Setting Up Our Children for Success in Eretz Yisrael (49:27) Rabbi Tzvi Broker

[Music] okay uh welcome everybody um I'm marer this is Rabbi Klein we're from um my my friend uh broker was working uh for tomit who's telling me about the great work he does um um in career counseling um since 2009 toit has been uh counseling and providing Career Services tailored for the from community and uh they offer career counseling job training programs giving the necessary tools to find employment their expertise is in the Israeli educational system which enables a Lim to make educated decisions and planning their children's education in future us and Ne being very involved in uh educating the Ango Community um we felt there was like a dual purpose here and um we felt that it would be a good service to provide um so I'd like to start with a story the story uh was told by the the story is told by the Ben and it could be found in his commentary sometimes listening to the exact words of a story could uh it's not always so exciting so I'm going to make it sounds very exciting but at the same time the words are so beautiful uh that I'm for to read some of them ins time so the story The so he tells a story of a rich man he says the rich person that had one son when he turned 18 years old before he married his he would marry him off so he wanted to teach him trade so it happened to be the trade that this father taught his son was to be a and the finest out there right his products was sold right for the most amount of money and when he approached his son to tell him about his proposition we have a lot of money what are you doing this to me for they're always coming to our table you're always feeding them so what do you want from me what are you trying to teach me something so this is what he says so the father didn't listen to him and the father said to him I want you to go and I want you to learn and the son didn't listen and it came to such a point that the says that the father was required to bribe his son and each day that he would bring this person to teach he would give him some money and that was the story he brought someone he taught him but says it didn't just end there but rather he says that every day that he would teach him father's a why is he wasting his money what is he doing what is he bothering why is he wasting his money so what happened so he married him off the father died so what did the son do so he went to he brought it his and his wife was there and you would use that money but what happened eventually the money ran out so the son then went and he remembered that which he learned and he learned the and it says over here right that he went back to this and the sun went back and he opened up these with a great joy because now he would be able to himself he blessed his father and he would bless his father and his wife who would hear this he sat down with him later R right she saw that he would sit down every single time he would he would take his hammer and he would smash every single time he would say this was like a had every single time he was smashing his hammer she went over to her husband with a and said I have a big have a big question because he says right that when you went and you got all the money that our father your father left for you I didn't hear your blessing your father but now and you're working hard you're going to the and you're working so now every single time you're blessing your father what's she asked her husband that question so listen to what the husband said so this is what the husband told the wife so she said so he said so when I was little my father came to teach me a trade what do I need this for and every single day inside of my and now I don't have any money left and the only thing I have left is that my father taught me and then he goes on to say therefore every single time I work in it I to be father for all those times that every time I was learning my my father so opening with this story because I think that this story this amazing story really captures why all of us are are are here tonight in the words of the May says so in career counseling I with career coun and we're going to talk a lot about careers and jobs but let's start off like this parasa from sh at the same time right the Mish is teaching us that as parents we love our children and we want to do the best for our children and we would give all of our money to our children if we could we will we'll have the money to give to our children but at the same time as parents we we we feel the responsibility kazal explained the responsibility to be able to give our children the tools that they should be able to beers themselves now it's interesting that the of the is talk a little about a lot about that right what type of so the explain you know the joke of the Jewish mother's uh you know dream job so so what's the Jewish dream job so what's explain is a clean profession okay so some say it's clean from say that there are some jobs that if they say that if everyone would be honest so then there wouldn't be business so those are jobs that we don't do okay that's not some say is that um is a job that a person he doesn't get himself dirty right Jewish mother wants her son to be working in a very type of a thing right at the same time what's kala so which translates as light so the mar over there and different explanations explain that the goal as parents to teach our children this is something which everyone here wants is that on one hand we want to give our children the responsibility and we want to give our children the Independence at the same time we want to teach them a job it's not going to absorb them and what the mishna teachers here in Kal means is that a job that allows our children to be able to focus on their Torah learning to be able to focus on their families be able to focus on living right they're not focused on their work you know there's a question you working to live or you living to work and that's the dream and the the the words of kazal are incredibly important today and this is something which we all feel I Recent research shows fascinating that study was done by Adobe in America representing Western culture that workers reported that 78% of their waking hours they're either working or thinking about work that's on a working day okay it's about 14 hours do am depending depends how much a person sleeps okay but 78% of their time is thinking about their work on a nonworking day 41% of their time is thinking about work 53% of people that were surveyed said that they identify their whole identity without which they work there job is their life and studies are showing that the classic 40 hour week that we may have grown up on is becoming obsolete and the whole trend of what's happening in the world is a world where all the researchers are saying that people are going to have multiple jobs people are going to be working and working and working and working and the question is is that's scary because as Jews right right we've realized that work's important right but within the context of what we're trying to be our children so how to be malam their children with how to do it those are the golden questions and that're we're going to discuss today right in order to this to understand how to be able to do that we have to understand the foundations that Som works on right at Som we like to say work smarter don't work harder right focus on what's going to work and not just what's done now why is that incredibly important all right so the First Foundation of being able to successfully raise our children with the goals that we want to achieve with them is understanding the employment market right everyone would agree right that the employment Market the way it is today is not what it was 30 years ago or 20 years ago or not even 5 years ago right the the the researchers called today's environment the vuka environment right standing for volatile uncertain complex ambiguous it's an environment which is is constantly changing right because of global factors because of Technology the classical model that we were brought up on that a person gets a job works with an organization stays there you know gets raised for like you know one time of career that's finished they're finishing right because of all the factors that we're dealing with right the environment is always changing and therefore in order to be able to plan appropriately we have to understand what is it that the market needs right the second Foundation is understanding that education system I mentioned before you know about in terms of jobs so the also explained that that's not just talking about the job it's also talking about how to get the job right there AI that says the way that he learns it it says that the Mish over there that a person shouldn't be his his his his his Ben is is that he should learn in separate education right that we want an environment not only how we're going to the job we're going to work on but how we're going to get the job to be in a way that preserves the values that we're trying to R radiate to our children and also that the job that the the the D that we're going to go on is also something that doesn't consume them along the path now in the educational world it's constantly changing and as in any business right all educational programs that are constantly you know growing and coming up or saying obviously if you come to us so then it's going to work but what we find though an amazing statistic is is that this the same percentage of people that were in that had bachelor's degrees in 1960 okay now have master's degrees today right the trend of just going to school to just go to school is growing and growing and growing so we have over here the need to understand an educational structure in the society that we live in and to know which education is going to get us to the goal because what happens often is is that there's a split and there's been a lot of talk about this between academics and the employment world so you have you know a curriculum they have been built 10 years ago teaching people this and then people go and they study and then they find out that everything that they learn is not even going to get them the job right so the second Foundation of being able to to be successful on F un focused successful education is understanding the educational environment and the third Foundation is is understanding the cultures that we come from and I think that I'm going to start over there because you know each one of us that come here tonight you come from a different culture right a different background um most of are probably and it's important to realize that at sum when we sit with a client May if the client's 18 or the client is 45 doesn't make a difference the first questions we ask them is to understand about their parents about what their parents parents did what their parents studied what their parents worked in right because often we don't realize how much our own perceptions right as parents our own educational experiences play out in the way that our children are going to perceive what they should be doing or what's considered to be success right so the third Foundation right on top of we spoke about employment we spoke about Educational Systems is also understanding the culture that we're in so these are the foundations that that suit works on and what I'd like to discuss today briefly um we spoke about the third we'll speak about the first two and then we're going to have time for questions and answers um Mrs Han rner is here who's the founder of Tom mention and um so we'll have you know tremendous opportunity to be able to address our specific um concerns of why we came here tonight so let's start with the foundation of you know the employment the employment market so what's needed to get a job right is it credentials is it skills is it both is it neither right so let's talk about the standard model right in terms of convential right which would mean getting a getting a getting a bachelor's degree okay something with most of us probably familiar so the road of getting a bachelor's degree um here in Israel is different than what we may be familiar with in North America first of all the whole Mar of Education in terms of the way that a bachelor degree is built is different for some of you that may not be familiar with it I so just explain right in America um the way education college education is built is that people spend uh spend about half of their time learning a major which is what they the focus of what they want to study and about half their time learning general education or electives which could be courses and anything um in Israel things are focused when a person is applying is not applying to the college he's applying to a specific Department right because of that actually in a bachelor's degree in Israel person will learn a lot more than they'll learn in a bachelor's degree in America right you'll find that uh the the the the amounts of students that are going for Bach master's degrees here in Israel is less than in America but in America since people are only spending some of their time on their first degree they're going for second degrees to focus but ER is different okay the college can be three years instead of four okay and the road to be able to uh get into col to be able to get into college right is is is um is either through the B root right or through the M system which will speak about both of them um just before we get to that though we just speaking about colleges so you know some of you may be familiar with the different colleges and universities that exist here in Israel um in terms of the options for the firm community so what's happened is is that there were the major universities right that were established here and um in order to be able to service the in order to be able to service The Firm Community um there have been open right extensions um of the major colleges and universities that offer opportunities in certain fields for the firm Community to be able to study an environment um that's comfortable for them okay there are some nuances we'll get to a little bit later okay but um there are certain colleges that are all you know separate M um you know something that some of you guys may have heard of okay M was established to be um a firm environment you know all boys and all girls from its GetGo okay but there are opportunities in even in the major universities to be able to study at um um which are you know which are geared and what similarly in a similar model um bring together a firm environment for the firm community so the road to be able to get a college degree okay so we basic classical was AB so and we're not going to get into the details of abut right now um you know someone has specific questions you can ask the question a little bit later but what's important to understand about the bug root is that not all bug roots are equal okay sometimes it's just like it sounds like it's everything's the same B no okay um the way the B is built is that there are core subjects that a person needs to do and then there's also electives and interesting in the B system which is different than the American High School System is that even in high school person has the the if person's in a back root environment they may have the choice to decide what they want to focus on learning already in the high school level right depending on what they think they might be interested in so by the time they finish High School they've already gathered potentially um a lot of information and background in the topic okay in terms of the actual the themselves right the way that theot work is that there are different right which are dependent on difficult which are which are determined by difficulty um it's important when you're if you're looking into a program that offers a b to understand what is that group made up of right for example um you know if there's a a group that not on three at least on a level of three um in certain core subjects you know it's it's it's not even would be three would even it's not even going to work right and even on right if a person's looking to get into a specific school or specific field it's not going to be good enough also so it's important to check the the basic B that's offered in some programs are good enough to be able to get into if somebody wants to go into something like psychology or social work or something more basic but if someone's child is the type of person that wants to go into computers right or physics or engineering or something more specific uh more heavy math based so then the basic bu root is not going to necessarily do the trick so that's an important thing to keep in mind in terms of not just bu root but what is the bu root the second thing to keep in mind with the Buu and this ties into what we spoke about before uh is that the B is the the B is also um overseen by a certain AGA a certain Branch now what happens is is that if the is being overseen by you know what would be called more of a system okay so in the system so then what happens is is that the person who finishes that is classified by the government as someone who's which means right in this instance um whe that means is is that the that person has the ability to study at the that we spoke about that are called that the government has the universities and they've created these these branches the so that people that are not willing or able to study at the regular University are going to attend however anyone who can go to the regular University is not allowed to study at the so what happens is if somebody someone stud we studying about gr system which is not considered called to be what will happen is is that that P that that student will not be able to study in a more of a firm environment eventually right so there's something also looking to your program right to consider who's the people who are being on the okay there are programs that even if a person uh would not be in a bug uh system can attend like for is one example Ono is another example okay so there are opportunities it doesn't mean that person can continue in separate education or more from environment but those options are more limited and there are also additional limitations in terms of funding because once again when it comes to funding for school the government allocates uh significant amounts of money for helping you know once again what they call the population or to be able to learn in educational system so the way they classify it is who oversaw one way is who oversaw your bu rot so that's something which you know and if you know where you want to end up you want to keep that in mind when you're looking into a school okay the second option uh that we spoke about in terms of getting into college if you're seeking a degree is M so m is an alternative that allows someone that they've not done the bug rout and then they spend generally one year in the program um making themselves ready to be able to go into the college so it's specific so let's say for example somebody wanted to go into computers and they didn't do a bu root so then they would be accept if they would be accepted to they would spend one year in which they would learn the basics right English math what they need but they would be focusing all their time to build up the levels of what they need okay so there is a level so it may sound M sounds great you know like why not so maybe yes maybe not so important things to know about is the first of all you have to get into in order to be able to get into there's a test called okay the my m test General abilities in English math and logical thinking okay so if someone wouldn't be at all prepared right so then they wouldn't even be able to get into M and the second point right is that that 50% of people that join M don't make it okay so the M system you know why don't they make it you know so the answer is is because they're not prepared so M system is is uh was was was created in order to facilitate people that didn't get the so deep backgrounds um through the you know through through the younger years as at the same time it does it does have its limitations and it's something to keep in mind um know we'll talk a little bit about that later right is that you know sometimes the short road you know the short long road you it sounds great right but it may not work and it could work for some people part of it also is I think is making sure that the students in the right right because B is very focused on a specific topic we could have a situation where you know a student you know could be very capable and smart but he wasn't guided properly and he went to the wrong M program and then he didn't succeed okay and then there's also things that we can do um as parents if we're going to go through the M route to be able to prepare our children so that they be able to succeed in getting into M and also making it work so that's a bit about the path of going through we address the questions of that um the path of uh the path of a degree now there's a different track okay which is which going through the track of certificates okay so because either we'll talk about in because either getting a degree is not for everyone or you know that people don't want to invest the time so there is a tremendous um sh right of certificates that have been created to offer to offer to offer students and adults to be able to get specific skills that can then be used to work in the employment in the in the employment market so there are different type of certificates obviously we can't speak about all of them now but bad they are regular to adult and then there's also a higher level of a certificate which we would call more of an associates degree okay which allows a person uh to be able to work on a higher level not quite like a Bachelors we'll speak about that in a second uh the difference between whether going through this Associates track or through the regular the to do track is that the certificate requirements to get in more or less everyone can get in or if you can't get in they'll very much help a person to be able to get in so as opposed to going through college where you have over here you know either the b or the the M um I didn't mention before but I should mention that in addition to completing the there's also an exam so if the first person's going to a university it would be this the the psychometry someone's going to college would be the the teal okay these are exams that test people's capabilities so in addition to um having to succeed either person would have to make sure that they're on the level um you know English math logical thinking to be able to succeed when it comes to toote that doesn't exist okay so the the ENT the barriers of entry into to do are less okay so it seem once again sound great so is it great to once again it uh it depends so like I'd like to outline four different you know areas of to do to see how it matches up you know compared to going through a different track so so the classical you know certificate you may think of um you know which which really to do are great for um is for fields that are for fields that really College doesn't help for it okay so let's just say for example if someone is good with their hands and they're very talented at fixing things right they can be very bright that's the way that they express themselves they're going to work as an imp appliance repair they're going to work in shut or not just you know gardening but not just those things but even if let's say for example you know this um so for girls that could be working in cosmetics and makeup right for take a student like that and put them in a in a route where they're going to have to go to college and earn a degree right not just would be a waste of time but in many situations counterproductive so right for for those types of fields um graphic design is another one right something a person could just learn a ific and get the skills and be able to work in it um so there it's great and it's something that a person would do is career counselors once evaluating a person in their strength and seeing that that's where their most success could be that's where we would encourage people to go to um you know one an interesting one that you know to is know as as asari mentioned to involved in and coming up with solutions that work for the fir community so one of the initiatives uh that we offer are creating um specific training courses and certificates that give that give uh clients the skills that they need to get a job and are already interlocked with the industry so that there's guaranteed placement Okay so we've worked together with you know schools that offer the certificate that are also connected uh to the companies or the different government agencies are looking for people to fill those roles okay one inter exciting one that just come up is hydrotherapy okay hydrotherapy um for those of you that don't know is involved in different exercises um in the water so in order to work in work as a certified hydrotherapist okay so it's a certificate and if somebody's likes working in the water they like helping people you know they're into Health um it's a certificate a person could learn it in a year and then they can work and they can work me great to send a person like that to study in college if it's not even going to help okay so there are certificates and you know what we're as Som you know trying to do is to hone in on those specific certificates that are really the best option for clients that they're able to find work but that's of certificates that that's really the best way to go uh the second typ of certificate would be certificates that are skill specific okay that give people um the skills you know the skills that they the skills that they need and with those skills a person could work um at the same time if a person had degree it would put them in a different in a different standing so examples of this might be there are certificates or person to work in Insurance person can get a certificate in insurance he can get a license he can work in insurance if a person went and he studied business and he studied finance and he had a degree in finance and he was involved in insurance that would definitely help him at the same time right earning learning a certificate and getting the specific skills that are needed um in insurance would definitely help a person digital marketing is something which is up and coming it's also a program that we're um that we're developing where a person could study um digital marketing learn the specific skills and it's interesting is that that that that um you know companies report that that that the you often you have people that went to college and they don't know the skills that they need to work right because like we said before is that often there's this gap between academics and employment so the person who went to college is trying to get the job he has a degree but he doesn't know it's up and up and running so an advantage of certificates is that the certificates are are most on the ball of seeing what's exactly needed and honing in and giving people specific skills so the second type you know coding let's give an example over here if someone can learn coding it would be great and there are certificates and a person could get a job if someone had a degree in computers it would be better okay so that's a second type of certificate um I would say where it's you know it college is not a bad option okay but the certificate has a value um the third type of certificate um I guess classification would be certificates that provide real opportunities but they're limited um they're limited by I would say outside circumstances so like a great one which is very relevant for anyone that likes working with people um or sees their kids working with people is the field of is the field of Social Work in Psychology and therapy okay so there's certificates opening up all the time with all different types of um trainings and this type of therapy and that type of therapy right working with youth at risk um marriage counseling you name it they've made it and these certificates what they've done is that they've said hey we know the skills that people need okay and we're working with often at seore these been created a lot for the community which is not going to go to college so if we can bring all the professionals and give people the skills that they need and be able to give them the experience that they need so then we can offer a certificate and great what's the limitation the limitation is is that you know if someone wants to work in a government system someone wants to be able to work um you know the school system so there the key to the door is degree right so if somebody wants to be able to work as a social worker he has to get a degree in social work however if a person's goal is to open up private practice it could be that the certificate great right and it doesn't need anything else so it it requires an awareness of knowing you know what's my ultimate goal to know whether or not the certificate's going to accomplish it or whether or not I need to go the degree route okay and another example that plays out between the associates and The Bachelors right is that the associates will let's say for example in in uh in architecture so it will it will give a person the ability to be able to work on some on some building structures but it will limit them at a certain level and not allow him to be able to advance more okay so that's un Associates The Bachelor just the comtable circle the certificate for interior design that's not going to allow a person to work on that level at all it allow person to work as an interior designer okay so each one has its value and once again to be able to determine it really depends on on what we're seeking to be able to accomplish uh the last type you know I'd say is where certificat just don't help you know there are certain Fields um that generally they hopefully don't hopefully don't make certific for these things that they're not going to help them at all okay but it's always important to check right that that uh that you know it may sound nice okay but it's not it's just like you come with a certificate no one's going to look at you okay so that's why it's always important to get guidance understand if you're going to go the certificate route right to know whether it's appropriate for the person and what the real value is going to be okay so we spoke about degrees right we spoke about bu we spoke about M we spoke about certificates right so the question is is what path you know it's right for us you know how do we figure that how do we figure out that path for our child um so you know we it started when I started with I think the end of K so I think that um there's a beautiful idea right the tar teaches us how to get to this answer so in earlier on in in uh in kadan where actually we're we're taught about teaching our children in inness so on they asked where do we learn out that uh that that where do we learn out that father should teach his son a trade so right there a from and so what's quite fascinating here is is that if you look at this the means is a trade so what's is so the gar says two approaches either we say Isha is a wife and then therefore just like a father needs to marry off his son to a wife he also needs to teach us son a trade the other option is that Isa is Torah right Torah is called Isa in other places as well and therefore just like a father needs to teach his son Torah he needs to teach his son a trade so the maral in as a fascinating insight and there the the says that a person who's into the of his a person that goes into the the like the the trade of his friends inappropriately so say the following right that a person who goes into the of a person of a friend so it's as if he was being unfaithful with his friends with his friend's spouse says above a so the maral says what do we see over here right we see over here that that is that a person's is also called is so we have on one hand Torah is called Isha we have on the other hand Isa is called Isha and we have also an omness is called an Isa so the moral says there in he says that's called to him so therefore Isa person has a connection with his wife hopefully we have a connection with our Torah right and a person's ownness is something that a person has a deep connection to it's interesting that in shabas that when it speaks about what we're allowed to do in shabas so the the the in shabas says right that there um Mar chabas says brought as well but we can what we do right and also also again and what's the connection so if I was here talking about tonight not um and everyone was sitting here and they were saying okay so tell me who you know so you would say to me okay R broker tell me who my son should marry so if I tried to answer that question without asking you a question first so then I probably shouldn't be standing well I'm not sh anyways but I can't answer who your son should marry I need to ask you a question tell me about your son right in order to be able to understand who a person's spouse is you have to be able to understand who the person is what's the person's what's the person like what type of wife does he need what are his Kos what are his right how does he interact with other people once I understand the person so then I can think about being M and that's why we have a sh right a hell you have an objective opinion of how to be able to connect that that person with a spouse the same thing with Torah right and often I was involved for years right you could have a person that may grow up and uh and he says Tor is not for me Torah is not for him the Torah that he was exposed to is not for him right because for that person right what he was learning was wasn't his wasn't something he was mised to right so so if you want to be able to understand the ne of right we have to be able to understand who he is and then understand his very nature and then find that aspect of Torah that he could connect to and the same thing comes to when trying to give teach trade to our children in order to be able to understand what path to go on right go there I sounds overwhelming there so many different ways right it starts with understanding the child can't tell you you know examples that that that I've had you know sitting with with with clients different ages and didn't just happen once or twice where you know the guy tells me I don't know I dropped out of school you know I wasn't really you know didn't really I bounced around got a GED I don't really you know things schools for me I don't know really what's going to be for me you know what really came out right was was that what he was learning in school wasn't for him and it's fascinating is that in career counseling uh theory of you know the six work environments and work personalities the classical school model only addresses between two and three of them which means that you can have a student right who would be the best businessman he's going to be the you know the top you know fix it guy he's going to be the best social worker is going to be the person who's teaching art therapy and is going to make it the biggest difference in the world and he's not going to do well in a school which is mainly focused on math and science so and and what we do in counseling is help the person realize what their talents are and help them realize that it's not a matter of not being successful it's a matter of understanding how you can be successful so to answer the question on what path to take the answer really is is is the answer really is is the best path to take is a path in which at least us as parents and perhaps the school depending on what school you're going to choose understands that each child is different and pays attention to the nuances in that learning style in the classroom and it could even be the learning style in the Shar and gar because if a person's in tune he realizes is that that same thing which is that reason why he's not connecting with that suya is the same reason why he's not connected to that math problem and you realize the same reason why he connects to the muser could be the same reason why he's really excited when there's an event that they're organizing you know but that's not really considered to be so the environment that we put our children in right with with with with people that are looking out for them that understand our children understand that there are different types of um of intelligence and there are different types of strength and is able to focus in on that and then provide that environment which is going to facilitate our children to grow and to feel successful and to be successful as they are that's the best path because unfortunately what can happen is is that a person can go through school and in the worst case scenario feel himself as being a failure and he's totally not a failure but he'll actually view himself as a failure only because the environment that he was in right and wasn't made for him so before I sum up and then we'll have questions I just want to point out one other um one other area that as parents irrelevant to whatever system we're going to send our kids through we can Empower our children for Success so recent studies show something also very fascinating is is that what because 87% of graduates think that they're ready for the workforce only around 50% of the the the employers actually think that they are and it's something which is being studied and it's very fascinating you know all the different theories of why this has happen but there are core competencies research papers that have been written like the core competencies that are needed in the 21st century that people are not getting into school and you know what they are any want to take a guess computer skills computer skills computer skills okay skills people skills okay okay compter okay practical right okay so common sense what was the last thing you said Common Sense common sense so it seems funny okay that's just uh that's how the story just my from my R just my uh my re M Weinberger said a story that one time he brought his son to a to a big and he wanted a br and um you're expecting you B you should be he's like you should be a men should be normal Ander said like I only now appreciate like you know like what that braa was like Common Sense we would think like you know you you're right because what the studies show is is what's lacking communication skills badly the ability to be able to write right which the the researchers are sh because of everything that's going on with technology if people just text instead of writing emails and and and and as some we St with employers that have reported this us people can't write they just don't not able to write public speaking right not having social anxiety being able to face people right um Integrity responsibility these are the competencies that is coming out in the research that managers that come from the old generation are saying we can't find them in all the college graduates teamwork what's so important for us to realize as parents is that all of these competencies which are called soft skills and employment World um these are things that we can teach to our kids and our Helm right whe they're learning KES and by preparing our kids with these skills we are giving them the skills that are needed in order for them to succeed in our future right so you know I think that we've earned learned a lot today but you know whatever path you're going to choose you know which requires careful Guidance the careful understanding of your child right to realize that whatever that path is going to be that we can Empower our children by giveing them these skills and finally um if we're going to go in a path that's going to say m for me um you know maybe minina maybe certificates it's so crucial to work with our children to give them the basic skills that they need because the reason why people are not making it m is because you know if you've ever crammed for a test I don't know if you did but there's some things you could cram for a test and some things you can't right English math the things that require time right and that's why generally they're taught over years because it needs to build and it needs to build and therefore if we even if it's not being taught in the school system that we go through um but um if we work with our children on the side um through enrichment programs It's actually an idea that that so is looking to launch professional enrichment programs that will help parents to be able to give their kids skills that that you know are going to lead to something um so that's also something that we can also end do with our kids um so I think that if we know work with all that we spoken today um then you know we'll of course a lot of like we saw in the beginning and a lot of um will be in in being able to give over to our children um that and I just just the end which is I thought I heard that my rebi as well very powerful so P but the word so there's a Rashi in that is talking about the L speaking about uh the last generation um it's a it's a door that there's no there's no om no so Rashi says two different explanations he says what's what is the of so one we know from the okay Bel and the other one we know from the from the M right the was Oma right that he was nurtured and that he he brought UPA so the word omness really means is that when we have the belief in that those natural qualities that our children have right we have that amuna and we're able through that amuna to be Omen to be able to bring out those skills that our kids have that's all actually included in the word omus that's what call a trait anus right because that's the key of being able to be successful uh in preparing our children for the future