Look Again - R. Meir Simcha Sperling - TorahAnytime.com

through life, there are so many times that we jump the gun. We just jump ahead. We right away want to say what we want to say because we saw, we understand, we know, we paskened, I saw this a million times before, and therefore we jump. And very often when we do that, we cause other people to be hurt, or we judge other people when it wasn't our right to, or we judge them wrong, or whatever the case is. The point is, so many times we don't see the whole story. We don't see the whole picture. As smart as we think we are, there are angles that we can miss. You can't see everything. And sometimes from your perspective when you see something, from my perspective I didn't see it that way. You know the famous picture you have two people, one of them is looking at a six and one of them is looking at a nine, and they're having a massive machlokes if it's a six or a nine. And uh the caption is that just because you're right doesn't mean that I'm wrong. Right? We're both seeing this from two different sides, from two different things. So for you it's a six, for me it's a nine. And very often in life it's like that. You know, we we think we know, we think we understand, and really the other person's also right. You just didn't see his angle. So if you would have just stopped and have taken a breath and looked again, being done the kav sches is much easier. And this comes up literally thousands of examples where this comes up, and we're not going to go through any of them because you could just think about it yourself. The idea is be done the kav sches, and the way to do that but said that it should be in the zachar is by just taking a second to look again. Because very often when you look again it's like, "Oh, I Oh, my bad." Yeah, your bad. You just literally killed the guy. What do you mean your bad? If I would have known. So instead of jumping and instead of right away responding and interrupting, stop for a second. Wait. Look again cuz you might be shocked by what you find. And I think this is a very powerful idea for the three weeks because the whole reason that we're in this galus right now is cuz of sinas chinam, and very often sinas chinam, or maybe always, or almost always, not even very often, almost always, sinas chinam and lashon hara and all these different derogatory things and hate and anger and jealousy and all these things that come out of very often come from looking one time, not really seeing the whole picture. If you would have seen the whole picture, you never would have said that. So, if you want to know what to work on this week, look inside yourself and see what to work on. If you can't find anything, a nice thing would be just to learn how to breathe. Just instead of responding right away, give yourself a few seconds. And breathe and look and maybe something's going to maybe something's going to change. There's a famous Midrash.