Tisha B'Av Israel - INSPIRING STORIES | Rabbi Sinai Yakobian

okay so just to begin um on the one hand today T is for us is one of the most the most difficult day foram is on the one hand on the other hand we know the tell us that the is in the month of called right our father our loving father right which means that the of the month and everything that comes with the month is to understand that everything is coming from a loving father number one number two the tell us an unbelievable thing if a person takes the letters what what word does that come out T good which means telling us that in essence is meant to be the day of complete complete complete good and that's why if we go if we encounter the first first time we had what was the first that we had that Hashem wants to give us complete good and we go ahead and we cry and hasem says you're crying a crying of of nothingness of emptiness and I I have so much good waiting for you and this is what you do with the whole good this is what you do with the whole good so in [Music] essence is meant to be a day of complete so much goodness and unfortunately right the the the story that we have in the that that when was killed and the the story that we read that the G brings down that they made his body like a full full full of arrows and comes to see what's saying at that moment right he's dying living right he's been killed so terribly what's he saying and as he comes he hears the words that he's saying he says five words six words everything I know Hashem is aad and everything that's happening to me right now is out of righteousness because I have bittered his words it's my own fault right so in essence the Y of what we're what we're doing now is we're understanding that this is supposed to be a day of complete goodness of T of a loving father everything good but unfortunately we're the ones that we messed it up the tell us right the famous famous M that everyone brings the tell us that the P that's relevant to these nine days is a lion that Roars who will not fear right say say to us is the gri of 216 from the from we have 216 hours these are an hours of an roaring lion a roaring lion right a lion that Roars who will not fear so the Ben comes and says a beautiful Mas for General but for these nine days and specifically for today very famous Mas says there was one time a Jew that was walking in the woods he's going in the woods and he wanted to have a little relaxation he didn't realize what he was coming up to and he's standing in the woods and suddenly he hears a lion roaring and he sees the line straight in front of him and he's thinking is what am I going to do what's he going to do this he has no weapons nothing so he had one stick had one stick and he says let me try my best and he takes the stick and he goes like this and as he's going like this he hears a gunshot and he sees the lion falling back and dying and this this Jew simple Jew thinks look at the stick what do I have in my hand with this stick I was able to killed this lion and there's a guy sitting in the back of him and telling him my dear friend it wasn't your stick as soon as you picked that up I saw what you were about to face and I had a gun and I shot that gun and that's what made that's what killed the lion says the that if you think about it this is m the m of these days and of this day specifically if we do a a little bit right we do it's so hard we're going to see it's so hard for us today to understand what the what the BET mdash was it's so hard for us to cry right when when a man if if you see a man crying that shows that he's really emotional right that shows that one one tear comes out of a man's okay that means he's really emotional right so in in essence says the if we do a little bit we just pick up the stick a little bit we just sit and read the keynot a little bit try to connect a little bit right we have in the back of pulling that trigger and saying I'm going to show you how I'm going to take away all your enemies and everything away everything that's bothering you right the little bit that we do us anyone present he merits to see the he merits already from now we already connect we we'll see in a second some of the beautiful things here the the one of the big questions that's very very hard for all of us to to connect to what are we really being on basically most of us we basically have a good family we basically have a most of us are basically our children are doing pretty okay you know we're basically okay so what are we really being on the brings a few stories that if we think about it it's unbelievable what we what we were connecting to what we had I just to see a few stories mince from Ura said over an unbelievable thing he said you know today one of the biggest things that people are having so difficult to connect to is just a little bit to connect to to feel a feeling to feel you know sometimes a lady when she lights candles she she feels a certain feeling a man when he's in when he has a very very good s of learning you feel a certain feeling but but throughout the rest of the day it's very hard for us to feel any of the any a feeling anyone that's in knows one of the most difficult things today is to get a guy to really be inspired and it's so hard it's we're missing that what did we have so says a story crazy story the story was that the Caesar sends nonon sends one of his main generals nonon Kar to come and destroy the BET mikdash what does he do comes and as he's on his way right the says he he throws a a sword an arrow and he throws the arrow towards the north goes towards Jam he throws an arrow towards south turns towards J he throws an arrow towards East goes towards J towards West goes towards so he sees one every one of the arrows I'm throwing is going toward J so he comes to he gets one of these kids and he says to the kid what do you reading and the kid reads him a p right the P brings that the Nations the world they're going to destroy the and is going to punish them so says the master of the universe wants to destroy the wants to clean his hands on me no no no no no what does he do the says he left and he converted who came out of him it's unbelievable a who has no connection to to yish anything but he sees something like this and he gets so sparked up so ignited that he goes and he converts Story number one right who comes out of him Story number two the tells us the famous famous story that we know the the arch butcher right he comes to is and the tells us a story that he kills automatically by sword we're not talking about Hitler gas chamber by sword he kills approximately 3 million Jews already in beginning he kills 3 million Jews and the blood is gushing and going through going through until we know right he sees the the blood gushing later brings that for seven years they didn't have to to at all fertilize their land or anything because just the blood of Jews and the g says the blood is gushing and he sees the blood going and he follows the blood and he sees suddenly the blood reaching a certain blood and he sees this blood is bubbling right famous famous story and he's asked the Jews tell me what's this Blood bubbling over here so first the Jews tried to hide the story it was a certain animal this that he said no no no I'm not falling for this tell me what's what's this Blood over here and they tell him where we had a Nai we had a very great na the Na's name was and he gave us M and we didn't listen to his mus and because we didn't listen to mus we decided we can't handle him anymore we killed him so says this is what you do to your okay no problem I see your bubbling I'll take your revenge don't worry I'll revenge for you this is what they did to you I'll revenge for you the gar tells us he brings all the all the all the and he Slaughters everyone on top of this blood and the blood doesn't stop bobbling doesn't stop bubbling we're talking about approximately we're talking about 900,000 people just in that one day two days that he killed on that blood 900,000 people and then the G says that he himself got so shooken up that he says says he says do you right I'm so they said they had says right sorry he says I killed the best of the Jews the the all the all the you want me to kill all of them and the blood stopped bubbling and then he himself thought one second if for one Jew that was killed this is how many millions of Jews were were killed by him but this how many millions of Jews were killed right if for one this is what happens so for me that I killed so many what does say he went ahead and he converted he left and he converted two questions how did he have number one the K to think this whole thought we're talking about a butcher Hitler as bad as Hitler how do he have the K to think this deep thought of of if this is what's going to happen to Z what is going to do to me number one number two is most of us if anyone would ask of us oh if Hitler would come and do would ask do chv would we accept them nobody here would accept them in the world nobody in the world would accept not a single be the biggest nobody would accept Hitler to do chv in the world right we see he understood the of chv he went ahead and he did he came to say he was going to R where did that come from the say all this of connection of of to was from one thing the anyone that connected in any way to to the anyone that had that connection was immediately filled with every feeling that a person needs was there you woke right the feeling that that we said a a person has when he has a great learning the feeling that he had that a lady has when she does candle lighting people had it 24/7 right this was the feeling there was no they didn't have problems of because that feeling was always there right the famous famous story that we know with was crying some say was Aristotle some say it was a student right came and he said why are you crying what are you crying for so he told him asked me the your most greatest question he asked him a question he answered him on the spot and he told him where do all this wisdom come from and where is everything coming from from the which means we we we're missing we're missing so much we we don't even know what we're missing but we can from the good times that we have we understand if this is how I have a little bit of a good feeling if this the the connection that I have a little bit what was in the times of how how how close it was how easy it was and this is what we're missing right the famous famous story that the that the was said over he himself one day he goes and he tells his children I want you guys to go ahead and to look for all the poor people in the city find me one poor person find me the most poorest person you have in the whole city fine so kids go around kids grandkids students they go around and they go going looking in the whole city looking looking looking and they find the most poorest guy and they they come back and says them tell me does he have a chair to sit on and they say yeah he has a chair he just doesn't have you know he doesn't have a a table this that he has a chair does he have a little food that he can eat yeah he has a little food very good he says you want to know how poor is Right Al Hashem doesn't even have a chair to sit on right what what what's this day Hashem has disted himself so much from us right we'll see how much that was but Hashem has disted himself so much has put himself in such poverty such such only why because he didn't want to hurt us but who lost out we lost out the entire connection just last night a student called me from America and uh they start asking a couple of question I see it has nothing to do with it was it was 12:00 last night nothing to do with I said to the I'm so sorry I can't really talk about it and this is a student that was by us in Israel and she says oh I'm I'm sorry I didn't even realize I apologize it just I I was shocked you know okay you know you're in America I'm also from America but you don't even know you didn't realize it's t tonight like but unfortunately right people were so so far away here and we still have the Sho we have everything but we don't understand how far people are I'm talking about a student that was here in Israel right for the whole year but right it just didn't there's no no connection it just didn't didn't even hit them like oh my gosh tonight's the shabab the the the the one story that every year when when we read the kote for me it's one of the most touching stories M gets me very uh very broken is the the k we read a few minutes ago about Ben is right the benat right the famous story The says is was one of we know the is that one of the when a when a person goes to lady goes so when they come out they have to see something kados not see anything first thing that they see is to see something kados and the brings is's mother one time went to the mik and when she came out the first thing she saw was a horse a donkey she went she dipped again brings that she dipped 117 times every time she came out she saw something to she dipped 117 times and by the 117 time had on her and he sent G and stood there she that was the first thing she saw and the g says that who was born right was born and he had the of Gabel he had the of Gabriel and that's why when the when the king wanted to kill all them so he came he said to them I want to kill all of you so they said give us three days to see if this is a from you if it's purified himself he rais and who was the Mal that he met right there to ask was Gabriel the one that he was he had a replica of and the right the story that we we know when when they came to kill him so they he was the second one was the first one when they came to kill him so they they were slaughtering him and the daughter of the king the the K that we read the daughter the king she she was in she was inloved by his Beauty by this man's Beauty she was so inloved so she tells her father no stop don't kill him I want I I don't want to lose him so he says okay no problem we'll peel off his skin so you could have his Beauty in front of you this is this is right what are we talking about and the says the that we read was that his two children were taken into captivity his son and his daughter and they were taken into captivity and one time the master that had the daughter meets with the master that had the Son and the master that has the daughter says to the master you know there's this sheif there's this maid servant that I found the beauty that she has is unfathomable you've never seen such beauty in the world and you know this unbelievable so he says I found a slave that is so handsome so beautiful you've never seen such beauty so they say okay right we can use this we'll have their children and with with their children we have we be able to sell it and we'll make so much money and everything and the says that they put them them into a room right the K we read they put themselves they put them into a room and what is the K that we read is that she sat on one side and he sat on the other side and what are they saying the K that we read why are they saying it's a very very very touching K she says oh she says he eulogizes himself through a painful heart what does he say himself I'm I'm I'm from the children the senters of I'm I'm gonna make myself lower myself to a how could I do such a thing what does she say she also sheing I'm the great granddaughter of the mother of I'm going to go and marry some some disgusting slave right such a thing will never happen they didn't stop crying the whole night she's on one side he's on one side they're crying the whole night in the morning in the morning they saw each other my brother my sister until they they CED together until they passed away what did they say to each other what did they say to themselves they didn't say what a terrible that was the second part what was the first part that they said he says how great am I being part of being part of how can I lower for my greatness how could I do such a thing lower for my greatness she said the same thing how could I be the how could it be and she doesn't she's not willing to lower herself and because of that right the says no was done the the was done in the morning they passed away out of crying together right the story that there was a guy that came to to guy that had a had a a non-jewish girlfriend for many years and it got the point where they wanted to get married and everyone told them what are you doing what are you doing how could you marry you're going to cut off for 2,000 years 2,000 years and everything and for he went to different people and he came to very interesting and when he when he tells him the question he says to him listen to me my friend I don't know what to tell you I've never been in your situation I can't tell you what to do but all I know is that if you you have such a and such a trial that is so difficult for you then you must have a very very holy you must be on a very very high level if you're having such an I don't know what to tell you but you must be someone very holy and he he didn't marry her because of that why what's the what's the we're seeing if we understood how great we are in the times of mikdash people felt the connection to mikash we had such a greatness in ourselves no one was willing to lower themselves in any way for such a thing right no no one ever thought of doing an because of how great I am how could I do such a thing what do you mean how could I lower my greatness I'm how could I do such a thing right this is one of the one of the things that we're missing today the gute of of of who we are how great we are how little every little action that we do every little we have how much how much we could reach that greatness the question that when I was Ina my asked us this question I asked this question to my kids last night very very straight question I said I have an honest question to ask you I don't understand we've been here 1,940 something years right okay B was actually not rebuilt so why are we going ahead and sitting on the floor and crying we have to fix our way so what's the problem let's open up let's learn let's learn what we need to do let's fix our actions what's the point of Sting and crying serious question like what's the point again I'm going to go sit down read the kote read all the Terrible Things I I understand all the terrible things happen because of my a so what am I going to sing and crying for let me go ahead open up open up start fixing my actions what's the what's the point of sing and crying this question I already asked I had this question I asked my kids last night this question but the B give us three fundamental answers if a person thinks about it every person can can connect to what how how the which answer connects to him with three fundamental answers answer number one tells us we all know this right in the end of the day unfortunately we don't get shooken up until tragedy happens right we had 48 great Nim seven great all of us gave us gave us give us we didn't do one thing H takes the ring from Anil all does CH which means unfortunately unfortunately we don't do chv until we get shooken up really the M says an unbelievable thing we mentioned this last year says the the wants us to come back with our heart to come back fully to Hashem and there's two ways that a person comes back to Hashem way number one is a times of joy and happiness when Hashem gives us greatness when hasm gives us so much good we thank Hashem for it we're all thankful we realize the winess Hashem says you realize you're coming close to me that's what I want way number two unfortunately if we don't use the Happy Times the good times hasm says okay you know you know you haven't woken up I'm going to have to wake you up with with tough times right with difficulties and that's where we have all the all the and everything says the in when we read all the and all the hardships right the the says why didm bring us all these hard hardships because you didn't serve H out of all the goodness that he gives you you didn't serve out you didn't see how much goodness he's giving you how much everything good he's giving you how much goodness he's giving you if that's the story then I'm going to have to give you tragedy I'm going to have to to give you hardships to to wake you up I I I wish you would have woken up in the good way but unfortunately you didn't and I'm going to have to wake you up in the in the more difficult way just just a a half hour ago I read a story that uh of of zilin brings down there was a family in Ben had 10 kids 10 kids good family everything was nice nine of their children were in the right path the last kid unfortunately starts drifting off Big Time start drifting off first comes hiding the poot uh then you know then comes taking off the Mak having a smaller k then slowly slowly takes off the kipa and the PS didn't know what to do PS didn't know what to do they were wondering what's going on their first nine kids everything was going everything was fine everything was going well and the last kid suddenly is he's going off they know what to do they went to and say something like this I want to tell you something you already have 10 children I'm sure the financial burden of your first three four kids is already up on you I'm sure it's not easy and I'm sure it's a big talk in the house difficulties money Financial I want you to take care please four months stop talking about money stop talking about money how difficult it is how this that talk about how good things are how how great life is how much hem has giving you goodness you have 10 kids you five four five of them you have five other the kids just talk about how much goodness you have how much goodness hasm is giving you and if if things don't change come back to me they did this Shabbat the husband starts off Friday night I want to thank Hashem for everything that he's given us we have so much good we have so much is ging us so much good we have 10 children five of them are married we have so much thank and M he changes the whole thing and the next morning the wife thanking Hashem and this and she starts talking about everyone of the kids how beautiful everyone of the kids are and each one is so special and each one is so important for them the whole mood in the home changes later the kid comes back with a small keeper F two months later it was the kid is involved in the S he's singing along the whole and everything and he is very involved no but the pants didn't push anything a month after that the kid comes home and he says to his father I want to go back to Yeshiva fine father's very happy know Kiva doesn't say anything doesn't want to ask any questions a month after that he asks this kid tell me you know how's it going she everything good yeah good tell me what changed what what made you something change he goes ABA you should know I was just getting so sick of the home everything was about if we had more money everything was about if things would be better so I said one second if if this is all the time complaining everything what do I want this type of a lifestyle for I don't want this I don't need this I don't need this all every time complaining this I forget if money is so important so I'll go also work money I'll make money I have a good life happy life and when when when things changed the home I saw how happy you were with everything I said oh I want to be part of this if this is such a fulfilling life and ABA with everything that I know that they're having difficulty they're so thankful to hasem for all the goodness and everything if this is if this is what it is I I want to be part of the home it's an it's an essential trait right when Hashem gives us so much goodness right what's the mistake of I had so much goodness waiting for you I had so much to give you you cried over nothing you're complaining over nothing and if this is the attitude then of course ra is going to come out of it of course bad is going to come out of it but if we change the whole attitude we realize how much goodness hm is giving us then the everything changes that everything it changes the whole not just our connection to Hashem our connection to our children our connection to our wife our connection to everything everything the home mood in the home changes completely the second that the US I have to give a small story before say the second story when we lived in in Los Angeles so uh one day my father was invited toit before before we moved to LA we lived here in Israel and give a time and wasn't a religious area right we weren't so we weren't so religious that at that time and we come to you know we were in La my father was invited to at that time we were already learning in sh and my father comes to bit and this lady by comes over to she goes Mr yoban do do you remember me so my father didn't didn't recognize who the lady was she goes I'm Mrs gich do you remember me now when we lived in G time we had a neighbors upstairs completely completely secular asazi family completely secular go of it family we knew them nice neighbors you know everything was nice but completely secular family and she my father sees this lady gich she's you know fully fully dressed new and everything and he's like you don't recognize me she says no goes come I want you to meet my husband and her husband we remembered him in givea time big fat guy he always wearing shorts you know Israeli guy and uh okay my father's ready to meet this you know and she she she sees a guy with a suit big beard and uh respectable man everything oh Myan how you doing how's everything and my father couldn't was like couldn't believe it so my father invited them to the house please come after come for a few minutes my wife and so they came and mrich told my father he said first of all I want to tell you one two things first of all you should know I really honored You by coming to your house because I I have no time I'm involved inim we came here for the the family was very involved inim I came I came for the have no time but because how close we were back in the olden days I said I have to honor you and I came to your house so my father say him what's what's the story she says look I'll tell you the true story he says we we we had moved from give time we had moved to and completely secular completely secular and his father lived in South Africa and his father suddenly had a tragic death was in a car accident as soon as the thing happened the whole family went to South Africa and they come to South Africa came to the funeral and there was one of the there and he was instru them what to do the and everything after the he started telling and and the came every day of the came to the house and start and he said can you imagine I just lost my father time of tragedy difficulty I'm in pain and here's this R and he starts talking to me about their met about life what's life about and everything and it hit me time of tragedy I was in pain and these things really spoke to my heart says and slowly slowly we started learning we started getting involved and that's how I got connected to today but he told my father you should know if I would have gone to any this I don't think it would have shooken me up it was only because of the tragedy that I had that my father suddenly passed away and it was such a painful thing for me and it was that I was in that time of emotional pain that that's what got everything to to sit into my heart right that's theod right first of all is we am is we wake up unfortunately due to tragedies really what would want from us is when we have so much goodness to thank a to realize all the goodness that he has and to to awaken our hearts through the goodness not we will go and cry the second why we have to sit and have a US is three words that we say every we say three words every what hasem Pro we have a promise from Hashem there's a few promises that promised us promise number one is that we always be existing as much as all the going to go through and everything we have a promise will always be existing promise number two we have a promise from that the Tora will never be forgotten from will always be learned in I heard that uh a couple couple of like 10 years ago when was in England actually so he said not only could say this I heard it was at a a gathering of very very wealthy people and he said straight you know he said the Tor will always be learned and will never be forgotten this that we have Tora will never be forgotten will always be learned will always be connected to Tora whether a little bit or a lot but but T will always be we have will always be learning T the only question is who will have a to be part of that and people came through very nicely only right but but we have is that the will always be with right the the hm promises us that whatever difficulty we have whatever difficult times we have to the degree of the difficulty that's the the degree of the that we have when we sit on these days we sit and we meet we read some of the kot stories that that that it's just heartbreaking you you you read it m Holocaust stories that we we've read we've seen our times no one could say it doesn't happen today 40 years ago stories happened everything you read some of these stories you Shen up but we have to the degree that we have the that's the that we have when we come back to Hashem right we start off we say we come back to and we have that will give us the reward to the degree that we have the his is a very beautiful he says that since is one of the and it's going to be one of the and he says that it's going to be still existing after he says so there has to be a good this is the he has he says there has to be a good per and he goes through the whole based on the the good one of the he says is that one the one the says that how will we know how when we are in the times of the G we see all the greatness that hasm is giving us everything how did we Merit all this greatness because that we that we stuck with Hashem even in the difficulty we didn't let go we didn't let go of the T right that that's going to be the that we're going to see all the reward so when we're sitting on these days we're reading all the we're reading all difficulty our job is to understand if this is the that we see then then this is showing us that this is be going to be the minimal reward that is going to give us the third and I think AB if we think about it this third is a that we have to really anyone that that connects to has to realize this is a that has to really touch our hearts there's a that the first year that a parent a person's parent passes away every time he says over some people say even anything that he says in his father he has to say three words what's the three words the first year you don't say you say right if a person says in the name of his father he has to say may I be the atonement of his deathbed what's what's the what's the idea behind this behind this statement why do we have to say this so the tells us that even a regular person right the the longest he can being is 11 months regular person being could be maximum but the longest the regular person could be in is right when a parent is in suffering for the first 11 months so our job is to be sharing in the suffering of the parents right for the first year we don't listen to music we don't we don't have we don't do we don't go to why because how can I go to when the parent is in suffering right right that's why we we we say for kadish we say kadish 11 months we stop a week to show that this person shom we're not considering him a and then we continue three weeks because to but for those first 11 months we don't have any because how could I be in in happiness when my father is in pain and difficulty the tell us when when when the had to be destroyed should have had far far far greater punishments with all the we had we should have had far greater punishments but what saved us because said you know what you know what I'm not going to give you the punishment I'm going to take the punishment for myself now Hashem puts himself into into difficulty right like we read in the Z every night hasm is crying and wailing over the difficulty that he put himself in the is in and our job on this day is if my father is in pain how can I go ahead how can I go ahead and I'm going to not be in pain I'm going to just relax and enjoy and have a good time is in pain and guess what he's in pain because of who because of me if hem is in pain because of me how can I shom go ahead and put myself in a in a happiness and not and not care for this person not care for difficulty that my my family member is having when when when they're in such difficulty I'm not going to care so the this of on these days the whole nine days right you know there the question tonight weord to to is that we don't eat meat and wine tonight we wait for meat and wine till why even though the aute tonight is finished but the tells us that the majority the that they were that they had the that was still this was the day that it was declined so how can I go and I'm going to put myself in a mat of I'm I'm in in delicacy eating wine drinking wine eating meat when this was the day the BET was destroyed that's I can't do such a thing there is a from the has a called The Eternal says that even though the BET been destroyed but the bet mdash there is a Eternal connection that we have with the BET mdash and if we want the BET to be rebuilt then we need to do whatever it takes to have the BET rebuilt says the says there are a number of that if we take a look in the in the these are that are our connection to the today and if we're not careful on those we're not able to have the of con of having the be back I just want to go with you through a few of these what are the that that's brought down what is our what do we need to be careful for in order to we want the we want the to be rebuilt what what do we need to do in order to have the mdash right the tells us what is mdash today what what what is our what is today according to that is that we have right the we have today is ourd according to many to be in anything in a not feing so if we're not careful on the BET mikdash then how could on our then how could Shalom we have how could we expect to build the and to have back if we're not careful on the of the there was a story I think many of you know the story there's a story that happened uh approximately I think it was like 10 years ago there was a family there was there was a uh a uh R from America I think his name was RAB RAB Leeman he brought a group of uh group of Israeli I'm sorry group of American young 19 20y old young men and women he brought them here to Israel and he took them throughout the throughout the country cat other places and the last place that he always took on the whole tour was he would take them to Haron take them to Haron okay Haron unfortunately we know it's the where the soldiers that were killed were and on the last day they come toel and he starts showing them this is you know these are all soldiers your age 1920 that were killed for protecting is and you know they're they're looking at the graves and this and of course you know their agents very hitting them very hard and they suddenly see a man and a lady walking in family I'll tell you why I'm saying and the lady walks over and she comes to one of the graves and she says and the hearing that the mother says I'm here abaa came and uh they see that the father mother is saying and this time they're they're choked up and they come over to the mother and they say you know uh we came on the trip is this you is this was this your son that passed away she goes yeah this was my son that passed away approximately a year ago but I want to tell you something else she says last night my son came to me dream and he said to me imma I know tomorrow you're going to go to the k for me and I wanted to tell you something I know you that you're very hurt that you never walked me down to the I know you ever heard they never walk me down to but she says if you do you take you don't then that's going to be my I'm going to be as happy then as my and the mother's thinking in the dream how in the world is she G to raise money for minimum 404 $50,000 how she going to raise this money and she says imma don't worry there's going to be a group of people tomorrow at the BET and they're going to help you raise the money and she says this to them and this group is completely shooken up and they're like okay no problem we're going to take care of it we're going to take care of it and they all went back on the plane taking upon themselves they're going to raise the money the next summer on the Y side of this boy they all flew in with the SE and they did we know that the that we have in is like the that was in the right the tell us that we are not careful in the then everything all the and the foundation of our connection to we're losing because the in the end of day this is the place of the place of right the the the big big issue that everyone all the big Pim are talking about today which is so important is the concept of two things number one not talking in a Sho and number two is the unfortunate that there are in shes today right a few I think like a year ago they went over to the visioni and they said to him something like how is it that no one in your community has Shalom cancer and he says to them the reason why no one in my community has cancer because no one in my community talks in sh and I'm telling everybody that if no one talks in sh there won't be this disease going around right again I'm not the one saying it but we understand that the first thing that we need in warning the bet mikdash is to respect our this tremendous this tremendous love between everybody and we're very careful but right this first point point that that the tell us the first point of really wanting the is to be careful in the and we had a re in high school he always used to say to us you you know why you know why this F them all bch you know why this F you know why they all have they have a lot of money because they all have gorgeous shoes they all make their shoes really nice all these F from Brooklyn right so they all they all have gorgeous shs if you honor your sh you're going to get a lot of right this is this is key number one is to honor our the second thing that the that the tell us what's the second thing that is our connection to the bet mikdash I want to just start off with the story just to emphasize this point right tells us that today we don't have we don't have the so what do we have in place the our is in place of the right is in place of the in the morning and is in place the burning of the fats and the limbs right but is not telling us it's a the is telling us this is our today today we don't have a what's actually our our is our when we D in is our right all the tell us all the as much as it's important to go get a right and it's essential but the greatest is two things the of a person and the that the person gives to the himself right when a person himself D that's oural our personal is our we pray to there was a there was a again you'll see from the story there was a family that uh this is going 19 1910 there was a family religious family from family in Europe that their son was drafted to the to the Russian army and they were trying to find ways and different ways aash to save their son from being taken and the date of the draft was coming they're trying to find different ways they don't know what to do the mother goes to soon she starts crying and crying Hashem please please please please please save my son save my son please you know everyone knows you go to Russian army what terrible is going to happen what's what's the disaster is going to happen please save my son she comes back home her husband says to her we're going to the we're going and they come to they went to and they come to they asked that their son shouldn't be taken this is before World War I and they ask him for that he shouldn't be drafted and looks at them and says what's such a big problem if a if a guy learns how to shoot they're like what what what's such a big problem if if he learns how to shoot R this is uh this is Russian army and says what's if he learns how to shoot didn't understand what's going on didn't give him few weeks later he got he gets drafted that's taken gets taken to the Russian army in the Russian army he was uh what was he taught he was taught how to how to shoot and how to how to prepare the shooting in middle of you know middle of War how they prepare more gun more everything to be shooting back at the enemy so he's M you know in in the Fire Within fire and everything and he's he's getting all the ammunition ready for all the soldiers he survived World War I came out of the thing still remained religious B came back and got married unfortunately unfortunately World War II breaks out and him and a group of a group of his friends they escaped from the Nazis was thing they had escaped from from where the Nazis were and they ran to the woods and there was a group of partisans in the woods and they wanted to join with these partisans and they came to the partis they said please please please and these partisans they looked at they said what are you worth we're going to kill you just like the Nazis what are you what are you guys worth what do we need you for we don't need you you guys are just going to get all us murdered and one of them and this guy says to them no no no I can help you look look look and he shows them how he was so quick in helping people how to prepare the ammunition how to shoot and everything and the see that he was very helpful and because of him they saved the whole group and then the parents realized sorry then he realized what was the right what's the problem with if he learns how to shoot but the is it wasn't just the the mother she went she cried to Hashem Hashem please save my son save my child save my son save my child of course was essential but when a mother herself cries how did he manage the whole Russian army to stay from how do he manage to survive from everything when a person right the says what was theban theban were whenb of the morning was brought all the a of the night were forgiven when theb of the afternoon was brought all the of the day were forgiven that means in essence when we pray has the power to forgive all the of the night and when we pray which is connected it has the power to forgive all the of the day right today this is Ouran we don't have theban but if we really want theban we have to know the power that we have the power that we have through the the tell us that in every there's three aspects which is the three aspects that we had when any Jew would come to bet mdash what were the three aspects aspect number one in as we come we praise hem right anyone that also came to bet mikdash saw the greatness of hem we praise right you prais you saw the you saw the you saw the Miracles that was in the was a place of tremendous praise ofm but second aspect of is the aspect of Hashem talking to us throughout all the of if a person if a person every day prays and he prays he pays attention to he will see how the give him the messages of that he needs right the talks to us the first Essence is we praise hem Essence number two is theim talked to us back right telling us what our what what we need and the third aspect is asking and requesting Hashem what we need out of our life right in essence these were the three things that were in the BET mdash praising Hashem person that came there praise AEM the person that came there got of all the of what was going on and number three was he was able to pray right pray the mdash is that any Jew that comes to the BET mdash will not remain empty-handed and by the way one of the we have is that the will never be destroyed and that the prayer at the will have the same when a Jew goes to so he knows for any that we pray should not be left unhanded right if we if we think about it even though right even though the we don't have this the power of that we have and this is the the second thing that the tells us that we have to be careful in regarding warning the BET number three right number three as we know is Shabbat right we know that everything that we had in the bet mikdash we have in the Shabbat we had the 39 we have the 39 we had the 39 things that were done Mish these are things that Shabbat we had the we have candle lighting we had big day we have big day Shabbat we have we had the we have the everything that we had in the we have in Shabbat writes that all the and everything that was cabalistic going on in the in the on a on a week day in the BET mikdash happens in Shabbat even today so the say that we say in we say right so a lot a lot is difficult for you that you're sitting in the valley of crying right which means we're in the G the says right today that we're in galut what has the greatest k What has the greatest in place the of the Shabbat the Shabbat we know is M right says that there's even bigger gain of Shabbat over the BET mdash what was the gain to the bet mdash we had to go to the Shabbat Shabbat comes to our home right and says the says the if a person really if we want to connect to that connection mdash it's by sanctifying the Shabbat in our home as much as possible as much as we could to be to make the Shabbat right the says was it was a place of complete says is to try to make Shabbat a day of of of Happiness of joy of the singing of everything if we show that this the the that we have in the Shabbat then that's that's the Z that we have in regarding to the bet mdash I just want to share with you one story there was a um there was a uh there was a a man living in in living in Paris it was in it was in par in Amsterdam sorry man living in Amsterdam and he was sitting there Friday night this man owned a carpet a store of carpets M Carpets he would sell to everyone in the country and one Friday night he gets a message one of the messengers of the king comes to his home the king wants from you 20 20 carpets in and from Jew Friday night and he says to the king I'm so sorry tell the king with all due respect he can go take anything he wants from the store but I can't go give it to him it's my Shabbat I can't go give it to him and uh the the messenger goes back comes back again and he he says the king says I want you to go give it to me he says I'm sorry tell the king I'm so sorry I can't it's my Shabbat the king could take anything he wants from the store but I can't give it to him goes back the messenger comes back again and the King says he says to them he says to the guy if you don't give it if you don't give it to the king the king says your end will be very bitter and the kids now the kids hearing this the kids are getting very scared and he says please tell the King after Shabbat I will give him whatever he wants personally but on Shabbat I can't do it and the kids are like you know this that nothing the messenger leaves shabat the the king I'm sorry it was the prince the prince with a different messenger they come to this guy's house and they're riding by and they're coming to this guy's house and now the kids see the prince coming and the kids are all scared that's it they're taking ABA that's it you know what's going to be with ABA this that and knock on the door the father opens the door and the prince and this others General is standing there and their tremendous warmth hello how are you and the king is the prince is very gives him a big hug and understand so the the owner the the balab says you know what is it that I owe that the prince came to my house he says what do you mean because of you I won the BET says what says last night me and the the minister of this general of France we were sitting they were talking got involved in talking about the Jews and I said to him that I I know these Jews when it comes to their Shabbat they're not going to they're not going to compromise they're going to be stuck on the on the Shabbat and if the the French General says no no no no no these Jews when it comes to money they'll give up they'll give up when once it's money they'll they'll give up anything they have not they have no connection to it just okay we'll try it out we made a bet and that's when I sent the messenger came two three times and you the the prince says you know because of you I won the BET and of course his reward was very big right right what are the US the Shabbat today is in place of the mdash if we really if we want to see we want to have that connection with our job is to think how can I make my Shabbat more beautiful how can I be connected I just want to end off with two more things M and with this will'll end off right the two other things that the tell us that is very connected to please I'm talking to myself not talking to anybody but the fourth one is Shalom if we take a look all theim in which are referring to the BET mdash are in reference to husband and wife shom bite between us and our wives right all all the of of a lady is learned from the in reference to right everything all the which are which are the that we learn are the that talking about the which means that the shom everything that goes on in our home is an essential part of us wanting the BET to be rebuilt and seeing the there was a uh there was the the G tells us that that when I when it gets to the point of divorce right cries what do you mean there's no today what's which person gets divorced says no the answer no that that we want the if we are not building our home then that of the is not there anymore the M can't be rebuilt because we're not allowing it because the our home is not allowing the B to be rebuilt right there was the one of the stories that we read that in the was a story about there was a group of 400 children right famous story 400 children were on a ship and they were being taken and they realized there was approximately big majority of them were girls and a big majority of them were boys and the girls realized that when they're being taken they're going to be taken for terrible things and they start the G says they say to themselves if we throw ourselves in the water will we reach these 400 children they're talking they say if we throw ourselves in the water will we will we reach and one of the says that one of the he brings a will bring us back from means the depth of the water so he says the is telling us that in the of us not not allowing ourselves to fall into terrible things we will be saved has will reach and the says that the first ones that jumped were the girls the girls jumped and the boys when they saw this they said they jumped first and they're ladies we that we have to jump and they jumped also right what's the the telling us the was a place of connection between right physical and spiritual if we understand that the whole essence of physical is not for St physical it's for usage of tremendous P of K of and we use that and we sanctify that then we then we're building the if we're using physical for for just the physical sense of course we're not we're not realizing what the whole is about the the famous story s sad story last year I didn't want to say it right famous story that that many of us no is was a story with there was a a building in 1943 there was a building with 87 I think it was 87 girls and the the Nazis were coming and they were all students of s and they realized that if the Nazis come they realized it's not it's not just murder and they they decided that they're not going to allow this to happen and someone had already had pills and they all said we're going to die and they made of and they all before the Nazis came in why because they said how how could such a thing how could we let such a thing happen this is the if we understand that the of us is is the together it's not just a physical that's not meant for for a purpose it's a physical that we use for K we build our homes we build it with K right then of course then we're showing this is what we understand this is what the whole of is about this what we want want to end off with the last thing I think this is something that all of us know the last last thing to beit to be uh to to be careful for to be for the rebuilding of is the concept of and being careful if you take a look in the so says that the says to us that what a person that says what will save from so says we learn that will save us from so says one second but we find many many great people that spoke that were great great Learners and they they were disasters they lost their entire right the of all of them were great great great great and they lost their entire they lost everything right they have why because they spoke destroy so how could say that learning we're save from says you see that it has to be that it doesn't mean that's General tah learning it means in this area if I'm careful in learning about the importance of not not being lenient about it seeing what is exactly the what am I allowed to say what am I not allowed to say only with that only if I learn those can I know that in that Merit I'm going to be safe from right the the the that all the tell us about is not seeing things in a in a bad way seeing things in a completely good way understanding there's always another side I can't judge the person I can't base this right there's there has I I see one way but there's so much behind it that I don't see it was just want to show with you two stories this and there was a family Rabin family a very very respected R who had a son and this son was coming to school every day and the problem was every time began this kid would go outside start talking went outside start talking this night he's talking with other kids and you know people are wondering like the r didn't tell him anything his father doesn't tell him anything people like wondering like you know Rabbi it's your son you know yeah what's going on so one of them went over to the and he said you know we're not we just want to know you know we noticed that you don't tell your son anything he says I'll tell you the truth he says my son was going through a bit of a tough time last 3 4 months and he stuck it through and he really still even though he's having a tough time he's learning well and this that and when he came to this area of talking I knew that it's very hard for him I went home I SP to my wife we decided in this area we're not going to tell him anything cuz be he's doing enough where he's supposed to be on his level he's doing enough and it's going to be too much for him so he knows that he goes outside he talks but this was the one thing and everyone in sure when they heard this they like you know wow we we didn't know this part we didn't know that you know wow met we didn't know that the kid was going through a tough time this that the rabbi's right right there's always another side to a story that we don't see we don't know there's so many facts that we don't know there's a story very very sad story very sad story there was a uh just just for us to understand right our everyone knows I'm is we're 13 13 we're different and everything but our job is with all of our differences to give to each other to respect each other to see to know that there's another side of the coin I don't know the whole side of the story right I can't talk about it it's not my job right the the the famous the Mish says don't judge your friend till you reach his place the says that that means you can't judge him at all cuz you're never in that place completely you're never in that place you can never be perfectly in that place so you can't judge the person right there was a story in the holoc there was a story right after the Holocaust there was a man true story P said the story over there was a man survived the Holocaust unfortunately it was 15 after the Holocaust survives the whole thing and comes to America slowly slowly starts rebuilding his life this that and he decides he's going to somehow get AA he goes and he starts learning accounting he learns to be an accountant and after like four or five years of studying L that he gets married and he starts looking for a job starts looking for a job and there was one problem because of all the difficulties that he had he was a little bit of a bitter person was a bit of a bitter person and uh okay he starts for a job one place they you bring him for an interview didn't want him third place fourth place fifth place uh he found one job after 3 months they fired him he found another job only a few months later they also fired him and he started becoming really broken now when he in the Holocaust the Nazis had come into his house and right when they were coming his mother sent him to a room she covered him up with blankets and everything and the Nazis came into the house with their dogs searched the whole house the parents they took away but he survived they didn't they didn't find the kid he survived that's how he survived the whole Holocaust anyway finally finally finally after after mamash all this difficulty that he had trying to find a job one day he says to his wife you know what honey that's it I'm going to be a happy person I'm going to be a happy person I'm going to succeed imashi says I'm going to succeed I'm going to be a happy person and he completely changed his moods he's becoming happy this this that and and he sees in the newspaper he sees an ad for an interview calls up I would like to come to an interview fine ends up being the guy's a Jewish guy comes to the interview on Thursday and the guy impressed exactly the accountant that he needs everything is good he says great so come back he says I'm going to Baltimore for for Shabbat I'll be back on Monday come back Monday morning we'll sign for the job fine he's very excited this that comes Monday morning and he comes to the office and uh the guy says oh hi Hi how are you how are you yeah um you know I was thinking about over the weekend I don't think this I don't think it's going to really work out this that and he's like why what happened what do you mean you know when we spoke on Thursday you you were you were very excited everything he says no no I don't think it's going to work out this that so like tell me what what happened what changed you anyway within the talk ends up being then the weekend he was in Baltimore and he told tells his sister yeah I met this was interviewing a guy for an accountant I met this guy you we call him Sam hartstein seems like a great guy great accountant go Sam har I heard that name before wait he's a he's a holocaust Survivor right so he says yeah I think he mentioned yeah no no no no no he's a very bitter man you don't want to take him he's I know he went to other jobs and he wasn't he wasn't successful he's very bitter he's not he's not a motivated guy he I don't want to take him she goes he says are you sure I met this guy he seems like a very energetic guy he's very into it and he's very excited going to be a lot he's going to do a lot no no no don't put yourself in that situation don't don't she says are you sure I'm tell I'm telling you you don't want to do it fine he doesn't get the job 3 months later unfortunately he was diagnosed with cancer a year later he passed away right so his wife said the Holocaust he survived all the difficulties he survived but the that was spoken about him that he couldn't take this is the of us is to be is to understand was what destroyed but means just to understand there's always another side there's always something we don't know to truly want to care for every