The Weekly Chaburah On the Parsha (Vaera) - Overcoming One's Personal Exile

and he asked me says you know he just got the Shoal they they renovated he said do you want to maybe give a haburra you know once a week so I said to him I said it's a great idea it doesn't have to necessarily be me and you know per se but I think it's a great idea to build America where it's not just the khabur where something Rabbi or some Rob walks in here and actually says his Toya but it's more like it's khaburra is where people get involved and they'll be saying their own words hopefully or you know obviously in the middle of the particular thing it's better that we have less talking than more talking but there'll always be time for questions and answers and if somebody wants to add or somebody wants to speak one week it's you know I wanted to be a user-friendly environment where everybody feels connected this is one person you know running the show um I want to tell you a little story about partial you know when I was a little boy I remember growing up I was very you know the major says which is a which is an English book I was very into this book I was nine years old eight years old I don't recall exactly but I was already into this book called the Metro says and what what really really you know got to me was the fact that we can learn Hamish we could learn Rashi uh we could learn with Russian but if we don't have a clear understanding of what's going on in the Parsha a lot of questions arise a lot of questions arise and these are questions that I don't want to say shake a foundation of of a of a Jewish boy or an adult but it definitely definitely leaves certain marks on a person where he has doubts he has certain questions he doesn't know why certain things took place so I I made it my mission almost growing up um to actually you know delve into into the Parsha every week I really did whether it was with the archaim or like I said growing up with the Metro says and you know it really really built the foundation it really built the foundation of my my Muna and Basham because not every not everybody's gonna get all the answers not all the answers are in front of us us not always are we capable of knowing all the answers but you know every time you get a question that's answered it builds your immuno sometimes and there were so many questions and funny just last week's Parish alone I do recall two times when I was at that age eight nine years old that certain things bothered me in the Parish of my review would say certain things and and I always said you know come on really is that really what happened or how did this happen or how could it could it have happened and going through the measures at that age even just the Metro says that English book really really answered a lot of questions and it opened up my my myself to getting more involved in understanding the partial and of course if you don't understand the Powershell that's also okay because if every letter of the Torah is infinite and every level of Torah River Kiva was able to look at a crown of a yud and come up with 36 different interpretations on a crown on a DOT so add that to the piece attached to that add that to the letter tell you it's infinite there's no ends but every time you get an answer it definitely builds in my opinion and I think it's just something that we all should actually you know get involved in every week besides all the other learning you do but I want to tell you a little story an amazing story that happened with my daughter many years ago my daughter is 28 so it must have been 13 years ago 13 she was 15 and she was in a school called tag I live in Far Rockaway and and in tag and all the girls schools especially um they give you jobs everybody has a job every head body has a project everybody's head of Geo clubs they give you just things to keep you busy Yeshiva Bach and Berkshire I have a lot of toilet to learn so even after those things after school you just continue learning for girls a little more difficult so they would give out different kinds of jobs so my daughter's job actually in this school was this is before the iPhone okay this is when they had flip phones and I don't think she had her own either actually I'm not sure actually I think she did and I didn't know about it that could be but anyway um you have a flip phone and if somebody has to show them wasn't well her job was to send the links I think it was pass it on to 10 people what's the word what is it called the word for it anyway you pass on the links and don't break the chain and make sure everybody gets it that was her job now I don't know if that was just pushing her off from doing another job but that was her job whenever somebody wasn't well she had to be involved in that okay Parker said beautiful job I remember one night I was sitting at my table my my daughter's sitting there she's on her on a phone and she's and she's busy you know she's busy you know like looking and she's getting like I turned to her she's getting like very you know it's a rude to me so I'm very shaken about something and I said to what's going on she was Abba you're not gonna believe what happened I said what happened it's terrible it's terrible I go what happened she goes it was a boy in Israel that was taken captive by a bunch of Arabs boy taking captive Arabs terrible we have to say we have the diamond for him what's his name Joseph and Rahul that was his name so I remember sitting at the table I'll be honest with you my reaction it's not the right reaction but I said to myself in deep deep in my heart I said no but this never turns out well usually that's what I said to myself I'm being open with you I said I said this is I can't I hate to see what's going to happen though 17 year old boys taking care of what could be the ending to this so I thought my daughter oh it's terrible what do you want to do we have to send out the links everyone should say to him everyone should say to hell so I said oh amazing it's beautiful and then like I sat down in the dining room table she was in the living room and in my mind I said one cuphead so let me know I have to prepare the homework for something for some class and but in my mind I'm thinking this cannot turn out great in my opinion which is not the right attitude because you have to always have a tough high and I feel a curve out all the options you have to always has Miracles people make our miracles so anyway she sends out this link and within like it ain't funny even without the iPhone you think only without it the spread like wildfire I remember my mother-in-law in Borough Park called me up to say did you hear and there was it wasn't it wasn't about the news it wasn't on the radio it was literally Word of Mouth anyway so she arranged my daughter Reigns two two houses away from me but I think Rabbi heck that lives next door to me a big tehilum Gathering big tillum Gathering and within an hour they were saying women were there they were saying to Helen anyway my daughter comes back at around I don't know what time it's like 11 o'clock at night and she sits down on the couch feeling hot you know good at bark Hashem they diving them up but there's never enough tea lights of course but you know your accomplishment that we're diving and we're getting involved then she gives out a screen she goes out of scream she says terrible this is terrible how could this happen who could be so crazy to do something like this and say what happened what happened she goes it never happened there was no Yosef Ben Rocco that was captured who was it it was the Parsha of vayashev and noisip and Rocco was taken captive by the Arabs so what a terrible person what a crazy man everyone's diving and everyone they got people all nervous and scared and I want to tell what my reaction was I was sitting there and I'm soaking this all in and I'm thinking wow this guy's a what he did was Godless was greatness he was teaching us that to live the parsh of the weak in that week's power show yo Yousef is taken captive so we should feel as if yasu is taken captive we have to feel the partial Louis it's not just you walk into school and you read the parisha and you go and you have Shani and then you just move on it's not just about breathing the parts of the week is the part of that week that we should look into that parisha of the week and see where our lives are what can we now I you know that the next week he was saved can you you know you know zoom in to the fact that in that week's party in trouble and to feel that yes is in trouble and to live that week as if Joseph's in trouble and that meant living the Parsha of the week that's called living the Parsha and I made up my mind I remember it was like 13 years ago I said and I said to myself you know what I'm gonna take it upon myself not just doing the partial but trying to look into the parisha and see to the best of my ability I'm not because I'm not a big exotic I'm not a hush of a man but to the best of my ability can I see myself in my actions in my doings in my life how can I learn something from the parisha of the week that can motivate me that can show me how I'm supposed to deal with certain situations so to me that was very very important very very important so living the parish is a very important thing they actually say a joke over a member that there was an older lady that was in a school and every week every year when she went came up to the park okay they're reading the part show of Yosef and and the selling she would always be crying for Yosef always be crying because the moon she lived departure of the week this older woman lives departure of the week one year he didn't cry so her friends came over to and says you know Beth whatever you don't usually cry when it comes to this section of the of the Torah that we read about Joseph being sold so she said you know this guy Joseph every year he gets into the same trouble and every year he gets out of it this year I have no Rahman out on him I have no mercy he has to learn from the but basically the moon of shooter of that we as people can understand how this person actually understood what it means living the Parish of the week but living the parisha is a very very powerful thing and what we learn from the parishes like I said it's not just about Shane mikra it's not just about the paragum not just about going to show it's about implementing and you know that could be the reason why I'm serious while you have Shani shlish and master is Shabbos so that every section has something to do with another day of the week that's called living departure so we're up to Parsha schmoz I want to go back a little bit because they were going to be doing this every week I want this to be a continuation of a theme of of of the Parsha so I'm going to step back a little bit and talk a little bit about Harsha shimos and about the the Sheba the slavery and then we'll move into into the area a little bit so um in this week's in partials we know that cloudy as well you know they started to mingle and they started to get involved with the you know with leaving Goshen and as the as the last of the passed away it said that they actually went more into the culture and more involvement into into Egyptian society and Hashem felt that this has to you know it can't go on and he brought and he brought to slavery um the lesson obviously is that we as Jews we sometimes think that you know when we connect more with the non-jewish world that of course you have to be friendly and of course you have to be mental and of course you have to be respectful everybody's created in the image of Hashem and everyone deserves respect but when you try to to think that when you think that you're connecting with them and being like them or friendly or showing them you're one of them is going to make them like you more uh the third teaches us that that's not the case they actually start to hate you more because Hashem wants us to step operate ourselves we are a holy nation we are I'm school and Hashem wants us to to tap into that and to make sure that we don't we don't connect so the slavery began and different things that happened in the parish I want to discuss one of the things ishmy based Levy um Power of the Creed that all first born should be thrown into the into into the Nile into the river so Abram who was the the father of Moshe the father of Miriam the father of our own he was the god al-haddar of the generation and he decided by the other Tuesday maybe that what it says that he took boss lady but before that The Meadows tells us that he actually separated from her and why did he separate because he was you know the decree was to throw every firstborn in so he felt that it's it's not worth worth it for the Jewish people to have to suffer where they bring children into the world and what happens and then they get thrown in if they're if they're if they're boys into into the Nile so he decreed that everyone should separate from from their wives and being the God al-haddar that he was and people listened they all separated steps up his daughter Miriam and she tells them you know Abba your decree is worse your degree is worse than than pyros because pyro only decreed on the boys but your decree is going to stop even the girls from entering the world which is worse so what did he do he said you're right and he quickly changed and it says he took the back you know the door of lady took her again that what to show that you know that we should everyone should remarry their wives again um so the Bible you must tell us an unbelievable thing that what made him that goggle why is the third telling you this story per se teach us that the greatness of amrom was he was the god of Hadar yet his little daughter who's at the time five five and a half tells him something and instead of shushing her off instead of telling her I'm the guadalajar let me think about it it says right away he heard it and he accepted it greatness is not ruling greatness is accepting greatness is when you understand that if you did something that maybe was incorrect even if it's a young girl even if it's your daughter but if she says something that's that's important I I will listen and what did he do he remarries his everyone remarries their wives and Moshe is born motion is born six months three months early she hit him for three months so what does it say it says that she puts him into the into the into the river you have it puts her into the river and the mother puts Moshe into the river and Patia the daughter of pyro is approaching the water why is she approaching because she's approaching that she was going to be magaya she was going to convert so that's why the word Batya actually is from the word base Hashem that she was actually entering back into the house of Hashem and she goes to the water and she sees she hears a voice she actually hears a voice so Rashi says the says behold there was a child crying but she had mercy on the child Fatima and she said this must be a Jewish child so Rashi says there was a youth that was crying so Rashi is questioning what is this wording of Youth it's David hinatino what's the listener by Joseph it says which means more of an older older you know child not a young baby so what happens so Rashi says that Hashem made it that the voice of this baby should be the sound of what should be the sound of a of a child that's more adult more of like an adult child so therefore she will be noticing this and say whoa what is that sound and therefore she will actually go to the basket and actually think about the basket more and and put an eye onto what's going on here so it actually says it was the sound of a child the Bala tourum says that it wasn't Moshe that was crying the Bible term says that it actually was Aaron her coin that was standing there that was crying where does he know this so the ballot term says that the Gematria of that's what he says he says that from the Gematria of narber we see it with arunachoi that's what he says so how does he learn the plastic that really being in our book it was Aaron not on Moshe she had mercy on him a love on the Nar bocha which was our own that Tomah and she said this must be a Jewish child that what if another child can cry for his brother like that it must be a Jewish child the nashama of another Jew cries to the point so she recognized from his cry that that must be a connection that must be a Jewish connection and therefore she said from his cry she realized that this must be a Jewish child so that's what the Bala term says anyway most should get saved and he's brought it and he's brought into Paris Palace which is an incredible thing because I should have most power thought he would kill the leader of the Jewish people not only didn't he kill the leader of the people but he actually brought him up in his house so you know it says and yeah there's you know I meant to track a person thinks but got locked a person but God laughs famous expression person can have all the brightness in the world at the end of the day he sucked him the way Hashem wants something to be done that's how it gets done you do your establish you do what you have to do but at the end of the day you have to rely that Hashem gets things done and it's unbelievable he brought up the leader that he tried to destroy anyway samosha bainu escapes he leaves escapes from I am he runs to ISRO and what happens Hashem approaches him at the snare we all know and he tells him take the Jewish I need you to save my people I need you to save my Jewish people I need you to go down to Missouri and its time has come to save call yourself save save the Jewish people so what does moshrabel says unbelievable he says Tech others boho how can I go Vani arouse visaya I have a problem with my talk if I paranoia I can't talk normally which to me growing up always bothered me I don't understand Hashem comes to you and tells you come take out my people he obviously picked you because you're that leader he obviously picked you because he knows you are destined for greatness so can you imagine somebody calls hatsala somebody's dying and you say I can't go because I'm not equipped with uh with talking as a certain way I don't know whatever I mean you get up and you do especially if Hashem comes to you and tells you go and please check out you know help my people I can't go wow Anita Ross for sale so it always bothered me two things number one why didn't Hashem tell Moshe rabenu you know I get it you have a rolls for Siam you feel it's not respectful for pyroy I don't know what the husband is but but I want to tell you I'll heal you I'll heal you you have nothing to worry about I'll heal you and you'll go you never find that conversation Hashem said me some pair Hashem says you know I can do things he doesn't say I'll heal you he doesn't say it to him and question number two is why didn't ever ask to be healed moisha sugar he realized Messiah can you help me out you know fix my mouth and I'll go you don't find that conversation so there is a darsha Saran that actually explains why that actually never healed in general why didn't that Hashem healing so it says that in the future when Moshe speaks when moisha speaks no one should say that the reason why moshrabena was listened to or the reason why Clydesdale accepted the Torah are the reason why they listened to Moshe when they did is because he was a good ore he was a good speaker he knew how to to be a good salesman he knew how to he knew how to connive he knew how to a Nagel he knew how to talk to people he was an unbelievable salesman and therefore that's the reason why they listen but why didn't he heal it right away the question is why didn't he heal him right away though right so talk to pyro that explains why he never healed him later on now I will have to say something about my brother said an amazing thing actually in bukukosai on why Hashem never heals him we'll get to that afterwards but he never healed him according to that shot his death to show but why didn't Hashem heal him right away so I saw an unbelievable thing I forgot who brought it down but I remember seeing it many years ago that Hashem was teaching not just Maisha Ramen but Hashem is teaching the world that moisturabino's greatest attribute physically was his mouth that's what he needed the most spokesperson lawyer Giver of the Torah his whole power was his mouth his path yet he had a deficiency in the one thing that he needed he had a deficiency yet he became the greatest leader of the world nothing should ever hold the person back from becoming who he needs to become by saying I don't know if I'm smart enough I don't know if I can if I'm capable I don't know if I'm strong enough whatever it is everybody knows his own little little Yates of Horrors that try to bring him down when he feels he can't accomplish something that's within reach because of that little voice in his head mother's greatest attribute was his mouth that was the one thing he was deficient yet he became the greatest leader of his people so that explains why Hashem didn't heal Moshe but the question is why didn't most ever ask to be healed why didn't moshev ever ask to be healed so I saw I think if Sternberg brings this down in his mind it is he says like this he says that moisha beta one of his great midos that he had was akarosatov mosh Ravine was all about our courses of appreciation appreciation we see that by the water he didn't want to hit the water why because it saved him but he didn't want to hit the water because the water saved him right he was afloat I actually wanted to add to that actually the water did not save him actually the water was his enemy actually what it was was trying to get him the basket saved him from the water but the fact that it floated that saved him I'm not going to hit the water the water was not his friend the water was he was in the basket in spite of the water but the fact that the water the bathroom was able to float on that water her car set up by Marcus Keenum by the lice he didn't want to hit the lice well I could do the marker why because it saved him when did it save him by when the mystery was swallowed up that he killed it saved him I'm not gonna hit these are things that are not human they're not even human there's no brain there's not thinking but could do imagine the crying from love it says this can you imagine if you have a curse at all for objects that are not even alive could you imagine that occurs that told a person should have for for living things for people if you can have a course over something that doesn't even think but I want to show appreciation to the thing Hashem created it it helped me I'm going to show appreciation to that thing that was created so he didn't hit Kingdom right so again if I also when the Flies were left with Ryan what happened he everybody was busy collecting The Spoils of of the land and he was busy with Atmos he'll say why Acura appreciation for what he did he's one of the one it was a sort of Love of appreciation it wasn't just the promise that was made by Clyde as well because somebody else could have done it but he felt I want to show my courses life and he did it and many other places it's brought down is across the type and here moshabbin who had an electrified pet but why did Moshe Alabama have a fight most romantic Cloud Pet because when he was a little baby he was sitting on Pyro's lap and instead of taking the diamond the mall of cave and pushed his hand and he took the cold and he burnt his mouth so Hashem saved him moisha never wanted for one moment that he spoke that there should never be that aspect of a parasito he never wanted to have that opinion of our chorus told leave him even for a second therefore he did never ask that his mouth should be healed because he never wanted the fact that he had appreciation that I should have saved him to to ever to ever leave so we see a tremendous amount of of her curse at toe I curse told that that Moshe Rabino had um and um and therefore Hashem never asked never told him and motion never asked but I want to discuss something that remember I mentioned in the beginning there was always one thing that always bothered me when I was a little boy and I remember when I said reading the murder says I saw that answer in the message says and it was bothering why shaved lady never had to do work it's never always bothered you know first besides motrabino always going into Metra and toparo power should have killed him right away obviously there was a certain KOA uh uh uh you know a a shield that Hashem protected most Romano every time he walked into fire because it should have been should have been over right away but the party they couldn't stop him they either became blind I think the measure says that anyone that tried to touch him got got killed so they obviously they couldn't do that but anyway some Ultra albino it always bothered me why Chevy never had to do a vote why they never had to do work yes you know that they were never slaves you know that right so the famous question is if they were never slaves why don't they even say the haggaro pays up if they were never slaves why did the Shaving lady have to say that because none of our brothers okay so so not only not only not only did shaved Levy not have to avoid them but it would be cut when we break the three middle we break the three Matos the middle one that we break is shaving Levy which is our volume that we want to show the slavery we break the middle Mata Levy actually was not even in the in the slavery but it wasn't me was how come they never were slaves that always bothered me I remember learning that having power even get the Jews to be slaves how did you get the name spells and slaves he made deals he said guys come out of Goshen I'll give you architecture I'll give you real estate you'll build your build for me and he was paying them lots of money save his lady said you know we're not interested in the money we're not into the money we want to learn Torah we're not interested in the money what we're going to do is we're going to sit and go show we're gonna learn tomorrow we're not interested in the Autumn haza we want all them hard but we're not interested so what happened so pyro you decreed you know gave them a vote they gave them work he gave them work he paid them then little by little he stopped paying them and he owed them money and little by little he enslaved them slowly like you know little about strip was slowly it happened in levels it happened in levels where once they were already working working for free as a rebbe I can attest I remember time that I didn't always get paid and you know and when you kill you still keep coming for the right reasons obviously but once you they say what's another week you're not getting paid on time what's another week and you just get it to mindset where you're already involved in not getting paid so they know it already they know it already you know it's what that one guy that makes a macaw that that actually does get paid at the End by the way but anyway so what happened so um so how did he get them so shaving lady says we don't want the money we want to learn Torah then he got them all enslaved so therefore chamber lady never fell for the trick if they never fell for the trick that's it right but it never always bothers me why didn't pirate just get off and say listen guys shave it lady guys are fantastic great job you didn't fall for the trick now get to work he didn't make the work afterwards just because they didn't fall for his trick that's why they didn't have to work for 200 and something amount of years where they started whatever 100 years that they were actually enslaved before the whole story took place so what what actually happened here what actually happened here so I remember in the bottom of the Metro says there were little stars everyone should get them and she said bottom of the star it says everything what happened pyro was very superstitious pyro was worried about the other gods of the world in Egypt especially in those days Superstition was huge people were scared of God you could hate the God you could not worship Him you can despise him but you're still scared pyro was scared of the Gods and it's brought down there were laws in Egypt that said all people that are clergy or priests clergymen people of the gods do not have to pay taxes they don't have to work it was a superstitious thing so pirate did not know who the clergy of the Jewish people were he didn't know who the rabbis were but he put two and two together if shaved Levy were the people that never actually came to work they wanted to learn Torah they must be the rabbis and if they're the rabbis they're patur they're they they're exempt from having to do slavery so therefore the Torah was Megan protected shave it Levy that they didn't go for the money they didn't go for the wealth they didn't go for all the you know wow we're going to be wealthy we're going to be rich and what he rather didn't learn Torah and therefore their Torah protected them for the all the years of the slavery so that's why they were never slaves so back to the question that why why do they why do they even yeah I want to ask something about yeah okay the general assumption is that Cohen is more holy I'm leaving so my question is is that why is it that the lady were not were enslaved but they were still allowed to go back to the land of Torah and I'm more holy and well there was no Cohen at the time David Levy work the baham came from Levy but there were no kohana shaved lady that's all it was there was the Jewish people but they weren't given the the power of shaved lady yet they weren't given to Kahuna they were not giving that they were later on when they left mathrayam where they given Hashem gave that coin should we do Abode and Levy should the work otherwise they were regular people it's just that David Levy actually were more spiritual in their learning at the time so what happened so so shave it lady never so why do they even say that Gods at all so in the back um somebody answered that his physical suffering and then there's spiritual suffering but most importantly is when you see your own brother suffering if you're on a high enough level if we are on a high enough level watching your brother struggle physically whatever he's struggling with is your personal pain it's as if you were enslaved so the shave it lady watching Claudia throw enslaved they felt as if they were enslaved they actually my know it says when he walked out of Paris Palace the first time when he was 17 years old and he went out to see it says the Apostle says to see the the suffering of his people he used he took the Yokes of the brothers that he tried to put them on his own shoulders to say please I wish I could do this for you you wouldn't have to do this a person a college world has that Meda that they care for each other you know and on a perfect level where your pain is somebody else's pain so in essence they were enslaved by watching their brothers and slaves and sometimes that's even more believe it or not you know when somebody God forbid gets sick the person that's sick doesn't always is not as scared sometimes as much as the people watching the person there is a protection that Hashem gives that's the truth you know I know people that never that have a certain disease and you know and I see their families are losing it and then when I meet the guy he's okay he's okay it's almost like Hashem gives a certain gift to the person that he can handle a certain sorrow so the other people don't have that service so they don't get that gift their job is to understand that that gift you know but they don't have it so sometimes actually watching the pain is greater than the actual pain itself so so this is something that you know I wanted to mention that you know you go through the parisha there's so many questions that could be asked so many questions that could be asked and it's up to to us to actually are the best of our ability to actually see and to and to work on the power show to to see what we can learn from the parisha to see what we can internalize in our own personal lives I don't expect anybody to do the Gorilla Grow and to open up to a safer and say should I do this business 10 million dollar deal today and open it up I I you know listen you have a better chance than if you thought of it on your own but I will tell you that you know if every human being here should really try to learn the partial more and uh and I appreciate you coming today and I want to wish everyone a good job and thank you for coming foreign