Thursday night Mishmar Parshas Re'eh with Rabbi Eliyahu Wincelberg at Scheiner's Shul

Whatever you want. >> All right. The tells us in per children of Hashem which Rashi tells us does not mean what we what we commonly think of as Losis go. We commonly think of Lois Go as being a reference to the loas that we're not allowed to start breaking off into various fraction various factions fractions whatever it is factions right to start breaking off into various groups. But the what Rashi tells us is actually referring to is that people when they suffer a tremendous loss. They suffered loss of a relative or the like and they would start cutting themselves. Self mutilation it's terrible thing. If anyone knows anyone doing that send them in for uh for professional help. So this idea it's a very important concept that we're sons of unbelievably important idea. It's something that definitely needs to be in the Torah somewhere, but it seems like a very funny place to put it. What is the fact that we're sons direct how does that directly correlate with the fact that we can't cut ourselves for a mace? It can it should be somewhere in the Torah. But of all the mitzvos, like where do we think about how was our father? >> Wouldn't be this one. >> Specifically, >> yeah, specifically right there. and also as well by not shaving your head as well for a for a mace. It's a funny idea. There's this sort of connection between us being the sons of Hashem and specifically that it should be somewhere and obviously these are very inappropriate things to do. You start engaging in self harm because of how depressed and sad you are. It's obviously an incredibly inappropriate and dangerous destruct highly destructive thing to do. But what's the connection between us being sons and that as well? What is the connection between God being loas that we don't start breaking into various groups? Chinese is great. We all get along. It's it's incredible incredible place can have you know every single stripe we all get together. Tremendous trans. It's a beautiful place that we have a place whereas a gurus doesn't even like start. We're totally there's no shas everyone here we all ding together it's beautiful. What is the connection it's you what is the connection between the two dashas between the shot go do not cutting yourself for a mace and that we can start breaking off into various groups as well. The Gmorra tells us that Twitter says that what some are called Hashem's sons and some are called and what is it? So, but which one's which is which? So, when we do the Hashem, >> right? And we're not it should be the opposite. represent a negative thing. It's a it's a very big thing. >> So that's true is the highest level but the way the there's a discussion whether or not Toris Rufus is correct. This is Toris Rufus. It's Mashar that agrees with him. It doesn't matter either way. The point is if we're going to make one when we're doing the will of Hashem and one when we're not doing the will of Hashem you'd expect that when we're not doing the will of Hashem that we're only sons. If you're you're only an emed if you're doing Hashem's will. If you if you're a servant, but everything Hashem says, I'm not doing. But you're not a servant. >> But you are a son. >> If your son's not listening to a word you say, >> is he still your son? >> Yeah. >> Of course he's still your son. The draw backwards. What's going on? I saw a beautiful idea from we'll start with that and then we'll try to take it to some other places try to see if we can get back to all the questions he says we talked in this week's par as well about the m and the strange thing by the mak it's totally different than everything else by anyone else a person kills person all types of terrible things we do everything we can to try to we do everything we can in our power to try to save him. Mason, it's the opposite. All the things all the stuff about how after the nigmar if you think of another to save him, we we take we slap him back. We everything's flipped by the media, somebody tries to get people to go to Zara, everything's flipped. We do everything we can to try to cause them to be guilty. Different than every other type of terrible thing somebody does. Why? Because understandably this is somebody who's trying to get people off Derek. Was he successful? Not at all. He wasn't successful at all. The people he spoke to ended up being, you know, everyone that's coming, they're testifying now. He the guy wasn't successful at all. Just the fact that he tried to turn people away from we throw the book at him tell us that the med of tova of is 500 times the med of ponus that as much as punishes for for punishment that's three generations four generations when it comes to good 2,000 generations is 500 more time 500 times more of a mive than it is in terms of punishments and that's how much we get for trying You push people away 500 times more. You try to improve somebody. You try to empower somebody. You try to inspire somebody. Imagine how much more your reward is going to be. If that's how much we throw the book at the guy who tried to turn people away from Hashem, if we do anything we can to try to bring people closer to Bravo. Even if we're not successful, the mis was not successful. And even though the Macy's wasn't successful, we still do everything we can to kill him. Somebody tries to bring Eden closer to Keshu. Somebody tries to bring children back to their father, our father in heaven. How much more so is our father loves us. We love him. What happens if somebody a servant doesn't want to serve his master? He has to. But a son says, "My father hasn't commanded me, but this is something I want to do. I want to do everything I can. I love my father. I want to do whatever I can for him." That's what really is. That's the goal. It's like the thing about the difference between the Gmorra says there between the earlier generations and later generations is in later generations they look for loopholes to avoid having to do trumismicus. In the earlier generations they look for loopholes to be themselves in trumismicus. That's the ideal. The real aspect is really we're not supposed to be like a son. We're not supposed to be like a servant trying to scrape by with the bare minimum. We're supposed to be like the son who does everything we can for our father, because we love our father because we care about our father. Because we have an incredible relationship with our father. That has to be the message. That's how things has to be. A father cares deeply about his son. A father does everything he can for his son. says once we understand that is our father who loves us who cares about us every single decision hashem makes is for our benefit not for his loves us and everything he does is for us does it make sense now to cut ourselves not at all because the reason is everything Hashem did was for our best so we're not going to start cutting ourselves because that would reflect a lack of understanding Everything Hashem does is for the good. Yes, when we lose somebody, it's hard and it hurts. But ultimately, we have to recognize that had our best interest in mind. And therefore, we cannot let our loss, we cannot let our mourning become overbearing, because it's okay ultimately, as hard as it may be. And it may be terrible to lose a loved one is a terrible, terrible thing. It is painful and it hurts. And we're supposed to feel that pain. We're supposed to feel that suffering but ultimately loves us cares about us and everything he did was for our best. So to engage in start engaging in self harm and self mutilation would be a completely inappropriate response. Shiv is the correct response. We're supposed to feel that sorrow. We're not supposed to be flippant. H okay. No no no lost his relative. Okay. Life goes on. It's not the appropriate response. We're supposed to feel the pain. We're supposed to feel the suffering. But ultimately, we're supposed to recognize that did it because he has our best interest in mind. And therefore, the loss should not become overbearing. We can handle it. Life will go on. We're still connected to our father. We still have an even closer relative. As much as we may have lost somebody who we love deeply, we have an even closer relative. We have aeshu and we'll be okay. We'll be able to get through this. Once we recognize that we're sons means we got a lot of siblings. Every member of kal is now our brother and we have to treat every member of our brother. We have to remain close. There's nothing that means more to a parent than seeing their children getting along getting along. It's such an incredibly important thing. When we recognize we're kids, we have to relate to each other like that. And now we can't start breaking off into fraction into various groups. We have to do whatever we can to stay together because we're kids of that's how things have to be. We have to remain we have to keep that focus in mind. The P tells us a little bit later it's listing the non-cooser birds and it lists the ra and the ayah and the gimar says that the ra is actually the ayah and why is it called the ra over there why is it called the ra because it sits in and it looks and it can see from it can see an avail Okay, Shapiro says something amazing over here. He says that specifically because of that that's why the bird is not kosher because it's sitting in Bville. It's sitting in a place of tommo but it's not thinking about its own problems. It's looking what's with his problems. What's going on? What are the problems in ner? You're sitting in bubble. You're sitting in a place of tommo and you're busy thinking this one is doing that bad thing. This one ner is doing bad that bad thing. These people are draft dodgers and these people don't care about the people in coal and the big fights. You're here in Bav. We're here in we got our own problems. When we start saying these people in are no good and those people in are no good. We've lost everything. The says, sorry, the says the constantly starting up. We have to we always have to be looking at the good. When we start focusing on tearing each other down, on bringing each other down, tearing ourselves apart, it's the end. That's we have to look, we're sons of we have to do everything we can to bring ourselves together, keep together, and that we can bring. Amen. Amen. Scrubbing.