Parashat Mishpatim: Which Kidney To Donate? Respecting Widows & Orphans, Being Pareve & More

welcome welcome to our viewers on tour anytime this month and really will bring with it real real Sim all inclusive Sim Sim that we wait for for 2,000 years want to dedicate this she for him and his family should have we have a sh today with a bunch of interesting stuff questions and answers that to ask some riddles some interesting stories let's start the starts with those activities that one is allowed to do un shabis are you allowed to tell your slave go do that for me the activity itself is permissible but the T says your slave is supposed to rest on chabas resting on chabas perhaps also means resting from you the master does the master have the right to tell his slave what to do on chabas he has to listen to him or no what do you say you say forbidden for you the activity is is permissible to every to a Jew do my favor give me that saer don't that's a permissible action on Monday on Tuesday and on chabas when I say this to my slave on shabas he has to listen to me but commanded him he should rest resting means resting from only activities which are not permissible in shabas it also means resting from your master you don't have to listen to him no what what do you mean he has to listen not can I want to know if he has to he has to you're thinking ofi that's told me I didn't see anybody speaking about this kki told me yes he has to listen to his master another interesting question right after that the says that if one strikes his friend and now he can't work so his friend has to pay him all kinds of uh compensations CH bua one can't work for a week so his friend has to pay him for the fact that he made him not be able to work what if a person broke his friend's arm and now he has a cast the cast is supposed to be there for seven days so he has to pay them for seven days that he couldn't work however the seventh day is on chabas or the seventh day is on Tuesday but it goes to the clinic and the doctor is not there the doctor's notification is coming back tomorrow so say even though it can heal in seven days his friend can't work as a result of what he did for eight days but on the eighth day is just a GMA it's indirect the direct is what he did to him he broke his arm by the eighth day just because the doctor is not here but he can't take it off without the doctor he needs the doctor so he has to wait another day does he have to pay him for seven days that in theory that's what he damaged or including the indirect damage the Eighth Day no you started right you want to lose your points so you want to what are you saying doesn't have to pay him you just lost your points again I didn't see anybody speaking about this I looked all over I came up with my own but they're not worth too much so I asked told me it makes sense he also didn't have a sour makes sense to say that he gets the extra day as well but now you're even it's okay you're even maybe we'll have more chances later why can't you let me some about feel his his muscle so it's the muscle of the person that calls the N that he's got to pay for nextra death we have a r you want to take that money from somebody else's pocket I love burden of proof is on you not sure that's strong enough of a source because here the to decided there are five different things that one has to pay one of them is called chevis nobody understands Chev means the time that he can't work to add another day you say that when but but when the doctor says it's exactly seven days that's the damage and after seven days he really is fine he can go but indirectly Gama what can he do the doctor's not in the clinic he can't help him say question we welcome Rabbi wi R coming all the way from Brooklyn New York just to hear this year going right back to New York right after this right now you're not going to make it on time you have to stay for shabas and RAB from where is he there's a sadik who wants to donate a kidney sadik it really is one of the great greatest forms of not a but it's the greatest Mitzvah one who can do it but now he comes with a question he passed all the test he's fitting for that job everything is great he just wants to know should he donate the right kidney or the left doesn't make a difference what's the difference a kidney is a kidney or maybe not what should he donate the right kidney or the left does it make a difference he can't donate both so it's got to be one right or left or toss a coin usually the right usually the right and why is that the right has more more yeah so keep it to yourself if has more keep it to yourself [Music] it if you go go all out that's what you're saying you're not going to get both can't give both anyone has a different interesting how about you say one which is the Wecker one they're both equal doctor says both are perfect perfect up to you a loty TOS a coin if it was so simple M wouldn't ask M looking for a source one has two kidneys kidneys are one's advisers says one advises him he's a good adviser and the other and the other is a bad advisor says the but I don't know who's who who's the good adviser says the it makes sense to say that the right one is the good advisor why says the over there but that's talking about the heart yeah says the M but the heart is not an advisor the heart gets its ideas from the advisers who are the kidneys so it makes sense to say that refers to the adviser on the right side that's the right kidney the Mas also says with that we understand why why the plugged it there in and that refers to what it should really say you have two hearts so says Ser with both hearts says you don't have two hearts you only have one says the Mas this refers to the two advisers make sure that they both working for that one heart and saying the right thing so if the right kidney is the good advisor you should keep the right kidney for yourself you want to give away your good advisor and remain with the with the bad one based on that all is equal and there both the doctor says you can keep you can give any which one that you want we would have to give the left one the asked many wonder what does that mean that the kidneys are the advisers to the heart and the says and he says that's what he's calling the surgeons they say that they're very thin blood vessels that connect the kidneys to the heart and then to the brain so everything is intertwined everything is connected and your kidneys are your advisers since we're on the topic of medicine and healing he shall surely heal that's what the the says it's a double language why do you have to say can't you just say one word and end it so there's many interpretations on it is carries a lot of weight and they say normally when one goes to the doctor and the doctor wasn't successful or he didn't like what he said what does he do opin he goes to second opinion says if you went to the doctor and it wasn't successful don't you understand it's a sign from he doesn't want doctors to help you so maybe you would think it's an is to go to the second doctor wanted you to be healed he only needs one doctor he doesn't need you to go to 15 different doctors so the first one is the first doctor you went and it wasn't successful the gives you permission the second word to tell you you can still go for that second opinion and go from does want you to do the to be healed so that it comes out that's the second doctor's permission to heal otherwise second doctor should say you were already by a doctor before sorry I can't touch you but said exactly the opposite sometimes you go to the doctor and he damages you more than he actually helps you so sometimes the first doctor the first doctor not the second there is's no second doctor the first doctor has to go and fix what he himself wrecked the first time around that's the first time around what he himself damaged now he has to go back and fix what he did the and the who from the Disciples of the about 450 years ago from the time of and he says sometimes there only one body part that's infected that's you feel it it's painful but the whole body suffers you should surely heal both don't just address that body part try to address the entire body the branches that's we're going to translate into English because it's called un that's the name of the and he says why does a person become sick because of his sins there's a spiritual reason that caused the manifestation of the physical ailment so fix that phys fix that spiritual problem and we melee you're going to be healed that's why double language fix the spiritual one and you'll enjoy a physical healing perhaps in a different way requested to become sick both first of all he didn't request to be sick he asked why is there no sickness in the world so said oh yeah it's a great idea we're going to start with you he didn't specifically ask for it but this is written many years after y so we don't have a problem maybe ver wi double language the doctor tries to heal ver and you have to go and do so you go to the doctor and you actually really think doctor's going to help me says no no is the one who heals and you have to go to the doctor as a mean of but not to think that the doctor is the one who actually is in charge of things it's only maybe there two types of medicine two types of healings that one requires sometimes after one takes medicine since the Body Works in Synergy so the whole body is affected it affects in a good way certain body parts or that part that's has the problem but it can negatively affect other parts in the body and therefore ver is going to heal both that body part which is damaged and those other parts in the body that were affected as a result of the medicine you took to heal that body part also that says it's normal that after a person is healed later on he goes back to the same sickness so therefore that it should be and the person should not need again to go to the doctor and some medicines are very very good for what they address but they're terrible for other things terrible how much terrible and therefore the it should both fix both things sometimes doctors cannot figure it's termin And yet when you go back the infection is gone says I'm quoting afflictions at the time that sends them to the person he makes them take a he makes the virus take a that you will leave the body of that person at a specific date through specific means specific medicines through specific person that means the doctor so sometimes the person goes to 1 2 3 four five doctors that doctor no one like it it's the fifth doctor he's unbelievable it's not true it's the virus that took the before it was sent that it's going to go through it's going to go out from your body through that person on that specific day is it the doctor or the patient the person who's making the to not the patient the virus the Affliction at the time that them to the person he makes them the the afflictions take leave that person's body the says there's a show that gour person killed it we are going to execute the show can you eat that show no why not you already got executed the punishment was carried I'm asking why why can't you read it no I could have asked in the way of a riddle how is it possible that one can e without a that says you take the two one goes goes the discusses that one goes to and the language of the gor is when you throw it down you push it off the cliff that's considered technically speaking you have a as if was even though it wasn't so you can say the same thing could have said once you push it off that is I'm asking why is care that I'm not going to eat it says an amazing thing this B took a life a life of Aid if he's going to be eaten he's going to become a part of Aid that's just not right he took a life of a person now he's going to become one of that people took a life of and therefore he cannot have that to elevate itself to become a part of a Jewish person I think maybe a different way thean in sh says why is it that the said this and this and this animal stay away these are Kosher what's the difference between them the ran says those animals which are not Kosher are predators they are cruel and when you eat something which has cruelty that Mida attaches with you it changes your DNA M it changes the person and therefore could be that's the reason says why do we have to give him because he killed someone he displayed cruelty I don't want my people to have this me of Cruelty and therefore stay away way Fisher fish will eat other fish the ran is talking about the birds and he's talking about the animals he's not talking about the fish the animals display cruelty the Predators stay away from them this show is that be that displayed cruelty so even though technically speaking it's a kosher animal right now stay away what about what about fish that's what he asked not to this equation not to this equation some change as they grow up they shake off their their scales as long as it has fin scales or it has it's koser but we're not talking about the mid of fish we're talking about the midles of birds and animals the says don't afflict the widow or the orphan it's dangerous can be a dangerous business to do thatuna almost lost his life because he got this Alman upset and he was right didn't do anything wrong but but she was upset don't get an Alman upset it's Risky Business you know B salanos in 2 months from now time of Nan we go outside we say for the tree that's starting to blo there's a to say this when you see two trees can still say it on one but there a beautification of this to say it when you see two trees walked for a long time every single year to the same house and he said a over a tree and they told him re you're walking so much there's a place has two trees much closer to your house what are you doing why do you prefer to go to a place where there's only one tree where can have two trees which is aah and you're walking so long he says I have a different Mitzvah said why you do Mitzvah is it a nicer looking tree says no this tree belongs to an almana it's in her yard and I've been doing it for years and if she's going to see that I prefer something else she's going to break her heart and that's my huah that's a beautiful hu mitvah so we cannot upset the Alman or the orphan why why is it so terrible more so than other people so explain normally when you upset a a woman who's married where does she go she runs to her husband look what he did to me when you upset an orphan sorry when you're upset a kid who has a father what does he do he runs to his father but these people say that's his language they're weaklings they don't have any they don't have whom to run to they're on their own they don't have any support and therefore says they don't have anybody supporting them I will be their support so you're starting up with an Al or in essence you're starting up with that's why it's so risky why is it from she be in the same situation say it again who one we're we're getting there we're getting there in one second the in his commentary the brings the words of the and he says says when the says Al that's just an example it's all those poor NE people who don't have somebody helping them says no the says Al it means Al says it means according to the opinion the first opinion that it includes everybody who is in the same position like the orphan and the Widow what about ausha what about a lady who's divorced is she in fact included in this because he also doesn't have whom to rely on or not I asked this Toki says to me I don't think so said the same thing he says the is talking about an Al the obviously you can't cause anyone in CL we're just talking about for the price of one you CA the person and he's also Al you have two for the price of one when you do that to a lady who's divorc did you get two for the price of one or do you only have one negative commandment in your basket fine so tells me I think that the almana is in much worse position than the gusa She's suffering much more than a person with a lady who's divorced and therefore he add to me something else he says but you know you see from this the of the Mitzvah what's the essence of this Mitzvah these people don't have home to rely on oh so don't cause him any what an Insight he says to me you know if that's the case a husband who upsets his wife she is also like an Alman she doesn't have whom to go to she doesn't have who to rely on M you should be extremely extremely careful to honor your wife because otherwise it's as if alive Al Mana what are insight it's a beautiful thought I found a source to what he say from the words for Words listen he says the main wish of a wife is that her husband should treat her treat her have any Yak any anything to do with her look at her if she thinks if she thinks my husband does care about me he says almost she is in great pain and sadness as if she was an Al have another source I found and the in his commentary the says if the Alana sits without any connection with her husband I'm sorry if the wife sits without any connection whether she's liking from her husband even if she has all the gold and assets and all the other pleasures of the world she is not happy and it's all as if it's not worth anything for her as long as her husband doesn't treat her with respect and divorce maybe she's better off without him because he was treating her terribly I was m to what you're saying next next line the main difference is between Alman and GA is that the Alman lost her husband she didn't do anything about it the G first of all maybe she said I want to be divorced or in her her behavior maybe she caused it so and Alman is much worse off also we don't see that the to said you know what what about a single lady but she's old and her parents are very old they can't help her anymore or a married woman but her husband is sick her husb husband traveled so she also doesn't have whom to rely on when somebody does something to her but what's the difference as long as the only said Al and that's where it ends but now what if the wife killed her husband you did it for a kid goes to his father and he shoots him be careful don't cause him you did it to yourself how does that work what do you say say you don't like it temporary insanity temporary insanity so they checked and he's fine he's 100% should we does is he included in this P or not obviously not went before answer maybe we should bring from is there anyone who's exempt from K A doesn't have a father right if you don't have a father you don't the MIT doesn't start one who has a father father's right next to him he says I don't have to respect you he's saying our father is a Ras you know who that ISU doesn't have to honor his father what about Kia the king what did he do he dragged the bones of his father the wicked over the whole town why so he should have Bion and he should atone for his sins who gave him permission to do that it's one thing not to respect a father but you can disgrace and cause sorrow to a father even if he's a Rasha so give him permission to do that but was he didn't to to but who says it has to be through you use somebody else else how can you do that you can cause a Russ father even though you don't have to pursue a connection with him a relationship and honor him he stilla can't cause him there's a in the there's another cursed who disgraces his father so give permission is exempt from the MIT because there are three partners in creation of man they are his father his mother in essence gave up his part when he gave him over to n to put him in the furnace so when you give up your part what is exempt from K what happened with how come was allowed to do this the says that the wicked gave over his son what do they do there they transform over fire and basically supposed to die so why wasn't he die why didn't he die because his mother's wife shmeed his body with blood from the fish called salamandra and that's a protective shield fire can't touch you we don't know what salamandra is today I think maybe you guys do but if you do if you shmear it on your body you're protected from fire so he gave up his part in this kid he's no longer associated with him and that's why the say brings us that he was able to drag his bones all across down comes out that if the Alman kills her husband she gave up that support it's just similar to the father that gives up his part in his son there's no longer she loses the title of a regular almana that you're not allowed to cause sorrow or another the concludes if a son kills his father does he get to yusha you want to kill and you want to get the spoils who said that to him to whom after he killed he wanted the vineyard is you want to kill and you get every reward the only problem with that is that understand it differ look at the over there inim I think it's B I think but I'm not sure say an unbelievable thing and others as well the the Nai said to him you think you're going to kill Naval any you're going to enjoy that Vineyard the truth is you're entitled to it but you're going to die in the same place that this man died Nal the dogs will come and they will kill you and they will lick your blood so technically speaking you're right you're going to get the theor argues why that isn't men maybe is it because he was a relative or because the assets of a person who was executed by the king go go to the king but say you are entitled to it but guess what it's not going to happen to you here so it's exactly opposite in Hebrew it's called so the theu says a son who kills his father is not entitled to the which means you lost that title called a regular orphan she lost that title called a regular would't apply but the says that one who kills his father is entitled to the very similar to this that's one parent or both parents it doesn't make a difference he killed his father he's supposed to get the from his father in terms of the title the father because he would run to his father for help in case something happened another B we learn that kazal instituted that the young orphan should not be placed with his brothers who would inherit him the father died with six kids each one gets one six don't keep the little kid with the older brothers why not why not cuz they may kill him because they want a bigger part of the pie and says was and some say over there the first day that this little orph came to live with his brothers and they cheed himed him so the says dangerous business don't do that you see if they wouldn't be entitled to the yusha why would kazal have to to Institute it it must be that they're entitled to the yusha when means when you're killing someone you do get the yha based on that the almana who kills her husband is still within the Commandment don't afflict an Alman I don't understand how a Jewish person would be suspected doing things like something like that like Lear laws of GI two Jewish men are be allow allowed to be together in the room cuz we don't suspect that the sin will take place really so really that who is the holiest man in the world no right now today B who's the holiest man in the planet no one like him right says a must have a replacement aute in case something happens to him on the holiest day of the year the holiest man in the world is not allowed to be in the same room with his sub why says the maybe havu maybe he's going to kill him what you think you're going to come instead of me who you talking to which means we apparently are humans and we have and the greater you are so the also grows and the is gigantic so can't go with if it we try to prevent for going there people who are not so I asked a woman who who killed her husband a son who killed her his father is he also included in this so witty so sharp he says to me first bring him to Bas let's give him skila and then we'll talk so I don't give up I said re B in is on vacation they're not here it's going to take some time until we give him skila from the time they killed until we actually execute them how about then if I cause them am I transgressing this or not says to me you're not allowed to I said I know I'm not allowed to cause them because anyway you're to anyone in my question is is it two for the price of one he says to me they're not entitled to this which means you're only transgressing only transgressing only only one is so I'm sorry I came to and I asked him about uh a guy came with me an older guy who became an orphan when he was 8 years old so he wanted to know until when does he carry this title when can I stop saying I'm an orphan you know ultimately most people do lose their parents at one point when when the parents get to 120 when does he stop being an orphan said so he continues to ask he says I heard from that orphans has have special where is there a source to that it's there's no source to that it makes sense says I'm going to be your father he's the father of all orphans also speaks about this and he says one has to be extremely careful not to afflict Not to cause any to a widow and the Mish says until when are they called until they don't need anyone and they can do everything that they need to do on their own he doesn't give a number he doesn't give 13 as a number he just says until they don't need to rely on on others getri that's a good question some hold yeah and some after they lost their wives and they were offered to get married with an they said no I'm afraid of this trans transgression that maybe if I'm going to say once wrong word I'm not just causing sorrow to my wife I'm causing to Al it's Risky Business dangerous said can lose your lose your wife it's already no it doesn't go into it's like going to a Minefield you may explode why do I need it it's there's a if she's still entitled to that title or not marri anymore technically speaking she is a married woman but losing one's husband not the devastation so therefore there's a about this don't know what will be otherwi other than you will be transgressing two for the price of one a widow a widow who marries a widow who married his second husband dies who should she be buried with first husband died then she got married remarried and her second husband back where should she say she wants to death I have a better question for you what happens am who she going to be with first husband second third or fourth can she have a third or fourth can she have a third or fourth can she have a third no why what is she called however there are exemptions and sometimes we do allow to get married I ask my mother-in-law where does she want to be buried she says I'll want to be buried par Israel next to her grand near her grandson most would go with the first husband first husband and that also usually according to the Z is whom she's going to rise foring with some say that it's with the person that she fixed more things with rectifications in the what if she kill her first probably not probably not it's probably not a good idea to be buried next next to him does say that two people who hate each other should not be together but they do say after they die after 12 months after their demise they can't be brought together because they already did make made peace up there if she killed him I don't think he's making peace with her anyone you know it doesn't make a difference how long after the riddle of the week is also same sure sure but we he saying worse even when she's not Nuna he's living with her in the same house but he upsets her and she can't run to him for support she is if like like a the ridd of the week maybe we'll have another one later can it be that one turns his head just because he did this he just lost money $1,000 when I call you do you you turn turn your head you're walking the street and I call your name do you turn your head you just lost $1,000 how can this be don't turn your head not everybody together can't hear you when you're yelling at me one by one yeah the only thing that can think to see ,000 I'm not talking I'm talking before a little what's that watching it's $1,000 I think it's $50 million okay you're in a car and you look the wrong way and you smack and the damage was only ,000 says the she you owe me $1,000 can be any number and he takes out a you say and your name you owe me $1,000 they go to B and shim says I'm not shim my name is if there are no witnesses to prove that this man is actually shim and he's not as he claims you can't take out money from his pocket but if he walks in the streets and somebody calls him shim yeah you just lost $1,000 be careful if you sign anything don't turn your head that refers to and this therefore it gives us a chance to speak a little bit ding you know there there's a guy that shortly after his wedding stopped Ding and his wife was so upset she didn't know what's going on so day after day he doesn't go to sh anymore he used to be such a 25 minutes and now so his friends go over to him and say what's going on how come you stop ding he said you know in all the got up and they spoke and they said wow you must know how to dve and you D so well look what you got refering to my wife so I figured if this is what you get for ding well I don't need this type of favors thank you very much but there really it was a Kala who came to B and she says to the don't know don't know what happened to my uh husband he stopped going to Sho used to go to sh all the time shortly after the wedding he stopped going to Sho so the Dian calls this husband and he says what happened how come you sto going to show he says listen during all the got up and they said you are now building a dwelling place for the Divine you are building a I want to D in a holy place so I soan says to him tell me are you planning to sh some be there today as well yes it's true a house if the husband and wife do everything right dwells there in their house but it's like aash and we have shs who are referred to by is mdash so one has to go in there was a father once who came to the I I didn't see here but do call this a Min mdard there was a father who came to the G re with his 2-year-old and he said re I want you to give a to my son he should remain as kados as he is now so re says listen your son looks very cute and I'm sure he's very special but why are you calling him kadosh he says you know re when I let him play with Legos you know what he does immediately every single time I do this he builds thin it's unbelievable so he must be very holy he's very colish and therefore give him a that he remain holy and the re says to him you know I'm sure your son is very very special but I'm not so sure about you you know why he's building f a 2-year-old doesn't know what F looks like because his father is in the Sho putting a f you probably D at home so he keeps seeing your F that's why he's building a f so I don't know about I know about your son he's very special but I'm not so sure about you there was a ra here in Israel used to go to uh the prison to give shim and to encourage the inmates he D with him so once he davens with him and he Sayes that right after some guys already taking off the he says the what's the rush if anyone is not in a rush it's you guys how long are you here for he says 5 years but you 15 years why what's the rush why you taking says surprised don't you know how important it is to keep Jewish tradition my father used to take it off right after my grandfather used to take it off right after you don't change me hugging right already say the letters is the same letters as if it's a bad minute it's a mitvah to change so yes it's allowed and permitted to go to the sh to D it in the sh and to keep the until the end of DAV so while we're on topic of DAV there is a father who stayed home he has a son who's 15 years old and a baby a 2-year-old in their is only one minion for and it's 5 minutes before only one can go to DAV whom should go to Davin should the father send his son and say listen it's my obligation to stay with a kid with a baby I'll stay and I'll watch him I we have to be to educate you in to D in a minion so go to D or maybe the son should say the father should say to the son you know what you stay when you're staying here you're doing you're also doing and when you're engaged in aah you're so I think I'm going to go who should go very the dad and that is why that's what I thought I wrote about it I went to and they both agreed with me I went to he didn't agree with me he said in this case you have two choices whatever you pick is right so it's not that we're wrong but there's another Choice here in case the kid is not B Mitzvah now there's still a baby here but there's a kid who is um 10 11 12 who can be a babysitter but can also go DAV in that case clear that the father should go because his obligation to DAV and Dominion is higher than the obligation of the kid but in case according to if in the first case the father can choose whatever he wants according to the other opinions it should be the father another regarding which I think for some reason is an unknown we learn that when one finishes he is not allowed to turn around you see it on a regular basis in you finish more and it's still time until the starts so people do the fan action and they start going from right to oh this guy came today oh that's I didn't see him a long time oh very nice he also came this guy oh look what he's wearing one is not allowed to turn around after he finished his until thein finishes and the reasons brought are amazing what's that no no until the cousin finishes his silent prayer and he's going to start theous a petition but why the Mish there brings unbelievable two reasons from the he brings already from the T he brings from The Unbelievable first reason and this is so practical when you turn around and you look at someone he feels it even though his eyes are in the sit he feels somebody's looking at me and that's going to ruin his kavana very practical the other reason is unbelievable if you're turning around says you know what people are going to be saying about you how is it possible I'm only in M this guy's really finished I think he skipped a few words and you're not allowed to cause people to suspect you according to this first reason this should apply to a person who's not daving and Sh he's just sitting and learning here he's sitting and learning they're still daving thean is still daving he won't be allowed to turn around because you're wrecking somebody else's kaval you feel somebody's eyes are on you you feel it I asked agreed with me so I don't know why it's that doesn't get too much attention it's a it's I think in all the versions it appears there didn't take it off before they take step to make sure the guy finished behind that you're allowed to just to make sure you're allowed to take the steps back otherwise you can't take the steps you took the steps stay there standing waiting for the not sitting and also not learning not it's not time for learning now unless but you know there's another 40 minutes to go before they start you can learn otherwise you can say anything that's connected to one can say that time but that's not time for learning or not even talking for talking not talking about that that's clear see many times learning while waiting for I'm not lead there is a saying which I think is very true no one ever became Al from learning in and no one ever became Rich from leaving sh 5 minutes early who gives the money and even if you'll stay till the end of knows where to find you and if you really want to become say they two parall lines that don't meet you come here to not time for learning what if your mind you know like shot so your mind uh sometimes you you lose lose track lose track of Ding and you your mind goes other places so better to say you can't let you learn so that you don't you don't your mind doesn't go off to say business or something then you have a new problem your mind then you have a new problem everybody around you are going to be looking at the who's doing the wrong thing and learning from the to do the wrong thing so you're teaching other is something we not allowed to do so you have to somehow somehow remove those thoughts from your head and open up the S and a thing to assist you will be to put the finger and follow thean word for word and you'll see Miracles you'll see you'll be able to have kavana and to follow every single word and if it doesn't work the first time try it again if it doesn't work the second time by the 100th time I promise you it'll work try unbelievable observation the language of the is it's good to be careful not to speak after you say until you say and you eat the bread great the M explains why that is because the is an independent mitzah you did it already but we're afraid you're going to have until the time you come to eat and therefore we don't want you to speak but say if you did speak and you didn't have you're fine you don't have to wash your hands again that's one says about a person who speaks during harsh language and if he spoke he is a sinner and his sin is too great to bear and we yell at him and embarrass him publicly said unbelievable thing did you ever see in your life someone after speaking when it says he's a sinner and his sin is too great to bear and we are him that's probably not what it means you have to look at the that's probably not what it means when it says it's good to be careful not to speak that means you'd rather die not do [Music] it I can't speak but when it says decides he want you and lay on shabas he'll come up to you during he you your name are you allowed to answer him yeah that's he's afraid if you're going to do the beginning of DAV he doesn't have such a good memory is he going to forget by the time now so is pretty close the time he's going to call you for him it works best that will be permitted but the million doll question is will my prayer be heard I know myself from the one of the not even from the not from the I know myself will my prayer be heard the answer is an unbelievable ramban in our the says I will hear when you afflict the person who doesn't have and you take away His Garment why will I listen because I am merciful what is what is this word says the ran I am merciful and I listen and I accept the prayer of any person even though he is not worthy comes from comes free of charge doesn't make a difference who you are you open your mouth talk to he listens what is this talking about don't start thinking I lend money to a person he's a so every day I'm going to come back and give him what he that garment because otherwise he doesn't have what to wear but if it's not such a sadik you know what I'm not going to give him back His Garment who cares so he's going to cry to doesn't listen says don't think like that because will listen to his prayer that's why he said because I am merciful I listen to the prayer the Ys of anyone doesn't make a difference who the person is as long as he opens his M mouth and has he wants to have a connection with in this pra that they said so maybe in a new light the has so I understand what is what is between man and his fellow how does that work so could be encamped there last week says famous their main thing was that's why they were able to receive the so if it's all about and that's when they said that means to be active to extend your hand how can I help what can I do to help you it actually miss means to listen listen when your friend is talking even in a he an argument you have to listen you have to allow the person to say what he wants to say and to listen sometimes all the other person needs is to vent he just needs to say something and you need to be there just on the other end just listening and that's all that's needed that's the N sometimes and that's sometimes the nishma and in fact says there's a says says if you have worry in your heart what should you do the says say don't read it rather say it to others just having a companion just being able to sh to share the L to say it to someone else that's and maybe don't read it nishma there's no dots in the meaning we will say positive words encouraging words compliments to others that's how you create Theus that comes fromma maybe between is n obviously those mitz that demand our actions but nishma is all those mitz which are dependent on the ear what MIT dependent on the ear and we will make sure not to hear the wrong things and which means we will say to others to allow them to hear only the right things we end with another riddle of the week a tough one maybe not four answers four possible points be careful can it be says don't eat meat and milk together right is it can it be that there's a person who can only eat parf he's not allowed to have me not allowed to have dairy not for medical reasons not he didn't take any vows on himself nor and yet he is only allowed to have power four possible answers asazi at the end of the day the evening before once the nine days kick in he's not allowed to have meat he ate meat 5 minutes before the day start before kicks in so now for the next 5 hours 5 5 minutes he won't be able to have dairy because he's fles he won't be able to have meat because 9 days and his far count toart the we of he can't have any meat so he eats sh he eats meat M shabas comes in he can't have any meat nine days for the week of and he can't have any Dar yet because he's still FL good you T one out of four you got two points if you don't know the rest you're going to take off your points or you can gain more by having three more answers can it be three different answers say a ah not a anus a person's relative died but he ate meat two minutes before that and then told him oh you know your father died so now he's an O until burial when he's called an O he's not allowed to have meat so he can't have meat now because he's aned he can't have dairy because he's still fles from what8 five minutes ago 6 hours he only can only power good you got two out of four two more unknown we're asking it in a form of riddle to be able to say which again I think for some reason is an underrated it's not unknown it says a person who comes to for the very first time in his life sees the in its destruction is not allowed to have me or wine I'm not going to ask you show hands how many people know this I don't know why people don't know this people do come here for the first time and they take pictures look I'm at the supposed to be crying the whole day so if 5 minutes before on the plane he had a beautiful F and then they take him to the first time in his life he's not allowed to have now for the rest of the day meat and for the next 6 hours he can five and a half whatever time is that he's from time that he ate fles he can't have milk the final answer somebody asked me he he said I had real yellow cheese that requires 6 hours separation for me and then accidentally 2 hours later I totally forgot about it cuz I normally don't eat it and I had a nice piece of steak fine now what does that do now I made a mistake fine good now once you already ate meat do you have permission to go ahead and eat more meat like says the language is one who atees who ate garlic and he's now doesn't have such an Pleasant odor should he continue to do to eat more and more garlic no you're not allowed to it comes out if he ate this type of cheese and then he ate meat now for the next 6 hours he can't have milk because he just ate meat he also is still in the 4 hours that from the eating the cheese and therefore he won't be able to have the meat and the same thing if he ate meat and 2 hours accidentally later he ate a piece of really yellow cheese that requires 6 hours very hard to come by these days the regular yellow chees that they sell in the stores does not require so so long but there are some ches like that in the world those that they process for for a year those require full 6 hours Parmesan Parmesan real parmesan so in that case again if he ate meat and accidentally ate milk 2 hours later that that not milky this parmesan cheese so then for the next four hours he still can't eat meat and and he still can't eat he 6 hours he can't eat meat because he ate perm and cheese and he still 4 hours can't eat um Dairy because before he ate meat could be an exception to that yeah suppose a person is a without of Shar and he's got no man in himself and he's just decided after after eating that he decided to take on ra and his Rabbi happened to come from Holland so weing with his RAB first of all would be correct yeah and second of all you should ask not abouta this you should ask this again on the way to the B de he has meat and milk together we can't charge him with anything he still a what is he allowed to eat them is it a a that just had a nice steak on the way to B and now he converted is what do we call we could do whatever he wants or maybe say you still have piece of meat in your mouth cheese