Even More So - R. Joey Haber - TorahAnytime.com

If it's true in regards to a physical problem, it's even more true in regards to an emotional problem. You could tell your kids, you see this kid, he's a little not as into it. I'm so proud of you. You're into it. You're inspired. You're learning. You're growing. You're following our way. But this kid is not. And so, we're making an exception to this kid because he needs it. Or you may take your three married children and say, "Guys, everyone here is functioning. You know, one of your siblings is not functioning. So, we decided we're going to help them a little more because they're not functioning. And if you would need it, we'd give it to you, too. That has to be the sentiment because kids don't mind if it's different. They don't mind if the line is higher than the other. What they mind is that the difference means you love them more than me. You cherish her more than me. You value her more than me. If you value HER MORE THAN ME, I will resent you for the rest of my life. But if you don't value her more than me, but you just say, "Listen, I take care of any kid that's in a need. And right now she's in a need and she's the one we're addressing. And if two months from now, you'd be in a need, you'd be the one we're addressing, then that parent is a very, very, very healthy parent.