Choosing a Burial Plot (Afterlife #10)

of um the Kev we talk we spoke about there's 11 Mas there's 11 uh channels that a person goes through until he finally gets his final destination as we all know Final Destination but in the meantime we're in the beginning where we mentioned that there's a position of going from the house until the Kev and uh that itself is a certain din on top of a person when he goes from the house to the Kev that's why he said we Tred to hurry up we try to speed up the uh the transferring to the Kev as soon as possible that's why we don't leave it we spoke about being buried in a Israel there's a certain kapar a certain atonement that a person receives when he when he when he does that okay as long as he's able to be buried in a Isel that's the different things we spoke about and it's worth even waiting sometimes even to go to AR Israel even though we don't usually keep a body around but for the sake of AR Israel we spoke about all the different things that was there and we also the last thing one other thing we spoke about is that the malim all the actions that a person does goes with him follows him to the Kev goes inside the Kev and that's what he spoke about following the Kev that children do not follow the C at least because of that reason that's what we spoke about last time okay now on a similar note in a continuation to that idea we're going to mention a few important that have to do with when one is buried or one's relative is buried that shouldn't happen but just different ideas based on this idea that we were speaking about until now first of all thear had brings that we are not to bury aik next to a r we don't let aik be buried next to a rash in general a good person next to a bad person it's not even just a and aik even a person who's on a higher level and a lower level they're talking about a and aik even a shouldn't be next to a sadik now I think most people think if I P then I'm not allowed to be very next to without P it depends what kind of star what kind of hat I'm wearing if it's an upad or not an upad as we all know means a person who does extra he goes the extra nine yards he does extra and he not oppresses himself but he not only is also someone who learns and he spends time but sometimes does more and Beyond some people fast but it doesn't have to be that but we we're learning about you can look at the sh there okay the ideas of doing a little bit more but all I'm saying is that higher levels and lower levels we usually try to be differentiation some people say you know big deal I mean they're on the ground what's the big deal why is it such a thing so the answer is that it causes now that we've been learning all these things in these past weeks we know that there is a nees remember we spoke out even when a person is not alive but the nees is still there then the sh and the ru the two higher Spirits might not be there but the nees there's a certain type of there's a certain type of life that's still within the bones of a person and one of those things causes that he doesn't want to be narried next to a rash Rashi brings down not to bury so idea nice concept A good idea Etc we're very muched about this not to do it now why is it so for one of two reasons okay it's learned out from Alisha because Alisha was buried in a certain place Alisha anovi was the talid ofi okay for those who have not been through right Alisha yua was a big very big person he was Etc and he was a he was buried and they put next to him another person they buried next to him another person who wasn't a r but he wasn't a sadik either he wasn't he definitely wasn't Alisha Ai and uh what happened was some some of theim say that it was the the child of theam the one that he was M that was the one that bu I guess they wanted to bury him next to the person he he brought this kid back to life so maybe they wanted to bury him next to him but L says that after they buried him there the bones of this thing got up of this uh not alive corpse whatever you want to call it got up and it stood up and it ran away what skeleton skeleton yeah I'm not sure I think it happened pretty soon so I don't know if he was a skeleton yet I would say it was more of a corpse but anyways this this uh I what to call this this corpse we call it yeah got up and he ran away he ran away until he was buried somewhere else he had to be buried somewhere else so from here we learn the idea that's what thear brings in so from here we learn the idea they don't bury again over here is not a rash he wasn't a rash just was a par he wasn't he wasn't here and as they say he was here and there but next to sadik you have to be very careful bu to you'll see a lot of times a lot of where theik is there they won't necessarily bury other people around it it'll usually be in his own spot or whatever like own special okay was not right but I'm saying a lot of times sadik will have his own little individual area or something like that in order to be buried some people say is approximately 4 meters away from someone else who is not holding on his level and sometimes when you're very very big so that makes a problem right who's who's going to be buried next to such a person so they have to be very careful where they uh where they put him they usually have special plots for these types of people okay anyway so that's a that's a reason now the reason for this is is for one of two reasons or it's because of the rash or it's because of the tadik it's for both okay these are different reasons that are brought down amongst theman that's one of the over there in sanedrin again says that it's a B for the tadik it's not nice for the sadik it's not nice for him or another pish that's brought down because on the rash the rash is going to be in bad bad shape he's sitting here next to this like wanted to run away from a he didn't want to hang out with a too long because he's next to sadik he doesn't look good right we don't try to right he don't want to hang out with him too long so too the rash right next being buried right next to sadik doesn't look good so he doesn't want to be over there up when he's in the book is a bigali has a lot of ideas about these things over there in he brings down he loses some of his G some of his um his Revelations that he gets sadik gets he loses it because he's next to a rash okay so and he he doesn't want they don't want the rash to hear all the all the sodot right they don't want to tell the sadik everything because the rash is going to EAS drop right so in order to do that so he ends up losing some of what he would normally be uh getting okay this also brought the marah ETC So based on this the that's the Mah the M lived in the 00s he live the same time approximately as he brings he brings based on this he gives a he says that therefore theim those rich people that they spend a lot of money and they give a lot of money in order to be buried next to the sadik they're going to they're not allowed to do those things you're not allowed to do that it's a for the you can't do it just because you got money doesn't mean you have you can't buy it takes hard work okay that takes hard work buying money you can get whatever money you want that's easy that's not the hard part okay but the the hard part is that and therefore it doesn't uh it doesn't work I don't remember exactly but I remember once in the I don't remember the whole story I have to get a hold of the story in the in Poland over there they have uh there's a story about the malal the magal is buried over there in Poland the same burial next to the r next to the r and they buried next to him somebody and he was upset about it or something like that they say they he came to him in a dream or something cuz they put next to him some simple person or whatever and this was his name Etc and they had to move him or they had to move him or he was moved or something like that and if you go there it took a long time to find because you know it's a 500y old B you can't see see things too well over there but they looked around and they found the name of that guy but he was out of eight out of the was here and you see I saw myself I was there and he's buried over here that person that he he kind of moved him in the cover somehow and somehow he got over here he was moved away from the because of this that he didn't want to be married next to someone who was uh inhibiting on his premises okay but it's a proper according to and therefore we try to be uh m in this uh this thing okay yeah based on this you should know there Wasa the has about they they found a dead body and they didn't know if he was Jewish or not but a so so they said maybe he's Jewish maybe he's not maybe he's stop an Arab who has AIT they didn't know what to do so based on this he says he said because it's a suff in the from the Tor he said one should be now when I read that I thought that meant be and do what bury him where Jew in a Jewish cemet I thought it me not a Jewish he say be put him in a Jewish cemet don't bury him amongst what about everybody else though what if he's a go so if he's a if he's a thing then you're being make on everybody else though that's that maybe they stuck him some corner I'm not sure exactly what they did but he said be and put him in a Jewish cemeter that's that's what they did with that body but you see it's a big thing it's that's stom idea that's the idea of being buried when where you should be buried next to some people try to be M to put a wall around them or this people who can but that's that's it another is there idea it's brought thei it's also brought thei of being buried inav now kav usually means the burial place where you're ancestors were now it doesn't mean da your for forefathers cuz in the tour when he brings us his family okay so the mad that it could be anybody it doesn't have to be dka your father it has to be your your your your things of course erel always pushes it off if you're buried here and everybody else is buried over there in the galut you don't have to worry about it over here is good also okay even also it's better okay but if you're if you're anyways being buried if one is bearing buried not you right if one is being buried then it's to be buried and even for that you're allowed to delay the burial in order that he can go to his bu second that the rash was one time asked that I wanted to take him they wanted to take a body to he he was buried over here and they want him to be buried with the rest of his family so he let him actually put some type of um ointment or some type of medicinal type of thing on top of them in order to make the body Decay faster Decay fast P her in order that they can carry him because it was a long trip back in the old time as 700 800 years ago quite a ways that they have to go have to take him on the the the horse and buggy and it's going to take a while so instead they didn't want him to smell on the way because unfortunately man they didn't have freezers or especially not transferable freezers so they said okay so Decay his body so it'll end up being more of thing and he allowed to do it in order to be buried by this is we're going to speak about later by but I'm just trying to show the importance of apparently being buried with your family yes see I'm still a little confused because you have the that's hopefully in reaches the okay but now you have the ne the neish is the lower they're in two different places yeah yeah yeah that's what we mentioned a couple sh the guy you're split you know I'm saying that's what happens his that's why his body decomposes cuz he has no more life the life Tak away that once is gone then the body has no uh Lifeline he has the he thei we mentioned in the in the bones there's this NE which is thei which is the spirit of the bones that the right that idea is still there the spirit of the bones but it's not he's he's not he's not yeah he's still not there okay anyway so that's uh that's what that's what uh that's what comes out this importance of being buried together with one's forefathers unless of course like we said over here at least over here for all of us who are living in Isel it's a different story I'll mention on the end of this about being buried with parents an interesting from the he a Big R in in America his brother is the someone who asked him and this is a subject that might come up we'll speak about it in the resurrection of the Dead we should get there okay also physically and also knowledgeably okay right but uh he was asked if woman is married to a second husband now obviously the first husband's not around anymore and the question is they want to know where should she be buried very important question where should she be buried by the first husband or the second husband very difficult question at that now the obvious direction is if the first husband was a divorce he's finished goodbye obviously she's going to be buried with the second husband that's not a question if she divorced the first husband but the question was asked what if she's an Alman what if her husband was and now as a result of that she doesn't know if she should be buried with her first husband or her second husband a lot of times of course we know that they us have a even stronger connection to the first husband than the second whatever you can do about that so the question is the question is um uh what what should she do okay the question was what should she do in such a case so so he basically says like this very nice he says an interesting um the same question by the way was asked to the in which I'm not going to speak about today I'm going to keep you in suspense he was asking about who are you going to be with your first husband or your second husband you know this is not fair right the second husband says you know whatever makes he makes a lot of differences there so I'm going to leave it till we get there but the same question so over here at least the way he says this it makes a lot of sense he says if she's an Al from her first husband so the I the idea is it's a complete when the husband dies there's a complete nuk a complete disconnect ction it has to be that there's a full stop from your first husband what's the biggest proof to that cuz otherwise she can't get married again how is she allowed to get married she can obviously only get married because the first husband is not around anymore there's no zika there's no relationship there's no keser anymore once he's nft her so therefore he says she should be buried with the second husband because that's a presentent especially especially especially it's for sure for sure if the second husband is still alive I don't think it'll be so comfortable the second husband that she's sitting here being buried with her first husband he's the thing you're going to put one husband on this side one husband that side right not so not so nice so he basically says she should be buried with the second husband and that's the way the world works you know look we do that's that's how things work here that's what he says but he says interesting he says he wouldn't have thought of he says but we see in the P that when a woman dies she's still called he brings a r from the p and she's still called he still called a even after she's okay aen is allowed to be M for his wife she's still considered his relative that he's allowed to be Mame for his wife if she is because she still called Sher she still has so meaning she still has a little bit of a zika a connection to him all right so how is he allowed to get married again big deal men can get married to more than one woman okay at least I'm giving to a share a bunch of men you don't take that personally but I understand man we know that a man can marry more than one woman now we have now noways we have a z and this we don't do these things okay but we don't do it but at least we uh know that it's possible so it's not a steer a problem that she's still ke still K has some attachment to his first wife and still gets married again in which case he says that he's that that in that case he is permitted to be married with his first wife but again I'm not sure if he mentions it but if the first wife is still alive it's not so nice to be buried with the first wife again it's not so nice butam he could be if he if he wants to if he's a widower and that's I'm talking about a WID his first wife passed away and he marries again he marries again and he said didn't he can be married with the first wife he could go with the first wife because he still has I don't want to say the word relationship I'm trying to a good word a connection an affiliation let's say you know like there's still a the best word in Hebrew is like the second wife might not be at all happy she won't be happy so I said for sure if the second wife is not alive anymore then he's allowed to be buried with the first wife and if she is still alive it's not so uh yeah it's not so nice right it's not appropriate so probably it's better to do that but you can really be bued with with either one no they also have any complication if you have children from the first marriage and na the second wife has feelings the children has feelings so they do make difference he doesn't necessarily make that difference a little bit makes a big difference if all my kid if one's kids if all of one's kids are from the first wife which happens a lot from the first from the first wife so that's his continuation not his second second wife he live 10 years in his last 10 years of his life or something so he doubt he usually said that's what he says that's why said I'm not going get 200% but he says over there will probably be with his first wife he actually says we be his first because that was his life with with this woman as opposed to the other way around so I know stories of the other way around that she had a first husband for a short time unfortunately got in a car accident he got married and uh yeah so it could be the other way around that the Ben is a lot of details like I said we will speak about it this is the direction for here okay there could be a clash like what you said first gap between one person s and so the family is overriding because you could have within a family you can have these gaps so what are you going to even the ex R true sometimes people want to be married next to their family he's right but sometimes unfortunately everyone in this room with sikim who knows what's going on with your family I don't know so if that's true then you're right you have to if I could say keep away you have to be careful and in that case you're right you don't necessarily do that all right let's move on okay now there's a third idea when we talk about being buried which is an important which is also brought down I'm saying that it's brought down speaks about this for everyone to see that basically a person should always be carried Shalom you should only one should only be buried in his own personal cover his own handy Dandy private Kover don't borrow anyone's cover it's not Kai okay what I mean by borrow it means don't don't be in a c make sure that you purchased it I don't want to say m but usually it is KF Mal it's a lot of money unfortunately but um a person should make sure that it is 100% yours and of course the biggest is in went out of his way and everybody else he's leaving Sara Manu not buried for so long just to bargain hagle in this with this this jerk you know this fun guy right going back and forth Just finish come on let's go just bury him he said you he said you can bury her in already he said put her in and besides the fact another question owned all what's the problem here just do it just put her in but the answer is know you got to make sure that you own it 100% no questions asked make sure that there's no no um no uh no uh uh complainers what complains complaints or whatever make sure there's no no one who's going to make sure they say no that's really mine your K it's not allowed Etc so you always have to make sure that you buy it 100% okay and that's why it's important that you make sure you pay beforehand it's aula which we all know it's a famous suula to buy a c while a person still alive okay and it comes from the idea of making sure that you own it uses a for people who know Hebrew they think it's humorous I guess he liked it he said there's a m he says a Bel there's no Kim is literally blood there's no K without blood but damim also means money in gar Lang so he says you can't have a k without some type of monetary compensation make sure that uh make sure that you own it in order to do it brought down the brisar was very M when he bought his K someone reporting over the brisar bought his K brisar everyone know a big M whoever knows brisker he was brisker he's the brisker and he was very M when he bought he did every type of Kenan he k he made sure he did every type of K any type of every type of way of acquisition because he wanted to make sure that there's no questions asked to make sure that it's 100% 100% that he's doing um it's he's doing the right thing and like I said the he brings it's a he says his words when a person has his so it's it's a it's a in order to buy it and therefore it's important to try to be able to buy it now the is is the head of the badat okay he's the head of the badat and he brings down a very interesting thing as being a person who's in top of Kash and many different things that people always asking about he says that in the in the star contracts especially in har it was I don't think I don't know if it is or was like that definitely was like that I don't know if it still is it's probably something I could easily find out and that's the truth but the star when they sold it when they sell the person the cover when they sell you a c they write on it I'm selling it to you and you have no r at all to give it over to anyone else if you in any way want to give it over to someone else it automatically reverts back to us it automatically becomes ours now doesn't like that no now why do they do that because as we all know a Kev in har is very very valuable it's worth a lot of money that's a and they're not interested in a guy buying a k and then giving it to his old granny who wasab right okay I'll give it to granny she was a nice she was a nice lady even though she didn't keep Shabbat and she was a Russ okay okay not granny grandfather right it doesn't make any sense so they said in order to do that they make a Taya condition in the contract that you have no ruit to give it over to someone else it has a red light there does that mean anything I was going the microphone okay um I'm in the microphone but okay okay anyway so that's uh that's what it said but uh that's that's I just it's just like the microphone no cuz if the microphone's off it won't record my voice so should I turn off the microphone this is good still going if this die if that die then my voice won't go so I could turn this off though that's I'm say that's all I'm asking you need to unplug this but the main time you're still okay okay so just tell me when then okay anyway so that's um that's that's what he brings down so therefore he says you should not write in the contract I make a condition what you should says I will give of my good will the K back if if I don't take it for myself I will give it back to the kadish my own good will because I promise not to give it over to someone else make some type of promise or but it's kind of like a pro a promise which a person doesn't want to be over a promise especially when he's dead right so he doesn't want to do that so he kind of is giving over the ma door but there's no on again there's no lack in the Kenyon it's not like there's a hole in the Kenyon of it being given over to him because he still has uh full opes over the cover just he says don't worry I'll make sure to give back I won't give it to some other relative the first way it's this saying the sh weather it's actually being acquired right it wasn't a full acquirement they have these conditions on sale exactly that's what he's upset about right that's exactly what he's said about and the main thing is that we know it has to be a yours and be the seula for it to be yours SCH yours is that you have to own it right now I need to own a c right now I need to own it so if I need to own it right now St financially it's could I to buy it early I you know my inlaw is working theisha for those know there something called pre-s right pre pre that you buy it before and it's much much much uh cheaper it's incredible difference cuz especially I don't know when you plan on buying if you're buying in then it's crazy the difference in prices there literally I mean 10 15 20 years ago haras was $1,000 now it's 15 16 17,000 for a cover and it's the size of this this paper basically the cover it's like they measure the person's body to make sure exactly how much you need the person needs in order to be very inside of there they're very meticulous it's very it's a little bit crazy how here they give it for free the uh say again yeah over here you get it for free keev right yeah I wasn't here to advertise all the things if you live in be you get for free that's right you're one plus one right that's the the rule here an has a responsibility the thing right that's the thing so that's officially yours you get it for free but you own it because it's officially given to you and nobody else has it okay you have to make sure that it's yours yeah so you lose the seula that's the truth you do lose the seula which is you know so not so good you prefer the seula I remember when I was like wow these prices are going up maybe I should get a ke way I don't want to get a ke one on there's something you want to buy fast so you don't want to buy in in the UK you belong to AA buy you don't have a specific plot you just you are just buried wherever they decide yeah unless okay that is you again you lose aula but it's still yours it's not no one can have any question but it's also dangerous place or something like that you're allowed to say that or you're not allow so the danger in that is maybe they're going to put you next to someone not good though on a lower level like I said everyone in this room are what going to put you in a room next to some English person that's dangerous it's very dangerous that's why some people will pay special and avoid the it's it's important it's not all that expensive it's about 5,000 and that that pay for it really okay sometimes it's worth it to pay ahead and a you get the aula and B you make sure you know you're buried next to because otherwise you're in problems yeah okay anyways so that's uh we'll leave it for the that thing yeah okay it's good okay great one last uh one last Chua based on this thing that I was just talking about on this idea this concept is also was asked about a question I saw this question a few plac it's brought the in your is a similar question that what happened was a woman's husband was Nar he was buried in place X and she has a plot next to him Place y right next door to him she has a place right next to him but what happened is you know they went for you know three four five years ago her husband died they went for the yite four or five six years whatever it was they went for the or P tell she sees in the place that she's supposed to be buried H someone else is buried there huh that's interesting excuse me one second I'm I'm I'm I'm still okay what's going on what happened they didn't know what's going on they saw another man was buried was a man at least but another man was buried next to her husband and she was a little bit ticked off cuz the other side was already taken and here we have some guy who was there so she went to complain to the authorities to theisha about uh about what's going on and they said oops uh you know it's all in day's work you know the main mistake they didn't realize they miss they Mis plotted the land or whatever it was so a letter was sent to to ask him what do we do what do we do it's not so simple so he basically says like this based on the we just said a a place that you don't own especially if it's a stolen plate now it's not his fault I understand the guy was dead I understand was say he's in a stolen piece of property it's not his is not good for him it's not very B it's not healthy for him and it's a k for which is not good so therefore he said you're allowed to be met you're allowed to take him out and move him to a different Kev you are allowed to do it okay that you are allowed to let just finish to the end and tell me who pays for that that's a good question who's going to answer but that's right that he says that you are allowed to do that but he does say however according to of the law it would be very for her to be and give over the K to him for two reasons first of all it will be a to the Mish I I don't know it depends on the Mish guess he says you know is embarrassing and the whole family is a little bit embarrassed to move the C and this and to to exume bones is not not so exciting some people care some people don't so he said that would be one reason for her to be M to be a s and and that's first of all and second of all the is which we're not going to get into this idea I think we'll make it in our time period but there's idea when you're when you exume a person's bones it's very very bitty ofid we might never do that but what happens is it's moreare the din on him again he has to go through the din again even though he's sitting relaxed up in ganaden it's been 6 years everything's okay he went he already finished with the hard part of the you know the hard part of death as they say he's already sitting and and relaxing over there in Paradise right still when a person's body is what's going on here the Nish starts what's going on cuz the Nish starts coming back and back and forth to the to the body and there starts becoming a reenactment to the