Dr.David Liberman & Rabbi Feldman

I good afternoon everybody we're lucky enough to have with us here he shoots ferris tire in a conference room with the proper social distancing of course a very very important parent of ours to talk to David Lieberman who is parents of four tonight a heart for wonderful beautiful children which we see that apple doesn't fall far from the tree it's already graduated we're still have two more with us and dr. David has been speaking to people about our situation and what dr. David calls the new normal of our times and we'd like to hear a little bit from from the doc some message what he could have conveyed to us in the this time in the situation thank you so hello I am speaking to a lot of people and I have to tell you if there's one prescription one bit of advice I can offer is cut yourself some slack this is a new normal it's the schools of working best they can you're working the best you can in your houses function the best they can I would encourage you to recognize that things are not going to be the way that they've been and that's okay it's not going to be perfect it's not going to be near perfect there are a lot of Kings that still have to be worked out with the schools with the ones jobs and with the education at the home and so on but the most important thing I think that you can do for yourself for your family is just to take a deep breath relax take a step back and remind yourself that even if you're treading water it's so beneficial you know a person this is crediting water to building muscle they may not be moved from point A to point B but that's not the objective now the objective now if it's a win in your collar it's a check mark in in the win if you simply just stay afloat and that's that's a message here what would you say to parents who are possibly having a little bit of a difficult time getting their kids to focus on a teleconference and getting them to just mentally prepared to be able to sit a desk without other kids with them not being in front of the Rebbe and seeing him visually what would he say to them I had to prepare for them excellent so the number of very practical things number one this is true the kids were true for yourself you have to limit distractions if you've got his little sister in the corner of the room and you're somebody else listening to a zone and the parents I think it doesn't work the more privacy and quiet you can give and the more you respect your child's time and make sure that it was quiet they know that so-and-so is learning now the more they're going to be able to to value that time and take advantage of it but distractions have to go second is everything in the house again just my my thinking in general it has to be done to tsimko the only way that you get someone excited about something you transmit energy is if you're excited so if you're like huh guys finally everyone got any calls come on who's doing this why don't you do that and it's what me no one wants to be but let's come out of the room so if you can be as much as joyful as you can see all the appliances in the front and if you can't offer something after that when we're done learning we'll go ahead and well I don't know go ahead and we'll make this or you know some we were trying to do like a night where each child would sort of cook their own addition make something fast and make something fun but number one again limit distractions number two is you have to do to some cut and you have to take it seriously if you don't take it seriously if you're not excited that the child's not going to be right I'd like to add to that that we're not taking advantage of enough of reaching out to the Rebbe and and asking him if possibly maybe the voice is too low maybe to tweak something maybe the rebate would would love to reach out to the children privately if you feel like your son needs a one-on-one don't feel like you're like you're pressuring the Rebbe the Rebbe am are definitely or teachers are willing to put them I was out there and call your son privately and don't feel like you're treating by calling up the wrapping say my son would benefit from a little private time together there the time is in the air it's one thing that we have now that we haven't had for for many years of our lives as time and how to manage that time so we're available for that with there for them and use us use us to the max email if you have any issues except for the for the video conferencing which is a non-issue at this point but please understand and know that the remaining teachers have spent literally hours hours brainstorming and coming up with ways to improve and to make our system work any final thoughts dr. Dave yeah just in terms of the anxiety the most important thing is modeling modeling modeling like I say in real estate location location location your children are going to feed off of you and if you have a mu number toughen and you you know if they hear you're on the phone that you're worried about this you concerned about that or stepping over cans into an official toilet paper to get to their room it really doesn't send a message that you're calm with everything so the more you can invoke the idea that things are going to be okay and the more you give off that vibe and the more you speak about that the more they'll actually comment it's going to be thank you I just like that end up also by saying that we love the feedback and even if it's just a message that your son is doing well and he's happy and successful we'd like to give it also the robe and all of us were human beings we we feed off of of real compliments or physic and again you feel like something needs to be modified we're here for you please reach out to us and again I wrote this in the email but positivity to show you something doctor they maybe make the point that that out is to put on the game face of showing your son that it's gonna work we're gonna do this we're gonna make it work not to show anything that would have some transfer over to our children so they view into them any type of inadequacy or or tomorrow anxiety thank you so much stuff today for coming in appreciate it you welcome and you're doing a great job oh my first compliment of the day no not the first one not the first one of the absent of things so much and we miss everyone we wish everybody was back in here in school I wish there are babyish and I don't have to say that you guys wish it also so I love it to everybody and mr. Chema you know we're seeing the light at the end of the tunnel