Tip for Dating - R. Eliyahu Maksumov - TorahAnytime.com

And sometimes people might do things that might turn you off, but don't let it become a red flag right away. You have to give people the benefit of the doubt. Uh sometimes guys might do something that you might feel like, "Oh, how could you have done that?" But if you just knew the full story, maybe uh you would have not felt so negative towards whatever happened, the situation. Like for example, I just know a story that comes to mind. Uh I know a guy a girl went on a date and um some point of the date, he took out his phone, he started texting and that made her feel really uncomfortable. And then you know he put away the phone and he picked up the phone again. He started texting and then they went on you know the date went on for another 30 minutes and then she went to the whoever was in between and she said to the listen I I don't know if I want to continue with this guy. I felt like so it was so inappropriate for him to take out his phone. She says you know I was just on the phone with him right before you called me and he told me that in the middle of your date his brother got into a car accident and he's in the hospital. So he had an emergency text and he had to pick up and he had to answer. Uh but he felt so bad. He told me he was like he didn't mean to you know he didn't want to make you feel bad. he didn't want to tell you anything. So, he just stayed quiet about her. Although his mind was completely on his brother, but he didn't want to make you feel uncomfortable about the rest of the date. He gave his he devoted his time to you. So, he wanted to make sure the next 30 minutes he's going to be devoted to you. So, she she didn't judge him favorably. But sometimes it's okay to ask like, "Oh, is everything okay?" Like, don't just keep things in and then get upset at the person. This applies to marriage as well. Don't just let things build up inside of you. If you have something to say, so say it or you know uh or just give the person of the benefit of the doubt.