A Kabbalistic Difference Between Men and Women - R. YY Jacobson - TorahAnytime.com

in fact somebody asked me what's the difference the men and women cabbalistic Lee I said men are waffles women are spaghetti very deep cappella do you never eat a waffle waffles every waffle is self-contained it has four walls around it when you pour the maple syrup into the waffle you make sure it doesn't go over the wall and stays within this square of the wall that's men women are spaghetti there's no one piece of spaghetti every strand of pasta is intertwined and interconnected with hundreds of other pieces of pasta our brain is compartmentalized in hundreds of filing cabinets we men have a filing cabinet called a car the house the wife the mother-in-law the children the job the therapist everything has a separate filing cabinet and when we have to pay a bill we open up that filing Emily we make sure it doesn't touch any other file we take out the paper usually we don't do anything we put it back quietly we close the drawing we make sure nothing else gets disturbed and in the middle of our brain we have a huge filing cabinet the biggest one with a big sign and it says on it nothing and we love hanging out in that space in fact most of us meant if we wouldn't have to make a living we would hang out in that filing cabinet called nothing so when you ask your husband what are you feeling and he looks at you and he says nothing and there's no answer that drives women as crazy as the answer nothing they can't believe it they think you have another relationship with somebody they think you are hiding everything no women we feel nothing in fact after this lecture you can ask your husband so how was it and he's going to look at you how was walks the lecture was about you oh here she goes he doesn't know me how was it Oh his jokes were not too bad most of them I knew but a woman there's no nothing her brain is like the World Wide Web Microsoft Windows with every possible window open and the tab is switching back and forth every moment like spaghetti and the traffic of the World Wide Web there are hundreds of millions of neurons consciously interacting at every single moment and he's like clueless which is why you'll see the following scene he comes on one night and he decides tonight he's gonna be a good husband so after dinner you sit down with him on the couch and he looks you in the eyes and he says honey you want to share with me how your day was you're like wow what a guy who's been listening to Rabbi wise lectures he's been working on himself Emmet has been getting to him he's working he's working on his Shalom by it it's so beautiful so you start sharing with him your day and of course you begin with the fact that the cleaners ruined is $600 dress and he opens up the filing cabinet called cleaner and it's a it's a it's a hard process man you could see on his brain just take it out and take out the file and check off okay the cleaners Christ is $600 from the cleaners you shift immediately to the fact that you don't like your job so now he opens up the filing cabinet called a job and then you move on to the fact that your sister and one salted you at her son's Bar Mitzvah and then the fact that the Sheva brachot you weren't invited and then that his mother is really obnoxious to you from there you discuss the fact that you don't have good cleaning help and then of course you go to the kids he's not happy in third grade the principal is not nice this teacher doesn't know what he's doing there you go to the car then you go to the paper you have to finish you discuss the leak in the bathroom summer plans your own mother your own sister the upcoming BAS Mitzvah it's now 2 minutes and 10 seconds you have already explored 48 happens and this is what he's doing he's opening and closing filing cabinets he went from the cleaners to the bathroom to the cleaning lady to your mother he assists them with about Mitzvah to the BAS Mitzvah to the hooker to your job to your paper to your car to the swimming pool to the summer to the camp to the crisis of school it's four minutes now 397 topics have been explored and you're just beginning this poor guy for the last four minutes has been opening and closing filing cabinets and now remember nothing can touch anything else so he takes it out it's mummeries a very very heavy game now after four minutes as you're about to begin topic 400 he is about to go crazy the logical choice for him at this moment the most logical thing is suicide there's a problem he loves you and he doesn't want you should be a widow so that's not an option so he does the second - the best option under these trying circumstances and that is he falls asleep and within 20 seconds within 20 seconds he's snoring on the top of his lungs and you're stone-faced you were just having this whole romantic experience and this guy just fell asleep on you you are so hurt little do you know that the snoring is an expression of his deepest love because the only other option was to him for him to shoot himself and the only reason he didn't is because he loves you so much so if you could look at the snoring and say what especially the love of my life my dearest partner you're good you've just experienced another Torah class brought to you like Torah anytime calm