're over it and it can cause a lot of problems before you come we're looking for a full and we're trying to get a complete capara so if you're having a dorm on your head and you're not taking care of them so it could be active YouTube it can cause you a lot of NASA consumers So based on that there's a minute like we said to go ahead and make the satara to go ahead and make sure to take care of them in order not to do it okay that's a b it's important to understand what you're saying if when you're saying it you're just saying as we said you're just reading the paper a lot of people think it's some kind of davening some type of tech is some type of thing that you're just supposed to read so it does not work it's absolutely meaningless you might you might as well have not done it Kevin because it's not useful so I just need to give you a little bit of background to understand that this is not just a trila it's not just I'm including also called nidrae and also uh that we do before it's not just it's real it's something that needs to be uh to be understood in order to be able to be taken care of that's that's it now in terms of what it does there are basically two ideas of what the how a person is Mater nether okay how a person is matter nether these are basic khalim and you should know to know these base claims if a person wants to be the person sitting to permit a person's Netter you have to know the basics over here if you know nothing it's a problem a person who's a complete MRI it's most of the place can say it's no good the evidence he wanted to say even the yeshivable they don't know anything about him how are they able to do it he says you know what that's why we learned my second nadarim in the yeshivas we live inside of the dorm so they won't be absolute amaratus so they'll know something in that way they could do a tar in the dark maybe even a minimal one at least they'll be able to do something so we see that a person has to know somewhat of the basics if you know zero to go ahead and say with the 10 people by this faradim to go out and sit with the 10 people it's not so simple so basically in order to matter in the dorm there's basically two directions that's brought in the gemara one is what we call one is a petta means that I just feel bad about what I did a person made an impulsive nether he swore I promise I'm not gonna do it I'm not gonna ever talk to you again I don't want to be in the same house as you I don't want to be in this area a guy promised that I'm telling you it's true if not I'm never gonna eat any meat again he makes some type of impulsive type of uh impulsive type of Promise which we might be also familiar with and by making a type of nether like that which is out of impulsivity yes later on he says I really did not mean it I had no intention to make a promise it came out of absolute lack of thinking it was just being too quick I didn't I wasn't intelligent about it and therefore that's called some people all the time that we do before is a remorse a regret the more classic way of doing a targeted arm is what we call a Peta means that you find an opening literally means an opening you find some type of problem with the Netter that you did something came up as they say something I didn't know about means makes it that I didn't realize that I'm doing something wrong I didn't realize that what I'm doing is uh that this would lead to something else and therefore that's called a petta that's a type of way of monitoring a nether in a way that I just find something that I didn't know about in the first place for instance a person who says that I'm not going to eat meat I'm not going to eat meat any forget oh and Shabbat of course there's the Mitzvah if there's a mits to go ahead of him and and eat some type of meat or a person eats uh forgets vegetables he makes or against vegetables and he forgets that there's this that uh that he's only able to eat vegetables you find some type of Penta there's a reason why he didn't do it over there brings a number of different and even one of them is even if a person is over the nether he already passed over he already made a mistake and he was over the nether he goes to the rabbi and the rabbi will tell him did you realize that you're gonna be over the nether would you have done it never I would have never done such thing so that is called a that's called to go ahead and say I'm not interested in this um in doing and doing the sister or if you make someone else us or you a person users a spouse for some reason or the other and they are over the Issa so I would have never thought that that would have been over such an idea there's many details to the Pentagon I really cannot go into uh most of them but the bottom line of most of it is I wouldn't have realized that it would get into it the classic way is that maybe you're being over an isser but in a circle a light is her did you know that you would be over the answer of Shabbat not enjoying Shabbat did you know you'd be over this by going in and answering him forever and I never want to talk to him I hate my brother I'm never going to do it you make somebody do you realize you're being over on rebelliousness on hating on these types to be served that's a good pet off that's a petrol there says if it's something that's a very serious issue that's not a good pet talk if a person says did you realize that you're being Kofi on you're going against him that's not a good enough Peta because the person will lie he'll be deceitful it has to be a real pet dog the person can't just say yeah yeah I feel bad oh I would have done it has to be an Emma sticker so you have to make sure that it's a real pep talk before he does it a very important factor when we're discussing is to know that if a person has harata then we karabata Mitzvah a person made a classically a Mitzvah and he was he said I'm going to do a mitzvah for now on I'm going to go ahead and do it so if he wants to make a petta to do it the way to do the petta is not to say I feel bad that I took this on no you don't do that because then you lose all the credit of the Mitzvah here you are sitting and learning for two years and then you can have harata that you did the Mitzvah in the first place says enough man that your toilet about what he did in the beginning so that's a problem rather the karata that a person has rather the Pathak that he does is they never meant to take it on as a nether I never meant to do it as a nether that came as a mistake as we're going to explain soon and since I make the nether by mistake I didn't want it to be an editor that's your pet after the pet office I didn't mean as an error but I still want all the Mitzvah that he did until now I just wish I did it without the nether that was behind it and that lemafreya in retrospect uh uproots the Nether and therefore it works to be able to get rid of it if a person who Elena was sick and he makes a nether that he will never eat a certain thing but then he gets better let's say cigarettes a person has a lung cancer and then it finds out that he's really okay it was a mistake and of course we don't recommend cigarettes and it's a mistake of the guy realize oh the cigarettes never really did it had nothing to do that wasn't even long so it was something else it was a complete thing so then a person could be oiker the neder now simply speaking obviously such another we wouldn't want to do but just such an example would make sense of opening with the Peta I'll mention one quick when we're discussing it's a point of confusion a little bit so I'm not going to get into over detail but there's an idea of impotrin benolat there's idea of vanilla Nolan means something new that abrupted later meaning at the time of the nether this was not existent and it only happened later that's not not a good Peta it's important to know this because many times people made a nether or they did something like we'll see many in the dorm that we do and we just sit down three people then you have to know it's not always good if he says which is something that came Anew is not good I'll tell you what the Kimora brings as an example the father-in-law of rabi Akiva the popular Arabian kibo and he married Russell as we all know kabulous the incredible rich man assert and he made a nether that you will never be able to enjoy my money I will not get let you enjoy my money that's what he said to his daughter but afterwards when he found out that Arabia Kiva was a Tamil he said wow no way he was upset because she's marrying someone if I knew that he would be a Tamil so then I would I would have never made such a Nether and that was a petta to relinquish the Nether and it became permitted the question is it's an island that only happened afterwards at the time rebukiva was Akiva he was only a simple Shepherd only later he became so how is that permitted so the Kumar answer is that when a person goes to the midrash that he becomes if a person goes to learn 24 years I don't know if you can become a Rebecca but don't get your hopes up but at least a person will become a proper time from such a event and therefore and therefore that's okay so something that happened afterwards some new occurrence occurred is not a good Pentagon had to be that it was around at the time I just didn't realize that it existed such as like I said before person yeah if you didn't realize that the Shabbat is on the Derek but if something afterwards he he uh he asked her to go I'm never going to walk into your house again and then later a year later the person turned the house into a between trash or it became a very special place or some reason that a person would want to go there that could be that's no limit unless it's unless it's something that's founded I don't want to have any enough from this person and then two days later he dropped dead and left you yerusha left the person in yerusha of a million dollars oh please Rabbi you gotta find me a header for this nether I gotta find a hunter for such a nether so that that dropping that is actually could be norlit unless you say Mita is something commonplace so the it's actually written that Mita is not something that's commonplace unless the person was sick unless something is some type of direction that it look like he wasn't in a good position that might be considered but each one has its own specific scenarios that's the cloud that has to do with uh being material now most people will tell me when I ever do another come on Rabbi it doesn't happen very often that I go ahead and do a nether so what's the big deal what's the big deal about doing a tire in the dime I don't know the last time I said I'm not there at this now I'll tell you a few things first of all if a person says I promise I'm never going to do that that is the status of another more or less in English why is English any less than in Hebrew just because you didn't use the word nedder that itself can do that unfortunately people saying they say you're even more I swear to you that it's true or something like that a person says if you have a little bit of a falsity when you say I swear that it's true you should know could be you were over an answer of an editor or even a sure now usually a shavua which is swearing has to come with the name of so maybe swerm would go into the category of a nether that's a little bit of a rocket that's not for now that's one scenario which definitely fortunately comes up and at least the lesson we should learn one thing from this year is stop saying I promise stop saying I swear even as a young child when I was quasi you know I wasn't the firmest kid in the world exactly for what it was for what it was worth but at one time I got it in from one of my relatives but we never say I promise and it's in my system as you know it's Mommy to my sister I never say the word I promise I don't promise that and I hope it's not something I should never do it but I don't make a Netter that I don't do that say believe another but in the same counter I tell you that uh I've been extremely meticulous not to do it there's no reason it's all a matter of habits okay it's all a matter of a person in this habits get out of the I swear system get out of the promise system if you're a believable person if people trust you then you don't have to say I promise trust me don't have to do it if a person knows they can trust if a person that no one ever trusts then you're right then you're a little bit stuck anyways so that's the that's a that's the first scenario the second nether which is a second place which is very relevant extremely relevant and people don't realize this is what we call nidre not so simple even to allow a header to such a nether we don't run to matter such an editor how does a person do another Mitzvah in a couple of ways or he says and he doesn't use the word nether with the midst of the Guard says clearly just by the fact that I say I'll go be Hashanah parag say I'm going to go learn a Perkin in uh in the talmud I'm gonna go learn a gemara I'm gonna go learn a gemara and listen to this a person says that's it we're starting a new cycle I'm starting dafiomi a person goes ahead and says I'm starting to feel me say immediately talking of course I'm sure you'll keep to it I can't imagine when you yeah okay aravan might be a little bit of a thing but a lot of times people falter in the into the Wayside and they want to switch gears and if you don't say blue nether you're getting yourself into a question of a nidrate Mitzvah in which case you need a Target and if you know about it I wouldn't even rely on the Netherland that we do here Rosh Hashanah but you should know just saying such a thing is a trooper where someone said someone made a commitment he said I'm going to learn nephew I mean then he decided to switch to over there right it's considered a proper Nano just you know talking to he says it brings a lot of ayat that the main limo it is to learn which of course is true together with the gabbar every person has to learn hey in many other places the importance of learning and therefore he says if a person switches gears to so he's actually a bit more Mako that it's not you don't have to be matter neither other people would disagree such thing but okay at least we see that a person has to be careful when he does this that's a and even more than that let's say you do an action which happened three times three times you did a Mitzvah three consistent times such as let's say you didn't say I'm going to go learn that filmi you learned three days of daviomi or you went to a Seder three times or you learned with someone or you committed yourself to doing some type or you commit yourself to a special Mitzvah of going to uh old age home once a week or going to do big or column incredible fantastic things to do say blinger make sure that you save linear you have to make sure to do it when you have some type of direct debit that you're constantly giving Zucker it could be that's called an address at the time that you do it you should make sure to say and enunciate that it's blinded I'm doing bleeding and I'm doing it for this amount of time and then this Savannah time and then we'll see sometimes it's not necessarily good I know it's annoying to the stalker people but to do it forever unless you point out bolinao but it could get into a thing the Kumar over there says right in the beginning it's not so simple to be Mata a nitrate stuck if a person promised a certain amount of money it's not so simple to relinquish it there are many details of Allah that goes into relinquishing such a thing has to be for another big Mitzvah that you're relinquishing otherwise um otherwise it's no good okay so these are all things that come up quite often that many of the points can bring to be extremely careful from that reviews and others they all speak about this issue of making an adder and making sure not to fall to the Wayside to make sure that you miss it okay to mess up so that's the idea of having a harata that's the idea of having a petach being careful on one type of PETA that you do at the time that you're doing it and you see that it's not so simple this idea of attorney it's actually something extremely important it's actually something extremely important person has to know what you're doing in order to uh in order to take care of it senator now I want to mention a couple different I mean hug him and when we do the uh uh when we do that there's a couple of different men hogim as we know like I pointed out eskenazim usually takes three people in a group and they do four people four people in a group and they do a round robin why because we need to have at least three people which calls it basedin you have a baby in order to say they're the ones who go ahead and Mater the nether after you say over the nurse which of course you should understand it was written and whatever was written and then called Nidra It Was Written in Aramaic and order as many of them at the frame says in order that people should understand it that we of course don't always understand Aramaic many people don't understand their make unless you learn gemara properly so therefore a person should read it to the news that he understands or as a matter of says you should stick with the news but at least read the art scroll beforehand you should at least read a little bit of an English translation beforehand before you go ahead and do it in order that it should be in order that should be appropriate in order to make sure that you get it okay that's the first thing that we try to say in order to do that now the reason why they do it like this is because it's important for one person to speak it out there's a many people speak it out together if it works when you have a bunch of people all together in one chorus and one one choir together they're all together going ahead and saying it it's not so simple that it works it's not so simple that it works the majority of the poor scheme are lenient meaning when everyone does it together it's okay and that's why the minute of the sardim is to do it everyone together why do they prefer this system because over here you get a much bigger Reva you get a lot more out of it because you get 10 people they have 10 people sitting on the bait and it's brought down in the Run is a good thing to do to have 10 people as debate in Hawaii in case you have a Nidra khalom if there was a nether that you set inside of a dream so that was set in front of the in front of foreign how do you get the screen at 10 people come down so you need to have 10 people in order to really go now the mice of the chocolate does bring in Reish that comes from a dream is excusable meaning we don't uh you know most of the time we usually send most dreams that they are drawing Battalion they're not they don't mean much they're usually what you were thinking about during the day and we don't pay uh relinquish so but in on uh but it's good to be harsh for it in case that you made a nether during that time period and that's why they prefer 10 people so here we have it each one has a plus and a minus that's why I didn't have a plus because they have 10 people sitting on the bay team but they have a minus which is a little bit of a click it which again where maker didn't work Mako like the Mata frying brings and the Bishop Robert brings them we are Michael that you are allowed to have a lot of people together however questions that you should have an individual saying the news I'd rather say it as an individual without other people around but it takes to a loss because then they only have three people there which is it's okay all you need is three people really in order to matter a nether you don't need ten and if there was a nether in the Hallam in a dream so we said we are Mako so you have a plus and a minus to all our side which is a club in general with him there's a plus and a minus to everything that's the uh difference of uh uh between the two now we know the minig is that the people who are Mata the nether sit and the people who are coming to say the news stand up when I'm coming to say it the reason why we do that is because it is similar to Baden based in has to sit and the person is coming is standing the truth is there's no real source for this because this is not mummish and active based in it's an it's important to know this it's not momish and active we see we're not talking about dianum we're not talking about proper judges here we're talking about every uh I won't say Tom Dick and Harry but every and every slow-mo doveted and and someone else you understand it's always a it's fine that's okay it's a very simple people can also do it as long as you know as long as you heard this year then you're basically okay so it's not about as a baked and therefore there's no real mama source for doing there is brings that the reason to make the person stand is just so he should be able to embarrassed you shouldn't have made a nether you should feel bad next time don't do it we all did the gemara says it's not a good thing to make the door Miss kilo born Obama even if you're mad to the nether it's not something that we do we always try to avoid in the dorm like I said before that's why we all say bleed Netter if I do a Mitzvah we never are into the darn because it could lead to problems however Cuban Edgar says and it brings I'm only bringing things that are relevant he mentions this in a parenthetical type of way but he does say what about having a young child or a bachar to be sitting on the baiting sitting on the bed if it's a Badin and you're coming to matter nether from the Torah so it's not so simple to have someone obviously under Bar Mitzvah is a no-go and even if he's Bar Mitzvah there's something called meaning 13 is not always 100 that he's there he has to have two hairs in order to know so usually we try 15 and 16 to Beyonce we usually prefer that he's a 15 16 17 year old in order to do that he already starts growing some whiskers here we always know the 13 year olds always like to start shaving so they can grow a few hairs and their sort of whiskers on the thing but uh because around you have to see that he had a little bit of a promising when he's straight 13 or 13 14 that's usually for Dera banans we are lenient at the department so we know the boy likes to make the Simone it's a der abundance therefore we let him do it he's not multi them in birkat Amazon he only reads together so therefore we let him do it we let him govern our feet usually mariv because he's already a man as I said to Bar Mitzvah however but for doing the writers like big matter and that's not good over here Robert is he says therefore make sure a 13 year old is not sitting on the Baton there are me kill him why because over here there's no specific in that or we're speaking about it's not mama if you're talking about a real nether definitely you should be malware should not be doing it unless he's of age even if that's the scenario a person should uh it's could die to be careful that he it should be uh if it's a baker it should be from 15 16. of course this is a big question that is brought up in Yeshiva katanas in high school age during that age period we know it could be an issue because the boys are not of age now if they like we said for doing this is a Chloe in a dorm and that's the reason to be Mako but it's important to know that uh it's kadai if you're able to get uh men to do it or older more from the age of 16 17 or 18. that's a personal preference okay that's that's definitely a preference I want to try to be my a couple more quick points about this uh getting is that there's a halacha that's called that one is to be my favorite at the nedu prisoners what does it mean you have to be before the nether you have to specify the nether you do the reason the guard brings for doing such a thing is because if you don't specify the net there then it will cause it will cause an issue with the fact that you might matter you might allow another which is illegal which is not allowed some nadarm you're not allowed to do we mentioned before a certain nidrae Mitzvah or it's taka you're not allowed to do there's a lot of when you're allowed to one in Sapphire it's not for now but therefore we say you know it could be that a person promised that I'll never do something and it makes a promise I'll never do something if you do this and then he goes to the rabbi and he doesn't tell him the conditions that were behind it and he'll allow the nether which is to do that prison kind of goes around the gemara and kitten love it hey mentions about a woman who had to promise that I never took the two in order for us to give her the tuva and she says and if I don't that I won't eat any meat for the rest of my life and she goes so when she goes to the rabbi she'll just go I made a promise not to eat meat and says no problem she has to go and say the conditions over behind it because maybe she's a gun of foreign therefore you have to do it so the problem is over here we're not far to the nether by this uh nadarium that we do by eternity we know that we're not far to the nether this is a question amongst many of the reshining the Reed as this question tells us and others that have this uh a problem the answer that they bring basically is it works for nadarim that are General I don't know uh I don't know specifically of another and that's what we say that's the news that we actually write the eve Charlotte we say we can't be before it then the dorm because there's a lot of them if you made another you better specify that's out of it that's an excuse there's no excuse me ask this question it doesn't help um that it that it works but you do say the news those are the ones that I already forgot and uh and therefore I mean you're mentioning that I'm referring to only the ones that I forgot in other words if there's a Netter that you know about this does not work that's the bottom line and that's what I'm trying to say it doesn't work for specific to the dorm if you wanted to work for a specific nether which you know you did during the year or some type of Mitzvah which you don't remember that I did but you took care of it that you want to get rid of so you go to one of the diurnum you have to go to one of the 10 or one of the three and you have to tell them you have to tell everybody you can tell everyone if you want and tell them you should know there's one Neta which I did I want this targeted arm to work for this also I did X Y and Z I made this nether about this and you say the conditions why you did it you have to mention that Puritan editor we are doing this is a this header of nadarm is only here to take care of things which I do not know about yet to have forgotten about it you don't know about it if it's something you know specifically then that's why we say e of Charlotte I don't know it works for those but those that you know it does not work this is very important tonight because people think that it works automatically for any type of network that I made no it's not true it only works for things that you do not know about it and can work for one that you know about especially in Mitzvah or something like that or for forever reason that you can't keep up you weren't able to keep up with the dafiomi or the sheer or the haruta and you remember clearly that I did not say bleenetto because if you said Leonardo it works you remember clearly not saying Gleaner so then you have to go and tell them this is I'm also coming to be matter this nether you got it this is a very important cloud which we have to keep in mind a very important question which comes up of course is for women how do women take care of this problem we know that women don't like to go to sure to do a turret so one of the aces is what we're going to talk about soon is called nidrae called A lot of the women do code too Yom Kippur called nadrian is a great answer because when you go to cold nutrient that itself is a replacement for being able to um uh for being able to do a hatane because they don't want to go that's a b you're going to tell me well I said my husband so does that work so here's a cloud which is not so familiar by people and therefore I'm going to mention this it's brat in the hello in German and in the beginning of also over there the civilization says a cloud which is important I think it's a feud aleph that says that I cannot send listen to this if I want to matter another I cannot tell someone can you go and be matter this letter for me can you go to the camera I cannot do that I'm not allowed to do that it's a very important rule to say I have to do it myself there's one exception to the rule and that is your wife this is one of the only places in halacha where there's a rule which we're also familiar with in our Sheldon bite classes that's called istoying everybody knows Levin said our foot is hurting and he wasn't kidding because it's true it does hurt when a person is Eastern okay good fight you're one body and therefore the pain is felt all around that it's the real way that a person's supposed to have someone bite person is supposed to be interested in the other person to give them and make them happy for your sake not for her sake not just like you're happy to see her happy that's the nakuta it's not just that you're doing it because maybe I'll get something out of this later like as in many of the Geisha books oh we'll say oh but the majority of this all my books by the guy you have to do with being nice to her because one day you'll get out of it lean on me so that one day I'll have someone to lean on I'll be out with someone to take care of me that's why people who write Men Are from Mars and women are from Venus are divorced four times that happens because the is messed up our scuff is we want to make her happy because we want to make her happy which makes me happy that's it no ulterior motives at all just like you want to make yourself happy you want to make her happy that's Easter egg and that is that my wife can send me also your wife can send you to go out of me maternado for her she says can you please matter in the door when you go or even call nidrate whenever you go can you do it for me she sends you and it works it's classified as a working material that's how it works but that means guess what your daughter cannot send you if your daughter wants to send you there's no Easter kagu fight she's another person and therefore she has to do the cold nidre herself she's young enough she can go to cold Knitter herself A or B the other ETA is she can sit three men down and do it now you tell me three men that's not tanua don't worry relatives over yours kosher it's not a real bacon you can get her brother her father her cousin her uncle they're all kosher everyone's kosher to do it it's not like a normal they didn't that you have to do it and therefore she could sit down three people in order to do a throw in the dub now again she's not Hive to do anything her obligation no one's telling you you better do it if you don't do it it's okay but otherwise otherwise if uh if she wants it she can go like the beta Levy brings that there's someone called nidre and that's uh the way to uh that's the way to do it that's the you saw that um that we're mentioning here we're finishing up this okay like this part with mentioning that when we're talking about entire nadarian there's basically two parts until now we're basically speaking about nadarim that I did in the past I take care of them by doing the Toronto room there's one more aspect here that we do and that's called future nadorium also we try to take care of all future in the dorm and that is a something called means that not only I'm talking about the previous a year if I made an editor I'm talking about also the future year that I'm making a declaration a a uh announcement that any nether which I make in the coming year I do not want it to have any potential potency I don't want it to exist I don't want it to go that's the idea of Monsieur model this is the shita of verbena that yelled at just to do a attorney doesn't work but then as we say called which I want to say in the future will be bundled that's the gamaran before foreign at the time I wasn't thinking I was in my right mind the model Works to be able to tell me that I wasn't uh I wasn't thinking in the right mind now over here is a very important condition and again see we're making these I don't know if I was the only though I know we thought that we're making Atari do we know about this Moda for the next year we want to make it work but over here it only works on one condition but forcing the gemara it only works if at the time that I make the nether I forget about the I have to because if I make another knowing if I say I promise or I make another I swear and at the same time I make the swear remembering that before Rosh Hashanah or on call nidre on Yom Kippur that I went ahead and I said uh a mother I gave this uh this announcement I made this announcement that everything I say doesn't count then the nether kicks in it does work you got it I made it on rosh hashan I say and in a drama make this here is if I said blue Netter and then in the middle of the year I remember that oh I remember that and I was I promise you I'm gonna do that no so what do you when you say I promise even though you remember what are you saying you're saying I want it to work I want the nether to help I don't care about what I said before it's Stuart what I said six months ago it doesn't count I want this nether to work and therefore it's Hal as a nether works as a Nether and therefore it's a problem okay and therefore the nether works and it's uh existence Etc that's the cloud that we got from from this idea so the only way it works is if I absolutely forgot that's why the organ actually writes he doesn't like this whole model thing it doesn't work anymore he says we uh back in the olden days sometimes you did a cold mid Ray sometimes you did this uh sitting down together with the rabbis and therefore people didn't remember it nowadays we all remember we all know every Russian we always do this techus we always go through and say from now on all the nadorem doesn't count so we always go through the process here so if that's true later on when I say the word I promise so it works it's a real promise it kicks in because you always you know that you made the net and you still you made you made a announcement and even so you're still going in and making the nether so the nether kicks in I said what's the relevance of this idea it's mainly relevant for one main thing the nidre Mitzvah a lot of times we don't say I promise we don't say the words we push it we just said I want to learn that feel me we said I want to make this newsator we didn't say believe never posted those things or you did a nice act you went into the mixer three times your wedding gave stuck on once a week you give Tom Hashem and by doing that you run into a problem of nether so this works for that because I didn't remember that I didn't even realize I'm making another I didn't realize I put on my Telly three times a day that could be another that you can't miss a day of putting on a tallit or wearing your teeth that could be another so this is a fantastic Aid so to get around that this is ahead of time to say that I'm trying to get around having this uh this mother in order to avoid in order to avoid the problem sander there's a lot of Yeshiva charade here as a whole piece and how to understand this beer of the Moda and and if you make a promise but obviously that's not our place in time here but I'll go find him that's the uh that's the idea of mysterious model that's the idea of the Netherland Freya we mentioned why one needs to be able to uh to be able to do it and this piece with when we're talking about making just it's important to know that a person has to say it with his mouth there is some people say you can have it in your head toward him to believe but most people say that you have to say with your mouth and therefore it's important when we are saying the Atari nadarim that we do it with our mouth we say no there's if it's just enough that I say it quietly like this or do I have to actually speak it up but call around the shock is actually McMurray says you have to show your retini you want to say that all mine don't count for the next year speak it out with a bread and speak it out like you're supposed to don't be uh don't just stop and throw the bar of things you have to go ahead and say it most person can say it's like davening that you have to make sure that you hear what you say don't say it quietly so what I'm saying is it's very important by this because it's easier because one person says it by himself and therefore it's not such a big deal because he makes sure to speak out everything that's written and he understands what he says however by the swardim a lot of times one person says out everybody reads questions excuse me hello I don't hear you you want me to match your nether you have to be tell me what are you doing you want me to go ahead and say you're making a model should believe make sure that I have to know so you have to make sure a little bit to say with a certain amount of clothes you can have one guy with a high call and other people with a lower call but you have to go out of your way to make sure that it's not okay that's what comes out basically like I said we should Alex um in how to actually be able to uh to do it based on this we understand even though it's also a disagreement that you should not do it by yourself you should have three people there even though you're only coming to say for now and all in the dark According to some people I stand here right now and say oh no I'm about to say is no good they don't count it works according to a number of uh of course because of what we're trying to say that you should speak it out so it makes sense that a person should uh should be there okay like we said there's a lot of discussion here about different things but that is a run-up of what has to do with Atari nadarim I just want to finish up with the idea of cold injury called nidre which is coming soon on Yom Kippur as we all know is the essence of the day and just like we do it on error versus a public ceremony of doing everything we just spoke about the two aspects which I just spoke out now is done by the cold nidrate meaning a we relinquish all previous nadarium and B we make a mess in order to make sure that any future in the dorm which I come and you have to have the tonight which I mentioned as I mentioned before A and B understand what you're saying you know again over here it's all in Aramaic so please make sure you know the basics of what you're doing if you understand the basics it's also not so bad I don't mind but you have to understand the idea is it's going on the passing line in the future that's one of the new Scrolls that we say over here when we make the the dorm we say the nadranal in the Dre the Cortana then I have that's going on the past but there's also a news that we say about the future we mentioned from this from Yom Kippur images what are you talking about the answer is we're mixing two subjects together we're getting all the sheets you're supposed to say from the elastic for some people say for the future because we're coming to capsulize both ideas that we're coming to get also for the past I'm coming to be Mater by previous in the door I'm trying to get rid of my previous nadarm and at the same time I'm trying to relinquish all the future and that's what I'm trying to get rid of in order to get rid of and therefore I'm taking care of both subjects as we uh mentioned okay so really takes care of both things that has enough gaming and a lot of different ideas in cold Nidra and again I'm just going to summarize her because it's right even late and we're trying to summarize here but you should realize these two opinions about what kol nidre is about as many for instance one of the one of the ideas and this is an incredible idea that not so many people know is of course called nidre is the essence of the we know many that we shouldn't bring it over here in the gemara many of the resort and bring this minute of saying called nidre before Yom Kippur the round tell us of the red phone number they all bring such a meaning there's no question that it's brought and it says it's from this man of the good morning there is one sheet that's maybe from 2000 years ago from the time of the Ghazal but most people don't hold it that it's a minute but you have to know something the guy name were radically against this minute they were not into doing called nidre they said it's a mistake we're in a trigoner of high God I'll explain to you why soon but they say it's a bad minock it's a mini you should not do saying call literally called it today this is Yom Kippur right this is where we racket all the money I mean this is where we do the the most important ceremony on on Yom Kippur we introduce it with a special which zamatefrime actually says and yes the meaning is to do it and we take out all the sifri Torah which I'll explain in a minute and at that time when we do it we're supposed to have obviously he even says very meticulously the Mata frame he says that one should keep to the famous Negan that we do you shouldn't even change the lotion you should read the translation to know what you're talking about but you shouldn't change the lesson because it's very important to be able to do it this Negan comes you nowhere incredible from the Spanish Inquisition it was brought during the Spanish and communication when people were hiding in the caves and when would they make this Atari nadarim it was nitken from it was far D and you'll see if you notice the niggling by this faradimir ashkenazim are pretty close I don't think there's much of a big difference between them but the original was based on a as far as why they do that because a lot of them actually had to swear to the church who have a who have a self-esteem problem that they have to force people to become Christian because nobody wants to so they had to go ahead and trample them and force them to become the first and they made on cold nidre relinquishing to their to their things that's where they came up to the thing and there was a big uh techis that came out during and posted says Spanish Inquisition in order to annul any Oaths that they made to the church in order to know those Oaths because they held obviously they only did it out of a Nidra on scene which could be it has itself no potency when a nether comes out of being forced it could be it has absolutely no uh nothing but that's what they did it and as the matter again brings a negative feel is very important because it arouses the hearts and he actually says that's why we say three times in order to get and we go in a higher and a higher and a higher voice in order to make us realize that we're coming to get rid of these in the dime which are very problematic and therefore and therefore we're trying to get rid of it we're not into it they said avoid it even after saying the importance of how I was that they said it's also to say that brings it to rosh hashivas did not want to say it at all the irianism he brings about bringing yourself into a makro why should you get into it it's a problem to do it and in mitraim their advice brings him in Egypt the meaning was not to introduce Yom Kippur with Cole nidre wow like we said Cole Nidra is like the epitome that's the cherry on top of Yom Kippur and here they are a lot of people saying not to do it or not I'll tell you why basically the main reason why is because of the gamar the gemara brings that rava um that there's two reasons why first of all there's the shitas if this thing about the future works okay if you're allowed to make it tonight how about and if you make this tonight so then people might make the mistake to think that I can go ahead and make in the dark usually we pass in a does work but because we're worried about the shita that it doesn't work so therefore that's a reason to be my but more importantly the main reason why they were so upset about it is the gamara says over there is and he spoke about what the model works and how does it work out meaning this announcement all the time in the next year I don't want them to have any potency they all don't last I don't want them says the Tana was soyson about this idea and you're going ahead it didn't want to talk about it and you're going in and talking about it you can't do this therefore the gabbar comes out over there that you should not make pursuing about these things we should not do it because if people go ahead and understand what the Moda is about I understand I'm giving sheer about it now but uh the Pearson there's Pearson because over here it's almost rights nowadays they need to know because we don't know anything about the Allah if we don't know these things we'll make a real is but the problem with going ahead and speaking this out in general to everybody is going to cause a music because people are going to say natarium are a joke you could just go ahead and make it Rosh Hashanah the whole next year I'll say left and right I promise I swear do this Mitzvah do this thing I'll do this all the time I don't have to worry about it forget the blue net or of course hey Mira to chef but the bleen Edward don't worry about it you should know the Blue Notes sometimes even more important than relationship they're both important but the blue nether can get you into such a cebuk they have to realize how important it is to do that and therefore he said that you should not go ahead and uh you should not go ahead and be before submit Robin you should not go ahead and enforcement programming the Riff in the end of the Sacramento if you look at the Riff right at the end there's a little letter over there from the Riff and over there he brings bashem this idea that we just mentioned that is not the time to do these things they didn't do and it's incredible because there's a lot of literature on it nothing even the Rashi is not a Rashi we use the Run there's no reason about it it's very hard to Scurry up of course many many say my name is in two places because it wasn't written and was it overlooked many many times it was some something that was kept out of the loop it was something that people didn't it didn't happen the room Baden writes impersonatus that we notice as the mission says that it's a nadarma drama Parham it's in the air meaning it's not there's not a lot written about the themselves barely right about the idea of being Mater allowing you know it's not written anything about it it's okay and the darm itself okay there's one parse in the tarantat but the idea of a heter of there is not written it's the reason is because we didn't want people to be missilesil to not mistreat maltreatment arm you can get yourself into a balagan of a deer right there they won't talk to the rabbis and ask them what to do in this case and therefore it became a cryptic unspoken about subject to the whole idea and that's why meld ditched the call nidre because if everyone does it in a public form people are going to make a mistake and fall into the Trap of thinking that nadarium you could do whatever you want brings nowadays we are everyone does it and he says the reason why is because yes we don't know much about the dorm so we need to know a little bit because we make mistakes about making another people are very quick to say words like I promise and I swear all the time look at someone who's even quasi-religious even religious people Unfortunately they say that and therefore a person should be careful a second reason is brought in the kuzar incredible gimmo is the karayim that sudokim held that there's no such thing as a header of a nether can you imagine if you made another you're stuck for life there's no way out of it because it's not written really in the turret it's only clear so we know that Sudoku didn't hold of anything in tors about only things that are written there's no sukim so on purpose we go out of our way to make ahead a public ceremony because we want to stick it in their face we want to make sure that they know this idea just like we know many times when they uh denied certain things such as the cutting of the spirit Omer we go ahead and make a big thing about it why do we make it one of the reasons we do is because they were against the nisaim the water that was poured the libation and we go out of our way to go no we're gonna make a party out of this one we're gonna show against them they made a big Tech as khazal said that when the Sudoku say one way we want to spit in their face we want to go ahead and show the opposite effect in order to be able to prove to them the idea and that is the idea of nadarim of called nidre how it affects both the past and the few future and the fact that people didn't want to do it well that's connected to the fact that if it's coming to say rabbinutan that I'm all future and dorm are gone so they wanted to erase that from the cold Midway status that it should not count let me mention just a few quick and finishing up with a few points of the cold Midway that are dependent on this on these two reasons whether it's working for the past or the future like I said the lesson that we say is from we we're cautious for both we do from Yom Kippur another thing is that we know that everyone says it together so where's your three people there's no three people here how do you do without three people the bach the the rabbit they all ask this question there's no three people by you so it's a joke where baby Tom wasn't happy with the you know three people the answer is we are all monitoring for each other we say that no suck saying can you matter my Nether and we are all saying we are mattering what you are doing and that's what we say at the very end that's why that's that's the idea in those words that you do it and we say it a few times in order to make sure that you're doing that's the reason why we do it three times in order to make sure that we are all annoying each other's letters who are all work together that's why some there's something arguments two people standing next so those are the three people that are coming to uh to work okay and that works if you're coming with vato the past if it's for the future we wouldn't need necessarily three people maybe it wouldn't be such a big deal if it was only one person okay one more important needle about this and this is a very important Eden and this very relevant does it have to be done called nidre before shkia it doesn't have to be done before shkia the reshade him already speak about this the real the revash and others discuss this problem now normally a certain nether you have to make sure to do it before an iPhone because if you want to maternity if it's a Dean then we don't do a nighttime a uh upsack a can only sit during the daytime not during the night time a court only sits during daytime not night time so if we consider this a baited so it doesn't work at night time that's a now that on that where there's room to be Mako anyways because we hold it tarden dime also works at night time because that Mama should bake them but there's a bigger problem when I'm at the nadarium in Shabbat Shabbat we don't matter it's a type of Hooter which is brought down in however in your however if it's a Turk Shabbat if there's some reason to be Mata nether so then sometimes it will be permissible so many of the like the brings down and and others bring that it's a problem to go ahead and make a call Nidra at nighttime now and therefore should be done during the day now this is a major hole in the pocket because if you do all the selling of cold idre before shkia nobody's there everybody's busy wolfing down food trying to finish before Yom Kippur because they want to try to be able to get as much in before this 25 hours of fasting is going on so most people come you know up until beta smashes sometimes a lot of times they come and if by doing that they'll come right in time for call nidre but guess what when you do the auctioning it's not going to go so they do bring a minute the statement said there's a meaning to me sell the cold nidrae on the Shabbat before Yom Kippur I don't know if that's the meaning so much don't think so many people do that I'm not sure does bring there is such a um there is such a minute to be able to do it there is a few heterium some people say at least say one time called ninja during the day and the rest you could do a nighttime maybe then you might be able to get a few of the Richies to be able to come you know the rich people usually like to take their time and come in slide into home when it's time to come in but if uh you know if that's an eight to the third however you should know that many people there are a number of people that are uh Mako okay where someone is a long uh chuva in milk for those who know that wants to say that it could be that uh even when you do it during the day it might be okay there's a rush that says I'm sorry even if you do it at night time it might be okay because it's called there's a Russian the diamond in the end of Yuma the Russian Dharma land of Yuma that they say since the dorm or roguel to be said and then before you go into Yom Kippur you really want a kapar in this one you want to cleanse yourself it's called the something necessary especially nowadays it became something important and it's part of the hag and therefore and therefore there might be room to be uh to be mental okay and therefore there might be room to be Michael to do so Etc that's uh that's what comes out according to this because it is that there is room to be Mako before the forehead in order to finish up your job even to do it and therefore if a person doesn't make it before don't worry that Seaboard is allowed to do it afterwards also they can go ahead and do the selling afterwards and do the cold things afterwards obviously like a pre-la you should try to get in a little bit beforehand and therefore when they say to you lazaka or when they say on themselves yet not necessarily and they try to say called nidre at a time when it is still there it is a big because like I said it's a big Financial issue and I mean this with all seriousness because Co midray is a big income and therefore a person should they tested should try to figure it out but yes we try to meet mcfeed leonetta to do it before skia we try our best to make sure to do it before uh before skia if we're able to do it so that is also another nap Camina if we hold it to measures in order to get rid of things of the past to the imaginative dorm so it makes sense it should be done during the day if it's just to make a hold of it from now on I'm interested in only uh every Netter that I do for the next year so not count so then it's not such a big deal if it's overnight time meaning the future across of the Declaration that actually there's room to uh to do it lastly kolnidre said three times as we all know that some people ask why there's no real reason all I have to do is make this declaration finished all I have to do is say I feel bad about what he did and that's it but the answer is since we're coming to matir Annette don't come to say another that we did is permitted so we repeated three times in my opinion three times we're saying just like we say this idea so we go ahead and we say the end part three times really response says only this very very end needs to be said not the whole entire thing but he says that to know and that's the Minogue of what we do better that's what it is you should know there is a shita that this whole idea of co-midre is not necessary like they spoke up from the do I name it no idea of culminator is a tequila it's a percussia to make sure that we get ourselves of trouble Hashem please make sure that any nadarm I did if I did it wrong please forgive me I didn't mean to do it they should be speaking with you know just asking because Markle can you help me out and that's what we say help us out maybe we're referring to also people who aren't here who are here we're just begging Hashem for a little bit of when we go into this is our first video it's a type of video that we're doing in order to be able to take care of the problem we also say that we matter leave parallel image are those that are in need to wait those are not supposed to be here they're doing things that are Usher they won't put in param or nothing so we matter everybody we all know the guitarists had 11c Monument one of them was the kalbona which is a bad smell and yes we want to have a real real cabarets when we're all together is one unit together where you're planting the seeds before Yom Kippur of a Unity between us all and we know that this is the potential of our future we say from lessons they were planting a seed when you plant the seed there's a lot of potential in the seed everything is in the genes and we see it growing and growing and that's the beginning of a new day we're making ourselves a new we're refreshing ourselves on this Yom Kippur we're going in and saying that there's something new about it that's why we're coming to stay with a pregnant woman walks in you should stand up for Iowa stop maybe because he knows colato and cool out but yeah for a different reason because all the potential that lies in that child that's within within the within the womb because there's so much potential there and therefore it's very important to be able to uh understand what we're saying where's the rule into the planting the teeth because now is the new start we're going ahead and getting rid of all in the dorm we're getting rid of the past we're getting rid of we're starting with a new future the Zera before uh uh seed before it grows its rots it has to rot it can completely exactly and then it's able to grow to something new Tish rate the month of tishray we know Nissan and tishra is a question which day is really the beginning of the creation but really tell us what says tishray Hashem thoughts about the creation of the world meaning that was the beginning of the ratsuna the creation of hashem's interest in creating the world that's what happened at this rate even if you're saying Nissan the actual creation happened that's the quotation we saw the actual equation happened so we are in the beginning of the plot process that's what your kicker is about that's what cold leader is about the beginning of a newness the beginning of starting saying yes I didn't know much about the dorm before here I am learning Allah because I'm going to take on a new Leaf start a fresh way and that is the beginning of the Hagen that's the idea behind uncle midre besides the past besides the future it's also in the present should have a gamara