Torah Is So Cool (Ep. 279)

Hello and welcome to the Rabbi Olowski show. I am your host David Orlovski. I wanted to try a new opening. That's how Chris Wallace used to start with Fox News Sunday. So I thought see how that would go over. And a shout out to our friends over at Torren any time. Wherever you watch or listen to your podcast, don't forget to like, share, subscribe, and comment. And uh we have a sponsor this week and the sponsor is anonymous. I have wanted to sponsor an episode for so long. After listening to the recent podcast where you referenced the song How can I miss you when you won't go away, I decided that the time has finally come. I guess that's a universal sort of a thought. Always on the lookout for the most hilarious country songs ever. I cannot even begin to tell you how elated I was to learn of this one. I I didn't know that country music ever made anyone elated. I was to learn of this one. Even my father hadn't heard of it. And I grew up in South Carolina. I think it even tops You're the reason our kids are ugly and all my exes live in Texas. You know, uh when I spoke in Cincinnati once, so um I was doing my wife do mitzvos and they took as a topic uh apparently a name of another song. Are there cheeseburgers in heaven? Yeshu have enriched my life so much from the first time I heard you at Net 25 years ago to the downloads I purchased on your website to the free podcast I listen to today. Your words have helped me get through some incredibly difficult times in my life. I emailed you in the past to thank you and you kindly responded thanking me for the which of course is in of itself. Uh just a quick note I was not being nice. It really takes a lot of because you may have noticed this sometimes when I have guests on people who are not as experienced a broadcaster as myself and they just sort of like freeze up. That's even with me coaching them because there's something about sitting in a room by yourself just talking to a camera and you have to picture you know the thousands of people who are listening it's really very difficult so when someone tells me wow I really enjoy this or I got meaning out of it it does give me I was not being nice that I've been accused of many things but not that may you and your family be blessed and may Hashem grant you health happiness nas and the strength to keep all of us. Amen. It does take Kayak. And now maybe I'll pick up my old guitar and relearn the classic long neck bottle. Let go of my hand. Thank you. I appreciate that because I I uh when I used to run NCSY in Long Island, um I had a special relationship with the southern region and I found that, you know, um that I I felt a certain affinity. It's interesting there there are certain groups that people um not everybody relates to. I know people say to me, you know, you spoke in England. How did you go over? I said, great. They said, 'Oh, because a lot of Americans don't go over well there. I said, 'Yeah, well, I have a somewhat quirky sense of humor, and I think, you know, English people can appreciate that. Yeah. And um and uh the same thing with Down South, you know, I'm I'm also apparently quite popular in the community. I hear this from all the time that listen to the podcast and English may not necessarily be their first language. I had three bakim from the B of Yeshiva and Batyam who asked if they could come for Suda. Yeah. And um and their first language was Yiddish, but but they listen to the podcast. You know, I just met an Israeli over Shabas and his wife is Israeli and she says h she listens to the podcast all the time. And I said her English, she understands English. She goes enough to understand your English. Yeah. So, uh, and also I have a large following in this community. So, it's, uh, I really, I really am a Renaissance man, you know. I really, uh, cross cross barriers and that's ultimately uh, one of the goals of this, as we've mentioned many times, is to give and to bring together. You know, if everybody if everybody could find something they have in common and that is people enjoy hopefully learning Tory in a fun and positive way which brings me to the topic I want to discuss this week. Now this is obviously the first Shabas after Pesak. It's uh conveniently located right because Pesak finished up uh uh here in on Shabas and uh it's Shabas Sunday. So you have more or less a whole week to put your kitchen back together, get everything massar. Um, usually on PES, uh, you know, you you just have to clear everything away. Now, uh, a shout out to my, uh, Makista Rebes Katkus um, in Ramad, there is nothing on her counters, but like nothing. I don't know how anyone does that, you know. So when we redid our kitchen, we have a mixer cabinet. So okay, we're able to took the the uh the mix and a few other things in the mixer cabinet, but everywhere there's stuff there's stuff everywhere. And that's why for Pesak to be able to clear off the counters, uh which I kasha and somebody asked me, they're granite. Why do you kasha them? You know, and uh I said, well, you know, you can kasha granite. He goes, "Do you cover them?" I said, "Sure." He says, "Well, why do you cover them?" So the the simple answer is that in the M, you know, we kasha, we cover. But uh my answer is because I don't kasha very well and I don't cover very well. So I figure between the two of them, we hopefully be covered. But you have so much stuff to put away, you know, and so you have um I have voses. I have to hide them someplace. I've got uh this air fryer that I just got. This thing is enormous. I've got my shabas urn. You got to put that someplace. I got a toaster. We have a um uh sandwich maker, you know. Um we have so many different things. We have one of those wooden blocks that are filled with knives that you can always use in case uh you think there's a murderer and you say the butcher knife is missing. So, we have one of those just basically for the murder mystery. Um, you know, there are so many things that just are there counters and so you have to like put everything away, you know, and uh and then you never really find everything when you go through, you know, you start collecting different things and you go, "Uh oh, where did I put this? Where did I put that?" And some things you just forget about, which means you probably never needed them in the first place, you know. So, uh, that's it. So, uh um next time I'm just going to bring in an archaeological student and say, "Go see what you can find." Well, I I can't find your toaster, but I did find some broken pottery from the third century. I said, "It's not from the third century. It was from during Pesak. One of my glasses broke." But okay. Anyway, when people come to it, you know, they go to these sites and they find broken pottery and they and they like swipe it and and they smuggle it. They think they're smuggling antiquities. In the ancient world, everybody used pottery. That was the disposable dishes of that time. And it all broke. So, the country is littered with uh broken pottery. The fact that you picked up a shard of broken pottery is no different than if you took uh you went to America and you took like a used plastic cup, you know, they have they have no particular Look, I found this ancient metal scribe. Uh it's something metal. Let me see if what does it say on it? It's got writing. It looks like CocaCola. But um anyway, so you have a whole week to put your house back together, find everything that you hid in the kitchen, and then enough time to be able to make your schlissle. All right. So, I'll just I got to I got a two things that I just have to deal with. We haven't been together for a while, so you know, I get a buildup. You know, sometimes when we we do week after week after week, I'm not sure what to talk about. When I when I get a lot of buildup, then I'm like, "Okay, let's talk about it. So um um uh the first thing is they uh there are here in I don't know if they have this in America here in they write on different products it was baked after Pes there was one year where PES came out on Thursday I went to the I call it on Friday and I saw these different products. I said that is impossible. There is no way they could have made all of this stuff in the amount of time that they had. Yeah. And um and uh I think all they really made were the labels and they just went around slapping them on everything. I don't know. When I was a kid, you know, growing up after pay, we'd go to the AM or some other goa supermarket and we'd buy whatever we wanted. Okay, I understand here in that's a little harder. Aren't so many go places. But if we had to go to a Jewish place, they'd have aar that they sold theirs and that was good enough for us. But not today. Today it's that's doesn't bother me as much as when it comes to making the people only want flour. The flower had to have been ground after by the way just uh somebody told me I said look what do you do with all the stuff that you sold if you're only able to sell the stuff goes oh we put it in the store room and take it out about about a month later then nobody's looking anymore. So there are certain people who mamish actually check the code date of production to be able to find out when it was made where what you know but okay far be it for me to cast dispersions. Yeah, I don't keep gabbras um Misha Feinstein uh once told somebody um you know he kept inviting him over for a suda and the person kept making excuses for him. She says, "What's the problem?" Because I have gross. He says, "Yeah." He goes, "I can accommodate you." He says, "Yeah." Says, "Yeah, I'll get two other people matered. We'll take away your vow." I have to translate now because I got a couple of emails recently from non-Jews who say they get a lot of strength from watching this podcast. So, I don't know if they're familiar with all of my, you know, Yeshiva terms that I throw around. So, I'll do them. Yeshiva is a is a dialect um which is a combination of English, Hebrew and Yiddish. It's a mixture of all three. Yeah. A linguistic poperie. It's called Yeshiva. Anyway, that was a song from the Journeys album. Go and get a copy. So, Feinstein didn't hold from it. My father-in-law learned and tells and um he asked his rash and he says you know I don't understand either it is um either it is uh uh fully baked in which case it can't become or it's not fully baked in which case it's already so I don't see what the reason is but okay anyway I mentioned this in class once and one of the girls who obviously came from a family where they kept gross ratted on me and at the faculty Shabaton um one of the speakers dedicated their entire speech to don't make fun of other people's men hug him and then afterwards I went to give him yes and he looks at me he says I meant you luckily Rabbi Bulman Zatsah was there and he says he's confusing Minug with a [Laughter] hanhaga and Rab Bulman by the way, kept Gibbra. Anyway, but um uh the uh the the idea being that um uh you know, people who you know want to keep not eat on Pesak, people who only want their flower, fine, they make their key. Um and uh this is supposed to be a minute that after Pes after Pesak we open up the door of Parinosa which uh reminds me about opening up the door of Parnosa. We're out of sponsors. So those of you out there who have been thinking of sponsoring an episode, I don't know, maybe I mentioned a country song you appreciated. Maybe I made some pop reference. Maybe uh you like the fact that I mentioned, maybe you like the fact that I mentioned, maybe you mention the fact that I mentioned Yeshiva Shar, whatever it is, uh we need sponsors to keep this going because uh uh I I really don't make any money off of this. This is just to cover expenses. And uh so if you can, you know, if you've been thinking about it, you by all means please to be Mafar and Kra. Um uh because I get a lot of complaints when I don't put out an episode and uh you know uh I could solve this problem easily if if I you know turn this into a uh into a you know a pay-per-view kind of a site you know where you have to sign up and and pay money to be able to get to see the podcast. I would like not to do that but if I um if we can't keep this thing going so I'm not a man of means. There is another fellow out there who has his own show and he's quite wealthy and he can pay for it himself. So that's very nice, but I'm not him. Anyway, uh the seder. So just thought I'd throw that out. So anyway, so the key represents opening up the gates of Parinosa. Um there are three men hugim. This is really a minute as far as I can tell. Um I I uh I went to Litfish yeshivas. We were like super litish. Um for example, uh they didn't even do upsharing. They said we don't do that, you know. So I had two girls and one I had a boy. So I I said we're not going to do this whole upsharing thing. My wife says, "But it's so," she came from a, you know, background. She says, "But it's so cute." I said, "It's not my minig. We're not going to do it." And then she said something to me that I could not respond to. She said, "Okay, you don't want to do an offshare and that's fine, but nobody will play with our kid." And I said, "Okay, you win." That was my son, Yakov. So has a sense of humor of course as you know very well since I am God's manifestation in this world and uh he has a sense of humor and so my next two boys that I got later they didn't grow any hair till they were about five when I had to do their upshur it was like with tweezers and nail scissors you know they were they were practically bald and in fact when Moshi Yehuda was little he was um smart kid. I remember one time, I don't know how old he was, you know, a little kid and uh he was eating a yogurt and I said, "We had fleshics for supper." He says, "Yeah, but I'm just a little kid." Then he poisoned me. He goes, "One second, am I Gil?" I said, "If you have to ask the question, then yes, you are Gil." Because a kid who's not Gil doesn't even know how to ask the question. But when he was two, I was taking him to gun and he looked like a big kid, you know, but he wasn't wearing a yarmaka. I It didn't look like he had long hair like a kid who's waiting for their upshare. And my grandchildren when they they go in for their upshare and my gosh, they look like uh you know um a shimon, you know what I mean? They nausea, their hair's coming down, you know? So um uh so he's in the elevator and um and uh and a woman in the elevator says to him in Hebrew goes why don't you have a a keepa? He goes because I'm only two. [Laughter] Okay. So uh so we never really did these things but you know peer pressure as time goes on you know the uh the pressure comes in to to uh keep up with the schwarzes and um and so we uh you know the the the whole does the the the so we do too. Now, somebody wrote me and sent me an article once uh about um how the source for the Kala is really from Gisha sources and we really shouldn't do it etc etc and they said why don't you speak about it um and uh then I saw an article in the which brought down all kinds of different sources who say yes it is a Yiddish and it always has been. So, um, I'm I'm gonna choose to go with the Hamodia on this [Laughter] one. They I spoke about this, but of all the Jewish publications, I always find the Hamodia the the the most warm and fuzzy, you know. So, uh, very positive, very positive paper. Anyway, so I used to be a, uh, I used to write for the homod. So just a full disclosure, I I uh I put my bias out there, you know. Um but anyway, uh the um so okay, there are three ways to do this. One is to make a kala and stick it with a key. Yeah. So we make one kala that way. The other one is to make the kala in a shape of a key. This is not as easy as it sounds. An enormous amount of time and energy is spent on on doing that. Yeah. And um and the third one is to bake your front door key into the kala. And um uh this was uh this has led to um a legend in the Ulowski family where there was one shabas after Pesak and everybody was coming to us and my daughter baked the Kalas and um uh she was waiting for her her her husband had gone to the mikvah. And another one of my son-in-laws came to pick up the kalas. And he's knocking on the door and the door is locked. And he says, "I want I came to pick up the kalas, you know, and bring them so they get there before Shabas, you know." So she says, "Well, my husband left and locked the door, you know." He says, "So why don't you open it up?" She says, "I don't have a key." He says, "Do you not have a key?" He goes, "It's baked in the kala. So the think about that do not lock your door and then bake the key into your Yeah. So um I I wonder if that's where the mig of sending people a cake with a file in it in prison comes from, you know, but um uh the uh you know, if you happen to be the one who bites into the key, that's always an exciting experience. Anyway, so you have lots of time to make your and get everything ready and we are starting the process of getting ready. Now last year during these weeks we dealt with some of the memarim [Music] uh that is listed in the bryera in pavos as I've mentioned before measos is only five pim five chapters the sixth one is a collection of braces it's not actually Mishna hence it's puros as opposed to avice case. Um and uh and one of them is that Torah is acquired with 48 midos and a list those midos. We went through some of them last year. Um so I want to focus on one of them right now if I can. It's one of the first ones and uh it gives us a uh a very important approach to learning tora and what we need to do in order to approach mat tora and and it's very important. One of them is bima with happiness. A lot of people are not happy when it comes to learning Torah. Full disclosure and uh and I think that is one of the greatest tragedies. I attribute this to the fact I'll go off a little bit over here and it's a little controversial and I'm going to hide behind authority which is what I like to do when I say controversial things rather than just say it myself I would rather hide behind an authority. I heard this once upon a time and I asked Ma Shapiro and he confirmed it. People told me the Muslim movement is dead. He said yes. And the last he held that the last bomb Musa was Rahutna. But uh okay other people uh contest that give other names. Other people say it died before that. Whatever it is but the original Musa movement as was started by Visro Salanta and envisioned by him how it should be and how it should go about doesn't doesn't really exist anymore. Yeah. Um and the reason is because it is very hard to find an effective mashia because to be a good mashk you have to be a psychologist and it is very hard to find a good psychologist. Now there may be psychotherapists out there who hear this and will be upset but there will be a lot of patients who hear this and agree with me. It is very hard to be a good psychologist or therapist because there's only so much you can learn from books. There has to be a hush. You have to be able to understand it. Now to be fair, this is true about all doctors who have to be diagn diagnosticians. Yeah. Including speech therapists. Anyway, yeah, if you have to be a diagnostician, it's not an easy thing to do because you need a hush to be able to figure it out. I've told this story in the past, I'm sure, but um when we were in far away, so um we were going to an old uh doctor pediatrician who had been there for many many years and was very experienced and extremely opinionated. But you know he he there are certain things you pick up with experience that there's just no other way to get you know and he had that he had a tremendous amount of experience and especially if we were young parents um it's good to have somebody who has that kind of experience. He retired and he sold his practice to a young uh doctor who did not get his degree in America. I got the impression he just really really wanted to be a doctor. He couldn't get into an American medical school. I don't know if it was in Grenada or someplace else. I forgot where he got it from. And he was a very by the book kind of guy. So, one of my kids got a hold uh before they had childproof caps, you know, got a hold of some vitamins with iron, you know, we didn't know how many they had. And uh this was Arab Shabas and put her in the hospital over Shabas for ironbinding therapy. Not one person in the hospital had ever heard of ironbinding therapy. He just kept her there. Did a blood test in the mo at night another one in the morning said it's fine. You can go home. So it was just totally unnecessary. My second daughter he put in the hospital for failure to thrive. And we explained to him that uh my wife was switching from nursing to bottles because she had gotten pregnant and so it was couldn't really nurse and she wasn't taking so much of the bottles and he said no no no she needs to be hospitalized and go through a series of tests. Failure to thrive fine. Over the two days it took him to make the arrangements. We got to the hospital they weighed her. She had already gained 2 lbs. And everyone in the hospital was just like chuckling, failure to thrive, you know. And he put his foot down and he said, "If you don't trust me that I can't be your doctor anymore, D, etc." He was embarrassed. It was obviously not failure to thrive, you know. And I said to my wife, I'm okay with that. And she, my wife, who likes to make people happy, was like, okay, we'll stay, etc. My next kid had herpginina. If you ever have a kid who has herpginina, well, you'll appreciate this story. It sores in their mouth and they're just crying and crying. I took him to the doctor and the doctor said, "You know, it's her pengina. There's really nothing you can do." That's what he said. I remember it. And um uh the crying was terrible. I called up my pediatrician who now is obviously an elderly fellow. woke him up in the middle of the night. I said, "My kid has herpginina. I don't know what to do." And he says, "Okay, I'll call in a prescription, you know, uh for uh um codin." I said, "How much do I give him?" Says, "It's not for him. It's for you. Take some and go to sleep. There's nothing you can do." So, when I went back to the doctor, he said to me, "Well, did you give him the Mox benadryil solution?" I said, "Mailock's benadryil solution? You didn't say anything about that." He says, "Yeah, yeah, yeah. The uh the um Mox makes it uh makes it more comfortable and the benadryil, you know, numbs it." He goes, I said, 'You never said that. He goes, "Oh, yes, I did." I said to my wife, "This guy just lies. This is crazy." Well, my wife didn't want to move. when our fourth kid on Tinus Esther we were in a big permuta wanted to put her in the hospital because she was two months old and um and had a uh had a fever and couldn't find anything wrong. He wanted to put her in the hospital immediately told my wife go straight in the cab right to the hospital. So finally after the fourth time my wife was a little suspicious and she called me up. I said, "Tell him we want a second opinion." And she says, "All right, we're going to go get a second opinion." He goes, "No, no, then you'll never come back. Then you'll never this." You know, he he went into a panic. Evidently, we weren't the first people to leave him. Yeah. So, there was a new doctor who had just come to Farra. Dr. Lightman was from South Africa. He worked in the bush country, you know what I mean? He saw everything. and he examines uh examines my daughter. He says, "I understand why he said to put her in the hospital because when a child two months or younger has a fever and you don't know why, you have to be afraid that it might be menitis." But he obviously never saw menitis because you can see that this kid does not have menitis. He says, "Wait here for a while. I have a feeling it's a ear infection that you can't see yet. So, we stayed there for a few hours and he keeps checking him and he says, "I don't see it, but I'm pretty sure." So, go home and if the kid has any turn for the worse, go straight to the emergency room because I trust you. The fact that he knew it wasn't menitis. That's it. The other guy was going by the book two months old. there's there's uh no clear source of infection has a fever you know you have to worry from menitis but a person who has a hush can figure out that's not what it is an amazing thing we had uh um doctors here in Harno pediatricians Dr. Matar and and Dr. Shapiro who were just the nicest people in the world and uh very very qualified and they had two different ways of doing it you know Dr. Mart was very fast and doc and Dr. Shar used to take his time and be very careful, go into everything. You know, like I once brought three kids where he thought it was like ear infections and he sat them all on the table and looked through the one ear and looked through the other ear. He says, "Yeah, they're all fine." I think he was joking. One time I went there and I said, "My wife says he has strep and I should get a prescription." He says, "Do you want me to look at him?" I said, "You can, but I'm not leaving here without a prescription." He goes, "Then I'll just write it for you." So one time I brought a kid. I got 11 kids. I've seen a lot, you know. And he says to me, "Yeah, it's fifth disease." I said, "What?" He says, "Fif disease." I said, "I never heard of fifth disease." He says, "There were four basic childhood diseases. Measles, German measles, mumps, and uh and whipping cough, dtheria, whatever it is, there's four basic ones." And then they found a fifth one. They didn't bother coming up with a name. They just called it fifth disease. And I thought, "Wow." So it's there's aush when it comes to uh understanding the uh the workings of a person to be able to understand what makes them tick. So a mash was a psychologist who understood the workings of a person. Now a mash is basically a policeman. That's his job. Takes attendance. He says to you where were you yesterday? Where were you the other day? What happened? like this. They're not there to work with anybody. They're not there to help anybody, you know, a situation of a kid who was in a very fine yeshiva and he had been missing time, whatever it was. And so the mashia said, "Uh, he's throwing him out of yeshiva." So I called him up, see if I could intervene and uh and he said, "Look, there's nothing to talk about. He's missed this time and that time, etc., and this and that. So we're asking to leave the yeshiva. I said I don't understand. You're the mashki. That's your job. Your job is to understand every bakar and to figure out how to solve their problems. There's nothing you can do. I'm throwing them out. If you want, you can talk to the rasha. I said that's not the rashiva's job. The rashiva's job is to teach Torah. The job of the mashk is to understand the of every talmid and to help them understand where they're coming from and how to get into their uh the decisions already been made. I said you're mash like the altar of likel this is all you know how to do is throw somebody out of yeshiva. I said, 'In English, we have an expression, if the only tool you have is a hammer, every problem is a nail. You don't know how to do anything else besides throw people out of yeshiva. And he says, well, there's nothing I can do. That defines the Muslim movement today. That's what it's all about. Yeah, there's nothing I could do. Throw you out of yeshiva. They'll give some schmooz in and say over a schmoo from this one, a smoo from that one. You know what I mean? But basically to understand the of a person and get into it very hard to do. So to find someone who's talented enough and that's why same thing comes from therapists. I hate to say this and apology to my you know any therapists out there listening you know but I often tell people I said if I can find a therapist who doesn't make the situation worse he's worth his weight and gold. That's great. If he just goes in there and he doesn't make it worse that's terrific. But to find someone who really understands a person has that that's like a mash that's very hard to find and that person is is is a gem if you can find somebody who actually knows how to do it. That's why you have these people stay in therapy for years and they they never make any progress. And you know you have these these people who deal with off the deck kids. They have no idea what to do with these kids. So they they work with the parents. You're too giving. you're not giving enough, you're too controlling, you're not controlling enough, you're too this, you're too that. All they could do is is come up with different ways to blame the parents because they don't know what to do with these kids. You know, I spoke to one of these people charge a lot of money working for kids who offer. I said, "What's your success rate? It's very hard to tell." I said, "No, no, I'll do it for you." You know, when you're done, the kid doesn't have to wear a black hat, doesn't have to learn yeshiva, but he'll keep shabas, keep kosher, you know, uh, get married and have a job. That's all I'm asking for. What's your success rate? Let's just say that if instead of taking them to these people, you gave them a placebo, you know, a little tic tac, you'd have probably the same result, if not better. They don't know what they're doing. And they're charging families who are in pain this all this money. You know, it's it's it's terrible. Just absolutely terrible. But I don't blame them because to have that ability to understand a person is very hard. The same thing is true about to find a truly talented a very hard thing to do. You know, most teachers are average or below average. I'm speaking from personal experience. I have a lot of kids and I've been in education for many years and and to find a truly talented Mahan, that's unbelievable. My son had one mechan who was extremely talented. He happened to be a psychopath. If you could put that aside, he had a shittita of mood. Everybody had to scream it out. Now, my son was a smart kid, but at that time he was shy. I think he's still kind of shy, but he wasn't going to shout it out in the class. He knew everything. He was learning. He was he was bad some good, but he had this thing. You have to scream it out. And so we went parent teacher goes he doesn't yell at the other students. I said but he gets hundreds on all his tests. He goes mathematica. You know what is this? You think this is math? You know you just learn it. Torah is you have to say it. You know the second parent teach me. He says I've tried everything. You have to start punishing him because he doesn't scream. When the next year came around, it was also a good rebi. They start learning and everyone starts screaming and he goes, "Whoa, whoa, whoa. What is this? What are you guys crazy?" He said, "What do you mean the rebi said okay that's not called? That's called screaming like a madman. You know, talk normally." My son was like, "Yes." So, he was basically a good Reb, but he was a psychopath. But, but they've had some teachers who were just nightmares. You know, I was on a panel once. Um, uh, I remember it was Rabbi Le, it was Rabbi Breezac, it was Reb Foyer, and it was me. The way Oh, and and Greenwald. I said two two before we left, two experts, Breezag and Mary Greenwald and me. I was the comic relief. I remember they asked the question. They said, "What do you do if the teacher does something and you know the teacher is wrong?" And everybody said the same thing. Well, you don't want to contradict the teacher and you don't want this and that etc. It could be you you have the mar and maybe he was going with the mar maybe all kinds of different things like that. So it came to me and I said it depends. I said, "If they said a shot in typhus and you had a different shot and typhus, okay, but if they won't let your kid go to the bathroom until they actually wet themselves at their seat and then they won't let them out to change, or if they embarrass the kid in front of the entire class, or if they smack their head against the wall. I'm not going to tell the kid, "Well, I'm sure the Rebi was was right." No, the rabbi the rabbi or the moa is a psychopath. Now, I'm being I'm being extreme. They might be a sociopath. Yeah. And and they and they they they should not be in teaching. I'm not going to justify it. Kids have a very keen sense of justice and they know whether or not you're telling them the truth. And so when you see a teacher who does something terrible, I'm going to validate my my son or daughter. So then everyone said, "Oh, well, let me let me let me change my answer." You know, everybody thought the question was just what if they said this shot in Tus and you learned a different shot in T, you know, say the Reby's wrong, you know. No, it depends what they do, you know. And so what can I tell you? I my my my children have had teachers who were absolute nightmares. They don't belong in terrible and they've had along the way some extremely talented. I've told this story before because this is one of my favorite stories. Um uh I have a daughter who's very smart and uh and she's very thoughtful and she asks a lot of questions. Now she's lucky she has a father who does this for a living, answers questions. So she knows a lot more than the average kid, you know. So when she was in 10th grade, she had a teacher who thought she was the rashag. Um uh for those of you not familiar with the term it's abbreviation Raban buna. Yeah it means the the gulador the the greatest of the generation. Anyway and she knew everything you know between her and her husband. She was at my husband said that knows everything. Unfortunately she was not ready for a kid like this and and she would say things and my daughter would ask questions and she didn't know the answer. So she did what many untalented teachers do. She tried to bluff, but my daughter's too smart. And she kept saying, "No, but that doesn't make sense because no, but that until this woman who knows everything was stuck." So at the parent teachers meeting, you know, when you go to those parent teachers meetings, you know, you have to sit there and um you're supposed to go in for just like five minutes or 10 minutes and then you have these people who stay there for like 25 minutes, you know. Um, so my wife went and the teacher kept her there for 25 minutes. Everybody was angry at my wife. My wife didn't want to be there. And the teacher was just bitterly complaining how the daughter made her look bad. And she said, "Tell your daughter not to ask questions I don't know the answers to." So we told our daughter. So she sat there quietly in class. And after a week, the teacher called up and said, "Your daughter's not participating." So, my daughter said, "I had to sit there in class and try to think of questions that were easier enough that she could answer." Do you understand how pathetic it is when the kid has to take care of the teacher? And this happens more often than not. I've had teachers call me up and start screaming about their co. You know, when you're getting into a power battle with a fourth grade girl and you're worried about your cover, where's my cover? You know, it's like you're you're you are uh a disaster. You are so pathetic. You know, you want to show you're so strong by lording it over little kids. Come on. Get it together. So, uh so that's why a lot of kids don't have because they don't they don't have anyone who ever showed it to them. Yeah. I can think of two times in my life for sure. When I came to Yeshiva the first time um I was invited to give schmoozen every week. He was uh he had been a professional rabbi so he was an excellent speaker and when he would speak you would feel yourself physically lifted up off of the chair. you know, he he he said things that was so not just what he said, but the way he said it that was uplifting. I I'll add another one. You know, pes when he speaks. Well, he has you laughing, he has you crying, he has you walk out physically. I don't mean spiritually, physically elevated. The other one I was thinking I'm sure there are others and I apologize to my rebum and and speakers where I'm I'm forgetting but um uh when I'd go to Romesh Shapiro and he would speak and he he gave across these ideas that were a wow. I would come out of a shuming I understood what he was talking about. I wanted to make a you gave us the Torah. Blessed are you, Hashem, that I have this delicious Tory. My friend Ry Redmond who was uh uh on on the show. He was teaching in a seminary and he was saying over an idea from and one of the girls says that is so cool and he says Torah is not cool. Torah is kadesh to said you know and when he told me over the story I said no Torah is cool it's a wow and in fact somebody asked Shapiro how do you you know how do you make people from today what do you do he says kabala he doesn't mean deep kabala he means light kabala or the stuff that me and that seminary girl would call that is so cool where it's a wow me and Rabi Rodman were both teaching in uh in discovery. You know, they have this thing with the codes, you know, where you count 49 letters and you come to this and then it spells out something. You know, you're going this way, it's Donald Trump. That way, it's JD Vance. You know, and this way it's third term, whatever it is, you know, and it spells out these things, you know. People are like, "Wow." You know, it's a it's a wow, you know. Anyway, I was giving a shir uh we were both teaching in the same yeshiva besides teaching and discovering and um and I asked him for insights into uh into Kaneka. I was giving a kaneka and he had written a parish on the seams and we were going deeper and he says we can take it deeper and deeper and deeper. I know this is a Rabbi Tats line. Let's go a little deeper. Yeah. You take it deeper and deeper and deeper and then he stops and looks at me and says, "Can you believe that people are impressed by the Torah codes?" Says, "Torah itself is so much more impressive when you see the beauty of Torah." Me and Rabbi Tats were once, you know, or had his, you know, on a lecture circuit. he would speak and I would speak and about the fifth time that we were doing the same speech. So he um he went first. When I got up, I said, "You know, Rabbit Tats, you don't have to stay for this." He says, "No, no, no. It's my pleasure." I said, "I've given the same speech already." He goes, "No, no, no. I love hearing it." Yeah. So, I happens and I said, "I'd like to acknowledge Rabbit Tats uh being here and sitting through my speech. He's heard it already five times. I've heard his speech five times, but I still don't understand it. I'm hoping eventually I will because his one of his um one of his key phrases is you know let's take this a little deeper you know and that's where you meet people they go wow that was unbelievable I said what'd he say I have no idea it's a wow when you have a Torah that's a wow when I was uh teaching in Derk so there were two second year sharim I was giving the lower one, there was a higher one. And uh I came in and I was teaching Gumarra. I happen to believe I'm a pretty effective Gumar teacher when I have the opportunity to do it correctly. Um and uh there's a lot of caveats to being successful in my particular method, but you know um I can I can be successful. And um and there was this one fellow there from Australia and uh he was leaving in January. He was only there for a half an year because you know uh Australia is upside down you know and so they they think that that was the end of the of the spring going into the summer which really it's it's upside down. They don't know the difference. Anyway, so he was there for half a year. He was very good in Shir, you know. He asked good questions. He followed. He prepared. It was unbelievable. And at the end of the end of his six months, he's leaving and I said, "We're going to really miss you." He goes, "Rabway, I go tell us the the truth." He says, "I hate learning Gamarra. I've always hated learning Gamarra." And uh last year I hated learning Gumar and I only agreed to come back. I told Ray Brickman on condition that I don't have to learn Gamar. So in the first day he says, "Look, we have a new rebi. Why don't you go to his try it out for two days?" And he says to me, "The first time I enjoyed learning Gamarra and if I had a Rebi like you, I would have learned Gumarra in high school, too. I would have really gained it. It's not hard. It's not hard to get a sat." We'll have to talk about it in more detail because I spent so much time on all the topics I didn't get to how you get. But the simplest thing is to get the wow to be able to hear Torah. That is exciting. When I was in Kell um I wasn't anybody I was a civilian you know but I remember I asked a kasha at one time something on the para and one of the other guys he says to me oh that's a Davidi kasha. So I was like David but is that like a klutz kasha? You don't even like stupid question. He goes, "No, no, no. When you're yeshiva, all day you hear questions and why? Because and how and this and question and answer and question and answer. That's all you do all the time." He says, "But when you ask a question, the question bothers you. you have a way of setting up the question that you go yeah I have uh when I used to give my moti shabashir you know in the old days and uh sometimes I would just set up the question and people would start laughing because I was like yeah I never thought of that beforehand it's like so obvious it's got to be something where you there's like a yeah wow question the question bothers you you want to hear an answer, you're on the edge of your seat. I used to prepare like crazy and um sometimes I'd be giving over a show I gave once and I'd be listening to the to the recording and I set up the whole question and I'm like, "Oh my gosh, that's a great question. I have no idea." And then I hear my answer and I'm like, "Wow, that's great. I wish I had thought of that." I had no recollection of ever having said it, you know? So that's a that's a very powerful thing. It's a powerful thing that if you can give over [Music] Torah and so that's the goal of Tyra. When we left Mitzim, we came to Ma and we couldn't drink from the water because it was bitterb. So he gave us some Torah to learn. Why? To sweeten the Torah. When we come to Hari and we get it, we get it's as bitter as uh some sort of bitter herb. But that's because we learned already the beauty of Tyra. Now I'm willing to go down and do the hard work to make it happen. But that's only because I saw the beauty of Torah. When the kuses were preparing, I would go around to each kus and I would say, "How'd you learn this rashi?" And they would tell me whatever the upshot was. And I said, "Maybe rashi means like this. They look at you says, "No, no, because I said,"I don't know. We'll talk about and share." And I would go to each one. Whatever they learned, I gave the other side. I just argue with them. So they would go like, "Yeah, yeah." I forgot who said it, but they said, "The most important question is my question." I didn't want it to be my question. I wanted to be their question that they should work on it. I remember one time in Shir we were learning and I said what does Rashi mean? This one said like this. This one said like that. I made a little fight between them and we didn't resolve it. They said who's right? I said I don't know. I'm a very famous guy. I don't have time to prepare for this. You guys prepare. You have nothing in your life. I would be in the base measures the whole night preparing. But I I would never tell them. I pretended like I just walked in. I had no idea what was going on. I put it all on them. So one time someone was in the sh when this happened and someone said why don't you say he said like the maharam and he said like the pua. I said why? So I can show them how smart I am. I'd rather say that was Steve and that was Bob and that's what they thought because I want their Torah I wanted them to give their answers to be excited by the answer. So sima is a very important thing and as we begin now the process of getting ready for all of us should be working on our andra. It's essential to be effective. And that's it for this episode. If you want to find out more about the show, you can go to my website.com. You can ask a question. You can sign up for one of the online shurim. You can sponsor an episode. Please, please, please. You can sponsor a question answer. your co-sponsor of Paran 5. We uh need to grease the wheels of this welloiled machine in order to keep it rolling. And that's it for this time. Until next time, I am David Olowski and this has been the Rabbi Olowski Show. It's the Rabbi Orlovski Show. Torah and Simra ready to go. The Rabbi Olavski show. Knowledge and wisdom will help you grow. Lots of fun in every episode. 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