The Weekly Chaburah on the Parsha - The Haggadah Shel Pesach (Vayikra)

okay um thank you everyone for coming I couldn't hold us Nissan tonight according to the Torah it's actually the first month of the of the calendar year it's the New Year this is the New Year War because well became a nation in this month so I could have both who counted as the beginning of the year um I'd like to thank hazak uh for hosting this event and the kundlich that's following uh the khabura and tour anytime always for uh for giving out this year rim so I'm just gonna say one vartira on pashas vayikra what a fascinating one I remember this for years and years and I just every time the parish comes up I love repeating it and then we'll go into the Hagar show PESA and then pesach I current or porno if he had a a light that emanated from his from his face and khazal teach us that this light was put on Mocha when he left harcina because of the Holy stature of being in shamayam and claudiusville that fell they were not able to see that face so Moshe had to wear a mask but our colors bro who actually gave Moshe this light because of the Holiness of getting the Torah and being in harcina and the greatness of mosharabenu where did this light come from because I'll tell us where it came from because I'll tell us that when moshrabena finished writing the safer Torah the second time when he finished writing it there was extra ink remaining from the letters that would have to be written for the complete Torah Hashem had extra ink and therefore Hashem took that ink and he put it on most Rubino's forehead and he had rasham said to Moshe this is your ink this is your ink it's extra it's yours put it on your forehead he put it on his forehead and um he had a light that Shone from his face till till he was sniff tired till he passed away so the real question is what does it mean there was extra ink Hashem doesn't know how much ink is needed there's extra ink Hashem over over made the ink that's needed for for the safer Tower it doesn't doesn't seem right doesn't make sense that I should have an extra ink Hashem knows how much is needed exactly to the drop so people want to tie in this week's Parsha of that small Olive to the extra ink how do they tie it in it's amazing how do they tie it in most rap battle didn't want to write vayikra that Hashem called him he wanted to write that Hashem met him by all the other in the VM that were false and all the the not good in the VM the the non-jewish prophets when Hashem would give them a vision the law should met with you like by billab was it Hashem chanced upon Him Hashem met him didn't want to write for the kavod it's the start of a Parsha that Hashem called them Hashem called them so he wanted to write value car and instead Hashem said no I want you to write I want people to know that I called you because this is not just the kavod for you it's a kavod for Claude Israel to know the greatness of Moshe Rabino their leader so I want you to write the aleph so mosh said you know I will but I'll make it a small Olive instead of a big Olive therefore hazal tell us that because there was a small Olive there was extra ink and because there was extra ink who did it belong to belongs to mocha Rubino because it's his because he was the one that wrote a smaller Olive therefore or Hashem took that ink and what did he do he put it on most his forehead and Moshe had a key current or upon up he had that light so that small Olive is actually the reason that motrabino had that light emanate from his face so that's about your I thought it's a beautiful word I thought it's a nice connection I wanted to mention that now before I go into that other person I want to tell you an unbelievable vort that I saw on the hagada shop and the reason why I'm going to say it even now before I go into other things is because many people when they when they watch you know the tour anytime video they watch the Youtube video whatever is how they see this year um you know like a share you watch you'll listen to the first five six minutes and then you know if you're busy you you know you'll just shut it off or you're not interested you'll shut it off but you know you'll listen for three four five minutes and then the extra 25 minutes or 20 minutes is too long so I want to make sure you hit this of art because it's an unbelievable vart on that is an amazing keyword Akira Torah that you could say it over not just for that girl she'll pass that but you could say it over all year on the power of what it means to to be mechanic your children and what it means to do kirov and how do you do kirov when your children are going to ask you and this refers to pesach the holiday of Passover holiday of pesach it says it will be when your children will ask so hazal tell us when it says the word children children have many children from there from that Posse we learn that there's more than one child that you have that's obviously a son and there are four types of children the word binaka can refer to four types of children the Russia the Tom and the shainia the Alicia those are the four types of sons um you know personalities of sons a person could have so when it says it refers to those four Sons when your children will ask and therefore we have it in the Haggadah and therefore we have those four people asking questions in the and we discussed that and we discuss it in length the differences between them what is one saying over the other one so that differences is mentioned in so we know there are four Sons so the word vohoya is a very interesting lashon why because the word vahaya is always used when this Joy implies for the Gomorrah magila tells us that when the when the Torah uses when the Novi uses the Russian it's a lotion of Happiness when it uses the lord it's a lotion of sadness was dealing with to push them it was also um in the days which was bad and then it says of difficult times for cloud Israel we mentioned it in a two year ago or something like that so the question is one of your children is a Russia if you have these four children one of them is a Russia you have the hakum the Russia the Thomas And The Daily Show so how could you universally save her when your child your children will ask with Allah of complete Universal Joy when one of your kids is Russia how can you say universally everything's great it's not great one of your kids is not following the ways of Hashem not just that he's going against the ways of Hashem so what is the LaShawn of universal Russia that's question number one question number two why are we inviting this kid to the table I mean let's be honest maybe he comes with tattoos maybe he comes with nose rings maybe it comes with ponytails I'm not judging anyone but I'm just saying that who knows what influence this kid that's a Russia is being invited to your table with your other three children the Tom the simple guy and the Shania Daily Show you know you're not ask so why are you exposing your child to that son of yours spend time with him take him out when no one's around but you're bringing him to your pace of seder you're not worried about the influence he might have on your children question number two so question number one wife why are you inviting him to your table then we tell them to ask questions ask soon as he starts asking what do we do we according to the hakashina if we knock his teeth out that's pretty intense sitting at the space of Sadie with the other kids at the table your family your relatives you go tell this guy to ask your your son who's never Russia and you and you knock his teeth out and then we tell him something interesting guess what we tell him if he would have been in mitraim he would never have been redeemed never would have been redeemed you think he cares you think he believes in it guess what if you were to Messiah would never have taken your ass he's not interested you think he cares so what's going on here that's an unbelievable answer a few years ago unbelievable number one why did we invite him to our table because Hashem says it's leil shimuru it's a night of watching it's a night that Hashem says I don't just physically watch you I spiritually watch over you Hashem says tonight's on me tonight's on me I want everyone at the table don't be worried about the influences don't be worried about the questions I'm taking I'm taking responsibility it's a night where Hashem says everyone comes together it's a light of a it's a night of a Muna it's a night of bitahon it's a night we could do so much good for people I need I need him there I need him at the table so then what do we ask him we tell him to ask questions and then we knock his teeth out why are we knocking his teeth out so there's a Gomorrah that says the lashon of Haka doesn't mean to knock out it's a big because most people don't learn it like this the word Haka can come from the word when you smooth out when you smooth out the metal it says so hockey can also mean which means to smooth out what does that mean over here that this rush or your son is a angry he's frustrated he has so many questions he wants to ask so by by letting him ask you know what you're doing you're smoothing out his lock jaw his anger his frustration you're smoothing that out by letting him ask again hashem's watching over everyone tonight let him ask and then what's the lesson is because the fact that this son is at your table and that's a reason to be similar the fact that this son is willing to join you this Rashad which could be anywhere he's willing to join you is a reason to be therefore the Lush is referring to all the children be happy that your son is with you because if he was someplace else you would not be able to get to him is referring to him being at a different table a different place ilohaya show me if he was someplace else you would never have a chance with him so it answers all the questions I just think it's a beautiful hidush what it means that sometimes these children need to ask questions sometimes these children need to be heard and when they're heard they soften their blow they soften their anger and they and and they feel better and they can um relate and open up to listen to you so it's very very important to understand that what it means when a child is asking and how much it benefits him that you listen to him that you hear him out very very important I just wanted to mention that I just want to tell you two stories actually um that I read recently about uh pasta it's not really exactly about pasta but pestic's involved um a talmud once came a student once came to a prime kaneevsky and he was living in a very tiny apartment in Bene Brock and he wanted to move to a bigger apartment not in brene Brock someplace else which was out of the neighborhood I guess it was not as maybe as right wing or whatever it was as where he was maybe it's a little further out where you know there's a mixture of different kinds of Jews and he wanted to move out there because there's a bigger apartment there for him and it would be more comfortable for him so we asked for Prime can ask you what should he do the living quarters he's in in the apartment he's in is unbearable with all the children he has and he wants to move to a bigger apartment so Prime said to him do you know that if you stay in the smaller apartment it's going to be easier for you to do bad going to other apartments going to cause you to have to do a lot of bad much more which will eventually cause you little Torah or you won't be able to learn as much because even though there's a Mitzvah to do bad and it's a big you know and and you even you stop sometimes learning to do bad but if you have less to do call a kavo you already did what you had to do so you see how the prime can ask you how he viewed a big apartment small apartment regarding mitzvot and Torah he viewed it oh smaller apartment you have less concerns and worries about having to worry about badika comets in a bigger a smaller apartment so just the way they thought the Minds The Mind thought process of sadiqem how everything in life revolved around Torah and mitzvot that was one story that I saw another story I wanted to mention was a story with um with that there's a story that I remember for years ago I read this and then I just read it again today as I was I buy always every year by three four new ones and then of course I realized when I go through the other hagadot that I bought two of the same every single year that I already have from the years earlier but hey the more the merrier the more that I can give over to other people one day and to my children's they can have so it's big score so today I bought four passed out to go over them a little bit and I reminded myself I saw a story there of shock that I thought was a beautiful story um shock had a student that once came to him Eric the Knight of you know let me let me let me go back to how the story unraveled first there was a psychologist living in yerushalayim that a bunch of people came over to him literally the afternoon by minute time Passat you know the night of PESA that night of pesach and they said to him wow you're very lucky you had a big foot yesterday how were you zoha to such a good he goes what script did I have last night he said that shock visited you last night didn't visit me last night Elizabeth you didn't visit me he goes yeah we saw him in your yard he was pacing back and forth for over an hour and a half he was pacing back and forth he was by you so he was in your yard so the man realized what happened and he explains to them that called them up that's what he said the shark called him up and if shock told him that he has to come he has to come with a talmud of his a student of his that that night of vidika cometh came through in a great depression and a very sad massive he was very it was very hard for him he was going through a lot his family life it was terrible for him he didn't go to details but it was terrible for him and shock knew that he needed immediate help and he can't go into pesach like this he can't go into peso like this so if shock called this psychologist and said listen I know it's the night of PESA do me a favor it's night please please can you see this talmud at some time tonight or tomorrow morning he said rashiva of course tonight tonight I'll come to I'll come to the neighbor asks for Tom I'll come to benebra so shock said no I don't want you to come you have a wife you have children you're needed or PESA let me come so the man said no I'm not I cannot allow shock to bother himself to come I'm gonna come to him so shock said you know what I'll have somebody bring him over I'll have somebody bring him over somebody will will take him so Tyler Moore he came to have shock to apologize he hopped what happened if shock was the one that came so shock said no you don't need to apologize I need to thank you I need to thank you for what I need to thank you because I was so I married it why he says I thought to myself how can I have you come which you have a wife you have children me my wife passed away years earlier I have a tiny apartment everything was already prepared for Passive I'm able to go to yerusha Lion tonight so I decided I'm gonna be the one to bring him but I didn't want you to feel bad that I brought him because I know that you would have been upset that how can the Rashad himself become vote himself come to the to the psychologist I waited outside the whole time he wouldn't know and I told the the man don't tell him who brought you to say you came with someone she said you came with someone but I want to thank you because I never get to walk the streets of you July and with the Holy air of yerushalaya and talk Torah as I'm walking in yerushalayim for me it was the greatest pleasure Eric pesach that I could walk in the streets of yerushalayim and be able to discuss Torah and talk Torah out of my mouth and the fresh air of you shall I am so it's me that owes you a thank you different mindset looked at things now we do know that one of the first things we in agadasha pesach that we actually um that we say we say this is the poor man's bread this is the bread of Affliction and in the middle out of nowhere everyone's sitting at this table right and we make an announcement in the halachmanya in that Fila in that in that peace we say whoever is is is is is is needy reacts should come in partake called whoever is hungry called ditza whoever is needy yes should come in basically we're inviting people it always bothered me you're inviting people the doors are closed you're only with your family right how are you inviting people now who's coming over to your basic state and when you're in your house doors are closed you're ready to start and you say whoever's hungry whoever is needy who are you talking to do it do it in the morning do it before the pace of seder do it that morning make an announcements what are you inviting people now so what is this announcement about it can't mean that it's an announcement to people outside because they're never going to hear it so I saw a shot very nice shot that we're referring to the people at the pace that are hungry why are they hungry they're hungry those that are hungry should come and eat are the people that didn't eat the whole day why didn't they eat they didn't eat the whole day because they wanted to eat the matzo they wanted to eat tomato in enjoyment so we're talking to those people all you that were so careful and mockbid to not eat before pesach in order that you should come and eat the matzo with enjoyment you come let's now partake in the pace of seder so we're not referring to people on the outside we're really referring to the people at our own table and that's why we make that announcement a student of mine last year told me a beautiful thing and I just it was really fantastic he said to me like this I think it was his own hitters and then maybe I think I might have seen it somewhere years earlier but he told me he said to me that why did we go into matron why did we go down to Missouri why were we enslaved it all started with the with the hatred of the brothers to Yosef because Yosef showed a certain amount of because the brothers showed a certain kind of hatred towards the ocean a jealousy therefore it everything unraveled and we went down to Missouri and therefore we became slaves so in reality the reason why we went down to Missouri was because of sinas hatred jealousy and hatred therefore what do we do we need to understand that we're about to sit at the pace of seder we need to change the mindset of why we're sitting at this table we're sitting because of hatred so we're going to make an announcement that people think the people at the table should think that we're going to invite people and we're going to cause great and great Harmony inviting guests instead of hating on people we're we're going to actually show that we care about people and we make that announcement for the people at the table that they should realize what caused the slavery and we have to change our mindset on fixing that so that's one of that's one of the reasons why we say that there's many many different reasons and many different uh why we say that now some of you are new so I want to add something that I've mentioned last week but I think it's a very powerful thing and it's something special to always say over at the table we know that the Torah calls the yamtov of pesach the holiday of matot that's what they call the torikoza it does mention the word pesach but it's really called hagama thought that's how the Torah refers to it in the beginning the holiday of Mata we call it only you don't hear anybody saying oh where are you going for kagama Thought where are you going to be for the mature where are you going to be for pesach that's what they're saying why do we call it pesach when the Torah really refers to it as so like I said last week but I'm repeating it during schwart during schwart we received the Torah which was our wedding to our College Park who was like our marriage our marriage to our brothers for who that we're only going to be with our brothers who were going to be one we're going to be together we're going to be like a khatan and kala forever happened on and the Sarita he brought and the Torah that was given subsequently was that was the tsuba that we are going to do everything Hashem wants right now we had it written that's our so when did the engagement Period start if that's the wedding when was the engagement so kazal teach us the wedding period was that night of PESA that night of PESA was the wedding was the engagement period we left metallion we're leaving with Triumph and what happens we are now going to be dedicated only to Hashem akala being dedicated to khatan we're going out and what did we do we took the matzah on our back and we ran away from it's Ryan as fast as we could and it couldn't even bake so therefore our engagement period was that night that's when we officially got engaged talking in a way and then we're ready now to go out and to serve our you know to be together as an Engaged couple and then 40 days later we if we received the Torah and therefore we had her out our wedding so why did Hashem call hagama thought because just like when they get engaged they always the Qatar always says the Praises of his scholar to people oh my coward does this my cow is involved with that this guy said does wonderful things such a great lady girl and what is the what does the kala do oh my husband learns and like what he does this he does that he's part of that his family Praises so Hashem said I do the same thing Hashem said on the holiday of pestic where we got engaged ah we I will remind you about the goodness that you did to me I will remind you of the goodness you did to me what goodness that you hagamato that you left with the matzah I'm gonna talk about the goodness of what you did for me and we as claw yourself no no we're going to remind ourselves of what you did for us that you passed over our homes therefore Hashem mentions what we did for him and we mentioned what Hashem did for us and therefore we call it pasak and the Torah really refers to it so that is the understand ending the lesson of what it means of a closeness besides that always thinks Praises hopefully of each other but also the mural brings down it says that Hashem tells you said for me a special Praise by saying a special praise Hashem said Hashem says you made me a special Praise by calling me Ahad so so Hashem says but I'm going to sing your praises and what are the Praises I'm going to say about you I'm going to say I'm going to use the same effort that you used on me I'm going to say you're also unique you're also one and unique so that is the give and take this actually this was I think says this word now I'm just gonna go to two three small things I know the by the stardom they don't wear a kettle they don't wear that white kettle on uh on PESA but all Ashkenazi jewelry whether you're a rabbi whether you're not a rabbi it doesn't make a difference usually what affiliation and how religious and spiritual you are almost everyone wears a Kittle Pisa Knight the question is why what is this importance of wearing a Kittle now we know we wear a kit though when you get we get married when they get married and we know that we we're and we wear it on Yom Kippur right so there's something powerful about these two days the day of your wedding is like Yom Kippur right forgiveness you're standing like a malach you cleanse from your aveira amazing so if you wear a Kittle Yom Kippur same thing we're standing like a malach also reminds a person of takrik and shrouds a little bit so it instills a fear in a person so why pesach Knight where it's a happiness and joy and excitement and everyone's like people spend good money maybe that's the reason you spend too much money but people spend good money on pesach people have a great excitement right why are you wearing your Kittle so I saw two unbelievable answers for that number one a father is supposed to feel at the pace of seder like he is the kohen gadol about to do the avodad on Yom Kippur where the coin and though but we're only white therefore big de la Vani would wear you have to view your pace of say to all the joy with all the joy that you are like a doctor about to perform a surgery why because the night of pesach is so valuable and important and it's the it's the foundation of a child's Hashem it says it's Yoma it's the holiday and the day of a Muna where a person could instill in his child and his children he could instill a Muna for Generations you don't know how many people I meet unaffiliated Jews that have nothing to do with Judaism but yet they'll go to a place they'll go to a place why because I remember my father I remember my parents my grandparents and their grandparents tradition when tradition is put into a solid foundation children learn and they continue it so it's a very very important holiday regarding emuna important and therefore a father should when he wears that Kittle should know like a surgeon that goes in to do a delicate brain surgery he is given the mission the the authority to help everyone his children and family to build a moon on this on this night so it's a very very big avodana person it's not simple you know I want to tell you that when I had little children eight nine years old I remember I had a nine-year-old at the time a seven-year-old and a five-year-old and I remember I came on Pace at night two years in a row I did I didn't do for more than that but for two years you know what I would do I would actually make a small pesos for my children for 45 minutes and then they can go to sleep which was around 10 o'clock already but I wanted to make a small seder we went through the whole state I did their book flips they got I had cups of wine grape juice one two three 45 minutes we put them to sleep and then we started our own piece of seder and my guests were okay they Welsh music it was fine but the point is because I understood for though at least I should have done it for more than two years but it's I understood during those years what it means that the whole pesos is based only for your children today a lot of people say that their pay succeed or the children go to the side don't make noise just go over there go play over there no it's all about the children the adults should go play and the little kids should sit because it's all like I said it's a foundation of a Muna so therefore another reason that you wear the kettle is because when you're about to do this is like Yom Kippur it's like Yom Kippur for your children it's Yom it's almost like in your hand you have life and death in your hands because what you're that you're going to put in that night is going to remain forever with your children and that's the Leo shimuru Hashem says it's a night of watching what does that mean that I'm gonna take with avodah that you put in that night and I'm gonna watch it for generations for your children I'm going to instill it in them it's going to be something and therefore a person should come prepared no question person should come prepared yeah you know what I'm only giving you a few little things but tomorrow buy two by two of them and sit down and prepare yourselves the real problem that I do have in my family is that we prepare ourselves the first night and it comes the second night we have almost nothing to say you gotta know you gotta know how to balance it out you gotta know what not to say also you gotta you gotta level it off or if you want to be be smart say you know what we're not doing anything tonight we're going to save everything for tomorrow don't do that either but you gotta learn to balance it but you know maybe have two different buy one with certain degree Torah and then the next night maybe switch should have a different style of the main thing is to get involved I have a good friend his name is yaakov recant actually I called him today and he has older kids yes I think some of them are 19 18. no I think they're 18 16. they had some little ones and for years I know he would do this because he would send me pictures before PESA of his you know he Barca shop is financially doing well he he has beautiful pesach table he spread he makes beautiful fancy dishes and food everything looked great and then right next to him he has all these little Menchies and frogs and all these little things he buys because he sits with his kids and he plays it out he actually plays out the whole my court he plays out the whole story of PESA because he wants it to come alive for his children I said what about the older ones he says I'll be doing this for as many years as I have to I when his kids are married he stops for himself but but in general I'm just saying that it's very important that children understand the Yom Tov and they're involved and you give them the time and if they have to takes them a little longer to say them don't rush them show them that you're interested and then when they finish the ministana the pesach Seder doesn't end Spanish Town okay everybody could leave no sit there and talk to them explain to them go through the pieces of the PESA go through the inyanim explain to them every detail obviously not everyone's capable of doing it the whole uh you know the whole night but remember this is not about the the adult it's about the children because like I said whatever you put into your children in that night they'll remember it they'll remember more than any other holiday and yes the officomen don't give your kid a hard time don't give you a hard time with the africom and a lot of people you're not gonna give it to me I'm gonna eat plain matzah keep them involved the whole reason why the Affy Coleman the holy reason why the AFI Coleman is actually is actually um given it's taken is that the children should stay up late and stay awake so that they could get involved they can get involved in the in the pestic theater so remember it's all about them and if it means that you have to cut your seder a little shorter in order that the kids should stay out and that's what you do to finish the Seder and then spend time with your family and friends and talk so that's just a little bit on the on the haggarash I didn't discuss a lot um first of all just want to mention if any case anyone doesn't know the word comes from the word Magid to say over that concerned the word on that on that night you say over the story of pesach so if it's called um also I want to mention the word seder comes from the word order the word seder seder say the Knight cuts into word order because there's 15 Steps that we take and we have everything in order that the children should ask questions so I'm just going to leave with that because we're ending earlier a little bit because we have a crimson so I thank you all for coming I appreciate it but don't forget that word it's fantastic the ones where the person that never has a son that's in Russia what it means to give time to your children what it means to listen to them when they have complaints well even when they ask questions on Hashem listen to them listen to them don't just get angry at them listen to them because at the end they'll feel that they're validated and when they're validated they'll open up to listen to you too have a wonderful Shabbat and a whole dish over everyone thank you