Tisha B'Av: Picking Up the Pieces after the Destruction - Rabbi Dr. David Gottlieb

[Music] my babies that selva Boston really taught us that one of the subjects of Torah is emotions in addition to laws and values and a worldview metaphysics also a ton of emotions how one is supposed to feel on different occasions and about different facets of the world facets of life cases to rejoice occasions to Morden cases for introspection and with respect to the base of make - the temple he taught us that there are two different emotions two different relationships and Kazaa were very precise in designating them with two different titles one is secular Corbin and the other is economic - and although sometimes we don't keep the consistency of those titles in cause out they are very clear and distinct they of a hood bird means to remember the destruction and we have many customs with which we implement that the Thai nation the first days of the year except for one seventh ancestor are all focused on of course your Kippur but focused on stages in the destruction of the temple in a Salah I think everyone has the custom to break the glass some of the custom that they put ashes on the forehead of the Hudson and many homes you'll find a square area of wall that's unfinished because my house can't be finished at bison weakness doesn't exist these are all expressions of mourning also the egg on the Seder Plate one of the implications of it is Zeca forbidden but then you have a thought oh my gosh for example at the Passover Seder yeah correct say Cahill oh my hello sir what he'll do he took matzah and were messed up I made sandwich ate it and we're going to eat it the way he ate it that is not introducing an element of mourning it to to say or we take a little bit a stroke 7-1 days not on Shabbos over seven days according to the Torah that's an that's a law only in the base of Macduff - a mother cares and Sheila's young everywhere else of the world it was only one day why are we doing it for seven minus one because I felt that we should do what was done at the Vic - and do it everywhere that is not introducing in a little bit of mourning into sokka's for many fortune when we count the days between pendulous 49 days of the owner since the torah tells us to count from the day and which the omer offerings presented in the temple and we don't have the offering in the temple that whole counting is Darabont it's only rabbinic we don't have the trigger that the Torah specified some even hold that fish Lewis is the day after the forty nine count and the whole forty nine count is rabbinic so the whole holiday Jewesses rabbinic it's not the eyes of his master there is such a day we do it because that's what was done in the time of the temple it's not for the sake of mourning the mourning period on during the summer it's not because we can't count the owner but because of the tell me the movie hero who were killed what does that of the mikdash mean it means that something of the Mukesh still exists it's not totally lost there's a remnant a Serena that we still possess and we realize its potential we relate to it by doing mitzvahs like they did then we preserve that memory and this is something which is important if we want the show cut it's powerful that we appreciate what we don't have one way we show that is by showing how precious the little that we do have is we have to think of it as a little ember or a little echo of what the basin Victor's was and the Kaurava says okay I took away the large enterprise I took away the large proposition let's see how you treat the emblem if you treat the Ember with love if you treat it with care if you realize its potential then that will be a Swiss that'll give you back the main enterprise and we have to look carefully at what we do possess and see how it is realizing the remaining reality as a base to make - in order to show that we appreciate the Laura says that fellows can negate Kerberos dictum that are nested Allah who established for us the order of prayer three times a day at times four times on Shabbos holiday prayers they did it by making it corresponding to the sacrifices notice they don't say bib code in place of they say corresponding to the chiffon Allah when he cites this Kerberos uses the word bill comb in place of the martyrs to say that says corresponding to the reasons because to think that the antennas it was all a creative prayer to replace the miss sacrifices is a double mistake first of all they were at the beginning of my ashaming of the second temple that means prayer and the sacrifices were contemporaneous before it in 20 years if it was a replacement you don't have young me both of them at the same time secondly the idea of the temple is basically the idea of the place of Prayer not a place of sacrifice of a place of prayer as the famous verse in the Shia is famous because there's a popular song that we sing with those words happy o SEMA like what she receive our theme of h2o see I will bring them into my holy mountain and I will cause them to rejoice in my house of prayer although say her visit a Hitler tell Elizabeth II their sacrifices will be acceptable to me on the altar my altar keep a sea based fee though you karela follow me because my house will be called a house of prayer for all peoples so it's a house of prayer at the beginning it has a birthday and then in the middle it says there are sacrifices sacrifices are an activity that can take place there but the title is based filling a house of prayer and you go further back in time go back to slow Valhalla Solomon book the first temple in Jerusalem when he finishes the construction he has a dedication a long speech in which he dedicates the building and if you look at it the only activity associated with the building is filler is prayer for his dedication you would not know the difference sacrifices there at all obviously Slava hemella and Shia who saw prayer and sacrifices as part of one coordinated performance one integrated institution someone has AO created the order for prayer of course they made it to correspond with the sacrifices with King Solomon on record and Isaiah the prophet on record they followed that lead and created it accordingly that means we have to understand that prayer sacrifices are one coordinated performance it's one sacrifice of the nation talkers world before has I'll set up this correspondence of Prayer but you could say is joy tenant he sleeps in Tulum is he a representative what's going on in the temple oh yes he is because once a year in the month of Adar he pays his dues his half shekel sash if I went to the temple every sacrifice that's offered throughout the entire year is offered in his name also because he paid his dues I think this is bull said that's not enough pay you do it once a year is not enough what we want is a universal national sacrifice so the priests in the temple do their part because the Torah itself designated then had that performance but the rest of the Jewish people have to be involved and we're involved in that sacrifice through prayer then when the temple is destroyed and we no longer have the sacrifices prayer remains for us from the coordinated performance it's what we have left of the compound it's not the prayer replaces of missing sacrifices it's a and B peace groans we'll replace it with a no it was an a plus B to start with and what we have left of a and B is a but that means we have to experience prayer as a splinter of a more complex work compelling more complete reality of which we have a little peace and that's why in every prayer weekdays Shabbos and holidays in every prayer we pray for the rebuilding of the temple twice and the breadth of the ten and the he trots on that comes afterwards because we feel it to be only a splinter so in addition to morning the lost sacrifices and study what they were and trying to relate to them and feel what they once were but we don't have we also have to approach prayer as something left from the sacrifices and she treated with that preciousness we want to receive in return with a rebuilding we have a little a little hint of it still alive with us and we appreciate it for that reason there's an expression in the sleek house and Shira rocket or rehearsals it describes the destruction of the temple and the city of Jerusalem and the Exile of the Jewish people absolute even from the Land of Israel and it says the only remainder we have is this stuff I can say for myself for many years I took it in a very simplistic and incorrect way well we don't have the base semuc - we don't have your show we don't have this the temple we don't have the core bonus we don't have the mid sister Luise for all rights this especially there is Israel I'm living in New York living in Boston living in Baltimore the Torah is very precious tour is very important since the Torah could be offset for us so make sure you understand how precious the tourists but that's not right the words say in shield rocket or is this the only left over the only remainder we have of that reality is this tone so it isn't be replacing a it's that this is a left of the how is our Torah that we have that we study a remainder of the Masonic Dutch so let's go back to what we say the end of the refill the dervish - ray you're at some Chi brother base Amit - can he remain the same volcana basura so may it be your will that the Templars should be speedily rebuilt in our days and give us our portion in your total what's that doing there why is portion in Torah relevant to a petition that occurs girl who should rebuild the temple what's the relevance and then it goes not to say the Cabana should be said it should be acceptable to you as they were in former days the answer is that base Invictus among other things was a conduit through which Torah into the world and with that gone some of that terror that came in through that pipeline is not it's not present to us and the symptom of it is that windows ahead really had its headquarters in the Elizabeth psychosis places because this was a chamber you have the wall around courtyard at the base my gosh one portion of the wall was the back wall of a chamber which had extra walls outside and that's where the Sanhedrin sets at it's sad in a chamber one of those walls was the wall of the face of meekness itself as long as the Sun Hedren sat there anywhere in the world the Jewish court could judge capital cases now because of the Roman persecutions the saharan winded two colas its own exile and went for a place to place the minute it left that position that location nowhere in the world could capital cases be tried why because in a capital case you're judging whether the Sun but you should live or die that's a gigantic responsibility without a connection that connection to Torah coming from heaven from shine responsibility of killing a Jew it's just not something we can exercise so the base that make there's meant a certain connection to set the flow of Torah into the world so either one hand we have to mourn the fact that that flow that particular flow that particular connection has been severed but on the other hand the third that we do have is the remainder of that flow it came from there we still have that result of it that being the case to approach Torah as a serene splinter of what the basis of a church gave us means that we appreciate what the base Invictus was a little irregular three times a year chose made a pilgrimage to the temple presented themselves on the Azara and often sacrifice their pace up lewiston sucks the three pilgrimage festivals what happened one day when they appeared there so there's a the plastic says cause for failure every all the males have to appear in the basin mech - the word in Hebrew is zero and has our - in the two ways era it means to be seen I will he will be seen and here with me he will see and has out action in both ways to equate because girls will see us and our seeing a coach girl who better behind says what you see there is the Curtis / who see you you come there to be seen so he sees you you come there to see what are you coming here to see committed to see how he sees you you see a mirror of yourself but not a mirror like on the wall which shows you that only what you see no the mirror you get at the base of it - is what he sees you get a peek at his vision of you that means you get to see yourself as you really are not as you see yourself - a haze of wishes and hopes and fears and rationalizations and excuses no three times a year the opportunity to get an external vision of yourself that's real that's true that's absolutely what a precious opportunity how often do we find that we don't see ourselves realistically the truth is we don't find that so often what we find very often is that the other fellow is not seeing himself realistically that we see all the time we're very quick very sharp very sensitive to other people fooling themselves we can point it out very quickly very easily just that occur to us that maybe maybe the piece fooling himself and he can't tell he can't tell I'm very smart I can see that he's fooling himself but he can't tell maybe also maybe also I'm fooling myself about myself and I can't tell and other people are pointing the finger at me in private and say we got to understand well she's anything himself so to have that opportunity would be enormous the temple doesn't exist we can't go in we can't have that double RIA double vision that he sees us and we see ourselves see we see him seeing us is that anywhere that we have a leftover a little Suri's a little splinter of that opportunity the answer is yes and the answer isn't springing to your mind automatically then take this to heart it's in a red beet omelette relationship that's where it exists because when you have a Rebbe and you invest in a close relationship with him you share things with him share this post with him share simplest and rough - son of a list with him and even for eight says he knows you and not only does he know you but he knows you and he CC with ciasses Shania and then when you ask him ask him for reactions ask him for his perception ask him for aces you're getting a little bit of what was available at the time that the very touch where who gave you a vision of how you look to him the Seva Sholem asks what l has on me when they say that we have to have a Buddhist comment and one of the Hollies you should trust the sages what is it that we are supposed to trust in the sages are we supposed to trust that they are really sages a real family for Hamid a genuine genuine understanding of Torah it has no of course not don't trust that test it talk to them listen to their she wouldn't see what they've written arguing debate with them then you'll see for yourself whether they're genuine with Torah scholars or not now he wrote that safer for people who grew up in the normal Jewish educational system and two at a time there were sixteen to seventeen were already fluid in meeting table and we're studying confidence on depth not recommending this to a person who's now sitting down with an article translation but he should test his Rebbe or the leaves of the generation and see whether they make sense to him or not no not yet qualified for that but we see Sheldon's explaining it stated in the Talmud that people have to have trust of their other scholars what Trust is the table talking about it's not talking about trust in their scholarship that you can test on your own what about their character is it that we should trust a good character he says no interact with them see how they deal with you see how they deal with other people see how they deal with the community and you'll be able to see for yourself whether they have good character or not so what is it we are supposed to trust he said when a person takes responsibility for a community I cut his world who gives that person what's called sea otter the Shanaya the help of heaven that is should give to that community what the community needs that's something you can't test you can't notice that with your own observation and that means that whether they appreciate it or not they are getting what occurs Rover wants for them that's for a community the same is true for the individual if you designate someone as you're ready and you go to the person and share with that person when that print you ask for help from that person either a perception of who you are how you're doing what your needs are or advice as to how to progress that person will be giving sea otters my I do have feedback from a cottage Bravo the same idea if if we wanna stay reduced in intensity the same idea is what you got when you went to the base of it - and you saw a helicopter girl who sees you the holidays a condom the word boy in Hebrew means meeting a meeting between at least two parties all Hanoi motion event went out to the tent of meeting is where the Kurds grow food interacted with him they conversed one to another we had three pilgrimage festivals where we went up to the base of Mick - and presented ourselves is there anything left of that for us for us any split tour that reality is still available to us when I tell you a pretty attic and for the preterit you'll get the answer to the question all the heart is a common item meeting times how do they express that quality so the three basics Wilson's and so as we said you go to the temple whatever shushanna session was a very interesting did this the shofar should not be gilded with gold you should not decorate itself over the world why not well we know that I named Kippur the high priest when he went into the Holy of Holies could not wear the four golden garments let's take them off why because the Golden Calf is the great accuser of the Jewish nation we are living out the consequences of the Golden Calf to this day POSIX says the first also says emotional pain it says please forgive them he said I won't destroy them but they're going to be living out the consequences involving kept forever until the ultimate redemption and you can't convert an antagonist an accuser into a defender so to where gold investments and go into the holy opposes in Kippur which I take with me to take that that metal that quality which we fail that and could be used as an accuser against us to ask for to ask for a defense in to ask for mercy we cannot do it okay now back to Russia shall we start with Rosh Hashanah so you can't put gold on the shoulder why not what has the chauffeur got to do with the high priest on Yom Kippur cross because I'll say that when you blow the shofar it is killing either the 15 dummies is if you're standing in the Holy of Holies the impact of the shofar is so profound it if when the person blows that we listen it will fulfill the commandment it says it for all standing in the holy of holies it's a virtual I'll leave the record it's as if we had gone up to Jerusalem and done something which every other true can't - we'll all be standing in the hall the opponents and therefore you can't put gold on the show that means when you blow shofar mr. Samet it's a virtual alley on the wreck you're going up to beat in the face of me - what about you Kippur says the prasada the Torah tells us telling your Kippur we supposed to do - and purify ourselves the posit says the purification is lift the knee Hashem Kotaro purify yourself before forgot it's both says the priests a date that means when you're standing on the shoreline you Kippur and you're doing Chuba is if you stand in the temple so you have another virtual on the other way fine that's all the folks what about shadows in parshas amor the first of the more I didn't shadows true there I'm fine for those who know is questions whether of shops where he belongs there because it's whether should we call them all or not but the priests attic is not it's not worried about that that issue it's called the boy the first limo I didn't dare to chance so he says Shabbos has the same quality of meeting but here the media is affected in the opposite fashion because the puzzle says Shabbos he the whole bush for safety it's Shabbos in all of your dwelling places and he points out that legally that's totally unnecessary there's no thought that Shabbos will be kept only in the Land of Israel it's not a mitzvah that's dependent upon the land it's like Cassius or like Berlin or like stuck up so why does the puzzle go out of its way to tell me that sham to see before cessation to tell me that the mowing the meaning of a car's broke up with Christ rail takes place and Shabbos also not just in temp in the Temple in Jerusalem take lesser Shabbos also but the difference is and in all the other holidays we go to him Shabbos he comes to us Shabbos he bahama shows safe so the meeting is engineered by his coming to us and we still have that that has not last and has not been attenuated or weakened in any way so when we think of the basis of weakness is a place to meet with the car is powerful and we feel that we don't have it we have to appreciate what we have my Shabbos that is Shabbos we have it as Flo and sit down to the soonest you have to feel this is what we have left of eating khartoum in the basis of Victor's eat the carbonyl sacrifices in the temple area that's something Horrible's that's something which we still have a remnant of and indeed when I was on my way in long time ago I'm still hot dogging a Friday nights something about the structure of the poem was hard for me make the smella ear Volusia the holy place of the king the city of the the kingdom's Jerusalem get up exit from your overturn state you destroyed state it's enough for you city in the valley of tears he God will have mercy upon you with Eskie there that the temple should be rebuilt as you do some to be rebuilt it's Chaves none of that can happen eyeshadows you can't put the temple on charge can't build your shoreline much Travis why are we asking for that and then having asked for it the next words are look I do the first colony Shoppes they sell let's go out degree chops I'm talking about the fact that we don't have a temple we don't have you're sure that itself is problematic and then go to Greece Chavez it's like talking about one thing and then turning your face in other direction talking about something else how did two fit together it's not in the offer shake yourself off from the from the from the dirt Kumi get up live she big that's a big this if it's a if I made my people dressing your clothes of glory I got baby chef in Alaska then she will come and take you out of those but that can't happen in Chaves Chaves will stop you can't go sir certain distance jobs yeah allowed to go can't do it and then the heart I give the first count so I asked my baby's brother's acronym of Rafa about what we're asking for how can he ask for it when it can't happen I asked him Friday Friday evening for something that can't happen on Friday like his brother explained to me that in the creation there are three dimensions as a mention of space dimension of time intervention of salt and each dimension has its own focus of kedusha and space is the base of it gosh and in time is Shabbos and his soul is the Jewish people and they create a slimmest together when you have all three together it's like three legs of a three-legged stool a stool can stand on three legs not two but three can stand so when you have the three together you have slain as a completed entity which then carries a certain weight carries a certain significance further forth for Kleiser okay comes Friday afternoon you're sliding into Shabbos you realize Chavez's coming you have your own Jewish new summer so you have the kedusha of the Jew it's coming to the time of kedusha which is Shabbos when you have two out of three then you can't help but but long for the third we're under no illusions we know that even if all the political realities would change and we would have the ability to go to Jerusalem and rebuild the temple Friday night you can't do it you can't do in a child but we can't help but long for it because we have two out of the three and the third is not here okay so in those stances we're longing for that realities we don't have and then we turn and say the fat dirty of the fresco a finish a distant cobbler we're not turning from the one to the other it's it I'm looking at a vision and the vision is so painful so disturbing so difficult I cover my eyes that turn out our way and look at something else which is what and easier to appreciate no no I'm taking that longing and I'm realizing that Shabbos answers that one that Shabbos provides me with something of what the temple you shall I'm gave us at one time it's the meeting place between us and encourage local and that meeting is still available for us and therefore one has to price Chavez with the same feelings of loss for what we don't have we have to have an especial feeling of preciousness for what we still do have I want to finish with two pieces of Worcester I don't like to do this but I think that it's necessary don't usually do this both in the name of the mosquito she was cabinets and with partial Weiss Schnee him who pointed out that there's a cause of the fire of the Corbin abayas which has not been publicized aceo show me you Shawnee says explicitly that one of the two verses this you moved after and I'm a vase it says there are two reasons for the human eyes Cheney one is sin a spinet that we all know about causes hatred and the other is hemp this moment from this moment an overwhelming desire for money there's a custom cipher which I heard from Micah Russa we have a matrix that says that in Egypt in the plague of darkness four-fifths of the Jews died they didn't merit leaving the land of Egypt why not what is it that prevented them for participating in the exodus says the thing that hasn't suffered because there were two tests coming up and those row who saw that they would not be able to to those two tests and therefore they could live to see the exits what are the two tests the ninth and 10th blades were the two tests oh sure amicus before us each one had in it a test and they would have failed what are the tests during Makkah Scotia darkness the whole region was dark the Egyptians were not only plunged into darkness but they were immobilized there was some physical force which held them immobile the Jews were free mobile wherever they went they saw they had light and the matter says that Rahu Toboso been immersed already told them go into the Egyptian houses and search out where they keep their valuables find where they keep their values just look don't take are you talking to people who have been slaves for 90 years bitterly oppressed tortured and of course they created construction projects for the for the Egyptians I can't resist just pointing out not the pyramids how many emails do I get Rabbi Judaism says they built the pyramids and we know they didn't doesn't say they built the pyramids they build stores store houses stores cities treasure cities doesn't that pyramid piss on their ounces and they didn't get paid a nickel generations didn't get paid anything now nobody's going to tell the people go to all the houses look where they keep their all their valuables but don't touch that was a test that those people couldn't pass that's one of the reasons they died and the second test what's gonna happen in mock us before the death of the firstborn the Torah testifies there was chaos in the streets people were running through the streets wailing and screaming panic confusion what's the tutor say did you stay indoors stay indoors don't go outside what happens when a silent wheels and an ambulance pulls up all the doors open all the windows open everybody's on the street to see what's happening what's happening no there's going to be panic pandemonium in the streets stay inside don't look don't participate these people these shoes couldn't pass those two tests and that's why they didn't make it and I think we should meditate whether we're passing those two tests are we passing the test offenders normal some of you are still in the critical stage where you're not responsible to support a family and for some it's almost harrassing to point out that you will get to the stage where you have to work in support a family I can get into terrible trouble saying that in the issue that's true almost of all of you would someday be responsible the service for a family and one says bananafish one soul examination you have to go through is why am i working the hours that I'm working for what what does it produced for me tuition for my children to go to school check the ability to celebrate holidays with my family the way it should be celebrated check to provide for those who depend upon me my wife my children what they need what's important to them check to buy a new model car because my neighbor got a new model car and I'm embarrassed to go out he has a 2017 lexus and i only have a 2015 lexus so i put on an extra 10 hours a week to make the money to buy the latest car x no not for that what are you working for what he dedicated yourself to what i america they had a terrible terrible false expression time is money time is money time is life time is all you've got don't trade life for money if you're working to earn money make a fresh banana fish how many hours do I need to work for the money that I really need and make sure that social pressure isn't pushing you to work for what you don't need that's the test of Marcus crochet and the test of Marco Polo's it has many facets how many are very careful to keep up with the latest political maneuvers who's in and who's out at the White House and who got fired who said what about what about who so what are you going to contribute today are you going to make any difference are you going to make any practical decisions there isn't another election for president for four years three and a half years are you keeping notes to make sure to tell who you should vote for we should vote for makes absolutely no difference for your life turn it off you're just rushing outside on the night of the destruction of the first point to see what's happening no reason to do this there's nothing in it and worse than that is technology and if this is new to you then something that you need to know this is the way the Torah looks at technology technology is a tool which has to be justified it's not automatic it's not a right it's not in the Bill of Rights so that the Constitution's you can check technology is a dangerous tool which you may have to use you can look it up anesthesiologists bring it up sorry radiologists in hospitals have a shorter life span if you doing radiology you're going to be shorter life spin some people say that's my profession that's what I want to do and I'll take that risk but everybody knows that he's doing something that's risky technology is risky even the non-jewish world has publicized the problems of addiction and also waste of time and degrading your your your mind in your understanding if you read the blogs you're in danger of losing your intelligence the blocks are not for the intelligent lives for people for whom an idea last 30 seconds or maybe a minute if you got it in a minute good otherwise go to the next block that doesn't give you the ability to understand anything so a person who has a need to use technology particularly with the internet there can be such a need you go to your rough - you're ready like I said before do you want to see this but where cut Roberto sees it do I really need it how much do I need it what particular into that resources do I need and if I need them can I use them I use them with the confidence and I have a hectare a probe permission from the Torah to do this but it's a permission no more than that let's imagine a person who's sick and because he's sick he has to eat pork he has to eat it there a bi tells him because of your disease because of your help you have to eat it would he go to another tomb and say you don't know what you're missing that taste of pork you have no idea how good it is bacon cheeseburger yes Isis that's just he wouldn't do that because it's a crutch because he's sick doesn't take pride in the fact that he can eat pork okay you got the latest app your computer doesn't looking operations a second - ten million a second Beecher and mines faster faster than a blink of an eye can I tell the difference very fine computer it's like your pork you need it you need it you have a permission slip for you it's right that's not something you're proud loser knees and privacy because of something that you need that's not running out on the night of the destructure the first point to see what's happening in the street and being part of it knowing the latest thing that's happening in the street they're not relevant to us aren't relevant to us it's just distractions the ways we lose our focus who lose a real grip on our real identity these two tests money and being defining ourselves in terms of how much of the non-jewish world we've been able to incorporate and to make use of those two things either way at the neshamah often unconsciously meet ourselves don't know it's time to have a fresh banana fish the reason the reason for Italian says around bourbon half of San Jose is professor banana fish to analyze myself and to see where one can improve these things don't happen by chance they have because of course Brock was looking at as an SP are you trying to come close to me trying to come close to me and extending myself to come close to you can give us the ability to appreciate what he left us to experience these preciouses and also to make the husband and efforts that's necessary so that we can help to bring my share [Music] you