Tisha B'Av: The Ways of Zion Do Mourn - Rabbi Benzion Klatzko

[Music] the Arcadian Avalos the way of zeon was full of morning the way of the sea on was morning the word dark hey and the word dara is repeated again and again in Megillah ayka call over a derrick all those who are passing on the way here's what happens to the jewish people the word derrick is a very powerful word i want to start off with the story that I just heard yesterday my son Elisha was a counselor in camp Nagila it is a camp for kids who are not religious and it was the last day of camp and they had counselor was trying to inspire all the kids to come home and hold on to the Tehran myths vote so he told him a story that had happened with a young boy who went to camp Magilla a true story that had happened recently a boy who had been inspired by this camp to accept Haram its vote to whatever level that he could his family to not support him but he decided he's gonna try and the first thing he did was he Ward tzitzit and he went the first day in the public school where it's it and he was one of the only Jews in that public school and his name was mark and one of the boys looked at him said mark what does that Jew thing that you're wearing so mark innocently tried to explain these are teeth 613 mitzvot and the boy wasn't really listening the voices take off your do think we don't want a Jew thing in our school and Mark said Noah I'm gonna wear it I'm inspired I'd like to weird so this boy this bully called over his friends one of the marks worried the Jew thing he's gonna get us all chewed up and they surrounded him they circled him and they began to beat on this young boy 12 13 years old and they beat on him and they punched him and when he was on the ground and he's bleeding they're kicking him and eventually the principal came and by this point mark was unconscious the ambulance come and bring his mark to the hospital and my son who's listening that counselor tell this story he's thinking what are you doing but he tried to convince the kids not to wince it seems like this is not the kind of story you tell them to inspire them but the head count says wait this boy is brought to the hospital he is revived he had broken ribs he was full of blood stitches and stitches and the next day while he was recovering from his wounds in the hospital their principal comes to visit him and the principal gives him a kiss on the forehead not the principal dd-dad counselor I'm sorry head counselor Magilla comes to visit and gives him a kiss on the forehead and this young boy says thank you think you're AB you for coming he says listen I admire you so much I want to make you an offer I want to make you a deal this boy came from a very poor family he lived together with his mother in a trailer the head counselor says mark I'd like to offer you $10,000 for your sit sit your teeth are holy they represented Torah and mitzvot in a place where nobody represents Torah and mitzvot they're valuable they're spiritually precious I would like to offer you'd like to make a bid I'd like to offer you $10,000 for your chit and of course he knew the boy and his family needed money 10,000 view succeed the little boy lying in a hospital bed looks at that counselor absolutely not not for $10,000 will I give up my only conceit I wore them while getting beaten they're worth more than anything in the world not for $10,000 will I give up my cheat sheet to stay on the Dara is not always easy you know we speak about Derick away a path the word actually fits o path away if you've ever spoken to someone who is confused or if you've ever been confused what happens is you don't know where to turn what should I do this or that which way should I go do I believe am I committed so you don't know which way to go you have lost the debt if you're off the Darracq you are off the path and you're confused I love that word Derick some people are scared of it I love it I think it's a perfect word because when you know it's way to go there's a way forward I get a sort of a troubling call a perplexing call a few days ago a man calls up and he was solo or sort of clueless but he wanted to do good and he says I have a I have an eights I have a solution for all those kids who are OTD off the Derick and he gives me his idea and I'm sort of trying to prop him up trying to encourage him trying to at least validate his idea but it was an off-the-wall idea clearly showing that he did not understand the test the new science of being on the Derick after death so I want to share with you something so beautiful when kazaaam and when the Jewish people use a certain terminology it's always deep and sometimes it can be updated for today's technology Dara a path away there are 10 at least 10 that I think of 10 analogies Dara to how we approach Judi and I'm gonna give you all ten so here we go ten comparisons between a road and Judaism you ready for this number one when you go on the road especially if you don't know where you're going you punch the address in the GPS if you don't punch it in if you don't know what your destination is well then you're not gonna arrive there are you and so - it is within Judaism number one you have to know what you're punching and what is that destination even if it's a thousand miles away punch something in if you don't know where you're going you're never gonna get there that's number one number two you know if you're a driver sometimes it annoys you when somebody has on the brights pie dude ever happened to you or whether they got the brights and they're going in the opposite direction it blinds you and so it is with your Judaism when you're around other people if you yell and you scream and you make it scary you turn on your brights you're gonna blind everyone and everyone's gonna say you know I can't take this and especially if people are going unfortunately the opposite direction and you have on your brights you're certainly gonna blind them and they'll go totally off the road and so when do you have your brights on when you're by yourself when there's no one in front of you know what to be blinded by your enthusiasm your zealousness so then you put on your brights then you could see very far but otherwise you keep on those lights but make sure that you make your judaism comfortable for others around you number three you know when we speak about a road very often roads have different lanes I just came on the Garden State Parkway you've got four and sometimes five lanes Judaism also has lanes and we have to appreciate that those lanes are very quick you go on the left lane you're enthusiastic maybe you follow Alcides maybe your breast of maybe or you just came back from Erik to stall and you're on fire from a trip you're on the fast lane but there are other lanes and all those lanes as long as they're leading towards the same destination all those lanes have to be respected and I think if we want there not to be another tissue buff we have to appreciate that when we say to stay on the dash derek has different lanes as long as we're going to the same destination appreciate all the lanes on the road number four I had a call from a young lady also right before tisha buff and she says to me rabbi I want to do it's knew it but I don't I know I should I want to do the right thing but I'm not feeling it to tell you the truth I don't feel enthusiastic about wearing skirts a certain size or covering my elbows or a neckline I'm just not feeling comfortable I don't feel it I don't feel passionate about it why should I do it so I went back to the word Dara I said you know when you're on the road especially if you're going long distance some roads are very brightly lit you go to a highway there's a lot of street lights but sometimes you have to go on the back roads sometimes to get from one highway to the other you have to cross through a town and those roads may not leave may not be so brightly lit but that's ok sometimes the road is brightly lit it's clear it's passionate its lucid it's obvious but sometimes the road is not brightly lit but it's still the right road and if you go off of that road if you only go on brightly lit roads you're never gonna get to your destination sometimes you've got to go on roads that are not brightly lit in order to get to where you need to go so if you're enthusiastic about steeled I told it that's amazing if you're enthusiastic about giving myself great but if you're not do it anyways if you're enthusiastic about feel I would put SIBO great but if you're not do it anyways sometimes the roads are not brightly lit but there's still the correct path number five no sometimes when you're on a highway there are rows there are cars went the opposite direction be very very careful not to get too close to them because you're gonna have a head-on collision and so it is when it mean when it when we speak about going on the dara sometimes unfortunately there are people going the wrong way and if we get too close to them we're gonna have a head-on collision and run model it's fun there's gonna be a terrible accident understand that when cars are going the opposite way not the way that we need to go we have to distance ourselves we have to keep ourselves safe this is the path and not the other way number six every driven on a road in the middle of the night any a little bit tired bad idea but what they put on some highways are the edge of the road they put rumble strips so as you're driving you feel your car shaking and you wake up all no let me get back on the path and so too it is sometimes such sham puts rumble strips at the edge to shake you up to wake you up tisha bah there's a great big speed bump it's a great big rumble strip it shakes us and it reminds us fellas you can off the road you're asleep aurilla Shana machine Oscar you're a little bit of sleep please wake up those are the rumble strips of life you stay stay on the dark it should be smooth it should be Glock number seven if you know that you're on the right Highway if on the right Road what if someone just now why are you going north you should be going south no you've been this road many times you know the road is north what if ten people say I'll go south go south now if you know it's north no matter how many people tell hey go south you go north because you know the dad so it is when you are friends when you have friends who are not such good influences on you and they say why let's go out and party let's be Michael L Shabbat why in the world do you have to be so much parents dude they're all telling yourself but you know your direction is north stay north if you know the direction stay on the derrick don't go the opposite direction you know sometimes I'm on the highway and I'm late and i unnecessarily late because there was an accident four miles up and everyone is a rubbernecking everyone is corking everyone are staring at the accident they're looking at is they're all my goodness and they slow down and that makes other people slow down and soon there's a lot of traffic I they're making everyone late and they're stopping everyone's progress unfortunately my friends sometimes even within the Toro community there's an accident a person falls short of who they should be what they represent it's sad it's even devastating but if we begin to gawk if all we do is rubber like all my goodness I can't believe that rabbi did that I can't believe that layperson did that I can't believe that community did that and we stare and we got you know we do we stop everyone's progress we've got to just keep going unfortunately accidents happen there is a it's our but don't rubberneck and don't post about it on Facebook all this so that because you slow everyone from their growth on the terror unfortunately accidents but go straight don't stop yourself don't slow down and please for the love of our College borrow who don't flow everyone else behind you down just because there's an accident at the side of the road number nine when you're on the highway and I travel almost for a living sometimes you get tired and you know what you do you pull into a rest area you buy yourself some red Bull you may close your eyes and get a little Slough you shape yourself awake you wait there until you're ready to go on and so it is when you're on the derrick you're going and you're going but sometimes you get tired sometimes you pull over and you rest and you're not growing enthusiastically and dynamically that's okay stop listening to the GPS that says you're supposed to arrive at this time you'll arrive when you're gonna arrive don't worry take that break when you need it but don't make a u-turn just because you have to take a rest break doesn't mean that you go back to the opposite way on the highway when we recognize that we need a break we hold steady we do what we're doing we don't regress and we breathe and we enjoy life and we enjoy this beautiful world that I share made and then when we're ready for that next spurt of dynamic growth we get back on the highway but we don't get back on the opposite highway and some people if they're not going forwards they're going backwards so if I'm not going let me just go backwards how special am you go straight and you grow at Number ten when we say that we need to stay on the derrick you may think the most important word is Derrick but actually the most important word the to stay on the turf meaning you have to recognize we have to recognize that there is a doctor there is a the dark this is the tariff this is the way you cannot stay on the way you cannot grow on the way you cannot we cannot bring mashiac and and a dish above if we're confused about what is theoderic and when someone tells you some kind of ridiculousness like oh there are many drug them you go north I go south I believe this I don't quite believe but I'm spiritual in my own spiritual way that's not daughter that's called being lost in the wilderness the first step is to know that there is a doTERRA and we learned that by having Rob am we learned that by having a versus we learned that by learning Torah that's how we know this know that there is a thought in there are 10 things 10 analogies to there now once we've gone through these analogies we have to have a caveat and the caveat is since there is a third Eric a person should not delude themselves into thinking that that derek has a shortcut because in reality if there is a vidura if there is a point a and a point B Occam's razor the shortest way point A to point B you cannot cut corners and expect to reach your destination I remember once I was driving with someone and I did not have my GPS with me and I was going to the airport JFK and they said I have an amazing shortcut and I know from Muncie it's an hour and a quarter they said it'll take you 45 minutes I don't know how it's possible to get there but I listened to him and so I went in a shortcut and it worked I got to the airport I got to Newark I almost missed my flight shortcuts don't work in real life hard work works doing it right works this past week I was in Los Angeles and I have a student named Eric and Eric a lovely boy a handsome young man he used to come to my to my Wednesday night class I didn't know if you would become religious but I knew he was good for business he was gonna be wealthy he was in wealth management already he had all sorts of job offers Eric wonderful boy and I was in Los Angeles this past week and I Eric I got a call out of the blue and spoken too many years and eirick says I'd love to say hello to you I said sure and IRA comes and he's got a yarmulke and he's in business for a fresh I'm doing nicely looks just the same as he did ten years ago I said how you doing and I didn't want to ask questions I'm always a I'm always scared to your answers I said how you doing he's a good son Karissa and we finished we finished a mission I say there's Roy him and my aide so what eirick you finish mission is to Sudan he's yeah but I have another Hebrew sir and in two months I'm making a seal my chassé chassé eric is making you see Ahmad Shah how did he do it the answer is simple he did not cut corners he went through the process he did it right when the Torah gives us instruction the Torah saying I want you to stay on the Derick but there's no get-rich-quick schemes in Judaism it's all about doing it right there's no get-rich-quick scheme for darvany with qivana it's hard it's hard to cry over a based on make this it's hard to feel our dealers it's hard to give your money to stock up it's hard to show respect day in a day day out for your wife and your children it's hard there are no shortcuts the Mishna says it many times your gato masasa Timon if a person says I worked hard and I succeeded believe that guy he went through the process he did the work believe him of course of course lawyer goddammit ah see I didn't work hard I figured out a shortcut to become great I figured out a shortcut to Judaism I'll tell him don't believe him that's the beauty of Derek if you do it right it's beautifully lit that's clean it's clear most of the time and you're gonna get to your destination as they say in English you're gonna have your cake and you're gonna eat it too you're gonna enjoy life ball on my cell ball on my bar with par Nosa with nachos with spirituality but without shortcuts some people even use Judaism as a shortcut there's a Kmart Magilla where different armor I'm were asked about mayor rafter young him how did you live Oh many days what Mitzvah did you do in order to live many days and one of the amber I'm I don't remember oh but he says you know why I lived many days lawyers see see base mattress Cap'n Daria I never made the base mesh into a shortcut simple Chavez he never walked through the base mattress he never walked through the base mesh made into a shortcut but let's give it another explanation I never made base mesh into a shortcut I never used my learning as a shortcut for an honest living I never used honest living as a shortcut for making a seder I did it right and when you do it right you stay on this Terra I tell my students you must you should think when it comes to relationships about being shomer negiah you know why because it's a shortcut to a relationship there are no shortcuts in life and you want to be on the Derek you got to go through the process and have to teach your kids that there is such a process and so my friends with everything that I said if there is a Derek and you've got to stay on it it is a Derek and sometimes it'll be dark and sometimes it'll be bright and sometimes they'll be accidents on the side and sometimes they'll be people going the other way and sometimes will be woken up by rumble strips if there is a thought that you know it's at the end of the road something called a reunion reunion with Hashem reunion is the path that's the destination what is the word reunion mean it comes from the word Union we used to have union with our Shem we were one he saw our rights of a Kucha brittle shadow we were one but then we got lost and we were made that made to be set into galoot and so we need reunion we once again want to be one if you look if you look in safer beret shoes you'll see and safer gracious the pattern and it goes like this Parrish is no I in the beginning we rest in the beginning of Shem gives us peace lets us sit in the land lets us live beautiful lives but lack or huh if you go out you leave by year Kyocera and you go out here to see a life of riches so you may still be a from Jew but now you're buried be very involved in gosh mute you're very involved in physicality and fizzing physical pleasures for your from you but you're driving a Bentley you know what's gonna happen told us the children will come the children your children by I'd say they're gonna go off the data you get so swallowed up with physicality with physical pleasure Fay Yeats say and you know what's gonna happen for yeesh life Hashem is gonna send us away by yay chef I will be made to sit and galoot and we're gonna think about what we're doing and why we're still here another dish above me Cates but the time will come when we'll do teshuva and we'll cry over the base on me - Anne - um we'll see that we're sincere via gosh I shall bring us back close via beep I will be made to live in Eretz Israel at the times of Messiah the entire history of Kali Israel is in Berisha I'm going to end with a quick story quick story this this past week I was speaking to new rabbis who are on college campuses and there was a rabbi who started in Eugene Oregon his name is Robby mashkov Sookie and I set him rabbi how did you choose to go into Kiev especially to Oregon there's no there's no community for your kids why going to Oregon what made you you come from erikson so you were living in Eric's he's wrong he said I'll tell you my parents got divorced when I was a very young child and my father moved to South Africa and I grew up with my mother and all my life I avoided seeing my father it was too complex it was too complicated I didn't know how I would interact with him so I just avoided it I just didn't think about it this past year I had a phone call your father has cancer he's dying and I thought to myself it's been 25 years since I was a little little child I should really go and I should see him and so I booked a plane to South Africa and I and I met him at the airport and in one second we bonded it's as if we grew up together we were so alike we enjoyed each other's company so much and when it was time to leave I didn't want and so I came back a few months later again and again I must have gone back to South Africa five times this year and the last time I came my father at that point was so ill he was incoherent and he passed away and I wept and I wept for this man who I did not know for 25 years who I could have been close with who I could have had a relationship with and then I realized how many of our brothers and sisters have not seen their father for 25 years these boys and girls on a college campus they didn't know their Heavenly Father 25 years how much would they appreciate our reunion to show them that Derek to show them that path so they could once again embrace their Heavenly Father and feel his love we need reunion so you hear our song that this dish above should be the dish above of reunion and we shouldn't be embarrassed and ashamed to say I am honored ah Derek I am on top health and even when I have to stop by a rest stop to catch my breath I will go right back on that Derek and I'll continue growing I won't take any shortcuts I will do it right I will be strong and at the end I will have the most awesome reunion with a Venus shamash am I'm the mayor of Yamano [Music]