The Will; How To Prepare It Halachically - Rabbi Yaakov Weinberger

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three weeks ghazal may tell us that sinus was the cause of the karma bias and we have to make it our business that that servus should be done properly and we will not have any sinister name that was going to bring about the binyan abayas bukurtif now cinder the word denim which simple meaning would mean for no reason it bothered me why is it called enemies for no reason in most cases when we have problems of the khalika's it's for money sometimes big money why are we calling it for no reason but yes i i think sinister in our case when we're talking about a problem those that are a little aware in the issues of family feuds that come about because of problems in your life could easily be avoided by making the proper cevus the proper trust and at that point the word khinem here is for no reason i'm not saying the mean they're fighting for no reason the fight is for no reason the feud is for no reason if they would have been done a little lazy that we would have been preparing ahead of time appearance then this would not come about now first of all a very important to writing a will it would seem like the heading on the igea toyota was about the difference the world was a given that people are writing a will just the question is what exactly our statistics are that there is a very very big percent of our community high mission community that are not writing to us not doing the and the question is why the first thing is the altift pell is certain which would mean that why talk about such things although the sudden have to bring down that just like buying a piece of chalk a piece of a priest riding at savua is a school of fairy his young there's another school of writing at sevilla it's a scholar that your children our children should be attending each other and if you don't write it all henna love how often do we have problems now why don't people write the worst so we said although it's not a reason some people say i have nothing what to write about that's that's a legitimate answer watch it right i have nothing i have nothing to divide okay i can't this there's nothing for me to contradict that it's a good reason another reason that people say which we're going to be talking quite a lot about tonight what are we writing at salud the toyota ready set us settles an order of khalika as we were talking about ben bass an order what am i here to write i'm a hit the message is that we have to change the jerusha that isa yes true the moon is immigration in zion steve zion he writes someone that wants to write at cevua to avoid macholicus in the family tells them how to go about it but is if granted we're going to talk about that daughter's wife giving different people if a person does plan to do exactly the way it's written the title meaning wife gets only her amount that ghazal sacrifices such a case is it necessary to write a cevua is there any accomplishment do you gain anything i found the main reason why people do not write at sevua in the last couple years that i've been dealing with it because they feel that riding at zuwa is like putting in stone meaning it's such an important document there's certain things that i'm not so clear-cut i'm not sure what what to do so we wait till i'm 100 then i'll write it so first fact every tour that's written today is written with all what you want to give how do you give it you end all by saying this is in intact until i will not change it if i change it i have a right to change it so if a person has an approximate idea that he plans to do and at that point he's about to write about this one detail write it that detail could always be added and changed so that's not a good reason of not writing at because i'm not yet clear at every detail what i hear from people saying you know if the children are now the their family are not the type they're they're not the type to fight you don't need it if they are a type that we're going to be fighting about ever it's one help is that true i have i'm gonna i counted the the the this time you know we know seat belts are very important did we hear any seat belts any accident with a seat belt that was came out where people have seat belts and there are accidents and the seat belts does some good but doesn't always 100 no seatbelts anymore the answer is first of all we have to do irish travelers besides the seat belt makes that that accident should not have that much of an effect same thing here yes you're right that you could if if with the word is what there is ways and how people could make problems but first as a parent we have an obligation and if we're not talking to everyone that's here a parent if you're going to be talking to your parents we have parents have an obligation to do their establish it should not come about to be a macholicus if it doesn't work annoying salty which means i did mine and at that point i'm off the hook there's a safer called mavriyavik a cadman a talmud from which is 400 years ago he writes about the importance of writing and every detail to write and he says if the children is going to help your children to be not arguing and you'll have manikin and then he writes and if khazra didn't work you're off the hook and you will not have any whatever rest in peace we want as we call it will not have any effect of you or their fighting that provided that you did yours now you know we're talking so many actors why yes right let's get to the point but i have a different thing people say that this discussion of having people arguing children it's exaggerated there's one two three festive stories and and because of those terrible stories called horror stories people make accounts of bear out of it and and therefore it doesn't happen so often i have to share with you a statistic in border park we have today their their father was the friedrich attack of he's one of the those years that were in many poscum diunum and saturn and entires he told the yid in those years before computers he had his filing cabinet and he took a person into his room and he showed him he saved all the information in his flying cabinet and he showed him look at this filing cabinet seventy percent of the the toyotas that i've been taking here have been handling here is connected to yerusha now the bayside there are 427 [Music] is and seventy percent of the dentitis are connected to that so yes it's not exaggerated okay established we have to write a civil at what age when when when does that start very interesting i did some research kamat knowles has an age the only one that i came across is absolutely mcliga in the middle of the civil war that he writes he gives a throw in that it's he wrote at age 50. so we have a number 850. so everyone here would say okay hashem life expectancy has gone up so what should we do if 50 went up well i don't know exactly but 50 is not the right age compared to hashem two years ago i gave a shirt in raleigh hotel in bob in months in uh catskills the love there is ramadrashev his father is the in belgium and antwerp there's a lot of cries where he's over of christ he is the one in charge of everything and anything you know he calls the shots as they call it so he told me that his father has a setup a i don't know he has the birth certificates but he's a weir ao yi that turns 60 okay we removed it i.e that turns 60 it's today's day and age when you turn 60 he calls him it you got to write it through he doesn't tell me all the details how you know there's different families settings how to give it what to give talk about that yes 60 years is not you know what should i tell you we're holding in a hot key for now 60 is not it's not it's not jumping it it's not it's not too early to ride by 60. okay we will be sharing you know the benefits of having its will and we'll talk about the will the legal will and we'll talk about the we have a bookshelf with us two lawyers high mission lawyers uh shimon meier which happened to be a time of the mind over 20 years ago in navinsky shiva and buddha greenwald and they will be able to share with you uh during shia they'll be able to add certain things that i cannot i don't know if i don't have so much uh ud about and after the it will be available for legal questions but the benefits and the consequences meaning the benefits writing at the consequence of not writing at civil is you know after people what it comes to the point to say why not you know i never met this year does he even someone told me about him does he eat them in flatbush mr khan the years he's been spending he's spending a uh getting people to buy life insurance policy last couple years he also went out another uh asic of people riding cevus which both are wonderful important things the only thing is that i saying writing a life insurance policy is not writing you know that's that's money of course to write it through is also money but but the benefits of of right taking care of it is mind-boggling why we have to talk so much about it the answer is it's simple people are not aware there's a certain awareness that is lacking now it's true that yes writing at suwa does not solve everything yes there is there's a place for problems with everything and anything done and yes i'm going to make you aware about it and even though we don't have the solution for it but being aware about it sometimes when it comes to it it's very helpful and i'll explain myself as i go as i go about okay before i start i would like to make a disclaimer i'm not a dove i'm a magatir and please consult europe when it comes to mice the lawyers in the part of the law they are legal lawyers for that they are responsible no disclaimers okay i would like to first make a small outline about the topics we'll be talking about and the reason is quite simple first of all for some people that you can hear the outline they know everything they don't have to stick around why sit around you know everything so i'll tell you which things we want to talk about besides we have people have questions you know i i so maybe i'll share with you what we're talking about i'll be at ease knowing that we hoped hashem to address it okay childhood number one is said which was on the topic under on the settle for the shirem say the irish in the torah within torah and in the law when i say united states law is not right because new york and new jersey have different laws believe it or not regarding inheritance now people are wondering why is it important why are we if we have a family of shame yet why do we care why if the english if the law tells us one way and we haven't say the edition we'll see it's very important we'll see why it's important even if you don't plan to change it next shiloh this morning i sat with a young man he's writing it's and we're talking about the ins and outs the pros the cons the issues so he tells me he gives a throw at me this morning i had it why not give away during my lifetime in other words the advantage is the advantage is quite obvious i want to give this daughter the sun this whatever i'll give it in my lifetime and at that point i'll save the couple of dollars that i have to take care of the lawyers with its writers besides that children won't know from each other but i will see you know i'm talking if someone has big big money and is enough to give in life thomas leafy yourself that's not our discussion the regular person has pandusa and he's going to give away in his lifetime his savings we'll see because i'll tell us not to do that the next question that people wonder and it is a good childhood me pascanan cubit of the aim is meaning all the things we do lately initially the appearance so people wonder why are we so busy writing a good aloha with a will where it's the father tells the children exactly what he wants clear and and notes of who know nothing we know what he wants is that suffice would that be enough the desk does that cover all the all the all the bases meaning if the father lets everyone know what he wants he didn't write anything in writing then make a new name as we'll talk about and the next problem is which is not something we could go into detail because ignacio tell you gave me this house in border park to give last year and two years ago the possibility to talk about these topics so the first year i spoke about beijing was speaking tonight the second last year i spoke about the topic of avira santa meaning the am hero took in very very very small amount but the topic of changing is that is it it's clear cut i give my daughter equal and and there's no issue about it in ghazal is it only bashas attack or maybe suggested it suggested to give to your daughters an equal share we'll talk about that but like i said in detail it has to be discussed everyone's separately in his case but i'll share with you what the buddha are of opinion today and then i will base hashem try to share with you some horror stories you know we have i know replace the crown is here he has good stories now people always like a good story a horror story people don't like but if it does the job then we share it the horror stories that i personally have heard people what's happening what things it's mind-boggling where things happen if things aren't done properly with even if you do it so you don't make a proper civil war now here's the hard part an older age people get older and we started out the good news of writing it through it could always be changed it's good news but it's bad news it's good news meaning that i there's a way to write it through it there's no backseas if you but we don't know wants to do that there's different situations but since every does have a possibility that could be changed in older age different family members start influence influencing and pressuring parents to make changes in a will and yes everyone knows you cannot make a change only if it's meaning your head has to be loose i don't know the right word just be clear and any love i've seen upon them when they check out before writing at a nursing home they ask questions they make sure that fine so the parents are taking taken on a ride meaning their emotions are not that strong their their mental health their their emotions are much more fragile and you have children no jingles will call it a yiddish word and asking them to make changes for their benefit is there a way is there an aids for it so it says i have good eights every i'll also nudge okay so everyone will be new jeans he was a big indulger how do you what was that is there a solution for this issue and we'll talk about it with which is this is there are too many families when they sit when they stand up from a shiva i personally know a story that's happening happened two years ago but good news is that last week i think the and the end of the story is almost coming the story is coming to an end certain family had a certain setup and uh equal split erusia at an older age one of the children went to move in to the father he was fully there he stood up from the shiva instead of having the urushi originally as we were written equal shears it was killer chili the one that he lived by had took his father to a of course the father did it with his own good will yeah he had a choice if he wouldn't sign what the son wanted to then he would have ended up not getting cheerios tomorrow for breakfast because he was living with him now just and it's it's quite obvious the families it's it's it's a terrible thing that happened of course what is terrible that's what the father wanted so how could you what i mean it's terrible the father wanted it okay give me five minutes and i'll want what i want i'm telling him to do at any rate i heard stamina gaff i heard it's cleaner episodes from water park was approached he seems like you know some family members and he said it it never when he went to besson just mummish back and forth he said take here it's not important to give a name to take a sholish shulish a third person he's happens to be a talmud i'm a businessman and commit yourself to what he says and don't you know fine it was wrong right as of last week i heard that they committed themselves and they heard them hopefully they can listen okay i got over the topic a little now before answering these questions that we have to answer okay we have we're talking about cebus and there's something called trusts power of attorney and health proxy which these are three important things which i know a little about it i will just give you an outline of a certain thing and i'll ask uh shimmer meyers to come over fill me in a little item for a couple of minutes to fill in the island with some details you know people it's a shame you know if a person here in baru park last year amir eden bar park his wife had a stroke and he has to have he has to have uh he has he had enough if he came from hungary in 56 and he does have too many family members he has a house and he tells me i can't get my i can't get my wife into the nursing home because i have a uh a house on my name so fragrance you're 75 why didn't you take care of it and make a trust because no one told me no one told you so i said no one told you yes please i making a trust this is this is legal as legal comment explanation how it works i'll have but this should be done how could such a thing happen that he should not have his firmagenes that he works his lifetime go back to uncle sam because instead of having medicaid to take him to go should not be able to have the ability to get legally because he no one told them power of attorney everyone knows it comes of an age that you can't make a decision you have a meganess if you don't give take care of the giving or power of attorney it doesn't it's not happening health proxy you go to especially today you know you don't get into the hospital that often they wonder who's the one who calls the shots you need health proxy i'm going to continue with ants i'll ask of shimmer meyer sherman just to come off and just explain a little about the trust how about it goes about what did the the trust accomplish and then we'll continue okay and after after sheer you'll be able to ask more questions okay shalom i'm not gonna take much time it's uh i'm not the speaker here um and we're available afterwards uh but my partner myself to answer any questions um but you know a trust is a little more complicated than to explain in a minute but it's just it's a way of giving over control to other to children in a way that all the a person's assets are protected i think the details of that will be happy to talk about but it's a little long a power of attorney is very simple who can sign my name for me for financial transactions if i can't do it myself unfortunately you know you get people and they say uh you know somebody's ill somebody's this and i say okay but can somebody sign for them is there a power of attorney and sometimes the answer is yes and very often the answer is no and then you get into an issue because if you don't have a power of attorney nobody can get access to their stuff the bank is not going to talk to the kids just because it's my father the bank is not going to give access to a wife just because it's my husband it doesn't happen in a healthcare proxy i know um ray weinberger said it's important that the hospital wants to know i'm just to stress also the um the organization's stresses very much that people should have halachic health care proxies which are very clear that decisions need to be made up the forms are available for free on their website you don't need a lawyer to do them and i don't know this firsthand but there has connor that said that there were people now during kovid that only were able to get treatment because they had a halal health care proxy that showed that basically says that and the terror values of what life is is followed we all know that uh the second world does not uh does not have our uh as to what which lives are worth saving and which ones are not and they said they were actual stories where people were only able to get treatment because they had a healthcare proxy thank you okay i'm going to start now by sharing the islam facts that victor mitchum that are not isaac in the figure it surprises them and again it's not shabbos that we learn on a steady basis therefore it's nothing no time is why they don't know about it but it's very important to know it madin first what difference does it make will get to then taitra if a father the man the father departs from the velvet the hindus yoirish roy bass the son gets everything the sons the daughters get nothing of course they get mizonas if they're of underage they get money nothing to get they need money to get married but we're not trying to explain why the toyota did it it's not fair the toyota doesn't need hours i just happened to heard once they say that if everyone would go with this mahalo at the end of the day it would be very fair every family the sun gets meaning it and ends up that the men get as much as the ladies because the men get everything if this like the my my wife's doesn't get her brothers get it but dear wives doesn't get it so it's not negayo to explain the logic and what's the fairness in the law a daughter gets equal shear within in the legal such thing in the in a step child that's adopted in law gets an equal share as a regular child in the toilet it's a wonderful thing to adopt children and bring them up but gets nothing i'll share with you again how do i hear stories people bring me stories they know i have to share with them three weeks ago a mice ashore aide passed away uh aide passed away him and his wife they had a son and a daughter the son passed away 25 years ago the daughter had appearance in their house taking care of them for the latter taking care but they were there for the last 20 years the son had a bunch of children grandchildren and they gave her be wonderful visitors they came to visit the parents and say that hello goodbye anderson now that the parents were nifty are the grandchildren the daughter that 20 years was metaphorical with appearance but the biggest messiness got zero the grandchildren make it better even if the son let off leftover only daughters the granddaughters get everything that the daughter gets nothing because the son is the irish he's not here his yiddish goes to his children of course to his sons first if he has no sons the daughter gets it next when he's nifty his wife besides getting the ksuba which is msinus in the new york law the wife the spouse gets half the children split the rest the other way around when the wife is nifty the husband gets everything children get nothing when in the law the wife gets the spouse gets half the husband gets half and the children split it and it's going to be important for us to know that this is the say that yerusha okay now now here's the question the door gets nothing okay no question about no questions asked include it's not a hug but let's call it a hawk and we're not holding we're not handling here with now once one thing is quite obvious if you're hounding some of the children are secular or they might challenge it in court of course you need to have it severe because if you go to court there's a different guidelines as embarrassing but all the children go the best you have a house and written on the parent's name let's say what trust wasn't made yet was it not the parent's name the pair the father was nifty the mother sniffed it and we have to get the children which in the law said children share it equally now that the children are the fernany the daughters say that we're not the ocean no problem they have no problem they're not they're not forcing the daughters to get it but they need one thing signature we sign off our share a sign signature autograph are the daughters they're not asking for hiroshima are the daughters to sign that document could they charge money for autograph well we you know people did we did a lot of things to get autographs i don't know we don't holding it an autograph is something now the police kamadan starting 300 years ago the the the marit marie boston they were done some said what this is this is a survey the sun can't get the house you can you're not the idiot just sign this is dumb the mice said there are a lot i'm not saying most plays come out of the opinion the daughter's got to become it has to be it has to be a fashion we have to make a a shooter with her we have to make something to make him happy some police can say give her 10 percent of what a boy that determines a total of what is she of a boy it's all complicated again which what the point here it's a wonderful thing to go to best not to court but it's even more wonderful not to go to bed neither to avoid it because it's very hard when a family goes to bed and fighting it out especially with some tiananme playing the dirty as they call it and at that point they they go leave bezna and then everything even they can accept the sack to be schuler magistral it's not so simple this why do why does it have to come about that a daughter either wants to give his daughter nothing but it's right or wrong it's not our issue why in the world could he not write a document that the son is the irish not my daughter i love my daughters but i just want to stick to the title at that point what he gained was that there's no best note in tita because true you know the signature you don't need anymore signatures so if a dad itself just to avoid getting the daughter's signature it's worthwhile again i didn't say don't get for your daughter we're gonna get to that but if you decided not to give your daughter documented and at that point you don't need any any dentitis basically people are wondering if i have a will legal will why are people busy in a illegal will the legal will i don't know with the trust i'm not sub account most police commander of the opinion did a legal will meaning that a person even though i just told you the guidelines of the government regarding without a will but if a person shows up in court whatever and quality goes with a lawyer and documents or notarizes i want my son to get everything my daughter to get everything whatever he wants it's a free-for-all it's your money a person cannot be mast namashikusa bataida the titus says the daughter is the irish this excuse me apologize the son is not the daughter i could write till tomorrow i want my son and daughter to get equal it doesn't work you cannot because a minute after the peter after i die i have no say in the matter i could do it in a lifetime so basically our what does is we give the kenyan we make a kenyan and it should take effect regard meaning i have a power to give my money in my lifetime we don't want to give it away the murder sectors it tells us there are three people that scream and no one listens to them because they did it to themselves you know what one of the three people are a person that gives away his money to his children in his lifetime and then he needs the money i come schnuttington's kids and they said i don't know you so hazal said you did it to yourself the message is don't do it don't no again they say don't give money to your children don't give it away if you have enough to keep for yourself so that aids of giving away is not an idea so we give it to this community basically you need to make you can't do it yourself that's why i love that does these things knows how to make the communion consider how it takes effect but the problem is a lot of times we have these some of these uh some of these uh people say oh that then i don't need a i don't need a legal will anymore you know you won't have every judge understanding all this communion how it works especially especially the kinion of uh where they do it so you need a legal will besides i just have to you know since this i heard the story front of hank and zatal just you know everything is getting so uh uptight and so brilliant so scary i just had to give a uh geshmachi mice in to make a attention there's a certain family he'd got married he had a son abrahar his wife passed away mamash years a couple years with a short while later he remarried had a new family second wife and the first child was mom is close i'm fine everything shulma is so wonderful until he was getting a vage and the second wife and the children made a heisman that they saw that uh you know with turning around he's the brother especially he's getting a double share and it was a lot of a magnus what do we do so everybody came up with a plan he was a little of age that wasn't going out much he came to visit the mother came to visit the wife's second wife said he can't come in the father's resting next time the father went away the kids make along so sure this this the sun was not let in here he and the same children that caused the sun not to come in and started telling the mother what the father what you see what is your son at the old age he's not coming to visit you if i were you i would write him out of the out of the way out of the the out of the inheritance sounds right you know why they're there constantly telling him he wrote it and it seems like for some reason i don't know the technicalities but it had to be written five million dollars whatever it was was for his wife and other kids and on that one gets fifty dollars at some number and he stood up from the shiver after he passed away the son was stitman he wanted i don't know this part of the story it ended up in court it didn't end up investing either this doesn't stim that's what happened told them do me a favor it was written in the description an interpreter in court had to interpret it and he asked and do me a favor i want to speak to interpret when he says it over in best in court you should say word for word and they sit down and start saying the sides and the interpreter starts reading what it says here it says that the father said that this child should get five million dollars this child should get fifty dollars after hinduism secure one minute one touches hundred and twenty years not what you can't give to 120 years so the father the fifty one they got fifty dollars no problem i could wait for fifty dollars the one for the five million dollars says okay we gotta settle got the story that kade you pulled the fast one they're gonna pull them out so he had the hint when he dies but so you gotta wait 120 years except if they settle between themselves if they touch okay okay as i said most paischem agree to give daughter to give a daughter it suggested to give to a daughter because of kin of a sinner give give means make it write her into the interests of even though why should she be jealous the title right so but since it was become part of the system that daughters are given if my if the daughter doesn't get she is not the money that much it's like touching up that i must my my friends will look at me i wasn't a guitar doctor so it's it's very personal that they take it even people of means want to get the fathers from a goodness simply to show that i was a good daughter and besides there's a big asic of the daughters taking care the same tai dick in chief of members someone asked him there he wants he has a son and a daughter he wants to give his daughter two-thirds of the house and one-third for the sun i mean he writes why i'm of age i have to move in i want to move into my daughter because i feel more comfortable than my son is that called you know usually it's one thing you give for the door more so the same with say the rights where does it come in yerusha here am i allowed to take my money to the grocery store and buy food i'm allowed to go buy myself a jacket you're using your money to get nursing care which happens to be your daughter the police can say that if i give my daughter and that's going to cause her to take care of me or she did take care of me that is not like kelly i'm going against the toilet i'm taking i'm using my money to to have an ability to to to be taken care of what quality of life that will help now but when we're talking that's daughter compares the sun which the toilet didn't give it they want to give the hot the real sticky problem starts with giving suns bigger shears than each other this son of mine is the next yashif he's such a good daughter i have to give money i have to give more than anyone else the other son is such a universe so it's simple my other children will understand why i gave him more abusa we're even with a good reason now of course if you have udon good ol gizzy that you should give and could give is one thing on your own the data cloud it's to take it for granted you do not start making selections giving this son more this son now if you say the other children who understand fine so if you have all the children will agree that since he's such a heife therefore makes sense to give him and they all agree there's no problem but if you're not ready to share it with others in your lifetime obviously it's not so simple that everyone knows but i still have to bring it up second marriage has to be addressed finances if a person a lady everyone the lady with a man as well if a lady remarries and she has no her own i'm not talking about norusin that she is using from her husband very important zach when he dies as we said and there was no urethra or there was giving me the suns in our circles but there cloud while the mother is alive we don't we don't take away the hussain we better have it what happens if the mother which is not the balaboos starts giving mates she starts getting sun in the clock and so not nickels and dimes big money so rob i saw an achiever remind myself well i'm talking who i saw it he brings down um enough heartfeltness that it's gonna naive of exhaler for the mother to give money and do not take your mother to court the best tell them a cobbler matuna the one that got them a tuna is that they should give it right back because the mother has no right to give it wishful thinking it's going to work they'll give it right back yeah okay so the child is how do we give give up take care that's an issue how to take care so fine so leave your wife something that she should be able to give matunus if you want her that she should be able to give handouts for hasanus but the second marriage if a person remarries and she has her own money taka if she if it's not a dress giving to the children with cevua's with canoonam with trust what happens is she remarries older people we don't know who passes on first if she passes on a toyota every nickel of hers books the second husband he passes on all the money that she had goes to his children it's no big problem has to be taken care the other way around is not a problem because if the husband goes and doesn't write it over may not tell you his wife is not the irishman fine but what happened if the children already want to sue in court and the wife gets 50 so it has to be addressed as well here's the horror stories that we promised you again this is a story that that it shouldn't happen but aide had five children he bought four houses for each house for each child it wasn't a big issue one child but she happens to be the closest to he didn't buy a house technically he had a d that worked out fine it was never addressed no the hindenswan secured passes on so what's the look on what's in court no shiloh that house split in five that son he couldn't understand i spoke to that son personally he just didn't get it my father bought four houses to each child you know why my father didn't write at cevua he knows it was simple math you have five children you bought four houses each one a house and i was as close if not more than anyone else so this house is mine there's nothing so this is every nickel that you spend for a lawyer and a dying and this is a waste of money it's not shyly the whole thing is simple split in five the father what the father i imagine father really had that in mind i think so i would imagine so knowing the father write it down document it make it make it the moisture has achieved a very intimidating very shaky problem aid in his lifetime for tax purposes had to it wrote a couple of his houses commercial buildings on his daughter's name notes of after 120 years the sons said her daughter says i don't need it i have the house i need it so sometimes what i mean that was he only did it for tax purposes yes no maybe again this is if the if a person let's let's make let i can tell you another story this indian of having houses and others names is very besides my everything should go fine two years ago i had eaten a man a month he asked me if he could meet with me i know people call me they want some advice i never came i have to hear the story it seems like i came for a broker that i should give him a broker because there's nothing what to do four sons with a daughter and the four sons uh the father was a minimum penusey they had a house and their sons after the shivers decided to give the the to tell the daughter sister good news that the sharing was there the sharing the house with her equally on their own they could do what they want the father couldn't get a mortgage for whatever reason doesn't i no you don't need the defend so the daughter which was of means agreed to have the house on her name and now the daughter started laughing what do you mean the house which house are you giving me a fifth of that house that i let deftati live there for free rent free so we have a house is this he asked me is there a nature says i give you first i asked do you have any documents that your father's paid the mortgage every every month at least whatever anyone i don't know anyone that has a house on their house and others name it has to be addressed i don't know exactly with lawyers it has to be addressed i eat them in in months in in and i don't see kensington called me well called me a couple of months ago i should help them right at ceva so the first thing is before writing to i want to know what money is i don't know it was by the way i just helped ideas so i want to know i asked him what do you have he has a house so my first question was whose house is and whose name is it my brother that passed away so but my nephews all know that it belongs to me to so i said we're not trying it's worse first let's get documents that your nephews are agreeing that it's yours but last week two weeks ago i got a phone call they called the nephews yes no fine that's what in hanukkah time since then they haven't picked up any pho phones i wonder why and now he wants to write at cevua voice i anyone that has for magnus of under the name and speak to mimikom about it i don't know the eighth is but there's there's too many stories i just bring across the point of hilltop brings in a safer very interesting to what extent we did this goes was lifted he left no tv so this door gets some gets everything the door gets nothing the son not knowing gave the sister a share the son-in-law which was a talmud knew that it doesn't belong to him so he's asking rabhil tober you know someone puts money in your pocket thinking that it's his packet you got to tell him the hundred dollar bill doesn't belong to me he got a half a million dollar from his brother she got brother-in-law and the wife thinking that that money belongs to whom to her i'm gonna tell her i'm ready to take it but halacha glee doesn't belong to me is here to tell her i'm not going to pass now there's a lot of details past this yes okay just um see that's what happens when you write horror stories it gets all mixed up here okay um but i do want to really okay what i do want to talk about i have my eight minutes ten o'clock we're done okay we could go over time no okay stories get here okay but he said what i do want to share with the island yes you know we had here has to have some connection to the situation that we're handling now with the covet yes it i didn't look to connect it because it's quite connected nursing homes are not in have a vacancy and the reason why nursing homes have a vacancy i don't know who is humbling listening is not because so many people nebuchadner nifter yeah that's one reason there's another reason and we'll get what has to do with the words and issues here another reason why it is a vacancy is because people are very hesitant to have their parents go to nursing homes especially the union of the nurses are having a field day they're fighting that this was cavaldo not let people come visit it's a free for all till now in the which medicine did you give we were on top of them we took here and we did good we meant good we did good all of a sudden the law says that you're not allowed to do it you can't come in besides the fact that the elderlies need our visiting the care is not the same excuse me mine i that's what that's what people think at least so here's the stuff basic is that people are starting to keep parents more at home than putting in nursing homes i heard the prime knowledge was once approached i saw the child achieved as well a person is immigrated to take in his parents in his house rather than putting him in a nursing home not not that nursing home to some people nursing home is a good environment to have people to be more with but let's say better clothes better care is there of a son to take in his appearance i'm gonna get passing you but it's a good insurance policy that they should your children should take you in if your parents are taken in by you and your children see that then when you will need to be taken care of they'll take care of you as well agav so we have this asic that people are taking children into the houses now apparently children are taking the parents into the houses yeah that ten children one one parent takes you have ten children ten children can't take care of one parent yeah when you've been you're most lost yeah yeah we don't find much about the story's attention okay al capuna we started off with people taking in children into the parents going to children's house or children moving into the parents no tapes from the asic of those children which are attacking taking care of the parents and people say oh this one child is ready to move in i stand up for him don't stand up yet i'm not sure what his intentions are don't take it easy we have too many stories when people move in what what happens and sometimes they feel it's legit that i'm taking so good care and my i'm in the middle of the night yes besides i don't say you have to wait for this you deserve it i spoke to a big guy in bar park he told me it's it's something called when a person takes care he has he has he has obligations to take care of his parents and that gives him a right to get his but the question is how much now we need in such cases when these things happen we need something called a shulish a third person a third person is such an asa people should not wait till things get out of hand that when there is a six forget about parents coming to the house how often do we have that we have a parent we have five children edward me is the best one doctor says surgery one doctor says medicine and each child is ready to fight for the rights of the parents mama student [Music] when he fights if it's not it gives up i i want to take care of my appearance how could i give how could i be movated so i once heard a story about a family that couldn't get to first base every parent suggested take it the third person impetizes no nakias you know everyone isn't a gay bedover so that makes sense he says he cares so much about his parents 99 percent sure that that third person could say like me but i can't take that chance of that one percent that he's gonna that my mother will not be taking care of i can't take i can't listen to shulish and what should i say what should he say everyone thinks the same way but he said you have to have a third person that dashlicious that does licious regarding how much does that child that lives there have to do and how much cheese should the person have and someone told me over prime vozner which is now used to be here of in london and before before before his father passed away it was and a a year that lived there in europe a big millionaire left he knew old hamlet he took care of all the cebuas and everything and everything then he said in the end of his civil rights children i know everything's said and done things might be him i beg of you and i ask you and i command you whenever do not let it get out of hand go to and he pointed he knew him and fight it out in front of him and whatever he says let it go the son of one of this is a family of 12 children the son told me do we have quite a few fights of course that's normal they went in front of rokheim they debated it his words was there and all 12 children are intact because they listened now what do we do with the original issue of of the problem we started out with if children start playing around with the cevus of the parents the good news is that i'm out of time so i don't have an answer even i would have time i still don't have an answer for that but being aware that such a thing could happen is i'll albi shia meaning the awareness of people playing around with with the parents schlepping them to change the worst ad is something that shouldn't happen and could happen and has to be addressed i want to be messing with with the call arya which was a famous love in hungary and it was a big hustle of the sons of the brechain one year he came to the sun's roof after pacer and he told the sun's roof this year he had impacted one after another how complicated lucas is you know rav is ready to pass him but you know no one is he really interested in homores if it's you could be makel and it was like it was a hadith him so sansa have asked him tell me did you learn pasta properly this year so he's so did kolaria said i'll tell you the truth every year before pastor of all of his space this year due to different to meet them and everything i didn't do it and sansa ruth told them he'll just pay attention he wanted you to learn you didn't learn it on the job you didn't learn before the job you had to learn it on the job but we spoke so much about these alohas and about this hopefully we'll be right sir by learning that and there's a shirt thank you for listening the simple eights and the bashar is the sponsorship donate money and uh the two lawyers who came i'm sure greenwald [Music] share your retire at 718-851-8651 or 718-853-3950 [Music]