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The Three Weeks In Halacha - Rabbi Yakov Zev Smith
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since we started I don't remember a year
like this that we have Sunday Tamas and
next week is already in the middle of
Tamuz we never had an opportunity to
talk about the very important minion of
the three weeks the nine days. I was
thinking that hopefully this week we'll
talk about the and next week a little
bit about the nine days to use the
opportunity that we have. Now of course
we have
said even though he believed in Msiah
but he still wrote a mish 26 years of
his life because you have to be ready
for any eventuality. [clears throat] So
the is that this is a very challenging
suga because if you look at the three
weeks in there they're really three
different periods and I have to be very
clear because it's today's we call it
based on a
but there's really three parts of it
with different
beginning which is so form many thought
to be we don't listen to music and other
things like that we don't
We'll soon see
then you have the the
and then you have what is the of the and
that is what's called the
and you look until you realize it you
might make some mistakes because really
that have the of the is the
Ashkenazm we have many beginning which
is some of them of course begin with
with the of laundering the of showering
meat and and and wine is the nine days.
So we today we're focusing on the first
part of and just for practical purpose I
might refer to them as the 12 days. I
know there's no about 12 days but again
even the nine days and 3 weeks is also a
sort of an American thing. It's not
there's no
but the 12 days I mean from is until
of which as we'll soon see doesn't exist
and for us is the beginning of the three
weeks which is the for today the first
part of the three weeks.
So as we said the says in sorry in
you notice right away it doesn't say
stop
has to always be brings nothing but
the is
you lower it down a little bit is
you raise the intensity of you lower it
diminish it but it has to be aim The has
to be a steady in a person's life.
This is the period of the actual
the continues.
Now of course the word shabas in this
context it does not mean it means a weak
like
means weak. So this the of the and
that's this Mishna there's a concept of
we refer to as I guess to avoid
confusion there the week that that that
that falls on has a this year is
Thursday so the sum total of a vers
is Sunday Monday Tuesday and Wednesday
Of
course, tish has its own. Now,
sometimes
can give an toy for this one.
Unfortunately, there's no but I found an
I think is appropriate. The beginning of
the first gimmel. Imagine
the says what always was a person
constantly lived with the pain of
Mr. Bur describes in detail the concept
of what we know as
which was done. Okay, we don't do it.
We're different or everything we're
different. We don't have this. But one
thing we do have and we have to have
some type of feeling for the you move
on. There's a whole sim
which the refers to as
and you learn five long
none of them even sound familiar.
[clears throat] When you make a leave an
empty
setting portion table even at your own
home leave an a setting that you don't
use and different is what to wear what
not to wear a whole sim
we don't do the only one thing we do
from that simmon is that the breaks the
glass by the but even that has misunders
misunderstood people think that the
breaking of the glass is to signal for
the band to stop playing
but it's really
and ready to be
we don't do
we just ignore.
So again, we're different. We don't have
that feelings. But one thing we have, we
have the the
I don't want to touch them. But point
out even if he's going to live till the
end of time, he'll live to the g, but he
won't be to the if you didn't miss it,
you can't enjoy it. So there has to be I
think that's the real to the something
we have to have again we don't do we
don't but at least is that we have and
that's the point of this week and next
week to get some of of an understanding
of the noteworthy inf
the refers to
And again we'll see this
there is very little three weeks 12 days
and even
but the the bulk of
is the the
[clears throat] now this is interesting
is quick to point out there are as we'll
see regarding the 12 days the beginning
of the
as well. But what's interesting is two
of 18
makes a point different but there are
other as we'll see that even
keeps three weeks and I think to
understand that we'll have the whole
and says the following from until
you have
another that we don't really keep and
says less business more ais less
business unless what you need but we
tone down in these days and then add
something with a
you don't get married during the during
the nine days
and the explains that getting that the
getting married is a full
which means engagement but a little
within
is really
in fact as we'll see the says getting
engaged what we call it is even on
besides that
the say if you don't make a suda it's
just engagement that's okay but a sudas
what we call a sudas
or in the sin without a suda is awesome
in the week in the in the
of and beyond. Why getting married is
also even without a suda because since
says the no what does mean getting
married. So the den of getting mar no
marriages during the nine days is really
based on the mishna
of
so obviously we have two one is as far
as getting married just in itself and
also
and many other things are also
now this is really a think about it
referred to getting married as a mitzvah
you sell to get married to to start a
family and here They delayed getting
married for 9 days
but the the big is there are more ads
ourim
that's we don't get married beginning
with
so for 3 weeks 21 days kazal said no
marriages how could you push off such a
great mitzvah like that so the ter is
ais is more important we have to realize
what what what what mavish is all about,
but there's probably more to it.
He says
from from in these days from
he's don't forget he was in Ashkanazi
from from
the terrible calamities that befelro and
fills it in. there are five calamities
that took place on
and he you know he says the was and
there's no I don't know why he doesn't
mention is also
but what he's saying is it's it's such a
heavy a beginning
that even have to stop [clears throat]
but there's more to it and this is a big
in our we know we do many things for
we do for we say
it's not just a song there this called
there's a concept in
[clears throat]
if let's say you do something the first
time and it's a good sign now generally
we do not believe in superstition but
sim a good sim we do focus on regarding
a child regarding ing a bias and is
means marriage and we'll soon see how
this impacts.
So the explained in quotes that getting
married we try to do it in a we do not
make
which day to get married is a day
getting married
under the sky [clears throat] but
getting married in days that is soaked
with a
is just not a
so
again the says it already that leism the
reason not to get married besides the
ais is it's just not the right it's not
a good idea it's not going to be
successful and I saw this very clear in
the chak
and al who had not yet founded a family
he was not didn't have children and he
wanted to get married
because he was so he asked what to do
and his argument was even a real a
person's father dies and he's
but if he never got married he's allowed
to get married during the so how could
it be that time isn't on it's when a is
so he says
he quotes the gmorra that I mentioned
that
and he says don't do it I know a story
someone got married during the spir
which is a lower level of availance than
than than the 3 weeks and it didn't turn
out a very good bench to the marriage.
So what he's saying is for two reasons
we push off marriages for three weeks.
Number one we have to realize what a ve
is all about and number two
and this explains interestingly enough
the as I told you
doesn't recognize three weeks as as an
entity. It's either
two places the himself quotes very
extreme. Listen to this in test the says
that there are some theim
they [clears throat] don't eat meat or
drink wine during now we start from but
then he adds some did not eat meat or
drink wine beginning with
for three weeks now the who doesn't even
recognize three weeks by this but I
think was more startling in tz the
writes
There were some that fasted from Shivas
until tisha. Now of course not straight
you can't do that but a a just like we
stop in morning until night. They fasted
three weeks full days until night. So
again it's a pelab who doesn't recognize
the the concept of three weeks but he
wanted to tell you what yen
he didn't fasted for 3 weeks didn't eat
meat or drink wine for three for three
weeks. So when we have a problem what to
serve milik you know for 9 days did more
for more than we're doing so it's not a
bad idea to try to make it better
[clears throat] but the this is
interesting that the makaba in these two
places does mention the concept of three
weeks now the next in of the says that
laundering and hair cutting is basically
in the the
But the Ashkenazim and here he makes a
spout and he says we don't do laundering
in the nine days [clears throat] but
hair cutting we stop from shabbas
the obvious question is manana ashkenazm
that keep in 3 weeks so why we find is
different so the guy says it and Mr.
We're quoted briefly because kazal
didn't ask us to do what's too difficult
to tell a person don't get a haircut for
3 weeks is very doable you get a haircut
before it lasts you you can wait four
weeks even six weeks not but tell a
person not to laundry clothing for for
for for the for the 3 weeks is
impossible so therefore it starts by the
nine days so it's a that we have to
realize that if asks to do something
it's doable
>> [clears throat]
>> The third in this simmon is
about and here we see the again
writeshanu
is not said for the entire 3 weeks
how did that fit I thought the begins
with the nine days we'll get to that
soon
and the last of
inf
is also surprising where the quotes two
both based
which is also rare. And the first one is
not to walk alone from the hours of 4
and 7. We'll soon see what that means.
And again, the who doesn't recognize 3
weeks this not to walk with four but
three hours. And the last the last part
of the isim
during the three weeks also based on a
medish and I'd like to try to explain as
we go along to apply the what is by all
of this and why sometimes it's three
weeks sometimes nine days and sometimes
it's
so let's apply this will go in order see
b as I told you is based on a mishna
that laa we don't get married during the
period of a what did that mean exactly?
So again for the begins
until the tinus there's no marriages
[clears throat] the ra recognize the
meaning of of
that getting married is beginning with
the himself says that
getting engaged announcing your
engagement or even writing is even on
now there are more like I told adds that
for 3 weeks we don't get married and the
ver is because it's a and is also for
the three weeks the next which is
another important difference between
Ashkanaz and basically for for
Ashkenazim we don't take haircuts 3
weeks for laundering is the nine days
and I told you the because didn't expect
you to go 3 weeks without laundrying but
hair cutting we can manage now by
different some most would say take
he stopped cutting hair that's why in
yeshiva you could have theoretically you
could have a buck coming in uh the
shabas after and he's clean shaven what
happened to you what's wrong so it's
it's we try not to allow that we should
have one it should be you know it
shouldn't be a question it's not a
question is going to do mish but it
shouldn't be different now what is
noteworthy some the meaning of the
quote
and others called that he was he asked
from
but again to my knowledge
not it's the three it's the nine days
it's not the three weeks now
when again if a person sees a is going
good he could finalize it at any time
even on tish but certainly during the
nine days but No sis and no dancing.
The
next which is important to mention is
the concept of of the of the first part
of the which again as we will see as we
proceed but I think the to that is
didn't expect us to do what's
impossible. Now one that people ask most
and I don't blame them because you don't
find it in gam or and that is about
cutting nails during the three weeks. So
the emphasis is there's no gum and
there's no everything else is mapping
getting haircuts and laundering and then
and getting married. This is not a gar.
So lisa how do you understand that? So
lameisa we could say based on we learned
till now that cutting nails is more more
as important or more important than the
concept of laundrying can tell a person
don't cut your nails for 3 weeks. So
maybe that's why it would be mut more
than anything else because normal people
cut their nails let's say once a week.
The only problem is that we do find in
the says is also to cut his nails for 30
days.
So now we're in sort of a quandry
for 3 weeks. But then again doesn't but
then again we could say that there is
still a that a a
calls it an old ais which is the of the
three weeks in sometimes is more is more
of a than a regular ais. But be that as
it may
he says there are some things that we
start from the three weeks and one of
them is cutting nails the
also quotes not to cut nails for 3 weeks
the taz in is a little more and he says
no the is begins
but what's most important I think that's
is the words of That's rabbis pish also
there on on the
and he says what we'll appreciate he
said
it's at most
but he says cutting nails we don't find
so why should
and he says it's definitely less than a
regular a and that's why it comes out
that there is a ml in cutting nails
and says we cut nails for a different
reason because typically nails have to
be cut as far as
and this is why the puts it very bluntly
in [clears throat]
height because it's not any place to be
found
which makes sense but he says
In other words, if you walk into a new
hair, a freshly haircut, fresh haircut,
it's startling. But when you cut your
nails, no one looks, no one knows. So
is not a problem.
The three weeks
and therefore you could be. Now he
doesn't say clearly but listen how he
concludes.
So we see pretty clearly that the is
seems to be make of cutting nails
but cutting nails are covered shabas is
definitely in fact the say when shabas
is also of that could be don't forget
shabish so that's a pretty you know
serious time but even that is mut
because the same you come into shabas
and no one sees and therefore to to the
to the to the avail of the time. The
only question is during the week days.
So as I told you some
quotes he says he says
but he says but for a mitzvah for for
question we once had
>> no it doesn't make that that's that's
like regular haircut. Yeah that's that's
something that you know you're doing
it's not done. Now an interesting
question we had this once of isra shabas
which happens occasionally so someone
wanted to know he's very
he can't cut shabas because it's can he
cut his nails Thursday
I told him for two reasons I think it's
mut number one
Thursday also cover chabas and number
two the whole is of cutting nails as I
just told you is not clear at all I mean
it brings day is
so if it's really then here is I think I
didn't find the fair but I think it's
part that it's next question is so if
you learn the you'll find question after
question listen of
I'm sorry [clears throat]
good idea right away it doesn't a very
mild
Then you could
of all people but a but but a let's say
you get a very a real fruit today is
rare to find but a real fruit but if you
keep after the 3 weeks this gets
spoiled. So if you can't keep it till
after you allow to eat it now make a so
to me it's a first of all
why is it awesome if it is awesome why
is it for for pigeon and the is the ra
is always more he says not only you
could eaten you can even do it for a
fruit make up your mind so like every
when you look at the source it becomes
crystal clear thean was not a it's based
on aid tough soft and he writes
this is of three weeks. Why
we have to say
in these
said
when it's a day filled with such and as
weed besides the is also
and this is what's quoted by the z and
other other that the reason for
is Not because of the you have when you
see the fruit the is it's inappropriate
to say
a day filled with such
oh I could understand why the holds its
holds begins with either
oresh
but
this concept of saying
that you can't do even the three weeks
Now, but we can understand why the use a
very mild lion because had it been an is
like getting a haircut also. But this is
only inappropriate to therefore if you
have no choice either pigeon aben or I
must mention if you initi make a bris
the minist make a by the bris or some
grow in America but let's say you have a
bris or a pigeon you could make the
because it's not an isa like everything
else so the holds it's three weeks
it's very
So everything really fits in
beautifully.
Now you can understand
if you have a new fruit you could eat it
if you can't wait till after because
it's not awesome. So basically it's it's
it's it's a in the being in the wrong
words in the wrong time for those that
have the meaning
that when a girl is born the parents
make
that can be condone even on the three
weeks it's the same now
what I should mention is that when you
have a baby girl or any sim the you're
not increasing the sim with saying you
have a baby girl you're very happy the
is basically giving credit where credit
is due
so why shouldn't you say it you think
about is not increasing it's expressing
to that's why I think it's not the end
of the world why when any need comes up
the genre like I told you earlier says
you could say
the next which is also So
and that is even though we try to
refrain from saying
during the week like I just told you but
on shabas they say
if you have a pre put it away for
shabasan can be said on shabas and the
hb
when shabas comes
there's no whatsoever so it's not
something wrong with the day the day is
a day
says Again I must mention the was not to
make not weekdays and not shabas. I
guess the reason had more of a feeling
for as we saw but this is one of the
things he did not allow even on chabases
says when you have a situation when
which we have occasionally so we push
till Sunday he says don't make a on that
day and I I think I know why because
that day
is there are certain of
we keep a and more from there says not
to learn regular things. So obviously
the shabas is not is not immune from the
aus maybe that's where but the next sha
introduces us to a very interesting
which could be in different ways as
sim that he needs a a car now probably
he's either car was stolen or got banged
up he needs a car for business for a
family so says yeah I'm sure you know
that's time to buy a new item
especially expensive item even certainly
is also during these days but you tell
me that you need it but you can't make a
so you know the is if you're buying a
car and you have a wife and or children
what's the proper to make when you buy
something or get something good for not
just you for someone else
that you could say during the three
weeks now it's unbelievable because
We know is au plus. So if was also
during the three weeks so why
says saying a beautifully I think
because the is not the it's the words
the words don't imply that at all. So
it's not the it's the words.
So says and I found the says
all say that the only problem could be
when it's applicable by
is never included in the so when someone
buys an item and the the question we has
no choice he has to buy it like a car
the said and that avoids all problems.
Many people ask about buying about
shopping during the three weeks. And
again, I want to be very clear. We're
talking about this week the 12 days from
Shbasam is Thursday until
of we'll talk about next week buying
things during the nine days. But the
question is during the first 12 days and
happens all the time because the boy's
going to camp. She forgot the mother
forgot to buy bathing suits, shirts,
suits, socks. I'm talking obviously
about inexpensive items. So if there's a
sadu
let's say you're buying a suit so then
there's a big buying a suit you're
making I'm talking about inexpensive
items so the says and adds
but this is talking about the nine days
and the nine days we stop all shopping
even inexpensive items shopping has a
certain amount of
buying something new and the mission
says of
so the nine days has much more of a of a
control on so even shopping inexpensive
items now rather people say I forgot to
buy shoes
buy it today this week you can buy it
during the the three weeks but the nine
days you can't buy you shouldn't buy
these things but but as far as the three
weeks are concerned this is clear
inexpensive expensive items says
you'll that you're allowed to buy them
during the first 12 days. I heard a
someone asked me a sticky shiva he's
getting married right at the tish he's
in now he's coming home the end of this
month to pay for his gift can he go
shopping during the nine days for a suit
and h he's talking about you know
expensive stuff but he has no other
choice because he's coming home first
he's landing I think a day after so is
it any part any if he's not going to
make
see something that you don't make auby
but not the nine days so therefore
what's the but here the seems to hold
you see it's
that we don't buy things that you need
ahanu but if you don't make au it's just
the buying is that also so the is until
the three until after
Now and this I told him during the nine
days is a problem
you could land in America even a few
days before is I think it's mut cuz
there says that the that buying
something during the 3 weeks the only
problem is saying
so let's say you buy something and you
don't say
why should it be because it's a big
buying a suit right but don't forget is
of not and not before that. So the real
problem of buying new things on the 3
weeks is because you have to make a
which you don't do but is that to buy
something in the 12 days from
if you don't you don't wear it should be
now there is an
and he says that even buying things is
awesome if they're valuable expensive
items because of
I don't understand
his premise is you can't buy expensive
things because buying is but the says
that the begins is of not before. So
that's why we try to tell people to buy
expensive items during the 12 days
definitely should be avoided even though
but was
but this situation this bak had they had
no other choice so it's so if he could
work it out that he could land a day or
two beforeh
that would definitely be an during the
nine days is a problem we don't even buy
inexpensive items
says that so here we see a very big
regard regarding shopping beforeh what
we call the 12 days and after
is also make regarding buying expensive
things before the nine days and the 12
days that's something that's something
that's very convenient a repairs uh
wallpapering carpeting the floor
painting so
we'll talk about next week about the
nine days but the problem is push
logistically all yeshivas the yeshiva
empties and they have to try to get the
building ready for the next month. All
the repairs and the painting and
everything it can only be done in these
days. This year you're talking about
they're leaving the over close.
So the says
and we avoid SE
which some learn is painting and wallpap
you know putting cement when necessary
and plastering. So no doubt about it the
nine days should see a cease in
activities but until then the three in
the 12 days again from
it seems it's only if it's a luxury the
you want to make an annex the house you
want to add to the house some more
comfort or you want to paint or you want
to do something just uh just to add a
little more you know elegance to the
house if it could wait it should Now
let's say you have a camp the first
opening again this is extremely common
today many camps are open of for the
month of and they didn't finish the work
before. So anything that's ba basically
maintenance or making things livable
that's mut even in the nine days if
there's no other choice but again the
the problem is the enemy is the word
in a is a you have to have a sense of
and not it's not a time for
he writes that wallpapering a house and
painting
is no
So he says you should be but no doubt
about it when when the campus will be
opening in a few days and the the walls
look like you know it looks like a lived
there for too many years. So if painting
is necessary you allow to do it even
during the nine days.
The says
don't paint wallpapering certainly not
don't plaster the entire three weeks.
Now this I believe is he's the one that
says he's more m by by shopping anything
and because he he holds that that even
though is only but it goes under three
weeks. So he's more mach but again if a
person has no other choice this is
understood that it's mut it's not as
long as it's not something of which is
that's the thing that's really awesome
and I saw and other say that you could
do it before the 3 weeks try to do it
but during the three weeks and even
during the nine days what's necessary
um maintenance maintaining the you know
the survival of the building that of mm
in these days
the
throws another another point any type of
construction
don't worry you have to worry about
see that's something that many people
are worried about it's not the right
time to so anything like that can be
avoided renovating can be avoided until
afterwards it should be avoided until
afterwards
another big suga is moving during the 3
weeks in other words someone bought a
house or renting a new apartment moving
in during the 3 weeks. So the MS is if
you're moving into a new house, it's a
great sim that warrants a
so you can't do it right. We don't make
during 3 weeks, but you'll be alarmed.
I'll make it to
but and that's why but moving into a
house has an extraordinary sim. It's a
different feeling and that's why the do
not suggest it. The question only is how
about in the 12 days in the from
so if you're not if you're gonna make it
right so no problem and also it's only
during the 12 days not per se
but here we find where many say but
moving into a house has to have has to
go with
people do certain things before they
move in certain days which is good days
are not good and that's part of the bias
you know it's not it's not superstitious
it's
so how do you move into a house during
the three weeks which is a time of a
time and said that it's not a good s now
and add this and it's definitely
something to to to think about if you
can move in before the 3 weeks or even
moving some of the things before the 3
weeks. That's a a better idea. But if
there's a
someone doesn't have way to live,
whatever the happen is, maybe his house
is on was burned in a fire or it
happened sometimes a person's renting
and supposed to be out by the 1st of
August and August comes out during the 3
weeks.
So to pay an extra month of rent and
someone else wants to move in in his
place. So we can't say it's awesome. We
could say
if someone is told by your circumstances
are you can move in don't worry you do
the right thing you have nothing to
worry about the is you know ask of
course moving into a rented apartment
doesn't have that same sim and certainly
moving into a bungalow which happens the
second half always coincides with either
second half of the sum I mean is either
3 weeks or nine days so moving into a
bungalow doesn't have that full sim and
that shouldn't be a problem
people who need a house or need an
apartment. Can you go house hunting or
apartment hunting during these days? So,
one thing I can tell you that that we
all know, I mean, we experienced that a
long time ago, but I still remember it
when we're looking for our house. It's
not a sim frustrating and sometimes very
depressing. So, there's no problem of
so what should be the problem? The only
thing is that the stipler in quotes who
did advise looking for apartment or
house during the three weeks and I think
the really is we find that we'll see
next week more that you're not supposed
to see from the aers as it gets closer.
So looking for a house I guess I could
put it in in my way look at the bisham's
house doesn't exist but it makes you
destroyed. You're worrying about your
house when the br doesn't have a house.
So maybe it's more of an Ashkafa issue
but if someone needs a house desperately
or an apartment that's mut and to make
the closing on a house if it's not a is
also mut
and also what we do know is by
apartments and homes there is a very
real as you know it's a very you know
very competitive market if there's a
need you could rely on that just don't
make the actual kenyan during these days
and the interesting part of our suga is
was based on a med.
So we know it means in between the walls
you know they cornered us in and they
destroyed us but but the has another
iss
4 to 7.
Now this is out of my range but
there's a certain
that's very very powerful in these in
these in these hours of the day. So the
medish is assuming that for 3 weeks
don't go out during that period of the
day. Now here again we wonder I thought
the is the nine days and and correct
is in
but this is a saka issue this is days
that are are full of
was was the beginning of the so the
message is saying don't do dangerous
things during during the three weeks and
the hours of 4 to7 is enough danger not
to do it. And that this quote as I told
you in the end of
no good and again the who basically
ignored three weeks when it came to it's
a real problem. So this is why is
understood it shouldn't be done now but
there's more to it
that
would tell the and he makes a point the
ones that teach the ones teach is every
level don't hit the children during
these days now today don't hit but in
those days they did say even if the
child learns good you have to hit him
I'm old teach more and they hit him.
Boy, they hit him back
that hit his until he killed him.
So it was you know a pretty level that
hitting him. So the mag but in these
days don't hit children. Now to me the
big was the
in fact was even more concerned and he
told let's make early dismissal in these
days because you might not be able to
contain yourself. Now you look at the
med it's even hitting with a ratsa a
strap and not beating but they were so
worried about it that they rather have
early dismissal and take a learning of
not to come to the
so this is the medish this one medish
but the mahaba quotes it both of them so
again the kasha is I thought the maba
doesn't
recognize
in 3 weeks the terror has to be like I
told told you that it comes to s it's a
very real problem. It's nothing to do
with
it's the nine days or but is in the
three weeks and this is also quoted
and by the way I saw a number of poets
came add
say even a parent should not hit a
child. So if you're still hitting your
children during the during the rest of
the year, not in these days. Now here
the point is
why don't we hear anything about this
the hours of 4 to7 there something that
so the bacha in our c and it's quoted by
and others
that the only is going where no one else
is there and also he says in buildings
not a problem and maybe if there's a is
not a problem but kit he seems to be
saying that it's no longer applicable
today but there's no real to that
says only
and some say the
so it has to be only when you're going
alone what we can understand perhaps a
little better there is a that we have I
saw in
also in the
he writes this ash
going back to the
that when they wanted to execute the
geredic and graatski
and
they killed him
and there was an a went out from
and this was a a tremendous tremendous
keshm
that he died and I think I don't know
why no one quotes it but I heard once I
think it's it's it's yda that the go
sent a message to him that that he could
save him was she
get him out of this being killed. He
could help him escape and he refused and
go said that there was such a
at that moment that was the of
and certain rely on that. So they all
saw
since the hours 4 to 7 is not a not a
physical problem like like being beaten.
It's a you don't have to worry about it.
So this I saw taka says this. So
obviously that's why we don't hear too
much about the hours of 4 to 7 beside
that's only when going alone but what is
about hitting a child that still remains
you'll say but uh but but is bottle but
hitting nothing do so
we don't hit we don't hit the children
but it's the same because it's and the
hold even three weeks is awesome
It's the one concept that makes a
deviation from his approach. It's 3
weeks not 9 days or the
the question now is how do we apply that
to other potentially dangerous things
about flying during the nine days about
a surgery about mountain climbing etc.
So the MS is next week we'll talk about
9 days but regarding the three weeks you
have to really it's the same problem
because the medish made of the entire 3
weeks so the only thing is how do you
define the word so people say can I fly
air travel during the three weeks so
will say statistically and this is the
truth it's more dangerous to drive than
to fly that's It's the mism but then
again after you fly you benge. So it's
very hard to pinpoint you know are we
considering flying sak say no it's not
sak but we're going over the yam so
we're over yam okay nice l but it seems
that the say that our time
flying is no longer dangerous and it
shouldn't be a problem
would say that after after
it could if it should if it could be
avoided it should be but alman said two
distinctions number one which is a
problem for all
you want to stay till the end of which
is and you have to flat travel on during
the nine days so you should leave early
you know sometimes if you stay till the
end of this man I guarantee you the
travel will be safe you'll travel bas
gimmel so in other words it's not really
awesome traveling is not dangerous if
you could schedule your trip before the
nine nine days fine but to leave yeshiva
is not is more dangerous maybe also he
said if you're flying even is okay cuz
that's what he wants to say. So really
he's telling us both things if you could
reschedule it till after tish better but
if there's a reason to be there you
could go and of course
or any mitzvah is mut even until
the next question is about scheduling a
surgery so the felt that that's
considered dangerous enough don't forget
any with a full anesthesia there's a
small element of danger people a small
percent but people don't wake up. So if
surgery could be could be delayed
postponed after tishb that's better if
it's necessary now. So
you do what's right and don't worry.
The another point which is really the
last question
but it needs a little of a of a
clarification is the isa of music during
the three weeks. So you have to realize
one thing that today music has a whole
different meaning. It's music. It's ac
capella which is a very big industry.
And this is challenging for a very
practical reason for for us it's you
know you in a car at home you you put on
the used tape recorder now we're in a CD
and now it's MP MP3. It's just you know
it's it's very easy. You just press a
button. In the olden days they didn't
have the sham. Now a had music but they
didn't have a symphony orchestra.
He played his fetal and that was music.
So there was no singers putting on music
just for entertainment. Now there was
for they had they had a they had a a
musician
but this concept of music doesn't exist.
But now we have a new anum is called ac
capella which is very professional
singing that there's no music. So the
says you look in you're not going to
find anything about music and that's
because it wasn't but what what all the
can point to is the ink of our he's from
that we mentioned earlier that there's
an is of making sudas
why a sudas suda is more of a
nearly
>> [clears throat]
>> Even though you could get engaged during
the three weeks and during the 12 days
you could even have a sudas
because it's only and is not totally
during these 12 days but
is
now in other words 12 days also though
you can't dance. [clears throat]
Now where's that coming from? What
should be the what's the reason for
that? So obviously the understood that
something that's
we hold is during the three weeks aud
but dancing and
are different types of dancing but both
of them are also during the three weeks.
So this is a very
[clears throat]
a very important mar there's an is of
dancing during the three weeks which of
course gives question about if you have
a mitz we'll get to that soon but no
doubt about it all the
quote that dancing during the three
weeks is awesome the does mention in a
different context
olive that
you're allowed to have a suda obviously
but he says but not to have cliche until
the next day after so if you want to see
where it says about music per se it's
regarding
now now obviously if music is awesome
it's awesome during the three weeks as
well because Mr. The can say that
although is still but it's not as
so now we have an interesting thing that
music
and even dancing during the 12 days also
was well with music
both
say should refrain from music the entire
three weeks.
Now everything else they make but
obviously music is more of a more of a
steer to the to the availance of the
day.
So that's why dancing a would be
awesome. The question that we have
sometimes a person gets married a few
days before.
So then he has during the during the
three weeks during the 12 days. So that
the can say dancing is mut because it's
a real and if someone would want to be
making with music you can't say he's
wrong because once there was a to make
the
but it's not done to my knowledge it's
not done I mean could get married until
but I don't think it's done but if it
happens to be that there is music you
could savor that music because again the
was before the aus kicked In now for
mitzvah and other other sudis there's no
music but dancing until would be misha
says taking a step further and out of he
says
that listening to a radio which then had
music and or a recording is awesome
because at zimra the puma singing is mut
during the and during the three weeks.
But once you have a m a machine that's
awesome. So here we have music being
awesome and you say yeah but maybe the
was talking about live music who said
recorded music is awesome. So let me
tell you if you listen to recorded music
the quality is so superb it can it's
definitely better than any other music I
had those days. So it's not a sus in
live music it's
but here is the last question which is
the most challenging and that is ac
capella. ac capella is getting better by
the day. The fact that it's a booming
business show that it's very very
but that's part of the problem because
it does bring a great element of but
has a letter of he calls it he says but
another problem that
music that's that's called zimra
with a but
so they say if you have a recorded
singing.
What's the status? When I sang it
originally, that's Zimra the Puma, but I
put it onto a onto a a a USB or
of a CD that's treated like a Zimra
decay. That's awesome. So that some
question, but one thing is the sim of it
is as great as a music. Some say he like
it better because you don't have the
hacking and the banging in the
background. But this is why certainly
should follow this if a person he needs
it for his emotional health.
But one thing I would say even
the three weeks have different should be
understood differently.
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Hey,
only
in the important of a has to be
highlighted
but so much so that did what they didn't
do anybody's else they asked getting
married for 3 weeks so that's certainly
a good introduction as we saw that
speaks about
and a whole sim
that we don't do but at least what we
should what we are doing let's do it
properly but I think the we have to know
is that the isn
there's certain
beginning
and the meaning of many of and some in
certain cases is beginning
because the beginning of the was the was
the
but we also find Another factor of the
mil even if it's the fact that it's not
a great time to do it which is why are
not done or moving into a home is not
done and then we found the concept of
but to put that very specifically that
the fact the quotes not to eat meat or
drink wine or fasting three weeks when
it comes to a more the better you do it
the better the of ais is is really there
for the person haircuting the min for 3
weeks.
Laundering is nine days because you
can't tell a person not to launder for 3
weeks. cutting nails is the
even during the week the if there's
even during the week
of Shabas to cut your nails on Thursday
because you don't want to violate is
the
is not so much the but it's the words
so that's why when it's
can be replaced for a that would avoid
the problem
is not a it's just a question of
priorities. If you can wait till after 3
weeks is better. If not, it can be said
by a birth of a girl, a bristener or a
pigeon ab inexpensive items can be
bought during the 12 days. expensive
items or any items during the nine days.
We'll see it's a different but buying
expensive items without
it could be repairs or maintenance is
okay
should be delayed until after moving
into a house is a problem of it's not
maybe the also is a problem but looking
for a house or rental is okay the The
hours of 4 to 7 is no longer a sakam.
Hitting a talmud or a child is a sakuma.
Sakam during the 3 weeks should be
avoided 3 weeks because it's not limited
to 9 days. They the have to mag what's
considered sacum but music, dancing and
ac capella should be avoided taka during
the three weeks.
Yes.