Tisha B'Av: Please, Respect Me! - Rabbi David Kaplan

[Music] was of of uh Z State 9-year-old boy came to the [Music] B came to ask him and shilot the night before a burglar broke into a home and starts looking around opens up a drawer and he finds a stash of cash so takes the money as he starts heading out of the house he hears crying she turns back sees there's a child in the bed is crying 9-year-old child so the thief bends down he says then why are you crying says well my mother's in ALA it's a widow and my sister's getting married in 3 weeks my mother's been saving Penny by Penny Nickel by nickel and now you're about to take the money so the thief Jewish heart his heart melts says get okay don't cry don't cry don't cry I won't take the money puts the money back so here I'm putting the money back back I won't take the money turns around to leave turns back he says you know what here takes more money out of his pocket he says I also want to give TOA your sister I want also be part of the mitzah so the kid comes the next day documented St kid comes the next day ask sh what's a Shila is to take money from a thief you know you're not allowed to take money ask so they and there's a Kola you give be make La dka that La dka that the money came from the thie that the thief stole it you know some of the money he might actually have earned honestly so he said okay keep the money that was a Shila that was asked I want to ask you a question when a story like that begins you first hear the thief broke in took money what are you thinking of thief robber can worst I've ever person could commit just about then you find out at the end of the story you know what guy wasn't so bad guy is actually you know guy wasn't so bad There's Hope guy actually contributes he didn't take it he has to contribute the Mitzvah so how so we understand you know what there's a different perspective same individual different perspective so the truth is that that's only because we heard what the end of the story is what happened at the outset when you took a look there's a Jew you took a look at him you had a certain view of that Jew who broke it so let's see what the guar says about how we view people and type of look type of the type of view in perspective that we have on people B anybody wants to look it up later the gor says that Reby Taron saw RAV Yehuda and what he sawar said to him he asked rud why is your face glowing sou auda's face was glowing said to abuda why is your face glowing said to him face is yellow it's got a glow to it so you have said to them well yesterday we had gone out to the field and we brought in some tadin and we ate tadin tadin are a type of vegetable perhaps it's turnips or spinach whatever it was said we went out to the fields and we ate turnips and that's why my face is glowing then the gor says a maton saw him a Roman Noble woman Roman Noble woman saw rud and she said to R you're a and you're drunk because you saw his face glowing she said how could that be that a Jewish rabbi who you're drunk I mean you're a POS how can you be drunk face is glowing so he must have been drinking tributa said to her believe me I don't drink I only have one cup for Kish one cup fora four cups at the Seder and then I have to wrap a tourniquet around my head until Shu because I have such a pounding headache from the four cups on PES so believe me I haven't been drinking so she said so then why why is it that your your face is glowing says the a person wisdom causes his face to Glow person's Torah wisdom causes his face to Glow different opinions whether of Yuda actually said that to her or whether if Yehuda did not say that he just made these he just said no I don't drink wine and in his humility he didn't want to say it's the gor saying it the gar says that's the real reason okay one one more customer it's saduki saw him saduki a reformer denier of the authenticity of Torah CRA and he said to him your face looks like you either lend with interest or you raise K you raise Hogs both of them were very very easy Paras both bring a lot of money a person who has a lot of money has a certain glow to him somebody wealthy has he's got that rich look and rooda had a glow somebody who wins the lottery is glowing very few people are depressed when they win the lottery they become depressed afterwards when they find all the friends that they never knew they had but when they win it they don't have they're not depressed said to Ruda your face is glowing you look like either lend with Ribbit or you raise Hogs Ruda said by us both are user not allowed to lend with ribus you're not allowed to raise K but I have 2 four basak 24 bathrooms from my house to the Bas Mish and I check myself in each basak that's why my face is glowing meaning obviously some worship say that he obviously didn't go into each and every one of the 24 24 ouses on the way from his house to the to the Bas Mish but he was saying obviously take care of my health and I got that good healthy glow to me sometimes people have a nice healthy healthy glow that's what the gumar says three people and three different views of Ruda so before him explain let's analyze this a little bit why is it that each one saw something different why did each one see something different R so it's Aon was the re of Ruda so it's very likely that if Ruda the talet if his face was glowing so rabit taru and the rebi chances are his face was glowing probably even more be say since Rie why is your face glowing what do you think rev Taron is suspecting raron who himself his face glows with the kadha of Torah see obviously expects that his Tom his face is glowing with the K says well we ate spinach well those of us raes in America Nots what spinach does for you it's got nothing to do with glowing faces so obviously you know popey notwithstanding spinach is not something we ever found in the cartoons that makes your face glow so what what what's with what's with what's with the glow so humility said to but what did ritar see he saw a talid who's been learning Torah and his face is glowing a Roman Noble woman what do you expect life of a Roman Noble woman how do you think she's living Roman Noble woman who's indulging in all sorts of delices drinks wine on a regular basis well if somebody else's face is glowing so what Association does she make well if his face is glowing it must be that it's glowing because of wine same as my face when my face glow so she said to Himi must be that you're a drinker R said no no no no by us you know I don't I only drink couple times a year and then comes it the comes through what would you see you see one of the is walks in his face is glowing oh he must be a lender of Interest or that's what you expect from is that's what they obviously The Logical conclusion no that's DOI sees himself in R Yuda he knows what he would be doing cuz he's a low life he's a no good he's AI he'd be doing a so he figures well if his face is glowing must be for the same reason my face was be glowing if I was him oh you must be Mal or says no no no once you get to a saduki you give a saduki an answer that that a saduki deserves you know what it has to do with bathrooms right that's something that's something a saduki that that that a saduki deserves that's what he says toi 24 bathrooms the rule is that each person sees a reflection of himself when you see somebody else you often see a reflection of yourself we know that during this period obviously there's an issue constantly resurfaces interpersonal relationships how we deal with other people so my son told me he was once on a bus bus driver stop you know in Israel that's not uncommon a bus driver could stop anywhere in the middle of the street block traffic in four directions for whatever reason and he did and everybody on the bus looks and the bus driver then opens the door hops off the bus walks over to a poor person by the sidewalk gives him some money and then gets running back on the bus he got off the bus to give Sedaka so now that we hear the story say oh yeah well that's Israeli bus drivers is that what you thought is that what you think every time you see a bus driver sometimes we see a bus driver bus driver maybe doesn't look like the man who's about to go and run and give Sedaka does he and what you see when you look at that Jew there's a Jew over there what do you see do you see the kadua the potential of a Jew do you see something rough coarse and Gruff what do you see and gentlemen rosai often what we see is a reflection of ourselves a person who himself is R will often see R in another person a person who is coarse crude and selfish will see selfishness in the other person the way we are the gor is telling you you see a reflection of yourself as a Young Man mother-in-law was visiting came to visit Israel so she came to her son-in-law and she said she wanted to spend the day in SAS want to go up to SAS she said to sonla but I need you to get me a private cab driver said but not an Arab son-in-law said okay and he calls his friend the Arab cab driver it's cheaper said Musa says Musa do me a favor I want you to take my mother-in-law up toas true story take my mother-in-law up to SAS for the day but just do me a favor put on a yarma she okay fine was poto so mus comes up pulls up is wearing arica takes the Mother-in-law up to fast for the day guy's a little nervous way all day she comes back he says to her ma how was it says was great says and how was the cab driver says oh a very nice man and a too right so you know I mean is that what you saw in her is that what you would see how did she see that the answer is that's what she was looking for it's got a y he probably quoted a couple of Pim and she sees that as something impressive as a reflection of what she really looking for that's what she sees what we see is a reflection of what we're looking for often we are very short with other people we're critical of other people I heard once there was a RV was once giving a shear and in the middle of the shear a dog walked into the room a straight poodle came walking this is so telling about human nature a poodle came walking into the room and of course everybody in the room turned and looked they said a poodle a doggy look at the doggy doggy cute doggy everybody's looking at the doggy true that's what we do when a doggy walks in assuming he's not too big that's how people react a doggy a poodle so cute I hope he has a home what do you do when a person walks in how many people like a human being wow oh it's not most of us don't do that most of us when a person walks into the room if we notice them at all there's usually kind of a critical look at that person I don't like the way he's walking but they think he is why sit is hanging so low that we always got there's something critical that we see in the person in interpersonal relationships we are masters of turning critical what we see in somebody else is really if a person wants to know what's going on inside of me take a look at somebody else there's generally going to be a reflection I've come to a conclusion originally I said it as a joke not as a joke just as kind of a almost almost a joke and now I'm convinced of Almost 100% that it's true we go to sh every day we're always daving three times a day we DAV go to Minion in the morning what is the purpose of going to sh in the morning I used to be under convinced I was always assumed that the purpose of going to schul was to Davin that's what I thought up until I came to this profound conclusion I used to think schul is for davant and I realized that I'm not 100% sure that's so you see what happens was when you go to sh and you know as well as I do walk into sh in the morning there's somebody in my seat I'm already remember coming home from sh one morning and my wife said to me you look tense said I don't look tense I am tense why are you tense I was just in sh for an hour try it you'll see you'll see what happens go to sh there's somebody sitting in my seat take a deep breath be at sadic don't thumb them out like sliding into the third base instead of sometimes people walk over just out you're in my seat you're out of there right said okay you know what let him sit so he go sit somewhere else in the sh and then 2 minutes later somebody comes over and thumbs me out of the seat so I'm already on my third seat I haven't even put my filling on yet sit down the guy next to me is ding too loud go over and open the window to get a little bit of air guy next to the window closes it he's cold put on the air conditioning nobody wants it they're too cold put on the heat and summer they're too hot back and for I haven't even started diving yet the kazin's moving too fast the kazin's moving too slow the guy would dropped two times in one week somebody in SCH just dropped a stender in the middle of D just the middle boom with an explosion in the middle of ding now I haven't even as in the middle of doing I if you're really lucky there's some kid behind you who's 9 years old who's manipulating a tender loses control and it hits you in the back of the neck and then people wonder why are you tense why am I tense I'm lucky that I'm in one peace are you kidding you walk behind a kid on on on hosana Raba never walk behind a child who's holding aula on H Raa ever ever always stand in front of him even then watch where we something on the back of your neck otherwise stand stand behind him your eyes are imperil so you know and then then you come home why are you tense so I came to the conclusion sh is a place to work on our meos it just happens to be that while we're there we're ding but when I go to Sho what am I really going for this is something we have to think about all the time every happening you go to the CLE and you get to the kisil you're finally ready to start doing then there's somebody there to lighten your load and often the reaction is one second I didn't come here to give sta I came here to DAV you sure you sure your ding is that magnificent is that sure you sure that's why you came to the kiso that's not why I go to k it's not why I should I go to do the a sashem and when I get there I find out by the way I thought AEM was daving with intensity and cavana and connecting then I find out you know what my a was my V hasem is to pull money out of my pocket and give it to somebody even if he smells like vodka I still have to give him a little bit of something that's my without getting upset that's become my a man who's about to leave the house all all he's pumped himself up he's dressed in white he's got a t son he's ready to go out the door and his wife says to him I'm not feeling well I think I have a fever I need you to stay home and take care of the kids oh he is right all that work all that aod I don't understand you what do you care you're in it for you or you're in it to serve toon why are you doing it is it for you or it's why are we there we're there to serve so what do you care how you serve this is what Theon obviously wants from you a person who can't fast famous story of the goes to the doctor doctor examines him and he says to the Reb I want to speak to your children so the sons come in Reb's Sons come in he says to them listen rosi I have some distressing news I examined your father he's an elderly man he's not going to be able to fast this uranium Kipper so the boys are uh oh you know okay Ruan you tell them no no shim you tell them no no no you tell them they said we'll tell them together so they walk tati some distressing news you're not going to be able to fast this uranium Kipper say okay so well aren't you upset expected an explosion says no I'm not upset so why aren't you upset says why should I be upset he says well you can't fast on your ker actually I mean you're going to have to eat not even she room going to just have to eat out right on your Kipper so says that's fine says why aren't you upset he says look for 50 years I've served a by fasting on this year I'm going to serve a by eating on y doesn't make a difference to me I don't fast because it's Yumer I fast because that's that's my so if right now I have to eat I'll eat if right now I'm in sh and it means giving up my seat and Sho well I understand why is it we thumb people out now let's think about this carefully I thumb him out out of my seat because IID on the that you got in your really if I was so moid why am I late to sh why is someone in my seat to begin with why didn't I get there on time I'm not because of the I mock because he that person that Invader is in my seat that's why I mock bit now what do you think is a better a voter right now what do you think is my real a voter right now my real is to walk off into the corner and sit somebody else that become somewhere else that becomes my aoda in sh a person understands SCH is a workshop for ouros heard about a man who went to schul rasham Kipper he bought two seats for y he bought two seats you know why two seats he bought in sh because he knew he knew that he doav with Hiser and even though the says you could DAV you could raise your voice voice a little bit you can even make weeping sounds which then causes people next to us to genuinely cry but you can make weeping sounds but he didn't want to bother anybody else in show so he bought two seats now what happens when you buy a seat this happens you bought a seat in sh on Kipper and then you get the show and somebody's sitting in your seat that's a test what do you think a who wants you out of my seat I bought the seat and why did you buy the seat because it's your Gipper and therefore what do you want on your Gipper to serve a now get out of my seat you're sto me from s go Ro do you hear the irony do you hear what you hear what this is about so the person understands I heard somebody went to a house guy comes in a guest comes into the house there's a rambunctious 7-year-old the father says to him Yankee kid spill something at the table father says Yankee relax then Yankee kid goes over and he does something to his sister and the g says Yankee please relax kid goes over to spill something Yankee just relax and this keeps going on finally after he keeps saying yane relax finally guess says to him I'm really impressed at how calm you are with your son that's really impressive father says there's nothing to be impressed about his name is aomi I'm yane yane relax that's something we should be saying to ourselves in every interpersonal relationship every time somebody Cuts ahead of us every time somebody takes our seat every time somebody says something just relax don't you just relax there are other people in your world just relax a little bit just just relax soal say what destroyed the basa mdash so say Kam the story of Kam bar say the story of the two men everybody knows because of a chicken and a hen a rooster and a hen tur Mala was destroyed T Mala was a big city big Jewish City because the wheel of Wagon Wheel betar was destroyed so what was it that destroyed the B okay two men had a bicker didn't like each other whatever reason threw him out of aasta wouldn't let him stay at the banquet whatever it was everybody knows the story what was this tarnol and tarolas says the gumar when there would be a wedding and kala they would lead them out to the with a rooster and a hen as a symbol symbolic gesture beautiful midnight one day there was a Roman platoon they came by they took the chicken in the rooster they took it away I guess they were hungry so the Jews jumped them and they killed them and word got back to Rome they sent in the reinforcements and they destroyed the entire city what happened with the sck of the wrist bu what happened with the Wagon Wheel there was another quaint minut when a boy was born they would plant a certain type of tree when a girl was born they would plant a certain type of tree a female tree and when the two got married they would take these trees these saplings or would became trees already 20 years later 15 years later whenever they got married and they would use those to make the out of them beautiful and one day a Roman princess was coming by and her Wagon Wheel broke so she uprooted these trees to take to fix her wagon to get the wood to fix her wagon so they jumped the entire group and killed them and that brought in the Romans and they destroyed the entire city of betar which had countless Millions when make a of the how many people were living in betar where I don't know if it's this bear or near this bayar countless millions of people were destroyed so for point out that if you stop and think about it a chicken in a ro a rooster and a hen really should not cause the destruction of an entire city T Mala the the mountain of the King was destroyed because of a rooster in a h I understand the Roman were upset but the trigger was a rooster and a hen that just doesn't add up that's what caused it and kamu bar two guys are bickering that causes destruction ofas of mdash you Shan CU two men were bickering and a wagon wheel because of a treat what's going on here what's going on so the answer seems to be there two the answer is twofold little things if if we're punished because of little things it means we're guilty of little things if is balil the punishment through little things that means that there is something little that we're guilty of That's The Meta connate mea we're guilty how significant is it to talk lanara a word you said a word nothing you didn't even even if you didn't cause damage how significant is it that a person is a little inconsiderate Little Things and the answer is that what we look at is little things a little what it's not normal you you resent the guy because he takes your parking space in front of your building every morning it's not normal to resent the guy I mean what could be worse than that especially if your name is there and you've been taking somebody else's parking space and now he's taking your parking space it's a little thing not such a little thing are teaching us you know what how he things when you deserving of it that's what gives you why isn't it a little thing why is it that every human being you meet every single person there's one common denominator I don't care where you're from there's one common denominator you will meet you will find it every single person you ever meet in your whole life Bend close and listen carefully every single person you meet you will hear a little voice inside that says please respect me it's a voice you'll hear hear it Bend close and you'll hear it and when you don't respect that person it's the essence of the person that's being destroyed and therefore the Torah is telling us K are teaching us that's what destroyed Yim that's what destroyed T Mala that's what destroyed betar little things because we're guilty of little things they had two men were fighting there were drove the school bus what's called in Israel ATT tender tender is what we used to call in the Old Country we call it a van call it in Israel the tender it's anything but tender and they buy they would drive this they would drive this tender to school they had the driver and you have the guy who apparently was not good in a previous gilgal because his job is to supervise the children on the school bus and they had a fight as they got to every stop the driver say okay I'm opening the door you take the open open up the door take the kid off and the supervisor said that's not my job my job is the supervisor you're the driver you open the door and you take the kid off they argued at every step so they went to one of the from the they went through said why do we settle this but a tender full ofer children and each one of us is arguing who should open the door said I want you to know every one of those children is a safer Torah a living safer Torah and the words of Torah are being carved on the hearts of those children every time you open the door of the tender it's like you're opening an arodes and taking out a safe RAR and of course the next day they had a fight again it was a fight but that's a beautiful fight who's got the to open the door to take out a living safer Torah out of the tender that's how we're supposed to see every other Jew R hutner says you know the word Adam man is the same letters as the word me means very much is means very much every human being it's an unquantified amount how much are you you're a you're a very much how much very much that means there's no limit every person every Adam has unlimited potential who is that person that you're mistreating who is that person you're being insensitive to do you know what kind of potential he has do you know where that person could be going you know what could come of that person and you're being inconsiderate we are inconsiderate of a fellow Jew you could disagree with the person's approach you could disagree with his sh you could disagree with some of the beliefs or some of the hashas that you could disagree with but the person himself is a Jew he's a m he's an he's got Limitless potential that we have no right to take lightly they had a couple he had a child they came to REM Stern in America a very interesting little very interesting little little quarrel couple had a child came to a mayor Stern in pic the husband wanted to name the grandchild the child was born after his father-in-law he wanted to honor his father-in-law and name the child after his father-in-law and the wife the daughter of the Zeta she said no I don't want to name the child after my father the husband said why not she saids because my H father was a posid I want to name my father my child after a big person my husb my father was a nice man who was a posha he a plain ordinary Jew and the husband said your father is the grandfather who should name after him and the daughter said no they went to Stern and R Stern said tell me about your father where did your father raise your family Detroit when was it sometime in the 50s and you have any siblings yeah have three brothers two sisters where are they today one brother's a rebi and Yeshiva the other one's still learning a Col the other one's also running a Yeshiva and your sisters one of them is married to a rebi the other one's married to a guy just he's learning in col Mary Stern said a Jew who raised the family in America in the 50s and all of his children are Ben Torah that's not a name the child after your father I would like to just add one more step a Jew Living in America in the 50s is not a and a Jew in this base is not there is no such thing as a there's no such thing there are two types of Jews there's a Jew who's growing and a Jew who's stagnating a Jew who's growing is not a there's no such thing if he's growing he's packed with mites packed with merits and packed with striving it's not AA a Jew who's stagnating just have to find the on switch to get him that he's growing and moving there's no such thing as a and say for bra so after they do the thank you very much and then comes to tell now what's going to be as a result of what you're done so this is where lowers the boom he says the following he says because you obeyed your wife and you ate from the fruit which I told you not to eat the Earth is cursed you're going to eat it in frustration it's going to sprout thorns and missles and you're going to sweat until you die goes from bad to worse frustration working sweat death now what do you think the next PK should say what do you think if you were Adam Harish and you turn to your wife who qua this what do you think you would say right most Adams at that point would turn and say well thanks a lot right thanks a lot and I asked for you to be here right thanks a lot I was doing better on my own that's what most people would say in the very next p your dirt you're gon to go back to the dirt she's the mother of all living beings how quaint warms the heart what's going on here you just got told worse Destiny than anybody has ever heard in history turn to his wife and says so then that say there's something implied which is not so positive but the pup shot is that he looked at her and he saw what's good about her yes she's going to cause him to sweat yes she's going to take his credit card yes he's going to die but look at all the good she's brought him she's the aai that's what he's going to be focused on there's another person there I'm going to be focused on on the good I have two choices here focus on the negative focus on the positive I'm going to focus on the positive that's a lesson from from aut from the first man that's how we're supposed to deal with every other person we can look at everybody and see something to be critical of and what we're supposed to do is we're supposed to look at that person and say there's a human being there's an who's with potential I have to treat that person with respect and with sensitivity there's a man there's a garbage strike in Israel know it's difficult to believe usually right around pesak time and garbage was accumulating in the hallway people were putting their garbage right past their front door so there was a man saw his neighbor garbage and he walked from door to door in each door he took a bag and he took the garbage and walked outside with their garbage found some place outside to put it so somebody asked why are you doing that I mean it's a lot of work he said look I've been living in this building for 25 years I've been living with these same neighbors for 25 years in 25 years I have accumulated a debt of to each and every one of my neighbors now if you ask anybody some of you who live in independent dwellings ask anybody who lives in Israel in a small building of 46 dwellers ask them about their neighbors I give you a list and tell me what you'd like the flaws of your neighbors and why you've got a grudge against them there isn't enough paper in the world oh my neighbors oh here we go make my day way to stay busy anti above right just start writing and writing on the other hand why don't you make a list of the things they benefited you with they have kids who are not negative influences on your kids they're positive influences they have homes of kadus why you think about what your neighbors have done for you you could focus on the negative and you could focus on the positive and whatever you focus on is a reflection of you that is an indication of who you are it's indication of where you're coming from the remarkable irony here do you know that this rev Yehuda whose face was glowing do you know what his financial status was the Roman matrona the the the saduki who sees him as a wealthy man do you know what rud's financial status was the gorah says Ruda was so poor his wife had to make a garment that the two of them had to take turns wearing outside and of course you even talk about how they got around the problem of beisha she had to make a garment that each one they were so poor they couldn't even afford their own apparently some sort of overcoat and they had to share the garments with each other and they had to take turns outside he was poor as could be yet his face was glowing how does a person achieve that say but it's more than that and this is how we are in our interpersonal relationships if I feel good about myself I'll see the good in other people my life situation does not have to be reflected negatively on my face a person whose inside is developed with r with Torah the person feels upbeat because he's connected to Torah he'll see good in the other people and when a person sees other people he seees something negative that means something inside is not quite not as it should be it's a msus it's a fact of life if Yehuda was so poor yet he reflects as a wealthy man cuz he's so full of contentment and Joy inside of substance inside and that's going to be bouncing off of other people when he looks at them and sees other people Man became a balua and before he became a baluba he was a professional Thief used to steal diamonds very good at what he did and eventually he became from and he got married had a wife three children and finances got tough things got tight so he daved did the propertyless Gish nothing family struggling didn't know what to do so finally one day he decided look I have one thing that I know that I'm good at I'll go I'll do one more job go to a Jew jewelry shop do one more job but I'll get a good one this time one time just one time and then I'll benefit I'll be I'll be W need parosa for a long time Hashem should forgive me and and so he does he waits till midnight takes all his equipment he's got a glass cutter goes down to the most expensive jewelry shop in town not a soul on the street deserted Street quiet dark he goes over to the window and he pulls out his glass cutter he feels terrible about this but listen he's got a wife and children pulls out the glass cutter he's about to start cutting also some FR guy with a blackheaded past that's staring at him he looks up he realizes stop guy it's his own reflection in the window all a sudden he saw who he really is he saw a reflection in the window say okay you know what put down the glass cutter went home ended his career of crime CU he realized who he really is we often wonder we want to gug who am I really what's going on inside of me the acid test is look around you if you see a guy in sh and you see a guy in SCH he's putting on a show he's ding Schon almost like on he's on a jungle gym he's on there are two ways to look at him you could look at him as come on buddy stop putting on a show or you could look at him asem at least he's trying to make an impression through daving instead of some other way he's growing he'll mature and he'll eventually get to the point where realize don't put on a show but look at least he's trying at least that's what's important and that's how he wants to impress people somebody who learns in the base MERS late at night wants to be the last one out of the base Meers absolutely refuses to leave till somebody else leaves so he can be the last one out and say I was the last one out even if he misses sheer the next morning misses minion so there are two ways to look at him okay you know he's got a way to go you'll mature one day you'll get past it which is true the other way is look what's important to him look where he wants to establish himself what you see is who you are what you see is a reflection of yourself should help us that we should activate within ourselves the eye in TOA to look at people with a good eye and if we do that ACC always pays we look at others with an ey in TOA with a good generous eye we're considerate of other people we realize there a over there there's something precious and valuable there look at with an and bring us all of the yeshu and the [Music]