The Time to be Real - Rabbi Andrew Markowitz

the convincing argument that convinced the brothers not to murder their brother Yosef or rather to sell him was given by Yehuda ma betsa when Yosef approached the brothers on destruction from his father to go check on what the you know the family business the brothers were ready to murder him ruven said they'll murder him throw him to a pit will passively murder him and Yehuda convinces them with the words my betsa and eventually they sold him and the rest is history Yosef saving the Jewish people and a few prashios from now my betsa what was the mar what was the convincing argument that convinced the brothers not to murder their brother betsa is an acronym says the Paradisio safe for days what was Yehuda telling the brothers Bogart saharayim and Arif recently we had a panel come to my school to discuss the following topic addressing family Dynamics and complexities where children are no longer practicing the same religious observance as their parents one of the panelists said something very very sharp she said Dr shashana papko she shared the following she said that when I was growing up and one of the things that she sees in her life as a Robinson teaching in high schools as one of the major marks why kids what caused them to reject the life of the sky is hypocrisy when people teachers Rebellion mentors parents are saying one thing but in actuality doing something completely different in their observance and that is what she sees as the major thing if we're not genuine then children see right through them Boker it's all right whatever is a reference it's FEMA chakras in fact who established the second letter each one of those names the base and avraham and Sade again what are we going to do we're going to murder our brother we're gonna passively let him die and language away in his pits and then go diving before Cuts Marco that's not genuine that's not real okay he stayed through they sold fine but that was the arguments every single morning every single chakras on Shabbos morning we say that you should prevent hold back from speaking on your lips do not speak what's Miriam sounds like uh repeating the beginning the radak writes near Matt refers to hypocrisy saying one thing and doing something else rights there are three things that akadash barahu hates so none right it's a pretty strong accusation very strong word and the gemara writes the first thing hates is somebody that is disingenuous somebody that is you know educating One Way parenting a certain way and behind closed doors is completely a different person chanukkah is the time to turn the clocks back to become and focus and ask ourselves that question are we genuine are we real in every position not a maximalist and are we doing are we growing but the values that we talk about reflect what we actually do in our lives one's accustomed to the candle you have children that will be successful in the Torah learning what narrow are we talking about Rashi writes Shabbos why is that because they both reflect the opposite Natures Shabbos is about the inside of the home the Shabbos table the candles lie inside and Hanukkah is outside there are two sides of the same coin Shabbos is about the values you talk about inside your inner life your inner home and Hanukkah is the image that we share afterwards there's rad Hashem those images should be the same chanukkah is a language of Education the greatest we can give is when we show our children our students the people around us that we are real and we are genuine phrase