The Yid Next Door

Now, it is the yard side of Mayor's Tata is tonight. And I want to express that the learning that we do in the next little bit, all the Torah that we learn, the Zemirot, the songs, the inspiration from the songs, and the friendship. Reb Ezzy serves some kibble, they're going to be brochos from Eli, we'll discuss, but all the things that go on in the next hour or so should be an iluy for Mayor's precious father, for his father's neshama. I want to express that Mayor was a youngster when he was was was younger, but but a but a And I want to hear from Mayor and tonight, for those that are zocheh, maybe Mayor will share even one recollection from the Tata, but I want to express that meeting Mayor, that knowing Mayor and watching specifically the last few weeks, watching him shvitz, just watching him say Kaddish, watching him daven, watch him putting on his tefillin, is already an aidus for the father. Without saying words, that's an aidus. We all There's such a thing as doing something l'iluy nishmas, say there's such a thing, but it's poshut the men sh'alein. The person himself, the good deeds that Mayor does and is, is certainly an elevation for his father. And seeing Mayor's behavior and the type of person Mayor is already, like I feel it took me years to learn this, Mayor. The early years of the yeshiva, I like guys in yeshiva, and I felt like the parents, I don't know. I don't know the parents, today I like a bochur, means I like Nissan, his father's my best friend. I'm not saying it cute, we come from our father. I Gabe has become my close friend, I love his parents. People come from their parents, that's where we come. Guys who are friends with me, you like my parents, that's where I come from. Brocha raba d'voina, I mamish come from my parents. It's the way it is. I started hopping that more, Everybody here loves Aaron. I find he's just one of those beloved guys. He's just beautiful person. He's nice. He's sweet. He's uplifting. And all of a sudden we meet his father, we love his father like a shocker. >> [applause] >> I mean I Morty Morty I mean it Aaron's that we come we come we come from our parents. We come from our parents. I say this as some Baruch Hashem I'm married close to 30 years. I appreciate my in-laws. I like my wife, she comes from somewhere. That's just how it is. She comes from somewhere. My wife's father looks very different. He looks very different than the life we live leave leave. He he didn't he he he came from a different background. He didn't learn in Yeshiva, he was in public school. Yet I know what we have and who we are. We come from him. So I want to express that that us appreciating Mayor is an appreciation to Mayor's father. And we're miss fatherless. The neshama should have an aliyah, should have tremendous continued nachas from you Mayor. Continue continue nachas. I'm excited. Mayor's coming back. We're not done. We're not done. He'll be back here. >> [applause] >> He'll be back here and and I'm thankful. There's a lot of there's a lot of people leaving. It's I'm thankful for the ones staying. I'm looking forward to this continued continued to grow together. So that's the first thing I wanted to express. I wanted to express as well as Reb Ezzi is somebody whose impact on our on the year is off the charts. He brings so much here. The some for people who don't get it, during the shiur some guys I don't get it, he's making noise. The worst shiurim everybody's quiet. I'm I mean this sincere. I went somewhere to speak a week ago and the whole place was like writing notes. There was silence in them. It's like can we learn something here? That's It's an environment of learning. It's not everybody's behaving. It's not. It's not. I'll tell you an interesting story that I went I in the mirror when I learned in the mirror so I was married and there was a habura of Israelis. It was mostly Israelis and me. I've always I Eretz Yisrael liquors are amazing and it was me and a bunch of Israelis. And they they were all Ponevezhers. They would tell me to make Ponevezh. And the Yid would come in from Har Nof to say shiur. His name was Rav Garbaz. He would travel into the Mir. He was a Talmud Chacham Muflah, he knew everything. And he'd come to the Mir Yeshiva. And he would say a habura. The guys were top young alight. Amongst the young alight in that kollel I'm missing Kaplan. A rebbe in the Mir. It was like serious chevre, like when I was a little kid I I I asked the question. In the haburas a guy >> How are you? But no, I was But it was a very serious group. Rav Garbaz Rav Garbaz Rav Garbaz would come into the shiur. Would come in he traveled from Har Nof. From Har Nof to the Mir to say shiur every And he got up he got up to say shiur he would say a drip and the room would erupt. Now they were arguing he spoke a minute and then guys are screaming. Now after they screamed okay, now he's ready to continue this nobody was quiet. Literally I promise I'm not exaggerating if he's standing here speaking a guy here is YELLING AT SOME MARTHA MERCH TO YOD SCREAMING. Guys screaming guys screaming. I'm like this is insane. He's trying to say shiur. The Yid was mamish trying to say shiur. The guy came in from Har Nof is a serious Chacham he's an older man. We're all younger. Could everybody be quiet so we could listen? And he the the no way it was just bedlam. So finally finally I went up to one of the I broke in every I I understand the fluent Hebrew. I speak like to say I speak in American I I just can't speak. It's a handicap. So I I say to one of the guys I say my my Obama you know who I probably said in the cave of feminine who knows what but he comes from Obama like I didn't share but I'm not We can't hear a word. It was ridiculous. So I said after a few I said to one of the like a crazy I've never said like to my life. She starts laughing. He said we're all tell me of and he said by sheer if it was quiet he leave. So I called him. I'm going. He said sheer to the I don't say sheer to the wall. There's not a way there's a appreciates this. He says this is not the way I don't say sheer to the wall. A sheer is people learning. I I went my wife and I went on a girl shabbaton. It's for a shabbos and after the soda there was a soda and after the soda they was like the main speech. So I get up to give the speech and there were like four teachers circulating in the room like going around making sure it was quiet. So I'm standing up there and they're like ladies going around like looking at the girls. So the girls are like they're quiet. I called the principal and not I didn't want to mark that I didn't make sure the girls didn't see I wasn't like trying to make anybody look bad. I I asked her politely not not in a mean way. I said I don't want to say sheer right now. I can't I'm not doing this. There's not a posture anybody knows about thinking. You don't work. Thinking's not Thinking's relaxed. Big thinkers would play music when they would think. It's relaxed. They would have music in the bathroom, thinking the Any great thinkers do not crunch their face. It's not how you think, you relax. That's the question again. You're relaxed. There's not Torah is not being We're not learning Torah like this. People are That's not how we learn We're not doing that. I really want to learn. I have real things I want to say something. I really have things I want to tell the girl. I promise. Please tell all the teachers nicely, not in front of the girls. I whispered to pretend Please tell all teachers to enjoy. Sit down, they could schmooze. If a couple girls are talking, I promise it's fine. If they're all talking, it's fine. It's fine. I really want to communicate something. I really It's not a learning environment when it's tense. It's a learning environment where people are comfortable. Schmeitz, schmooze, schmooze, schmooze. Learning needs a certain tranquility. I I've said over over Schmoo is that we came to Har Sinai, Hashem day one didn't teach Torah. Everybody relaxed. Everybody chilled. Tiyarchei Sedercha, it's teaching something. It's not a historical fact. That's the way to learn. I literally would not want any rebbe to walk into a shiur and just start teaching. That's a joke. It's not It's not how Torah is learned, studied. The worst times I've ever learned with people, if I was coming late, which is a challenge of mine, I show up late and just start like saying Torah, you don't learn anything. Stop. Stop. Stop. Stop. Be in the room, look around, see people enjoy. While he's enjoying, he's doing a favor. Schmack. Schmack. Be present, look at this Be present. People come and see each other and talk. I love Rabbi Ross's shiur is like a work of art. They talk for 4 months, then they learn Gemara. That's how to learn Gemara. I don't know how to How could you learn Gemara if you haven't talked for a few months? I don't know. They schmooze for a while, and then they say, "Let's learn Gemara." I asked my sons My son Manny's in a kollel in Eretz Yisrael. I've asked them Yerushalayim's very intense city. People are running all You should learn a lot of people running to come. It's beautiful. They're running to learn to I told Manny, I don't care how late you are, how fast you are. When you get to your seder, I want you smooth with your stuff for at least 5 minutes, 10 minutes, maybe an hour or two. Sit down. Let me have a moment. Then to get maybe learn for a couple of minutes manage. You can really learn. Two people can manage to decide to learn and engage in learning and be present to learn your manage. Then you learn together. You learn together. Seder, if you're very deep involved, maybe you'll even go over time a little. I don't know. You really can learn two people. So, I want to express the Rebbe brings to the base madrash. We're back and we're here. Rebbe brings to the base madrash the mice is somebody learns in this base madrash for a couple of years. This morning I was watching Avram learn Torah. Answer Avram. [applause] Where's Avram? Oh, I was watching Avram and Reb Boruch [applause] Flory. That's the whole Yeshiva. This two Yidden was sitting down and learning. Rebbe has sat in this base madrash and learned for years. Has learned Torah. He sat with Rebbe with my son Moishe now and sat and learned Torah. Tremendously appreciated. It is his Zayde's Yahrtzeit is presently is today. The Zayde's name is Yitzchak Yaakov Yitzchak Yaakov Yitzchak Yaakov ben Eliahu. Yitzchak Yaakov. Usually it's Yaakov Yitzchak. Make me nervous. My son is Yitzchak Yaakov and he told me all he has a whole machshava why it shouldn't be Yitzchak Yaakov. The The tzaddikim Yeah. Yeah, the A lot of the tzaddikim are Yaakov Yitzchak. Who was Yaakov Yitzchak, chavra? Who was Yaakov Which big tzaddik owns which The Chozeh of Lublin was Yaakov Yitzchak. The Chozeh No. Why is everyone looking at me funny? The Chozeh of Lublin was Yaakov Yitzchok. Our hero is Yankel Yitzchok. My son has Torah. His name is Yitzchok Yaakov and he said, "Tati, you got it wrong. It's supposed to be Yaakov Yitzchok." There were a lot of tzaddikim that were Yaakov Yitzchok. He has a whole Torah why. It makes sense Yitzchok Yaakov. Yitzchok first. He has Torah. He has Torah. It's a long story. It's named for the others. I call him Yitzchok Yankel. He says I made a mistake. There's no mistakes in names. As he made me already in the Khomesh mean Eloi this Nekomah he gave me. That is Zaid and he had such an Einikel. It's called Yitzchok Yankel. I'm going to go back to Yaakov Kalesh. Yaakov holds a lot of Rebbezie. I'm going to tell him cuz he always tells me find me a Yitzchok Yaakov. I just found a Yitzchok Yaakov today. Which other tzaddik was Yankel Yitzchok? >> [cough] >> Which other tzaddik was Yaakov Yitzchok? Khoyzer of Lublin. Another tzaddik Yankel Yitzchok. What? Who who who who who who who who? Yes, yes. So Yaakov who was a Yaakov Yitzchok? Rebbezie Shlechter. Who was a Yaakov Yitzchok? Who was Yaakov Yitzchok? Which other tzaddik? The Spinka Rebbe, of course. Of course. Of course. Very good. Very good. But here you have the Khoyzer from Ehrlich Sefardish. The Spinka more present the Yaakov Yitzchok. But Rebbezie Zaid is Yitzchok Yankel and my son should live long long years Yitzchok Yankel. Lemaaseh Yitzchok Yaakov ben Reb Ruderman was Yaakov Yitzchok also. Somebody look up what was Reb Ruderman. His Einikels and our Yeshiva should know. Which one's Reb Ruderman? Is Yaakov Yitzchok. Somebody look up Reb Ruderman. What What his name? He wasn't sure? Which way was his name? We have four of them. Was it Yaakov Yitzchak or Yitzchak Yaakov? Why does it say Yisrael? Take your time. Take your time. Take your time. The service imitates us. We're slow. We're deliberately If Rebbe Yisrael is not here, he would have a definite opinion. You know his name? Yitzchak Yisrael. We discussed this with Yaakov. I think it was Yaakov. So, it should be an iluy for Rebbe Aziz Zayde's neshama. And the Did I This father is a funny ball for the avos in order. Meyer's tatty's name was Avraham Yitzchak. Also two avos. So, it's a shtikel theme of the yahrzeits. Yitzchak Yitzchak. Yaakov Yitzchak is the Rebbe Yitzchak. But, anyway, Rebbe Aziz Zayde is Yitzchak Yaakov. Meyer's tatty was Avraham Yitzchak then Meyer. Meyer's name day after Zayde Avraham Yitzchak then Meyer. So, all the neshamos should have an aliyah. I wanted to welcome Ephraim From back to Yeshiva. Welcome on the plane. >> [applause] >> Bezras Hashem, he'll be staying the last three weeks. He's staying the last three weeks. [applause] And returning next year. But, it's a zchus to have Ephraim back home. The two brothers, Ephraim and Yanky. And beautiful. Beautiful. >> [screaming] >> Woah. Woah. Woah. Woah. >> I wanted uh before I share, I wanted to share a piece of tire and passion and NASA, but I wanted to ask the covered really the covered Ephraim returned to the Yeshiva. I wanted it the keyboard is for the yard is for the yard side. I wanted to be my habit gave me as a new song not that song. Do you have your guitar here Gabe? I thought I say. taken You heard this new song Mark? This is a new one. Ephraim check out a brand new song. This the covered in here yet? David this one you didn't hear yet. Yeah, this is a new one. This one Yossi helped me write also again. Who? >> [music] >> I want to I want I give everything [music] to feel like I want to love. >> [music] >> And I want >> [music] >> I need all the >> [singing] >> that I have inside. >> [music] >> So, I'll keep on dreaming. I'll keep on singing. I'll keep believing without a reason. Cuz I made a promise and I'm going to keep it. I'll keep living long as I'm still breathing. Sometimes [singing] it hurts >> [music] >> and you get burned. Not [music] everyone [singing] gets what they deserve. >> [music] >> While [singing] I'm still here, >> [music] >> alive on this earth, >> [music] >> I'll >> [singing] >> live, even when it hurts. So, [music] I'll keep on dreaming. I'll keep on singing. [singing] I'll keep believing [music] without a reason. [singing] Cuz I made a promise and I'm going to keep [music] it. Oh, I'll [singing] keep living long as I'm still breathing. Oh, [music] even when [singing] it hurts like hell, oh, I don't want to be [music and singing] anywhere else. Cuz this is my story to tell. So, I'll keep on dreaming. I'll keep on singing. I'll keep believing without a reason. Cuz I made [singing] a promise >> [music] >> and I'm going to keep it. Oh, I'll keep living long [music and singing] as I'm still breathing. Oh, I'll keep living long [singing] as I'm still breathing. >> [music] >> Oh, I'll keep living long as I'm still breathing. Cuz I made [music and singing] a promise, and I'm going to keep it. Oh, I'll keep living long as [singing] I'm still breathing. [music] So, I'll keep on dreaming. I'll keep on singing. >> [music] >> I'll keep believing without a reason. Cuz I made a promise, and I'm going to keep it. >> [music] >> Oh, I'll keep living long as I'm still breathing. Oh my god. >> [applause] [applause] >> Mayor Kapenstine, you didn't hear his song "Heaven Knows Your Name". I want to welcome Mayor Kapenstine back home. Welcome, Mayor. Welcome, Mayor. >> [applause] >> The minhag There's a minhag yesh roe when a sefer Torah comes when you do a hachnasat sefer Torah. It's a beautiful minhag that you bring out the sifrei Torah to greet other sifrei Torah. It's like a beautiful, touching minhag. Here, like this orphan in in Durham when guys are leaving, alumni come like to accompany at I love as David Black finishes his career by Rabbi Ross for now. For now, I like that Mayor is here to like another all-time talent of Rabbi Ross is here like to to join David and the safer Torah like coming to greet the other safer Torah. I feel like Mayor coming. Mayor, welcome home. Mayor Capstone, thank you. Thank you, Mayor. [applause] Well, let's do it together. Let's do it together, Mayor. You take it away. Give it to the end. Maybe we'll join you again. I knew you had me. You moved out. You went to college. [singing] Away from [music] town is kind of crazy. The way it all [music] works We didn't grow [singing] up in the same [music] house, but we're brothers. [singing] So, I want to tell you about [music] something crazy that [singing] I found. [music] It might be [singing] useless. I might sound stupid cuz I can't prove [singing] it. [music] But, I needed to tell you that there's a God [singing] knows your name and he knows your heart and feels [music] your pain. Oh, I [singing] wish that it was something I could explain. >> [music] >> I can't, but I need to say [singing] there's a God knows your name and he knows your heart [singing] and feels your pain. Oh, you might [music] not believe me, but either [singing] way I promise heaven knows your name. Oh, do you ever [singing and music] feel that spark that is burning in your heart? Does it guide [music] you when you're in [singing] the dark? Oh, do [music] you wonder [singing] if this mortal life, if there's [music] an answer to the great big why? I believe [music] that there is truth to find. [singing] It might be useless. [music and singing] I might sound stupid cuz [music] I can't [singing] prove it. But I need to tell you >> [music] [singing] >> that there's a god and he knows your name and he [singing] knows your heart and feels [music] your pain. Oh, I wish that it was something >> [music] >> I could explain. I can't, but I need to [singing] say there's a [music] god and he knows your name and he [singing] knows your heart and feels your pain. Oh, you [music] might not believe [singing] me, but either [music] way I promise [singing] heaven knows your name. I hope that you hear this song and one day you'll sing And together we'll say there's a God knows my name and [music] he knows my heart and feels the pain and it's not something [singing and music] I can do explain. Oh, I just want to say there's [music] a God knows my name and he [singing] knows my heart and feels the pain. Oh, I've [music] waited [singing] all my life to say [music] that heaven [singing] knows my name. >> [music] >> Heaven knows my name. >> [music] >> Heaven knows my name. >> [music] >> I've waited all [singing] my life to say that heaven knows my name. >> [applause] >> I'LL GIVE YOU MY DREAMS. I'LL GIVE YOU MY SINGING. I'll give you my living. I'll give you my He made a promise and I'm going to keep [singing] it. >> [music] >> I'll keep living long as I'm still breathing. >> [applause] >> He's showing the video of Reb Shaya. I want to >> [music] >> I got to see the Reb. Ah, Reb Shaya saying shalom and the room is exploded. >> [music] >> We spoke about it. Get it? >> [clears throat] >> In Parshas Nasso, in this week's parsha In this week's Parshas Nasso, so one of the things that we're going to read about is the Sugya is the Sugya of the Sota. This past Shavuos, my brother-in-law, we were zocheh to have my brother-in-law in Yeshiva to spend Shavuos, to be at the mountain at Har Sinai with my brother-in-law, and he made a Siyum in Yeshiva Maseches Sota. There's a big minhag, there's a serious minhag of Yeshiva guys that during the period from Pesach till Shavuos, of course it's 49 days, Maseches Sota is 48 Blatt, and there's such a minhag of Yeshiva guys, Ari, that they learn Maseches Sota. And they do a Blatt a day during the days leading up to Shavuos. Now, what's the source? I would call it a minhag. By Chabad, I heard I heard by Chabad it's very in. There's such a minhag of Chabad, it's a minhag of Yeshivas as well. It seems such an odd minhag. Sota is about the disloyal lady. She's disloyal to her husband. The Maseches Sota, why do we reading that leading up to our chasunah with Hashem? To Shavuos is our chasunah. It's mamash a chasunah with the Ribono shel Olam, Am Yisrael and Hashem, Am Yisrael with our precious Torah. Why in the world are we reading the parsha of Sota of the disloyal one? So, one could say it's like a warning, like a but it's so unlikely how we behave. I would literally, you know, for us and my she in the time leading to his Hashem he learns the status Kedushin. I would think that's really cool. I would not think he should learn the status site. That's not what he's thinking about the status site and status getting. And it becomes very hard to understand why I'm Israel, why Shabbat, why you should be guys have this minute to learn the status site. So it needs thought. It's a it's a real minute and needs real thought why it's learned. I want to express something about about the site from Parshas Nasso that occurred to me this year perhaps. Why the status site is on people's mind. I I don't know the shot has to be studied a minute. Minhog him should be studied and this minute needs studying. But I want to share as follows. A site of course is a girl who is disloyal to her husband will start. What happened? She's talking to a man. She's married lady and she's involved. She's speaking to a man and her husband is mechanic her. Kino is when he warns her, please stop hanging. She's hanging with another man. He warns his wife and asks his wife, please stop hanging with this man. Steera is when she takes it a step further. Not only is she speaking to somebody, she has she goes private also. She does an and she has with a man. So she's speaking to her man, her husband warns her and after the Kino, he does steer. He goes private. He goes into a room and has with the nation. She has with a man. After doing these two things Kino steer and have she has to drink the famous may site. She drinks the waters. Now if she was guilty, she did not have Vera. She's Nifter. She passes away. If she's guilty, she passes away. She has been disloyal to her husband, and she's punished by the Rebono Shel Olam. That's the law. But what's very fascinating is a possuk in Parshas Nasso. The possuk in Parshas Nasso says, "V'im lo nitma, if she had not done the aveira, v'im lo nitma isha, u'th'eira, she's pure, v'nixsa, she's innocent, v'nizra zara, she has a child. She's benched with a child." Chazal bring that she's benched with a child. Chazal say, she has a child. If she would have had bitzar, she has a child b'revach, without pain. If she would have had a certain child, she has l'vanim, she has It it it affects the quality of the child, the the experience of childbirth. She's zocheh to a child. She goes back then. It's a good question. I'll I'll ask you. When I ask when I ask, I think it will answer what you're what It definitely will affect what you're bothering. The question that I want to ask, Gabe, this lady, if she's innocent, so she's zocheh to a child, and the question, Ari, is, she's no innocent person. If she didn't do the worst aveira in the world, she's not innocent. She was schmoozing with a man. She went in private. She had yichud with a man. She's guilty, very guilty, very guilty. She didn't do the worst aveira. She didn't She didn't do the worst. What's p'shat The possuk What's p'shat in this possuk? The possuk, even the way it says about her, double lashon, "V'lo nitma'isha." Okay, she didn't go all the way. "U'tahara hi." She's pure. Not pure? "P'suka hi." She's not pure. She's not innocent. She's not She's mamash at a bad space. She needs a lot. There's a lot she needs. What is this "u'tahara" and she has a child? Now, I want to express to everybody here, and I want to say this p'nikeos, I want to say it in not an open way, but I want to express that a lady I was called by a couple. The wife wanted another child, and the man didn't want at the time. And there was like a tension, a lot of tension in the home. And I wanted explain to the man, to the husband, it was very important to me to explain when his wife wants a child, it just means she wants you. To a husband, the child is could be an another child, it could be complicated in the marriage. They're focused on each other, and now there's another child. A wife's want for a child means the peerish is I want you. That's what a wife is saying. When a wife says I want a child, the p'shat, we could go into this, and I'm not trying to tell you a shtikel Torah. I'm tell We could talk of that's the peerish of a lady saying to me, "I want a child." means I want you. "Hapanim you lovely ishti." It's open p'sukim. Wow. >> That it means I want you. That's what That's That's the peerish. It means mamash we have a child together means we like exist for eternity. Yeah, yeah, of course, of course. Yeah, yeah, very good. Good yom tov. Good yom tov. That's exactly That's exactly. Yeah, yeah. It's real. It's real. It's good to know. >> [applause] >> I want the chabura to remember this when you're married. Just remember this. It's very important. It could help for a lot of shalom bayis. Please remember this, Yisroel. It's just true. We can We could study the emes. There's a Torah to study why it's that way. I want to express here that here, if she's innocent, she has a child, that's taste, she's closer to him. That's the parish. I ask if she's innocent, she's closer She has a child from him means that the mom is closer to him. She's very distant from her husband. She's very far. She's a person was disloyal in a deepest way. She didn't go She wasn't over the soon to be higher of Mesa. That's the extent. What's being said here, this parish of Sota. So, I want to express to the Hevra that the story of the Isha is she she she's she has a certain distance. She has a rehook. But, from that rehook, why did she walk out of that room? She's in a room with another man. From that space, she says, "You're not my husband. You're not my husband." And there's a certain cure of she has the Nizzarah, she has children. From that space, she said, "You ain't my husband. You're not my husband. You momish not the most of her." She accesses the deepest place of Torah. "You're not my husband." It's the purest place. I have seen people go I have seen guys in Yeshiva travel to far out places where they needed to like enter an external person. It's like you're going, it's dangerous. I've been tired going there. They need some space to have, to momish absorb "I belong to Hashem. I belong to Am Yisrael." The Ben Ayin in a deep, deep space. Sometime amidst the noise of our life, amidst our pressures and our pushing to be stark, and our fighting, constant fighting, we tune out the noise that says, "I want to be a Yid. I want to belong to Hashem." It's a very, very quiet, deep, and profound place in a person. We want Hashem. We belong to Hashem. I want to express that in the last week, I've been thinking a lot about the Yid next door, Shalom. It's on my mind, Shalom. And it's it's a difficult Sugya. It's a Sugya of Galus. I think a lot about Russian Jewry. I've read as a youngster a lot about Russian Jewry. The Russians worked for 70 years to remove the Yidden from Hashem. We're Hashem's people and the stated person in Russia, one of the reasons I'm so attracted to Chabad is because they existed in Russia and with all the efforts of the Russians, there was a stubbornness on a Yid. Anybody who knows about Chabad, there's a certain like Shtarkkeit. There's like a fierceness on a Yid. It's a direct response to a country. One of the things for sure, they were in a country fighting. There's no Stop. You're not You're not the people of Hashem. You're not the Am Hashem. You're not Am Nivchar. And they received something certainly from parents, elders, elders, Zaydes, but also in response to that voice, "You don't belong to Hashem." Was a stubbornness, "We belong to Hashem." Anybody who studies about the Yeshiva of Novardok, Novardok and Chabad are two places. The Novardokers in The Russians would The Novardokers would take off their shirt. They'd go to the Russian. They They'd take his gun. They'd say, "Put it to here. I'm not being Mechalel Shabbos. I'm not You can shoot me. You can blow my brain." They take his gun, put it to that, "Blow my brain. I'm not being Mechalel Shabbos. Ich bin a Yid. You're not moving me. You're not You're not" The Novardokers had this quality that the difficulty brought out, by the way. K'sher Yano Eis Achayn Yifratz, the difficulty brought this out. Chabad, you see this sense by Chabad Chassid, I could tell somebody tried to fight them. They're hardened. They're battle-tested. They're battle-tested. Somebody fought them and they're like, "They're not giving in. You know, it's not It's not happening." It's just not happening. We've gone through the wars and we've decided and there's a determination, I belong to Hashem. That I see that a lot in Chabad. This Yid next door, his parents came from Russia. And this Yid next door, it's it's a fun It's a crazy story. Some guys stole it. He has a barn that's not in use. And guys thought he didn't care about the barn and they played around where they shouldn't. Don't touch another person's things. My Rebbe's main thing he spoke about is honesty and integrity when it comes to money. Don't touch anything of another person. But guys were shaggig, they didn't know, and they touched his stuff and he was very, very mad. So he told one of the dorm guys, "I need to speak to the Rabbi." I went there shaking. A farmer I had gone to a different farmer who was upset at our guys and he told me, "I'm going to drive you out of the city." So I was coming to this farmer with a lot of trepidation. I meet the farmer and it turns out his name is Shalom Grinzburg. He's a Yid. Steve Grinzburg. Shalom Grinzburg. He's a Levi. We're mamish cousins. He's a Levi, he's my cousin. And we spoke We schmoozed for We schmoozed for a long time. And he's a Yid. He's mamish a Yid. Who He didn't know what Shavuot is. He never heard of Shavuot. So a Yid who didn't hear of Shavuot. He never heard of Shavuot. He's very, very vital. He lives next door, mamish. I've been there baruch Hashem a couple of times since. And he lives mamish next door and didn't know what Shavuot is. Next door to the Yeshiva. So, I called up [ __ ] Gurevitch and I asked [ __ ] "Please come next door." And [ __ ] came next door. We needed to play this year's music. I told him the whole world knows "Tatte my King" and the guy next door is unaware of "Tatte are King". And I brought [ __ ] down. I asked [ __ ] and [ __ ] the tzitzis came down with with us. We only played for this year. He was mesmerized. We then brought tzitzis to him, David Rosenblum, brought him a cheesecake. I asked him to put on tefillin and he wasn't ready yet. It's a beautiful Yid and impressed me that he he couldn't just put on right away. So, I put on in front of him. I wanted him to see tefillin. It's the first time he ever saw a tefillin. He He has his father's tallis and his father's yarmulkes and he told me from time to time I take out my father's tallis and yarmulkes to look at to remind myself who I am. That's what Steve told me. From time to time I take out my father's tallis and his yarmulkes to remind myself who I am. He's from He was born He was born I believe his parents were born in Russia. I think he was too. He's been in Durham since he was three. Since he's 68 years old, he's been here for 65 years. Sholom Gurevitch. So, I wanted to express I wanted to express that in thinking about his story, I feel more like more like he adheres me and I'm him. He's a Yid who's been through He's just a story of galus. He didn't He didn't meet Yid He told us when he was a little kid his parents would leave him home. His parents on Jewish holidays, this is why he doesn't know of Shavuos. His parents till fourth grade on any Yom Tov he wouldn't go to school. But then the fourth grade teacher, he told us his name, I baruch Hashem forget it, the fourth grade teacher embarrassed him in front of all class, made fun that he's a Jew cuz he missed on the Jewish holidays. And he was mebayesh him in front of he said he was an anti-Semite. He was meva'ayesh him in front of men and his parents sent him on Jewish holidays. He started going to school. He His parents didn't want him to get embarrassed. He started going to school. And when I was thinking about Shalom Halevi next door, I felt we were singing a lot before Shavuos. Hashem ois lamayitin, sham gave us ois his Torah. Hashem y'varech es amei b'shalom. He blenched us with shalom. I was thinking that Hashem gave us shalom back. Hashem y'varech es amei b'shalom. Shalom was back home. And he's going to come visit Yeshiva. He promised me he'll come to mussar one day. And when I think about Shalom, I feel my Yiddishkeit even more. In seeing somebody pulled and tugged and a teacher surviving Russia and then and then a teacher meva'ayesh him for being a Yid, we're Yidden, that's where we belong. That's where we belong. Shalom said there was a pastor, a local pastor who was very nice to him. And he asked the pastor that I'm a Yid, could I call you mister? I can't call you pastor. And we were all very moved by that. I'm a Yid, Shalom, from from a distance. From maybe a room, a shtickel having yichud. A shtickel having yichud said I'm a Yid, I can't call you pastor. And I want to express that this site as far as she is, there's a space a person can come to, very deep space of touching that you're you're not my husband, I have a husband. I belong to a chabura man. I have a husband, I have a place I belong, a relationship that's from there she has children. From that space she's more with her husband when she has that hakara. And it could be we read this story on Shavuos. At the time that we have a chosson with Hashem, with Hashem's Torah, it could be we learn the site. It's the story of somebody maybe in difficulty and through difficulty perhaps who has this deep deep I have a husband. I don't know but it's you're not the right one. You're not I have a husband even in difficulty. The very we read of Ruth is a family that moves out but comes back. I have a husband. I have a husband. I have a place. I have a people. I have a land. I have a space I belong and I'll always come back there. So maybe maybe in some ways that's why we learn site. I don't know. I do believe that's the shop when she in that room makes a declaration whatever brought her to that point but she walks out of that room saying I have a husband to her. She's pure. With her journey with all the things that brought her but at that moment she says I have a husband. No way. Nobody else. I have a husband who's my life. Who's everything and she walks out of that room to her. There's a purity that's been born. She has a child from there. Maybe. I don't know why the minute is to learn site. Somebody could check it up. If he wants to read I'd love to hear. I like pondering myself. This is what I was feeling why many didn't learn the site. But I want to give a chance. Take it away. I Why do we cancel from the carbon offerings? Therefore No so >> I know you're famous mid-match. So, my whole committee showed the site of the base. So, so, so he also might say I got to come on my famous give what they are. I mean it's the most of the people here. He's saying that's why they learn site this. What's he saying? What's he saying? No, he's screaming the soul that explain why we count from the owner from the carbon of iron. It's like he we are going to the bottom so we go from Michael to Michael bottom based on the site of the bottom. That's my connection. That's what you're saying. That's a very good. Very good. So, you're saying that's why we learn site. I like I like it. I'm open to ideas. Open to ideas. Where else would you What is where else mean? Have you heard you heard this man where else? That's a minute. It's a big man. Tell me what they want to I'm sorry. Did you want to say that? Is that what you supposed to say? Yeah. It's always a good question why we learn this. That's a very It's also 49 block. Why do we learn this? It's a good question. The pastor says because at our scene I we must have a scene of so good of as we swore to keep the tire. I think the walking out of that room not doing an act is an act of that's what it's saying. Cuz she's saying no to you. She's saying no to that guy. That alone act of the It's true. It's true. She was at a tough space but her walking out What? I hear. I hear. Lately and I brought my asking is there a case is there a case that you didn't say no? It's possible. It's possible. I want to say that the act of walking out is a mitzvah that she's saying no. What are you saying, Ari? >> Wouldn't she feel insulted that her husband accused her of That's what Benyamin is. What? I think she would be like no no Mortally insulted. [music] She was she That's why I'm just saying she There were things going There was stuff going on that Yo, but she did something and Benyamin she should not have been there. She Remember she was wrong to be there. She was wrong to be there. Like the second side. Then you combine the two sides. Sotah, do you say no? I'm just saying the lesson of the sotah Khevra, but I just want to say just Morty says, what are you connecting? I'm just want to say that we learn masekhta sotah is the journey of a lady who is married to a husband and may go through things along the way, but it all brings her to say you're my husband. She says to her husband, so it's true there's a bad scenario sotah, but the the the story of sotah perhaps of why we're learning it is the story of with all the challenges and difficulties. stop in Russia, we may go to a public school here, we may have our own inner confusions, our own questions, our own shame, our own disconnection, ultimately that space that we say Hashem's what I want. We're back and that's a That's a purity and that's a space our whole journey can bring us there. I'm saying on this lady with challenges this story of the learner of Torah at times he's inspired and sometimes through through mistakes the The comes to a space and I want to a sham. I want a sham. So that's the journey. We read even sight the all the stories of our life bring us I want a sham. And sometimes it's in success that we come to that space. Sometimes it's in bad situations that we come to that space. That's That's what I'm saying perhaps why we read the story of the cycle. That makes sense, Morty? Yes. May May the Derek have sure. Could that be mayor? Say that again. Could be that could be that could be that well said. That's well said. Well said. And I want to say the re hook she kosher this man. No. No. And that's the key of the story of our lives. The story of our marriage to tell her to a sham is tremendous times of of that bring us close to a sham. Sometimes even in distance the the journey of the learner and liver [music] of tires even in distance he had it's not what I want. There's something I want. There's something I see in this year I feel my Jewishness from a space of distance. My heart I feel through shallow where you didn't where you didn't when he's describing a pastor an English team like I feel a sense my where you didn't where you didn't we belong to a sham was supposed to be with a sham. When I hear a year like struggling with feeling and that never having seen feeling. I put on feeling in front of him. I felt my feeling maybe the most but I like feeling. I felt it a lot. It was important to my feeling. I put on feeling in front of shallow it was like very important. You've ever met him Rabbi Ross shallow? Steve he works at He used to when we first even started here 10 years ago, he's still at his stand. He only stopped that the last few years. He had a corn stand. What? Even in the summers, he said. The last maybe year or two he doesn't. And he used to have a stand the right Yeah. You told me right there. On the right when you come out to the highway on the right. First one on the right. When you're leaving the campus on the Yeah, when you're leaving the campus. I want Ariya, you have a song for the chevra? We all want to hear Ariya. Yehuda, do you hear Ariya's song yet? Whose is that? Whose guitar is that? Oh, really? It's haddish, it's haddish, beautiful. But I know you love me and I know you care. So I'm I'm lucky. and I feel >> [music] >> you near, but I don't always feel you. You closely [music and singing] listen. Let me show you [singing] how to love me. Let me [music] tell you what I need. Can you hold me when I'm falling? Can you help [music and singing] me when I flee? Let me show you >> [music] >> how to love [singing] me. >> [music] >> Let me tell you >> [singing] >> tell you exactly what I need. >> [music] >> Where [singing] are you? I'm searching. >> [music] >> I need you. I need [music] you right here next [singing] to me. Let me show you how >> [music] >> to love me. Let me [singing] tell you what I need. Can you [music] hold me [singing] when I'm falling? Oh, please just never leave. Please just never leave. Please just never [music] leave. Oh, please just never leave. Oh God, it's [music and singing] all I need. Let me show you how to love me. >> [music] >> Let Let tell [singing] you what I need. Can you hold me when I'm falling? Oh, please just never [music and singing] leave. Let me show you what a love is. >> [music] >> Let me tell you >> [music] >> tell you exactly [singing] what I need. >> [music] >> Where are you? I'm searching. [singing and music] I need you. I need you [singing] right here [music] next to me. UNBELIEVABLE. >> [applause] >> FIRE. FIRE. FIRE. [applause] FIRE. ABSOLUTELY FIRE. FIRE. That's what I'm talking about. Fire. That's lit. That's fire. Wow. Yoel, yeah. Yoel. Somebody could play for you and then you could sing. We have to teach you some songs. You have to teach it to some teacher, Taya. Teach it to Taya, you know, play it. Something. He has a song. He just can't play it. You can probably play it. That's beautiful. Probably, yeah. Thank you, Ari. God, that's good. >> Thank you, Ari. May you and Ari stroll two years. Feels like two. It's funny. It might be a stroll. >> [laughter] >> Trying to think if we have any tennis competition here. Maybe Maisie can give you somewhat of a contest. What do you say? We are a couple. You played? Preparation. Ari, you can give him a game. Ronnie, you can give him a game. Listen for a second. I want to tell you one more thing. This. I love seeing you with your dad. I like it a lot. I like it. I like seeing I like the father and son. You got to try it. You're enjoying the schwarma, Avram? Black coffee. I like it. Yeah, I can like it. Good. This is the drink black coffee now. I just poured them on the coffee. You poured it back to sugar. What? You can play music, Ari. I do want to welcome Gabriel. I want to welcome Ari to Yeshiva. We're both fellow Chabad Chassidim, aren't Me and Gabe wanted to add more to Do you know each other from before? Fellow Rebbe talmidim. I owe Rebbe one for sending us Gabe. I owe you Are you still in touch with him, Ari? Ari, you Ari? Ari. Thank you for being Yaya. >> [applause] >> Come on, a little bit. Yehuda Zalman, did you meet Yaya? Yeah, let's get get on it, bro. He told me, "Okay, he met Yossi, do you know each other already?" Yossi, you met here you know from before? Oh, yeah, earlier earlier. How many came Shabbos? Every, the name every is there. It's what we're all called, yeah. I like I like a lot that the parents I thank Binyamin for bringing his tata. I was so happy father came. I thank Nissan for bringing all the chevra for allowing the fathers to come. To me, it's a very big day in the yeshiva. To me, when your son's there, so the father's there already anyway. So, you might as well have the fathers here. Brocha davoin, our children are expression. Reb Zadok writes that your children are your deepest thoughts. That's what Reb Zadok writes. Remind me your first name. Avrahami. Some people Listen, I want you to hear this well. Mayor Some When I say this Reb Zadok, some people get insulted. When I say your children are your deepest thoughts, so a guy says, "I'm so embarrassed." A guy whose kids are off the derech, let's say. So, you say your kids your deep No, this can't be with you.