Amazing Advice When Looking for a Spouse - R. Moshe Meir Weiss - TorahAnytime.com

there are certain things that should be discussed even before you start dating you see one of the problems that many of the young United Society have is burnout they go out and they get burned up we don't we don't go out with the opposite sex for anything else then purpose of matrimony that's the Torah way of dating the Torah way of dating is we're dating because we are looking to build up by getting them on otherwise otherwise we don't spend time with the opposite sex it's too dangerous yeah if we date just haphazardly then how many times could we put on our best face and be fresh and vivacious and full of vitality we get burned out so therefore before we go out we gotta get basic questions number one is the young man able to in a rudder mentary way together with my resources support a home because you don't want to start a life were you right away going to be in financial disaster financial disaster when this financial disaster it says in the Gemara CAD nach ish when the cookie jar is empty fight starting the home I know saying giveaway shalom calif kita BSBA if there's in your borders peace then when is that when Caleb he to me as bf Wendy's are not food in the cupboard so that's a unless the person is learning Torah and you want to support him in his learning and there's a plan that's fine because then he's gainfully employed and Torah but otherwise he has to be if he tells you he's gonna be a writer call me back when you published your first novel tell zoo phase an artist call me up when you have your first gallery showing now the next question should be what is it should be on the second date should be before you go out is there the religiosity that I want how is this reaction but how is the shomer negiah you have to know are we on the same planet Glenda so the answer to your question is it's not that the second date is too early it's too late this should be discussed before you go out because do you want to risk that the person is not on your religiosity level and you really like him are you really like huh no wonder it's that terrible ho Kim is not with marriage always marry up in religiosity especially women women should always marry up you know why because when you have a child you become much more spiritual I say with all my students they have a child a child makes you realize that is more to this world and you want all of a sudden something much more for your child and you want it for yourself you ever wonder about that parents show but they don't want their children talking sure parents never learned that sitting with the Daily News but they want their children to learn what happened you know why because for the children they don't have the gates are tell me a dollar for their children we always want more for actually a woman that has a child all of a sudden becomes much more spiritual so always marry up and religiosity level of religiosity should be discussed before dating see if you're on the same page don't burn out don't burn up and for that matter try to get as many things clear before you're dead like for example here Eddie has a job offer in Dallas and he's moving to Dallas as soon as he finds the right girl that's it that's a given if you don't want to Matt go to Dallas then don't go out with him feel close with your parents and close with your siblings and and you want to send your children to you she was here if she votes here don't go I wouldn't save yourself burn out now of course and this is equally important of course don't make too many notes because if you restrict yourself too much you very limit your pool so don't don't make too much no no not this no not that no no I can't live in the apartment building no I know I can't draw the Mazda no way no I will not dress in green oh I will never have a mitch mcconnell's no way too many knows then that's a recipe for spinsterhood so of course there shouldn't be too many no you have to do this wise you've just experienced another Torah class brought to you back torah any time calm