Tisha B'Av: Reboot

this torah class is brought to you by torahanytime.com on your sheet number two yes there are certain days shall call you so much that every jew fasts because of the tragedies that happened so there are certain days on the calendar that we fast because of tragedy okay we're all familiar with that what is the purpose of a fast day says the rambam to awaken the heart failure and for people to open up the paths of chuva this will help us remember our bad actions um and the actions of our forefathers which our actions are like theirs ours to the point where not only did the tragedies happen to them but it happened to us as well in other words if what the our forefathers did destroy the hamikdash and we don't have a base of dash so obviously what we're doing is the same thing as they were doing in other words if we had been alive when the time the temple stood we would have destroyed it also we're no better than them because if we would have destroyed it then it would be here in other words what the ramadan was saying is that if meshiach is in here we're just as bad as they were so whatever they did whether it was whether it was we still have the same problems when we remember these things we will do tuba like the pasta says we will confess our sins and the sins of our forefathers so yeah okay what's the ram i'm telling us imagine moshe then my man would walk into the room we'd all stand up and we would ask around them around them why do we fast so she would have asked me maybe i would have said you know why we fast we're morning we're mourning the same way there are days on the calendar that we're happy on for example yamtif what's the purpose of yampdev purpose is to be happy you may seem there's no introspection no introspection needed no introspection required the purpose of yamthafe is just be happy so if you would have asked me what's the purpose of a fast day it's to be said why should we be sad because the temple is destroyed because the second temple was destroyed because beta was destroyed you know all the tragedies because of the killer were sad because you know you asked somebody my relative passed away they're about us we say to them uh what are you doing so they say i'm doing truva i don't think they would say that they would say i'm sad we said why are you sad i'm sad because something sad happened so if you would have asked me what's the point of a fast day the point is to be sad the rambam says not there's no such thing there is no calendar date oh this is happy day there's no such thing as calendar date you know on the 15th day of uh of tishrei you write a big smiley face on your calendar right on the ninth day of ab you frown you make a friend right like nowadays every time i get a text message the guy has to put the smiley face on what's up with the smiley face i don't need right every text message has a smiley face right so we would think that that on a yumtha if you make a smiley face on a tightness is a sad day no the rambam says the purpose of a fast day is not to be sad the purpose of a fast day is to do chuva to do chuba chuba for what for whatever got us into the mess we're obviously still doing the exact same things wrong so he asked around the rambam so you're telling me that if i don't eat the whole day and i watch all the videos that i'm required all the movies that all the mitzvah movies that you have to watch that's it do i have to do anything else the problem said you didn't even do anything you fasted you watched the movies but you didn't do the main thing in the tightness you didn't do chuba so he said say the ram rama you're telling me that if i didn't do chuva on a tiniest i wasted my day the ramen says you didn't waste your day at least you didn't spend a lot of money on gas but if you want to know did you spend your day productively no you missed the boat the raman would say if somebody goes through a fast day and he doesn't change himself so he missed the point he missed the boat it's like having a sukkah without sitting in the circle without taking the darumina it's like having a pesach and not eating matzah right it's like having haruka not lying in the menorah if you have a fast day and you don't eat but you don't do chuva you miss the boat you don't even know what the day is all about because i'm sophie points out and the chivas reveals to us what we never would have thought of on our own in other words some snipers saying think about what the rand i'm saying you wouldn't have known this on your own you would have said a fast day is just that it's a bad day what do you do you sit on the floor you cry you crack your knees hurt you're hungry you're sad and that's it the ramen says nothing doing you could sit on the floor your knees could kill you could have a bad headache your throat could be parched everything right you could be dehydrated you didn't accomplish anything if at the end of the day you look in the mirror and you say i'm the same guy as i was yesterday so you know there's no point in family you missed the whole boat in other words the rambam is telling us that we should have serious thoughts about how do we improve ourselves how do we become better people he says it says they've got nothing to do with their merely days of mourning and pain the yom share around when something bad happens just like when something good happens beyonce alexander says i never would have said this in a million years why not it says the samsung but the gemara implies not like this because it says like this tish above comes out on shabbos what do you do sunday why sunday why not friday why not friday says the gamora what says there we don't advance punishment says what are you talking about a fascinating punishment so yeah i'm chuva does anybody ever say you push off chuva does anybody say you know what you could become a better person we have a question why should you be a better person on sunday or friday oh we'll push it off don't be a better person on friday you know be your same rotten self be your same lousy self you have an extra day of course not if it's a matter of improvement of course we would advance it the fact that the gemara says that we push it off because we push up punishment that would seem to indicate that a fast day is mourning it's sadness all you do is you sit on the floor and you're miserable says the samsoy for despite what the gomorrah says the rambam is telling us no the purpose of a fast day is to change yourself is to improve yourself to do tuba and if you didn't do chuva you still have 12 and a half minutes right you still have a marath to make your day have been worthwhile and it would seem that this opinion of the rambam is not unanimous because the iran and the tinus we're not going to get involved in this aspect of the share right now iran says that the dalai tane sim in fact the ritzvah says that's all i need now right that's why i need a chasm to get up there right like uh i go home in my head i need an ila right now but this is yamitov says you only say nila on tisha on any kipper why because yom kippur is for chuva a tiny seaborn a tinus there's no nihila like tishrev and yazayan and the yazaimatamus that are established for tfila but the dalai tanism are established for availas but with all of that being said the rama is telling us the main purpose of fasting is and it's said over the name of islam for like this the gemaran tightness says anyone who sits fasting is a sinner standing fast what does mean anyone who sits in fast is a sinner okay says aksam cipher we know a person is a highlight person has to be constantly growing growing improving improving improving amala he's finished 100 he never goes down he never goes up a human being has still constantly rise from level to level to level higher high says if you sit by a tightness and you remain stationary and you don't become a different person you're a sinner why are you a sinner god said who asks you to starve yourself kasham says i care if you eat or you don't eat you're you're you're doing something for me by not eating intimates donuts or not eating uh frank-sized donuts or not eating donuts from williamsburg wherever you get your donuts from or not eating fish whatever you eat you think hashem is it hashem says i don't need you not to eat i need you to change the purpose of not eating is to become better and if you don't become better so then start you just hurt yourself you just harmed yourself so you're a sinner right we know but imagine a person he uh we come into show and there's a guy at his table he has a knife and he's cutting himself he asked what are you doing he says you know i i'm serving god this way i'm cutting myself the guy's meshuggana god doesn't want you to hurt yourself so yeah you have another guy yeah he's not eating anything why are you eating i'm on a hunger strike why are you on a hunger strike that's how i serve god he's not serving god god doesn't want him to go on a hunger strike hashem looks at us he's saying i want you not to eat for a reason it's in order to evoke feelings of chuba you're not having chuva your height okay i heard an interesting uh thought from revistra reisman schlitta and the name member of druk okay so we don't have a base of mikdash why don't we have a base of mcdosh baseless hatred yeah we don't get along we hate each other okay very nice so what i'll say because i'll say that you have to fast you have to be morning on your on uh tish above so we don't eat and we don't drink and we don't put on moisturizers we don't wear shoes fine there's also another you're not gonna say hello you know to say hello by the way you know how to say goodbye either right it makes for awkward phone calls you know right you know until you form a line of communication i finally figured out this year how to make a phone call this is danielle gladstein you see i say my name that's it no hello you're not even allowed to say goodbye this is nod your head even some places you can't even nod your head you ignore the person and what if an amma rs right at least i took my kid into a basement yeah on shabbos so there's a guy there he was sleeping so my my four-year-old said what's this guy doing is he nama ahretz anyway so and omaris comes over to you and he says uh hello so you have to sort of you know you say in other words you you acknowledge him but you make it as if really we're not supposed to be doing this you know how to say hello you know how to say goodbye fine so i have a question for you tish above we're trying to correct baseless hatred so what do hazal say they say if you see your friend ignore him that's a great way to uh rectify baseless hatred right ignore everybody don't say hello don't say sean alexander right that's another thing i don't understand people go people uh you know be menachem oh how you doing has everything what's going on first of all you're not allowed to talk when you go to bible you may not say one word to the of el until he elicits the conversation so you could sit there i tell you i saw rav david finds sushalita rav ruvain feinstein when they're nakamava or rasha shiva of hanok libous they came in they sat in the room for 60 minutes they did not utter one word and they left that's allah you know how to say a word until they and people talk about the most ridiculous things in the shiva house we notice you now to shoot the breeze you have to talk okay but why would the halacha be that here it is we're trying to rectify sinas and say don't say anything very interesting you ever have nintendo yeah or any computer yeah any electric any electronic device if it's not working and you know what's on the copy machine what's the cure-all unplug it turn it off turn it off that somehow magically you turn it off and you plug it back in oh it works like magic right you don't know what to do you don't know what's wrong turn it off reboot start over okay you walk down the street on a regular day hi how you doing oh well what exactly was that how you doing you didn't even stop to hear what the guy ant was gonna answer you said how you doing you're already behind the guy when once you get to we're doing you're already behind the guy in other words you're how you're doing is not you couldn't care less how the guy's doing you you it doesn't matter what the answer is you don't you don't even want to hear the answer it's just a way of hello how you doing how's the guy doing the guy could have just fallen off ten flights of stairs you wouldn't even know you'd be bob you know he's the old news that's what we say in the haftarah today i have a sitter the kiss 9 52 in the arts girl pretty good 9 53. i mean to have turf in the morning we say okay you knew that right you say a sharpened arrow with their tongue mir madiba they speak the seat bef shalom israel with their mouths they speak peace uh kirba yasi marbai but inside they're plotting an ambush in other words you know very often we greet people how you doing we could care less we don't even care what the guy is going to say we don't even wait to hear what the guy is going to say that's what the criticism is right the thief you ask the guy how he is you give him a greeting but inside you don't care you care more about what you're going to eat in 15 minutes then how the guy is doing you care a lot more you care this much how what you're going to eat and um you know we don't go lower than the ceiling of the floor over here but you know you could really couldn't care less how the guy is doing so perhaps suggests as i'll say we have a problem with our human relationships our care our concern for our friend the genuine concern our greetings are fake they're a facade they're just you know hopefully you know you think to yourself i'm greeting this guy hopefully he doesn't say anything i really don't have time to hear even one word from this guy get me out of here so i'll say shut down the computer unplug turn off the machine don't say hello don't say goodbye don't say boo don't ignore the guy don't say anything turn off the machine yeah don't can you stop your ways reboot you have a day to think about how from this tishbalman perhaps you could enhance and improve and upgrade you know give a lia give a little elevation to the way we deal with other people a little elevation is the way we greet other people the way we receive other people and in that way hopefully our kindness will not be the tightness of yeshiva will be a tightness of haliha and we'll be able to fulfill what the rambam tells us that the day of the tightness is the yom chuva shimizuka saying this is have a good one you've just experienced another torah class brought to you by torahanytime.com