Torah Or Vshavti B'sholom #4: When A Couple Feels Safe, They Can Celebrate their Differences

Okay, good morning everybody. We have a dish on today. The cover the bris here. Ah there's a story. Huh? There's a story about the mazucha mag who was the balulus. one of his talmidim was traveling to him and >> [snorts] >> uh on the way he went by aettle in his travels and there was a Jew there on the road the path and he said that we have a bris [snorts] and we would like to have a minion so maybe you could come we have nine people maybe you could come join for the brris so he said sure so he went in and he went into the sh where they had the bris or the house and Um he saw a funny thing that the sandic was sitting on the chair and holding the baby but under the sandic there was somebody lying the sandic was sitting on him so he [snorts] thought it's with strange mic maybe some people have that the sandic sits on another person one person lies and the sic is sitting on it okay the priest finished they had a sudas mitzvah and then they went he went right to the maggot. So, [snorts] uh he came to the maggot and he went in and then he said that uh he told him the story and he said that he never knew there's such a mig by people that the sandic sits on somebody and uh and he holds the baby. So the mag says every just this time you see every this time you see yeah this is one story another story they say that the who was a student of the mag had a but his father-in-law was very very opposed to and he lived by his father-in-law his father-in-law supported he was learning he had a baby in Lublin Leblin is Poland and he invited Leblin to be the sandic for the bris and he agreed. But this person, the father-in-law, the za did not want the kaisa to be the sandic. So this younger man, he was up a whole night and I guess in the morning, right in the morning, he fell asleep, I guess. So the father-in-law made a bris before he woke up. He made a bris on his grandson before the father was there. You know, it's on the father whatever he was. He was very angry, I guess. So he made his own bris and he was the sandic and uh he got a mo he did everything on his own by the time the guy got together got got things together was a little late you know some people they say it's so uh it was already over the comes there's no bris to do it's okay there's nothing to do the went home and this went and he apologized to him and he was I'm so sorry and he was he was devastated said why are you so devastated it's fine I came didn't work on his says no I'm devastated because uh who the sandic was I wanted you to be the sandic and instead the was the sandic and you know sandic is a very big thing so the says you don't have to worry is a sandic for every Maybe Eli Novi sees a Jew that fits the character of Leo Novi. So then he lets him be the Sandic. But if not, he keeps it for himself. So it was even better because remained the Sandic. It's even better that I didn't come. [laughter] Okay. So we have today the presence of Okay, we're going to finish them. We're holding the end of a mime shaft. Page 42, right? Page 42. You see 42 on top. It says vets. The paragraph begins with In the Hebrew it's column 3 column 3. Today's shir is dedicated leu nishmas kana Lori Alisa basa Jean and Kana Gilberti Basa and Judah Benisha. May all of their memories be a blessing to and may their souls be a source of love and light and inspiration for the family and all of the Jewish people. Amen. Thank you very very much. [snorts] Okay. So the main the main the main was we were learning explains the whole journey of Yakov into and and and back and his first words his words his promise that if you take care of me and I come back in peace to my father's home and Hashem will be leim. So what's the highlight of all of that? That the stone that I made a mat will be a basilim. And he asked all the questions if you remember why the focus is on the stone again and again. He went to sleep with stones and he wake up tooka and he took the stone and he made a promise that he's going to do something with the stone. Everything is about the stone and what's this whole idea that the stones are fighting and the stones become one from many stones becomes one stone and the many questions he asked and the main was that comes from the word which means anger but inim's the famous expression which means my throat is dry when somebody's horse and the words barely come out like the words which is the same letter as like it's like a state of restrictiveness. The voice is not coming from the chamber of the heart out to the world in an expansive way. You know everything is open but it's rather restrictive and because it's restrictive the letters come out but it's very very it's very weak. It's frail. So that's what it means. It's called parched. The throat is parched. It's like very parched like we say is parched land. There's no water. It's very dry. So that's what does this mean spiritually? The whole world is the whole world is of everything. The whole mime explained that everything is the question is only the combination of the isis from 22 letters you have combinations that are almost endless and therefore there's so much diversity in creation it's the same isis just like you have it in science all matter is built from atoms all matter that's the build the building blocks of matter are atoms but it's the combination it's the combination of the elements called it that creates endless diversity and every single nra has its own unique and that's the name it's called kaidesh the name kaidesh is the combination [snorts] of the letters that represent and channel the divine energy so everything is which means everything is but means when the throat is parched and therefore the words don't come out with a hisgalas with a revelation. Either they barely come out or they don't come out. Meaning you can't hear like somebody's so horse you can't hear a word they're saying when there is a flow you recognize the so that there's a unity in the world. Huh? >> Yeah. And then when there's of a state of restrictiveness there's a silence. So then you're not aligned with the source. That's called disconnection. Disalignment, misalignment. When the person is not aligned with their own energy, that's the beginning of all dysfunction. That's disconnection. Like I don't know who I am. I'm alive, but I'm not alive because I'm not connected. At least not in a conscious way. That's the idea of and over there. Therefore there's there's anger there's there's there's frustration there's there's grief and as a result of that the first thing Yakov has to do on the way is from many stones he wants to make it all one like he explained every is called an Evan in says right many aonim create many homes two aanim create two homes three aanim create four homes etc six homes sorry four aonim four create 24 homes, five 120 6 I think 760 and so on and so forth. So avanim are are metaphor for is initially of course the avonim are separate and they're fighting with each other that's what they do everybody has its own turf to protect that's the natural fabric of our world right the first children that were born kayen and he also killed each other right so >> huh >> yeah right so homicide like rent write it in other words conflict is not a kesh conflict means means you have an ego and you're trying to protect it and you protect it in any way you can. The ofu is to introduce a new consciousness into the world and that's the consciousness where you see the as being part of the flow of oneness of the author and that's that's the which is the I could explain at length in other words when you see all the as channeling the author and there's one author that's being manifested in the diversity of Isis and that's the paradox of the world on one And as we explained, Isus could mean nothing. You could look at a music sheet and see musical notes and it's just dead. But somebody who appreciates the music looks at the musical notes and starts singing. They start smiling. You can memorize words and words and mishnas. You can memorize the whole not understand a word, right? You can memorize ashayat. You can memorize ash. You can memorize the whole bal. A lot of people do because they say it for so many years. But it's just letters. It's words. It has everything in it, but I'm not aware of it. So that means you could know letters and not know anything else. So letters don't really channel the energy. So the answer is that's the that's the paradox of letters. On one hand, the letters is lifeless. On the other hand, it's a channel for all of that. And that's exactly what stones are. Stones are not a person. Stones are do. And yet when the stones are put in a particular context, it becomes your home, your presence. They channel you. They they they manifest you. And this the same world that's what the world is. So I could look at the world and see it as a living organism. It's alive. There's a music and it's flowing. Everything is vibrant. Every insect, every bird, every uh fish, every mammal, every human being, every bush, every shrub, every leaf, every droplet of water, every drop of every flake of snow, every grain of sand, every cell, every atom, it's all alive. the Isis are channeling the and there's a oneness in everything. On the other hand, it's also we have the ability to look at the world and just see it as a dead sheet of music just I don't even identify the the the it's ways of looking at it. And this happened because that's what he said. It has to go through all the restrictions to be able to come into ah >> either it speaks to you or doesn't speak to you. >> Very good. Either everything speaks to you or nothing speaks to you. Yeah. >> It's the consciousness of a person. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. They say from the balv they asked the balshv once why by his by him and his there is so much singing by davining and by dining and generally a lot of dancing and joy and celebration like what's what is it what is it about? So because by other the bump have brought this in but other places it was it was seen as you know insanity and a little mishuga and you're crazy and all that. So the bash said he said he set a metaphor. He said that there was once a man and uh he was a brilliant musician and he came into the center of town and he started to play he started to play his musical instruments and even though everybody was busy with work and labor but it was so uh magical and so enthralling everybody stopped what they were doing and they all gathered around the musician and slowly they were just like pulled magnetically into the elation into the elevation of the music and they all started to sing and dance. And he says there was one man walking through and he looks at everybody in the marketplace. They're all around this position. Everybody's dancing. And the guy says, "Was a bantamish here? It's a middle of a work day. Why is it what everybody doing?" Everybody must have lost their mind. The m said there was one tragedy. The man was deaf. The man was deaf. So from his perspective, everybody was crazy. So he looks at this person and he says, "When you're deaf and you see people singing and dancing, everybody's crazy. You're right." So that's exactly what it means, right? What is that's that that's doesn't speak to me. What are you dancing for? So there could be two people observing the same reality. One, their ears are unplugged. So they're experiencing what's happening. So of course, you start dancing. You're moved. You're moved by the music. You're moved by the energy. You know, when your antennas are clear, you could even look at a leaf in a tree and and start crying. I don't know if anybody relates to this. When you're open, >> huh? >> Or laughing. In other words, from emotion. The world speaks. Everything speaks. It speaks the whole time. >> Huh? Yeah. Pedika means that the animals, if you wake up early in the morning, you'll hear that the birds have a concerto, right? Even before viken 4:00 in the morning, 5:00 in the morning, they start singing. They're stuck somewhere in a tree at a faka nest. They don't even have dal al it's not muza. They have these little this wake up cuz just genetically naturally they're just, you know, part of the whole symphony. But then it may not speak to me. It's just an ice. It's a So that's exactly what what the world is and it became one heaven which is the and that's bringing it all up and then he makes it a mat and he pours oil on it as said to be able to come back into the physical and channel the divine energy. >> You nailed it. more sensitive singing. >> Yeah. >> Exactly. It's different levels of for some of us the world doesn't speak to us at all. For some of us, the world speaks to us and for some of us, the world sings to us. And the singing is the deeper level of bringing the isis together. That's the string theory, right? They call it a string just like the violin. That one musical vibration is responsible for everything. That is reality. It just depends what glasses you're wearing. What glasses are you wearing? That's the reality that you live in. And it's all true. It's not it's not a contradiction. It's all true based on the reality the person lives in. [clears throat] My brother told me once that he heard from a Jew, it was the 1940s. So the wasn't a Reb yet because the Rebats was still living till 1950. And he was once fabing. I guess it was Shabas. So he said over the rashi that everybody learns that we learned here that Yakov took all these stones and the stones started to fight and everybody said I want the head. So what did Hashem do? He made that the stones should become one. So they stopped fighting. So asked the balabates a question. Yeah. Even if the stones are one but the head can only still be in one place. So they why they fight? Why are they not fighting? Yeah. Take this table. This is one table. But if you lie down on this table, your head can't be here and here and here and here. Your heads could still be in one place. So imagine you have a bunch of little tables. Yakov lies down and they start fighting. I want the head. So Hashem makes one table, one stone, but they should still fight because the head is only in one place of the stone. We all lie on mattresses, but your head can't be on every place in the mattress. So the Reb answered, he said, [snorts] "When you become one, you don't mind if somebody else has the head." The reason I mind when you have the head is because I'm separate. When you're one, you can have the head. Or to put it a differently, you could say when you're one, the other person having the head is you also having the head. So you're not you're not jealous, right? That's really you know in a very simple way it captures the there's almost two modalities in which to live right you see it very much in relationships in a marriage how do you know you graduated from a place of discord to a place of unity when the other person has the head you celebrate it it's like ah it's enjoyable because there's no the the friction that exists that what you have I can't have that's called a zero sum game what you have I can't have if I'm giving you a $1,000 check. Those $1,000 leave my bank account and they go into your bank account. We can't both have $1,000. It's impossible. This $1,000 either you have it or I have it. You can have another $1,000 hopefully. But that's how the world works because there's limited resources and therefore it's called zero sum game. That's in the consciousness of separateness. In the consciousness of oneness, what does oneness mean? Oneness means what you have I have. What I have, you have >> joint account. Very good. [laughter] So spiritually speaking in physical world, that's tak. And you see when you light a candle from another candle, right? The other the first candle didn't lose its light because somebody else has the light. The first candle doesn't get jealous, right? The shamish lights the first candle and jump. And then this lights the second candle. We're not doing that. What is it? The light now spread. There's more of you. There's not less of you. Why is there more of you? Somebody just took away your somebody just took away your your your your shine, your your glitter. Cuz because fire light operates in a different way. It's more more of a there's no such a thing. You took it away. You took it away. If I'm giving a If we're learning a mimer Yeah. and I know the mimer and I teach it and now you know it, I'M LIKE, "OH MY GOD." OH MY GOD, YOU JUST TOOK THE MIME away from me. I don't usually think that way. [laughter] At least I hope. Why not? Why not? >> Huh? If I was thinking that way, you wouldn't come. Huh? You just you stole the ma from me. You stole my $1,000. I had something and now suddenly 10 people have it. Leave me alone. I had 100% shares in the company and now suddenly I'm left with 10%. Everybody else has 90%. >> Huh? Infinity >> that's the that's devart right when you talk about infinity it's it operates in a different way completely in a different way so in a relationship also it's the moment where the person has the head you don't you it doesn't bother you but that's a very deep it's a very deep shift in consciousness because you cannot do this if you don't feel if you feel unsafe if you feel unsafe if you feel insecure it's yeah I constantly have to protect myself like no I have that you don't have that so this is what yakavinu is trying to create there and that's what the said when he wakes up and he makes his he says I want to come back in peace to the house of my father and said that the house of his father is and means laughter and is I will return to the house of my father to the house of and this was the whole beer that we learned in the last year that the idea of is and just like all laughter comes is always from paradox, from novelty, from the unexpected, from the transformation. That's what laughter is. As he says, when you have a person that speaks, nobody's entertained. When you have a bird that speaks, it's mesmerizing. A bird can say a hundred words or a thousand words, sometimes more, it's an incredible experience. Why? What's the big deal? A person speaks much more. The answer is the the transformation of it. And that's the idea whether when we when you come into the world and the world is it's a yes it's separate but that creates the the transformation creates the it creates the laughter that the becomes becomes the turns into a like turns into a matzah and as a result of that it transforms into joy aim And the whole of the holish that the light of Hashem becomes parched and becomes horse and the voice the the throat dries up and the letters are barely concealed is that the person who comes into that world takes the fragmentation and the yes and transforms it and that's the baluva shaft from the word chuva the transformation that happens davka through the baluva and that creates the deepest tanuk in a person and in the divine from that transformation dapka of the darkness that's what is and that's why the first name of the first Jewish boy is laughter it seems a little strange why you naming that name for a child laughter what is he a joke right you know the story yeah the rabbi the priest and the minister walked into the bar and the bartender says what is this a joke so what is this boy a jokek like so you say well it's just laughter it's it's It's it's it's it's an interesting name and this is the first Jewish name because Aram he wasn't born Jewish and Sarah wasn't born Jewish although they went through a change from but similar but the first Jewish name that was given when was born said and said that means that this name captures in it the essence of everything because the essence of everything is the ability to create the unexpected the novel to revolutionize a transformation. Of course, I can go into darkness. Of course, I can go into disassociation. Of course, I can go into fragmentation. But is the ability to create a different punchline, the unexpected punchline. This I didn't expect. It's when the soul surprises the mind. Or to put it differently, when the soul surprises the ego, when the divinity in you surprises the fragmentation in you. And it happens in a split second. You could see your system going one way and you breathe and you say I'm going to go into a different consciousness. Instead of the consciousness of defensiveness, it's the consciousness of oneness. >> Outdo yourself. >> I wouldn't say outdo yourself, surprise yourself. There was a famous man named Yogi Barra. I'm sure some of you heard of Yogi Barra. He's already in the next world wherever he is. So they say about him that he once asked his wife, his wife once asked him, he died a few years ago. She says, "Where do you want to be buried? Where should I buy you a burial plot?" He says, "What's the question?" She says, "You were born in Missouri. You live in New Jersey, but you play for the New York Yankees. So, where should I bury you? Missouri, New Jersey, or New York?" So, he said to her, "Surprise me." Yeah, not bad. Surprise me. So, the purpose of life is surprise me. Surprise yourself. Of course you can get into a fight with your wife. We know that. Of course you can get jealous. Thank you. Of course you can get resentful. Thank you. You're going into survival template. I hate the world. The world hates me. I'm unsafe. Surprise me. It's not ama. That's normal. Surprise me. And every every every moment we have an opportunity to surprise ourselves. And it's not bypassing. It's not repressing yourself. It's not it's surprising yourself in the most beautiful way. You're surprised it's the soul surprising the mind. It's it's the soul surprising the ego and it has to calm down the ego in is the kiss surprising the concept of explain your question. Yeah, >> I guess. So, yeah, >> it's I mean it's connected probably. I don't know if it's m connected and the last he said that the main tuk of this is going to be when Mashia comes. In other words, what's going to be the right now it's mostly and when you're in Birud, you don't so much feel the bliss because you're you're in the thicket of the work. When you're in the thicket of the work, you could feel the battle more than the bliss. You could feel the tug of war, the the ability to go in two ways. Cuz this requires a lot of presence, a lot of presence of mind. And again and again. In other words, naturally the stones are fighting. That's how it's going to be. The stones are fighting. The iss mine my head my head my head. So it's constantly bringing in the consciousness of of the there's an ato essentially and you're not going to be happy when fragmentation it's a very short-lived happiness. People who get into a fight they're fighting they protect themselves constantly but there's a there's a torturousness there because you're fighting your system. You're you were not made to fight. You were made to be in unity. >> Yeah. So, so I may protect I protect myself. I put up walls. I'm completely behind the walls, but I'm also completely isolated. Completely isolated. It's not the natural. You're not in flow. You cannot be in flow because you're when you're in flow. When you're openhearted, you're in flow. You're in flow of the divine energy which is one because all the Isis are really one. They're all one. That's the remember we spoke about versus is the way it comes from oneness and then it comes into and here brings the when you manage to to to cross the defeat of the Russia inside of you meaning the ego that's transforms into into joy just that itself how he changes it Everybody lives when a Russia dies you make a party says when you allow the Russia inside to get lost in the light that creates from it creates that creates thank God let's throw a big this lowife terrorist died shalom you put up signs drop dead and it's time to make a celebration is when I'm dealing with the rush inside of me and I create I allow it to become this bottle to become lost that creates the deepest the deepest tanuk that's what creates tenuk the deepest tenug is the tanug of the shock it's really it it gives us a whole perspective on how we deal with struggle Because whenever you're dealing with darkness, it's almost like this is this is the prerequisite for in a person's life. I mean, it's it's not so easy maybe to say it, but emotionally when a person confronts a crazy crazy darkness like and and and and you're engulfed in it and you're imshed in it. I don't know if anybody relates to this, but I do. and you're imshed in it and and it's almost like it's it seems infinite and it's so overwhelming and it's nauseating. It's it's it's devastating. It's sad. It's very very hard, debilitating. Yeah. And the person is like really imshed. It's almost like you're subsumed in it, submerged in it like under the ocean and it seems so dark. And then from there from there this bid the person comes out on the other side and suddenly they see that the darkness was just a journey that they had to go through in order to be able to discover who they really are. The the level of a level of and that comes from that is unprecedented. You can never have that in something that's just initially light and initially bright which is beautiful and it's Gishmak but that level of transformation who it's like that that wo that unexpectedness is is it's earthshattering and and and the inner serenity that it creates the it creates is an infinite type of that's can't stand there because because what happens then is it transforms everything the energy that comes When we take darkness and we harness it and that becomes light. It's a different type of light. It's a light that's not comparable with any other light. That's the of but that is going to be in his gala mainly in Mashiach. That's the tuk of Mashia. It's not a different tug than now right when the whole idea is that gullis and gul are not separate. Ga and the same words the same letters gimmel v. So how did gimmel v which is exile ga become goul? You put in an olive, you put the olive into Gila, that is gula. Gula is not a separate reality from Gila. It's not like goula is a new world, a new reality. No ga with olive. Suddenly the alf is in the ga the same reality. It's one. It's a divine reality, a different reality. That's what goula gula is the transformation of ga, not just obliteration of ga. Not just you're stepping away from it. Because if you're stepping away from it, what do you need the gya for? What do you stom to torture people? So thehat is and it's very hard to understand this because we don't see it all yet. We don't see most of it yet. But the ver is no gula is created from ga. The alf in ga creates the gula. Gula is made up of the same letters like ga just with the oneness inside. And that's that that's funny. That punchline I didn't expect that the whole mishagas suddenly becomes part of the bliss that I didn't expect. Suddenly every nuda of your life, every mistake, every error, every downfall, every obstacle, everything I was struggling with was really the catalyst for the that take a breath. Wow. That's that that that's that's a pretty intense comedy. That's a pretty intense comedy over there. >> Yeah. It all meant something. Yeah. And it all leads out somehow leads to that redemption. Yeah. And that's Rabaka, right? The whole Gmoria Makas. Everybody knows saw the fox coming out of kadeshadashim. Everybody is sobbing and he's laughing. What's he laughing for? That's what they asked him. He said what are you crying for? So this was already was experiencing the literally and already before the gar says on mount scopus everybody tore their clothes and they and they they later about the harabayas they saw sh kind of coming out of kakadoshim fox and is laughing. The gar also tells a story they were going to Rome and they heard kamino 120 kilometers away. Everybody was sobbing and he was laughing. This is the So now the main is going to be revealed in all of that. And that's I'm going to come back in peace to the house of my father. That's the do you want to say? >> Something you said in the imagery really brings it to you like you're trapped like you're under the ocean. >> Yeah. So if a person's stuck and they can't breathe, the fact that they're under water for a long time, like when you're a kid, you try to say, "How long can I stand under the water?" The minute you burst out and you start breathing in the air, the air is so much more like incredible because because you couldn't breathe for that long. If you just been la it wouldn't have been such a but the difference of that is the air you need to breathe the light marshall >> light is great but you can also live in the darkness but air so you're in a tough situation but then once you get the air that you need >> you couldn't live without it >> yeah yeah >> the difference >> the light of dawn >> of dawn comes from the dark and the Like the rainbow that goes through the clouds. >> Yeah. Comes from the sun. >> So one you need and one one is just nice. >> Come light that comes from darkness. >> You have the rainbow that comes through the clouds, right? That's how we see it. And then you have the dawn dawn break that comes mamish. The sun rises as you know from the midst of darkness. It's like boom. So now he continues. Let's see on the bottom. This is the says it's a very strange that there's going to come a time the Jewish people are going to say I don't know I don't know I know is our father and the explains I think the Jewish people are going to say to you are our father what does that Because means when the tug when the bliss when the delight when the ecstasy is revealed from all. So the whole purpose of the the descent and the devolution of all the worlds all the way down to all the all the restrictions which allowed the creation of a and something that's and something that's separate. It was all in order for there to be for there to be. So they're going to look at and say what's the idea of that the whole now finally the purpose of everything is going to come out. It's going to be manifested not by avoiding it but by everything becomes transformed. Every of his every of throughout all of history becomes part of the laughter becomes part of the everything you're working on everything every obstacle think about your own life right every herd every every hurdle every hurdle and every obstacle and every setback and every loss and everything I'm working through big things small things even things that nobody in the world knows besides you and your little mishuga brain or my little mishuga brain or normal brand. I don't mean to uh [snorts] give anybody names, but every every every is is it's another in the making. It's another in the making. It's another to work through. It's another place where you're going to reveal oneness in a place of fragmentation where you're surprising yourself. Where it's easy to go back into split, literally split. You know, when you speak about a splintered personality, what is it really? Right? When there's no cohesion, when there's no actus, when there's no alignment, we split up. We split up. And that's what it looks like when the stones are fighting with each other. We split up and we go into an unnatural place and we feel it even within ourselves, right? When a person is going in so many directions, I'm pulled here and I'm pulled there, there's no actus, there's no flow. A healthy body means they work together. You know, when parts of the body start working against against themselves in the body, it's it's one of the most dangerous realities. It doesn't recognize that there's a oneness here that the brain and the heart and the pancreas and the liver and the kidneys, it's one. It's one story. They're not competing with each other. They're different, but they're not competing with each other. We all understand that within ourselves, but the same is true if you go a little further. It's true with the whole planet. It's true with family. It's true with community. true with the planet and ultimately it's true with the universe that that's really what it is that's when it says we're going to seek here also the way the world touches is when comes everybody will seek that whatever Hashem said became true the whole world will see that everything is they will seem Everything exists because of pashm. So male it's all one. It's one author. You know sometimes you come into a meeting and there's so much strife, there's so much attitude, there's so much discord. It's like you can literally feel the tension. And what could you do then? You can only do one thing. You could be regulated. That's the only thing you can do. The worst thing is to join the argument because it's just it's a state of consciousness of literally it's literally it's it's restrictiveness. It's like the it's like like everybody's literally choking. They're choking on the words. There's no there's no there's no space. There's no space of openness. And we all go into those spaces. And then it's all about confrontation. You said this, I said this. The question is, who was right? And it's like, whoa, you even if even if you agree that I'm right, I I already lost the plot. Even if you agree, I already lost. Even if I could make you agree because ultimately there was no there's no there's no connection. So only when you could come in from a different literally like a different ang a different space it's everything is different. It's it's it's it's a space where you don't have to be defensive. And the truth is as I said before you cannot expect anybody to do this if they don't feel safe. Right? If a child did not grow up with safety or a young adult not grow with safety I don't even know what this means. Naturally somebody coming into the room is an invitation to war even without saying anything. And sometimes you tense up, you know. I mean, if if you know what I'm talking about, this is a real condition. People are in you're in a room yourself. Somebody walks in, your body is like preparing. It's preparing. It's uptight. It's uptight. It's like we don't know what's going to happen. We have to see. >> Worst case scenario. >> Yeah. Yeah. There's worst case scenarios. You have to be have surveillance. And it makes sense. When you're in Gaza, you should not relax. It's good advice. You should not relax, right? And if you grew up in that space, so it's very very hard to relax. So this is where safety comes in. >> Yeah. Yeah. The amygdala alerts us to uh to danger and it's it it develop different coping methods. Fight is a big one. Flight is also a big one. But it's the same thing. The bottom line is there's no connection. And sometimes there's freeze. It's also a big one. And sometimes there's for is people's pleasing. People pleasing. Those four responses are all part of a survival template in which we become separate and they're important for danger. Like if a lion comes into the room, fight or flight or freeze or if you could please the lion is if you have a good piece of steak, whatever. The problem is when I'm always in that space, right, and somebody's trying to connect to me and either I punch them in the nose or I run away or I freeze or I start pleasing them. There's no relationship. and become one is a different. So that's the when Mashiach comes they're going to say in other words they're going to identify they're going to see this is the end this is the the goal this is a transformation of all this that's says I'm going to return in peace to the house of my father is this that's going to be revealed comes through two motions. One is and one is halah is the journey upward from fragmentation to unity. Hamshak is the journey downward from unity into fragmentation. One is Jacob putting the stone by his head and one is taking the stone and turning it into a mata and then pouring oil on top of it. One isal going upward and one is ham and you understand the difference between the two. Inalah you go away from the fragmentation into a space of oneness and trust. Hamshak is can you bring that down into your regular day-to-day life which is called integration into the system into the regular system because if you have only it's beautiful when I am in a state of elevation but then when I come back for a landing there's no tool to connect to it right you have some people that they have a very deep experience or a very deep moment or a very deep vision in halah and they literally go away from the ego space into the oneness space but Ender's landing and sometimes everything comes back with a vengeance and it's even worse because it's a crash landing and because it was so elevating the downfall becomes so much more disappointing and it shows them more that it's not happening because even after you went up so high look how low you fell. So that's where ham comes in like Dr. said earlier malahan that the same experience of it could be every time you're learning because the comes in even to sob says this is through through two things through and these are all the and this is called shalom peace is only needed when there's paradox you don't need peace when there's no opposites the function of peace is to connect two things that are opposite We finished ding. He makes peace in his heights. So say who's the spiritual energy of water is the spiritual energy of fire. Water and fire fight with each other. They can't coexist. Either the water winds or the fire winds. Either the fire evaporates the water or the water extinguishes the fire. They can't both exist and in the presence of Hashem make peace. Why? Because the chemistry of fire and water are in conflict with each other when they're only worshiping their own chemistry. But when they see their chemistry as manifestations of oneness, even physically, if you go down to the atomic level of fire and water, they could coexist. But in in our world, they can't coexist. You need a pot. You need a to be able to you literally need a So the shalom is when you bring two together and that's the says peace. Peace for the one who's far and for the one who's close. Why does it say twice? So it says so says like this. There's the shalom for the one who's far to become close and there's the shalom for the one who's close to go far. In other words, one is shalom. The one who's far, meaning the one who's living in fragmentation to become close. That's the first shalom. And then there's the second sha where that which is ready to go downward l and create peace over there. It's the two postures of shalom. One is mata la going upward and one is ma lata coming downward. And they're both not easy because if somebody's on top of a mountain and I'm on the bottom, we could connect in two ways. either I climb up the mountain which takes effort or that person goes down the mountain which takes effort and that's how the two connect. So there and then there's the goes down to the and that's the two shaloms. So is base because he said it happens through two things and is that the stones become one. They all go back to the yud which is where they channel cosmic intelligence and love where all the stones are really telling one story. It's like a book. You have so many different sentences and paragraphs and chapters but they're really telling one story. The author of a novel may have a 1200page novel, War and Peace, but it's one story. And a good author really the whole novel is one story and it's really one truth. You convey the truth through 1,200 pages or 1500 pages, a lot of diversity, but every letter is ultimately part of that truth. That's bringing all the letters back to oneness. That's and then there's that init your channel down here in the physical world. That's that's the second shalom. So there's two shaloms [snorts] and through these two types of peace which are all about the transformation of darkness and light. It shouldn't be anymore a world of fragmentation but that this world should experience the alignment and the the oneness like it is in the higher worlds mish where godliness is revealed. So this is the if I'm going to do the that comes through is two types of peace then I'll return to the house of my father then the divine bliss will automatically be revealed and the since it's at the core of everything is literally infinity. It's a bliss that's infinity. Whenever you get a glimpse into this, it's an experience of a because this is really the prompter. This is the engine of all of reality. Reality begins with that's the source. That's the code, the the the the string theory, the the the vibration that produces all reality is it's and everything is a manifestation of that. Even the last most fragmented piece of the world is a manifestation of the because of that brings you back to the so if you want to understand in your own life the core of everything this is I mean I said that a person can go into very very deep places you know you go visit this most incredible place in the world and you're just astounded you're just astounded but you don't have a map you don't know what to do with it like you don't know where to place it and if you come back to your regular place you don't even have any words for it the map is not the reality but the map gives you is ah ah and if you learned the map before if you learned the map before so when you come there ah wow I I read about this mountain I read about this cloud I read about this river I read about this valley I read about this stone I read about this tree and when you come back you also have something with you, right? So literally this is the map. This is the map of of of of the depth of reality. So that there's to the experience and then there's also something to take with because you know this is it. This is what you want to integrate. Somebody once asked why you learn why we learn. He says most people don't even understand a word that's like so abstract. So he said it's to be able to say aha. That's what he said. It's to be able to say aha. So the guy says what what type of aa? So he said sometimes there's a child and the parents are having a private conversation in the bedroom. They close the door but he wants to hear because it's about him. So he puts his ear. Problem is he only hears every five words. one in five words he hears, right? So, he doesn't really get it. But then when finally his mother tells him, she spills the beans. He's like, "Aha! Aha! Aha! Aha! Ah! Now, now I get it. That was the word. That was the word. That was the word. So, he says, "You're learning. You're learning. Mashia is going to come." Yeah. You'll be able to say, "Aha." [laughter] You'll be able to say, "Aha." Aha. Very good. But what's the what's the stam? So you won't say but to one guy one the the ability to be able to say aha means of course this is it this is it this is this is what it was in the system but it could fully be it could fully be internalized it could fully be in integrated so whatever here is saying is that at the core of everything is begins everything and that's in other plot of creation and all of its insanity and it's pretty insane as we know is the inner of the love the the the bliss of in other words in many ways if you want to describe the there's no words for it but it begins with with with pure infinite bliss and love and from there comes everything if from there comes everything goes back there because that's really what it is that is the ultimate engine and it's in a person true in a person too the deepest deepest part of you is it's your it's your love, it's your infinity, it's your bliss, it's your connection and this is your royalty. This is the and all of our life seems so fragmented from that. It's like really if you can have once a year for a few minutes you're happy. Everybody's looking for constantly this distraction that distraction. But really when you connect it to that that's the and all the is just to fix to fix another piece which brings it all back to through this and through the that comes from the transformation. So he says that's that's going to be revealed. This is beyond the evolution of the worlds and all the levels higher and lower and darkness and light because this is the beginning. This is the essence the smallest world in the biggest world the smallest level the biggest level identical without change and darkness is like light mamish. So in the atmos which is before all the madregas it's the essence before the madregas everything is one over there in that of everything was included it's just like you said with kayak but it's not experienced in our consciousness if we don't go through the whole of so the whole is that you should really be able to own the bliss say ah wow so it's like you went through that craziness and then you come out ah this is it and it all comes back together but But it's all all back to you and of and that's why we learned in the in there's the cycle of there's and then he said the of right and he said the main of is the of it's that experience I said you heard the story once went and he wasn't coming to the meal and he sent people and they they said he's just ding so he went himself and he came back and he said, right? He's dancing with God and God is dancing with him. That was his description of that's a foretaste of this experience. That's what it is. He saw it and he said, "Well, I'm not going to take him to the meal." Afraid like he what are you going to it's like we we what's the next step? There's no next step after that. >> Huh? >> This is this is it. Like in other words, we have there's a schedule a schedule. So he's like, why is he not conforming to the schedule? You know, we finished ding. Now it's time to have a meal. It's a mitzvah to have a meal. It's so he went there and he's basically what what was he saying? They were saying he's still ding. Say he's not still ding. So what do you want me to do exactly? Stop it. Why don't you interrupt it? This is the whole tus of the holish. The holish is for this. So what do you want me to interrupt this? I'm not going to interrupt this. >> Huh? >> Yeah. Yeah. It's not selfish at all. It's complete oneness. It's complete oneness because in a from there comes everything. So over there everything is there. So the darkness and the light are the same because the darkness is just the it's just a process. So the highest world, the lowest world, it's all one. in the gallion. And now you'll see exactly what Jacob is saying will become because it's a it's very strange the right we learned that Jacob wakes up in the morning and he makes an if Hashem is going to be with me and he's going to give me bread and he's going to give me clothes and he's going to protect me and he's going to bring me back to my father's home. So what's the highlight then? The stone And then the stone is going to become a Bikim. So what's going to become? What does that mean? What's wrong with is going to become? He says now we'll understand has a whole new says I think Hashem is the son and the protector the shield so the way the world learns is it's one thing is the sheh he's the son he gives light and he's the mug and he's the protector why does he use the two names hashikim constantly he's done these things says no he saying a whole here is not is the son and the protector. No, she mugg what the mug is for the sheesh the relationship between shemesh and mug that's the relationship of the kid in other words she is the son but the son needs to have a mug a narek the gummor says nar it's like a a sheath right what's called a seath that protects it if the shemer did not have that we would not be able to survive we would all become French toast every single morning or actually American toast if you're in America. If you're in Russia, it's Russian toast. The mug filters, condenses, contracts, compromises, dilutes the that you could sit and enjoy your vitamin D and enjoy your heat and get a suntan. Miami not now but if you go to Miami and the world grow the earth the pro this produce the sun is responsible for survival on the planet but only because it has an Arctic it's even the distance of the sun is very very meticulous I don't know if you know it's a half fascinating thing because someone was further away not very far we would freeze to death if it was closer we would burn to death so it's meticulously positioned in a way >> deviation >> yeah It's a half of a here again you see that nothing is random as you said 5% deviation would result in catastrophe catastrophe so she it's but the sheh needs a m a protector to protect us the soul we need to be protected from the sun so the son needs to be limited that's what muggan is for sheim is fork that according to physics the only way we protect it from sun is through magnetic field >> very nice mug magnetic field magnetic field is mug beautiful that's what protects it literally sobb says is the flow of infinity With the flow of infinity, you can't have a yesesh. If there was a sheh without a m if there was without a lim, there's no yesesh. What's yesesh? Yesesh means I exist. I have an ego. I need to protect it. The only reason I can even experience that initially is because of shame. Shame eclipses so much that the energy comes into me, comes into you, comes into everything and I say, "Oh, I exist. Who created me?" Nobody my mother biology my mother, my father, there that's it. I'm a yesh. I am. Suddenly there's I am. And now the question is who are you? I can even be an atheist. So I become a yesh I become separate. That can only happen because of elikim. Elim eclipses the light to the point that it's so filtered and so condensed that you don't even know it source and you don't even identify with the source and I'm not in flow anymore. So that's the this is all in the evolution where there's higher and lower and darkness and light is light and that's why is 86. It's because it creates nature. >> [snorts] >> In the future the is going to be revealed. The is higher than remember all his came from the so is higher than and higher than. So what is now will then be like relative to the that's going to be revealed even the is going to be in other words the highest worlds which in which there's a flow of consciousness in which there's a that's going to become the in which light and darkness of the are the same. So even becomes even would be called concealment. So that's what he's saying when it's going to be coming back to which is the end of the which is which is what happens becomes because now gets revealed that's even higher than a that's even higher than light you have a light represents the eclipsing of the light the darkness is responsible for the highest revelations in which is present and is the concealment and that's why but from you come back to where to the essence which is beyond everything and over there the smallest and the biggest are the same and and even the darkness is fully fully fully like light. So here even is like because when you're in there's a difference between and is conceals it but the so over there the lowest lowest place and the highest place are completely identical and that's what's going to be revealed in the alien that everything is connected everything is one everything is part of the atsmos so even is going to be in the of in other words Even will be like a concealment cuz that's how deep the experience of is that suddenly your greatest moment of darkness was not any more dark than your greatest moment of light. Today we won't experience that because if we do experience that then the game is over. So like this is light, this is dark, this is confusing, this is overwhelming. Here I have clarity. Here I don't know what hit me. This is the place where I'm connected and this is the place where I'm feeling so much pain, so much unworthiness. This is the place where there's light, where there's joy and serenity, tranquility. And this is the place where life seems like just chaos. This is the of this of but it's all comes from the which is higher than everything and one are one it's higher than it's higher than the evolution of the higher world and the lower worlds that's where everything comes from. So when that gets revealed through what happens then even the highest place of aaya is like elikim because it's so much beyond that and therefore on the other hand the lowest place is also higher and that means you don't have to be afraid of dealing with anything because this is all the opportunity. Sometimes it looks so chaos, looks so chaos, so impossible, so unredeeming. That's all in there, but in the there's a secret bliss. It's really a secret. And that even is still is like even that's how real it is. And because even is therefore even the lowest darkness is connected to that bliss because it's not defined by light anymore. Inavaya it's defined by light. Elim is by darkness. But this is a place that's beyond it. So even is and that's why the lowest darkness becomes part of that. You're feeling what is saying? This is very heavy. So what's his conclusion? So if all of this happens, what's the punch line? So this that I made those those will become aim it's going to become a home and a for the future which is the of now because you remember he saidim then the of today is going to be in the of because the gill of so is going to be a bias for which is because became and then what's the last thing he says whatever you give me I'm going to give say everything you're going to be giving me in other words all is also going to be endless alias life is not going to be boring So what are we going to do with this? He says every above it is only it's like a tenth. So it's going to be because it's infinite. So every Madre is going to be vid and this will be enough for somebody who understands [panting] and for somebody who doesn't understand I don't know what's going to be enough right but that's how he finishes the mime he doesn't finish every mime like this very seldom vidal vid maven this is enough for somebody who understands The wrote a kiter in a lot of my just to be able to summarize it. So we'll go through the kitser fast. Alfa goes through the whole but very brief so you get a full full picture. The word is he took the which is the cosmic intelligence where everything is one and he brought it into the to the souls of the feet. That's why he leaves bees which is the well of seven meaning the wellspring from where the seven emotions come in it's called the element of the of which is which is the source of the mid is the mother and is its connectivity so that's the well of the seven and he brings it inch He takes the stones which represents the letters of the enclosed everything in the world turns it into one stone which is aud which is he puts it at his head which is which is the he makes this stone a monument that's the extends from the that's the we have down here which is comes from the and the extends it he pours oil in it says there was such oil and reverence. Now also when we learn is that there could be that and re reverence because it's really the same experience. What do you mean it's not same experience? There's no fireworks and drama. That's the that when you realize that these words I'm learning is channeling. It's literally you're in that state of through this work. I'm going to come back to my father's house. You're our father. This is the laughter and pleasure that's going to be from all the all the sifting and dissecting and elevating the which is subduing and transformation takes the and becomes a to become which is celebration song jubilation celebration This is what happens by is the constraint of the throat. The word mates are where it's the narrowest part of the body where the voice can get stuck. And that's what gullis mit is. You're completely not connected. I'm in exile means I'm disconnected from the source. So that's like and they made our lives bitter there was m when they had what do they eat matzah instead of they made the into the h just like became reeno. So the process of yakov in is like the process of the Jews in mit yakov running away from lavan is like the Jews running away from py. This is not such this is a pretty intense thing that the two stories are really the same story. Yakov running away from love is the Jews running away from par chasing them is love and chasing giml the third. This is through two types of peace going up and going down. and and then will only be in the revelation of the so the is going to become a base is going to be another reason it says that the evidence is going to be a baseim Besides what he explained is because we're going to tell you're our father and this this is in other words the whole of can only happen from the darkness from the concealment. That's why she says not from there's no because it's not novel. It's not unexpected. It's from you have the soim says so when this Evan is transformed completely this is that happens through. >> Okay. Marriage >> marriage >> to understand that >> of course it's probably a very good muscle >> in marriage. [snorts] >> Yeah. I mean we all understand that this is what trust is when people you know when people could really connect in a way that I don't have to dominate you you don't have to dominate me and there could be a oneness within the diversity that is what every beautiful relationship looks like there's there's three types of relationships one relationship is discord you know people just not getting along fighting there's another relationship where they get along but they don't really get along meaning one person just controls the narrative and the other person just >> hops along >> hops along surreners or they're not even authentic with each other. So that way you know we get along but we don't really get along >> because you're really still lonely and it makes sense cuz I don't want to be confr I don't want to speak the truth because then it's going to be confrontational. So then what happens is really everybody is lonely. You just say the things the other person wants to hear. They say the things that you want to hear. So of course you never disagree. It's beautiful marriage but it's not really. It's it's it's very superficial. Sometimes people don't feel they have a choice. So it makes sense, but that's not what we're talking about. The real ato is where every stone retains its own uniqueness, but there's a trust where they become one. Like that's the idea of one stone and then you can have the head. It's fine because it's it's instead of negative competitiveness, it becomes a beautiful enhancement of the truth of the oneness. But you can only do that if you feel oneness. The moment I feel that you're threatening me, I will never do this. You got to be crazy to do this because you're compromising your safety. I'm not going to do it. Right? Only when you feel that's where everybody has to work on it. Everybody has to work on it. You have to provide. Everybody has to feel safe to be able to be them. If the moment I tell you what I'm thinking, you're going to tell me how stupid I am and how nerdy I am and that I'm a mishuga and I'm just like my mother and I'm just like my grandmother and I'm just like this one and that one or I'm going to say this to somebody else. we're done. Fine. Either we fight or we're like, you know what, it's impossible. So that's not going to happen. This is the idea where you could bring two opposites. Shalom. What's shalom? Shalom is not you're not opposites. That's not the shalom is it's two opposites, but they could be in peace. How can they be in peace? So you have to reveal something that really connects them even as two opposites. The only way you could do that is when you bring the Evan back to the source. You bring the back to the source. First taste, >> huh? >> Unfortunately, >> unfortunately. [laughter] >> I asked him if he understands. He says, "Unfortunately." >> I love that. Gavald line. >> Best line. Best line of the year. Okay. I hate to break it to you, but you're not the only one who understands. >> Oh, yeah. Everybody have a beautiful day. Today is my grandmother's yard shabas. I'm here and sun Monday morning will learn Kaneka. So we'll learn something on Kaneka. >> Monday morning. Monday morning. Okay. You'll see. Yeah. Yeah. You'll see.