Torah From Down Under: Melbourne Chinuch Yom Iyun - The 10 Commandments of Raising Children

this tour class is brought to you by torahanytime.com good evening everyone thank you so much for hosting me tonight uh we give a big Ash request to Elizabeth's family for hosting tonight's event and the learning should be as close Israel and uh may this home always be Malay Torah yoshimaim Tamir khakamim abiasco sadak but just bam it's really a great covet to be staying in his house and uh I don't have to tell you what a great privilege that you have to have such a caliber Thomas at your home din poisek but uh I could tell you from staying in his home that uh this is the type of home that produces wonderful children and from the moment I came into the house the kids almost instinctively each one of them their own right what can I give you to read what can they give you to drink one more Zeus than the other and it's mamesha it's kadai to come all the way across the world to see such a house where there's so much overflow of simcha and Tyra that uh you feel it in the air so it's a great privilege to to be in the Rob's home and to be with you this is my last year in Melbourne for uh this time around and as a sashem hope to see everybody again so tonight's year is uh we call it the Ten Commandments of raising successful children the Rev already mentioned eight of them so I'm going to I only have two left no but um we're gonna mention the points that the Rev made of course um are definitely on the list and we will point that out as we go on uh the first rule is definitely very controversial so if you want to know how it applies when it applies how to qualify it you could ask the rub I'm just here to tell you the facts and how it applies you need to use your own Sega so we have the two diametrically opposite children yakovanishov and uh they come to their father yitzlak and we all know despite the fact that ASA was a great Russia but if there's one myth so that he excelled in more than anybody else it was uh keep it of aim uh even gamliel said that he's nothing compared to the kibet of aim of asab and nevertheless because I'll point out two distinctions between the way yaakov spoke to his father in the way Ace of spoke to his father and these are distinctions that we're all familiar with but I'm here tonight to tell you about a third distinction and this is a very shocking distinction and in a way at first glance it would seem that in this sense Ace of had a lot more respect for his father than yaakov the first one is obvious ly how do you get here so quickly so yaakov invokes the name of Hashem so yaakov puts on the old good old days of costume and you know he's all hairy and he feels like I don't know what a kellev a beer he feels like asaph how'd you get her so quick so he invokes the name of Hashem so he says come here let me feel you you don't sound like a sub ASAP doesn't mention the name of Hashem and then he says you sound like Jacob and Rashi says why do you sound like Yakov because he uses the word na please [Music] so these are the two distinctions between Jaco and ASAP yaakov says the name of Hashem yaakov says please ASAP doesn't mention God Ace of doesn't say please in both of these distinction yaakov has more respect yaakov's manner of speech is much more refined but with nothing Adler the rabbit Sam Cipher points out an astounding difference between the way jankov speaks to his father and the way Ace of spoke to his father and in this way it would seem that Jaco had much more respect for his father than ASAP and that is yaakov says to his father second person get up please but get up you get up you what does Asaf say if you have on your sheets or I'll read it to you will the Tata get up will the Tata will father get up not you get up third person so it seemed like Aesop has a lot more honor and courtesy to his father than yaakov yaakov says kumna second person and ASAP says will the Tata get up the way you speak to your Webby the way you speak to your love would the rough will the rub will the Tata says of nothing Adler no you didn't don't speak to their parents that way goyam speak to their parents third person Jews speak to their parents second person why some Cipher explains his Robbie some Surfer says by yeden there's such a bond there's such a closeness in goshmias in rochnius there's this concept that when a child does a Mitzvah it elevates the father brahmazaka Abba there's a concept that there's such a tightness there's such a closeness it's such a friendship between Father and Son we do not refer to our parents in third person says Ace of is a guy how many nafas there are only seven of us by ASA but they're the first choice there's no connection there's a generation gap there's a generation gap yokomobi will the Tata get up but so we have this concept there's some stuff is bringing out the opposite of what you would have thought that by a year there's a certain friendship between a child and his father and mother somebody told me but you're not supposed to be your child's friend I was always taught that you're not supposed to be your child's friend so the only thing I have to say that to that is you were taught wrong now how this applies when it applies let's see let's go to another possible a it's talking about the biggest savior on the tire what's the biggest savior on the Torah the mesis where you you try to persuade and seduce somebody to sin so the target gives different examples if your brother tries to persuade you the son of your mother or your son your daughter your wife or your friend that's like your soul like your your best might that's how you say it yeah your best friend your soul friend who's your soul friend you know in America at a wedding you have your best man who who's your soul friend you know your best friend is you know your best friend is supposed to be your father so it seemed like if you bring home paranasa and you show your kids how to Daven and you make sure they learn when they come home from Yeshiva but if you ask your kid are you friendly with your father and the kid says no you blew it you're not doing the job the Torah is saying who is your friend that's like your soul I don't know it's just a pasta It's a Rashi it can you can darshan and darshan what a father is from a one Rashi well I'll tell you another Ashley what maybe the toys he's amazing too friendly maybe that's why he's a Macy's there's a possible the brothers uh they hear the the the frightening words Tata still around so the brothers are uh they're cressful they're they can't even get a word out of their mouth so Joseph says don't worry don't sweat it you didn't do anything the Atta Lloyd you didn't send me here Kiowa like him you know what I am but you see many of the paroi paroi made me his Ave ah now we have the word AF now if you could Define what the word of means now we know what a father is says rashi rashi was an orthodox rabbi says we're actually not saying what AV means she has no to Alternative and to say Schwab from Rashi we learn what the definition of a father is in the eyes of the tire that a father is Russia continues a supporter an advocate says to be your kids best friend meaning am I your good father so we just asked you one simple question are you are you your kids best friend am I a good mother am I my kids best friend Schwab you know where I learned this from a where Rashi defines foreign sounds very new Vogue right it says it sounds very revolutionary we don't do that my job is the kid has to be in bed on time the kid has to do this not do that if he goes out of line I'm gonna let him know that's not what a father is you might have to do that but that's not what a father is there might be five duties that a father has or a mother has you have to teach the kid Torah you have to teach him anonymous you have to teach him how to swim whatever the gamara says in condition but those are descriptions but they're not definition what's definition I don't know it's only three rashes I need more evidence I'll tell you fourth Rashi comes running after the alvino and on the seventh day love and comes catches up with the act of avino siago says okay let's have a sudhas tells his brothers to gather stones he has one brother A7 he ain't talking to Ace of Ace wants to kill him so who are these brothers of yakovino says Rashi you know who yaakov's brothers are ham banov his children already 200 years ago from Rashi we learn that the way to treat a child is you don't treat a child like your son and daughter you treat them like your brother now look he does is you don't have to do this only if you want to have peace in your home but if you want to have peace in your home says now I think this is an important word doesn't mean you know your two-year-old is your best friend or your three-year-old or maybe not your five-year-old but probably your 14 year old banav goodalam maybe he means dafka adult foreign this is not my idea this is already known a thousand years ago the safer hasidim es it's a strict safer see them rights is to teach that how do you treat your children like Banu no no no no in the Yeshiva World we don't do this we have a different different yeah so so parents came through and uh they were having a hard time with their kid the kid was suffering from overbearing parents and the father said no this is you have to scale the living Deadlight to have the kid you have to be tough tough love so the Russia Shiva said I don't know maybe you should ask a girl they'll be strong tell let's take a trip like this a father and mother have a dual role on the one hand the father has to be the teacher and instructor and the Revy on the other hand he has to be the father now as a rebbe the gemara says any student who doesn't sit before the rebbe sweating it's not it's not good the gemara says on the other hand as a father you have to be Quran about him so there's two diametrically opposite obligations that a parent has teacher and parent says RAB Shack throw it out the job that a parent had as a rebbe is long gone there's a man by the name of ravishob and gamla he set up yeshivas and cloudy Israel he abdicated the father and mother for being the rebbe of the kid nowaday says RAB Shack a parent has one job and one job only to shower love on the kid and that's the only responsibility of the parent I don't have it on the sheet I can tell you Arab gamlia rubinovich this is probably the most political thing I ever heard Southern gamliel Abram Abraham avraham what did avraham say ing behold here I am what does she saying humility I'm prepared to do your bidding that's how you talk to ivanish when God Almighty talks to you you say I'm here to do whatever you want Victor and the arcade turns to Abraham Avi Tata says behold here I am the same word that avraham used when the Republican spoke to him avraham speaks to his son says Ram gamlia we learn from here with the same humility and anivos and that you talk to the Bahrain you need to talk to your children you need to be mojaved your children there is no doubt you know why avraham was able to produce a Yitzhak because he spoke to Yitzhak the same way he spoke to ribana I'm afraid to say this but he writes it in the safer I'm just telling you what it says I'm not saying I hold the bit I agree to it ask you're rough I'm telling you what he writes that run gamlea said his mother said that if the Torah was written today I don't know how you ought to say that it sounds like I'm just saying this is what it says in Paris that it would not say cabinet so it says in the sacred I'm missing a hold of it I don't know how you could even say that that's what it says I guess it's Tongan you know take it for what it is how does this apply when does it Supply for those of you aside get guidance how this applies in other words the way I understand it and I've spoken to people at it a parent has to have responsibility to have a point of aqva and friendship with their child it doesn't mean of course you're going to tell a child what to do how to do it but there has to be a friendship it has to be based on for if a child feels that you that he has uh some type of commonality with you then when you tell when you when you say go to sleep or do what you have to do they're much more open to listen than if they feel that you're in a thought you're an absolute dictator that's the first you cite okay if you don't like it I'm going home I'm going to America far away you don't have to hear that's the first he said second you side the second you study is like this it's famous who probably heard a million times we talk we talk we sit at the shop this table don't speak Russian Hara don't uh don't do this don't do that nobody's paying attention to one word you're saying nobody cares what you're saying they're not listening uh says if you want the words that are on your lips right now they're on your lips you know where they're going to go and you say them they're on outside of your head to outside of the person you're talking to his head nobody listens to a word that anybody says but you want to get it into their heart so if it's my if it comes from your heart then it will go into the heart of the other person but if it just from the only way to ensure that the words that you say will enter the heart of somebody else and enter the heart of your children's you better mean it in other words if you're going to sit on the shop to say oh yeah I got this really nice sheet that says don't speak Russian heart okay don't even bother nobody's interested to hear you say something if you don't mean it don't bother saying it it's worth it don't waste your time don't waste your time don't waste their time says if the words that you're saying are on your heart only then Vishing otherwise don't bother that's the second you said if you have something to say and you want to get it across you better mean it if you don't mean it don't waste your breath third decide ignore the second new side nobody's listening to what you say maybe even a few minutes there used to be an institution in claudiusville called the bahaya so I'm the firstborn so what do I do after do they avoid that how do I learn how to do that show me how to do that but I don't know I'm the youngest child so now you have to go to bukhorsco you don't learn anything from school nobody ever learned anything from school nobody's listening because we can go to bukhar school okay one a put your right foot forward one B put your left foot in front of your right foot one C go to the right of the Miss bayach so the kid walks out of class he has a hole he has his notes he doesn't know that anybody's talking about it's not it's not coursing to his name it's not part of him system didn't work because the bukhar had to hear and learn from what somebody else said take two we're gonna have the levy system the lady system works because the Zeta is a levy the Tata is a levy the kid is a levy he doesn't have to go to school he watches what his parents do and the way his parents act will naturally become part of him he doesn't have to listen to a chorus he watches a living example of it you want your kids to be polite you want them to be airlock you want them to be honest don't tell them about honesty if you if you will be honest they will be honest if you'll be courteous they'll be courteous Davin Davin Davin right now Davin you take out a phone out during diving you're basically telling your kid diving is not important it's worthless sort of diving down you're smoothing in the back the kavachheim says if you feel you have to schmooze by davening it's better not to come to show it's much better you get more gun Aiden by sleeping in bed the whole morning I put my personal advice if you feel you have to talk by Dominic don't come what are you coming for it's important to Davin if you're talking in the back you're telling your kids it's not important to Naman so the first thing is nobody's listening to what you're saying but now now we're learning they're only watching what you're doing okay you ready for this ignore what I just said nobody cares what you say and nobody cares what you do says with palm but Pam was asked how do you teach courtesy to Children politeness I want my kids to be polite I don't want them to be rude so in Australia everybody's polite it's like you know everybody in America it's a problem though so how do you teach your kids to be polite so if Pam said a very interesting thing this is safe for more acidic like questions and answers they answer up many of them children says rapam they don't care what you say and they don't even care what you do you could be the nicest guy in shul and shul please thank you third person fourth person you could call everybody children only learn not what you say to them not what you do how you treat that particular child that's how they will learn oh I get along very well with all my kids there's one you know I have a hard time with and I don't deal but in general 99 of the time I'm a great guy they don't care how do you treat me are you courteous to me are you soft-spoken to me are you polite to me rapam said that you know sometimes Friday air of Shabbos so the mother is very tired get off your Game Boy they have Game Boy I don't know if I'm gonna say that in Melbourne right get off your your video game and how bad already he said his mother no matter how high the stress level became she would always say yankala could you please do me a very big favor could you take out one little spoon and put it on the Shabbos table that his mother was always careful that every word should be soft delicate refined that's how you teach children to be validation not by the way you speak by the way you speak to them so the first you saw it is there has to be some level of friendship the second you say it is you better mean what you say the third you cite is they're watching how you behave especially how you behave to them the fourth east side is what the rough mentioned the importance of simcha the gamara ass and masakta nadarim AO of the hearts just want to add perhaps uh what bring out one thing to focus on the name of the horats why was the land destroyed I think Mars is you know I never understood the gemara says nobody could figure it out then we had to ask the rebuana could somebody tell me it's not rocket science we come to the show yeah the Rob is standing there he sees the guy open up the sitter and then he skips to the Book of John and he skips because so what's the big here you the malachim didn't see the guy skipping because Satora the rabbi didn't see them that they're skipping because why do we need our College Morocco you could have a 10 10 year old standing there watching the guy skipping birkasatara so I believe the lavosha says foreign they got everything down with the notes on the bottom they had all the Cabana but they missed one thing why do you make Abraham the Tyra I make because I make a broken and I can make a brachan so I make a bracha on the Torah it's a mitzvah that's not why you make butter you make a brochure on the tower because you make a bracha on pizza and you make a bracha on iced tea and you make a rock on jelly beans so you make a broken Torah it's birches we know why the basement was destroyed the way to make this was destroyed because of the big three are by the Zara Gila but where are all the big tummy they're coming today could somebody tell me two generations ago in Europe we had we had hundreds of godlam where are they good all of them today we have them but we don't have them in the numbers we we used to have the Shia level it says and you know what the answer is people make Birches but they don't make Birches the father comes home and the kid says where are you going where am I going I had a long day of at work today but you didn't have been moisture for 3000 years in the times of the Crusades in the times of the gas Chambers and the crematoria so even though I'm dead tired I'm also going to go to Ashira kavaldik right the kid saying to himself well you so you're basically telling me that going to assure is like going to a gas chamber so my levels what do I need it for the father's learning is moisture not fresh but the kid is not interested in being my son fash the kid who wants pizza and he wants iced tea and he wants jelly beans so the father should say I'm going to because I haven't gotten any Hana today yet I had chicken for supper I haven't had Hana I'm going to shul because I made a bit this morning the kid doesn't want to hear you being Meister in that fish why would the kid want to hear that he didn't have been meister and efforts for 3 000 years that's that's what he's interested in you don't tell the kid you're going to be Meister not fish you said I made a birch tomorrow uh this morning so I have to go to Shoal I have to get some real Hana okay the fifth principle this is uh like completely out of the box no yeah it's not even it's not a reshine it's not an Akron it's an interesting safer it's a biography it's an art scroll biography but it's not what you would have thought a number of my Robin and Yeshiva I learned in Prides itself that they're the most similar Yeshiva to slobarka Irish his schmoozen were were legendary but but one of the Great hameedash he was in the later years of the author one of the closest tamidam of the altar and remember said a very interesting aside this is not dafko with children for this for abeam for anybody in education so they they came to the nashik they came to America they said oh those boys over there they're waiting on the corner they're trying to hitch a ride he walks he sees them and he turns around and he walks away so he said oh you saw them so go go apprehend them go tell them they're caught so America said like this I know that I know but they don't have to know that I know the moment you catch somebody doing something wrong is the moment you've lost them why do they have to know that you know everything the moment that they think that you know they never have anything to gain by trying to improve because in their mind your opinion of them is Tainted but if they don't know that you know the next time around they'll say to themselves you know what the rebbe doesn't know the father doesn't know the mother doesn't know I'm not going to do it this time again you have to know how to apply it I want to apply it but the rule is you don't have to catch them doing something if you know somebody's going to do something wrong it depends what it is obviously but it's not necessary that they need to know that you know everything you don't have to say everything you don't have to catch them on everything it's okay sometimes to overlook just uh just so that they could save face and have motivation to change in the future this was a very big principle there was one time a Geneva in the dormitory and oh I think in almost every Yeshiva I remember I remember it happened uh once so now oh we're gonna catch the guy so they go around to each kid we want to know who did it who did it who did it Ramirez says if something happens in Yeshiva don't find out who did it the moment you find out who did it you've lost that talmud forever that's what he said but I think it's a usaid they don't need to know that you know everything okay so we live in the generation of school ice I'm not into school ice I'm not a school of fan but uh if you can't beat him join them so I I I'm not into schools but if it's in the gemara it's in the gemara rapam would say don't do school us even if it's in rishina unless it's in a gemara when I tell you a few gomorrahs and Shas they're not so many things that the gemara says what a person could do to visa to have good children tell you we have a few of them number one this is the sixth principle of Astra says number 26 kalaharaga lasted anyone who frequently does acts of kindness acts of Charity have children who are wise who are wealthy who are darshanim and uh explains doesn't mean once a year when somebody asked me to do them a favor I'll say I'll think about I'll get back to you within the month means it's part of your personality it's part of your character it's part of your mode of behavior it's something you do all the time all the time all the time all the time someone who's ruggled and stuck of said doesn't say this about any other Mitzvah someone who's raw girl and stuff to have good children talented children children who are are successful learning writes in a footnote he doesn't understand people looking to have children people looking to be blessed with zarchive they go to all kinds of schools and all kinds of different things why don't they just follow what it says in the gemara someone who's rugelbert says not only to have children to have children ballet so that's something to think about to to think about a person's life am I somebody who's ruggle I said not only for me for the welfare of my children my grandchildren is not just for children somebody mentioned to me they're up to grandchild even for great grandchildren right rogo lastly stock of has said next one number seven another school on the gemara of Huna Hara alvanera having him someone who frequently lights candles so what is this supposed to be someone who smokes is going to have good children what is she says everybody likes their Hanukkah everybody likes Nerf Shabbos does everybody like nurse Chavez at the right time well before the skia yeah of course everybody does does everybody write it properly I believe the mission Brewer says that the same way so which means explains many people they light the candle or they light the narrow they lie oh it could okay on to the next no that's how you do it means you have to hold it on to the Nair until roiv of the wick that's supposed to catch fire catches fire that means let's say there's an inch of the wick sticking out of the wax or whatever you use of the oil usually after you light it it takes a few seconds till it spreads of what will eventually spread you have to hold it there until most of it has already spread a light had luck going through it you can't just light and then it continues on its own says you have to ask the wife did you take off Meister did you make an air of but not his lockdown why not hit lock them based on the Zoya that the job of the woman is to light the candles but the job of the madness to set them up so in in some houses the man sets it up and lights it a little bit and blows it out many places you don't have to do that because it doesn't do anything anyway okay but maybe that's part of it also there are there Kim and they have lockouts in their Shabbos the gamara says next yeah this guy his mamish uh he's a yorisha maim he comes 10 minutes early to minion he doesn't even bring his phone he doesn't even look at his phone until after he comes home for chakras he will not say a word by davening he learns to everything including when the Rob speaks so that lots of luck to this guy and having good children he comes home what the Robson I don't want to talk I don't talk Russian heart did you like the Shabba Shiva drasha let's talk about a different subject I don't want to say anything bad about the rub again so this guy he's a big town yeah he's a big lambdin but the way he talks about nah nobody's good enough lots of luck to this guy lots of luck she said and having a fighting chance and having good children says the gamara if you love tamide's gomor you don't learn that film you don't learn the missionary you don't even come to davening how is the drasha you don't understand we're so fortunate to have such a rough the kid comes home and says uh you know my rubby told me you're ready you're ready doesn't know what he's talking about you yeah lots of luck to this guy you're ready it's unbelievable I you want to have good children harach him Rabon on having lay banana if you love tamiyaham and not if you learn we don't care if you learn or not right now we want to know what is your attitude do you love them or you denigrate them if your family understands you love your kids rabbaim you love your kids manalim you love the rap bun and where you dive in yeah I love my rub but none of the other abundant in town are any good no you love all the red buttons in the city when your kids hear how much you love Tamil says that's the gemara next number nine number nine is obvious rif Palm once got up and he electrified a crowd he said as follows the key ingredient in having good children is Shalom bias he quoted The stipler Good Children is 50 one thing and 50 Shalom bias obviously you know if the parents are not getting along also you know the kids are going to be quite confused you know they say by the bensaro Moira that a kid is only a benzaro Mira If the parents have the same voice which uh what is that supposed to mean like the parents have the same voice no two people in the world have the same voice if the parent if the father and the mother have the exact same voice there's something wrong over here that's weird so it means that you can only hold the kid accountable for being a benzaromira if they if the parents agree and have the same attitude towards things if the parents don't agree on something then of course the kid's gonna be a Ben ceremony you can't punish the kid the parents made the kid have been ceremony so I was very surprised by the statement that the stipler said 50 of a kid is shown by us so I let I sent a letter to Abraham kanyevsky did your father say that children is 50 Shalom bias M said no at least I never heard it doesn't mean it's not true rapam said it over it's push it you know whether the stipler salary didn't say it rupam said it uh yeah you know you don't need Araya it's push it okay we're going to say the tenth and final ingredient and this is the most important of all there's the ALCO shamani the akuchamani says there's one to Cayenne and the coin was the Yari shamaim and he had 10 children six boys and four daughters and every day he would roll in the dust and cry and wail and beseech and be misspelled that his chosen grow up to be God-fearing Jews says the medrish Ezra came he galvanized Khali so they went back to Earth Israel and this coyan did not leave this world until he saw bonim of nebonim for many generations and only then he left this world so my first mask okay very nice story what are you supposed to learn from the story and what we learned from the story is that the key ingredient to good children is Fila Fila Fila you know the briskarov I don't know if this is an authentic brisk story you could ask the rub is uh the maven but at least they say it over that uh you know in in the the 50s and the 60s many Russia souvenirs Israel they had kids that went off they say ain't by yourself communism socialism nationalism and the briskarov was renowned he would sit around the table with all of his boys each one in their own right and he was the Envy of all the time all the Russia Shiva narut Israel and they would ask him how do you do it how are you that all your children are such high caliber Tamir Khan what's your method what's your Technique what are the and the riskarov would say there are no methods there are no techniques there are no skills there are no ways there are no classes or no books there's only one way to do it demise demise to heal him there's only one way tears says the briskarov never in my entire life did I dive in one dry eyed shministrate not even once again I sort of scheinberg DaVinci when I say many many times every single time he damaged my Nasser as your demise every single time many throughout the schwanness right the riskarov said I never dab into a dry ice when I say every Richmond essay ever dubbed in was the moist and my children should be Eurasian prescribe said some parents you know they rack their kids to sleep with the most absurd nursery rhymes about kids rolling off the hill cracking their heads open with their blood flowing out and like they're putting this poor little kid to sleep and the kid has to hear about some guy named Jack who has his decapitated rolling down the hill and they wonder why the kids have nightmares and come into the bedroom of the night because the last thing they heard was a guy who needed to have his head stitched back onto his body says the briskarov I don't say nursery rhymes to my kids I cried to Helen when I put my kids to sleep if you look on your sheet number 39. the tomid tiet Fila shigura the fiavaim that's Fila for one's children should be shogor in the mouth of a father mother voice by the way if you look in the mission abroad the mission Brewer he doesn't quote this law but he has to be quoting the he says the exact words of the Zion tamid Tia tilasem so you learned there's no question the mission Bureau took it from the schla and the Mississippi both say there are specific intervals of the davening that are masugul tadavan for children foreign any time but those are the three times during the Fila that are designated by the police game by the Ghazal to Daven for children when I was Learning University soil I was close to meet uh one of the old oldest tamidium of the one of the last time I don't know if they're still tell me to look how much time around maybe a few but he was one of the well-known and he was once interviewed and he's interviewed for the you know the five value biography of the time he and they asked the following question foreign dozens and dozens of them but somehow like was what was it what was the secret ingredient says that in his opinion the secret ingredient were the tears of his mother when he was presented with the tear drenched to him of his mother he would say do you know how many tears my mother shed I should be in mm-hmm now I'm going to tell you my all-time favorite story and I'll end with this so they came to the sniper they said stipler give us a bracha for Good Children what are the is what are the eight Stars what can we do to have good children the stapler said they're no age so I said no thank there's nothing you could do all you could do is dive in with tears says disciple what do you think I do for my little ingala a day doesn't go by that I'm not misspello that my Inglewood she grew up to be a yarish was already 52 years old when I was like darling so you want to know when it stops it never stops it's never too early on him grandchildren great grandchildren before they're born after they're adults they could be married with grandchildren of Their Own it's responsibility of a parent we'll just conclude what vulva writes we know that somebody kills Michelle geg so they have to go to the Army club and when do they get to go out when the crying God they'll dies what does the poor kind God don't have to do with the guy who called bashoi geek says should have davened that under his watch nobody killed the shy gig why does the Korean God all have to dive in that nobody killed the show again says somewhere else where in the Torah does it say that the job of a Kind God doll is that he needs to be misspelled that nobody kills bashogging says revolva must be that if you're in a position of acharyas you have an obligation to Daven for those who you are responsible for is there anyone who you're more responsible for than your own children what then is the onus upon us what then is for our children so these are a few ideas a few suggestions and in this list of coming together tonight to try to learn a little bit about what we could do to educate our children in the best possible way may they banish them give us Allah to see the nachas that we're all hoping for him thank you you've just experienced another Torah class brought to you by torahanytime.com