The Ultimate Kindness Parashat Vayechi

and yov is completing his life in this world after spending 17 years in Egypt but he wants to make sure that before he leaves he makes one final deal and he says to his son y yob says to his son YF if I have found favor in your eyes meaning if you love me please place your hand under my thigh and do kindness and Truth with me please do not bury me in Egypt now we know the mid that says and thear that says that yob did not want to be buried in Egypt because he did not want the idol worshipping Egyptians to turn him into a god into a false god but we see that yov is using familiar language here that we heard before he's asking YF to do with him kindness and Truth with him where else did we hear this in the Book of Genesis CH 32: says says yov where he's telling have been diminished by all of the kindness and by all of the truth that you have done your servant meaning that although I need your help I want your help I also know that you've already given me much more than the merits that I've earned as good as Yakov was and as much good as he did and as holy as he was he knew that aadh already blessed him Beyond his merits such as the mindset and the perspective of the righteous where the more righteous they are the more they realize how kind has already been to with them despite the way it looks like to other people from the outside of whether they're suffering they're struggling they're successful whatever it is they already know that whatever they have regardless of what the package looks like it's well beyond what they actually have earned but Jakob is telling the same thing to YF in essence he's telling YF that make this deal with me make deal with me and do kindness and Truth with me why is this the case he's telling yourf YF you didn't just appear here this is all from and the reason why you succeeded the reason why you're in the position that you are is because of where we came from spoke to abah my grandfather your great-grandfather and he made promises to him if we follow his Torah we will be blessed and those who bless us will also be blessed those who who curse us will be cursed in order for you and your descendants to continue having that blessing you have to continue what you've been doing and ensure that your children and grandchildren do the same the sages teach us that the greatest the greatest kindness that one can ask that one can give to another is depends on the person's circumstance if the person that you want to do kindness with has died you can do MIT for them especially support kiru support toah in their name there's nothing greater in the world that you can do for someone that has died than to support kiru in their name because you're not only doing a mitvah that goes to their account which could also go to yours as well you don't just do it in their name you do it in their name but also to your Merit mitvah is like fire no matter how many other fires you light with that fire the original fire stays the same but not only can you do your grandfather your grand mother your mother your father your brother your sister whoever you love a great kindness by investing into something good but when you invest into cir specifically you're giving them a spiritual investment a spiritual stock if you will that only goes higher forever because every single mitvah that that money will bring where you invest amount of money you want to invest a th000 10,000 100,000 whatever it is that money is used to help people do chuva to give lectures like this to do events to publicize books and USBS and all types of material to help people get closer to Hashem keep Shabbat keep family Purity abandon their Wicked Ways and so on every single Mitzvah that person does goes to your account goes to that loved ones account now they get married they encourage their family to do to also do Chua to also keep the to their mitv also go to your account and your loved ones account they get married they produce a family they continue keeping the ways of Abraham and yov all of their mitv also go to your and your loved ones account in so many words if you invest into the right place that actually produces B and they use that money to actually produce bicha and not just simply to buy more houses and not just simply to buy more watches but they actually use the money to help people do Chua they use the money to help people learn tah then your spiritual account has an investment in it that never stops going going higher you have done a kindness to your loved one that literally cannot be match by anything else now if you want to do a kindness if you want to do a kindness to someone else you want to do a kindness to another fellow in the world another woman another man in the world then you have to do the kindness of emit which is you have to tell them the truth about the will of hem to get them to do chuva disregard their lack of Interest lack of uh uh anything else tell them what a says how share these lectures don't speak to them share with them why because if if you speak to them they'll feel more times than not intimidated that you are perhaps maybe talking down to them or at least that would be their perspective they remember you before you did Chua or you've been from your whole life and they left away and they feel like maybe you think you're better than them the best thing to do is to give them a lecture to give them one of the videos one of the films we've done and watch it together with them if you can't watch it together with them send it to them once twice a week and you'll see that that andit that yov is talking about that's being given to a fellow Jew that's out there a fellow human that's out there will bring fruits now there's no guarantee of success with every single person and especially not on day one but if you make kiru your number one priority in your life aside from learning tah your success will be exponentially higher than you could ever imagine we are meant to be a light unto the Nations not to follow their misguided practices remember every Jew has to remember that he's a Jew and she's a Jew we don't celebrate non-jewish holidays even if they seem harmless it's a z disrespect to the Torah and could lead to CH Hashem desecration of God's name stick to our holy Torah and our own holidays that's the path of a true Jew