Timely Shailos relating to Bochurim and Yungerleit with Rabbi Yosef Viener at Scheiner's Shul

Okay. There you go. Okay. These are all good. Okay. The um questions that were just sent in I saw right before I left. So we'll try to get to some of them. We still have some from last manim. So we're going to begin with a shil which has a lot of ashkaf to it also and then go to some of the that came up in the last few weeks and then we'll have some more toward the end. So if your shoo doesn't come up, it's never a bra. We have it in the folder and uh I think over the last five years we got to most of them. There are a couple that would take over the entire hour of this year. So if you sent it in and you see it's repeatedly not there, see me privately. Either we skipped it because it'll take too long or it's too sensitive to record or both. So, um, if you, uh, did send it in, you shouldn't think that it was being ignored. Okay, let's, uh, begin with something that's, uh, a real suggest there are here. There's also an important behind it. how not to get yourself into this uh issue mess in the first place. So let me read the three shilas that are related that are sent in and then we'll go one by one. When one loans his friend money, does he need aar ord? Now you're familiar that is trying to bring it down. There's slew of truum to discuss the meaning why people aren't doing this. It comes up in yeshiva all the time. It should still come up. People still have cash. Everybody's using their parents' plastic. There's still cash around. It used to be, believe it or not, you could buy something for a few quarters and a dollar or $5 and there are people occasionally borrow money. There are people habitually borrowing money which gets into the ashkaf of uh not uh healthy for their lifestyle, not gashmas and something. So, we'll get back to that. Do you need the garamar says you do and the gar says nothing to do with your from kite? It has to do with the fact that people forget. Then they forget and then sometimes they're going to be say all the sugis come up. You would think for a dollar, $5, $10 how much they going to do. But you'd be surprised they don't have it on them and they borrowed from eight different people and then sometimes they actually forgot and delude themselves into thinking that they really didn't borrow it. And Gumar says that it's a sh because as soon as you don't use aarella how rashi seems to learn like this that he already has in mind that I have a way to get away with it when he asked me for it and doesn't have proof mash he's handing him $5 and he's already thinking at that time he has a way to get out of it guess uh it's a fleeting thought but it's possible and lisa the is that either people or it was only said as a so even if it says so means you're not being on it's certainly a good thing to do you don't need an official with a certain you don't even need to aid them you can have as long as it's legible and your other option is if you don't want to start getting a paper and a pen Every time somebody comes to you in the hallway or in the dorm or in the dra for a dollar, $5, $10, you could tell him with a straight face and look serious. Otherwise, he's certainly not going to plan on paying you back. You tell him, I want this money back and we really should write. I don't have time. You don't have time. and if you forget or don't have the money or try to be got you or whatever the case may be but that's only if you don't pay me back cuz I don't want to be causing a you should have to come back as a cat or a dog or a parrot or something like that and that's not the mccur of the isser the is you got to pay back and the is you got to get back people get more scared by the googlims that's why I just mentioned it but lice You tell them you want it back, but if you don't pay it back, um going to be good people won't take advantage of that. Some people will. Some people think in the back of their mind you really wanted to give them a gift all along. Whatever their rationalization is la after hearing that you're probably saying it's kada to get a pen and a piece of paper, which it is because why shouldn't you get your money back? And the d is you're not supposed to loan it without that. So that's question number one. And question number two is the ribbish if you're borrowing a he says here a water bottle is a ribb issue there is an isa to loan something and the is that commodities whatever you're borrowing bottle of water they go up in price they can go down also but they go up and then when you give it back you're giving them something of greater value it's so it's officially user that's not wellnown is there any better there. And the cool law is between good friends and neighbors is that if it's something that doesn't have a big shot of use in the first place and people really this happens all the time. You borrow you're running a house, you borrow eggs from a neighbor, you borrow grape juice. So you borrow three quarters of a bottle, you have it toward the bottom, you want to pay back a whole bottle. That's already you're already paying back more value even though grape juice didn't go up. So if there's a hater, some kind of the hater is, if it's a very small amount, people aren't mockbid. Very uh hard thing to figure out, very dangerous because no one's going to admit to being makbid on getting back slightly less grape juice than they loan. So no one's going to say, "Yes, I'm looks ridiculous." But that doesn't really mean that and it's a ribbon not a sh could be a gene if you told them you get back the same amount but it's a ribb and you can peg the amount say the water bottle is how much is the bottle a water bottle just one and nobody buys them one at a time give me a price we up to now how much it's free over here a water bottle is free or water fountain is it free no sub that's Free as in zero. Boy, I should come here more often. I got uh So, uh free. Okay. And they don't run out. I guess uh no one's going to take advantage. So, yeah. So, now you have like a sex if the suffic went up and even in this lumber did I can go to Shiners and get it for free. That's not a great I'll think about that one. That's an interesting and that's news to me. But, okay. Uh so there is the sukia says is bufferish and you could peg it to a certain dollar amount um or think of some other possibility but there is initially a zera of salam and there again number of ways to uh to solve it. The last part is and this is often when it's a sizable amount and with berim even a nonsizable amount people are mocked on their dollar bills and their $5 bills and their credit cards which probably not theirs anyways they certainly should be makid. So if you become a tremendous balid on your parents hashb that's another shil some people just very bright with their credit cards and they uh they're sure the parents would love the of getting everybody a coke every mishma and a few donuts and so that's a sha and within reason it's um it's assumed I mentioned that because after tomorrow some of you might be for a few days on various uh trips and uh the shila comes up afterwards. Sometimes mitad the parents and sometimes mitad and if a parent asks me am to make good on a credit card that was spent after I give my own son muser but he paid for his friends uh to stand by it or not. You don't want to get into such a shila and you might have a level of um generosity that if it's not your credit card the owner might not have and treating everybody else is not so pushet. So if you're making such plans try to figure that out beforehand. Now you want the money back. So the final sha is are you allowed to ask for the money back or remind him of and if he doesn't have the money you know he doesn't have the money then it's uncert to ask for it back if he has some of the money you can ask for a partial payment he owes you $20 he's going to say I don't have the money he might mean I don't have all the money you can ask for 10 you can ask for one every little bit helps you ask him suffic say, but it doesn't apply over here. If you have a real reason to believe that he might have the money, then you're allowed to ask. If you're pretty sure that they don't, then you can ask. Don't means in general, not that he doesn't have it in his pocket. You have a right to ask him. He's going to say, "I don't have it." He might mean, "I don't have it on me." You can say, "Okay, you don't have it on you. You're going home tonight. Can you bring some or can you go back to the dorm? Can you have access to it? Which we don't really do today for sizable amounts. The don't do it. Why is you look at the whole mass and you haven't learned it. We take everything he owns and you force him to sell the house and you leave him x amount for him, not even his family, and he loses his house. He loses the furniture except for a table or chair. If he's a a wood chopper, you leave him a chainsaw and that's it. Nobody does that today. Why is that? The answer is the Gim aren't as mockb it's going to look cruel not even though you're allowed to do it the how much you're allowed to take and when and what do you leave them with that's not going to be an issue nowadays people want their 5 10 20 $30 $100 and it's your to pay them back in a timely fashion not that they'd have to n you there's a separate isser of telling a guy by certainly but even by loaning money it's Navla and there's a to be forthcoming and tell him when it's coming and do partial if you can and misop he's allowed to ask you for it unless he knows vada you don't have it. Uh the Ashkafa behind this uh is that there are people who are constantly borrowing money and they're doing it in a in a way which becomes unhealthy because what starts off as a dollar, $5, $10, $20 becomes a habit. And one of the things you have to learn earlier on in life from the gosh sticker point of view is not to have such hass and try to manage a budget because there are people who grow up and can't manage a budget. life is expensive. It's not always their fault, but sometimes it's just lack of training and alka. The fact that uh every market feeds on kin um not kenna safe from over here just ka and everybody wants what everybody else has is an old human issue. But if you feed into it and start doing things and have habits that can't be supported in wuknas that's going to be a big problem. You're going to run into you're going to run into and you're going to run into a lot of biser that you're running around trying to satisfy things uh over yontiff. Abra made the mistake. It wasn't a mistake. He actually knew what he was getting himself into but made the sake of asking me if I can quickly kazer over the smoking yont issue. It's not a hes on the smoking that we spoke about previously. And um he knows that it's yontiff. he can't do any vaping if it's electric or battery whatever and besides the kits and kidney issues. Um he just wanted to know smoking. So um he said I have a followup sh that's why I'm asking I said you remember what we said the smoking is man is very is based on a the original that it was healthy and no normal person can claim today it's healthy that people still claiming that it's very unhealthy but it's good for my digestion. Not sure what to do with that. If it raises havoc in the rest of the body and you think that the uh digestion is going better was a long time ago. He said that it was known to aid digestion and it was generally healthy. A certain general won't find out for a couple hundred years that it's dangerous. The was to make anything done. If it's not luau, then you're back to and it's far less, I'm happy to report, than 50% of the population. I've had Bam argue on that statistic. Um, and they're wrong. We don't let look at your group of four friends. One one told me, he says, "No, it's 75%." I said, "How do you know?" He says, "I know." Okay. I assumed he was looking at a very small group of people and even within his yeshiva it's not 75%. Barashan so it's the only really fact that it's healthy which is a very difficult argument to make. So then he tells me he says okay that was the he thinks he remembered something like that and so I said you remember I said it's it's really not a good thing to do. He said no. He remembered that I said that not everybody answered it. I said people remember what they want to remember. Uh aftering over the whole thing at Yeshua I said it's very shre this far is hard to come. Okay. So he remembered that I said so what's Shila now? He said I want to know is there's anything wrong with rolling cigarettes? Said rolling cigarettes. I learn a lot from these shilas as I go bananas to ban them. Rolling cigarettes. I said what are you rolling in there? I was afraid to ask. See he said no no tobacco. I said, "Okay, Bar Hashem." Uh, I said, "Why are you rolling it?" So, he starts telling me, he says, "Uh, certainly since the tariffs, you know how much a thing of cigarettes cost?" So, I said, "I don't know how much it cost." How much does it cost? Nobody here knows either. I'm getting a bunch of blank faces, but he said it's like u $18. So, I mentioned it to him. It's yontiff. I don't want to start a whole financial discussion, but it's part of this. said, "$18 is a lot of money. You have money like that?" He said, "No." I said, "Your parents are supporting this habit." That's again um that's again they have a right to ask you not to do things that are unhealthy. One of the questions coming up is is that strict? It's not direct kibb. I said, "But they certainly have a right to their own credit card. That's their money. That's not part of that. That's pushet." So he said, "Yeah, I know. and I'm trying to get better at this. I said, "So, what are you doing?" He said, "I'm borrowing it." I said, "That's great. And you're borrowing it. The money you pay $18. $18 is going up in smoke." Literally. I said, "What are you going to do now?" He said, "There are a lot of people to borrow from." I don't know what which part of the conversation was worse. I said, "How you going to pay back eventually?" He said, "I have good friends." You know what that means in English? They're going to be not a mahal in life especially to feed a habit like this especially he's not buying my yontiff so I mentioned uh before y different context that uh part of the feeding of this general which is not good and not healthy is the fact that if you look at what the country is doing in general America particularly is bad at this more than most countries is they also have habits of spending a lot of money and they're spending and spending and spending and without giving you a very deep economics lesson over here it is quite a fascinating with a lot of but one point to bring across so some of you might heard recently it's a big debate and it's getting worse and worse uh the U country as wealthy as this country looks is actually pretty seriously in debt. It's never been worse. You say, "How bad can it be?" You can't even think of these numbers. Anybody know what the number is? More than $20. They're buying a lot of cigarettes there. Most of it's actually spent on things that blow up and not cigarettes. It's uh the defense budget is in the trillions. Uh, as of a few weeks ago, I don't check these things very often, $36 trillion in debt. $36 trillion. I didn't repeat this to this book because then he'd say, "Okay, so for my $20, it's not going to make a difference." Uh, there's a big over here. There's a country uh and then there individuals. individuals to live like that are suddenly are from lifestyle where it's all about managing the gashmias having some of it but managing it and keeping it on a low burner as low as you can so you can pursue your rnas and there's an inverse relationship we all loves quoting the yami that you go to the ele and you have to say that you enjoyed all the gashmas we know and we also know the msarm who has a very different shot in what that means but we're having goshmas the question is how and what habits are we creating and what level and what lifestyle. And you hear $36 trillion with a T. Now, if you're not familiar with how many millions go into a billion, how many billions go into a trillion? It's a lot of money. How do you become $36 trillion in debt? So, you shouldn't get any ideas from this because uh humans who are private individuals can't do this. America can for the meanwhile. Shila is uh you know what the formula is just to I don't want to dwell on this it's a fascinating topic how they do it obviously they're borrowing money printing money is not the vert the printed money is about maybe 10% of the circulation of the money that's what I started with today the printed money is going out of style they want to discontinue the pennies for a while the nickels the dimes the the dollar bills everybody's swiping plastic and zelling and all sorts of things and uh 10% is the printed money and It's going to get less and less. The $36 trillion, how do you how do you run up a bill like that and it's getting worse. The pella is it used to be a Democrat spent all the money. Now some of the Republicans want to lift the debt ceiling and get rid of it. I mean, they want to just be totally no goodarm, nothing. That's otherwise you got to go through Congress and have a whole fight every time you want to lift the debt ceiling. So they want to get rid of it for different reasons. There's an important hashkuff over there. Maybe remind me next van manum. By that time the national debt will be 100 trillion. We might have to go back to it. But it's not healthy for them either necessarily. But for individuals you can't do it. Why is the country doing it? So they have for now for the last um 100 plus years they have seemingly an limitless amount of people who are willing to buy the national debt. It's considered the safest investment in the world. It's called treasury bills and treasury notes and it's open market and they sell billions of dollars every day and they keep raising money. Amazing system and the the appetite they just keep it's a safe investment. They pay interest and whenever they want to raise another billion dollars every hour they just sell treasury bills. So I know you're all thinking I why can't I do that? we'll start uh we'll start a and we'll sell the answer is yeah you can start a corporation and sell corporate bonds but you got to be a somebody to do that it's not a mahal for life it's a question whe mahal for governments but it causes a tremendous amount of damage for individuals because it just keeps pushing it down pushing it down and there's no self-control and and these shasers are great shilas if you do have to borrow money once in a while what's with the ribbons and the service and how do I get the money back if I loaned it it's a nice thing and you can buy your friends can look and you can loan money once in a while be nice about it but understand that the system in general is not a healthy system and it leads to a lot of bitter and a lot of uh Kashmir and ty and it needs to be controlled so that's for now nobody should go home worrying about the $ 36 trillion that seems to be under control for now nobody looks here too worried I'm not sure why uh translates into x amount of debt per citizen that's all of you and if it gets out of control with what they're worried about, it's going to become a big problem for everybody. Right now, Kosh Bo is always winning the world and they seem to be able to raise the money, but that's for a different day. The next question, one family still has should they try not to? And what about Yashan? So must have touched upon some of this years back. Yashan is a is much more than those who were being if you live in Muny or any from community that has a lot of things at the shelf. There's no like anything that's if you're labeling it as a humra it's not all or nothing. And there's still some people who say that they need product X and that's their whole gashmas and that's Kalam. Okay Lisa it's never been easier and the Shila is appearing less and less. If the family is still not with that program certainly don't misus and most parents who are sending to yeshivas will have nas when they're taking on which are not that difficult at all and there won't be if there is you have to ask a personal the yashon the good news is as we stand here right now you could take on the it's very easy now that's why I didn't bring this up sukus this is still from before sukus it's going into the winter is if you're not used to it, it's not hard because it's come out between now and 10 years ago. It's different the day and night come out every bakery and every hamish operation with and the national organizations are not promising yashan even though they're helping out a lot in sourcing all the ingredients because they have access to the big companies. They're not here to give a hashkah for people only a mak and yashen. But again, if you live here in Matzi and Brooklyn, Lakewood and all the other places that have availability, it's never been easier and you have to almost go out of your way to have after Pesak. Needless to say, it's mut till they start shipping the new stuff in August. That gives you till next banim. If you want to hear more about it when you send in the shilas for the pre-ele we'll maybe touch upon it. Lamite said it's never been easier and the shil over there in the debate is an isa not a dinder. So if you compare the two yash is a lot more hummer is uh important and very easy to do. somebody's taking one not the other that's a difficult chila pash yashan would win but it's not exclusive and you want to be um with people who have these hurim because there's still plenty of goshmas to go in yashan and now and 5 years ago 10 years ago it's the exception rather than the rule that a company that's serving the from public is not now so it's not going to cause if it because obviously you have to be very careful on the same note to the kibova aim. So the question would get somebody nervous but it's important to address. They want to know if the parent is asking you to do something or not do something that is not directly under kud which is servicing them with the examples of the gam helping them out doing errands to them cleaning for pes helping them out that's direct kibb and they want to know if the parents just have requests to do or not do other things assuming they ask their own shas is it mut to disobey them and this is a big suga and there are many who hold that it's not but under yura, which means it's a lack of error to disregard their wishes when they're asking you something normal. Sometimes the children don't think it's uh within the realm of what everybody's doing. But quite often they're wrong and even a little bit if there is a hold it's under which is the kada do some hold it's not officially or under the problem is so he wants to know is there something to be problem is you get into lying and stretching the truth and being you're going to have a big problem so evenly it says not directly it's not under which is why get into I live with arisa. You end up being asked like what'd you do? Where were you? Are you doing this? You do and it gets them upset. Nobody wants to there nothing's going on in this life. Nobody wants to go to Shamayim and find out that they were Messiah the parents and technically there was a pur is not under the covenant. Yeah, they're messiah the parents. And if not then you're going to try to hide it. You're going to get into lying and we all know if you haven't found out yet when you start lying you end up lying more. And it never ends well. It always blows up. And uh it's a horrible habit says one of the only places besides it being which many peasants say it is. Means it's habitual and you get into it and it's not uh not healthy. So I don't advise it. Uh technically is it under is very simple. Shiloh which u I said over this morning in 2 minutes and I won't take much longer now but comes up a lot of a yantif and it's important to know what to do and a lot of people find it aish they're not sure why they didn't know it was a shabas it comes up every shabas and every yontiff they don't know the history because certainly when there's a ka around sometimes it has wings and they don't realize how serious the shil is what am I referring to so if um I realized I didn't get back to the shila by the way of that of rolling that thing and uh it's not looking at it to anybody. So just in terms of shop Yantiff I I asked him right away I never saw him do this. He I said how do you get it to stick together like isn't going to fall apart? He said no no there's a sticky adhesive like an envelope with saliva. So I said um that's a shila. He wants to close it and take him on. He said no I didn't want to do it anyway. It's a shila. I said I think the other Shil is a little worse than the possibility of the KTS. But that was the Shila he was leading to that Hashem never heard the Shila before. I hope I don't hear it uh too much going forward but again if somebody has a Shila they should not be afraid to have Shilas. What's the most common sh that happens at your table on Shabas and Yantiff when they're serving regular food drink maybe you know what you are doing already or not doing so you don't even think it's a what's the most common sha comes up at the table anybody lotion no I'm not talking about the conversation what opening cans opening bottles so opening cans interesting thing you said it that way opening cans we don't do come out to all the peskim if you were doing it you don't have to bring a carbon katus uh we saw yaka fisher was a and the badat held do with mutter but we don't open cans so I'm glad you phrased it that way you just did it for the ter uh cans like the real cans the soda cans look the papa so we don't open cans we try not to open up can shop as he did if you have a family davka they followed the mia to the peskin who held it was so the plastic not the metal caps the plastic caps on soda bottles and the plastic on water bottles and in salt bottles is a sh more of a sh than people realize there many PS come out of who hold this you got to break that seal you hear noise when you open it up and you're creating a k many based on just the history is important looked at this thought about this when it first came out a few decades ago for like a year or two when he first saw it somebody brought to him a kish he thought he's so interesting he thought about it he developed it might say he came out that he thinks it's mutter. The kilik between the metal and the plastic. If there is a kilik is that if you know how they make the metal, it's a flat metal piece. Goes by the machine, the machine actually press it down hard and makes it over the bottle and the first time you opened it up, it's now a functioning metal cap where the dotted line is now expanded. So your mamage made a cle. So by metal, it's a real shy dera. The plastic I saw it myself is an entire plastic cap ready to go and it just forces it on. So yes, you're still widening it. That's the Dian is that making it clear not there many pes not well known. It's like somebody doesn't open up plastic the tama might be more pesk than m but if you're lying mascara even though he had to think about it for a while then fine is there that's uh that was no g the last seven days. Is it more? So the short answer to that is there's not a big has a where he develops two possibilities of he says himself he's says maybe if it's mamish the cle you're taking it out of it's not like you're making a can can opener to do something is the step before maybe it's he says that wouldn't help if it's water because you're supposed to do it before even holds this mutual hold. You should cook beforehand. Say there were a lot of guests and there were 100 bottles of water and you couldn't and you didn't get to it. You could do it with a shinoi would be over here. His other side is it's you're opening up a thing and the side you're making a clear then it would be over here. Now be careful with this. We really but it's which is very rare means the is you can do it but don't tell anybody which means I shouldn't be saying this certainly not in the video and the very other things. So Ram says that even though it's so why is he writing it he says he thinks that this wouldn't apply over here because the only reason they made which is a very unusual category is because it's something that people can confuse. something broke and now you think you can fix it and next time you'll wait to to fix it. You could have fixed it before here. By definition, the minute gets to open up bottles when you are ready to consume them and therefore maybe there's no that's a very quick review. If you learn the if you didn't you should learn the sug if you can make a would be possibly between salts and water. Selzer loses its fizz. Water you open it before yontiff takes five minutes open up all the bottles doesn't lose anything. There's nothing to lose. The seltzer if you open it and close it quickly probably won't lose much fizz either. So the question about whether it would apply to seltzer but that's where the discussion starts. And again if no one around the table is even aware of this is kad bring up don't attack anybody but it's a shilon chabas and yonte people think is completely hutra. It's still a shila and this comes up at every single yanta table. So it's kadai to uh to kazer and just know what the family meaning is going to be. Okay, last one uh from the old ones. We'll get to a couple of the new ones. Somebody wanted to know this is the first time nobody sent in a shas any head to the davin after this man. We finally settled that problem. No, we're getting somewhere. Nobody nobody sent in the sh must be everybody knows even though it comes up in this context. So somebody at my table wanted to know what the heter is to eat afterice. We made by at least a minute sometimes two minutes. We did not make which is the we made with some effort. As you all know, the be over here means be be very careful. doesn't say it's also it doesn't say it's which is where the discussion starts but it does say and it's try if you can to eat the bench and say hal before as well which some people manage to do which is obviously harder so this person wanted to know a fair question a lot of people do not make and some people don't even try Is there ish on that good of the so I told him that the is clear you should try to make is even more clear however the reminds you how long you have forb says the whole night says carbon So they patented it after whatever the carbon pes is and that would mean you have to eat. Why do we ask in who should we ask like what what's the if you don't know any better obviously whatever you say after going to argue but what would your starting point be no what right so you have the whole night at the end says it doesn't really help that much perhaps because the answer would be have to finish says why should we pass because a number of that seem to indicate so maybe it's an exception to the rule that's so over here you have av where there's already and somebody who is being has something to be and there were aim that said that if it's too difficult there's room to be uh they say it of the name s doesn't have a tr on it but written by tidim who knew knew what was going on. Uh you got to be careful whenever you have who's quoting what but uh in a good leafer and there's even a that who was known to have a sed that went to the morning because that's part of the den to have a seder and talk and learning about the whole night. So even that's so the stand up is that you should make an attempt a strong attempt at during the discussion the person who's asking kept on pushing and he said well says I said yes and you should try to do it and no one's on doing that he is a very strong Russian so he voted out he said well what's this and that and ding after this man I said well they're two different sugis over here dominion on the planet then or now who says allow to d after the it doesn't exist it existed and even this was a big if you're doing four hours of and you just can't get up any earlier 3 in the morning I have reason to believe that somebody getting into the shah might not be doing four hours of aam maybe not even an hour maybe not even four minutes um so Even the who was a big 150 years ago that's a well-known okay that's well not that's the whole this is very different you'll have larger percentage of people I'm not pushing it I try to finish and we're successful come out all the years it's not to start up for no good reason says vire but there's a big between that and ding bisma I mentioned that that I mentioned at the beginning of we can't have don't attack anybody and you can and all the other good they're doing it can't become where somebody who is being ma to d at 9:30 that's mysterious nephesh already as is looked at as a mm and the baseline then becomes in the collective minds of people that it's somehow to set up your schedule like that and there is no shita like that. It doesn't exist. People are shocked to hear it. So here we managed to put it in even though nobody sent it in as I'm just contrasting it. if you have to choose your coolers eat the African after I'm not pushing the agenda but there's more to be to be on and the only reason I'm bringing it up even though nobody sent it in because um a few of the parents mentioned to me that they want to know they came to me the Russia are they missing something I said what's the I don't know it seems to be unlike five years ago it seems to be like nobody's even mentioning by the way this is and it's a it's an old after I said forget all that there's no that holds the shittita came from the aas of many hours of a and kaduca which is normally not what's fueling this now so he said well if you'd land from Mars he tells me I wouldn't get that impression I said you're right and I don't have a defense. That is not to attack any individual. Certainly any institution. Certainly the fine institution that's being terror right now. Um it's not necessarily uh their setup. It's the Shiloh of what the people are gathering to do. It just can't be a new mess that within this man is a new hiddra for somebody who's very yeshivish or very nothing to do with anything. So that's that part is a mitzvah of fire without attacking anybody and by if you're by your parents or and they're going after that's where the sha came up. They were at my say that we made kat by a minute but we made it and last year he was somewhere else and he said should I mention something I said sorry to be such a makeel but no you have keep it of aim you have your grandparents if there that wasn't the mira then don't bring it up you can mention that by the way last you somewhere else and you know it's doable this if they want to do it then wonderful and it's good to be with the ra but that's very different than the shila of tu. Okay, that's not going to come up next, Benosman. So, at least we uh we covered it. Somebody just sent this in again right before I came. I'm not sure on the Matsias. I'll just mention it and if the person can either yell out from the floor here or tell me afterwards what the MSAS is, but he quotes a very very large corporation that sells millions of dollars oft mention the names. Not sure where their MSAS came from. He says, "How can they sell it if their insurance policy won't cover the gym who they're selling it to?" So what he's asking is if that's true, it's a good sha. He says, "Obviously, there's no Girzas because if the insurance won't cover it, no one's going to take such a risk. So whoever sent in the Shida, I'd like to know where they got this piece of information from. I can't speak for the insurance companies. I would understand insurance companies like denying claims and that's how they stay afloat. But it's understandable if an insurance company would say we insured you. It's under his ownership. We didn't insure them if they want to be difficult. Lisa, we don't change the property. The property is still there. The security is still there. Whatever we got under the insurance policy is all there. Why would they be obstinate? So, um it's quite an allegation. If it's true, then it's taka good sha whoever sent that in. if they can see me afterwards. Uh I I think the there is a possibility insurance would cover it. Of course, if they cover it after a lawsuit, sometimes you have to do that to pressure them to cover it, which is fine. They want to defend themselves. And they say that it's not you and the policy and they say, "Nah, that was just a mak just for religious purposes." That's a problem. And that came up that came up already in the time of safer where they told the government somebody was martian that they weren't paying sales tax and there's millions of dollars of copex of things being sold before their holiday and they're not paying sales tax and they were summoned to the government and they gave that answer. They said, "Nah, it's just a religious thing." Which created a storm and all the trouv it's not a sale. We don't pay sales tax. So, ends up at least in that neck of the woods, Fran was a nice guy as emperors go, as ruthless tyrants go. And he said, "Uh, I'm Michael the tax. I I know it's causing a problem. It's a real sale. We're choosing not to put sales tax on it." So, Shila says, "What is the insurance company saying?" interesting shila, but I'd like to know what the MSAS is. Um, there are two more pes pes sh in here. One is about the garbage bags. There is a kilik between let's say Lakewood and Muny. Uh, when you put out your garbage in your garbage bin, just you'll know for next year in Muny as far as I know where we live just north of here, we own the garbage bins. That's our clay. It's our rash and we own it. And if you put it out there and unless you were peel it, unless you did something very serious, they peg them all the garbage through and through, it's sitting in your cleat. I believe in Lakewood they have a thing where they sort of lease it or it's somewhat owned by the municipality. You have to check out in each county how that works. Then if it's theirs, then it's not my rash. Certainly if I push it off the immediate property. So this um baka wants to know why is it mut even if it's not my say I'm taking out putting on the street it's in my garbage bag why isn't my clay kina the answer to that is that your clay is not kind of because you're putting out the garbage bag with the garbage and your maf everything and that is not an issue whatsoever and that was always the miniig certainly book place like this where a lot of put it out that your mouth great and that heer works just an interesting saying march a number of people this year forgot to do something Shabas's morning anybody remember what it was now that you might remember you forgot to do it what they call kamir that's the number one a number of people asked it for every five people that asked another 10 people didn't want to ask uh so the good news is just the lum is important you'll check this out during the during this month uh there um most people ate the kits they owned there was a couple of bags worth and they said to call on leikts there is a on this um a lot there's a that holds that if and you say something it might go to my so there might be some value to saying that even at that point even though put it in your but you have no right to maf if it's heer and can you be maf so just for the lumpness of it if you get to those sugas look for a concise uh it's very interesting rate on garbage bag. It's garbage bag. What? It's you take garbage bag, you fill it with garbage. We finicky Americans wouldn't go near the thing and we don't want to know from it and it's way the curb and that's very hefter and it's again not in your bin in your bins but you put it aside. I I it's good to do it and if you're saying you're doing that over here but it's it's that you're uh that your mitten. Okay, one more. I'm leaving you with two cases the concise you have to find yourself and um it's quite an interesting uh application of the suga. Um, somebody wanted to know how there could be any shittita and there are shittas that Alisa Shakar and Raam is a set 72 minutes. If it's pretty clear from the sug from the msia is that it depends on where you are on the globe, latitude, longitude. And whoever asked the shila, I'm not going to address it now. We have no time and we have a lot to get to. But it's an excellent shila. I have been looking for a long time and I have one safer at home that's over a thousand pages. is the safest written just on this sha and after thousand pages I don't think he answered the question but nice try and a lot of but uh I still think the strongest right I'm not saying it's not and you have to understand everything but you have to try to understand to say the 72 minutes because that's an average that's what they kept that's did that's wonderful and you should do that to say that it doesn't change and based on the mas around the globe it's very difficult to justify it and I haven't seen the terrorists yet. Adab whoever asked the shila if you find the terrors throughout the year please let me know just I'll saving you time if you want to buy that one safer that's over a thousand pages I got to the end already and I I still didn't see an answer but maybe somebody's working on another one I'm sure there is a terrorist I'm not trying to make the exist how with [Music] the one of the surprising things that uh we should think about and can be missed in the sedar it's only x amount of time in the evening either till the morning if I were to ask you who is the biggest Adam Russia who's the biggest villain of everything we're learning about you know it's a trick question already so you're not going to say the obvious answer but if you wouldn't know that I'm asking the question give me a name there's one name that comes to mind begins with a Okay, that should be easy. No, you had somebody else in mind. Okay. Yeah. So, it's not that pel is not. Okay. You would think it's pyro. Yeah. But it says pyro is only we're not trying to make pyro look good. Why? Why? There's contrast. But if there's going to fall apart. So why is there a we're not going to address that now? So it's one parag. The worst person that we discuss and points this out for a reason is love. Why is that? So if you look this is um we would say in the uh the expressions we use today say this is very under the radar what we're going to discuss but it's extremely important and it shouldn't be no but it is we have to know how to protect ourselves. The Rambam when he brings this down has an interesting lawb and you almost don't notice it and it's interesting how he learns this Rambam but there's certainly a possibility there's no extra word in the Rambom as we know Rambam spells out that's and then if you want to look this up afterwards which is the parame. So you could say the whole par about the par does start with it seems to be there something we have to know about love and specifically that has to be brought up at the sed afterwards you have to come out of pes with it. So what is that is that love one was more dangerous than everybody else because par wore whatever you picture Hmon wearing but it's a three corner hat's a different story people stop confuse that with George Washington there's no sh anything and um whatever you picture Russia looking like what did love one look like he looked like a nice uh zi who pretended to want what's good for the family and he had tinus and you taking away my children and not only want they're good and he gives a whole long draw and love whitewashed everything and he pretended to be a pretty decent fellow and Yakavinu understood quite well that's what made him more dangerous. So you remember at the end of as Yakavina ran without telling him because he didn't want any more than him didn't want the family to have any more sh. So loven runs after him, catches up with him. He's warned by Kbach not to start up. And Loven says, "I could have done this. I could have done that." He's still talking with Ga and he says, "You know, let's at least make a deal. We'll make a treaty. Not going to start up with each other." Like all treaties we make with son Israel, we keep our side and they don't keep theirs. Bum who was love on his grandson of Gilgal came afterwards crushed his uh foot in this monument of of because the Malik tried to remind him and he didn't want to be reminded the over there at the end of and they start building said make a little more okay but we're leaving after this heavy lifting literally the rocks they're making a large pile and Rashi over here says is it children good idea to keep in mind that you're here not only you're here to help parents and be give them so Rashi says over here is one of they're right behind they're helping stay away from and protect him and they're building this thing so they can get done with it and leave. The Pik then goes on to say that after they had a built love and again gives a drussa and he says remember we put this up and I'm not going to come and harm you even though he will and then he puts in his kir this is the nice froml looking fellow eloh so he slips in so I believe in hem and I believe in a little bit in the mix tries to slip it in that was his whole purpose eloh mixes them both together who says no no no with the one and only para ends again calls and they sit down and they have a meal. So Rash says is family points out he obviously Rashi changes from within the same peric to mean two completely different things. So Rabak asked how did he know that and the answer is he's not inviting his children who are the of to this suda before you use this in real time with family dynamics. Ask a shila but la misa you see how toxic he understood it was that if we ran we ran for a reason and we were looking like we're going and he had tinas the man's dangerous because he's basically suggesting that you could be very Jewish and we can have traditions and we can be one happy family just don't be too focused everything should be yiddishkite And unfortunately there are people and they don't know it themselves. Sometimes there are people and agendas and uh things being said over and being framed in certain ways that are if you dig down even a little bit and you're aware of it are completely completely the opposite of what we're supposed to be doing in terms of our shifas and our direction as Benra and as from people who are supposed to be trying to build the year of Shamayim and not just the gash is over the top which we spoke about at the It's the fact that things are being passed on as not so bad and yes for yes and it's a free country free country we're very happy and wonderful we have the freedom if they let us do what we want freedom doesn't mean taking in every kroah hashkafa and bending and watering down and serving everything light that's what love and stood for and barashm everybody I'm speaking to now is going back into the man and the ones who are not going back into yeshiva. I have a funny feeling your parents and a lot of other people and sisters listen to this as well. So the sites they don't have to look up but lameisa this is where the battle is. It used to be a battle where they were saying outright kira every day so you knew who the enemy was. Today a lot of times the people repeating such things or doing certain things don't realize where it's coming from and don't realize how harmful it is and it's seeping in slowly but surely and the people who know better often are doing it with an agenda to just let in a little bit at a time and still act like the very concerned grandfather as loving was but lice behav It's a pella of all the horrible things going on in the and all the shibuim and all the andal highlight. The most dangerous thing was love on a is if you give a little bit it just gets the piercer gets wider and wider going into man. You have to know that uh in the best of places there's always going to be madregas of various uh types of people with different shifers. Hopefully everybody's working on themselves. We try to be everybody's friend to keep shalom. But as we all know in life, not everybody's your best friend and not everybody's you have to have lines drawn on what you're going to listen to, what you're going to talk about what you're going to agree to sometimes just listening and smiling and not being doesn't mean you have to be going around like a canoy looking for. It does mean though that especially nowadays certain things come up and sometimes they're kadeshar you don't even realize how bad it was the fact that it's even the fact that it's being discussed and if you do know you have to be able to shut it down and end the conversation because we're talking about changes in slowly slowly but surely and most of the people hopefully I'm looking at are don't even know half the things and they just stay that way. But understand we're in uncharted territory because scholar a couple hundred years ago they didn't mince words and they just said we're out of here and they started asking cashes on everything which is a little bit easier to handle. Wasn't easy but easier because okay you're coming here to get rid of Yiddish guys that we're not interested except for the people due to the hardships and persecutions who were but we're not talking to them right now. We're talking to Unar mentioned who are with the program. So the new tactic is just let it seep in slowly and just say it once say it twice let it be wasn't any big explosion so it's okay people are okay with it and inch your way forward that's beha we need incentives is okay everybody needs everybody needs the is in your new matzah of your old matzah but every m is What are you choosing to be with in terms of which mativ which type of growing? can't grow in everything and no one's perfect and you shouldn't look down on them by the or if you took care of that to the end of the hopefully you chose well and you had you have to look at it at the beginning of the you got to look at it in the middle of the where you're holding what the conversation is in the dra what the conversation is but the suda what the conversation sometimes and the best med shouldn't be a conversation and is something seeping in is this uh growing on people and again without getting into you don't have to get into mak have different levels and sometimes not an open mak it's just like moving away I don't have to listen to this I'm not sure that it's completely chrome you could ask a shila I'm not sure it's completely chrome half chrome half chrome is completely chrome and I'm not sure it's good for my rrook often the last question you can answer yourself if it's not a positive thing for you then you should be trying to upgrade and the more you upgrade the less of a pool there be of the people who want to push these agendas and then everybody will be forced to grow. And that can be done most of the time bashalam and sometimes bashalam afterwards but we have to be on the lookout for the bikes and um it could show up even in the uh yeshiva could show up in a shaw it could show up in the street in front of the yeshiva in front of the shaw and we have to be careful we have to be able to at least it's good to be simple and not complicated it's not good to be a complete pesy that you don't even know that what was just mentioned without anybody noticing was something that just downgraded everybody's shifas. That's important to keep in mind for the nuzman and mashem uh before lol will uh try to put a little bit more into that but the musmoo before a summer is not the same as before although it probably should be because you have a whole mod ahead of you and mashm everybody will and everybody will stag without any think polluting the atmosphere in between. Okay.