Thinking About the Other Person - R. Yoel Gold - TorahAnytime.com

I learned to the mirror as a buckler and I had the privilege of attending the shear of her blush and I really now I am crazy over abortion I really I have the opportunity to teach bokram I'm a Rebbe in LA I wouldn't give a without listening to his shear first he gives the biggest shear in the world 600 bucks on a the biggest daily shear for buckram in the world now I've heard so many great serum but I'm about to tell you the best shear I heard from a Bashara really I had the opportunity to eat by my rabi's house one Friday night with my wife and kid we walk in and he looks at my son my oldest son and he says versus I know man what's his name I said to him his name is Joseph Kyle it's my oldest son's name so he asked me who is he named after you know because the Ashkenazim always say your abusive crimes on him felt and the foul didn't say the Benish crying yeah your subscribers do what so who's he named after so I told him I said there's a very interesting story here you see I'm Cassie dish I'm ashkenaz my wife is Safari she's Syrian we had our oldest child and all of a sudden when she was pregnant and when we knew it was a boy we got calls from the Safari side of the family please name him after the living grandfather now like I see them that's how your horrid valya when you don't do that you never ever do that it's like it's like a death wish for us but there was pressure so my father-in-law who is such a kind gracious man and I love him so much he said why do we go ask a Shila so I said yes let's go to the godmother we're gonna go to a crime can he have ski great winter of crime can he have ski I'll never forget this I went through clown Comiskey quite a few times I never saw him laugh wonder of crime presented the Shila with my father alone and if cryin looks at me and he says is the baby born yet I said No so extrovert designer madela maybe it's gonna be a girl why are you coming to me and I'm thinking for myself oh no it's gonna be a girl the god allowed or said it you know the doctor said it's gonna be a boy he didn't want to give me an answer he said wait till the baby is born to come back maybe it's irrelevant okay later I found out that he somebody got a similar Shiley he told them not to do it so I didn't go back I wanted to please my sugar I didn't want luck like us so we decided to add hi and my father-in-law's name is Joe safe we added yo safe Zion after my great great grandfather passed away while ago okay to make it safe it's yourself I'm finished okay I'm telling the story to Russia I really to my ready Friday night we're having the suta together great he looks at me very serious and he says can I tell you a story I said sure like a piece of real estate of course he tells me says you know that my wife had very very difficult pregnancies she had a difficult time conceiving and when our son she was pregnant with our son our son was born we had a vicar we had a disagreement she wanted to name the son after a father of no compart Savage was there - even the mirror was a son level of crime Elevens a great tour giant and it was actually robust Ariel is ready she said look it's difficult we don't know what's gonna happen how many more children were gonna have this is an opportunity I want to name this child after my father Russia really says I wanted to name him after my father Walter named after my father why because the Shulchan Aruch says that covered oven that the husband's father the kavod of the husband's father comes before his father-in-law so you wanted to name him after his father so he decided he's gonna go ask the God Allah door this is what he tells me I'm gonna go ask Revell Yasha Turin giant he walks in to reveal Yasha this is incredible every she looks at I mean it doesn't understand - I'll Ashokan Oracle show Kimora now here's where the greatness of my Rabb becomes and this is the greatest sheer I ever heard from them he says yeah surveys for state Ashoka Nara I know what the show Senora says that's not what I came that's not what I came for I didn't come for the rough to validate my side I came because I want to be more active to my wife and I'm afraid to go against the show Senora could you please give me a head turn well yeah she looks at him oh my gosh chef says you can never have there so to say that you'll have more choices you'll have more choices now I once told over this story you're not gonna believe anyone's told over the story in LA to a group of women I got an email a few days later a woman emailed me and her daughter is in seminary and Remington now really teaches her teachers are foolish when she heard the story she didn't believe me so she emailed her daughter to go over to Rebbetzin Ariely to verify the story and make sure it's true she wants to tell me where my gold your story is true say thank you of course I know it's true I heard it from abortion we have to look at our protruding knobs sometimes it's difficult to give in a relationship in a marriage but we have to remember the point of connection is where there's a hole over there there's a protruding knob over here just apply it God if your comfort zone squeezed yourself in and give the other person fill the other person's hole because ultimately we need to remember that back is showing us a toy and it's early shanks our interpersonal relationships that's the cornerstone of a happy and fulfilling life not just cos Harvard says so that's when governor Miller says that the Torah says you've just experienced another Torah class brought to you back torah anytime calm