Couples Hanging Out? - R. Elazar Meisels - TorahAnytime.com

was a great great robber my right in New York and we're back he was known as rebecc and Rubik was known to be very involved with kitten garish and kitten unfortunately that was something that kept him very very busy so he had a particular expertise in it and a big told people and he said it more than once he was famous for this line as he would say that 80 percent of divorces stem from the fact that couples hang out with their friends he was never a proponent of couples hanging out with other couples he felt that that was something that was not only improper from its near standpoint but it was also foolish it was unwise from a practical standpoint because what ends up happening is when you have young couples together and what it's inevitable that the women are going to start measuring up their not just their husbands but matching their husbands up to their friends husbands and you know what friend friend's husbands sometimes look better than your own husband and the men will start to match up their wives against their friend's wives and you know what if a guy thought that he was going to marry himself some Sweetie Pie and ended up marrying a bit of a shrew and then he goes with his friend's wife and she's much sweeter she's much nicer or vice versa you know it can really create real problems your wife maybe doesn't get it all together maybe I don't know if she's not so neat she's not so put together she can't get out on time and your friend's wife always looked like she just stepped out of a magazine it could cause real problems so Vic was very much of the of the um feeling that while it's critically important for a woman to have a Social Circle to have good friends that people shouldn't count on um but that's Woman to Woman couples to couples he was not a fan of it okay now I I'm saying over a bit who's as far as I'm concerned his word on this is the final word on the subject but even if somebody didn't know her brick and doesn't know it but you do know me I can tell you I am not ancient and I'm not a big Bucky in getting but I've just never seen any positive benefit from couples hanging out with one another I really don't see a great benefit to that and I believe it causes many more problems than it causes Solutions so it's something I would advise against