This May Make You Cry: 9 Mins on The 9 Days

As we are quite familiar, tishab had five events that happened. Of course, the one that we are quite familiar with the two destructions of the ba mdash. But you should know as the gumar and brings and the gar and the end of it also brings that the story with the spies the moragim happened on this day. Everybody cried on that night. On that night everybody cried to and when was that day? It says the garra that was on also and the gumar continues you went in and cried for not for free for no reason and therefore you're going to have a and therefore there's going to be a destruction of b mikdash on the same day and that's why the moragim and the are all parallel on the same day they synchronized and it's a day of calamity because from that day from that night that we cried so bitterly that's why we are now sitting on the floor that's why we are suffering and still fasting to this day for 2,000 years. And the question is obvious that asked a very good question and from here a beautiful and that is why is it what exactly was free about the they were scared they were giants there they thought they were going to be swallowed up in the country in Israel they but by walking in it's not going to you want to say they were wrong so say they were wrong about lack of not believing in not realizing they didn't appreciate everything Hashem did for us. But why is that called a sham? Why is that called aam? You know what the answer is? Because there are two types of in this world. There's two different types that a person might cry, might whimper, and and might find tears in his eyes. The first kind is one that comes out of what we call yush, giving up, finding the end of the rope, just being very upset if you will, just giving up with life or finding no purpose in anything that exists or the things and the events that he is going with. So that is a certain type of baky that a person has. Similarly, a person who's busy complaining, bickering and carping about a situation, he will cry. He will be quite upset about it. He will whimper about his situation. However, there's a second kind of crying and that is a crying that's a purpose. That's a crying that uses the situation that he is as a catalyst for change to go ahead and make him realize that there's a point of growth, the point of reconnecting with my creator to make him realize that maybe Hashem put me here because I have to go ahead and make a change. The first type of crying that's a you're wasting a cry. You're crying, you're going through something, you're crying and and there's tears in your eyes. Utilize it. Make it as a something of purpose. Make give yourself some direction of doing it. Don't just use it as a point of complaining, of bickering, of trying to find a way out and not making any internal changes, not making a relationship with the keshbu from what you are going through by the splitting of the byams. They also cried over there. And what does the say there were groups and groups there were some that were crying and saying, "Let's go back to Mit. I had it enough. Why are we dying in the midbaru? Why'd you bring us to the midbar? But there are some other ones that were crying and they use those tears what to jump in the ocean to go ahead and believe in to find themselves completely succumbed to their creator. Are you a person who's aim who's imitating the moragim who wants to go back to or are you a person whose is one that jumps into the ocean rests in the hands of hem and knows that I'm good supported I'm well supported and I'm in a good place that hashem will go ahead and take care of me there was a bak who was uh I heard the story from he was in he had a neighbor that he didn't know but he was Jewish the way he dressed the way he acted his whole his whole demeanor didn't show any type of connection to anything. He didn't realize he was Jewish. I thought it was a guy. One day when he was playing outside in his driveway, he said he came up to him. He came up to him and he started spitting out Mishna by heart. He started spitting out. He was absolutely bewildered until he explained to him, you know, I was a jingle back in the old time and old time back in Europe. I was, but I went through Awitz. I went through the war and I came out looking like this and that's it because I had it too hard. had distanced himself from there's some people that have a that went through and you never judge anyone who went through the holocaust but some people went through but it was to go ahead and turn into a because of it what a waste what a what a facade such a such a to get yourself in such a situation but some took that those difficulties and those like again no one can judge anyone to only bring a to make themselves closer to to improve the relationship ship where it could have been and that's what Ravuli told a buffer. Ravoli in one of his igress writes to Abakar who was writing to me he's going through a very difficult time you know why because one of my friends passed away he got in a terrible car accident and he died suddenly and he was very upset he was saying but Ravuli who knew the bakar because you have to be careful when you say these things Ravuli said the bakar why are you so focused on yourself don't you realize that your friend right now is in yadin he's standing in front of judgment he doesn't know maya he doesn't know what's going to be tomorrow he's standing in an an incredible spot right now that needs a tremendous amount of help instead of focusing on your needs right now. Maybe you should be saying some maybe you should be giving out and trying to make sure to do things anything that you can do to help him out whether it's to him and other things in order to help him out. That's a person who takes a and doesn't make it. Stop whimpering, stop complaining. Again, all of us go through what we go but there are some people that events are not in your hands. Things that occur to you, of course, they're not within our reach. But how we react to them, that's up to us. Are you going to waste the like the Moragim did, are you going to take it and not utilize it, or are you going to use as a catalyst to be able to improve, to make a change, to do something that you weren't able to do? I'll end with this incredible idea that I saw from gold and that is the midrash over here in says an incredible thing. It says it says that just like there was a when he cried as we all know when Ysephic went and he presented himself to his to his brothers he started balling out he started crying right in front of them and it says so too we will be the gul will happen be with a certain cry that's the whole midrash that's the whole midrash what's the meaning behind such a midrash the meaning is obvious Ysephadic was alone for 22 years. He was he was tumulted by anti-semitism. He was thrown into a prison for 12 of them. He suffered over and over again. He was all by himself. He was crying internally within himself for those 20 years. Suffering away from his family, away from his dear father and parents and not knowing what to do with himself. That's what he was suffering. When he finally saw them and there was a reunion, he closed. He came to a full circle and came to a cry a cry of connection a cry of realization who always said in theukim over and over again yphadic what does he always say don't say that it's because of you we know that sent me here we knew there was a reason there was a full circle I see the whole picture I know exactly why I went through what I went through said yik and that was bey of it was a bey of of of reconnection of closing gaps of of of for proper focus that will be the bey that will happen in the time of the gula if we stop crying for that we don't just cry in the base of mdish for no reason it's not an empty cry it's a cry that comes to close gaps to realize all the connections of what we've had in Jewish history or maybe in my personal life it's a that comes when I come to reunite with from the from the cry from the tears I go ahead and make that connection which I was oh so missing for all of these years I go ahead and utilize the difficult time not as a difficulty but as a challenge. I go ahead and realize that this was given to me as a way to reunite with my creator and to go ahead and rebuild myself in a way that no one can do it without that without that cry without that challenge that you were focused with. That is the sum total of what tush is about. We're not stumb lying on floors and sitting on floors and fasting just to go ahead and put us. It's that sar is to go ahead and build that bond that we're missing. And when we build that bond, then you should realize the base amdish will be built. Amen.