Training the Right Way💪 | TORAH FOR KIDS AI

[Music] So the Gamban writes a letter to his son and he says to his son, "Accustom yourself to speak gently to all people at all times." Now the Ramban as we went over in the last few shim, he didn't use words for no reason. Every word is calculated. Literally, every single word is calculated. First and foremost, he tells us to accustom yourself. Prepare to deal with your problem before the problem arrives. If you're going to manage a family, a business, a relationship of some kind, you have to know already ahead of time that relationship, that business, that family will have problems, will have ups and downs. It happens. That's life. A life with no problems is called death. Life that's alive has problems. Sometimes money, sometimes health, sometimes difference of opinion. Problems, problems happen. So the Ramban says accustom yourself. Get ready for the problem before it happens. Meaning prepare yourself. One time there was a bunch of American millionaires came to the uh training grounds for IDF fatal in Israel. They were big donors. is to the to the army. And one of the old little Jewish ladies, she saw the guys training. The guy's training, the climbing, the jumping, struggling. Couple of guys get injured, all types of things. And she feels so bad. This little old lady, she goes, "Please, please, please tell them to stop. Tell them to stop." So the general looks at her, goes, "Why?" She goes, "I'm willing to write a check right now." She says, "I'm willing to write a check right now. $2 million. $2 million. I'll write your check right now. just instead of giving them all these mountains to climb, just make it a flat ground so they can walk nicely. He says, "Thank you, men, for the $2 million, but if I take your $2 million, we're not going to have any boys left cuz they're all going to die in war if they don't train like this. If they don't train like this, if they don't struggle, if they don't break some bones, if they don't climb some mountains, if they don't make themselves stronger, they're not going to survive the real battle. So, thank you for the 2 million, but no thank you. We need to train for the problem before the problem arrives. The same thing applies in life. If you're going to manage a business or manage a family or manage any type of relationship, you have to already prepare for the problems before they arrive. You have to prepare yourself psychologically. You have to know, okay, one day my wife, my husband is going to make me angry about something. Already I know I need to control myself, control my temper, not get angry so fast, not get angry at all. Not jump conclusions. Let him speak. Let us speak. Let me hear what they have to say before I jump down their throat and kill them. They did a study on the psychological effect of a person and how it affects them physically. So he took two groups of people. One group, they gave him a basketball and said, "You guys train and take this basketball and all week shoot free shots from the line and we want to see how you improve after a week." the other group. They told them, "You guys, same line, but imagine that you're shooting. Don't shoot nothing. We're not giving you a ball." But just imagine that you're putting the ball in the hoop the whole week. That's what they did. One week they're actually shooting the ball. One week, the other group is not shooting anything, but they're imagining it. After a week, they evaluate it, take the records, go another week, take the records, another week. They do this for a little over a month. After a month of training, one is one group is imagining. The other group is actually shooting. Who's a better shot? The ones that are shooting the ball wrong. The ones that are shooting the ball are not good. The ones that imagine are good. Why? The guys that are shooting the actual ball, they're seeing it actually miss constantly. Miss, miss, miss miss, miss miss constantly. Eventually it goes in. Eventually, even a broken clock is right twice a day. Eventually goes in. But they see that they're terrible and they're trying to get better, but it takes a while. The other guys in their imagination, they're always going in. They're always going in. They're always winning. I'm winning. I'm winning. I'm winning. He thinks he's Michael Jordan by the end of the month. So finally, they actually gave him a real ball since in his imagination, that's actually how it was. Literally, his physical nature changed to the extent that he became better physically. Meaning if you train yourself psychologically, mentally, you train yourself, you can do anything, including physically. You train yourself to be a winner, you will be a winner. You train yourself to be a loser, you'll be a loser. But at the same token, you have to know what to train yourself for. There's this fake teaching called the secret taught by all types of speakers that call themselves motivational speakers. And they tell you if you think good, good things will happen. Well, many people thought good, then they got hit by a truck. Some people thought they're going to win the lotto, but then they got cancer instead. A lot of people think good, but doesn't necessarily always happen. Meaning, you have to know what to train yourself for. You have to know what to think. And the Ramban says, "Yes, you're supposed to think. Yes, you're supposed to train, but train for things that are within your ability. Things that actually mean something. Train yourself to change your attitude. Train yourself to change your nature so you don't overreact. You don't underreact. You don't take things in a certain way that's incorrect. Learn how to behave under pressure. Everybody's a sadik when everything looks good. When they have money in their pocket, when they have a job, when they have things going for them, everybody is good. Everybody's good. But that's not going to show who you really are. What's going to show who you really are? How do you react under pressure when things are not working out? So says you have to train yourself before the problem happens. If you do, you'll know how to deal with the problem when it finally arrives. >> One, two, three. [Music] One, two, three. [Music]