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evening everyone and welcome to tonight's very special event tish above stories to inspire we are all going to be um greatly prepared for for tish above by by by by watching listening to this amazing program tonight just a little background about this very special program um kazakh has partnered together with coal tarakula stories to inspire the talisman tour anytime every single we've we've already had numerous events before and and going forward the sunday before a monsoon jewish holiday let's say rosh hashanah chanukah etc etc we the sunday before we're going to bring you the top top speakers speaking about their stories that inspire revolving around that upcoming holiday or time period so this is such a great initiative being spearheaded by khazak in conjunction with kore charakula stories to inspire talisman tour anytime and we're tonight we're going to be very inspired and prepared by hearing the words of such renowned lecturers and authors 12 amazing speakers tonight we're going 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and everyone should we want to thank the tallest man missile epstein for his tremendous work and helping put together tonight's very special program as we know the man it is such a he's he he really does so much for for claudius he and the talisman you for all your judaica needs go to him if you need sitzis no matter if it's ashna svard whatever it may be whatever whatever the way whatever it is for talis bags whatever maybe originating needs top of the line stuff go reach out to the talisman at nine five eight 856-745-9588 eight five six seven four five nine five eight eight and the great talk and the great organization called also kola tora kula it's a tremendous organization they'll put out amazing short videos on different topics i'm a great great speakers and everyone should sign up for their amazing broadcast at 908 943-4162-908-943-4162 and it is our great great honor to call upon the first speaker for tonight rabbi nachman selzer hey welcome everybody tell her anytime i'd like to share a story with you that i heard from my friend rabbi liff i wrote a book about together throughout my life called that is ruby side in which he details many of experiences with kadurlum very special book if you get a chance go down to the bookstore pick up a copy of that as webby so i want to share the story from this when they're safer that happened um trouble yoshi it's a beautiful story very special it goes like this so it was he came down with an illness and uh the doctors basically said that uh that he's gonna pass away any second he's at any minister there's no there's no fam and there was one specialist hospital that said there's a uh there's an idea there's a non-conventional treatment and this is his one chance you know if he does this maybe you know he's going to have a chance to uh to survive um and they said the thing is like this that uh if you plan to follow my advice the doctor said and if you consider leaving the country to fly across the world to the hospital you better leave right now it's about a question of days time is of the essence you have to leave right now you should board the next fight if you want if you have any hope of saving your life you should wear the next flight but the man said it's our shop it's the the patient said what am i supposed to do instead of shabbos how am i supposed to fly and i have showers i'm going to fly in showers i'm going to college so the doctor said it's a matter of life and death it's your only chance you have to leave right now if you want to survive so this patient was very close to the ocean so he took a taxi to yoshi's house and you and he went to ask him what to do reviews the entire case history and he concludes with the doctor's recommendation that he leave exercise immediately and fly across the world and shabbos so you should listen he cops the whole thing in a second and he starts asking questions to understand all the information and he says to this patient if you were to be treated solely with conventional techniques what would be your chances of uh survival of success and that the patient says non-existent i would have no no ability to survive it's it's nothing to talk about said the kill he also keeps questioning the patient and he picks up the phone and calls other doctors he calls other medical professionals he tries to clarify all the information what comes now from the question is that this person's chance of survival are very low and no matter what's gonna happen it's gonna take a major miracle for the man to recover no matter what he did no matter what happens it's a major miracle yeah he comes out of the hospital or somebody else so they actually ask all these questions it goes about the doctors conference with other professionals whether they come it's gonna take away a major miracle for for this for uh for anything to happen for anything to help so i'm sorry i can't find a head there for you to be shy that's what bishop says i'm sorry i can't give you after the flight of the plane in the shabbos if there's really no chance it's gonna work it's not a question of saving a life he said based on statistics we've been given by all the experts there's no chance you to recover he was very sorry but that's that's the bottom line and soviet says in such a situation the psychology has to be one of several so you leave things in the status quo here's what should i do the patient says you should have been in the republic shall i them probably also said shall be taken and you should die he accepted the words of the early yoshi he thanked him for his time he left his apartment and went home to his own house and when he got home his wife asked him what happened he told his wife and she said okay i'm very happy you accepted the sock but i don't accept the sack and she went back to the user's house and she was determined to speak her mind the moment she gets comes into the house she starts crying she's sobbing and she's crying her heart out little bit of tears and she says how could the raw say such a thing she cries how could rabbi you also say this this is my husband the father of my children she's crying from the muscle she's crying at the depths of her heart maybe there's a chance to save his life how could the love give him soccer to do such a thing what if he lives what if flying to america is going to save his life how could the rav say not to do anything maybe because of that chance if he goes maybe even if it's very slight we have to send him maybe that's going to help maybe it should be the khan shout outs in this case maybe that's what he needs to do he'll be able to listen complete concentration but she finished speaking we also thought for five minutes without that interruption he didn't say anything for if you have to know from you also to stop in for five minutes not saying anything that's a long time usually he knew the answer to every question in a second here he's thinking for five minutes finally makes a decision and he says to her your husband gets on the next play cora before immediately let's see how you can get him out of the country so he also is in the crisis handling mode he's giving instructions how to make it happen the most effective way and uh the men who spend their lives helping people get to america or around the world to different hospitals they they jump into gear and they ease all the bureaucracy and they cut through the red tape and uh the from there is taken to the airport and they put them on the next plane to uh go to america he flew in shabbos and when he landed he was brought to the hospital and the doctors performed their surgery and the fact is the mysore the man made a full recovery he regained his health miracle when he returned to eretz israel months later he went to pay a visit to yoshi and he told us the whole story and he gave thanks to hashem and he says i have a question he says tobias i have a question says what's your question what's what's what's what's your question what's going through your mind so he says i don't understand why i spoke to the roof told me not to go dura said it without any shiloh emphatically the world was short not to go when my wife came the roof changed up suck what was it that you felt bad for her what the wrath changes that's my question so there's a of course it wasn't because i felt bad for her absolutely not because it's close doesn't matter who cries so what was it says the man so obviously i'll tell you what it was based on the information that i had that i obtained there was no head to feet of travel in chaps but there's a lot of that tells us the following your sight what's that if a doctor clicked there's no cure but the patient himself insists i want to try a certain treatment i want to try a certain medication it's a situation of called something called kimly i am sure this means that a person knows himself better than the doctors know them and we rule according to that if the person is sure kim lee this is going to make me feel better then we go with that the person feels a chance for recovery we take his feelings and intuition into consideration because every person knows themselves best in the world better than anyone else better than any doctor like the terrorist says leave your dead maura snapchat dar knows its master in your case we also said i couldn't send you on the plane because when you came to see me you never insisted you might be cured i asked you that question i asked all the professionals you didn't argue with me you didn't say no maybe who knows you accepted what i say you didn't fight it but then your wife came then ebbinson came she shows up she's nothing like you she argues maybe there's a chance to save your life she begs she cries she believes that things could change now the question changes into something else do we say ishta kagufa the principle of a man's wife being like himself could be used to apply the idea of live your day amara snapchat could be saved because we put together the idea of ish like a goofy that a man's wife is like himself together with the idea that our heart knows its master and say that the wife knows the husband and that she's just the same as if she's the patient herself and if she says it can be cured then we should say that we should send him because it's like he's saying that he should be cured that was why i sat there for five minutes for five minutes i didn't say a word i had to go through the whole circle i had to decide whether or not she could be considered someone who's a husband as well as he knows himself i had to decide can we rely on her assurance and he might recover or not i thought and i thought and i thought for five minutes straight and in the end i ruled that we could and you went and barak hashem you were healed so i wrote this story so it didn't just come out in english actually this came out in hebrew as well and ra and the book came out called in the in their hey hollam and stomach and uh read the story and they were very you know it was my wish lawyer in them they got very excited and the koala belief they had to know about the stock they had to think they had to learn the suggyo it's a beautiful sugar but this this shows us you know how what it really means to be a goddamn absolute that life it's really the same when a shy kid told me it wasn't just oh okay here's the what's the answer it was like he went through the whole torah in his head he takes the this question and he goes through the whole torah in his head and he applies all the different scenarios um through this amazing computer his mind was like this amazing target computer and then came the sake of and that's why it's unbelievable when he came he got wubsack because it all went through one system one program but then his wife came and the whole thing changed because now there's a whole new set a whole new set of variables that that changed and she even had to re-assess the sock and give a duper side but that's a mamas that's a real poison that's a classic example of what it means to give saka loho thank you you're rabbi salads of your tremendous words as we know rabbi seltzer has literally written so many so many books autobiographies so many amazing books and farm and we uh about um about so many amazing topics really appreciate your words tonight our next speaker is rob have been sean classico as we know um um rabbit clatsko is the founder of shabbat.com tremendous organization which which which which unites and inspires tens of thousands of people every single year and is our great honor to call upon rabbi bension classical hello alaikum my name is ben sion klatsko and welcome to stories to inspire i was in shul this morning and a yid approached me and he was telling me what a difficult life he's had and the difficulties that he's dealing with right now but then he looks at me and he says you know gamsulatova so i asked him why gam zuludo why not zulutova this is good so i said the gum refers to the pasta yes even though i'm walking through the valley of the shadow of death i don't fear evil because hashem you are with me so gum even in that scenario zulatova it's going to be good when i was a yeshiva baker i was very curious to visit my grandfather's cover my zade's cover i never met him he was nifter when my father was five years old so of course i never met him and i knew he was buried in a be sacrifice in queens called mount hebron cemetery says a bucker i went to second seder and got racist to go and visit this cover and when i came it was about five o'clock and the cemetery was going to be closing in about a half an hour so i figured okay i'll have a half an hour it's enough time to go and say a capital to him by my grandfather's cover i had never been there i didn't know where it was however the office was closed and i said okay i'll look at the matsaivas i'll look at the tombstones and i'll figure out which is my grandfather little did i know that mount hebron cemetery is one of the largest jewish cemeteries in the world it's over a half a million kivarium over there a half a million and i have the half an hour and then the gates will close and i'm going to be stuck inside of the cemetery so i begin to look from one mud save it to the next and as i'm looking i'm seeing how large the cemetery is and as far as the eye could see it's just going and going row after row after row it seemed to be a mile long and i'm thinking this is crazy how in the world am i going to find the matseiva of my grandfather i don't know where he's buried i don't know what it looks like there are half a million mad savers and i have a half an hour and i'm gonna be locked and as i'm looking for one to the next i begin to panic and i run and i begin to run and run and i'm running and running i ran down one little row of uh of of mat savers and then another row and this row belongs to this shul and the that jewel and and to that congregation and i'm looking much safer after my seven and i'm dominant and i'm saying hashem zaydi you know i want to just visit you please help me and as i'm running i'm running and soon my lungs are burning from the run and i just can't take it anymore and i'm about to collapse and i just i have to stop and i bend over just to catch my breath and as i'm bent over i look down and i'm in front of my zeta's cover and it was a very small material and it looked like it was half covered by a bush it wasn't tended to and there's no way i could have found that no way out of the half and knowing for him i had a half an hour and here i am right in front of his cover and i darvened and i told him i wish i had met him and i hope i'm making him proud and then i left on time not to be locked in to the bayside forest sometimes when we are in a very very difficult month's of in life and we think this is utterly impossible we're in gullahs for 2 000 years why would 2001 be any different in 2002 if we weren't good enough in the times of the villenegon if we weren't good enough in the times of the maharal and the times of the base yosef in the times of rashi in the times of rambam how in the world in america in new york in los angeles and how are we going to be good enough and we begin to run and run and finally we're out of breath we're out of the koi and the tsar and the heaviness of goddess is just crushing us and especially this year where we have the difficulties in serve side and the difficulties and may roan and the difficulties in in stalin and the difficulties of covet and the difficulties in in in in the war with hamas and bomb shelters what a year i'm out of breath i'm killing over i'm about to give up and at that moment lo irara can't tell you madie don't be scared don't be afraid says hashem i am with you i will guide you i have your back we bend down and there's our zeda there's our tata there's ours our tata and himmel our heavenly father he's i just want you to try your best when you feel like you're ready to give up don't gamsulatova there's something good that's going to come out of this i wish you all a meaningful fast this tish above and this should be the last year that we run out of breath next year we should stand erect and proud and tall in your shalom hapanuya for your tremendous words our next speaker is rabbi uri lati we want to remind everyone about we want to thank um all the partying organization helping put together tonight's very special program the kazakh organization we want to call tarakula the talisman in toronto time and one reminder and so much right now you know someone else's children public school and would like to transfer you shiva reach out to kazakh right now at pst or email us at at pstyx or g-p-s-t is a great great honor to call upon renowned lecturer and and speaker rabbi urilati from brooklyn new york welcome everyone to this special event in the three weeks leading up to shabbat av thank you to stories to inspire hazak torah anytime called torah for sponsoring this event for streaming it today will see two different stories two different angles two different views and come out with one lesson the first story is about rebecca when rabbenu hida was visiting algeria he walked into yeshua on shabba ab he said the keynote over there on afternoon he heard that there were ladies cleaning the house mapping the floors painting the house painting the walls and he got very upset because he heard about this custom before but he got very upset the day of where we should be mourning the destruction of bethan mikdash destruction of the temple there are ladies cleaning the houses and they were putting fragrances and nice smells this is the day out of all days this is the day you should do it so he got very upset he went to show he gathered everybody he stood up and chewing he says discuss them that you have you have to abolish this custom it's not a good custom today's a day of mourning even though it's afternoon today's the day of mourning for the destruction of better mikdash do not do this minhag he walked out of show an hour later he's walking in the street and he sees two ladies talking to each other and pointing to this to him pointing to rabbin and they're whispering got closer and he said what are you talking about you're pointing to me what are you talking about so one lady says i told my friend that mashiach is not coming this year so hearing this he said what are you talking about we have emunah can come at every given moment why do you think mashiach is not going to come so she says because you told us in shu that we should abolish this custom we have discussed them because we know mashiach is born on afternoon and if he telling us to abolish this custom that means we shouldn't anticipate from anymore we shouldn't wait for mashiach is not coming why should we be happy why should we clean the house why should we mop to the floors why should we why should we paint the walls if mashiach is not coming you're right mashiach is not coming this year you have such a moon could come in any given moment continue your min and yes there are some places till this day afternoon comes they get off the floor they paint the walls we're not talking about a real paint job but they clean the walls they paint a little bit of the walls they map the floors they get ready for mashiach that is their way of getting ready for mashiach the second story is two very close friends the rebbe of kotzk and rabitshaka varka they were very close friends even though they maybe differentiated in their ways of hasidut whereas katsu was muffled they emit varka was more about loving every single yehudi but nonetheless they were best friends when rabbits hack of varka passed away his son was waiting for his father to come to him at least in the dream and he walked he went to rob to the the rebbe of kotzkan he said my father hasn't been appearing to me i want to know what's going on going on up there in chiang mai so the qatar's government says you know it worried me too also he wasn't coming to me so i said if he's not coming to me let me go to him so i went up to shaman i went up to shaman and i said where is my friend where is my friend rabbit's hakka varka where is he so they said he was here and he left i wanted the ishiva of rashi i wanted to shiver moshe benu i wanted the shiva of the great naim a moraim and they all had the same answer he was here and he left so finally they told me if you want to find him go all the way to this dark forest all the way in the end you'll find him so i went i wanted the forest it was very dark very scary very frightening i went in the end of the forest this black forest i saw rabitsakavarka standing by the ocean and the waves of the ocean were crashing down waves i never heard before in my life frightening it was very scary to hear these waves so i saw him and he was glancing he was looking at the waters and he did not take his eyes off the water and i said rabbitshak my friend i missed you so much it's been a very long time since i saw you what are you doing here by the ocean why are you gazing out of the ocean why don't you keep on staring at the ocean serbia sahgavraka answered me and he said i'm standing by this ocean this is the ocean of tears this is the ocean of all the yehudim throughout the years suffering oppressed in trouble in pain in anguish in sorrow crying over the destruction of bitter midash i will tie all the problems that we have stem from one thing because we do not have a house we do not have the bitter mikdash the shechina is not residing in the house so abhis hakka varka said i am standing by this ocean this ocean of tears made from all the tears of the udemy through all the generations and i promised and i swore and i said hashem i am not leaving this ocean until you dry it up until you dry up the tears of the yehudim and you bring mashiach two different stories but with one attitude we should walk away with with one lesson whereas in the first story in abeenu the ladies they were cleaning the house they were doing what they can to greet the arrival of the mashiach because they had come at any moment the second story is doing an action or showing hashem how much you care and how much it's bothering you that we don't have mashiach that the shechinas in galut around from place to place the name of hashem is desecrated so everybody could take any of the stories and have their own mahalak have their own path whereas we could weep over the mashiach we could we we could scream out to hashem hashem we need the mashiach not us you need the mashiach hashem you need the house already you need a house to put the shechina in you can have that mahalak you can have the other malach of saying we believe every single moment and everybody does of course we believe in at every single moment mashiach could come at any second and because of that we're happy because of that with everything that's going on with the three weeks with this abi ab it's a very sorrow time it's a very troubled time it's a very sad time but with all that we have emunah could come at any moment is being born every single year being born anew renewed we know that masha come any moment so we can take any malach we want any pet that we want but in the end of the day it's all one we have to anticipate the arrival of the mashiach and we have to tell hashem hashem join up those tears join up the ocean of tears that's been filled with all the tears of the jews being suffered or are suffering every single day all the generations hashem dry up this ocean dry up this ocean of tears and send them and by the time we shouldn't have a bit uh we shouldn't be sitting in mourning the destruction of of of the vitamin dash we should have the mashiach should transform into hag into halle bergshim of only rejoicing and like we said painting the houses and mopping the floors because mashiach already came i thank you for watching and the shame we should take this lesson that it should paint us that there is no mashiach it should paint us that hashem doesn't have our house and masjid jim we really have that on our minds and our hearts and our thoughts always thinking about it hashem can change in the blink of an eye yeshua in a blink of an eye we'll change our ebel to sason and it should change our yagon and anaha to thank you rabbi lottie for your tremendous words for your powerful uplifting words our next speakers rabbi moshe don castenbaum as we know rabbi kestenbaum is the author of a lot of amazing farm and books on on a wide variety of jewish topics hola mamidos and so many other amazing books and i want to remind everyone about the great work of stories to inspire and everyone should check out their website and now stories to inspire.org and you will definitely be inspired and uplifted it is our ground to call upon you by kestenbaum thank you hazak for this beautiful initiative thank you for including me i want to share with you a story or really a letter which has a powerful powerful lesson for all of us to think about i got the following email about a month or two ago and i want to read from you from most of the letter and the letter goes as follows hi rabbi kestenbaum i hope all is well as a teenager i went through a really few rough years home home life was terrible i got caught up in the wrong crowd at very young age made bad decisions acted recklessly etcetera my high school years were a blur of pain disappointment hurt anxiety anger confusion depression sprinkled with a few good memories i don't remember exactly all that was when the following story took place but it was somewhere between the ages of 12 and 16. i remember being at a really low point i wasn't really from i was engaged in crazy behaviors on the outside i looked like pretty much like a typical from basiaco girl but i was sick of living the double life i was hurting badly i felt like nobody was there for me no one cared about me and i didn't want to go on living i can't remember what my specific issue was at the time there was something going in my life that was causing me a lot of stress i remember hopelessly walking to the kitchen one morning and sitting down at the kitchen table the ted newspaper was on the table and i casually flipped through it the title of your article caught my eye i read your article which i don't even remember what it was about i saw your email address so i was desperate for guidance and i emailed you without thinking and without knowing who you were i told myself if he could help me i won't give up i don't even remember what i emailed you or what you responded but i know we emailed back and forth until you tell me that i should call you i told you we spoke for approximately 40 minutes believe it or not i don't remember the content of the emails i don't even remember one word of the conversation what i do remember though is everlasting feeling of love care and compassion i felt after the phone call my life was in the dumps and i was my early teenage years i felt as though nobody cared and i didn't see a reason to care about myself when you spent 40 minutes on the phone with me i thought to myself someone doesn't know me is even willing to give 40 minutes of the time someone cares about me that much if even a stranger can care about me that much that means i'm worth something and i better take care of myself as well from the end of the high school time it was rocky twisty painful road i saw him manage to get through high school often remembering our phone call anyways she continues i've been and then she talks about how she barack hashem his successful and doing well barak hashem and then she writes i began thinking how i got here however the courage to keep going on despite the pain of course i shall misguide me every step of the way and i could not have done it without him but as i was sitting and thinking how i got here i automatically thought about our 40-minute conversation often when i think to the darkness endless nights of pain and loneliness i also remember the conversation how it felt to someone cared enough to give me 40 minutes this email is way overdue there many times i wanted to thank you because so many times it kept me going caused me not to give up i know you probably don't remember the emails or phone calls but i'll never forget them i'll never forget the time you gave me i will never forget the power of giving someone your time and making them feel like they are worth something i also feel the need to share with this with you to update you in my life for two reasons one i feel like i owe you so much and number two i'm writing this because as humans we sometimes feel like we're wasting our time with people and then we're not helping them but you never know what impact just giving your time and attention might have later on them this is such a powerful letter for such an impact i feel fortunate i'm not such a saddik and i don't usually have this close of helping people like this but what a lesson we learned from this letter here it was just talking to this girl trying to help her out a little bit and my advice whatever i told her she doesn't even remember but she remembers that i cared about her that i was pushed she was important to me that i invested my time into her as we're heading towards tish above a time of destruction the base of nature is destroyed because of sinasrinam we have to really think about the people that need that need encouragement the people that are yahshua the people that are sitting alone if this shear this story this letter can inspire every one of us listening to at least do one thing for somebody that could use a little hizak it doesn't have to be someone in this desperate in this difficult situation but somebody that could use a little physic if we can give them a phone call pay them a visit show them some attention show them some kindness that will build the base on mig dash that will bring the yash for the dud claw you still said alone on tish above we're not allowed to say good morning to each other we're isolated from one another because that's what destroyed the basement that's being isolated not caring enough about each other and if we could step forward even with one small action small gesture to somebody that could use archizak we don't know the impact that it could have on that person and we don't know the impact it could have on shamayim that hashem will bring us thank you for listening rabbi kestenbaum for your tremendous tremendous words powerful words our next speaker is rabbi aniverov rabbi merov is the ceo and founder of the kazakh organization and there's so much tremendous um work for claudius trail and we really appreciate it we want to remind everyone about the great work of um of the about the talisman of the talisman epstein who really gives his his life and his soul to claudius a day in and day out and he has the top if you all use genetically needs you can sit this you you you and for thomas bags for a tallis whatever it may be all your daca needs all your uh reach out to talisman right now at one of 856-745-9588-856-745-9588 favorite stories that really really inspire me is a very very famous mashallah parable from the khovitskain who says more or less that there was a king and he goes to visit one of his villages one of his communities one day and as you can imagine the community is really excited to have the king come and to visit and they make a very very big feast and a very big meal and the entire community comes out to greet the king while the king is sitting there in the sudan in the meal they serve him a cup of tea and the king takes a sip and he spits it out and everyone is shocked to see this and once again the king takes another sip of the tea and once again he spits it out and everyone's shocked the mayor of the community goes over to the king and he tells him is everything okay and the king explains that there's something wrong with the taste of the tea it feels like there's pebbles or rocks or sand in there and the mayor tells the king that's normal whenever we take out the water from the well it automatically comes along with some pebbles and rocks some sand that's just the way it is over here and the king explains to them and the king explains to them that this is not a normal thing what you need to do is you have to have a filter system you take a cloth you pour the water and the water will come through the cloth in the sand the rocks the pebbles will stay on top and the mayor and the entire community are amazed at what what a smart king that they have lo and behold a few weeks passed by and the king here is that that entire city got burnt down and he was shocked he couldn't believe it he goes down to see the damage to see what happens when he goes over there the mayor and the entire community go and start screaming at the king it's all your fault it's because of you and the king says what did i do you remember you taught us how to filter water that's the reason why the fire took down the entire community the entire city the entire village say what do you mean and they explained that the fire was originally a small fire it started in one house but it took too long for the water to be filtered and to pour the water onto the fire and it started spreading more and more and more and the king tells the the community and he tells the mayor you fools when there's a fire you do not use filtered water you use any water you have and then inside the lesson from this parable is that unfortunately in the times we live in today there's a fire raging there's a fire going on and that fire is the fact that there's so many fellow brothers and sisters of ours that are not following the path of the torah they do not know what alexis do not know what shema is and when there's a fire burning we do not use filtered water many people we ask them to get involved and what do they say i myself i'm not perfect i'm not good i have to work on myself which is 100 we all have to work on ourselves but we cannot wait for a person to be perfect because no one's perfect to get involved and this connects very nicely to tisha b'av which we hope isn't hashem with god's help will be a happy day soon but every single year that the betterment dash is not rebuilt is as if that it was distorted in that year we all know that the main sin that we transgressed hatred so this is something that hasn't been worked on yet that means whatever we've done up until now and all the organizations all the rabbanim and all the ascanin and all those that are involved whatever they've done up until now is great but it's obviously not enough we need qualities that we need the entire jewish people to unite to come together and to do more we cannot be satisfied whatever we've accomplished until all the issue vote and all the synagogues and schools and all the great organizations all the key room and all the saving of lives it's great but it's obviously not enough the mashiach the redemption is not here yet let's take this message to heart we for your for your timely words our next speaker is rabbi ephraim epstein we want to thank the great work of calla tarakula who's one of the partners in today's very sp tonight's very special program as we know kotor kula sends out short powerful messages every single day and everyone should sign up to their amazing broadcast at 908 943-4162-908-943-4162 i want to thank um we want to thank and it's a great honor to call upon you by epstein to address this tonight as we know robert epstein is a rov in cherry hill new jersey and we are really we are very grateful for him to join us tonight rabbi epstein thank you to torah anytime to hazak to stories to inspire and kola torakula for this wonderful opportunity to share a story to hopefully inspire at a time period where claudius roll needs inspiration as we approach the nine days i grew up in a little town in long island and moved away when i was 10 years old almost 10 years later i was out on a business call with someone else leading the way and realized that i wasn't too many miles away from where i grew up i said to my colleague do you mind if we make a stop i'd like to go see my childhood home he looked at his watch and said okay in the pre-waze era we looked on a map we went the 15 minutes and there it was my childhood house i went up knocked on the door the person who opened didn't know me i didn't know them and it was at a time period that you let strangers into your house so i said you know i grew up in this house do you mind if i look around a little bit guy said no please come on in i walked in and i remembered the stucco ceiling in the den and then i walked into the kitchen and i saw the washing machine excuse me the dishwasher but i realized how small the room was it looked so different than the way it was when i grew up but i had a real pleasure in reconnecting to the house of my youth despite the fact that it looked much different and when i analyzed it later and spoke to others we understood it was because i was so much smaller then and the kitchen looked that much bigger and the house looked that much bigger because the world is always seen through the perspective of the one who is looking and the difference between a child looking and an adult looking is coming from a very different perspective contrast that to years later i was on a tour of eastern europe i was there with my wife and a whole bunch of couples and there was a woman who grew up in poland and halfway through the trip she looked on a map and she said my childhood home is not too far from here i'm going to leave the trip go on a taxi and find my home sort of like i did the polish taxi driver took her to the area and she spent hours and hours and she could not find the house she came back a very very upset woman because she understood that the house was not there it had either been destroyed remarked or what have you when i think of these two stories i think of two types of yidden in the world there are those hidden in the world like this woman in poland who don't even know where to look for their ancient home akareshbarachu's house they don't even know what neighborhood to show up at and when they don't even know when they get there if that what it looks like because it was so long ago and so out of their mind that it's so distant that they don't even know how and where to go and then there are other yiddan who do know where to go they say we lose shalom every day they say oven a yerushalayim when they bench but they don't realize that the yerushalayim that they're visiting in their minds and that they're going back to is so different than the one that exists today because the perspective that we have of what once was is made up in our minds by reading midrashim and gemaras and even though they're all true ain't shemiakeria there's no comparison as the gemara in sukkah says we're going to start the daphaomi as the gomorrah and sukkah says somebody who went to the base of mikdash and saw the simcha there it was like they never saw simcha any other place on the planet our task as we mourn the best this coming week is to a also mourn the fact that there are so many millions of jews that don't know where to start looking for their ancient home for akureshbarachu's house but also recognize that when we look for karishbaraku's house mourn for it pine for it hope for it daven for it we can't imagine the way it really will be but we just trust that the same hashem that got us this far is the same hashem that will bring us and usher us back into the base of megdus with all of its grandeur in all of its glory soon in our days thank you thank you so much rabbi epstein our next speaker is rabbi nakam shiner before introduced right by shine we want to thank the great work of taurani time for helping stream tonight's very special program as well as all the great work they do throughout the entire for claudius trail they have thousands upon thousands of shirum from tremendous tremendous the best speakers in the world and everyone should go to tournament time.com day night whatever it may be if you share them for men women kids young old everybody for from all backgrounds everyone should go to anytime.com and you will you will not regret it and there's a great article upon you by knocking shiner who is the rav who's the rosh colo of base madrush or i'm in muncie new york once upon a time he was a 12 year old boy what does a 12 year old boy do he's preparing for his bar mitzvah it's a few months before his bar mitzvah preparing his chatel as well as leaning the parasha daftara they're finally there it's a week before the bar mitzvah papyrus hope shettle papirus parsha prepares torah and they're waiting for the big day for the shabbos the father realizes that the torah that the song prepared was the wrong kaftara i'm not exactly sure if it was a shabbath just on a side note this past shabbos there's a big sheila of what have torah to read gimbal the perennials or rather shabbat shredish but anyways they didn't know what to do he prepared half torah and there was no way that he could prepare the other half toward the right of torah you see i don't know if you're about kyrie or you're not about kyrie but to prepare takes a long time i personally started laning a few years ago and even just on a monday and a thursday it takes a long time to prepare the boy was devastated he worked so hard to appear as the laners of torah and now he can't lay down after what do you do they decided we're going to go to slender zalman and if sheila zalman says it's fine he tells the boy you could lay in the half torah that you prepared i don't know the halacha aspect of it would have tara why he was right elaine that i've told her but he said it was fine the boy was so happy amazing he prepared and he's looking forward to laying his the of torah shabbos morning the week of the the week that they're gonna go lame they get up early the father the son they come to shul who's sitting there who's there daffing of slaves island the father runs over to absalom is almond he tells them thank you so much for coming for joining the simcha but please tell me explain you live far away was already older then it was a long walk a tiring walk it was time it was energy slim as almond was a poison shyless learning the father wanted to understand it was nice you came to join my simcha you could have called me before shabbat swished me masalatov musalman said the following i knew your son is going to land off torah like i said that's what's going to happen however what what's going to happen they're going to start the the berkshires of tyre is going to start leaning the torah which is not the right off torah and you know there's always the seven people the people in the back with fixing the mistakes of the guys are going to say well it's the wrong torah back and forth forth and back the agave is going to say masala pascant good a minute later they're going to continue the boy is going to lay and it's going to be perfect but cedric schlemmer zalman that one minute that the boy is going to be embarrassed he's going to feel pain for that it's worth it for me to come that i'm going to be present and when the boy starts leaning if anybody makes any motion i'll say right away yes it's okay for him to lay that off torah it's worth it for me to come to prevent any tsar even for one minute of this 13 year old boy rabbi sai we just started now the nine days we have the three weeks the nine days intensifies our avalanche on the hurban and as we get closer to tish above we're being miss abel on the why did the khoravan happen why did the basal mig dash why was it destroyed so the gemara says because of sin the second day same english was destroyed because of sin for us to bring back to bring back the base amigdas we need ava nam what is not to do means don't shampoo your friend don't tell them a nice line don't speak roshan hara that's all what's ava you know what ava name is to go out of your way to be sensitive and careful to make your friend feel good or that he shouldn't have something shouldn't bother him you see him as almond if he wouldn't have came sure it's not a sin of him not coming and yes the the bar mitzvah boy wouldn't have felt so comfortable for that one minute felt it's important to come to spend the time the energy that's ava to bring back the bass amigdas you have to work on avast you see a friend tell them a good morning give them a good line let me tell you everybody likes a compliment everybody even if they tell you they don't they lack a compliment give them a good morning a good afternoon how you doing but one pointer let me just bring out this hello this good morning you see it's very interesting the day of tish above as we're saying now which is the biggest availus on the hurban and that's the time we should be really working on you know you're not supposed to greet your friend could you imagine you see your friend tish above in the morning you don't say hello to him you don't say good morning shouldn't it be the opposite it should be like kiddish lavana you know the shamal comes you should be a ding you should go to every single person and say malaysia they should be abrasive my father just told me the other day a beautiful answer you see every morning you see the guy good morning that's the regular lingo does a person really mean it and if a person doesn't really mean it the other person just yeah good have a good day how you doing good you really want to know how he's doing we take a stop tish above we take a pause and we don't say good morning to make sure that when we say good morning we really need it you know how it feels the next morning tish above the day after tish above you see the guy that you saw him yesterday you couldn't say hello you give him a smile a good morning that's avast is to care about somebody sensitivity smile to him and with this avasakinam we're going to be zaika that yet this tish above which is a moyet will be to the binyan base amigner from here menu if you have a scheiner for your tremendous words we still have so much tremendous speakers coming up i want you to continue tuning in and inspire and getting inspired and inspiring others by sharing this link right now at tourneytime.com live tourneytime.com live where people could watch or people can listen right now it's 718-298-2077 extension tonight rabbi 46-718-298-2077 who lives right now in israel who is a tremendous author um him together um with the shirum of rabbi shakur cows have put on numerous numerous farms have really uplifted the observance of halacha through their amazing safari rabbi avi slansky i'd like to begin by thinking stories to inspire for the wonderful work they do all the content that they curate and put out there so that everyone can listen find a beautiful story inspire and move on with their day and today's special bishop of edition we all hope that we'll be able to inspire in the same way it was you shall i am 20 some odd years ago and there was a young girl who wasn't so young anymore we'll call her rivka and she needed a shirach and she davened and she did different schools and she laid candles early and she gave stuck and she went to give her sadiq and just nothing seemed to work and after so many times the 40 days at the kaisel one day she woke up she told her mother i'm going to the castle and the mud said okay this was a common occurrence she went to the castle to daven but as she drove the bus like i sell she started thinking to herself i really need this it's over if not i and she was getting deeper and deeper and more desperate and then she walked up to the kaisel and she walked up to that wall and she touched the stones and she gave it a kiss there was a level of rock bottom that she felt there was a connection she felt i need this hashem please and she started davening and she started saying to hillary and the tears started coming and she started pleading with her father in heaven i need a shadow it's been so many years all my friends are engaged i just want to start building a jewish household and davening and crying saying tell him 20 30 minutes finally all her energy is zapped she gives the wall one last kiss and she walks up to the bus and as anyone who's ever been to you shall i am waiting for a bus when the question could appreciate there was hundreds of people waiting every bus that came instead of 50 people cramming in 100 people crammed in and rivka is sitting and waiting and she was a bit down a bit in her own place a bit feeling at some level elevated she felt connected and she didn't want to push to get on a bus so she waited and waited but finally after two three buses passed she realized if i don't push my way onto the bus i'm gonna be here forever so the next bus that came as it fills up rivka gets onto that back door and starts you know pushing her way in and she thinks she's finally going to get on one of the last people and another girl we'll call her leia pushes her way in front of rifka and rivka looks at leigh and says what are you doing and leia says i've been waiting here a half hour erica says no you weren't i've been here for over an hour and leah says i'm sorry i was and as the doors start closing leia calls out to the driver and hag nag wait is a girl trying to get on and she even tried to hold rifka's hand and pull her up rifka wasn't able the door is closed leia's on the bus and rifk is standing there so upset such a hootsbot she wasn't waiting here an hour and under her breath as she walked away she whispered i hope she doesn't make it home and she waits and finally she gives up hope on the bus she jumps into a taxi and she starts going home on the way home in the taxi there starts sirens commotion the taxi driver stops is nowhere to drive she gets out and she sees in front of her there was a terrible terrorist attack there's a bus bombing and she starts shaking and she looks and she sees the number two bus that was the bus i was supposed to be on rifka thinks and then the next thought that hits her wait leia i said i hope she doesn't make it home could could it be and she starts walking towards the attack trying to see of course she can't get any closer and she waits around a little bit asking around who are the ones that were killed was there a girl that starts describing and she can't get any details and she just starts walking home she makes a long trek to her house and when she walks in she's greeted you're alive i can't believe it and her mother and her father and all her siblings are there saying tell him you're alive you're alive there are no cell phones she heard there was a terrorist attack the mother the father the whole family they knew her their daughter was at the kaisel and then she walked through the front door such a simcha after hugging and kissing and being grateful for being alive rifka starts crying and she says i could have been on that bus i could have been on that bus and she can't really be consoled and she doesn't really want to eat and she just goes and cries herself to sleep and over the next few days next few week or two her mother realizes rifk is being a little bit strange rifka wouldn't tell anyone the reason everyone thought it was the sight of the terrorist attack it was the potential of maybe even being on the bus but deep down rifko was walking around with this secret she felt i muttered those words i hope she doesn't make it home and she remembered all the different speeches that she heard that at a time of cast at a time of anger the power of the tongue the merit of blessings in bracha one could give at that moment and she realized i did the opposite i cursed that girl and then she starts asking around was the girl lily on the bus starts to read the news reports and she doesn't get real details she doesn't really know the girl but that image of the girl the image of the girl looking back at her as the boss is pulling away with a little bit of a i'm sorry face and the image of herself muttering i hope she doesn't make it home just replayed again and again and again in her head she couldn't eat and her mother suggested you want to go speak to a therapist and she didn't want anything she deep down she just felt i killed that girl i had the moment i had the power of my tongue i was so angry so upset and i was so elevated at that moment i just finished dominating for a half hour i blew it not only did i blew it i maybe killed that girl two weeks later she turns to her mother and says i'm going back to the castle her mother is a little bit nervous really she'd go back to the castle it's a little bit still too fresh and she says i i need to go davin. her mother offers to go with her she says no she takes the boss back to the key cell she goes to the wall again walking up to those stones touching the stones kissing the stones deja vu all over again she starts crying she is begging hashem for mahila for forgiveness i can't believe what i did i know the power of the tongue i can't believe what i did she kisses the wall 20 30 minutes later and she walks away a bit of a stone lifted off her chest but at the same time still feeling a bit she doesn't know what to do and she gets up again and as she walks towards that bus stop again there's hundreds of people there and she's trembling as she walks forward and she stands there and she starts waiting as the buses fill one after another and then she looks over her shoulder and she sees a girl what and she starts walking closer and as she gets closer she realizes that's the girl it's lego she runs over to leah and she's leah you're alive and leia looks at ra rivka and says rivka you're alive lufka says of course i'm alive and after they both calm themselves down they walk to the side and they sit down and leia says i was sure i was sure you were killed and rivka says you were sure i was killed you were the one on the bus and leia says i was on the bus but at the next stop i realized i left my tehillim at the castle so i got off the bus i walked to 15 minutes back i got my tail him and as i was waiting i heard the news of a bus bombing i heard the news that a bus blew up and in my brain's calculations i realized it was probably the bus after the one i was on which was the bus that you were supposed to be on rifka and i felt so terrible that i took your spot that i pushed my way on and you were killed and for the last two weeks i couldn't eat i couldn't sleep all i was thinking is how i killed you how i didn't do more to get you onto that bus and that was rifka's turn to say i felt the same way because you don't realize i was so upset and i muttered under my mouth i hope she doesn't make it home and i was so sure that the words did something and i can't believe it and the two of them calmed down they exchanged names they didn't even know each other were and as we hear this story there's so many points that we could take out of it but just one thing is when we heard and when we realized the power of the tongue especially when we're angry and we've heard of the tremendous progress in schools and we heard and we all connected and we felt maybe it's true maybe it was rifko's mouth that did it let's realize words mean so much and whether the words will actually have the power to kill another person they certainly have the power to damage another person they certainly have a power to hurt another person how careful we have to be with our words which is one of the biggest impetuses of the besamikja's destruction and of course let's realize the power of a tehillim how leo went back to pick up her telum which ultimately saved her life and hopefully with the realization the recognition the encouragement and the physique and the strength that we'll give to our talents to our words will merit the rebuilding of the beast that make the ship here of the amino i mean grab my slansky for your tremendous words our next speaker is mr harry rothenberg mr rothenberg is a tremendous tremendous speaker every single week he puts out a tremendous posture clip which it literally every week goes viral wherever you go you go you people get people are texting what's happening these are these amazing videos because it's so to the point and it's so it's it touches really touches your heart and it's a great idea to call upon mr howard rothenberg last week one of my relatives passed away he was married didn't have children was not observant his wife was a blood relative to me was not planning on an observant orthodox funeral ke halaka but i spoke to her some of my siblings spoke to her she did not want to have a rabbi with a big beard officiating we reassured her don't worry my brother-in-law who's a rov who's clean-shaven he can officiate will pay if there's any extra cost and she said okay and it was an incredible kiddish hashem my parents were there my wife and i my brothers and sisters and brothers-in-law and sisters-in-law my brother-in-law who officiated the beautiful job the redevery has spayed them a minion for kaddish my family members made sure that we did the entire burial every shovel full of dirt was done by us rather than by gravediggers and another relative who was there who's also not observant came over to me and he was so moved by this that he said you know when i go i hope the rothenbergs will take care of me like this as well i said of course we will your family and then after the funeral i figured it was an ace raw zone so i asked him if he'd be willing to come visit my house for a shabbos which he had never done before and he said yes so we're trying to plan that immediate hashem it'll happen but something else happened back at that cemetery that was equally if not far more powerful my mother told me and my siblings that her parents and her grandparents were buried in that same cemetery and so for the first time my siblings and i went to visit those graves as did my son who was also in attendance and as i was standing in front of the graves of my mother's parents for the first time i couldn't help but contrast the experience with a different one that i have every year i lead a tier of trip to israel when we go to tavari i always like to take the guys to keva rambam because everybody knows the rambam maimonides whether you're observant or not jewish or not while we're there i also stopped by at the caver of the shelah because i'm a direct ascendant it's a very humbling experience when you stand at the grave of the zeta hoping that i'm doing my best to live up to his incredible legacy but those are really really big shoes to fill how can you possibly fill them but here's the opposite reaction because my mother's parents were not observant and i was thinking must be a beautiful thing i'm sure they get scar from the learning that i do and the tsudaka that i give and the torah that i spread and then my son came over to stand next to me and i could not imagine what that must be like for my grandparents his great-grandparents to meet him for the first time the scar that they get from a hush of avrich in cole spends his days and his nights stagging away had to be an unbelievable thing for them to get to meet me and especially him for the first time whether you like it or not or realize it or not you are connected to your relatives in fact halachically you're a karo within five generations once it's six there's no longer a halacha connection as a relative it's interesting they say that when ravel yash of around the age of 100 became a great great great grandfather now at six generations he immediately said mazel tov i can be an aide for him i could be a witness for him because he and that new baby were no longer relatives herologically but when it's five generations son father grandfather great-grandfather great-great-grandfather those are connected those are relatives and there's a bond i have a friend in israel irav with whom i'm very close he told me that a number of years ago he was learning at night and he suddenly collapsed for about half an hour he thought it was just out of sheer exhaustion he had learned himself into unconsciousness and he found out later that the moment that he passed out was the moment that his grandfather had died he didn't know that he hadn't gotten the news yet but there was a connection also explained something that always bothered me for years when you look at the beginning of parshas korach he's only listed back three generations his father his grandfather and his great-grandfather not great great why because chazal tell us that yaakov daven to hashem don't include me with the assembly of korach what bothered me was that that was yaakov tefillah he sees prophetically that his great-great-grandson is going to go off and the best he could come up with is oh no don't don't make me part of that couldn't he have said something like you know please god try to look after him but the answer i saw once is that is exactly what he was doing yaakov understood that korach is still within five generations it's his great great grandson in the future and so he was telling hashem please don't include me with him because if you do since i'm a relative i know you're going to hold him to a higher standard and the punishment's going to be worse so i'm begging you cut me out so the punishment won't be as bad so he was praying for his great great grandson four generations back four generations forward those nine generations are connected they're the ones who are no longer with us whatever we do down here they benefit from and then if we're fortunate and we get that gift and we have children our grandchildren our great-grandchildren great-great-grandchildren whatever they do once we're up there will benefit us and of course those who pass away also benefit from those who they've influenced and other family members who do good things and who learn in their honor so i was thinking that on tish above when we talk about the cena that destroyed the base of mechdash and when we consider the tish above that we've been living through day after day after day for months now surfside carlin stolen the italian cable car marone of course we don't know why hashem is doing these things but we know that we have to work on ourselves and we know that if we want to counteract the scene to destroy the base of meditation we want to rebuild it we have to work on them and often what that means is working on repairing our relationships with friends colleagues people with whom we may have had disagreements or with whom were in a fight but it's got to start in the home the olive base starts olive base because aleph bias your home comes first i have a friend whose wife lost her father a number of years ago after the shiva she told her husband that it was so incredible to hear and see all the people that came to visit during the shiva many of whom she know who shared with her stories of how instrumental her father was in their lives and others many of whom were strangers also shared stories she never met these people before now she was hearing about what an impact her father had made on the lives of so many people and then she said their husband but i couldn't help but wonder why wasn't my father there for me when i needed him you do not want to leave this world and leave behind kids or grandkids who needed you you do not want to be apologizing from beyond the grave you don't get that opportunity nor do you want to be apologizing if you're a surviving relative saying i'm so sorry that i didn't spend more time with you i'm so sorry that i didn't tell you how much i love you and how meaningful you are to me and how important you are to me do it now while you have the opportunity as someone once said unfortunately we're often cruelest to those who are most merciful to us and most merciful to those who are cruelest to us strangers random people maybe we get insulted but we just don't respond we don't retaliate we hold it in but when it's a close family member a parent or a grandparent or a son or a daughter or a brother or a sister or an aunt or an uncle or a cousin we let them have it with both barrels so maybe that's something to work on during the nine days and on tisha buff thinking about that connection backwards and how much they can benefit from us those who are in shamayam thinking about how important it is to make sure that you have that connection forward that it's a healthy one and sideways with siblings let's work on that aleph bias out of base it starts in the home thank you mr rothenberg for your touching touching words that really touched all of our hearts and really inspired us um tonight for as we prepare for tish above coming up our next speaker is robert landau who is the director of torah links of of of of new jersey and um and um and um rabbi landau has actually come out with a podcast recently very popular podcast together we call it tarkula it's called soul stories it's a tremendous podcast and everyone should should check it out it's really amazing at colatorcoola.com stories you will definitely be uplifted and enjoy that um rabbi landa the chabina rav's father the kaika of miyakov had a little daughter the daughter was wonderful she was a happy child she was the sunshine at some point she developed a terrible eye infection they went from doctor to specialist and nobody was able to help her faced with no other choice the family traveled all the way to vienna to see one of the leading eye specialists in the world he examined the girl for two or three minutes and he said i got it she cries too much if she would stop crying so much her tear ducts would be less infected and the eye infection would go away they looked at their daughter with perplexion she was the picture of happiness she was always besembha she cried a lot they said it's impossible that can't be the diagnosis the doctor insisted he looked at the young girl and he says tell your parents tell them when you cry the girl confessed she said that the room to her bedroom shared a wall with her father's study and after a long day of seeing people and learning the father would sit down her father if he would sit down and he would begin to say to him for the sick for the downtrodden for the many people that he had met throughout the day who needed yeshua who needed salvation and when he thought about the tsarist and claudiusro he would begin to cry bitterly and uncontrollably when his young daughter on the other side of the wall heard her father cry she too would cry bitterly and the tears could not stop the doctor said you see i'm telling you the poor girl is crying because you're crying the story is so appropriate for this above often on tish above we focus on our own tears we focus on our own pain our own loss our own struggles and maybe even we focus on the national loss of claudius the difficulties and the challenges the terrible tragedies in claudia's israel but sometimes we forget that on tisha bev our father in heaven avinu shabba shamayim cries most bitter of all his children are in pain he wants to rebuild his home but sadly we haven't merited it and sadly he can't do it and against his will if one could say such a thing he's unable to bring us the yeshua and the salvation perhaps this tish above if we focus on our father's tears we too can be moved to tears if we focus on the scalding uncontrollable tears of the rabbinislam of our master of the universe our father in heaven we as his children will not be able to control our emotions and will cry for the sarajina for the pain of akareshbarchu and who knows maybe our tears as a result of the tears from the banished will be enough um hashem will dry our tears he'll dry his own and he'll bring us back to yerushalayim and there'll be no more tears may it happen this year may it happen speedily bamhera biamenu you have milanda for your very touching words our next speaker is and has worked very closely with hazak and taurani time very inspiring very inspiring speaker and really impacts jews from all backgrounds young and old and everyone in between and it's a great honor to call upon rabbi yaakov rahimi thank you story to inspire thank you torah anytime thank you thank you thank you khazak organization for arranging this uh stories to inspire event doing the nine days i'll try to share with you a quick makshava a quick thought that i got tremendous from especially in these days that we're holding right now in the quran better make dash of destruction of the bitter middash and a quick story about the power of vitul the power of giving in the power of giving in our lives hashem we heard at the term since we were children given be michael be that nice person but until you start being me until you start reading this far magdalene you will be shocked to see how much hazal and the mekobalam and the resharnam are meshabech praise this power this meda of a person that gives in no matter what the situation is he gives in except by the way the only time we really shouldn't give in is when somebody messes with the kadosh did not let anybody mess with god you embarrass hashem in public i will get up and i will make a mecha i will protest for god obviously physical i'm not talking about physical but when somebody shalom desecrates hashem's name in public we are not mukhel we are not me vitel we don't give in we get up and we protest we make sure our voices are loud and clear you will not step on hashem we will do what it takes to make sure hashem gets his honor in the world but when it comes to our personal lives to our cove within our honor that's where our person should be mev when it comes to hashem's honor don't give in when it comes to your honor give in make sure you're not that person that has everything the opposite when it comes to you whoa you took my parking spot you're missing five dollars you took my jacket without asking you start going crazy but when you see a jew doesn't keep shabbos you know that's the way it is you know people don't keep shabbos what does that mean it doesn't bother you it doesn't hurt you that somebody is not keeping shabbos hashem created such a beautiful world he gave them such a a life he gave them bodies that walking in an earth you want to clear terror and you see somebody literally just doesn't listen to hashem whether it's their fault or not it's a different picture but the fact that it's happening should bother you a lot for hashem's honor hashem hashem i'm so sorry i'm so sorry that the jews that don't keep shabbat please be muhammed hashem you please forgive them it hurts me so much when it comes to hashem's honor don't give in do something about it when it comes to your honor give in and i want to share with you a tremendous arrest are re-evaluated for their result we know that arizona wrote many tikuniman single film let's say a person wants to be chosen let's say a person didn't have i did a sin so there's many ways harry can erase the avila whether after after repenting and doing all the uh levels and all the naive conditions of repenting which is doing saying i'm not gonna do it again take it upon yourself and never do it again uh asking forgiveness for the past and trying your best to avoid situations that led you to sin and then doing vidui there's other tikkurim that i raised totally totally thoroughly besides limud hattawa besides learning torah and when i say learning terror i mean really learning terror like opening up and really putting your head into it that's the biggest kabbal raises totally like ghazal tell us over here he wrote many specifically how a person can erase his sins whether it's whether it's fasting he says tremendous tremendous things that in abu rahab as a special kham of the tools in our generation we cannot keep keep up with except which is the most important thing but listen to what ariza brings down he says like this and this is no gift for us in the nine days including myself one of the greatest one of the greatest things a person could do actions a person could do to erase and fix his past and erase his sins a person that lets things slide by a person that lets things he lets it go like they say let it go let it go when a person lets go for his ego when a person is forgive somebody that offended him will forgive him too you see it's a two-way street meda negra when a person is forgiven to others when they damage his honor and he feels hurt from them and they did something to him that unfortunately now he feels like he got uh uh made fun of and now he's here you know he feels like hasselhoff was messed up disrespected him it hurts it's offending but when a person is a man about it and says the sees that and hashem hears it and he says ah this is how you treat others although they were a hundred percent wrong you would still help them even though you're 100 wrong for doing an average i will be mukhel yo i will forgive you too it's mida kanegen mida so says that result one of the biggest things a person could do to erase his average is to forgive one another now let's take this home and make it real halal said make it practical let's really forgive people say the words i forgive you i forgive you those words make a tremendous difference on you and the way i call this who looks at your history from the pastor erased and look what he says if you're going to be able to hear somebody make fun of you you're not going to answer and beg but you see that is medicine that will heal your soul of hear this when a person is making fun of you when you feel disrespected it should never happen but when it does happen know that it's a gift from hashem that he sent someone to you to basically be me you it's hard but to basically disrespect you and you feel hurt hashem sent you a gift because that feeling of hurt erases your ability and there's no greater thing in life than erasing your ability and when a person is mitel he gives in and he's the person that hurt him and he doesn't fight back wow that power of vitul of giving in is a tremendous tremendous quake so anytime a person gets hurt including me big talker next time we're going to give in and say i forgive you i forgive you 100 hashem should give you only that itself will rebuild the bitterness of one another but when it comes to hashem's honor we have to be magpied i want to share with you a story about the power of giving in this story was set over parashat you told aleph couple months ago short story this person instead of the story has been sion been seen my older sister is an oldest singer girl she is already 28. hashem she got engaged very recently but i have to tell you what happened how the story unfolded that she got engaged i listened to this one month before she got engaged my son comes home from crater my little boy comes home from here from school and he tells me abba then anybody call already that our sister is engaged he comes running off from school gets dropped off by the bus he runs on he says daddy daddy did we already get a call that our older sister is engaged is she is she a khala shia kala so the father turns to his son and tells him na mata hashem ken why why what happened to you suddenly you walk in basically screaming mazel tov is my sister already engaged what are you talking about what did you learn in school did they tell me his son tells him like this he tells him you taught me that when you give in when somebody hurts you that gives tremendous bracha he says today in school somebody really really hurt my feelings in public in front of the whole class and that's so hard by the way it is very hard when somebody gets embarrassed and classy from everybody it's so hard it's so painful this boy took his father's words to heart and he said i'm going to be muhil i will forgive and at fabec he says that he went to the corner of the room and he started now that i get embarrassed and i forgive this boy that made fun of me in public one hundred percent hashem please take those please take that thing that i forgave for this boy take it and throw it on my sister that she should find hers evoked she should find her husband very soon so daddy i'm coming back and i'm running to the house i am so confident by me giving in hashem will give us baja i already asked that our sister engages our sister engaged and that's what happened one month later says there have been seen from the initiating that happened a couple months ago top shin payal of 2021 he calls up this alone called he told them my daughter is engaged one month later for many many years she couldn't find one month later after her little brother gave in to one little kids in school little kids can you imagine how much more so adults oh my gosh that give in to one another because it's harder when you get the older you get the harder it is to give in by the way because the more of a difference it makes because the greatest responsibilities you have this little boy what a sadiq what a hero he gave in a little you thought it was a small action that small action that you thought was small was tremendous it was mishadeh his sister his oldest single sister the power of giving in please take this to heart in the nine days let's really make it practical all those that are watching including myself let's think of one person that we're going to go out of our way to go forgive them to make sure to be much and also to ask for their forgiveness i want to end with an interesting mashallah this interesting mashal was given by bitschkr zilbersteen he says one time there was a summoning teacher that wanted to teach her daughters what is it what it means to hold the grudge so she told all the girls in the classroom i give you homework go to the grocery store when you go home this was an election and each one has to bring a sack of potatoes yes each girl has to bring a sack of potatoes and that's what they did they came to school that week with a sack of potatoes now she told them open up the bag spread the potatoes on the table whatever potatoes you have take a red or yellow marker and start writing on each potato every person's name that you thought hurt your feelings from your past whatever the history is from kindergarten from school from early high school your neighbors your siblings on each potato write the name of the person that you feel hurt your feelings over the years so all the girls right away they start thinking and thinking they write a potato on one potato they write this name and all the potatoes there i know the name after a couple minutes the seminary teacher turns to her students and she tells them okay now put it in your backpack all the potatoes that have names in them that you thought those people you felt hurt your feelings take those potatoes with the names now put it in your naps i can you backpack whatever you want to call it and that's what they did and she tells them for the next three days i ask of you wherever you go never take the potatoes out see these girls you know they're all excited what an interesting teacher we have your potatoes i don't know what's going on markers who knows arts and crafts so they put it in their bags all the people all the potatoes they have names of the people that hurt their feelings now they go on the bus and off the bus they go home they go back back to school back and forth for three days you know it's heavy they come back to their teacher and tell us can we take out the potatoes it's just extremely heavy to have potatoes you don't need any backpacking knapsack we have to walk to school into the bus stop they're just heavy so she tells them yes you can take the potatoes out but understand the lesson the lesson is every time you never let go every time you never take that grudge off your heart and off your shoulders that carry so much weight to somebody or hurt your feelings if you're not going to be muhamed and just go past it you're carrying heavy potatoes wherever you go in life that hard feeling on your heart oh this guy hurt my feeling oh this guy oh he's so annoying the fact that you're not giving in and just moving on with it moving on with it you're carrying heavy potatoes you're carrying heavy weights for no reason wherever you go let go be mohel forgive said the seminary teacher what a tremendous lesson let's forgive one another let's move on even not for yourself the reason why you want to give in is vacation the reason why you want to give in is for hashem's honor my rebbe before he got married and went up with this he went to manchester and he asked what do you think i should take upon myself before i get married what's the number one rule that you can tell me that i have to keep to in order to have a good marriage with his famous slap on the cheek he told them to tell i want new thoughts of tawa give me something big he tells them just give in give in that's the key to have a mutslach marriage that's the key to succeed in your marriage give in the men given to the ladies ladies give in to the men neighbors give in to each other siblings give in to each other teachers to students students the teachers ready to tell me them everybody give it give in thank you so much for listening our final speaker for tonight is rabbi shmuel reichmann before we call upon we want to remind everyone share this look everyone get that last boost of inspiration for you your friends share to share to any groups that you might be in or wherever it is at toytime.com live or call in 718-298-2077 and he is such a tremendous speaker and is our great honor to call upon him for the last messages for tonight's very special program rabbi shmuel reichman there's an unbelievably powerful story about a man who disappeared you might miss him and the wife heard about this and she was horrified what happened to my husband she sent that search party she called the police and at a certain point they realized that this man wasn't coming home at a certain point they realized he's been gone for this long who knows what happened he probably passed away and the wife her entire world was shattered she couldn't believe it this was her husband the balabayes the center of her world they built a family together life together and her whole world was destroyed and the children the older ones they start to understand but the younger ones they were having difficulty understanding where's abba why isn't ava coming home where is our abba and they were their entire understanding of what it means to be alive was was altered there their app was gone he's not coming home their father their abba is never coming back into our bias and the neighbors they heard about it and they felt so bad oh my gosh we knew him we went to shul with him celebrated simcha's with him and the people down the block they heard about it it's awful i am so sorry and the people further away they didn't even hear about it they didn't even know what they lost they didn't even know that this person was gone a couple weeks later miracle miracle somehow this man was able to to come back to his his wife his family his community crazy story you'll never believe it hashem everything went well he was saved everything went back to normal when he came home what happened the wife oh my gosh my husband my world the center of my existence is back the children office home daddy's home my father's home the neighbors the friends oh my gosh hashem we're so worried we're so happy to hear that the people down the block they heard about it the people farther away they didn't even hear about it and tish above is very much like this because what is tisha buff tishbo is supposed to be an emotional response a veilus we're mourning what we lost we lost our connection with hashem with with akash barco the source of our existence our alba our mella what happens when you lose that you're oh my gosh the center of your world is gone the very essence of what it means to be alive is gone that higher dose that higher connection is gone it's supposed to be an emotional response we're supposed to feel what we lost the hormone that's our our our our locus our place of connection the kashbach most potent way possible and we have to feel but many of us we're not the wife in that story we're not the children maybe we're the neighbors maybe we're the people down the block maybe we're even the people far away who don't even know what happened and every single year we try to tap into what this means the hurban and every year we struggle because you can only feel the loss if you recognize what it is that you lost for example someone unfortunately loses a limb loses an arm their whole life they they they remember what it feels like to normally see people with arms they're like i want to have an arm again maybe one day there's oh to actually get another arm but if someone is born without an arm and for some reason they're on an island by themselves they never see someone with an arm they don't realize what they're missing because they don't even think it's possible to have an arm and we were born in a world without english we don't know what it means to live in a world of database i make dash we don't recognize what we lost and that that's the hardest part of tish above is not being the person who's down the block who heard about it not being the person who's farther away even we don't even know what we lost and the real aquarius the real purpose for the real mission that we have is we have to figure out how to feel the pain of tissue love because if you don't feel the pain you can't feel the joy when it comes back if you want to be the the neighbors the friends if you want to be the children you want to be the spouse you want to be in love with hashem in that way that you really feel the laws and there are three ways to do it number one is you have to make jewish history your story you have to become a part of this story not an observer not someone who is simply existing in the world now you have to attach yourself attach yourself to jewish history make it your story number two is you have to realize that we're not mourning for something that happened 2000 years ago we're mourning for the fact that right now right now as we are here as you are watching this right now there is something missing in our lives we are missing a deeper connection to our home we are missing a deeper level of awareness we are missing something powerful missing the makhan the best we are missing something existentially you know who we are there is something missing and number three we have to delve deeper into what it means to be in a world with and without the bassam dash delve into the deeper ideas of the best of nivua of what we are missing because the only way you can really appreciate the pain of what we're missing appreciate the joy of when it comes back is if you devote time effort and energy to delving deeper into these topics and that's our real goal we are not remembering the destruction of islamic dash we are trying to experience the emptiness of a life without it so we can desire the rebuilding of the best and that's the real purpose of tish above it's not just a mourning for something that happened thousands of years ago it's saying there's something missing in my life i want to feel that i want to yearn for it i want to yearn for that deeper connection with hashem so my brother is that we should not be the person who hasn't heard about it not even be the person down the block not even be the neighbors but work to become the children in that story to the spouse in that story to really feel what was lost so that when akash brahu comes back so to speak one muslim when we we will really be able to feel the true joy of rebuilding that true deep existential connection with like rabbi reichman for your tremendous words thank you everyone for joining us tonight at this very special program tish above stories to inspire i want to thank you who's watching right now because of you that's why we're making these programs so that we can all join under the same virtual roof and all be united biachad under the banner of torah and being uplifted and inspired right so so we can all prepare for tish above right around the corner i think that all the tremendous organizations are helping put together tonight's very special program of course the kazakh organization stories to inspire the talisman and koat or kulas we know the great work of kazakh knows knows knows no bounds because it's really it's just really touches the hearts and the lives of so many people because zak organizes shirum and classes throughout the entire year tens of 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