Theft and Deception - Parshat Kedoshim - Rabbi Dovid Kaplan on The Weekly Torah Portion

okay uh per test P alive page 658 in kosia okay so I I tell you all this technology when I was a kid you know the big thing that we were looking for first of all I remember when when phones came out that weren't attached to the wall that was a big thing a phone that you could walk around with most women women had a thing with a wire so at least you knew where your wife was at all times she was in the kitchen with the phone cooking you know and she had her thing my mother used to keep the phone like like this and my grandmother had like a thing that kept the phone up so he could talk but latched on to the shoulder to then the portable phones came out that was like a big thing then car phones came out like whoa you know that's that's really something and the dream was and they used to I remember I think they had it the Museum of Science and Industry in Chicago a telephone where you could see the person on the other end that was the like whoa when are we ever going to get to that that sort of thing that was that's that's where things we holding now nowadays you give a watch with with what do you go call Smartwatch now they can put chips in your head that that that that you do that do the thinking for you which probably an improvement for many people okay wisdom to the wise huh in chips to to reach people what's that yeah yeah listen yeah a telephone call in the old days a call from America to Israel was $3 a minute dollar was a lot of money in those days I mean you made a phone call that you were on the phone if you were on the phone for two minutes that was a long time my mother would call my father would be in the background come on this costing a lot of money he'd get on the phone and say hi how you doing great before that's great good talking to you click that was it that's a lot of money all right 658 pu good Olive three lines on the bottom Lo no don't steal K literally means don't deny uh Rashi says uh um um what do you call it uh if you steal in the end you're going to deny it and then you're going to uh there's a connection between the you're going to steal you're going to deny vakra don't lie is a man against his fellow so here there are quite a few points we want to get to number one uh you'll notice that it says it in the plural it says um loov lovu in the assera dios which we mentioned yesterday when it says loov loov uh and I told you yesterday in the aser dibros the mistake people make that is a capital offense and they stealing is not a capital offense kidnapping is a capital offense and in the Aeros it's in the singular loov here in stealing it's in the plural Lo noo why anybody got to guess why there is it singular and here it's plural good excellent exactly what foram says how many people are going to kidnapped you know you got to get a real a real a real no good dick who's going to kidnap that's a very fair thing loov I kidnapp you you kidnap and in order to transgress you got to pull him out of his property then you got to force him to do labor it's it's it's so what about stealing oo stealing that's already a little bit more common and not only it's common I saw one of the ver says look at the end of the P it says isba Amo a man against his fellow man and Amisa really means Amo means even more thano you're you're a friend that that meaning that sometimes people well he's a friend of mine so he won't mind if I take you know the two of us are partners in business I say he won't mind if I take certain Liberties therefore you're you're more vulnerable because it's your friend so I says you can't do that that's stealing By Any Other Name that that that's called stealing that's called Ste you can't take those Liberties and and it's unfortunate the gamar says that uh rubben be Gazo the gumar says most people are guilty of Gazo and the difference technically in the gumar between G golin and aov what's the difference between Goslin and aov aov pce double a Ghana who steals pays double A gosin does not pay double pays 20% no he pays back the pays back whatever he stole he what if he doesn't have the item so he has to pay the value of the item aov has to pay double what's the difference azlin is what we would call uh a robber no even worse he's he's he's uh he steals openly an arm dber right what's that politician still open yeah yeah there he's certainly an armed driver but the the the uh the uh they say how do you know a politician lying he moved his lips so the the uh the the a golin is not a god walk up to you and they confront you openly a Ghana is what we would call a burglar he sneaks it a shoplifter is aov doesn't want anybody to see him a golin doesn't care who sees him so the in an interesting in in in the in the in the secular World who's worse an armed robber or a burglar who gets a bigger punishment up an armed robber oh he's an armed robber in Tor it's exactly the opposite why because the golin at least he doesn't insult God he says I'm not afraid of God but I'm not afraid of you either the ghav says I am I'm not afraid of God because otherwise he wouldn't be stealing but I am afraid of people so he's he's in insulting God by showing that there are others that he's more afraid of and therefore the ghav has to pay double according to Al so the Torah says that the gamor says Ruban bezel most people are guilty of theft at some point or other maybe you walked into a supermarket and you uh you picked up some an item and your kind of your finger went in and you know you might you might have dented it a little bit so you quickly put it back on the Shelf like a bag of Wafers or or you accidentally knocked a jar of peanut butter off the shelf and it cracked and you said well you know wasn't my fault you know it shouldn't have been on the shelf or pressing the fruit any of these things any you could check it but if you're fig if you damage it it's one thing to check it it's another thing to damage it you damage it you got to pay can't just put it back quickly uh if you take advantage of a of a of of a bus you get on the bus and well you know your bus card's not working you're stealing from the company what to do is a problem exactly how to pay back you can't just pay back any any uh uh uh uh you know worker from the Transportation they'll just put it in their pocket exactly how to pay back when you sto is a problem but these are all that's why the gor says most people are guilty I'm not a thief did you ever rob a bank did you none of us rob banks yeah but we've all stolen at some point or other more than that more than that and yum Kipper with aamu Badu gazu gazu I I stole I I I am a golin when did I gsle this year I've been such a good I've been so good I gaule what did I steal so I saw one of for says well did anybody ever greet you and you didn't return his greeting the gar says if somebody greets you first of all gar says if somebody who you normally greets you you should greet him first and if you didn't and he greeted you and you didn't return his greeting you're a godlin so the gar says you've stolen what's rightfully his You' stolen it he's entitled to it you've stolen it from him you're golin that's what the G says such a person as a golin so there are a lot of categories over here so the Torah says now the uh um earlier it says Vel here it says velos Shakra now I'll take the let get a little technical but I want you to see this it says Shak so don't lie against your fellow man now take a look at Rashi here it's a left column of Rashi uh about six lines from the bottom left column Rashi six lines from the bottom vaku now why does the Torah say this there very important concept here Lear because the Torah says visha Al that when a guy swears falsely and then he admits that he swore falsely ly shall kenes he has to pay the principal and then 20% there's your 20% that's for a guy who swore falsely you made a claim against me that I owe you money I swore falsely I swore I didn't just deny it I swore falsely then I admitted that I sore falsely so I have to pay you back the money plus another 20% l so there we learned the punishment but where's the warning there now this is the concept I want to get to there's a concept in Torah the you don't get a punishment unless there's a PK that gives a warning first there has to be a warning where is the warning specifically in this situation right here Losa shaku that you not lie against your fellow man that's the warning Rashi says based on kazal who does he quote the uh um um the the the torasan tanim is the what we call the the medish and and and VRA that how do you know that where's the warning the punishment that we're told If you deny something and you swear FAL the punishment is you got to pay back the principle with another 20% where KES 20% where is the what do you call it where's the warning that the Torah says don't do such a thing and there has to be a warning that's a rule in gamorra there has to be a warning in order to get the punishment this PK is the warning GL the Shakra when they ask you to confirm that's the the warning itself the what when they ask you to confir Fe whether you still something like no no no no no the warning in the Torah that that you're going to get the warning in the Torah that you mustn't do it not the warning that Bas gives you where is there a warning in the Torah that you must have do it right over here no no no one second you're confusing something right over here the Torah says lo NOA why does the T sorry shaku velos shaku why does it what's this velos shaku telling us remember earlier in the Torah said it says distance yourself from falsehood so what are you telling me over here this is specifically warning you not to deny something and swear falsely later we're told and if you do such a thing you got to pay the principal in the in the one5 but how do you know that where where's the warning not to do that this is the warning right over here earlier it says now it's the only uh uh uh place in the Torah it says distance yourself from his it doesn't say doesn't say distance yourself from pork and it doesn't say m distance yourself from here by falsehood earlier inos it says distance yourself from falsehood why the answer is because because lying or exaggerating it's so common it's so common that people throw in in inaccurate information and even if it's harmless even if it's harmless but you've already kind of pushed the you push the envelope a little bit and who knows what where that's going to lead to and eventually that's why there are certain professions especially politics lawyers where people are lying all the time they don't even see it as like that's just something you do how can you be a lawyer and not lie it is possible there are good firm lawyers who don't lie just have to be honest and straightforward don't I but because of the nature of the job in a politician and and and and you Justified is a certainly justification so I I I I told you I was once in a cab here uh I I he an interview there was a guy who was the he was a lawyer who was the middleman between two organizations there was a group of politicians and there was some of some sort of Union there was some sort of some sort a deal going down between them and it was filthy so I heard this in the cab they had this lawyer in a live interview in the cab in Israel and the guy says to him because it was all everybody knew it a it was a filthy business I don't remember what what it was it was really really really murky and and so they said to this lawyer the guy in interview says uh Mr plony did you ever have to lie this all in Hebrew he says back to him let's put it this way there were some days where I told the truth that's what said so the tah says distance yourself from falsehood because if you don't somebody asked is exaggeration is it is is it permissible to exaggerate so I want to tell you a story uh couple years ago I was walking and these two two guys started up with me oh kind of big guys but uh I resorted to martial arts and I put them both in the hospital and I'm exaggerating it wasn't a couple years ago it was last week and it wasn't two guys it was a little old lady and I didn't put them in the hos put her in the hospital she hit me over the head with her purse and I didn't use martial arts I ran like the blazes but I was only exaggerating that's a lie that form of exaggeration is a lie that's falsehood that's falsehood exaggeration which is permissible is what we would call figure of speech exaggeration that's permissible I told you a million times don't exaggerate that's that's permissible exaggeration and we find that even in the gor where the gar uses the number 300 korak had 300 donkeys carrying the keys to his Treasure House that's what the gorah wants to give us an idea of how rich korak was so the gorah itself resorts to what we call figure of speech speech exaggeration that's permissible but to exaggerate and they add what we call they call it embellishing the story what they call embellish we call a lie so here the Torah is talking about that is a concept stay away from try to distance yourself from falsehood but there's no command over there it's not a transgression it's not a command here the Torah says vaku it's in it's in it's in command form it has to do with the mitzah okay good clear okay let's go on um oh by the way there just why I get there one second the the the reason I saw this is very important the reason the the gor says uh uh in the plural is also because there's something called gas Das gas Das means creating a deception creating a wrong impression or deception so for example and and this is something that that the reason it says in the plural is because even if not a person who will really steal money but there are plenty of people that I'll I'll I'll you know I'll try to you know maybe deceive them a little bit one example would be there's a a car salesman there's a shop they sell cars sports cars I'm a 19-year-old teenager I don't have any money but I really would like to see what that Trans Am feels like so I uh I I borrow a nice piece of gold some bling and uh put on a nice expensive AAR leather jacket and I dress myself to the tea and I come marching in and I say the guy uh mind if I take that trans aerous spin the guy looks at me in his eyes you know whoa we got one over here and you take the trans for Spin and you give it back say than good car right that's you're creating a deception I I had a student and said this guy was he was a wild kid today he's married has a family he's a rebi in Yesa and and when he was a teenager so he had a motorcycle he was real proud of his motorcycle then he wanted to buy a car so he goes into the shop he was 17 years old somehow he had cash he told me he went into the shop and the guy was showing him a car that he wasn't really interested in I think it was a a duster not sure was I think it was he wasn't really interested in the car the guy said look this thing could really move so I'll tell you what take it out for a spin go as fast as you want and if you get a ticket I'll pay it that's what the salesman said to he ended up buying the car that's how you tempted a 17-year-old but if you create a false impression that's called genas Das that's gas Das you're you're what other the things that they do for example I'll tell you what might be bor you it's on sale for 14.99 14.99 there is no 99 in in in in Israel there are no n there are no one aoro pieces so how can you sell it for $4.99 that's creating a false impression I I think they passed the law that you can't do that it's got to be 1490 cuz that's theoretically possible to pay not 1499 that would be called that would be that's called what are we going to asker first you can play the C and the second of we learn that midash as RAM said sometimes exaggerating the events that were described even wanted to write a book where like where like the true story is exaggerated story who who who ramban ra always give a speech about I don't know anything about it is that like not all stories in R not stories if you could tell one second one second often dozens of hundreds of times they'll tell you it's a mhall a mhall means it's a parable they'll make up a story together but they tell you m what is this comparable to it's comparable to a King who had a son and the son rejected him that's a does that hundreds of times that's not an exaggeration that they're telling you I'm making up a story in order to convey an idea that's not a that's not an exaggeration that's not a falsehood I'm telling you I'm making if I say to you for example I give you an example of something that never happened that's not a falsehood that's an example that's perfectly acceptable cuz I'll do it all the time especially I notice especially when it comes to relationship between the Jewish people and God they always use the example of a king and a parable of a king and a prince and that's sort of things that way we could make a more of a an immediate connection with it God is still something that's a little bit too too you know abstract for us so so that's perfectly except that's not a what you call that's not a uh that's not an exaggeration no thing there are like some stories that said not to take no no something that well boy you've opened up a Pandora's Box let's take a break for station identification before we go into this hello I'm here to tell you about the sh questionnaire you two deserve to be able to check out a b accurately you too deserve answers to your question the sh questionnaire is now available do you want to know does the B get the minion on time does the B is he a sharp dresser is he going to treat your daughter like the queen she deserves to be treated is this the bucker you want to spend all that money on now you two could find out by using the shid questionnaire the sh Quest 48 questions penetrating getting at the truth getting the answers that you want 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creatures and and and and a Frog that's the size of 60 houses I mean things that we have not experienced that's what that's what I think you're referring to there when kazal talk about when kazal bring up stories like this and it appears in madim also appears all in sh and various places there there is there are different opinions among the commentaries some of the ofarim say that when it's obviously allegorical when if it's obviously allegorical soal are trying to communicate something with very deep Secrets they're not trying to deceive us it's not it's it's not a gas they're trying to communicate an idea if I tell you today the bear fought the the bear fought the eagle The Bear Went to war against the eagle yeah you know the bear is Russia the eagle is America the bear went to war against eagle and I'm talking in Al in allegorical terms but 100 Years of one that's why kazal did it in such a way that we have to have a miss and understand and have a Von and an Aral to explain to us what it's about they didn't want it accessible to everybody else there's another opinion that says every agat even these beyond our experience has a literal level it doesn't mean it was there for the literal level because CU all aren't interested in telling us stories it does have a literal level but it's got the allegorical level there is such an opinion and even one of the commentary says you know the proof if you look in the world of the microscopic what was the first thing they thought was the smallest part particle of matter was the atom or the atom and then what did they find there's a mole so no the first I thought was a molecule yeah then it was a MC then it thought it was an atom and then after an atom was like a quirk or something an electron a quirk every time they and these are all things that you can't see you can't see with their Blind Eye but we know that there is that there's a worlds in the microscopic there are worlds in every cell and we can't see it so the fact that you can't see it doesn't mean it's not there and so if it talks about sea creatures that are massive sea creatures or frogs or whatever it is just because we haven't seen it doesn't mean it doesn't exist you haven't been through the entire Amazon forest so just because we can't see it so there is a school of thought that says that there is a literal level also most say that no that it's allegorical but whatever it is it's not an exaggeration and it's not a lie cuz all are teaching us and they're educating us okay let's go on um take a look at pasala this is very encouraging um so where are we no sorry don't cheat your fellow don't steal this is this Isa now and do not withhold payment from a worker so again loel the the concept of loal is very uh is very broad about about various forms of theft and I saw the was once at a wedding I think he was at his son or son-in-law's wedding I don't remember which one and in the old days at weddings people used to get up and speak and there were other speakers that spoke before the when they asked the to speak he wouldn't refused to speak I think it was one of his relatives was wedding they as him why he said because there were other people who spoke if I spoke speak and I speak better than they did then I'll be stealing the honor that they that they had gotten I'll be stealing honor from them and I don't want to be I don't want to be a golin said okay that's a that's a very high level it's a very high level it's not technically that's not stealing there's certainly a sensitivity for that by the way I want to tell you something interesting story do you know who rev Le is Rev Le if you heard rev is one of the one of the biggest American Rabun in it's English speaking R Isel so R and I once did a program there was airan gathering uh for for men here in Israel so revl I was uh asked to speak and rev was was was was was was was speaking but you know he's a big he's a big r so I called him up and I said listen you know we're on I'm on the program they honored Me by putting me on the program with you I'm not speaking before you I'm not going to get up and speak before R left so R said no no oh no the the the organizer said the I said to the organizer fine I'll speak after R left he said no rev Leff insists on speaking last and speaking second so I was like well no this is not going to happen I'm not speaking for other I called rev Leff up and I said uh you know you know I'm not I'm not speaking before he said no no I'm going to speak second I said why so I was trying to think why would he want to speak after me so I figured either because the the last speaker is usually what you remember the most or because uh uh if I say something that's inaccurate he could correct it that's what I figured that's what I was thinking so I said to him why do you want to speak less so he said to me because he said he's a RV a RV of a community he's used to speaking he says if the guy ahead of me let's say the guy ahead of me speaks and says what I'm going to say if I speak first and say what he's going to say then this guy's in real trouble now where's he what's he going to pull out but if he says what I'm say big deal I'll say something else he told me he was used to you know because he had a he had a kahila that's how sensitive he was isn't interesting I learned more from that than I did from the whole from the whole Shan thing so so so so the was was worried about stealing about stealing somebody else is covered by the way I saw just recently um um R um raach schita who's one of the biggest POS if not the biggest POS in K today so he's asked the following question there's a community and there's a in the community a moderate but he demands more respect from the community than he really deserves at his level and he's he's demanding people can get especially the older people get the older you get the more sensitive you get to honor so he's he's demanding more honor what is their attitude what should their reaction be to that should you tell the guy listen you know you're good but you ain't that good you know you're not you're not holding by that is that that's one one one most people's instinctive uh response what should they do you know what he said he said there's a that you're supposed to help a person according to his station his situation for example the gar says Hillel once ran in front of the Chariot of a poor there was a a wealthy man who lost his money and hillo then ran in front of his Chariot in order to give the guy the the the stature and the honor that he once had as a wealthy man a wealthy man loses his money it's not just the money he's lost his entire status so it says you have to help a poor man according to who he is if there's a guy who's lost money and the guy's used to eating steak three times a week you have to try to provide him with steak three times a week a guy who's a poor guy who's happy to have a steak once a year you don't have to give him steak three times three three times a year so he said this is no less of a form of Saka by giving him something that he needs he needs this honor so give him the honor what does it cost you so you give the honor unless a guy crosses a line and he makes demands on the community for certain positions but if the guy feels he wants people to honor him and respect him he wants to sit in the front of the sh so let him sit in front of the sh what you're you're you're giving him something that he that that he feels deprived from you understand that that's a much because it's a it's a form OFA no different than anything else you're giving him something that he feels he's lacking he doesn't deserve it he's not at that level and he's not at that stature but you should still give it to him because he feel deserve it they got to show you something is very encouraging now take a look at don't curse a deaf person why does it say a deaf person don't curse a deaf person and therefore even a deaf person even somebody who could like the great philosophical question if you curse in the woods does anybody hear it you know if a if a if don't curse a don't curse a deaf person and certainly not aive person number one number two do not put a stumbling back in front of a blind man God you got to be a really low person to go stick out your foot and trip a blind man I mean even the lowest of the low wouldn't do something like that it's a blind man walking you're going to stick out a stick and you're going to trip a blind man so why does the Torah say don't in front of a a blind person don't put a stumbling block in front of a blind person OH Close take a look at rashi rashi is the right column nine lines from the top says R you see that right column nine lines for the top no no you see that yeah okay says Rashi in front of someone who is blind to a certain matter don't give him advice which is not good for him Al don't say for example Rashi says sell your field and buy a donkey and then you go around him and you get it in other words you want to buy you want his field so what do you do you advise you know I think you got to sell your field you know sell your field they got a good buy on donkeys now if you need some cash sell your field and go get the Donkey why did you advise him that because you want to get the field so now you go by the field for the guy bought it from him because you're trying to get at that field so the Torah says to give bad advice to give bad advice is so so in then look one second let's continue you should fear your God why does the Torah say and you should fear your God because people don't know people don't know if you had good or bad intentions with that advice you could make an excuse you could always justify Yourself by saying well I intended for the good it was not my fault it didn't work out well therefore it says fear your God God knows what you're thinking you may be able to deceive people you can't deceive God the called and it applies to anything that is in a person's heart the people so the Torah says you didn't even do something wrong you're just planning and plotting how to get this other guy's stuff and you're already doing something wrong you're ready going to get zapo for it Soha finds says if that's how it is is when it comes to AAS if you plan how to do a Mitzvah let's say you help plan how to build a sh for the community or you plan how to build a day school or you plan how to make a Chev brus for somebody or you plan how you're going to manage your money to give Saka just for the planning alone if for an AA there's there are consequences so we know that me we know that God pays at a higher rate for good things anything the Torah says is not good like looking in inappropriate things so then if a person controls his eyes and doesn't look at inappropriate things you get even you get unimaginable reward and the same thing when it comes over here you're planning you plan to do something wrong and you get punished for you tell you're accountable for it same thing happens when it comes if you're planning something good so you certainly get rewarded for it that's very encouraging that's very encouraging okay take a look at posv a beautiful beautiful Insight here beautiful Insight so sharp um three lines from the top Lo how does he translate the do not commit a perversion of Justice that's a very good translation loisa don't benefit a poor man don't favor a poor man you know if you're a judge you might favor the poor man in court unjustifiably V God on the other hand you might respect a prominent individual so sometimes a judge may think listen he's a poor guy I'm going to rule against the rich guy so that the poor guy wins the money they can't do that and sometimes you feel I'm going to rule against the poor guy because he's a prominent individual I'll I'll have the poor guy what do you call reimb I'll have the rich guy reimburse him but in court I can't embarrass the this prominent individual Tor says both are no good judge what's I just judge it correctly I get you one second judge it correctly you have to judge righteously you have to judge correctly so the G said that what would he do he would rule whatever the rule okay what D was judging a case and if he had a rule against the poor man he would rule against the poor man but then he himself would reimburse the poor man afterwards so the poor man doesn't lose out so but but anything that you want to do which is not going to be strict Justice you're not allowed to do as a judge that's the plain that's the pl an idea here what we're going to ask I heard for example if Guy chicken like for example chicken kasus and it's like B if it's like a poor family he can issue that diser if it's Rich family that's a that's a different that's when it comes to a posek yeah a posek the ideal situation of a posek is that he should know the person he have some sort of personal connection with the person a r of a community who pans for Community he knows the people in the community he knows this is a froma guy and for a froma guy you shouldn't be eating this sort of Shila the evidence okay but you're not at that level you're already at a higher level for you you shouldn't be eot and for somebody else who's struggling with you as a new B Chua a poor man sir him you know for you it's okay there's a story about a guy comes into a r you know before sukus people go to Rob on him to show them their as Rogues so this guy comes to the r col guy comes to the RO to show him an esrog Rog so the r looks at the srog I says this srog is not for you so guy looks at go why what's wrong with it he says nothing's wrong with it so said why not for me he says because this is a gorgeous estrog and I know that an estrog like this must cost a pile but you're a guy learning in Colo it's a of sukus instead of buying a First Rate srog which is a c you all that money buy a lower level srog and use the extra money to buy your wife a new dress for y because that's also a mitzah this is not for you in your financial category that's a you know a post isn't just somebody who who shoots off answers left right and Center POS has to know his customers sometimes you don't so you do a little research and find out you ask a guy well where you from what you you get or you have a sense of who the guy is that's a different question here we're talking about in court where two guys are fighting in court I'm not talking about one individual asking a Shila two guys are fighting in court you're this guy's poor this guy's Rich torus says call it the way it is don't start making don't start making calculations one second don't start making calculations one second I want to show you something here so I saw like this number one Lo a completely different cont be a different context don't do something corrupt beish and justify it that's talking to every one of us in other words you always got to wonder the Torah are you a judge am I judge none of us are who's this talking to it's talking to every single one of us the t is saying sometimes you know people do AAS and they justify it they have they they have what you call rationalization ah they they won't mind if I get on the train without paying once in a while and now only that it's a mitzah because it's an Arab company and you turn you have all sorts of justification so it says lo don't do don't be corrupt B Mish and then go ahead and try to justify it completely different context number one number two implies an individual who was a victim of hashem's mid a person uh something unfortunate happened to a person Midas hadin struck a person Midas had in God's strict Justice a person suffered a a financial loss or maybe a personal loss or somebody in the family something happened that's called midad right midin don't think that there was a perversion of Justice when God struck this person with if it's the individual himself means if a person is been on the receiving end of have to justify knows what he's doing that's very very difficult for me because people when something bad happens people say why me yeah why me why me why me implies that that course Roo messed up over here I told you about that woman who with the scratch offs yesterday w a billion dollars through I guarantee you she didn't scratch say why me everybody else says why not me me there everybody's why not me why her why not me I got stuff to do with that money no no don't don't go think that that doesn't know what he's doing when there's yes azreel what were we going to ask I I was going to tell you there is actually like what you say in secular law when two guys are arguing with each other most likely that insurance they have will pay for them but uh lawyers not allowed to mention it so so the judges or Witnesses won't be biased in terms of let the insurance pay anyway uhhuh they have the judge is straight very good very good yeah yeah well that that's that's when lawyers are in their best behavior the uh which is rare but the uh the uh what do you call it the um that that's in court you're not allowed to uh I heard about a lawyer by the way he was a young lawyer was trying to break in and he was making his uh there was a company uh there was a farmer who this company killed 24 of his pigs so he took this company to court so his lawyer got up and he said to the jury gentlemen ladies and gentan jury 24 pigs they killed 24 pigs that's twice the amount that there are in the jury box [Laughter] pretty good yeah he didn't mean the cas yeah I don't it doesn't say whether he won the case or not the documented story doesn't say it doesn't say whether or not he won the case but the uh the the the what do you call it then there's another guy there's another guy who uh who's called up as a witness so the uh the judge says to him um um what's your name he says you know Ralph Jones you married yes about 5 years have you formed an opinion uh Not For Five Years sir then there was then there's another guy this this lady is testifying and uh her husband's on trial for stealing we're talking about robbery so the prosecuting attorney says um uh Well ma'am did when you married him did you know he was a robber any had Tendencies towards robbing she goes uh yeah well then why did you marry him she goes listen I was getting older and it was a choice between him and a lawyer so I chose him and don't get me started don't get me started how can you tell how can you tell where a car hit a lawyer where a car hit a rattlesnake they're skid marks by the rattlesnake okay one more Point by the way if anybody's interested we have the uh I don't know if you could see this on the camera it says the paral review kados this is a a review of the par of what we've spoken about during this week some of the things we have spoken about some things we haven't spoken about and it's ideal for uh the shabas table for those of you who want to have something of to speak about and this is also available at D B the uh what do you called the um is uh you have to command you have to judge uh accurately but it's also this is the this is the command that you have to give people the benefit of Doubt to danav they have to judge people favorably and this is one of the more difficult tricky it's a tricky area because sometimes there are three categories look there three categories there's a sadic and if you see a sadic doing something questionable let's see you see a sadic eating a cheeseburger you have to give him the benefit of the doubt you have to assume either he doesn't know it's a cheeseburger not to say it's not a cheeseburger you know for a fact it's a cheeseburger a trafe cheeseburger you have to assume either he doesn't know it was a cheeseburger he thought the m at McDonald's the Big M he thought it stood for mahadin uh uh uh he has an ulcer and it's life threatening and he needs to eat it you have to give him the benefit of that when you see him doing something wrong if he's a Russia a confirmed Russia so even if he's doing something right you have to assume he's got ulterior motivation If he if you see him giving Sedaka so you say well it's a photo op and he just trying to get some some some somebody go he's certainly not doing it for for proper when you have your average happy go-lucky Jew there an average Jew then you could call it the way you see it if he's eating a cheeseburger so he could assume well he probably had a moment of weakness he succumbed to temptation but it is uh uh what do you call it is uh uh admirable and it is recommended to try to give him the benefit of the doubt anyway now the question here becomes I mean I see a guy doing something wrong how can I find possibly how can I possibly give him the benefit of that where's there benefit out I see a guy from schul an average guy not a sodic he's an A and he's eating a cheeseburger and a McDonald's where's is there room for the benefit of the doubt the answer is I think the says if you lose excuse me if you lose something where do you look you lost your wallet where do you look you look in every single place you could think of even the most illogical places you go look up in the attic even though you haven't been in the Attic in 20 years and you go look everywhere it says when they want to find the benefit of a doubt give person benefit of Doubt the same way that when it comes to your money you look in elogical places give the benefit I also look in illogical places that's what says that that that if you're really interested in fulfilling it and it is certainly recommended to try even an average Jew to give him the benefit of the doubt then a person should look even in in a logical places we have a uh you know it says don't judge your fellow man don't judge your fellow man till you get to his place you know he say well if I I would never do something like that that's what you say now cuz you're not in that situation number one but even more than that you can never be him him with his personality and his life circumstances and his Tendencies and his temperament you can't be him so don't judge him till you get to his place because you can never get to his place that's be for him explaining P Kos somebody said you know you ever lose something you come home and you lost something exp well where where did you lose it your parents say where did you lose it and obviously the answer is if I knew where I lost it it wouldn't be lost don't get smart where's that's I always okay so you know what happens with it somebody defin a wife is this illogical creature who asks you where's the last place you had it he say it was in my yesterday's pants pocket and then she goes over there and finds it you know how many it's happened to me where I'm looking for something I can't find it my wife said did you check under did you check in the kids' room under the bed I said yeah I looked there three times already she goes in and there it is I'm almost convinced it wasn't even there for to 30 seconds earlier somehow it kind of just so she could go all right what do what did we talk about today what are we calling this um um um um yeah theft and deception good I was about to say that