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okay so we understand that love is built
upon humility and respect and so the
Reby goes on to explain why the respect
and the fear that we're talking about is
so critical because when you just when
you just just love someone meaning the
sort of Western conventional
understanding of what love is meaning
only love them and there's no fear or
respect involved which isn't really love
okay but let's say it feels like love to
you but there is no fear or respect
you're consumed what what's really
happening there is that you're consumed
with your feelings towards them as an
object right as a a projection in many
ways of what you want them to be and
that love that it doesn't last right
because their unique individuality
manifests itself in a way that is
different than yours and very often that
unique manifestation of a love that's
different than than that is the end end
of that love I've seen that happen a lot
of times really throughout Jewish
history where there have been people
that come and they love the Jews and
love the Jews and love the Jews and then
when we don't fall into line like Luther
right we don't accept Luther's Messiah
and his understanding then that love
turns into hate because it wasn't real
love to begin with it wasn't respect of
our own unique individuality and I see
that even right now you know there's
groups that I'm in there's pastors I'm
connected to and I see it happening
before for my eyes that this love they
have for Israel is falling apart the
more they get to know some Jews because
we could be a stiff necked people and
maybe their congregations around the
world Mega pastors love them and respect
them and Revere them but Jews gotp we're
like no and they're like who how I just
see it happening right and because we
understand that that love it's built
upon humility and
respect and and and it's just it's so
critical because when you just love
someone right what happens there it's
the end of that love but when you
respect them you're focusing on their
presence on their desire on their
individuality rather than your own right
this is a this is I think it's a direct
quote if it's not the fault lies within
me but here's the quote love is my
desire to approach you respect is my
deference def
deference sort of to your
otherness it's it's my allowing you to
to be the right to be who you are that
is different than me respect doesn't
come from love love comes upon built
upon respect that's why we have all
these different facets in our
relationship with Hashem right hasem is
our King that we must see and perceive
and fear and Obey and that by the way is
the work leading up to what Ros sh fear
accepting the yoke of the king upon us
and then we have 10 days of atonement
where we focus on the evolution of that
respect of of reverence and fear and awe
and whatever other words you want to use
but we start building upon that fear a
healthy love the love that a child has
for his or her father right that that
judge that from rosashana you know that
judge that we were shivering before it
turns out that that judge is Our Father
Who loves us and that we love and we
trust he'll have compassion upon us but
if we don't first go through that
rosashana experience and fear that King
as if he wasn't our father then we I I
don't know if we're able to really build
up that that deeper love of a child to a
father and then comes the holiday of
sukot which we'll talk about soon but
where we go into this all full Embrace
of the Suka the final
deepest facet of that relationship is
toose that's why it's called the holiday
of happiness that is the love of a wife
to a husband because the prophets teach
us that that love the wife husband bond
that is the deepest
manifestation of our relationship with
Hashem
