Torah Vodaath Reception Rabbi Belsky Answering Yichud Question

We're going to conclude this part of the program with one more shining those that would like to ask further I'm sorry there's just a limit to what we can do there areas I'm going to ask there's one that I see cropped up here quite often since I'm going to conclude with that question that we're blessed in said where people come therapist physical therapists speech therapist they come to the house to come to the school etc. The woman is a speech therapist. She comes to the house. The child is home. The father's babysitting. The wife is at work. Is there a for the woman the speech therapist to work with the child but only the man is home? Only the father of the child is home. Is that considered the ear not? What are the guidelines? Rabbi said there's no hat of the is only. And if the if the man is home and the the lady comes into the house, say that it's not a healthy thing if there's any minute the woman might walk into the house and it's t a real possibility. Okay, even that could be relied on to in in a in a way which is not mustaba which is which is to fool oneself. Put that the best way to put it. Person can't a man can't be in the house and have a woman come in excited and even if it's in an office he can't do that. It's not something that you find trining for and for and the Israel never wanted to be m such things and she's not to there there is you know it becomes after a while the relationship is formed that's it find some exit to do it but not to have the man in the house and have a woman come. Even a few times, it's really uh even even if the door is open, if the door is open, it helps for one once or twice or three times or four times. After that, it doesn't help anymore. they'll lie gas gospel and then the same person who open the door could walk over there and close the door and all of a sudden they'll think of some very very important question that they want to ask and it's all [Music] and the important question leads to another question it over a long period of time all the truth and all the begin to melt away and why do we have to fool ourselves all all the different you know if a person just is trying so hard to figure out to be m for himself he's he's he's fooling himself a person can't do that you can't be m for himself and you have to be away anything over a long period of time will become a lie gospel even which is legitimate not like which is totally illegitimate a ber so fine but liba gospel is a limit it doesn't work how does the camera what a camera help the camera helps to up to a point to have a camera what a person go behind the door at me into the next room and the camera is going to happen. He knows where the camera is. He's the one who put the camera into this place to begin with the camera's going to control him. He control the camera. Don't try to look for ways out to be able to be with no if if something is a perfectly legitimate lawyer. It just doesn't work. You know all the bal had figured out the no good came from it over a long period of time this one that helps a little another that helps a little but when you have a long period of of of people who associate with each other and they they matter for themselves to this and they have a reasons of and they have all that helps only up to a certain point one visit two visits that's the end of it and then the and the limitations are very very tight I said nobody pulled themselves what about the boy boyant therapist and father's ar somebody might walk in at any time And the boy is uh but if the boy is the age that he might uh develop a a feeling for the woman it'll be 10 years old 11 years old starting from nine maybe nine is to what this this times when the boy begins to develop her gationship and other he's not even smart enough to to to make Gdora for himself don't see anything wrong with didn't say and you don't know maybe maybe he's he has an obligation maybe he does have irrigation but I want to thank again for hosting such a tremendous should help him that should be and he's still in the middle should have should always be a big thank [Applause] [Music] together like