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Well, why'd you waste seed today? How'd you know I wasted seed. That's something you're doing in secret. You're ashamed of yourself after you waste seed.
Not a person in the world that's proud of wasting seed, even, even the goyim. It's a fear.
It's a natural feeling to be like ashamed.
It's a natural feeling.
Tells him, why are you wasting seed? you know you know you're wasting seed know what it says in the gemara when wasting seed.
I'll give you, its actually in the gemara shabbat. Gemara shabbat, the second one. Relevant to this parashah
says gemara in shabbat
gemara in shabbat
Rabbi Eleazar omer
[Hebrew for:] whoever holds
his male member while urinating
is considered as if he's bringing on the mabul to the world?
Says, when you go and urinate if you're holding your male member. For those who don't know, that means penis.
Now we have to be clear these days. We do. Excuse my language.
It's a normal term. It's not a -- it's not a foul or a derogatory term, but you have to be clear these days.
When a man goes to the bathroom,
Chazal says you're not allowed to touch it.
That's why the Chasidim. By the way, the Chasidim
They have these special underwear
It's like a boxer short -- big boxer short, and they positioned their male member into the hole. They don't touch it all.
That gets a little training to do.
But point is you could also
Sit down
This logistical it's not that difficult. Put it that way it's not that difficult, but
Rabbi Eleazar omer, says someone that actually holds their member when they're going to urinate.
We're not even talking about wasting seed. So we usually go urinating. Something you do three four five seven eight nine times a day.
Says you're holding your male member you're bringing the mabul.
Why are you bringing the mabul? Because what do you think made the guy think about go and wasting seed?
What made you ... what made the guy ..
so comfortable with actually doing such a thing?
Because to Avraham Avinu
Ish kadosh, Ish Kadosh, his male member and his finger -- same thing:
This is Kadosh. That's Kadosh
Just like I'm not gonna violate my finger and put it into fire. I'm not gonna violate my brit and put that into fire.
I'm not just gonna waste seed --violate the Torah in the biggest sin in the world. Chasfer Shalom!
What gets a person to a level of
comfort?
Where he feels okay to touch himself?
Chazal says, well, he goes to urinate so he touched himself then, and he gets comfortable with it.
This is a problem already. Why?
Because as soon as he has yetser hara go inside
he continues and it
becomes much worse it brings the mabul. Why brings the mabul?
That's what the parashah says. The parashah says that Hashem was willing to accept all sins.
They did this. They did this. They did they did all types of sins.
They did all types of sins when did they break the camel's back?
They broke the camel's back when they started wasting seed.
The world became corrupt. The biggest sin
was not just the stealing that people thought. People think the pshat says they were stealing.
In the pshat, they were stealing
But it actually is stealing nashamot. It's stealing the fortune of others so. Where do we know it? When Hashem yitbarach
Hashem yitbarach,
gave the seven laws of Noach to to Noach
so one of the initial ones is to give him the
mitsvah of do not murder, but in the mitsvah of do not murder
We learn about wasting seed, how it's a big sin both for Jews and non-jews.
So in the parashat Noach,
chapter 9 verse 6, Hashem yitbarach says to Noach
[Torah verse in Hebrew]
So this -- I've gone over this verse in the past and I'll give you guys a Chidush about it. So the verse six, it says
Someone who spills the blood of a man within a man his blood will be spilled.
So the blood of a man we know that's regular blood, but the blood of a man within a man that's seed.
That's seed so we see it literally in Hebrew talking about seed.
So someone that wastes seed his blood will be spilled because in the image of God, Hashem created man
So now,
Why is this the stealing that HaShem yitbarach was referring to?
Why is this the corruption that HaShem yitbarach was talking to? because the very following verse -- verse seven
After he says don't spill seed because that's considered murder.
What's the purpose of you even having seed? What's the purpose of you even having a body according to the Rambam?
Puru uBuru that's what the next mitsvah is. it says [quoting a Hebrew verse]
it says, [Hebrew for:] in you'll be fruitful and multiply,
Teem on the earth and multiply on it.
Right after he says don't waste seed, he says go and use that seed to bring children to the world
Meaning that the corruption
-- the stealing that he's talking about
was not stealing five dollars from Tsvika and Shmully.
He's stealing the fortune of the neshamah that have been sitting in shamayim, and want to come to us.
He's stealing their fortune. Why are you wasting them? You're killing them?
That's why you're supposed to not waste it and actually use it.
That's why those two are connected as they do so now when a person wants to run away from such a sin
Wants to run away from such a horrible,
horrible sin, it's very critical for them to do a couple of things:
Number one:
They have to continuously learn about the subject
Is to learn about the significance of the sin why it's so bad to waste seed.
There's a three and a half hour shiur we did in New York that
every person every guy whether they have this problem or not should watch that shiur at least once a month.
It's mamash an overview of everything. Then there's about at least a handful or half a dozen or so different short
clips just like we did now about the subject. Watch those again all of them at least once a month. That's one.
Two. You have to train your eyes to stop looking where they don't belong.
Because your eyes
Says in the mitzvah of tzittzit
[Hebrew verse]
The things of your heart are the things of your of your eyes.
Why your eyes?
Because what you see is what you gonna end up thinking about when you go to sleep is what you gonna end up thinking about
when you pray. It's what you're going to think about when you're with your wife if you're married.
So don't look where you don't belong you have to watch your eyes. That's number. That's number two number. We already covered that. Number three
What's that Chiddush? Number three is we listen to this gemara in Shabbat. We have to start training ourselves
to not only not touch our body
as often as we do as
as comfortably as we do but mamash get to a point where you don't even look there.
Now, I know this sounds to most guys this sounds like I'm expecting you guys to be Rebbi, to be Yehuda haNasi.
It's not that hard.
It's not that hard. You get used to it
It's hard at the beginning. It's not as hard as your yetzer hara is telling you right now. Right now it's telling you
This is -- this guy's expecting us to be kriat yam suf.
Moshe rabbeinu, Yeshua ben Nun,
Nachshon ben Aminadab, Yaakov Avinu altogether. No it's not the hard.
It's not that hard and the reason why I'm telling you is because
The less comfortable you are with your own body, the more holy you're making it. The more holy you make it,
the less likely to violate it.
So
One thing is -- that's easy easy -- piece of cake:
From now on when you go to the bathroom regardless of one or two, sit down.
Regardless of whether it's one or two, sit down.
That already eliminates the issue of holding the member or not member and again
This is mechilah [Hebrew words], but this is a reality issue.
This is an issue that needs to be talked about.
So sit down to try to do whatever you can not to touch your member directly.
Three.
Only look if it's necessary
It's really not that necessary to look
it really isn't. Only looking if it's necessary. As far as you think this is this is from you, Lo baShamayim hi.
And I promise you that when eventually with your wife
Eventually when you're using it for whatever pleasure you want to use it for with your wife
Everything is even better than you thought. It's still there. It doesn't run away because you didn't look at it.
It still works.
Everything is there everything is wonderful. It's even better.
It's even better.
But that's the thing
This gemara, this parasha, this mishna. It all connects. How? it's Hashem yitbarach.
Point being is that somebody needed to hear it, and that's why HaShem said it because this was definitely not part of the shiur.
