Secret to Make Everyone Like You - R. Benzion Klatzko - TorahAnytime.com

Among the things that you work on with in yourself is your disposition. Your disposition is how you how you present yourself to the world, to the public. And our disposition is nothing to do with the way we dress. It has nothing to do with the makeup that we put on. Our disposition is when I think of this person, do I think of somebody who smiles? There is nothing as potent that you have that can create good vibes and good reputations as a smile. What a smile does when you smile to somebody is you're telling them, "I'm happy to see you." And like Hamelach says, Pnei mayim panim el panim, kein lev adam. If you're happy to see me, then I'm happy to see you. Then we like each other. Yay. So imagine somebody who goes around smiling in general. They smile. That's their They They have a What do they call a resting smiley face, not a resting frowny face, a resting smiley face. That means when I look at them, when I walk by them, they will be the one that smiles and nods. Other people will be the people who pretend they didn't see you. They're very busy. Well, why why am I smiling? What what's my agenda? No, I am the one who radiates warmth, who radiates friendliness and openness. So it's worthy It's worthwhile to work on what your resting face is, what your disposition is. And if you're naturally not a smiley person, that's a problem. It's a problem because other people, when they meet you, they don't know that you're not naturally a smiley person. They'll simply think they're not as welcoming, they're not as happy to see me. So the good news is that we all have somewhere deep buried inside of us a nice big smile. Somewhere it's there. And all we need to do is get used to drawing it out and making it available. You make your smile available to as many people as you can. But what if you're in a bad mood? That ever happen? You're in a bad mood. The answer is even more so that's when you have to smile. You know why? Because let's say you're naturally a smiling open person, but you're in a bad mood. So what does that tell people who know that you're a smiley person when they look at you and you look upset or angry? It tells them that you you don't you know, you don't like me so much. Like everyone else gets my gets your smile, but not me. And guess what happens after you get married and that person that you're greeting in the morning happens to be your husband. But you're in a bad mood. So I'm not going to smile at you. Anyone think that's okay? No one does. No one does. My bad mood or my grouchiness or my feeling out of sorts is never an excuse not to give a smile to the next person. They don't deserve not to get your smile. Right? My smile has to be a given.