Don’t Be Quick to React - R. Yosef Palacci - TorahAnytime.com

I remember someone was telling me how um and he first got married within the first month his wife asked him for a couple couple cup of water and all of a sudden the water like like this guy bringing a cup of water and just like spilled all over all over all I was like what's going on and she didn't scream she didn't yell she's like what how are you not how are you not screaming yelling if it happened to me I would go go crazy on you she says I I just think for a second and I say there's no way you're gonna just can't come and pour a cup of water on me obviously I know it was an accident obviously I know that there's something behind it obviously I know that why would I go crazy so see sometimes people their reaction automatically is they oh I'll tell you what happened to me the other day I was by a my nephew's wedding I'm buying my nephew's wedding and then some random person mom is random person there he's opening up a bottle of coke you listening he opened up the bottle of Coke and it spilled all over you know sometimes it it went all over me gorgeous brand new suit everything on my nephew's bought my wedding I'm like what what would you do what would you do you know it's funny because the person that did that to me he says instead of saying like sorry he's like listen everything is good I'm serious it's true story is everything Hashem does is good you know you know I was like oh you say sorry so now my gallery I'm gonna get angry at him I'm gonna get upset him it's like he shook the bottle and it opened it he opened it about somebody it probably follow the floor from somebody else and he opens but the bottom line is you have to just think before you react in life and you can give the benefit of Doubt for people and like that automatically you the one of the ways that we're learning it first of all the guy's not doing it on purpose and the person's not gonna go again and second of all you have to you have to look at the person that that did something to you as an elevated person there's no way he's like you don't look at a person ah no no and when you do that when you view the person in a high level caliber automatically you'll be able to give him the the benefit of the doubt if so and so did this that that you give them the benefit of that because he's a high level level guy he's a high level personality there's no way he's going to be able to must be this different that happened in that situation